90 Day Fiance The Other Way S06 E08 (2024)
Transcript
00:00Previously on 90 Day Fiance The Other Way.
00:04Hi.
00:04How you doing?
00:05Yay.
00:07I am so happy that the van is this nice.
00:09I think I can live here.
00:12But this small tiny space is going to be
00:15the rest, you know, of my life.
00:17This is so exciting, I'm so excited.
00:22This is gonna be interesting
00:23because this is the first time you guys
00:25are gonna meet a man that I'm dating.
00:28Everyone knows Sean as my boyfriend,
00:32but that's not actually true.
00:34Sean and I are actually married
00:36and we have been for two years.
00:41How do we bring this up?
00:48There have been some times where like legitimately
00:50I wanted to pop the off on you, but I do not.
00:54Corona is telling me that she had been sheltering me
00:57with some soft partnering.
00:59If you pop up, I'm just gonna try to make you laugh.
01:02That's a mistake.
01:12I'm sorry.
01:27Mother, let me apologize.
01:29Sit down, mother.
01:31Mother!
01:32I'm sorry, mother.
01:35Things have escalated very quickly.
01:37Mother!
01:39Oh
02:09I
02:18Don't know what is going on. I don't fully understand kissing her feet I
02:24Haven't obviously seen her do this before
02:27all I know is for some reason I am definitely adding to her stress and
02:33That sucks to feel that way
02:40I don't know my mother
02:42Don't have a problem
02:45Yeah
02:47Yes, I'm behind. Come on. We don't have so much for me
02:51It's a little dust. I'm a mama. I'm a swami
02:54impotent Brumadana saline saline my mother saline when she dies I think when super cut it will
03:01Eat the orange to a man. I'll tell him young per bike
03:04I
03:14Am so sorry to
03:17Whatever I say what if I've done whatever
03:21In our culture if we feel like we've done something bad
03:27We need to say sorry to our mom because heaven is under your mom feet
03:34But if you're married
03:36Haven't also under husband fit
03:39That's why I do own
03:42James apologize
03:44Because I should never talk to him in the way that I talk to him
03:52I'm not the best way
03:57But I will try my best perfect to me
04:05I
04:12Know this is hard for everybody
04:19Just have to carry it together
04:27It's a lot
04:35Don't tell us how to my mommy come back in America
04:41Nobody
04:43Yeah
04:47Set to a separate desire
04:49Jadi
04:51Pemikiran dia itu di java itu ada istilah
04:55anakpulah won't walk uprada
04:59Dengan doa dengan segala macem, okay
05:03But it took to put on my room
05:05I think I'll be an angel. I'm tired. I'm tired. I'm tired
05:12Yeah, I just can't be that
05:14Nanti Punya, I'm not saying hot
05:19There's a kena muscle people make thing happy
05:24Jim, it's a tumble
05:26until I can
05:29I
05:30Love whom I can believe in it. Jim said I'm a little Jim said I'm a romantic
05:34I'm true more than a concert room. I think I'm Martin at this point. I'm
05:39Assuming that everything happening right now is a cultural thing. I don't understand
05:44I'm hoping to get a little bit of clarity from her when we are alone because
05:48being here for less than 48 hours and already reaching a breaking point like this is just insane and
05:56This isn't what I want
05:59Get to call Sana. I mean I mean you're loving
06:02Oh
06:04I
06:07I
06:27Joe
06:28Yeah, I'm here and Matt took me she brought me with the luggage where you want. Hey Joe. Hey
06:35What room you saying in your room naturally
06:38My mom lives in South Carolina now, but she's here in New York
06:43Because she's gonna be cat-sitting while me and the boys are in Ireland
06:47All right, dry food is up here if it needs to get refilled. This is where you get it from. That's automatic
06:55Okay, and then he gets wet food only one can he will
07:02Try and get more out of you bank should know me by now
07:05All right. Well, let me just show the rest. So treats. He'll you get two in the morning while he meows at you
07:12All of this that goes off at 830. So
07:16830 what time did you say for the kid? 530 530?
07:20Yeah, but that's reason piece of paper. You write it down. All right
07:24this too, oh
07:26No, I'm not doing that. All you gotta do is put on your finger and he licks it off. What is that?
