7 Signs Your Relationship is Making You Depressed
Are you wondering if a relationship can actually make you depressed? Love can be a double-edged sword. Sometimes it makes us feel more alive than we ever thought possible, and sometimes it has us at its mercy. Sooner or later, we need to evaluate our relationships and let go of people who may be toxic towards us. The unfortunate truth is that some people are just not ready for relationships and may not have your best intentions in mind. Accepting that your partner is contributing to your depression is hard to face - especially if you desperately want things to work out
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00:00 Love can be a double-edged sword.
00:08 Sometimes it makes us feel more alive than we ever thought possible.
00:12 And sometimes it has us at its mercy.
00:15 Sooner or later, we need to evaluate our relationships and let go of people who may be toxic towards
00:21 us.
00:22 The unfortunate truth is that some people are just not ready for relationships and may
00:26 not have your best intentions in mind.
00:29 Understanding that your partner is contributing to your depression is hard to face, especially
00:34 if you desperately want things to work out.
00:37 Here are some signs to watch out for.
00:41 You don't work together towards common goals.
00:45 There's nothing worse than a partner who doesn't support your dreams.
00:49 If someone is holding you back from reaching your goals, it won't be long before you start
00:53 feeling depressed.
00:55 You and your partner may be interested in completely different things, but can still
00:59 be working towards getting promoted, running your first art show, or conquering the next
01:04 wall at your climbing gym.
01:06 If your partner is not goal-oriented like you are, it might feel like your partner is
01:11 forcing you to choose between your relationship and your dreams.
01:17 You can't connect emotionally with your partner.
01:21 One of the best parts of being in a relationship is being vulnerable and being honest with
01:26 your feelings.
01:27 The strongest partners connect with each other on a deep emotional level.
01:32 So when that emotional connection seems muddled or distorted, it leaves both partners feeling
01:38 confused and lost.
01:40 Sometimes people just aren't emotionally compatible.
01:44 If you find that you're much more willing to talk about your feelings than your partner,
01:48 it may cause you to feel dissatisfied and misunderstood.
01:54 Your partner's depression might be contagious.
01:58 Is depression actually contagious?
02:01 Researchers have tried to answer this question, and they've come up with extremely interesting
02:05 results.
02:07 One study looked at a college roommate and found that students started experiencing depressive
02:12 symptoms when a new depressed roommate moved in.
02:16 Another study was done on rats with similar results.
02:21 Depression was induced in a group of rats, and when new, happy rats were introduced to
02:25 the cage, they quickly developed the same depressive symptoms.
02:30 So is it possible to contract your partner's depression?
02:34 According to the research, it seems like a likely possibility.
02:39 The relationship is starting to get abusive.
02:43 Abuse is one of the most obvious causes for depression in relationships.
02:47 It's also much more common than people realize, especially among women.
02:52 A large amount of abuse experienced by women goes unreported.
02:56 It's estimated that between 18 and 36% of women have experienced some form of relationship
03:02 abuse in their lifetimes, and predictably, relationship abuse is one of the most common
03:08 causes of depression.
03:10 This abuse can be physical, emotional, or psychological.
03:15 Regardless of what form, you should look to loved ones outside of your relationship for
03:20 support.
03:21 Remember to appreciate your time, and not rely on your partner for a stronger sense
03:26 of self-worth.
03:27 5.
03:28 A total lack of communication.
03:32 Lack of communication is one of the most common reasons for failed relationships, and if you
03:37 can't communicate with your partner, you might start to feel depressive symptoms as a result.
03:43 Interestingly enough, a recent study showed that poor social skills and depression are
03:49 linked.
03:50 No matter which partner lacks communication skills, the relationship will likely suffer
03:54 as a result, causing depression for one or both partners.
04:00 6.
04:01 Your relationship has evolved and your needs have changed.
04:06 Relationships are filled with magical moments, mostly during the honeymoon phase, and we
04:11 often wish these moments could last forever.
04:14 However, people change, and partners become comfortable.
04:19 As the years go by, you might find yourself in a relationship with a completely different
04:23 person.
04:24 Your partner may have different needs, different priorities, and different expectations.
04:31 This type of evolution in relationships isn't just inevitable, it's healthy.
04:36 Symptoms only arise when our partners can't meet our changing expectations.
04:41 If you begin to grow apart from your partner, that's okay.
04:46 Just because they seemed like a great match in the past doesn't mean that we should hold
04:49 on to someone who aligned with our past values.
04:53 7.
04:55 You feel like you're stuck in the relationship, even though you know it's not working out.
05:00 Okay, so your relationship is making you depressed, so why don't you leave?
05:05 Over the years, researchers have tried to figure out why people stay in unsatisfying
05:10 relationships, and they've come up with some interesting theories.
05:14 Early studies claimed that couples stay together because they thought that they couldn't find
05:18 anyone better, or that they were afraid of the uncertainty of separation.
05:24 But modern researchers believe that it's much more personal.
05:28 One new study suggested that people might stay together because their partner is extremely
05:32 devoted or out of concern for each other's welfare.
05:36 If your partner is saying concerning things such as "I can't live without you" or "you're
05:41 the only good thing in my life", it can put a lot of pressure on you to keep them happy.
05:47 This shouldn't make you feel like you have to accept certain behaviors and mistreatment
05:51 if you're experiencing it.
05:53 Have you experienced any of these relationship issues?
05:56 If so, have they led to depression?
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06:05 Thanks for watching!
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