"Gusto ko bang magka-boyfriend? Or I just wanna be alone?"
Aminado si Ashley Ortega, isa sa stars ng upcoming GMA war drama na 'Pulang Araw' kasama sina Barbie Forteza at David Licauco, na minsa'y nalulungkot pa rin siya kapag nag-iisa. Ngayon nasa single era na si Ashley, ano kaya ang nagpapasaya sa kaniyang life?
Aminado si Ashley Ortega, isa sa stars ng upcoming GMA war drama na 'Pulang Araw' kasama sina Barbie Forteza at David Licauco, na minsa'y nalulungkot pa rin siya kapag nag-iisa. Ngayon nasa single era na si Ashley, ano kaya ang nagpapasaya sa kaniyang life?
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00:00 How's your heart?
00:02 My heart? My heart is so full and I'm happy but I'm still single.
00:08 Oh.
00:09 I'm still single but I'm enjoying my single era and I feel like I can't see myself in a relationship with someone.
00:22 It was a tough year for me.
00:24 I cried a lot. I don't want to pretend that I don't want to feel this.
00:30 I would allow myself to feel it so I can release it.
00:33 I think that's where I healed.
00:35 I don't need a guy in my life.
00:37 I am happy. I am happy. I'm at peace.
00:40 I'm really blessed. Super blessed.
00:48 Updaters, it's so hot. But we'll cool it down because our next guest is a mixture of hot and cold.
01:00 She is the hottest ice queen I know.
01:05 Let's welcome my friend, Ashley Ortega.
01:09 Hello! Hello everybody. I am back. Thank you.
01:14 Yes, you're back.
01:16 Ashley, okay. You said that you're back.
01:21 It's been a year since we last talked here on Updated.
01:27 I remember my last interview with you here.
01:30 I was promoting Hearts on Ice.
01:33 Wait a minute. I'll just go back, Ashley. If I may.
01:37 Last year when I interviewed you, you were moving on from that relationship.
01:46 How's your heart now?
01:49 My heart is so full and I'm happy.
01:53 But I'm still single.
01:55 I'm still single but I'm enjoying my single era.
02:01 I feel like I can't see myself in a relationship with someone because I have so much on my plate right now.
02:12 I'm focusing on my new teleserye.
02:16 We launched Sparkle 10 Girls.
02:20 I'm happy. I'm contented.
02:25 But of course, I'm not closing my doors. If someone comes to me, I feel like I have potential.
02:31 I will embrace it.
02:34 But for now, I don't.
02:37 Do you go out on dates?
02:40 I do. Actually, yes.
02:42 I've been single for a year and a half.
02:46 I do go out and hang out with guys to get to know them.
02:51 But that's it. I always tell them that this is a casual hangout.
02:58 I just really want to explore and get to know a lot of people.
03:03 I'm at that stage.
03:05 You're saying that upfront?
03:08 Yes, upfront. So that there are no expectations.
03:12 So that they won't be hopeful about me.
03:16 I don't know if it works out together.
03:21 I can feel it when there's a spark.
03:24 I don't feel anything.
03:27 Nothing yet?
03:29 You can't force it.
03:33 I want it to be natural.
03:36 I want it to be okay.
03:38 Actually, I get to vibe with everybody.
03:41 But maybe because that's not my priority.
03:45 I'm not looking for love.
03:48 Maybe that's why.
03:50 But if I have more than three dates,
03:54 I'll tell them, "Let's just see where this goes.
03:57 You can't expect anything from me.
04:00 Let's just enjoy each other's company."
04:03 I'm busy with work. That's my priority.
04:06 If they're willing to wait, they'll wait.
04:10 I won't force it.
04:13 It's good that you're with them when you're busy.
04:17 Sometimes, I'm not going to deny it.
04:20 I do get lonely and bored.
04:22 I want to go out.
04:23 But recently, I've been with my girlfriends.
04:27 Shuby, Roxy, Sky.
04:29 We're always together.
04:31 I'm happy with them.
04:33 I'm okay even if I'm single.
04:35 Because you're all so busy.
04:37 You're there when I need you.
04:39 I really love them and I appreciate them.
04:42 You said you don't have a significant other.
04:48 Now is your time to enjoy with friends.
04:53 Because if you have a boyfriend,
04:56 you're focused on him.
04:58 That's true.
05:01 I'm really enjoying my time with myself,
05:05 with friends, with family.
05:07 It's okay.
05:08 If there's a right time,
05:12 it's good for me.
05:15 But if not, I won't stop.
05:17 Especially now that there are so many plans for me
05:22 this year in my career.
05:23 I'm super excited.
05:24 I noticed that you've been resting.
05:27 Did you become choosy in your roles
05:29 after you did Hearts on Ice?
05:32 I didn't become choosy.
05:35 Yes, I did rest and travel.
