Vanessa Vega on Growing Up In A Catholic School & Losing Her V Card At An Early Age interview / Podcast
Vanessa Vega on Growing Up In A Catholic School & Losing Her V Card At An Early Age interview / Podcast
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00:00So I'm like chewing E and P E class and like doing like weed cookies and like I
00:06I started out as a really good kid because I went to like Catholic school.
00:09But then I very abruptly got moved into public school and I like turned into a goth kid.
00:14What happened? Your parents lost all their money or something?
00:16No, they got divorced. And I think, I think probably money had something to do with it.
00:21It was never discussed with me.
00:23Wow.
00:24But going from like you can't wear lip gloss to like people are doing cocaine in the bathroom.
00:30Oh my god. What the fuck?
00:31It's like a pretty big fucking jump.
00:33So I went to, I went to a few different schools and I skipped around a bunch.
00:38And then I ended up at another school and I got kicked out because I was like,
00:43I brought weed to school and I got arrested when I was like 12.
00:47And then I brought weed to school and I got arrested again when I was like 12.
00:51So then I got kicked out of school. I had to go to continuation school.
00:54And I had to go to school from another district, which is how I ended up at that school that we can't say.
00:58Why were you bringing weed to school so much?
01:00And why were you getting arrested?
01:01And why were you getting caught?
01:03I smoked it at lunchtime during the bungalows.
01:05Oh.
01:06I was trying to be cool. So that's how I got caught.
01:08They have bungalows at your high school like they have at the club?
01:11Yeah, it's like, it's like those shady like trailer up on.
01:15They're like added classes on the side.
01:17It's not as fancy as I'm imagining it.
01:19It's not fancy at all. There's like a ramp and it's just.
01:22AC running.
01:24Yeah, it's not, it's not fancy.
01:26And then the second time I had just, it was like my first girlfriend and she like wanted me to bring alcohol to school.
01:31And I didn't, swear to God, I didn't drink any of it.
01:34But because she got caught with it and I brought it, I was the one that got in trouble.
01:37She snitched on you?
01:39Did you guys break up over that?
01:41100%. And then she like tried to like fight me over it.
01:43It was like a whole, it was a whole thing.
01:45I had to get like escorted to my continuation school. It was like drama.
01:48Did you think that if you stayed in the Catholic school, any of this would have happened to you?
01:51No, and I wanted to stay.
01:53So it's their fault. I mean, you said that.
01:56But you went God, you embraced it.
01:58Like was that, was, was you becoming God kind of like a manifestation of how lost and how different you felt at this time in your life?
02:04Me coming to God?
02:06No, goth.
02:08Was God part of it?
02:10Maybe, I guess. I guess it was just kind of like, it was the first time that I feel like I was able to think for myself.
02:16I was told what to do every fucking second of my life until then.
02:19So, yeah, even just being able to wear what I want was like such a freedom because I had to wear a fucking like blue plaid uniform every day.
02:27So you just completely rebelled, did the stereotypical thing like, I'm going to do whatever terrifies my parents the most.
02:32Also, like, I don't know if you guys watched Degrassi, but I was like super into Degrassi.
02:35And like Ellie was like my girl.
02:38So I really wanted to be like Ellie.
02:40There was a goth girl on that show?
02:41Yeah.
02:42Every, every high school show has got to have the goth girl.
02:45So after that, then I moved into another school.
02:47I'm in high school now.
02:49And E was like huge ecstasy, like huge.
02:53So I'm like chewing E in PE class and like doing like weed cookies.
02:58And like, I was like a TA for the basketball coach.
03:01So like they knew the security guards.
03:03So like if I got like too fucked up, they'd be like, yo, like you need to go walk home.
03:07Like at that time of my life, it's funny because I feel like my parents felt like I was very sheltered.
03:13Because I never went to a party.
03:14Like I was always at home.
03:16You were partying at school though?
03:17I was partying at school.
03:18Or like they wouldn't get home until five.
03:19So I'm like snorting E like by myself, like whatever.
03:23So.
03:24A lot of kids I know from LA have a story about them doing ecstasy in high school.
03:29Ecstasy was huge.
03:30No, it was.
03:31I know about the kids in my photo lab at my high school doing E during photo lab.
03:35But like I was just never a participant in it.
03:37But like you are the person who's participating.
03:39And I'm just fascinated because I was, I was such a rule follower.
