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00:00:00 Hello, good evening to your Wednesday night live

00:00:03 It is the 6th of

00:00:06 December 2024 hope you're gonna have a 2023. There we go. I just almost lost a year there that was close and

00:00:16 I actually saw something funny on Twitter today. It was

00:00:21 the perfect

00:00:23 Christmas tree top decoration doesn't exist and it was actually like a pulsating eye of sauron

00:00:28 That could go on top of your Christmas tree

00:00:30 goals and temptations

00:00:32 All right. Thank you Matt for your lovely

00:00:35 Support. I appreciate that tip. Thank you for chapters 8 and 9 of your peaceful parenting book

00:00:42 Oh, but Matt, there's so much more today. I did over an hour

00:00:46 Which is part 10, which is just starting at the second part of the book which goes from theory to practice. I

00:00:54 Love the idea that peaceful parenting says Matt is about what not to do the last two minutes of chapter 8 were epic

00:01:01 It's so true that if you tell someone not to hit their child, they will ask you what to do instead

00:01:04 It's so absurd when you think about it

00:01:06 Hitting your wife is morally wrong. But but but dear sir, how will I manage?

00:01:11 We shouldn't have slavery well

00:01:16 How can any food and and shelter be produced without slaves figure that

00:01:24 So, yeah, thank you very much for your support I appreciate that

00:01:26 And I am here

00:01:31 For you

00:01:35 Greetings from Finland Finland greetings back to y'all to y'all. All right, let's get to your comments questions problems

00:01:43 Sweater, but this ain't no sweater, baby

00:01:45 It's funny I complained about the house

00:01:49 But my wife and daughter went out shopping today and I complained when they got home about the house being cold

00:01:54 So my wife said but this is supposed to be for view for Christmas and she handed me this I don't know

00:01:59 It's not really a sweater. It's just I don't know some kind of mystery top, but it's not knit or anything

00:02:02 It's just cotton. I think so

00:02:04 Bitcoin to the moon

00:02:06 Obviously correlation is not causation but every time I do a Bitcoin show dot dot dot

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00:02:25 Started the French Revolution and loving it. Hey, thanks Robespierre. Oh

00:02:30 Yeah, I'm afraid that one hit me in the solar plexus just as much as it hit you and hit you in the Uranus

00:02:39 Started the French Revolution and loving it

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00:03:26 Well, I hope you're not listening to this in the intensive care unit and you're just

00:03:31 Pointing out the fact that I have video on all right

00:03:34 Bondi Beach, where is Bondi Beach? I

00:03:41 Always remember the singer for Duran Duran they did a view to a kill or something

00:03:46 They did some pretty whiny song for a bond movie and I remember Simon LeBron was the name of the singer

00:03:51 The name's born Simon LeBron

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00:04:05 Did Bitcoin hit 100,000?

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00:04:16 Episode five three two six is how to free people the commentary on pets and people was profound recommend it

00:04:25 And now Duran Duran is playing in my head, all right

00:04:31 Of course he had a odd kind of half whiny

00:04:37 He was a hang he just didn't hit the note sing blue silver

00:04:42 Okay, what what what Duran Duran what d squared songs?

00:04:44 I mean Duran Duran was so big when I was younger that when they came to a concert in Toronto

00:04:49 It was called d squared day like D day, but d squared day. So what Duran Duran songs?

00:04:54 Do you like I have a fave and a couple that I think are okay

00:04:58 But what Duran Duran songs do you like wild boys boy wild the wire boys?

00:05:04 Falling on their way back to the fire. So

00:05:08 Wild boys is great. But wild boys boy. It does really feel like he's straining his voice at the very top. They're pretty hard, right?

00:05:16 Restless and so hungered on the races that you fly because there's murder. Yeah, it's a great song very passionate but

00:05:26 Wild boys always shine

00:05:31 Like what Robert Palmer was saying to the edge, can you just get your singer to stop giving all other singers a headache

00:05:37 So what else hungry like the wolf great song great great song

00:05:43 The chauffeur you should look that up particularly the live versions of the chauffeur were great

00:05:48 We'll try to stay a while to the hopes and fear outside

00:05:57 That's a good song - good songs here. All right a few to a kill. That's the view

00:06:03 That was the one from the bond movie, right?

00:06:05 Save a prayer

00:06:07 Yeah

00:06:09 Yeah

00:06:13 All right

00:06:15 Anyone having connection issues? Well, I think without philosophy don't we all?

00:06:19 alright

00:06:21 The one with the Jane Fonda cameo. I think that was North Korea, wasn't it? Oh, no, North Vietnam. All right

00:06:27 um

00:06:28 Let's see here

00:06:30 Who's down Alan says

00:06:34 Hi Stefan feeling bad today. I lost my job. I quit because I was being treated unfairly humiliated and it's not the first time

00:06:41 I'm in a different country. So I decided to quit

00:06:43 Even though I'm now in despair. I've managed to find a job one day after as a painter

00:06:49 But I already was working with that for three months

00:06:53 There's a fun song by Krista Berg called the painter you should check it out

00:06:57 but

00:07:00 Dennis is a menace with his

00:07:02 Anyone for tennis and beseech me to come and keep the score and more it says Oh Lord. I'm so terribly bored

00:07:07 I really can't stand it anymore

00:07:09 Patricia the stripper the Patricia the stripper is I think I've seen Krista Berg like three times in my life is great

00:07:15 Okay. Sorry, let's get back to you. So I worked as a painter for half a summer

00:07:21 All right job, not too bad. You can listen to some music do some painting. Although the fumes were not that much fun

00:07:27 So you were being free treated unfairly and humiliated

00:07:31 He says my good job only lasted two months I feel like I'm going backwards in life again

00:07:40 I'm an immigrant and I feel like I made the right choice by not compromising

00:07:44 But I still think I should have done something better hold better because I have a wife that is pregnant

00:07:50 And I have to pay insane amounts of money just to be here in Australia

00:07:54 What can I do to stop suffering about this decision was it the right decision I can't decide this right now

00:08:02 And I'm anxious and insecure about my future

00:08:05 Again, well, I mean if you want to a call-in show we can do

00:08:08 Duran Duran was a character in Barbarella, right?

00:08:18 Well, I'm a little confused my friend L

00:08:21 So you didn't lose your job if you quit I mean the language is important right you quit and

00:08:28 Whether you should or shouldn't have a quit. I don't know

00:08:30 Working as a painter is fine. It's fine

00:08:37 By not compromising

00:08:44 So it's interesting

00:08:48 Not compromising. All right, let me let me let me start with this hit me with a why if you've ever had to kind of

00:08:53 Suck it up and do a job

00:08:56 Which you are treated badly in

00:09:01 Yes

00:09:03 Sometimes this job. I will tell you hit me with a why if you've ever had to do a job or keep doing a job

00:09:10 because

00:09:14 And you're just being treated badly and things aren't going well and you just kind of have to grit your teeth and

00:09:18 Get through it

00:09:21 right

00:09:23 I said this to a caller the other day

00:09:26 He was stuck in his life and be prepared for some

00:09:30 Generalized statements about males and females which may or may not be applicable to your particular situation

00:09:36 But I was talking to a caller. He's 25 years old

00:09:40 Never really had a job or it works occasionally. They're still living at home with his mom had a really really terrible

00:09:46 childhood with his mother

00:09:49 I was being mistreated because I'm an immigrant Stefan

00:09:54 I'm just being mistreated because I'm an immigrant

00:10:02 No, I don't believe it because not all immigrants are mistreated I assume

00:10:09 You

00:10:11 Not all immigrants are being mistreated and of course if you say I'm being in it

00:10:15 I'm gonna be mistreated because I'm an immigrant then you have no choice to not be mistreated

00:10:19 So

00:10:26 I mean their jobs I've quit I mean I

00:10:29 Because they were just completely appalling like just just terrible like just I couldn't I couldn't do it I couldn't do it

00:10:38 Um

00:10:40 Anyway, so this guy was talking to yesterday he was like, oh I'm waiting for some inspiration to happen

00:10:44 I'm waiting for me to figure out what I want to do with my life this that and the other and I'm like

00:10:48 But that's leading with your feelings waiting for your feelings to determine where you go in life and what you do

00:11:03 Yes, my office job has caused my diabetes diagnosis due to the sedentary nature of office work Oh Sam

00:11:09 No, we are we is it Wednesday night excuses day

00:11:15 Hey Nick, how you doing is it really I

00:11:20 Mean

00:11:23 Don't you have to I mean, I'm sure women do sometimes as well

00:11:27 But don't you as a man just have to grit your teeth and grind through shit in order to get anywhere

00:11:33 Maybe maybe I just had bad luck

00:11:36 But most of

00:11:40 Being a man in particular is just grinding through shit until you get somewhere. Hopefully you get somewhere no guarantee you will

00:11:48 I was the only one on a team of three being mistreated for no reason

00:11:57 I've recorded the audio and provided it to the owner. It was cherry-picking

00:12:00 You were being mistreated for no reason I

00:12:04 Mean okay, Alan, let me let me ask you this just just as a whole

00:12:11 Let me ask you this. Do you think that I have been mistreated by the world?

00:12:16 Unjustly just out of curiosity. Maybe you think it's true. Maybe you think it's not true. I

00:12:21 actually saw a

00:12:26 It was a graph the other day of the most contentious topics in academia the ones that are the most attacked and suppressed I'm like

00:12:32 Hey, that was my business plan

00:12:34 So

00:12:38 Do you think that I?

00:12:40 Have been

00:12:42 unfairly maligned lied about and mistreated

00:12:44 By the world as a whole over the course of being a public

00:12:51 Moral philosopher hit me with a why if I think I have hit me with a why if you think I have

00:12:57 Steph has Steph has treated great on YouTube. Yes. Yes. Okay, so

00:13:07 Have you ever heard me say I was mistreated for no reason

00:13:16 You

00:13:18 Have you ever heard me say I

00:13:25 Was just I was mistreated for no reason. It's a mystery. How could this have happened? There was no way to tell

00:13:32 I

00:13:37 Enormously dislike it which doesn't mean I'm right or wrong. I'm just telling you my I

00:13:42 Was treated to the door

00:13:45 The door would have been better

00:13:46 They catapulted me nuts first

00:13:48 I really really dislike it when people say I was just mistreated for no reason

00:14:03 I was mistreated for no reason

00:14:10 Kids can say it

00:14:15 Kids can say it for sure but adults

00:14:18 Adults no reason

00:14:33 Well, I don't know how

00:14:39 Blind you want me to be in this situation

00:14:43 Oh you a signal lost your back

00:14:46 Do you have or is there a habit or do you have the experience of being mistreated on a regular basis?

00:14:53 Of being treated unjustly on a regular basis just yes or no

00:14:57 You

00:15:07 You

00:15:09 I'm hoping as they upgrade locals that I won't have to sit there and wait 45 seconds or a response to a question

00:15:19 I don't know. It's just like it's really tough

00:15:22 full blunt

00:15:25 You want me to go full blunt? Okay, just I just need a yes or no

00:15:31 Yes, but I don't care. Oh my god

00:15:36 I

00:15:38 Don't care about being mistreated Steph, but I'm gonna give you a wall of text on how terrible it is that I'm mistreated

00:15:44 Of course you care

00:15:47 Uh, I don't know what to do with this level of deception

00:15:55 Honestly now I've no idea what to do with this level of deception

00:16:00 You're saying you feel terrible because you've quit work because you were mistreated and now you say I don't care that I'm mistreated

00:16:06 What am I supposed to do with that? How am I supposed to have any kind of conversation?