05:38 But I said, "This is the next thing I want to do."
05:43 You know how the lines are so hard?
05:46 So, in Pulang Araw,
05:49 when they told me about that project,
05:51 I immediately agreed.
05:52 Because it's a beautiful project,
05:54 it's a beautiful role.
05:56 I didn't become choosy.
05:58 Your role in Pulang Araw is really challenging.
06:02 We saw it in Comfort Women's Home.
06:07 It's really challenging.
06:09 You really cried in your research.
06:13 Yes, I also need to balance my role.
06:18 Because it's challenging to be a Comfort Woman.
06:21 But at the same time,
06:22 I'm also the bad one there.
06:24 So, I need to balance how to do that.
06:27 The pitiful, bad one.
06:31 Because you're a victim of the situation.
06:34 Yes, exactly.
06:36 And I'm doing this role for them.
06:41 For all the Comfort Women.
06:43 Because you were there and we heard everything.
06:47 I want to do this to my role.
06:50 Ash, you said earlier that you didn't become choosy,
06:53 but you rested.
06:54 And you focused on self-love.
06:57 You traveled.
06:59 Tell us about it.
07:00 Yes, I traveled.
07:02 But it was only here in Asia.
07:05 I traveled with my friends,
07:07 with my best friend,
07:08 with a family member.
07:10 It was fun because
07:12 there was no diet, no KJ.
07:15 When I'm here,
07:17 I would spend time with my friends.
07:19 Also, Roxy, Sky, Shuby.
07:24 I think that's where I healed.
07:27 I realized that I don't need a guy in my life.
07:30 I am happy.
07:32 I am at peace.
07:33 I'm really blessed.
07:35 Super blessed.
07:36 I'm also excited because
07:38 As If It's True will be released on Netflix.
07:41 The movie I did last year for Cinemalaya
07:44 will be on Netflix.
07:46 I'm so happy and really contented in life.
07:51 You said that it's fun
07:54 to focus on self-love and friends.
07:58 You don't need to find a significant other.
08:02 You can find love in your friends.
08:06 They can fill up the gaps
08:10 that other people think you don't have.
08:14 Yes, that's true.
08:16 And of course, I also learned how to enjoy my own company.
08:19 Of course, my friends are not there 24/7.
08:22 I don't want to be a needy friend or a needy person.
08:25 I've been living alone.
08:28 I learned how to enjoy my own company.
08:31 I just stay at home.
08:33 Before, I always had to go out.
08:36 But now, at least I can just sit back and relax with my dog.
08:40 Just enjoy my own company.
08:42 I don't need to call my friends.
08:44 I can just be myself.
08:48 That's so nice.
08:50 You have the house all to yourself.
08:53 You don't need to take a bath.
08:57 Yes, oh my gosh.
08:59 That's true.
09:02 Your house, your rules.
09:04 You don't need to be bothered.
09:06 True.
09:07 You don't need to be bothered.
09:09 But yourself, if you're hungry, eat.
09:11 If you don't want to eat, don't eat.
09:13 I know.
09:14 If you want to wake up late, you'll wake up late.
09:17 That's so nice.
09:20 You're imparting so much to me about self-love.
09:25 I'm sure a lot of people can relate to that.
09:28 You said earlier that you're into being alone.
09:34 You're enjoying your condo.
09:37 They also said that when you turn 25, you'll have a quarter-life crisis.
09:42 Do you experience that?
09:44 Or do you just get stuck in that?
09:47 I think there was a time when I thought about what's next.
09:54 What will I do next?
09:56 Especially now or earlier?
09:59 I think this was maybe last year.
10:03 The Bermond's.
10:05 What will I do next?
10:08 I was on break.
10:11 It wasn't a big deal to me.
10:15 I've been through a lot.
10:18 I'm always out and about.
10:19 But I asked myself, "What do I really want?"
10:23 "Do I want to have a boyfriend?"
10:25 "Or do I just want to be alone?"
10:28 "Or maybe because I can't choose?"
10:31 I asked that to myself.
10:33 I answered that if I wanted to have a boyfriend, I think I could get one.
10:39 You could.
10:40 I could, but it's my choice to not be in a relationship with someone.
10:48 I enjoy my time.
10:51 I enjoy being single.
10:53 I just want to explore and meet a lot of people.
10:56 I don't want to think about it.
10:58 If I have a boyfriend, I'll have to say goodbye.
11:02 I don't want that.
11:04 You're still a different person.
11:06 One thing I've realized about living with somebody, even if you say you love them,
11:11 you're still an individual.
11:12 You're still different.
11:14 You'll adjust.
11:17 That's true.
11:19 I'm not there yet.
11:21 But I think that's the only question I asked myself.
11:26 Career-wise, I'm super blessed and super grateful that
11:31 there are so many plans for my career.