03:42And I was just so scared of getting caught or doing anything outside of the lines.
03:46But you were down.
03:47I think it was like at that point I already got arrested.
03:49So it was like, what's the worst that could happen?
03:51Yeah.
03:52Like as a kid, it's like you're not going to end up in like.
03:54And then the school administrators and the security guards like had your back?
03:58Like.
03:59At that point in high school, it was like they didn't want to give a fuck.
04:02Wow.
04:03I've never gotten in trouble at that school.
04:04They weren't enabling you.
04:05That's kind of fucked up.
04:06And so I'm imagining that this is where the part of your life where you're sucking a bunch
04:10of random dicks might have began.
04:11But you said you had a girlfriend?
04:12No.
04:13Okay.
04:14So I lost my virginity.
04:15Can I give specific age?
04:16I know sometimes it's.
04:17Okay.
04:18I lost my virginity when I was 12.
04:19And then my first like real relationship was with a girl.
04:21That girl.
04:22Fuck you.
04:23Fuck you.
04:24I loved you.
04:25That snitch.
04:26Six nine.
04:27So it's funny because everyone thought I was like a whore in school.
04:30Like people would like throw shit at me and be like, you suck my friend's dick.
04:33Like people were like fucking cruel to me in high school.
04:36Like it was fucked up.
04:37You just had that vibe, but they were just assuming.
04:39I don't want to toot my own horn, but I was cute and I was smart.
04:43I'm honors classes and I'm not fucking anyone.
04:46So it was like naturally I feel like, oh yeah, she's like having a gang bang at the party
04:51that I never went to.
04:52You know what I'm saying?
04:53I just feel like.
04:54That's what people wanted to say about you because they couldn't say anything bad.
04:56Like they needed something.
04:57Okay.
04:58Yeah.
04:59They needed something.
05:00I see what you're saying.
05:01You were in honors classes while taking ecstasy pills in gym class.
05:02That's impressive.
05:03Yeah.
05:04Do you feel like you deserved it?
05:05Cause like I'm such a good student.
05:06I'm not allowed to do drugs.
05:07It seemed like it was easy and I was just like, because I couldn't, I didn't really
05:11have friends outside of school cause I wasn't allowed to go anywhere.
05:13It was like my way of getting a reputation.
05:17Okay.
05:18Yeah.
05:19So you're doing it for the attention.
05:20Not like, because really like the drugs.
05:21I don't know.
05:22I did enjoy it.
05:23Yeah.
05:24To be completely honest with you.
05:25It was fun.
05:26It was fun.
05:27I'm picturing myself just on an e-pill looking at a math problem on a piece of paper.
05:31No, no, no.
05:32It's like 80 different math problems at once.
05:34I was laying on the floor outside of the math bungalow.
05:38I remember I'm just like, my friend walked out and she's like, you need to get the
05:42fuck out of here.
05:44Like it, the timing happened really well.
05:47Um, but then moving, can I move past high school?
05:50So I never took the AP classes like the tests at the end of it because I knew I wasn't
05:55going to college.
05:56I just knew like it wasn't going to fucking happen.
05:58And so I started waitressing in a Mexican restaurant and I made like $300 every two
06:04weeks, like barely making fucking shit.
06:07And I was eating like, it's embarrassing.
06:10Like I'd go to like the dollar store and like get the two for one, like cans of soup.
06:14And like, that was what I would fucking eat.
06:16And so I remember I was dating this dude and he wanted me to move with him to Arizona,
06:22but I didn't have a car cause I just got in a car accident and my car was total.
06:25And so I was like looking for like the second job so I could like get a car and move with
06:30him.
06:31And I saw on Craigslist, it said LAX bikini waitress positions.
06:35And I was like, I could fucking do that.
06:38And so me being 18, 19 years old, I didn't like Google and see where it was.
06:43And I walk in and there's a naked woman and I'm like, go to turn.
06:47But the guy's like, Hey, are you here for the interview?
06:49And I'm like, okay.
06:50So they like take me into a VIP booth.
06:52I'd never been in a strip club.
06:54Take me to VIP booth.
06:55And they're like, okay, like talk to me about being a stripper.
06:57And I was like, I wanted to be a waitress.
06:59And they're like, oh, well, we don't have waitressing positions here.
07:01And I'm like, so I told him, no, I go home three weeks later, still no job.