00:16:10 With someone who contradicts themselves that quickly and that deeply I have no idea what to say

00:16:17 I don't care. I don't care

00:16:29 No, it's not at all

00:16:31 I mean, I would imagine that one of the reasons you're mistreated as you can't even stand by your own prior statement of 45 seconds ago

00:16:42 What am I supposed to do I

00:16:49 Don't care I can get by of course I care. Sorry, but English is not my first language. Nope

00:16:53 No, no, no, I'm not taking that

00:16:57 See, there's more deception. You had a perfectly coherent a couple of paragraphs above and now I suddenly no speak English. Do you know that?

00:17:05 I'm sorry. I'm in a laugh and come on man. Come on, man. Ah

00:17:12 You were a cop in the past

00:17:16 Um, well, maybe you're used to getting your way because you were a cop and it's a little tough for you to negotiate from more

00:17:22 of a subservient or egalitarian

00:17:24 standpoint

00:17:27 I don't care I can get by. Oh, I don't care equals I can get by

00:17:32 See I yeah, you have to have these conversations and I'm happy to keep going on this one

00:17:40 I'm happy to keep going on this one

00:17:46 But you ever have these conversations where you just you don't know which way is up anymore

00:17:50 People just contradict themselves

00:17:53 Right, so he's saying I'm super sad. I'm really down

00:17:57 Because I quit my job because I was mistreated I get mistreated because I'm an immigrant. It was totally unfair. I don't care

00:18:04 Well, no, I mean, I'll be fine

00:18:06 And

00:18:11 What are you supposed to say

00:18:16 Like

00:18:19 Al you have an inconstancy in your communication

00:18:23 You make up perspectives and disintegrate prior perspectives

00:18:27 With no seemingly

00:18:32 With no seeming sense of continuity

00:18:34 Right saying I'm super sad about it. I don't care. I'm really depressed that I have to go back to painting

00:18:40 I got a pregnant wife. Well, no, I'll get by I

00:18:42 Don't know

00:18:45 Trades are brutal. I see a cross and really nasty sometimes. Yes, that is true

00:18:50 All physical labor comes with verbal abuse

00:18:53 Am I wrong hit me if I'm wrong that hit me it doesn't all physical labor and I include the trade to that not that

00:19:00 I wanted to say it's skilled labor for sure

00:19:02 But isn't it the case that all physical labor comes with verbal abuse?

00:19:06 Is this the fact of life

00:19:16 You

00:19:18 That's right, isn't it? Yeah. Oh, I mean every physical labor job that I've ever had every

00:19:26 Work with your hands move stuff around job

00:19:30 It comes with some pretty brutal verbal abuse, right? And I mean I'm saying verbal abuse

00:19:37 It's not like you would experience as a kid and all of that. So the question is why?

00:19:43 Yes all the time nobody wants to work with a pussy, right

00:19:46 So why is it that manual laborers the proletariat in including the skilled trades?

00:19:52 Why are they so verbally harsh?

00:19:54 Why are they so verbally harsh

00:20:12 It balances the risk of loss of limbs, yeah, it's a very macho environment, right?

00:20:16 Yes, the exception being when I did garden maintenance on my own

00:20:23 In high school oh

00:20:27 No, you didn't you didn't consciously type that and think that was adding something to the conversation

00:20:40 So are you saying that you weren't verbally abused by the fucking garden gnome or the rake or your hand or

00:20:46 did you pull your dick out of your fly pull out your

00:20:50 Pockets and say oh no, I'm being yelled at by the elephant

00:20:55 So I say, you know all jobs all physical labor jobs involve verbal abuse this of course means you're not working alone

00:21:04 And you're like well, no, there is an exception when I when I worked on my own

00:21:10 Oh

00:21:12 All tennis games involve hitting back balls, well, no, but when I'm practicing my serve and there's no one on the other side

00:21:22 I'm sorry, very funny. Oh

00:21:27 My gosh, I love that you said that

00:21:30 Is the greatest non sequitur?

00:21:34 Claiming an exception to a rule. That's the greatest reply guy

00:21:38 Statement in the history of the Internet like no, I'm sorry. I don't mean to sound mean or anything

00:21:43 I have dealt with this stuff for like 40 years

00:21:45 Yes, you know when you work with other people in manual labor jobs

00:21:49 There tends to be verbal abuse

00:21:52 Well, but the exception is when I don't work with other people

00:21:55 I'm sorry, that's great. That's great. Oh

00:22:04 Well done the exception being

00:22:08 I've you know, give me your address. I will send you 400 fedoras

00:22:12 It is funny right again, I'm not I'm not trying to be mean

00:22:20 Steph I would love to call in I can't express myself because I'm working

00:22:26 I freaked out by losing my signal here and I'm working right now. I had to type faster summarizing, but I'm taking ownership

00:22:31 I'm trying to be better. I also had my tutu studio. I also had my tattoo studio. I wasn't a bad cop

00:22:37 I was working as a prison guard in Brazil. It's called cop there. Oh

00:22:40 So you were a prison guard and

00:22:43 You tattooed people with child abuse brandings, right you ran a tattoo studio

00:22:54 Why would you run a tattoo studio that's a pretty ignoble way to make a buck, isn't it? Yeah

00:23:06 All right, well I'll uh, I guess you're busy and you're at work so

00:23:09 Yeah excuses excuses excuses, right?

00:23:13 So he expresses himself very clearly in a couple of paragraphs

00:23:18 I call him out in contradictions and he says but I can't express myself because I'm working I you you you make up excuses

00:23:25 when something is contradictory in your behavior and someone calls you out on it you make up excuses and

00:23:33 Excuses lead to escalation. Well, they lead to avoidance or escalation

00:23:40 And you know why in general if you have you ever I mean everybody has worked with people

00:23:50 Who make up constant excuses and you know?

00:23:53 Why constant excuses lead either to avoidance or escalation

00:24:00 You

00:24:02 Because when somebody communicates very well and then when called out says well I can't communicate because I'm at work

00:24:14 You either stop the conversation because you can't get anymore you get anywhere or you tell the person to stop manipulating you stop making excuses

00:24:27 Don't invite me into a conversation and then when you don't hear what you want claim a complete inability to communicate

00:24:33 So people will either avoid you or they'll get angry at you

00:24:37 That's the only the only thing that ever comes out of constant excuses is people avoid you or they get angry at

00:24:43 So

00:24:52 Excuses cost you quality people

00:24:56 see what happens is

00:24:58 Excuses are a form of manipulation and it's a form of self-pity. It's a form of playing the victim and what excuses do

00:25:07 Since they are manipulative

00:25:11 Is you constantly have to change

00:25:17 Your story so what happens is you say well, I'm a victim people just treat me badly. It's never my fault

00:25:23 They treat immigrants badly and it's really expensive here and I can't type now because I'm at work and and blah blah blah blah blah

00:25:29 Okay, and English is not my first language and all that kind of stuff. Okay, so you just keep making excuses

00:25:34 So you invite people in to the self-pity party

00:25:40 And then what happens is people say well I could just give you the self-pity party

00:25:47 But that would be having nothing but contempt for your potential

00:25:51 Right, if I if I just agree, oh, yes, you're just just the life is terrible and you're just as this

00:25:57 Victim and poor you and it's so sad and terrible things and blah blah blah blah blah

00:26:01 Well, then I'm just saying I have no respect for you whatsoever as a human being and it also goes against my own experiences

00:26:08 Which life will treat you like shit on a regular basis. Isn't that the case?

00:26:12 Like people will treat you like shit on a regular basis

00:26:15 Don't tell me if I'm wrong. I mean, I'm not trying to certainly say anything to do with self-pity

00:26:21 I'm just saying is it not a fact in life and maybe this maybe I just have a special gift of bringing out the

00:26:27 Best in people, but is it not the case?

00:26:29 That people will treat you like shit on a regular basis now

00:26:34 Not the people in your life that you love and care about and so on but the world as a whole right the world as a

00:26:39 whole

00:26:41 People will treat you like shit on a regular basis

00:26:43 It's true, right? I mean, it's just a fact, right?

00:26:51 So

00:26:52 When someone comes to me with a victim narrative as Al did come when someone comes to me with a victim narrative

00:26:58 I know they're begging me to call them out on their shit

00:27:01 Right

00:27:06 When someone comes to me to me if all people

00:27:16 Comes to me and says I'm just being treated badly for no reason I never do anything

00:27:20 And it's just because I'm a I'm an innocent immigrant

00:27:23 And I I guess there's some sort of prejudice or something like is it because I'm an immigrant and then they just come up with

00:27:28 excuses after excuses after excuse when I point out any potential culpability ie control ie

00:27:32 capacity to handle negative stimuli I

00:27:35 Know because you wouldn't come to like you understand this you would never come to me

00:27:41 To

00:27:45 Get someone to reinforce your victim narrative, right?

00:27:47 Like of all the people right of all the people to come to that's lots of people you could go to who are totally gonna

00:27:56 Reinforce your victim narrative. Oh, it's so bad. Oh, you're being treated so wrong. It's so unfair

00:28:01 It's so unjust you're such a poor a poor little victim and all that kind of stuff, right?

00:28:05 I mean you can go to tons of people to get that right

00:28:08 But if you come to me, it's because you want to free yourself from your victim narrative

00:28:13 Because if you are addicted to a victim narrative, you will make bullies out of every variable

00:28:21 personality around you

00:28:23 Every people respond to your self-perception. Most people they don't have any objective integrity. They don't have you PP

00:28:30 They don't have values. They don't have virtues. They don't have standards. They just conform to the expectations of those around them and

00:28:37 So if you come in with a victim narrative people are gonna treat me badly

00:28:41 I'm a victim. Yeah, right

00:28:44 Then people would be like, okay, I'll push you around if you expect people if you expect to be bullied if you're kind of belligerent

00:28:56 If you're difficult if you make excuses, right I can tell you what happened. You want to know what happened at your work

00:29:01 I can tell you what happened at your work

00:29:03 You did something wrong people tried to call you out on it

00:29:06 You made a lot of fucking excuses and people got mad they treated you badly and then you quit

00:29:10 You

00:29:12 Steph I remember you did the video with the man who was about to die. I'm grateful you allowed him on the show

00:29:25 I think it helped him and us a lot

00:29:27 Yeah, I did another show that was never released with a woman who was facing

00:29:31 She had two little children and she was terminal cancer diagnosis terrible

00:29:35 You

00:29:37 In my personal experience people treat strangers quite well here in Finland then again Finland is something of an exception as a nation of people

00:29:47 I suppose

00:29:49 I could go to Finland and be lynched within five minutes

00:29:54 It's just a talent

00:30:00 Everybody brings something to the table being able to arouse human hatred is just one of my special talents. It's

00:30:06 It's a gift really. It's something that my family I think has worked on for quite some time

00:30:11 But I really feel it's matched its peak in me the capacity to turn nuns into vampires and have them thirsty for my jugular

00:30:19 It's I

00:30:23 mean if I were religious I would say it's God given it's a God given gift to just

00:30:28 Provoke the living shit out of people who think that they're reasonable

00:30:31 It just is the way that it is if it's any consolation. I do it to myself, too

00:30:35 So

00:30:38 Hello back for three more months of the truth be it easy or hard Thank You free domain. Well, thank you. I appreciate that. I appreciate that

00:30:45 Men in Australia actual men

00:30:53 I'll give you a shit for either not performing or being too sensitive the focus of the ridicule is irrelevant even when it's racist

00:30:59 Well, Finland is kind of racist. So yeah, I

00:31:02 Still don't know what the word racist is

00:31:05 so

00:31:08 I'd watch a movie about Steph versus vampire nuns. Lol. Well, it would involve a huge amount of incense and a fair amount of baby oil

00:31:15 I just you

00:31:16 so

00:31:20 You did that to Vancouver when you tried to come here a sweet polite society turned into a witch-hunt mob. Yeah, absolutely

00:31:25 Absolutely

00:31:29 Modern society is

00:31:32 People being nice because they've hypnotized themselves with the false drug of false virtue

00:31:37 And then when you point out that it's a false drug of false virtue, they turn on you in a feral manner

00:31:41 You know drug addicts are fine. If you give them their drug

00:31:45 It's just if you don't give them that drug or you threaten to withhold that drug

00:31:48 They'll fucking turn on you like a bunch of coked up emotional terrorists

00:31:52 Yeah, absolutely well

00:31:58 Aussie accent I I backed off from the Aussie accent. I would love a call-in, but I have to go back to work. Oh

00:32:06 My gosh, I would love a call-in but I have to go back to work now

00:32:18 You

00:32:20 Do you think I just do live streams and then immediately interrupt them to do a call-in in the moment, sorry

00:32:24 I know you're booked off couple hours for a live stream, but I'm gonna do a call-in right now. So bye

00:32:29 Oh my gosh, oh my gosh

00:32:46 He didn't say I'd love a call-in so how do I arrange one? Nope, I gotta go back to work. Oh, well, you know what?