11:36 I'm really happy for that.
11:38 I'm more happy for myself.
11:40 What do you want for yourself?
11:42 Those are the questions I ask myself.
11:45 But I think I'm okay now.
11:49 I'm really, really happy.
11:51 While you're telling your story,
11:53 I cannot help but think that in my younger years,
11:58 I went through something.
12:01 I call it "sadness pangs" as opposed to "hunger pangs."
12:07 This is sadness pangs.
12:10 How do you get out of it?
12:12 Because you don't have a boyfriend.
12:15 You enjoy company with your friends.
12:17 You're alone at home.
12:19 Sometimes it hits you.
12:21 "Why am I sad today?"
12:24 I do feel that when I'm lonely.
12:27 When I'm alone, I just drink a glass of wine.
12:33 So you enjoy--
12:35 "Oh, wait. I'll drink with myself."
12:38 Yes. I'll just play good music.
12:42 I love music.
12:44 So when I listen to--
12:46 Actually, I allow myself to feel sad.
12:48 When I feel sad at night, I'll cry.
12:51 It's not nice to pretend that I don't want to feel sad.
12:56 I allow myself to feel it so I can release it.
12:59 And then after, I feel better.
13:01 So while I'm doing it,
13:03 "Tonight is the night I'm going to have a mental breakdown."
13:06 I'm going to allow myself to feel it.
13:08 And then after that, I'll wake up and I'll be okay.
13:11 Of course, there are days when you feel lonely, you feel sad.
13:16 Is it okay to be dramatic?
13:18 Yes. I really let it out.
13:21 But it makes me feel better the next day.
13:25 I just think, "I'm acting again last night."
13:30 That's it. The morning after, you'll realize that you were dramatic last night.
13:36 Yes, I was dramatic last night.
13:38 But I'm only human.
13:40 Of course, we feel those loneliness and sadness.
13:44 And it's okay to feel things also.
13:47 So I allow myself to feel it.
13:49 Because the more I allow myself to feel it,
13:51 the more it will build up inside.
13:54 You'll just explode one day.
13:56 I don't want that to happen to me.
13:58 If I feel sad, I'm going to allow myself to feel sad.
14:01 And then after a while, I'll go back to normal life.
14:05 You know what's weird? I'll impart it to you.
14:08 I know what you're going through now.
14:10 It's a happy phase.
14:12 You'll realize that you cry at different things now
14:20 compared to the things that you used to cry about two years ago.
14:25 Right?
14:26 You cry more in movies now than in real life.
14:30 That's true. That is so true.
14:33 And what I used to cry about, I just laughed about it now.
14:36 Exactly. Right?
14:39 Yes. Yes.
14:41 So, yeah.
14:42 Yes, it's different. It's true.
14:44 The reasons why I cry are different.
14:47 But last year, I think it was a good year for me.
14:54 I was lucky in my career.
14:55 But also, it was a tough year for me.
14:58 I cried a lot.
15:00 But in the last few months, last year, I was really happy.
15:04 I don't cry that much anymore.
15:08 I just laugh and smile.
15:12 You know?
15:13 And I'm grateful for that.
15:15 Because of the people around me.
15:16 They say that laughter is the best medicine.
15:19 That's not true. It's evolved.
15:21 Self-love is the best medicine.
15:25 That is so true.
15:27 That's true.
15:28 Because who would love you if you don't love yourself?
15:32 True.
15:33 You know, the updaters who are listening to us now,
15:36 there are a lot of things that will be taken away from what you said.
15:39 Number one, you don't need to have a boyfriend if the timing is not right.
15:44 Right?
15:45 And two, even if you don't have a boyfriend, you can still be happy.
15:49 Yes, that is so true.
15:51 Just have to hang out with the right people.
15:54 Yes, that is so true.
15:55 Right people, right crowd, healthy environment.
15:59 Or if you're on a trip, not to hang out with the right people,
16:04 hang out with yourself.
16:06 Yeah, that's true.
16:08 Actually, I was able to hang out with the wrong people.
16:12 I don't want to say that they're bad people.
16:14 But it's also nice to witness it, to experience it.
16:18 So you know the people you will avoid in life.
16:22 What's your red flag?
16:23 Red flag?
16:25 In general?
16:27 Maybe...
16:28 Like, "Ah, this is not the crowd for me."
16:31 Or "This is not the person I will hang around with."
16:36 Maybe...
16:39 The...
16:42 The plastic, the wearing...
16:45 The skinny person in front of you.
16:48 Like...
16:49 Oh, yes.
16:51 But when you're around, you hear a lot of things about you.
16:56 So I think those are my red flags.
17:00 If you don't like me, don't talk to me. It's fine.
17:03 But if you don't like me, but you're still gonna...
17:06 When you see me, you'll be like, "Ah, how are you?"
17:08 Like that, right?