07:07And so I call them back and they were like, okay, well, you can start at our other location
07:10as a waitress.
07:11Other location, the shittiest place that you've ever seen in your fucking life.
07:16The middle of goddamn nowhere.
07:18People are getting fucked in the ass in like, it was bad.
07:24In the club?
07:25In the club.
07:26Wow.
07:27Like it was one of those ones where like, there's like a curtain.
07:31So you have to like check before you go into the dance room and asshole.
07:35Okay.
07:36Like people were like trying to fucking fight me.
07:38Like it was like a whole fucking thing.
07:40How long did you stay there?
07:41Like two months.
07:42So the first night I worked there, I made a hundred dollars.
07:45And I was like.
07:46Compared to the Mexican restaurant.
07:49Three dollars in two weeks, a hundred dollars in a fucking night.
07:52Are you joking me?
07:53And so I had already had like a dance background and like hula dancing and like ballet.
07:58So everyone like naturally they're like, when are you going to go on stage?
08:02When are you going to go on stage?
08:03Because you were just walking around.
08:04I'm just a waitress.
08:05They knew if they could get you to be a waitress that you're going to start stripping.
08:09Now like hindsight 2020, they were grooming me into getting into it.
08:14And so I finally go on stage.
08:17I'm talking shit because it's this girl going like this.
08:21You know the girl I'm talking about on stage.
08:23She just fucking walk around with like a bitch face.
08:25Like a bull.
08:27And I'm like talking to my manager.
08:28I'm like this girl.
08:29What the fuck?
08:30They're not even dancing.
08:31He goes go on stage and do it then.
08:32And I was like, he slides me a hundred dollars and I'm like, okay, I'm going.
08:36He slides me another hundred dollars.
08:37I'm like, okay.
08:38The guy that had like been wanting me to go.
08:40He's like, you're going on stage.
08:42I'm like, yeah.
08:43And he's like, okay, okay.
08:44I go on stage.
08:46He throws a thousand dollars on in $1 bills.
08:49And I was like, this is literal heaven.
08:52And so I quit waitressing.
08:53I quit my other waitressing job.
08:55My boyfriend broke up with me because he found out.
08:58And after that, it was like, I'm flying here.
09:00And I, I got a trailer and I like was traveling.
09:03I went all through the South.
09:05I danced in like 13 different States and like spent like a month in Florida.
09:09I spent a month in Texas, went up to Pennsylvania and like did that for a long time.
09:14Normally I think stripping sounds kind of depressing, but this actually sounds fun.
09:17This is a very glamorous version of it.
09:18Not even glamorous, but like you're just traveling around in your camper.
09:21Just having a good old time.
09:22It was so fucking fun.
09:23Yeah.
09:24And then there was a period, cause I know this is the kind of stuff that you're interested
09:27in, uh, where I was like going to Vegas every weekend and like my dabbling into like, I
09:33don't like the word escorting.
09:34Cause I like, like no one fucking believes me.
09:36And I talked about this on soft white underbelly and like the comments are all people like
09:39this girl is so full of shit.
09:40I did not fuck these guys.
09:42I did not fuck them.
09:44I would go on ski trips.
09:45We went to fucking Hawaii.
09:47Like they want arm candy to go to like the O show in Vegas and like go to like fucking
09:53dinner.
09:54Like, and that was just life for such a long time.
09:57And you met these guys at the strip club?
09:58But you would never fuck them?
10:00Never.
10:01They just didn't try?
10:02Or you were able to just say no?
10:03One guy, he was actually angry that I even like talked about it.
10:08He was like, no.
10:09Cause you wanted to fuck him?
10:10I did kind of want to fuck him.
10:11He was cute.
10:12Wow.
10:13And he was not down?
10:14No.
10:15This sounds like no other man I've ever met in my life.
10:17Did they have like families or like?
10:19That specific dude, he had dated a stripper before who had his kid.
10:24And so in his mind, every stripper is like trying to con him.
10:27So it's like, I will pay you to come hang out with me and be hot and whatever.
10:31But if you try to fuck me, you're out of here.
10:33Yeah.
10:34Cause he thinks I'm going to like poke a hole in the condom.
10:35I mean, it does sound a little unbelievable, but I believe you.
10:37Cause I, you know, it's not like you're the only person who's ever told a story like this, but.