00:32:53 some people prefer excuses and

00:32:56 Who am I to? Oh, did I miss something? Did I miss something?

00:33:02 What did I miss?

00:33:05 Let me just see here

00:33:09 Come on you can load more messages. I really feel that you can

00:33:13 Oh

00:33:15 I thought you had to go back to work. No, you're still typing

00:33:18 Even better. I can't talk. I gotta work. Wait, let me come back to correct you one point

00:33:25 Okay, no telegram calls. No that their telegram calls are a chatty chance, right?

00:33:31 The verbal abuse is an initiation sort of if you can't take the insults, well, you won't take the work well

00:33:39 You

00:33:41 My experience of verbal abuse was worst when I work alone, how do you know you were alone? I

00:33:50 Worked as a commercial painter and worked on a crew that painted a Hilton Hotel

00:33:55 It was very hostile because the stakes were high and a lot of the workers were - it's a lot to manage for the supervisors

00:34:01 Yeah, yeah

00:34:08 Oh, wait, I'm always back here I'm always back

00:34:11 He works forever until he's not working yeah

00:34:18 Far far apart of the concepts of being a good person and a polite person who smiles and chats with you before plunging the knife

00:34:25 in

00:34:27 Do you believe the universe is designed I do not

00:34:33 What is the psychology behind people who constantly talk and have to make jokes not leaving any room for pause

00:34:39 What is the psychology behind people who constantly talk and have to make jokes not leaving any room for pause

00:34:49 Well, I've known a few people like that in my life and they do tend to be a little tiring. Yeah a

00:34:56 little - do you hit me with a why if you know somebody like that the

00:35:00 hyped up

00:35:03 Robin Williams perpetual jokester

00:35:05 No, it's not bipolar because bipolar is up and down right they're hiding something

00:35:16 You do right

00:35:31 Your dad hmm

00:35:33 That's tough

00:35:36 He was a drunk yeah drunks do it for sure

00:35:40 Wanting mother's approval as a child well, not every one of them is Robin Williams, but I'm sure quite a few of them are

00:35:48 alright psychology of

00:35:51 Someone who constantly needs to make jokes

00:35:55 Almost always in my experience

00:36:00 Almost always it's a male attribute and almost always it's because of a suicidal mother

00:36:06 And I don't mean a woman who's a mom who's like got a gun in her mouth

00:36:12 Mel Gibson style or is standing on the edge of a bridge

00:36:15 But a mother who has a severe

00:36:20 undertow of Thanatos a death impulse a

00:36:23 death impulse

00:36:25 Impulsive joking is a form of perpetual CPR on a decaying and self-destructive soul

00:36:31 Does that make sense I'm not saying do you agree with it, but this sort of makes sense

00:36:45 I don't know if Robin Williams was bipolar

00:36:51 You

00:36:53 But Robin Williams

00:36:57 Had a desperate desire to be liked which came out of his depressed mother as is often the case with comedians

00:37:03 Comedians are constantly trying to save one or both parents from self-destruction

00:37:10 And so you learn to become entertaining you learn to become a fun person

00:37:18 Because otherwise your mom's gonna kill herself or die or whatever, right?

00:37:22 Douglas Adams had a theory about that if their mouths stop working their brains will start working

00:37:29 That's a pithy bunch of nonsense

00:37:33 Something I've realized I do a lot I make jokes often and when things should be more

00:37:41 Serious it annoys me and I'm trying to work on it. I am this person. I am trying to stop but this is me

00:37:48 My single mother had depression and I was an only child right all that has done was undermine my ability to get respect and I

00:37:54 deserve it and

00:37:55 I'm and I know exactly sorry. This is the early person

00:37:58 I know exactly the event that caused the joking side within me mom threatened to leave the family forever after dad criticized her cooking

00:38:05 Right

00:38:09 So

00:38:14 There's an easy way to figure out what compulsive behavior is covering up

00:38:19 We all know this one, right? Oh your mother also had depression. Yeah

00:38:24 Sam says in my dad's case his mother was psychologically abusive and manipulative which manifested in my father as constant joking hard to make a serious

00:38:34 Conversation with him, right? So if you have repetitive compulsive behavior you it's it's honestly

00:38:39 It takes about 20 seconds to figure out what it's covering up. It's amazing to me that people go through life

00:38:45 acting these bizarre ways when 20 seconds of

00:38:50 a particular choice would reveal exactly what's going on and solve well begin the process of solving the whole problem and

00:38:57 You know what you do if you have a compulsive habit to joke to make jokes

00:39:05 You

00:39:07 So what you do

00:39:19 If you want to figure out what is behind compulsive repetitive behavior like compulsive joking

00:39:27 It's just shut up I

00:39:31 Have a friend who's like this who was adopted. Yes, very common among adopted people

00:39:36 You shut up

00:39:38 No

00:39:40 Whatever your compulsive behavior is

00:39:43 You just stop doing it

00:39:48 Because the compulsive behavior is there to cover up an emotion and as long as you're doing that compulsive behavior. You're drowning the emotion

00:39:55 By shouting it out with your behavior, right? So you just I mean do you find this tough? Just just shut up

00:40:01 I mean, I know me with my three-hour life's trip. We'll just shut up. But I I spent most of today completely quiet. I

00:40:09 read

00:40:11 from the peaceful parenting book

00:40:13 This morning and then a guy was over to help fix something at the house. I chatted with him for a while and

00:40:19 Then I listened to an audiobook

00:40:23 While relaxing on the couch and then I finished the Bill O'Reilly book killing Jesus and then my family came home

00:40:30 I had a dinner and I spent most of the day not talking anyone

00:40:32 No problem with that

00:40:36 My in-laws talk all the time never silence constant pretend laughing I can't stand it

00:40:42 Yeah, you just do the opposite right if you always need to be the center of attention

00:40:46 Let someone else do it. Let someone else be the center of attention

00:40:49 if you feel the need to constantly make jokes just shut up or

00:40:53 Conversely if you feel like you can't ever say boo to a mouse make yourself talk about something you just do the opposite

00:40:59 And the emotion will emerge

00:41:01 It's always there. It's always there. It's always there

00:41:04 Just don't do

00:41:08 Whatever your anxiety avoidance is compelling you to do just don't do it. Don't let the anxiety win. Don't let the anxiety

00:41:15 dictate your behavior and

00:41:18 You know one of the reasons why this is so important is

00:41:25 You are silent all the time around them. Oh your in-laws who talk all the time. Yeah

00:41:29 Yeah

00:41:33 So you won't want to change that right I

00:41:35 mean if you want to

00:41:37 My mother was psychologically abusive verbally abusive dad verbal physical. Yes. Thanks to you

00:41:42 I know why also my brother and I were adopted really

00:41:45 My question is why bother adopting us if they had no interest in us as people

00:41:48 What do you mean why

00:41:52 You

00:41:54 Don't they get paid by the government I

00:42:02 Mean most people who adopt as far as I understand it. Well a lot of people who adopt

00:42:07 Don't they get subsidies or paid by the government? Not everyone, of course, but most of the people I know

00:42:13 Who got adopted?

00:42:16 Yeah, most people I know who got adopted

00:42:22 You

00:42:24 Were adopted into families which get paid

00:42:27 No

00:42:31 Being comfortable with silence and connecting with your own emotions helps with many problems. It just brings clarity in my experience. Yeah

00:42:37 Yeah, I mean being able to sit with your thoughts

00:42:42 Without your mind totally wandering to the point where you don't even know what you're thinking about after a while being able to sit

00:42:48 With your thoughts without distraction and without spacing out and just going all over the universe is tough, right?

00:42:54 It's tough only if they're foster

00:42:58 Is that right?

00:43:01 I don't know if that's right. I've been married for 30 years

00:43:05 I've tried to help my spouse be quiet nicely, but then they yell at me

00:43:09 They'll yell back. I

00:43:11 Don't know what does yell back. I don't understand

00:43:13 You know

00:43:19 When you think about it, it's really interesting to mull over how much how much actual freedom do you have in your life?

00:43:26 Somebody else at me. I'll just yell back

00:43:31 right

00:43:34 My chiropractor told me he's gonna opting to put his kid as kids on ADHD meds because the government would give him extra support payments

00:43:40 Well, yeah, I mean if your kid has a disability you can get

00:43:45 What $600 it used to be the case $600 a month and extra Social Security payments. So yeah, it's all just

00:43:50 Money money money silent prayer is a great way to learn that skill. I think you're right about that

00:43:55 Yeah, constant wandering thoughts can cause a negative spiral. Yeah, but they don't go anywhere, right?

00:43:59 It's a constant wandering thoughts. Well, what about this and what about that? Well, they never go anywhere

00:44:03 They never solve any problems and you just end up kind of exhausted

00:44:05 Could be says the adoptee I never looked into it

00:44:11 It was a closed adoption a bio biological mother had two kids before us two more after us

00:44:16 She was 16 when she had us late 1970, right?

00:44:19 right

00:44:21 And of course your your mother might have been statutorily raped, right?

00:44:25 If she was 16 and it was an older kid depending on when what the age of consent is where you are

00:44:29 Depends how you define freedom pretty free, especially when you don't self-censor, right?

00:44:35 So as far as compulsion, this is like the compulsion show right in a way

00:44:40 So the guy earlier

00:44:42 The guy who was complaining about being mistreated at work and having a quit

00:44:46 He was a compulsive apology guy excuses and enough. Sorry a compulsive excuse guy

00:44:52 A compulsive excuses guy he couldn't not make an excuse

00:45:02 You

00:45:04 And the people who compulsively joke they can't not make jokes so they really don't have any free will

00:45:15 They really did to just have to do it right because the anxiety that is chasing them is so massive and

00:45:22 Terrifying that they have no free will sort of in the same way. Do you have the free will to?

00:45:30 Continue swimming in the ocean if you see a great white shark go sailing by right?

00:45:34 Well, no, you really don't have the free will unless you want to die or could die, right?

00:45:40 So you don't really have to the free will to stay swimming in the ocean

00:45:45 if you see a giant shark go by and

00:45:49 If your anxiety is like that shark

00:45:52 You don't have any free will because your whole life is managing that anxiety managing that fear managing that

00:45:58 tension, right

00:46:00 I really like your earlier videos your early videos on an anarcho-capitalist society

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00:46:56 That's the place you want to be

00:46:58 Jokes are a sort of safe way to speak the truth as long as it's actually funny and people can take it to mean

00:47:04 More than one thing

00:47:06 The compulsive jokers though erase others

00:47:10 Like to me jokes are at their best when you go back and forth if that makes sense

00:47:14 Like everybody goes back and forth and joins in then it's a uniting experience

00:47:18 But if it's just one person making jokes and other people just kind of laughing a little or a lot or whatever

00:47:23 then

00:47:27 It's it's kind of an erasure of the others

00:47:29 Somebody says I used to be overly joking and I both entertained and annoyed many people

00:47:40 I have this habit mostly under control now. I notice how insecure other people are they are intimidated and angered by my seriousness

00:47:46 I actually feel fear now fear of attack by not entertaining my parents. No, you're not feeling

00:47:54 You're not you're not feeling your fear

00:47:56 Right when you stop avoiding your own emotions, what's the next thing you crash into?