07:30It's for his coat so that he stays shiny and handsome. He was never this needy. He's always been this needy
07:36He's Binks the bougie cat
07:41You know what Joe it all just work with Binks maybe you should have hired somebody to take care of the cat
07:47Well mother you should have just came with us to Ireland cuz I had somebody for the cat
07:53Okay, but you know why I'm not coming to I'm not really yes you do
07:58Why I'm your mama and he should have came to see your money and I don't care how old you are I
08:05really wanted my mother to come with me to Ireland with the boys to meet Sean, but
08:10She refuses to come because she feels she is the parent and he should be coming here to meet her
08:18You're not Queen Elizabeth. Just it's okay
08:23There's a lot of other questions I have too, but I don't know
08:26If you want to go into it like right now or you'd like to sit down with me or
08:32With what I may have to sit for this about Sean
08:36What are Sean's intentions with you I
08:43Have a very close relationship with my daughter
08:48As well as my sister has an even more closer relation. Sometimes I wonder she tells her more things that she tells me
08:56We get to down for that
08:57Conversation. Okay, this should be a good one
09:01But I feel Joanne has been very private about her relationship with Sean like I'm only being told what she wants to tell me
09:09I mean, I still don't know much about him. I
09:13Would love to meet him so that I don't have to worry as much
09:21Okay, we're seated I can't wait to see what's next
09:24Well, my first biggest question is do you want to keep it just like this just going back and forth to Ireland
09:30I mean you're bringing my grandsons to meet him. Why?
09:34Because he's a significant person in my life. So that's the reason why I'm significant enough
09:40for what Joanne
09:43As far as everybody knowing everybody's business in my family. There are normally no secrets
09:50Everybody's up in everybody's business. Everybody knows everything
09:53so I want to tell my mom that Sean and I are married because
09:58Once I leave for this trip with the boys to Ireland the cat's gonna be out of bag that we are and I need her
10:04To hear it from me first
10:06But I'm nervous. I haven't no idea what will come out of my mother's mouth and
10:12That's probably what scares me the most. I'm not it's not a joke. I'm 43 years old and I'm scared of my mother
10:19Woman petrifies me
10:21She is scary. She's scary
10:26What is it you're telling me Joanne what what where we go
10:40What the hell is this fermented shark
10:45I'm just gonna try and work out the electric so we can get warm
10:49It's really freaking cold. And so I'm just thinking oh my god, does this thing actually have heat? Did we get scammed?
10:56I don't know any of these things
10:59We're gonna freeze to death
11:19Oh
11:25We can go anywhere with our home we can't go and you can take our home anywhere. Yeah
11:31Yay, first campsite campsite
11:36Hello, we're newbies apologies
11:40I'm definitely still feeling anxious about living in such a small place, but we bought this van
11:46I'm here and it's time to give this life on the road thing a shot. Oh
11:52All right. Let's get to work
11:56Do you want to do what I'll do electric car together? I don't know how to do any of this. Okay, I
12:04Love that Dempsey can show me how everything works because I definitely couldn't figure this out on my own
12:10This is the water one. Yeah
12:13Normally this should just oh we need the keys right? Yeah
12:17This is my first time putting water in a tank
12:21I don't even I've never even heard of a water tank before I thought you just turn on the faucet and boom you got water
12:26You know
12:27This is this is just another day to her. She's been emptying the toilet since she was three, you know
12:34This is the electric here, but this is all new to me. Yep
12:39It's a fun man
12:43Well, it is cold, yeah
12:47I'm just gonna try and work out the electric so we can get warm. I
12:52Don't know any of these things mean
12:57You're staying there tonight
13:03What are you trying to figure out
13:05Have I seem to call me?
13:07Don't know how to work the boiler or the heating or anything and I don't just want to be pressing stuff and then
13:14If we leave the batteries all on tonight and it all drains tonight. That means that the whole system's
13:21It's freezing like really freaking cold does this thing actually have heat does it not have heat did we get scammed?
13:29What are we gonna do tonight? Because we're gonna freeze to death
13:37Hello
13:39I'm good. Thank you. How are you? Sorry for ringing. Yeah, and it's just I don't know how to like work anything
13:50And so, how do you put the heat
14:01Yes
14:07Yeah
14:12This is so excited we were thinking oh my god, we're gonna be freezing tonight
14:19It's a massive load off my shoulders we can go to sleep warm now, I don't want to grouchy biatch
14:27If there were no heat, I hate cold. I'm so glad that we got it sorted
14:33Yeah, I don't think I would have been super sold on the van life thing if things hadn't gone how they had
14:40Thank you so much
14:42Thank you
14:44That was good. That was lucky
14:48That's kicking out some heat yeah, that's very good
14:53Honestly, everything's hitting me at once
14:56We didn't just move in together. We bought a home
15:00It's usual for lesbians to go all-in all really quickly, but this is
15:07Lesbian times infinity. This is hardcore
15:13Warm oh, this is beautiful real one real heat. Yeah. All right, you want to make up this bed finally?