17:09 Like plastic.
17:11 So I...
17:13 Maybe the red flag is people who's not genuine.
17:17 Yes.
17:18 What else is there?
17:19 Be your authentic self now.
17:22 Yes.
17:23 You know, it's also nice that it's now a trend
17:25 that if you're someone, you're that.
17:27 A lot of people are really...
17:30 They're showing what they really are.
17:32 Which is a good thing also.
17:34 But there are also people who are not like that.
17:38 So avoid that.
17:40 Ashley.
17:41 Yes?
17:42 There's a question.
17:43 When do you feel the sexiest?
17:46 When do I feel the sexiest?
17:49 Hmm...
17:51 Maybe after taking a shower.
17:55 Because I feel so clean and fresh.
17:58 Yes.
17:59 Why?
18:00 Or when I smile.
18:03 When I smile, when I laugh.
18:06 So that's your sexy part.
18:09 Your smile.
18:11 My smile when I laugh.
18:13 When I'm confident with myself.
18:17 So that's it.
18:18 Why do I look arrogant?
18:20 I'm just like that.
18:21 Just confidence as it is.
18:23 Yes.
18:24 Confidently beautiful with a heart.
18:26 Yeah. And I feel like...
18:27 Why not?
18:28 No.
18:29 You don't have to wear a sexy dress to be sexy.
18:33 But of course, I also feel sexy when I'm clean.
18:37 Because I like rituals in my body.
18:40 So after taking a shower, I feel fresh.
18:43 Yes.
18:44 That's good.
18:46 What's your love language?
18:48 My love language?
18:50 Actually, I'm a physical touch.
18:55 I don't have a boyfriend now.
18:57 For my friends, I love hugging them, kissing them.
19:01 My dog also.
19:03 And maybe giving gifts.
19:07 But not like...
19:08 You're giving gifts.
19:09 It's more of...
19:11 I always plan ahead.
19:14 So when we plan, I really love spending money on good food, good drinks
19:21 when I'm with good company, with my friends.
19:24 Yes. Why not?
19:27 As long as it's good food and good company, I'm okay with that.
19:32 You can get your money back, but the memories are super worth it.
19:37 So I think that's my love language.
19:40 And words of affirmation.
19:43 I think...
19:45 I'm basing this on my friends right now because I don't have a boyfriend.
19:50 But yeah, my advice is...
19:53 They listen to me.
19:56 A good talk, right?
19:58 I always share my experience.
19:59 And if they're going through something, I'll tell them, "Girl, I'm just a phone call away.
20:02 Don't worry, I won't talk to you.
20:04 If you're going through something, I'm just here.
20:06 I won't judge you."
20:08 So I would always talk to them if they're going through something.
20:13 I do have a group chat with different groups of people.
20:17 I'm always active in the group chat.
20:21 You're the one who's always up to something.
20:27 They said, "Ash, you're so active right now.
20:30 You reply so fast."
20:32 I said, "Hey, I have a lot of time right now."
20:37 "Why?"
20:38 "I have a lot of time."
20:39 I said, "You should be happy.
20:41 I'm spending my time with you, not with others."
20:45 Yeah, compared to other people who are mean.
20:48 Ash!
20:54 Before I let you go, I'm going to turn the tables around.
20:58 We have a segment, right?
21:00 Ask Nelson.
21:01 I don't know if you're prepared for this, but you can ask me one question.
21:06 What's happening with your love life?
21:10 You know, okay.
21:12 I will not say it's stagnant.
21:16 I mean, we've been together 10 years this year.
21:23 We celebrated our 60th year of marriage last Feb 21.
21:30 And, you know, plain is good.
21:36 You know, steady is good.
21:39 Once you reach a certain age, you'll find that steady is good.
21:44 Yeah, no more rollercoaster.
21:47 No more rollercoaster.
21:49 I mean, there are still times.
21:51 Because, of course, just like a heartbeat, there are times like that.
21:54 But it's not always like that.
21:56 Okay.
21:57 Because it's tiring.
21:59 So, my heart is very okay.
22:02 I'm, uh, it's where it's supposed to be.
22:07 Aww.
22:08 There.
22:09 And I hope it stays that way because I'm getting older.
22:13 And I'm enjoying what we have, what I have.
22:19 That's why, just like you said, self-love is important.
22:24 I'm focusing more on that.
22:28 That's nice.
22:29 That's nice.
22:30 Yes, self-love is the key.
22:32 Ash, I hope to see you one of these days.
22:34 Aww, me also.
22:36 We'll see each other.
22:37 Yes, yes.
22:38 Okay, okay.
22:39 Anyway, Ash, I'll see you one of these days.
22:41 Thank you.
22:42 Thank you for guesting again.
22:44 I love you.
22:45 Thank you.
22:46 I love you.
22:47 [Music]