00:48:02 When you stop avoiding your own emotions, what's the next thing you crash into guaranteed?

00:48:11 A co-worker of mine is a constant joker and I feel the self erasure around him and he does that

00:48:22 Yeah, because the constant joker is also he's kind of he's a demanding person. It's like be laugh. I'm funny, right laugh

00:48:27 I'm funny, right?

00:48:28 It's like maybe I'm not in the mood or maybe I don't find you that funny and it's like, haha

00:48:32 You got to give that polite laugh and there's never any honesty, right?

00:48:35 Others says Sam

00:48:41 So when you stop avoiding your own emotions the next thing you crash into is other people's avoided emotions

00:48:50 You

00:48:52 You see what I mean

00:48:56 A reason and it's a reason and an excuse differ by accepting personal responsibility. What does that mean?

00:49:07 A reason and an excuse differ by accepting personal responsibility

00:49:15 Okay, I think I get that as in I fell asleep at work because I was tired

00:49:18 I was tired because a poor time management kept me up late

00:49:21 The first is an excuse the second a reason do I have that right taking personal responsibility for my choices?

00:49:27 No, oh my god

00:49:32 Please I'm begging you on my knees

00:49:45 I'm begging you

00:49:47 Accept no reasons for what you do not one not ever

00:49:56 Accept no

00:50:04 Reasons for what you I did this because nope. I

00:50:09 Fell at work because I was tired. I was tired because I stayed up too late

00:50:14 I stayed up too late because of poor time management skills

00:50:18 Every reason as to why you do anything is just another tsunami pounding into the sandcastle of your free will

00:50:33 You

00:50:35 My reason is always because I was weak it's truth. Nope

00:50:44 Nope

00:50:47 No verbal abuse

00:50:49 Calling yourself weak. Nope

00:50:52 If the cause is uncaused it cannot be a core

00:51:02 You

00:51:04 You can't say something is caused and then say

00:51:15 That the cause of the effect was itself uncaused

00:51:23 Oh, okay, he says I'm still weak

00:51:29 I'm not gonna disagree with your self-assessment. I just think it's been profoundly unhelpful

00:51:34 I'm still weak as an excuse. Well, I'm weak. Why can't I not have 500 pounds above my head because I'm weak

00:51:42 Okay. Well, I just won't try and live 500 pounds, right?

00:51:44 Reasons are always excuses always always always

00:51:58 Reasons are always excuses. Well, I drink because my parents were drunks. Nope

00:52:05 Well, I I have anxiety because I had a bad childhood nope

00:52:12 Yeah, it's the wisdom to know the difference of the serenity prayer that's what they never go into

00:52:24 You

00:52:26 Why do you make excuses all the time?

00:52:32 Well, you know, I grew up with parents who blamed me too much and I had to make excuses just to survive

00:52:37 That's why I make excuses as an adult. Nope

00:52:40 That's not why you make excuses as an adult

00:52:49 Because you could easily you could just as easily to have the opposite right if a thing and its opposite can both lead to the

00:52:54 Same effect you don't have a cause at all. Oh

00:52:57 The surrender you prayer

00:53:01 God grant me

00:53:04 The strength to change the things I can change

00:53:06 The serenity to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference

00:53:11 Or something like that

00:53:16 You

00:53:18 So if you say well I make excuses because my parents criticized me too much

00:53:25 And that's why I just make excuses because I just got into the habit of making excuses so they wouldn't abuse me

00:53:32 And then somebody else says well

00:53:36 I make excuses all the time because my parents never gave me any feedback at all

00:53:39 And they never gave me any rational way of evaluating my own behavior

00:53:43 So I just make excuses because I don't know how to evaluate my own behavior, right? So if the thing and its opposite

00:53:49 Are the cause or can be the cause or can be explained as the cause you don't have a cause

00:53:55 The cause of a sunburn is both excessive sunlight and

00:54:00 The opposite of excessive sunlight. It's like then you don't have a cause

00:54:05 You

00:54:07 Now the serenity prayer is just a way of thinking that people have something philosophical

00:54:20 You know, it's like it's like somebody's saying well, you know the

00:54:25 The path to virtue is doing the right thing even when it's difficult

00:54:30 Even when you know, you're gonna be attacked

00:54:35 You

00:54:37 Just finding a way to fight your way through to the truth and virtue and be an example to inspire others no matter what

00:54:43 How does that help you make any decisions in life it's just something that people say it's a the fucking bumper sticker it's a slogan

00:54:54 The point of healthy living is to exercise it just the right amount not too much

00:55:01 To accept yourself for the things you can't change about your body and also to find the right a level of nutrition and calories and balance

00:55:09 Of fruits and vegetables and meats and that's you know, what the fuck does that help you plan your meals?

00:55:14 The courage to change the things I can change

00:55:23 The serenity to accept the things I can't change and the wisdom to know the difference

00:55:28 See, it's that last part that's kind of important because if you don't have that you ain't got nothing

00:55:32 Nothing

00:55:37 I'm a drunk

00:55:40 Because my parents were drunks. Well, I never drink because my parents were drunk. See parents being drunk

00:55:45 both produces alcoholism and

00:55:48 Being a teetotaler right being an alcoholic and not touching alcohol both come from the cause of my parents were drunks

00:55:55 So how can the parents be drunks be the cause of anything if it can produce an effect and its opposite?

00:56:00 The bird

00:56:04 I would not be nearly as good a parent if I hadn't been abused as a child

00:56:10 So

00:56:24 Child abuse led me to become a better parent

00:56:27 The serenity pair is an AA thing

00:56:33 Oh, let's not get started on the AA

00:56:38 Forgive people man

00:56:46 Is anything that came out of the 20th century not totally fucking hyper feminine

00:56:53 You

00:56:55 All who counsel infinite forgiveness are doing so from a place of weakness

00:57:06 Yeah, the slave has to forgive the master because he can't do anything about it. And so there's something hyper feminized about eternal forgiveness

00:57:19 Pilara says yes. I always say I'm an excellent parent because my parents showed me what to do by being awful. They did that, right?

00:57:24 Okay, are you an excellent parent if you constantly call yourself weak

00:57:31 Well, I'm crazy because my parents were crazy well, I'm super sane because my parents were crazy parents being crazy doesn't cause anything

00:57:43 So what is the cause

00:57:49 What is the cause

00:57:51 What is the cause of your behavior

00:57:55 Yeah

00:58:00 Constant forgiveness forgiveness is an absolute is straight-up slave morality. If you're powerless you might as well forgive and call

00:58:07 Your forgiveness of virtue because you can't inflict any punishments back

00:58:13 Thanks

00:58:15 What is the cause of your behavior the question is a trap

00:58:30 Because once you identify a cause you've just generated what an excuse that fucks up your life

00:58:39 You

00:58:41 When people don't want to be good

00:58:45 They search for causes once they get their imaginary cause they get a very real excuse which traps them in their badness

00:58:54 This is you Pilaris you don't mind me saying so love that you're here. Thank you. I'm thankful that you're here

00:59:01 Call yourself weak. That's an excuse. Well, I'm weak. Why did I'm weak? I'm weak

00:59:08 That's an excuse

00:59:10 It's a choice to be weak

00:59:13 Well, why did this guy become a boxer well because he was beaten up a lot as a kid and he learned how to do

00:59:24 That so there's no causes but instead there are choices

00:59:27 There are as many causes as you believe there to be but none of them exist outside your mind

00:59:38 There are as many causes as you would you believe there to be but none of them exist outside your mind

00:59:44 Polaris is yes. I am weak by choice. No, you've defined yourself that way. So it's an excuse

00:59:54 I don't know what customer service has to do that with this Sam, but I'm happy to hear the case more

01:00:06 You

01:00:08 I mean my brother and I had similar shared environments for a lot of our childhoods. We're totally opposite total opposites

01:00:18 What's the cause?

01:00:20 What's the cause?

01:00:22 My father and I couldn't be more opposite

01:00:24 What's the cause?

01:00:28 You

01:00:30 If you're not the cause

01:00:38 You're a slave to imagined causes

01:00:41 Do you see what I mean?

01:00:43 If you yourself are not the cause of your life

01:00:46 You're a slave to all the imagined causes and you're just the last fucking domino to fall into nothing

01:00:57 Why does this show exist

01:01:01 Why does this show exist what's the cause of freedom ain't what's the cause of this show what's the cause of this conversation?

01:01:12 Well

01:01:19 Steph had a very anti rational mother and he experienced violence

01:01:23 And so he's very interested in and his mother told him not to think and he's got an ODD personality

01:01:27 But the regards to his mother so instead of not thinking he does the exact opposite, but just think a lot

01:01:32 Congratulations, you've just invented a Niagara of bullshit that explains nothing

01:01:39 Bad parenting to provoke thought your decisions. Yeah

01:01:45 You chose to start a podcast. That's right. I

01:01:49 Chose to do it

01:01:52 What's the cause of my choice? Hello. Do you know what the word choice means?

01:01:56 The lack of philosophy in pop culture no

01:02:01 God

01:02:03 Be critical of your own answers the lack of philosophy in pop culture. All right

01:02:08 So when did pop culture ever have deep philosophy?

01:02:12 The answer to that is never there was pop culture in ancient Rome ancient Greece ancient

01:02:16 Babylonia ancient Sumeria ancient Armenia pop culture all over the place trashy local bardic songs

01:02:22 So for thousands and thousands and thousands of years human beings have had pop culture

01:02:26 Right

01:02:29 The lack of philosophy in pop culture has been a permanent feature of humankind

01:02:35 Why is there only this show now are because of the Internet? Well, okay

01:02:38 This show exists because of the Internet the Internet exists everywhere, so why aren't there more of these shows?

01:02:50 It

01:02:52 Has philosophy just really bad and myth-based if it's bad and myth-based it's not philosophy

01:03:00 Well, the witch doctor is just a kind of scientist he just does it with more dancing and chicken heads like no

01:03:07 He's not a scientist

01:03:09 The world needed a philosophy show and you created the best one

01:03:15 You

01:03:17 I shared somebody says our shared

01:03:27 Childhood made me deeply empathetic quiet deep him aggressive manic loud. We are twins by the way

01:03:34 So are you trying to troll me here I

01:03:42 Mean I know you're kind of agreeing with me

01:03:44 But what the hell are you talking about our shared childhood made me deeply empathetic quiet deep him aggressive manic loud

01:03:51 Didn't make you anything as an adult who makes you

01:04:01 As an adult who makes you

01:04:05 Who forges you in the furnace of what who makes you and your life

01:04:11 You

01:04:13 Yeah you we are self-forged swords

01:04:25 We are self-written novels we are self-directed movies

01:04:30 We are our own makers

01:04:39 And

01:04:41 I want you to think right back to the beginning right back to the beginning

01:04:46 Right back to the beginning of philosophy for you

01:04:51 Don't forget to tip this is hard work hard work

01:04:57 I sweat buckets of the world. It feels like I

01:05:03 Want you to think right back to the beginning

01:05:08 You

01:05:10 When did you first begin to think that philosophy might totally fuck you up

01:05:17 When did you first but our philosophy is great, it's so exciting Wow, I'm really gaining knowledge

01:05:31 When did you first get that uneasy feeling of like?