15:19Yeah, and actually get in. Okay
15:29I
15:48Been in Iceland for a few days and
15:50Inky's taking me around town so I can get my bearings and learn
15:53How to live here as a person and not just a freaking tourist like these are the spots you go to
15:58These are spots. You don't go to don't wear a Viking hat do this. Don't do that
16:03You know, it's good for me to know these things. I don't want to be out there looking stupid
16:08Today Inky's taking me to the Colaporte or like the flea market
16:12Which is the biggest flea market of its kind in Iceland. I'm excited. I love funky retro stuff. So I think it's gonna be cute
16:19All right
16:23Stunning
16:25Yeah, you ready to go? Yeah, let's do it
16:29All right, that's your reaction. That's your reaction. But yeah, I said stunning. Well, you're like, oh, yeah. Oh
16:39What what do you want
16:42Like I've seen you in the dress before not in person. Yeah. All right
16:54What it like what do you want it's fine I got what I got. All right
16:59I don't want to be the naggy girlfriend and just be like, oh you got to learn this and learn that
17:05But now I've stopped soft partnering
17:08So sometimes I feel like you take me for granted at times and it's just like yeah
17:14She's got a sexy outfit on or she look great. Whatever and I don't know
17:17I just want to feel like desired hot like maybe feel like oh, yeah, like that's my girl, you know
17:24Yeah, yeah, do you know I mean I'm learning baby yeah baby stuffs
17:34To the market we go
17:39You're good, okay
17:43Love you, babe. Love you
17:53You
17:58When I was young I used to collect like a bunch of this military bunch of tchotchkes I
18:04Feel like just at my grandparents place or something like that. I do feel like this whole place is one big grandma's house
18:09Yeah, right. Yeah
18:11Way too much going on. Yeah
18:13Yeah
18:17Yes, definitely get some get some snack some snacks, yeah, okay some Icelandic delicacy, okay
18:26Yeah, get the figure how cut low enough to a brand new school. No, we're not to take a bite
18:31I'm gonna wash it down like with the brand new in
18:35What is that a shot of alcohol? Yeah
18:38It's so bad that you need a shot afterwards it's like the flavors all become one, you know, it's it's good
18:49What what the hell is this the fermented shark it's really good
18:56We hunt the shark we bury it for like a couple of months and
19:01That acids and stuff like that
19:03It kind of evaporates the meat is processed and hung up to dry for another couple of months and then like we have this
19:11delicious delicacy, which is the
19:14Icelandic shark
19:16This is like the part of the journey to becoming Icelandic, you know, like once you get this down
19:21You'll be proper. Oh
19:24No, even the texture
19:27Okay, here you go, babe. Cheers
19:30Cheers you ready?
19:37Trust me on this
19:44Don't smell it. How can I not smell something that I'm eating? Oh
19:54It's good what no, it's like
19:58A jiggly but firm and it smells like death
20:04Reminded shark it's good babe. Like it's good for you. Like what's good for me? Yeah
20:09There's no way on earth
20:12That's good for anything, you know, that's part of the tradition and like
20:17I literally almost threw up in my freaking mouth
20:24Do you have anything that's not fermented shark
20:28Yes, okay
20:29I'll take anything. That's not
20:32Yeah, thank you. Thanks. Your family's not gonna ask me to eat anything near that are they?
20:38No, of course not because I don't want to offend your parents. I probably scrap her down if your parents did it nice
20:44Thank you so much
20:48To an airplane
20:56That's yummy, okay, so give me like the lowdown on your parents so I know like what I'm getting into
21:02So what should I expect like from your dad for my dad? Like when he was born in 1940?
21:0840s. Oh my god
21:10And he's also super funny. Like is he where you get your humor from?
21:15Yeah, I think so like also from my mom but like so your mom's funny I haven't heard much about your mom
21:19I honestly don't know what to expect from your mom. Yeah, my mom is like a bit more conservative
21:24Conservative in what way? I don't know like she was a priest daughter
21:27Like my dad grew up like in a like poorest part of Iceland. They're awesome. They're just
21:33caring and loving
21:36I'm gonna be meeting in case parents tomorrow and he's never brought a girl to meet his parents before ever
21:41So I think it's a sign of like
21:44Inky's definitely taking this seriously if he wants me to meet his parents. This is a really big deal. I'm breaking new ground here
21:51I'm so nervous. I just hope they like me
21:54Why are you nervous about meeting my parents? Like I don't know how to word this but like do they know black people?