01:05:33 Whoo, especially the way the staff guy talks about it. Ah

01:05:37 It's pretty deep it's pretty actionable it's pretty personal it's

01:05:41 Somebody says this is insightful

01:05:48 I did not have an abusive childhood

01:05:50 But my wife did yeah, we both wanted to be peaceful parents years before we had we ever had kids

01:05:54 We were our own makers

01:05:56 You

01:05:58 Last fall that hit you back about six years ago when I put it into practice instead of talking about it. Yeah

01:06:13 Philosophy that can't be acted on is a great con

01:06:20 It's really the greatest con

01:06:27 I like philosophy for ages, but I got that feeling in 2018 and it just grew from that point, right?

01:06:32 Philosophy

01:06:39 Starts out

01:06:43 With relief and then the bill slowly comes, right?

01:06:52 Somebody says I was always a philosopher. I had a brief period after my first long stay at a yoga monastery where I worried that

01:06:58 I couldn't survive in society while being completely ethical

01:07:04 I couldn't survive in society about being completely ethical

01:07:16 Boy that's kind of an I mean II statement isn't it? Well, I my ethics I me purity blah blah blah. I

01:07:23 Think you're supposed to help society on you

01:07:26 You're the first person who I've seen talk about siding with ourselves when it came to my family of origin

01:07:34 So you had that choice and when you began to first get a sense of what philosophy I mean

01:07:46 could cost you a

01:07:48 Cause is an excuse for a choice

01:07:51 What no?

01:07:53 No

01:07:57 Oh an excuse for a choice like you made a choice, but you're pretending you didn't I don't know

01:08:03 Commitment to truth is often painful your insight helped me keep going. Yes. I'm there now. I

01:08:13 Knew it was dangerous immediate if you're surrounded by real violence. These arguments will get you crucified. Yeah. Yeah for sure. Sure

01:08:20 for sure

01:08:23 Everybody's addicted to false virtues and when you talk about real virtues you take away their drug and they hate you for it

01:08:29 Drug addicts

01:08:35 Have some of the most dangerous people around

01:08:40 Because they'd rather kill you than lose the drug they'd rather kill themselves than lose the drug sometimes

01:08:45 So, why did you decide to keep going?

01:08:52 Why did you decide to keep going?

01:09:07 Why did you decide to keep going when you began when the bill began to loom in your heart and mind

01:09:13 Why didn't you turn back a lot of people do you probably know some of them a lot of people have a

01:09:21 Lot of people from early on in this show

01:09:26 Ejected I'm out peace out, right

01:09:32 Why did you keep going

01:09:37 You

01:09:39 Are you crazy why did you keep going?

01:09:46 Truth is easy to remember and God appreciates truth tellers

01:09:52 Philosophy is understanding truly what rational self-interest means. That's the deep ID

01:10:05 I mean, what does rational self-interest mean? I don't know. It's just understanding the truth philosophy is the pursuit of truth in

01:10:12 particular ethical truth

01:10:15 Jared says there was an explosion behind me called everyone. I knew succumbing to addiction and violence

01:10:23 Well, that'll that'll help you get out of the burning building, right?

01:10:25 You

01:10:27 Going back felt worse than death

01:10:41 Yeah, I mean the mind once stretched by a new idea never regains its original shape as the saying goes

01:10:49 To pursue happiness

01:10:55 You

01:10:56 But that doesn't answer much of anything. I'm afraid because you would then have to explain why you kept going and other people didn't

01:11:03 And I'm afraid you all fell into my trap

01:11:09 I'm afraid that you all fell into my trap

01:11:17 It's really tempting, isn't it? It's really tempting. What's the correct answer as to why you kept going?

01:11:22 You

01:11:24 Because because because because because

01:11:29 Why it's the correct answer as to why you kept going

01:11:34 You see I'm sorry, I know I know it was complete I literally just told you guys

01:11:49 You gotta see we all I get this we all want to invent reasons why we're doing things

01:11:54 Because you chose to keep going

01:12:01 Isn't that funny? And again, I'm not trying to be a jerk

01:12:03 Honestly, I never really have to try you know that right, but so I'm not trying to be a jerk

01:12:08 But you get what I'm saying, right?

01:12:10 You don't have to agree with me, of course, right

01:12:15 but I literally made a very compelling argument not four minutes ago as

01:12:20 To why there's no causality behind your choices. And then I literally I was smiling in my head as I said this I'm like

01:12:28 I bet you they're gonna fall for it

01:12:30 Bet you they're gonna fall for it. There's no causality behind what you do. Why did you do this?

01:12:38 Come the reasons

01:12:44 This is really funny because now I feel like I don't know why I do things good

01:12:48 Good

01:12:52 Do you know how liberating it is to not give have to give reasons for what you do

01:12:56 Every time you give a reason for what you do you limit your choice in the future

01:13:09 You're making more sense than a lot of people I've talked to well, hopefully

01:13:11 But we still have reasons for decisions

01:13:14 Dave's hanging on there Dave's hanging in there

01:13:17 So you asked why did you choose to keep going and the correct answer is because I chose to keep going

01:13:23 Now you can say things like and you know, you can say things like

01:13:30 well, I focused on the long-term benefits rather than

01:13:36 The short-term pains right you you can say that why doesn't that answer anything

01:13:41 Why if you say well, I knew that there was good stuff on the far side of going through this pain, right

01:13:51 Why doesn't that explain anything

01:13:56 You

01:13:58 Post hoc reasoning is a clever bitch

01:14:08 She is

01:14:10 She is why does it explain nothing to say? Well, I focus on the long-term benefits rather than the short-term pain

01:14:15 Yeah, because most people choose the opposite

01:14:24 you

01:14:26 Know it's like the fat guy saying

01:14:28 The fat guy who loses weight he goes from 300 pounds to 150 pounds or whatever

01:14:33 Right and goes hot 400 to 200 halves this way and people say well, why why did you lose all that weight?

01:14:37 he's like oh man, I I

01:14:39 Just woke up one day and I looked in the mirror and I'm like, oh this is disgusting

01:14:42 And then an uncle of mine had a heart attack and I was you know

01:14:46 I was just grossed out and then I saw a picture of myself in high school when I was an athlete and I was like

01:14:50 I can't do this anymore

01:14:51 That explains nothing

01:14:54 You

01:14:56 Why does that explain nothing I

01:15:01 Weighed the probabilities and went with black instead of red everyone weighs the probabilities

01:15:07 Why did you choose to go left and other people choose to go right everybody weighs the probabilities?

01:15:11 Making reasons for your own behavior is a bit of a trap if you give reasons it makes people think you're being defensive

01:15:20 You

01:15:22 Do you know what I'm trying to deliver to you

01:15:27 Do you know really what I'm trying to deliver to you other than a wider array of choice because you're not confined by causality

01:15:36 You're not a fucking rock bouncing down a hill at the law of physics and mercy

01:15:41 Do you know what I'm trying to deliver to you

01:15:46 Freewill yes, but more importantly more deeply and more emotionally

01:15:50 Yeah, when you start the chain of causality, it never ends. It's dominoes all the way down, which is why it's paralyzing

01:15:56 James is losing weight. He says I don't have a why just a motivational poster that says keep calm and fuck being fat

01:16:12 But why now not 20 years ago?

01:16:16 I want to hear the rest of this. I don't understand fully

01:16:18 Self-ownership no, I'm confused bedrock truth. I choose my life. Oh god

01:16:24 When I say it, please don't kick me

01:16:29 I'm glad we're not all in the same room. I'd get mobbed and not in the way that I like

01:16:34 I will give you the letters P

01:16:39 Give me a P

01:16:45 Give me an R

01:16:47 Give me an I

01:16:49 Where are we going? What am I trying to deliver to you my glorious friends? What am I trying to deliver P?

01:16:55 are I

01:16:57 Oh now he's become paranoid I'm not falling for it again P are I

01:17:04 Pride

01:17:09 That's right, right, right

01:17:12 You

01:17:14 Every single bit of causality strips and diminishes your self-esteem your pride your pride

01:17:25 Your pride

01:17:42 If you don't touch alcohol because your parents are drunk how much pride can you take it not touching alcohol?

01:17:48 Well, you're just bouncing off. It's just a reaction. It's just dominoes, man

01:17:51 Reasons eliminate they don't just minimize it they eliminate pride

01:18:09 There's no causality for this show because this show is completely unique and will forever remain so

01:18:15 Guy earlier who's the painter people are mean to me because I'm an immigrant

01:18:38 How does he know does that mean everyone treats every immigrant badly, you know, who's an immigrant Elon Musk

01:18:45 If

01:18:50 Everything you've achieved is just a domino

01:18:52 How can you take any pride in any of it? It's like considering yourself, but why are you rich? Why are you running?

01:19:00 Why are you rich? Well, you're rich because your father left you five million dollars

01:19:04 Can you take pride in that? Nope?

01:19:07 Because the cause of you being rich is just your father's choice. It's not your choice. You didn't choose that father

01:19:13 You didn't choose to inherit that money. You didn't right you can't take pride in stuff that happens to you

01:19:18 And causality is saying that what happens to you what defines you is all just accidental

01:19:26 Dominoes from the past are you a person or a pinball good way of putting it Sam?

01:19:36 Now

01:19:38 Now

01:19:42 Are you ready for the big the big reveal?

01:19:46 Danette Danette. Are you ready for the big reveal? I don't know

01:19:51 Can you help reconcile this with pride is the source of all sins?

01:19:55 Is pride the source of all sins

01:19:59 You

01:20:01 Christmas Carol I wear the chain I forged in life replied the ghost I made it link by link and yard by yard

01:20:15 I goaded it on of my own free will

01:20:17 Are you ready?

01:20:20 I mean why are we all addicted to reasons?

01:20:29 To the point where I make a compelling case as to no causality and then I ask you for causality and everybody jumps right back

01:20:35 On the causality bus, right?

01:20:37 This is bus is going off a cliff. Hey, you want to get on the bus? I do I

01:20:41 Do it too, right?

01:20:43 Why are we so addicted to causality

01:20:55 Why would we want to give up pride for the sake of

01:20:58 Pretending I

01:21:02 Mean, do you think I was the only person in the world who grew up with anti-rational parents?

01:21:06 Sorry, I'm certainly not the only person who's been abused in the world

01:21:09 And I'm certainly far from the worst abused person in the world infinitely far sometimes it feels like but these call-in shows

01:21:14 so if you say well

01:21:17 This had to happen

01:21:21 For me to do this show. Well, I'm just I can't take any pride in it, right and it's it explains nothing

01:21:28 Well, why did it rain well because a guy was dancing last night, okay

01:21:36 Well, what about all the times when the guy was dancing last night or some other guy was dancing last night and it didn't rain

01:21:40 No, no. No, this is does explains nothing

01:21:42 It's superstition causality is superstition because it explains nothing, but we think it explains everything and it explains nothing

01:21:50 You

01:21:52 That explains nothing

01:21:57 Thank you for the tip I'm working for it tonight, I'll tell you that

01:22:04 Why are we so addicted to shit that strips us of free will self-esteem legitimate pride

01:22:18 And

01:22:20 Explains nothing. Why do we consider ourself rational and

01:22:23 Yet say that free will is caused by dominoes

01:22:29 How would you explain why you do this show

01:22:39 Okay, what's the explanation as to why I do this show

01:22:45 You

01:22:47 Status oh, yeah, it's all about the status, baby

01:22:55 Gave $15 to sub worth it. I'm very glad for that. Thank you

01:23:00 What's the explanation why do I do this show what's the explanation

01:23:10 Because I choose to now I feel every time you ask why it's a trap and more than a feeling yeah

01:23:17 Yes, it's true. The cover of that album is in fact a guitar not a spaceship

01:23:21 Causality superstition. Yep

01:23:25 You'll love a virtue and a 500-year plan

01:23:30 Lots of people love virtue. Lots of people have long-term plans

01:23:34 I mean the Chinese communist dictators have a 500-year plan, but they ain't doing a show like this

01:23:40 It fuels your soul. Nope

01:23:42 Why are we so addicted to causality

01:23:53 Now look at that this topic is causing people to leave or maybe they're coming back

01:23:59 That's fine. I

01:24:02 Am causing people to leave no, they're coming back. All right

01:24:05 So yeah, why are we so addicted?

01:24:09 To causality to excuses

01:24:12 It's all obsessed answer is because if you didn't we would not be here to ask and here it is. Yeah

01:24:19 Why why why why do we all go?

01:24:23 Straight to causality

01:24:37 Why is it so automatic why

01:24:39 30 seconds after you hear an argument a

01:24:41 Proof that there's no causality. Do you immediately rush to causality?

01:24:45 And we're just talking about anxiety management, right?

01:24:49 So we can be accepted among others so we don't look special like things are inevitable

01:25:05 So we're part of the group so-called so-called rationality

01:25:08 So people get mad at the causality not us more comfortable being a slave prison

01:25:13 It feels easier because causality absolve us of other responsibilities. It's the language spoken

01:25:17 excuses are perceived to save our status and avoid quote punishment chose to

01:25:22 Because we don't like consequences you guys so nice

01:25:29 Open wide for the black pill

01:25:35 Open wide I wish I wish it was a pill it could in fact just be a jagged little suppository

01:25:39 So we have an excuse no

01:25:48 We chose not to take responsibility for our choices nope to be humble nope

01:25:56 No one panics when everything goes according to plan yeah, I saw that movie too

01:26:04 You

01:26:06 Are you ready for your black pill? Oh, it's gonna hurt a little bit

01:26:12 Victimhood is a language of the field worker if people give themselves permissions to make bad decisions to excuse evil

01:26:32 I

01:26:34 Ran

01:26:38 I'll give you the shortcut in the shorthand so you don't fall for this trap again or this trick again

01:26:46 When you see and experience a universal human compulsion to falsehood it's because everyone who told the truth got fucking killed

01:26:59 You

01:27:01 Why

01:27:06 Are we addicted to causality?

01:27:08 because those who weren't addicted to causality and took

01:27:11 Responsibility for everything and gave responsibility to everyone for anything for everything got themselves killed

01:27:18 We are the leftovers of all the people who got killed

01:27:27 For accepting total responsibility and giving total responsibility

01:27:31 Great questions about child abuse and my call-in shows. Absolutely. I will I will get to those those are great questions

01:27:52 What did Jesus say Jesus said stop following rules and start following virtue and virtue is universal

01:27:58 And following rules is not the same as following virtue and

01:28:02 Of course, there was a lot of profit in the following of rules, right? There was the slaughtering of the lambs

01:28:09 there was the money changing at the temple there was all of the you got to get rid of all of the leave and bread because

01:28:13 the Jews had to flee because

01:28:15 I was so quickly from Egypt that their bread couldn't even rise right? There's a lot of money

01:28:21 But people being killed is also causality

01:28:24 Well

01:28:31 If you kill everyone with blue eyes there aren't people left with blue eyes unless there's a random mutation down the road

01:28:38 You

01:28:40 So the reason we're addicted to causality is because we're addicted to not being killed and

01:29:00 Or are ostracized or exiled or not made it with or whatever, right?

01:29:06 You

01:29:08 Who do you think slightly better at taking more responsibility men or women

01:29:19 You

01:29:35 Do you know what the ultimate mating cry from a man to a woman over the course of human evolution

01:29:41 Has been do you know what the fundamental mating cry is from men to women over the course of human evolution has been it's not

01:29:48 I love you. It's not you're sexy. It's not have my children

01:30:01 The fundamental mating cry from men to women

01:30:05 over the course of human evolution is

01:30:08 It's not your fault

01:30:11 Honey, it's not your fault

01:30:13 Yeah, he was a bad guy. Oh, it's not your fault

01:30:16 Not your fault you have all these men all these kids by all these different men. It's not your fault that you gained weight

01:30:22 It's the food pyramid. It's not your fault, honey. It's not your that's not you. It's not you. It's the system

01:30:27 It's the patriarchy. It's men. It's the people who forced you to take all of this student loan debt on it's not your fault

01:30:34 It's not your fault. You didn't save your old age. We should have government pensions. It's not your fault

01:30:38 You had children outside of wedlock. We need a welfare state. It's not your fault. It's not your fault. It's not your fault

01:30:54 Am I wrong am I wrong

01:30:57 Study show that all men will accept any fruit offered to them by a naked woman

01:31:09 We are responsible for what we value

01:31:13 How are you married Steph I chose to be

01:31:24 You

01:31:25 Yeah, Jared, how did that work?

01:31:27 We won't get into names and places here. But how did that work with that woman when you gave her accountability?

01:31:32 How did that work

01:31:36 Accountability responsibility even Adam blamed God instead of Eve or himself

01:31:42 So

01:31:52 Responsibility is

01:31:54 And listen, I'm not trying to blame all women here. Of course, right? There's lots of exceptions

01:31:59 I mean, I'm married to a wonderful woman who takes responsibility and my daughter takes responsibility

01:32:04 So this is you know, just a little bit of a tendency, right?

01:32:06 In my experience as someone giving women accountability causes explosive anger

01:32:17 You

01:32:19 Right

01:32:25 That was the end of the relationship, right?

01:32:27 Yeah, you said

01:32:30 You're responsible for the quality of the people in your life

01:32:44 And really that's because the effects of a woman's choices

01:32:47 Are quite quickly stripped away and I'm not blaming women. This is evolutionary as well, right? This is not women bad

01:32:53 This is not any kind of Eve thing, right?

01:32:55 so a man who chooses to have sex can just run away a woman who gets pregnant has

01:33:01 20 years of responsibilities, right so you can get mad at women and so on but women's life is more dominoes than men's life

01:33:13 So it's easier for a woman to feel like a victim does this make sense

01:33:19 It's easier for women women can be lied to women have to make reproductive decisions

01:33:27 evolutionarily speaking in their teens

01:33:30 They can be lied to they're at the whim of mercy fate chance male dedication male loyalty male resource provision and so on, right?

01:33:40 I mean, why is it that women were so keen on prohibition because the men that they married were

01:33:46 Taking their paycheck going to the bar and coming home with nothing

01:33:51 So this is no negative or you know, it's easy to get all women, right

01:34:01 You know that meme like women ends up in hospital because she finds out what accountability is or you know

01:34:05 Something like oh women like neo in the matrix doctoring buddhist dodging responsibility. No, no

01:34:09 I mean women's lives are more causal than men's as a whole

01:34:13 Well men do victimize more men can walk down a street in the dark easier men victimize more

01:34:21 What what do you mean men victimize more

01:34:26 Men victimized, do you know the percentage of men who are raising children who aren't even theirs?

01:34:37 You

01:34:39 What am I missing here, do you know the number of false accusations that men labor under

01:34:45 Do you know the reputation or destruction heaped upon men by women that those men displease? What do you mean men victimize more?

01:34:53 I don't understand. I'm

01:34:55 Happy to hear the case. I just I don't understand. Oh, well men are more violent and more aggressive

01:35:01 Well, yeah, but men are more violent and more aggressive because women chose to mate with more violent and more aggressive guys

01:35:06 You

01:35:08 I'm not afraid of women in the dark. I

01:35:13 Don't so

01:35:18 I'm not afraid of men attacking my reputation. So what you're just taking whatever right?

01:35:24 Rape rape goes both ways

01:35:28 Do you not know that men get raped as well and not just by other men but men get raped a lot as well

01:35:33 It's called forced to penetrate

01:35:34 Do you not know the number of women?

01:35:36 Who trap a man with pregnancy throughout history

01:35:41 No, no, you got to look up forced to penetrate men get raped a lot

01:35:48 Women also lie and say that they're on the pill when they're not women also lie and say they're infertile when they're not

01:35:55 So

01:36:00 men also

01:36:02 Women hit children more than men do

01:36:04 Right. So in terms of violence against the helpless women are far worse than men

01:36:09 Far worse than men women hit children substantially more than men do

01:36:14 Yeah, I don't I don't know what you oh

01:36:18 You have this like women are wonderful thing. Okay, fine. All right

01:36:22 Yeah, so you've had to say that women are wonderful so that you can get vain women in your life and blah blah blah blah

01:36:27 Right. I follow the facts. Right? I mean I try obviously as best I can I follow the facts

01:36:33 and I

01:36:35 Won't falsify things to crucify men because of the bullshit women are wonderful fantasy. I

01:36:42 Don't know how it's been in the past but there is a disturbing number of women preying on very young men these days

01:36:49 yes for sure

01:36:51 And there are more male pedos

01:36:54 How do you know because if who gets caught

01:37:00 Because who gets caught

01:37:02 Well

01:37:05 They're poking holes and condoms, yeah

01:37:09 Almost 50% of pregnancies were a quote accidents. Yeah

01:37:16 I mean it's like it's like saying it's like saying men murder more than women. How do you know? I

01:37:26 Mean men will be violent and obvious in their murders a lot more than women do but

01:37:31 Women murder men through poison through frustration through tension through stress through nagging through like they just wear down men completely

01:37:41 Oh my god, anyway, there's a whole other topic about male and female evil, which I've covered on the show a

01:37:52 bunch of times

01:37:54 The origins of war and child abuse was quite enlightening on these issues. Thanks for the audiobook Steph

01:37:58 I appreciate that but of course the real work was done by Lloyd DeMars the late Lloyd DeMars. So check out psycho history.com

01:38:04 But yeah, the men are bad and women are nice men are violent and women are more nurturing and peaceful and

01:38:13 Yeah, I mean it's uh

01:38:19 Yeah, I mean it's uh

01:38:21 I mean, that's that's so normie. I don't even know what to say. That's that's flat-earth territory

01:38:27 That's I mean, sorry. Sorry, like we're just we're way beyond that kind of stuff, right?

01:38:31 That's sort of silliness. I'm very dangerous silliness. I'm not calling you silly the person who's saying this I'm just saying that

01:38:38 More men kill people directly in war. Yeah, but who fights most wars? Yeah

01:38:45 And the reason that men kill people directly in war

01:38:47 Is because you need young people to fight wars and what happens if women get drafted?

01:38:53 Why are men not why are women generally not drafted

01:39:03 Somebody says I remember hearing that stat about women abusing children more than men

01:39:09 Do you think that's mostly due to women spending more time with young children? I

01:39:13 Don't care

01:39:15 It doesn't matter

01:39:19 Are you saying that

01:39:23 Women who just spend more time with children end up abusing them

01:39:26 Ah

01:39:37 Why yeah, whoops, I just got pregnant oh dear I am now big with child and I can't go and fight your war. Oh

01:39:44 I pulled a muscle lifting this 80-pound pack that I need to run for 20

01:39:49 20 miles. Oh, I can't lift this. Oh, I'm tense. Oh, I'm stressed. Oh, I have my period

01:39:54 oh, I have cramps and you know sympathy for all of this sort of stuff, but

01:39:57 And of course statistically right you can repopulate

01:40:01 With a lot of women and a few men, but you can't repopulate

01:40:05 With a lot of men and a few women

01:40:07 Elizabeth Holmes pulled it off. I don't know what that means. Oh, she got pregnant. No, but she ended up going to jail anyway

01:40:21 No, can can you say

01:40:26 Let me ask you this in

01:40:29 terms of oh, well women spend more time with

01:40:33 Kids and that's why they hit them or okay. Is there an excuse? Would you give this as an excuse that?

01:40:38 men beat up their wives more

01:40:42 Because they were home working from home during the pandemic and they just spent more time with their wives and that's why they beat them

01:40:47 Up more would you accept that as an excuse or a reason as to why it was somehow?