22:03No, I don't think so, yeah
22:06But what if they didn't like me being a black woman and like your life just think I know you think they're gonna love me
22:12But worst-case scenario
22:14They're like, yo, no, I don't want black grandbabies and I don't like her
22:19For other reasons not even just me being of color like how I am my wardrobe my everything
22:24I can only have so many modest outfits. It's only a matter of time before they see me in something ridiculous
22:30Yeah, but I mean that's only it's only just clothes. It's not who you are
22:35You know what I mean, I know that you know that what if they don't know that
22:40One of my biggest fears with meeting his parents is that they're not gonna accept me
22:44Whether it be because I'm black or because I'm back crazy and I couldn't hide it anymore
22:48My clothes my attitude how loud I am that may just rub them the wrong absolute way entirely
22:56They have such a close bond
22:58So it does make me worried if his parents actually don't like me and didn't want me to join their family
23:03I don't think Inky would go against his parents
23:07It's like they don't like me that would be a big like hurdle and things and they'll be like, whoa
23:11So my son waited this long to be in a relationship and she sucks. So I feel like there's a lot of pressure
23:22This is my sister, yeah
23:24This is the first time I'm meeting someone from Lily's immediate family. My stomach's turning because I want to make a good impression
23:31I want to know what's your job?
23:56Okay, we are go to tea shop
24:00It's been four days now since I've been in China everything's going great. I'm enjoying the scenery here. The food is wonderful
24:07I love it. I just can't wait to see what each day brings
24:17This is
24:29Easy can speak English. I know it's perfect
24:34This is the first time I'm meeting someone from Lily's immediate family
24:38You know, my stomach's a little turning because I want to make a good impression
24:42You know, I want her family and friends to know I care about her. So we'll see how it goes
24:48That's how tea
24:51This is what name
24:54Tea cup tea cup
24:56You can say sabay cabay good
25:06I have a question when Lily came to USA. Were you nervous at all?
25:15It's a waiting room. I know
25:20Shit
25:22Come here sit over woman
25:25What's wrong? Come home? Did you see?
25:27Our family not as birds not support don't support
25:34She's an economy to the show
25:37woman, I think I'm seen the unit that's in the p.m. That's right. What am I? She's a woman. I don't you don't you see
25:45I like to pursue romance, but I'm not a fool. I'm not usually fooled
25:55It's just because your love is probably different from most of us Chinese
26:03Let's do things may just be more impulsive
26:06When I was 18, a warm-hearted older sister introduced me to a boyfriend.
26:13After I met him, I married him.
26:17My parents were very, very dissatisfied.
26:20It was probably because I was too young.
26:23And then we got married very soon.
26:26It really broke up.
26:29He didn't come home all night.
26:31He didn't come home all night.
26:33I think my sister is a romantic girl.
26:45Are you a romantic person?
26:48Also.
26:50We're both hopeless romantics.
26:56I want to know what's your job in the USA?
27:03I sold parts for heating and cooling.
27:08But coming here on a spousal visa, it does not let me work while I'm in China.
27:16Now you can't work.
27:18My sister will earn money herself.
27:23I think my sister's price is bigger than before.
27:32What's your opinion on this thing?
27:38It's not by choice.
27:40We knew when we moved to China, I can't work.
27:44But it was the only way we could be together.
27:46So I had to quit my job.
27:52This was exactly what I was afraid of.
27:54I knew I would be judged for not being able to work.
27:58I don't want Lily's family to have any reason to think this marriage is not a good idea.
28:05I could help with English, like things electrical, carry her equipment.
28:11I like to clean, so I get to clean the house, garden.
28:16I could cook.
28:18But the thing I could offer her, and I think that's why she's with me,
28:23is just that I'm in love with her.
28:27Okay. I see you. I understand you.
28:35I think he's very sincere.
28:38But about Josh not being able to work,
28:42I think my sister Lily will be under a lot of pressure to make money and support her family.
28:50Our family members will be worried about her.
28:54They'll be worried that she'll be too tired.
28:59Okay. Good talk.
29:08You're pushing me from...
29:10No, I didn't push you.
29:12You did.
29:14This isn't looking good for us being able to survive here at all.
29:18Yeah, I'm done.
29:41You want to get the light?