01:40:51 Okay, would you just well, okay men are beating up their wives more but come on man. There's this they're home with them more

01:40:57 Of course, they're gonna beat them up more

01:40:59 Right. Come on

01:41:02 Please I mean I understand I understand the drive to give women excuses and right but

01:41:09 You wouldn't give those excuses to men and I'm in I'm for the equality of men and women

01:41:17 When you have to send old men boys and women to fight you have no country left you cane is doing exactly that

01:41:24 Yeah, but didn't like half a million Ukrainian men flee the country

01:41:28 You

01:41:30 Why do some people refuse to ever acknowledge your accomplishments or congratulate you when you succeed my husband's female cousin is like this and I'm so

01:41:40 frustrated with it

01:41:42 Why do you have someone like that in your life

01:41:47 Yeah, well the female police officers are more likely to shoot yeah because they can't intimidate

01:41:54 Physically as much they're higher incidence of shooting among female officers for sure

01:41:58 So people refuse to acknowledge your accomplishments or congratulate you when you succeed because they're bitter with envy, right

01:42:08 It was illegal for a man over 18 to leave Ukraine for sure. Yeah, but they did drugs are illegal anyway

01:42:18 Stats showing kids raised by single dads turn out better than kids raised by single moms

01:42:25 Yes, unfortunately, that is that does seem to be the case and it's it's quite tragic

01:42:29 All right

01:42:34 Let's see here somebody said with respect to how people respond to their child abuse are you oversimplifying I

01:42:43 Really dislike it when people ask me rhetorical questions before they make the case as you know

01:42:49 There is a large body of evidence showing how childhood abuse changes the structure and development of the brain

01:42:54 One cannot escape biological changes that were imposed on them as children

01:42:58 The argument that they have free will is not necessarily applicable in many cases and the line is very hard to decipher in others

01:43:04 Well, I will certainly admit of course that people whose brains are physically damaged

01:43:16 Have less free choice

01:43:18 Yeah, absolutely as somebody who gets beaten so hard that they get physical brain damage and end up with an IQ of 50

01:43:24 Doesn't have much free will left. So I'm not sure what we're we're talking about there. Yes if there has been

01:43:29 Damage to the brain then that would diminish a free will. Thanks Chris. This has been a particularly valuable stream for me

01:43:39 Thank you. I appreciate that

01:43:41 So, yes

01:43:44 Childhood abuse does change the structure and development the brain as you know from my bomb in the brain series. Absolutely for sure

01:43:50 So

01:43:54 Does that mean that there's no free will for people if

01:44:00 There is no free will for some people that's a real tragedy, but then they're not in society

01:44:07 Yeah, like I'm talking to people in society, right? I'm talking people in society who have choice

01:44:11 So if somebody's been abused to the point where they have no functional choice

01:44:14 Then they're not

01:44:24 Recipients of a philosophy show right any more than you know people with no legs are not

01:44:28 The target audience for a dance studio, right?

01:44:32 So if people have had their brains damaged to the point where they don't have any free will then they're not

01:44:37 Part of this audience right because this is about free will

01:44:40 Whereas of course knowing that let and let's say let's say that

01:44:58 Knowing that you were abused as a child

01:45:02 Means that you're more susceptible to dysfunctional behaviors that knowledge should have you focus in the other direction. I

01:45:09 Mean the analogy I've used before which I'll keep brief is

01:45:13 If you find out that you have a family history of heart disease, then you will make sure you exercise appropriately

01:45:19 You don't gain weight you get your heart monitored and so that will maximize your chances of surviving and also you'll probably end up even

01:45:26 healthier, right

01:45:30 So we know that

01:45:32 Child abuse can lead to dysfunctional outcomes and therefore should we should work in the opposite direction

01:45:37 Based upon our own free

01:45:39 Well, you can choose to accept those things and say well

01:45:41 I might have a bit more of a temper or a lot more of a temper or would be a lot more

01:45:45 Impulsive because of my child abuse therefore I need read to need to really work on this stuff, right?

01:45:49 I mean you understand that maybe you've I don't know. Maybe you've never been coached in sports

01:45:55 I've been coached a lot in sports and what the coaches do

01:45:57 Do the coaches work on the stuff that just naturally you're great at know what are the coaches work on they?

01:46:03 Work on the stuff you're weakest in right?

01:46:06 So I've got a great backhand pretty good forehand, but my serve wasn't great

01:46:11 So I had coaches helped me a lot when I was playing tennis

01:46:13 semi competitively I had coaches helped me with my serve I

01:46:17 Didn't kick my legs enough when I was a competitive swimmer. And so I had coaches helped me with my kick, right?

01:46:25 My upper arms were strong and my stroke was good, but my kick was weak

01:46:29 So what did they do they focus on that which is the weakest right?

01:46:32 So knowing that there's susceptibilities you might have or weaknesses you might have to particular immoralities based upon child abuse

01:46:38 You would work to focus and dealing with those right again. I'm this is fairly obvious to me. I'm sorry that

01:46:44 I'm sorry if I'm sounding annoyed, but I'm it just seemed kind of obvious to me. All right, somebody says I'm a little lost

01:46:52 because a lot of your call-in shows involve significant assessment of how people's childhoods etc contribute to how they behave now and

01:46:59 Then understanding that helps people to change what they're doing

01:47:03 I'm probably missing something but what would you say is going on in those sorts of shows?

01:47:08 Are you talking about just a simple I do X because of Y how do we fit this in with trying to understand?

01:47:14 yourself, etc

01:47:17 Okay, I'm I understand that so that's a fine point and I appreciate you bringing that up

01:47:22 So when I ask people why do you do what they do?

01:47:29 Why do you do what you do right when I say what's your theory about why you do what you do?

01:47:34 What percentage of time do people have an answer that's bang on

01:47:45 Right from the call-in shows you've listened to when I say to someone why do you do why do you think you do what you?

01:47:50 Do or why do you think you are this way and they give me an answer? How often is that answer?

01:47:55 bang-on

01:47:58 You say 5% at best

01:48:11 You

01:48:13 I mean functionally at zero and

01:48:18 How do I know that?

01:48:20 Well, I mean if you if you go to the doctor with some physical problem and the doctor says have you fixed this already?

01:48:27 You would say no, of course. I haven't fixed it

01:48:29 If I'd fix that I wouldn't be here. And so when people are calling me up, it's because their

01:48:34 Understanding of causality is incorrect

01:48:40 Does that make sense because if they had a proper understanding of the

01:48:44 Cause and effect and I know I'm going back to cause and effect stuff here, right?

01:48:48 If they had an accurate understanding of

01:48:52 The role of free will in their life

01:48:56 They wouldn't be calling me

01:49:00 Does that make sense

01:49:09 You

01:49:11 I am the sum of my life experiences leading to my choices. What else would I have done?

01:49:18 Oh, it's some Jeff. Sometimes people say that or or stuff like that, right?

01:49:22 So I'm asking people why do you think you do what you do?

01:49:31 Because they have a story of causality

01:49:36 You

01:49:38 That is false

01:49:42 God I love this show gonna listen to this one a few times, right?

01:49:47 Oh, I'm really lifting the lid on the call-in Duke here. Do you care about the background mechanics of the call-in shows?

01:49:52 I'm really lifting the lid here. I don't want to mess up the magic so to speak, right?

01:49:57 But you know, we're here at the end of a show. So hit me with a why if you'd like to know these mechanics

01:50:02 You

01:50:04 Somebody says it's important to ask otherwise you need to know where they're coming from first

01:50:15 Otherwise anything you say a point out was not arbitrary and unrelated to them, right you're curious to see this. All right

01:50:23 So I asked people why they are the way they are and they say it's because of my child abuse, right

01:50:32 And what's the answer almost always at the end?

01:50:35 What's the answer if you listen to the one I just posted yesterday, you'll know that right

01:50:43 What is the answer at the end as to why they are the way they are?

01:50:48 Bethany says love it first show in a while. My brain has worked so hard, right?

01:50:58 You

01:51:00 Their choices, that's a bit general what choices

01:51:16 Okay, I'm gonna encapsulate every single call-in show you've ever heard why do you think you are the way you are

01:51:28 Because of X Y & Z no

01:51:30 Well, why then because you're lying

01:51:33 Because you choose to lie you choose to lie to yourself. You choose to lie to your parents

01:51:38 You choose to lie about your virtues because you're choosing to lie

01:51:41 Right so

01:51:47 You've taken the blame for what your parents do that's a lie

01:51:50 You say you'd be angry if you saw a child treated the way you were treated

01:51:55 But you don't get angry at your parents because you're lying you're falsifying your existence

01:51:58 You're choosing to lie

01:52:02 About what's actually going on with you because you're still frightened of your parents

01:52:06 Because the fundamental lie is you're still acting as if your parents have full complete power and control over you as an adult

01:52:13 You're lying even about being an adult

01:52:17 And pretending you're still a child

01:52:21 Still scared still conforming still falsifying still self-erasing as if you're still eight years old

01:52:28 The causality

01:52:40 It's the lying

01:52:42 And I'm not saying it's conscious. I'm not saying it, right?

01:52:44 Yeah, you've heard and don't don't you me like your abusive parents here when people right? It's lying

01:52:50 It's lying. It's always the same. I

01:52:53 Mean, I know it sounds different, but it's all this the same. Oh, I shouldn't have revealed this magic secret

01:53:00 I'm like Penn and Teller showing you what goes on

01:53:02 In the dovecage, but does this make sense?

01:53:06 And all the causality is just an excuse to lie

01:53:11 Don't fall for it James don't fall for the self-pity

01:53:21 Tempting don't do it. Don't do it

01:53:24 Don't do it

01:53:27 Am I wrong

01:53:37 Everyone's completely incorrect in their causality and what's my ultimate causality?

01:53:43 The truth once you have the truth

01:53:48 You escape causality because the truth is there is no causality

01:53:51 Yeah, you gave up your proprietary formula hopefully more people can use it in their own recipes

01:53:58 Yes, I'm really unlocking the coca-cola safe here, right?

01:54:02 Oh

01:54:17 I meant I talked to couples

01:54:18 I'm mad because my husband did this and my wife did that or this or that happened or we were stressed. No

01:54:23 Why are you unhappy?

01:54:26 Because you're turning your vows into a lie

01:54:30 Because you're breaking your promise because you're acting without integrity you promise to love honor obey respect, right

01:54:45 Hmm

01:54:47 Well, we're compelled to lie as children I get that we're compelled to lie as children can't tell the truth to teachers you

01:54:55 Parents your relatives you whoever you can't tell the truth to people I get that you're punished

01:55:00 And then it turns from a survival mechanism

01:55:08 To a narcotic self-erasure

01:55:14 You get used to lying you don't rail against it anymore you inhabit it you let it take you over and then the lies

01:55:20 Become the causality becomes the excuses becomes the paralysis

01:55:25 Steph how does your theory take into account unconscious biases?

01:55:31 The reason that biases remain unconscious is because you're lying about them

01:55:40 If you have a bias you need to be aware of it and you need to be honest about it doesn't mean you're right

01:55:45 But you need to be honest about it, right?

01:55:47 Jared bang on unconscious bias you mean chosen avoidance of self-knowledge. Yeah

01:55:54 Yeah for better or for worse not until boredom or annoyance to his part

01:55:58 Lying is a way to avoid negotiation very true

01:56:03 Very true. What about the bomb in the brain?

01:56:08 Why do you think I produced the bomb in the brain if it wasn't to warn people about what they need to look out for?

01:56:13 I

01:56:14 mean if you're hiking in a fucking mountain trail and it says

01:56:18 Bears and cougars are up here and you keep going and you get mauled by a bear and a cougar

01:56:25 Well, how could you've done the whole point is to give you a warning?

01:56:29 so you either go arms or you don't go at all or you go on a fast horse or you take a car or

01:56:34 right

01:56:38 Oh my god

01:56:40 Literally said most of this to me and my wife. Yeah, you've not had a blow-up since the call-in beautiful

01:56:45 You're keeping your word. You're not lying to each other anymore

01:56:48 Irritation with the spouse you promised to love is lying

01:56:52 Crazy and everyone's addicted to other things these days to replace the loss of integrity and pry

01:57:00 You

01:57:02 You want to know the most powerful statement in the world the most powerful statement in the world

01:57:16 Because of my childhood because of going bald

01:57:26 Because of being old because of the Internet

01:57:28 because if people were mean to me because people put me down because people don't listen because because because now

01:57:35 The most powerful statement in the whole wide world is because me

01:57:44 Because me

01:57:54 Why does the world's greatest philosophy conversation exist because me and because you

01:57:59 It's not because

01:58:02 because me

01:58:04 because I fucking willed it and

01:58:06 I wouldn't back the fuck down and I went for it

01:58:10 Why?

01:58:13 because me

01:58:15 Where are you in your life?

01:58:19 Because this that the other because no because you

01:58:23 Because you because me just say it every morning because me because me because I choose to

01:58:28 Now your choices should be reasoned and conditioned by facts and evidence and

01:58:33 Subjective virtue and all those good but because me

01:58:37 You see that's the most powerful thing as soon as you say something other than because me you've just diminished yourself

01:58:45 You're like sharpening a pencil until it takes your fucking fingers off

01:58:51 Oh, no stubbies

01:58:53 Because me

01:59:00 Why does my novels exist because me why does the show exist because me why do my nonfiction books exist because me why do my

01:59:08 interviews exist because me

01:59:10 Because me

01:59:19 strips you

01:59:21 Of the diminishing

01:59:24 Self erasers of reasons causes and excuses

01:59:29 Does this make I don't know if I'm making any sense. I hope I'm making some sense, but the because me

01:59:34 That's it now you get all that the pride because me right

01:59:48 You get all of the pride and

01:59:50 If you fuck up

01:59:52 As we all do right, you've heard me say this. This is nothing new

01:59:57 Why did I get D platform because me?

02:00:01 Because me I chose it I

02:00:05 Regret nothing

02:00:09 Why did I stop doing politics because me

02:00:13 Because

02:00:15 Me

02:00:17 Because me because you just say it because me because me why I am my own course

02:00:22 The course is me

02:00:25 What I choose what I will

02:00:28 How do you get earlier than that this makes perfect sense

02:00:33 Yeah

02:00:39 I

02:00:41 Mean you always hear these things, you know when some terrorist attract doesn't follow the narrative an

02:00:46 SUV drove into the right

02:00:49 The Christmas crowd or it's like no not the SUV. It's the individuals the person

02:00:56 Steph maybe I'm making a category error here

02:01:03 But how do we relate to the subconscious since by definition it is beyond conscious awareness

02:01:07 You say that we go mad in isolation surely because we need outside observers to provide us with insights. Oh

02:01:13 boy

02:01:16 I'm literally unfurling the entire fucking sky for you to fly around in and

02:01:23 You're stepping your toes on grains of sand. Holy shit, man. Spread your fucking wings

02:01:27 Sammy was low just watching the show. Come on, man

02:01:34 I'm literally unfurling the sky for you to fly around and wherever you want to go, but but

02:01:40 Are you immune from inspiration if so, that's fine if you're immune to inspiration, that's fine. I

02:01:53 Just think it's kind of sad. Come on. This is great stuff. This is powerful stuff. This is deep stuff

02:02:00 Well, I could be making a category error here

02:02:03 How come on isn't this tragic

02:02:08 This is some of the greatest stuff you're ever gonna hear I know I know it I know it

02:02:14 There's some of the greatest stuff you're in it, but you're like I gotta I gotta not listen. I gotta type out this nitpick

02:02:20 I could be listening but but but this is just anxiety. All right, there's not a real question. It's just anxiety

02:02:28 You don't like self-ownership. So you nitpick

02:02:32 And you don't even need to ask this question I

02:02:44 Resist answering it because it is such a distraction from the glories of the conversation and the liberation

02:02:52 How do we relate to the subconscious since by definition is beyond conscious awareness?

02:02:56 You

02:02:58 Don't fucking dream you don't have impulses you don't have thoughts that pop up in your head

02:03:03 You don't have hiccups and ripples that you need to examine if something is genuinely beyond conscious awareness

02:03:09 Then it's not part of philosophy

02:03:12 How do you map

02:03:17 Dimensions you can never travel to well, you don't geography is for that which exists

02:03:24 You

02:03:26 I could choose to be popular by standing for nothing or stand for cause even if I stand alone

02:03:33 I have only myself to thank or to blame

02:03:36 And the final thing I'll say here

02:03:44 You can't be loved at all really

02:03:53 if you have causes

02:03:55 Dominoes and excuses

02:03:59 Do you follow

02:04:03 You are loved for what you choose

02:04:09 The degree to which you diminish what you can choose by giving yourself bullshit causality is the degree to which you can't be loved

02:04:21 Let's say you like blue eyes, can I be loved for my blue eyes I cannot I

02:04:25 Admit they're sexy as hell and sometimes I drift off when I'm shaving I can't be loved

02:04:32 But my blue eyes because I didn't choose it

02:04:36 And if you're a good person, but you didn't really choose it you're just bouncing off your childhood you can't be loved for that

02:04:47 You don't exist if you have excuses just the sum of random events of the past you're an animal animals have excuses

02:04:53 That's why we don't put them in jail

02:04:55 Animals are nothing but excuses just hormones just impulse just reactions

02:05:01 Excuses puts you in the realm of the animal dominoes

02:05:10 Causation puts you in the realm of the animal

02:05:13 Can't love an animal

02:05:16 You

02:05:18 Okay, man error in not being arrested for work I will try to do better next time what else can I say

02:05:43 Love is in our involuntary response to virtue and excuses are not virtues. Yeah virtue is what you choose

02:05:48 that she was what you choose and

02:05:51 Not only can you not be loved you can't love anybody else because how do you know that your love is not just caused by

02:05:58 lust or

02:05:59 preference or habit or

02:06:01 edible complex or something

02:06:04 Because me

02:06:11 Because you

02:06:13 It's beautiful man, I

02:06:16 Mean I get it's alarming for a lot of people

02:06:18 Take away their excuses. They want to take away your life

02:06:22 Take away people's causality and they want to throw you off a cliff. I'll put you on a cross

02:06:41 You

02:06:43 I'm happy to miss a few Z's for the stream. This is some new ground. Thanks Jeff

02:06:58 So this makes sense

02:07:03 Because you don't give yourself any causality or any excuses

02:07:08 That's navigating by staring out the back of the car

02:07:10 Excuses are things you didn't choose. I

02:07:15 Refuse to be defined by things. I didn't choose. I didn't choose my fucking family. I didn't choose

02:07:20 The world we live in I didn't choose all the bullshit that's put into people's heads through propaganda. I'm not gonna be defined

02:07:27 By things I never chose

02:07:36 To be a victim

02:07:38 Is to be a child again

02:07:41 And who wants to remain a child forever I

02:07:48 Mean what same person wants to remain a child forever even if you had a happy childhood to be sad

02:07:54 You know when they say oh this person's 30, but they have the mental capacity of a 10 year old that's brain damage

02:08:01 Perpetual childhood is brain damage

02:08:05 You

02:08:07 Well, yes, you'll never go back there and reminding people of

02:08:19 Truth and virtue and honesty is horrible to them or to put it another way

02:08:24 all the people

02:08:26 Who pray on

02:08:29 The vulnerable never want the vulnerable to grow up right? They never want vulnerable people to grow up. I

02:08:34 Liked 26

02:08:38 The hell does that have to do with chances

02:08:41 Ah

02:08:46 Own everything

02:08:52 A life with no excuses a life because you

02:08:55 know causality

02:08:58 No limitations from the past

02:09:00 Steph did you not choose to be so wise that sounds like an excuse for yourself to be less wise. I

02:09:07 Don't know what that means. I know it's not an insult or anything. I just I don't really follow

02:09:12 Maybe it's a joke. I'm sure it's a joke, but

02:09:16 Cuz you

02:09:21 Why because you

02:09:25 Because I choose because I will because I want why

02:09:28 Everyone's gonna everyone always tries to get you to say why why are you doing these things?

02:09:32 Why do you want to talk about this? Why do you want to why do you bring up that subject? Why why why?

02:09:35 That's I want to but why do you want to

02:09:38 They're just trying to diminish you they're trying to kick you out of the seat of

02:09:43 Your own destiny take away the controls and give the blind robots of history and causality and circumstance

02:09:51 Let that take over

02:09:56 All causality is erasure

02:09:58 All causality is erasure

02:10:04 And people don't like to know how much of themselves they've erased which is why they oppose you taking and giving responsibility

02:10:12 All right

02:10:15 Makes sense any last tippy tips here at the end

02:10:18 This is tough for me. I have a massive excuse generator in my head. I needed to hear this bad

02:10:24 Everybody does man

02:10:26 Everybody does

02:10:28 Everybody does

02:10:31 Oh, yeah, I'd bring up controversial why do you want to talk about IQ I

02:10:35 Don't have to explain why

02:10:39 Everyone else is talking about disparities. I

02:10:41 Don't have to explain myself

02:10:44 Don't explain yourself. It erases yourself

02:10:46 Just asking yourself why help with self-knowledge

02:10:54 Sure

02:10:56 What's my theory as to why I am the way I am that can help you because causality limits your freedoms

02:11:04 Causality limits your freedoms once you find out the causality you can let it go

02:11:10 You can let it go. Why am I so interested in rationality?

02:11:14 Because my mother was anti-rational. Well, lots of people I knew grew up with anti-rational parents. They're not into rationality

02:11:20 In fact, it doesn't explain anything. Okay, so

02:11:23 My explanation is bullshit my explanation for myself is bullshit and you just keep peeling back these layers

02:11:31 Until you come to because me

02:11:34 Because me

02:11:38 And that's it then you're at the bottom then you're at the core and then you got a 360 view you can go anywhere and do

02:11:45 Anything that's moral

02:11:49 Strip away all of the reasons all of the causality. That's all childhood ship

02:11:53 Why?

02:11:55 Did I live on the street? I left when I was a kid because my parents my mother lived there and I had to live

02:12:01 With her. Yes, that's causality causality is for childhood

02:12:04 adulthood is because me

02:12:07 Sometimes I wish I smoked

02:12:18 How does this fit with making it easier to make the right choices

02:12:21 Like if you always eat too much of a certain food if it's in the house

02:12:24 choosing to keep it in the house or an alcoholic tune turning down invitation to the bar as this

02:12:30 Taking a personal responsibility by choosing to change the environment

02:12:34 Stop at the static

02:12:43 Return to the absorption

02:12:47 I've just given you guys a beautiful view and a few of you are looking for dust motes on the glass

02:12:53 Just take in the view man

02:12:56 Liberate yourself from inconsequential details

02:13:03 Sometimes just take in the big beautiful view

02:13:10 I'd hand you a cigar if I could beautiful. Oh, thank you. Chris. I appreciate that

02:13:17 You

02:13:19 God I hate cigars. I tried to one or two in my life is like so basically I'm

02:13:27 Giving a blowjob to a BMW exhaust mechanism. Yeah, I

02:13:31 Mean we've all been there. Haven't we? What is it the?

02:13:34 BMW what is this strange blinking thing on my - it's called a turn signal never used it before

02:13:43 All right. Have a beautiful evening everyone. Thank you so much for the honor and privilege of having these conversations

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02:14:11 I'm sweating. I'm sweating. I'll tell you that chocolate cigarettes. Oh

02:14:14 Yeah, there used to be these Popeye cigarettes now

02:14:17 They can't even call them that anymore used to have those when I was a kid from time to time

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