29:43Earlier this evening, we had a discussion with Tata's family,
29:48and it didn't end well.
29:51To feel like I was the only one in the room who had no idea what was happening,
29:55that's a terrible feeling.
29:57Well, I want to take a shower,
30:00but I still don't know why you...
30:05Because I try to talk what I feel,
30:10and then I need to translate to you,
30:14I need to translate for Mom and Dad,
30:17and then you've been pushing me and pushing me and pushing me.
30:21Like, you talk to them.
30:24You lead the conversation.
30:27You talk to them.
30:30You talk to them.
30:32You lead the conversation.
30:35That's how you talk to me.
30:38Well, I felt like you were pushing me too, though.
30:40You were pushing me to have that conversation.
30:43Because we do need that conversation.
30:45But then you wanted me to be the one to have the conversation.
30:48No!
30:50I told you I was going to follow you.
30:52I started the conversation.
30:54I told them...
30:57It's about you not giving me a break to talk, to think,
31:02to translate double language in my breath.
31:09I did apologize to him in front of my parents
31:12about what I did and what I said,
31:14and it just made me sad
31:16that he's not apologizing about the way he treated me.
31:20And then the fact that I already told him how I felt,
31:24and then he still not get it,
31:27I really just hurt.
31:30I still don't think we made any progress
31:33as far as what the plan is.
31:35What is the plan is?
31:37We didn't ever talk about how we're going to make money.
31:40They even said they can help us with paying the car.
31:45But you know my thoughts on that.
31:47I don't want them to help us with that.
31:49I know, I did tell them.
31:51And I had no idea what was happening.
31:53I thought you just didn't want to talk about it.
31:55I thought you were trying to get me to say what it was.
31:58I told them.
32:00It's not fair to me to not know what's going on,
32:03and then for you to get mad at me
32:05because we're trying to have a conversation
32:07about emotional things.
32:09Every single word I translated to you.
32:12You're pushing me for...
32:14I didn't push you.
32:15You did.
32:19I'm sorry if you feel that way,
32:21but I wasn't trying to push you.
32:23I told you exactly what we discussed earlier.
32:25You need to tell them what we talked about.
32:27I don't need that.
32:34All right, conversation's over.
32:35Once you start swearing, I won't talk to you anymore.
32:37Yeah, I'm done. I'm done with it.
32:39I want to sleep at my mom and dad's house.
32:46That's really...
32:52If you think abandoning your husband
32:54in another country is a good idea...
33:02This isn't looking good for us
33:04being able to survive here at all.
33:09Because we talked about this already.
33:11If it's going to affect our marriage,
33:13then it's not worth it.
33:16The most important thing to me in all of this
33:20is mine and her relationship,
33:22is the love we have for each other,
33:24growing it, fostering it,
33:26becoming stronger through this experience.
33:28Right now, I'm feeling like
33:30if being here and the issues that are going to happen
33:34start causing issues in our relationship,
33:37making us fight more,
33:38pushing us apart from each other,
33:40then all of this is for nothing.
33:42What's the point of doing any of this?
33:44I would say we need to go back to the U.S.
33:47Everything I do is because I love you.
33:54I just don't want to see you
33:56the way I saw you tonight.
34:01That's never how I want any conversation to go.
34:07I'm sorry.
34:09And I'm sorry I made you feel pushed.
34:12And...
34:16I'll do better. I will.
34:21I love you.
34:25I appreciate it because James apologized,
34:29but I'm worried that he just got here
34:31and he's already talking about leaving.
34:35Come here.
34:37Come here.
34:58I don't like seeing you hurt,
35:00especially if it's because of me.
35:06Are you going to move to Ireland?
35:08Yeah.
35:09Jackass.
35:10You don't even know this guy.
35:12I should have been told.
35:14Ma, I didn't want to tell anybody.
35:17I'm your mother!
35:37What is it you're telling me, Joanne?
35:39Where are we going?
35:43Uh, well...
35:45We'll be, um...
35:46Well, we're married.
35:53You knew this?
35:54No.
35:56No.
35:57No, no, no, no!
36:00When did you get married?
36:02Um...
36:03Almost...
36:05two years ago.
36:06Who marries somebody that doesn't know anybody?
36:09I know him!
36:11No, you don't, Joanne!
36:13I know him enough.
36:15Yes, I do.
36:16And we knew...
36:17Joanne, how do you not even tell your mother you're married?
36:20Because I...
36:21I'm your mother!
36:22I understand that.
36:23This is your rant!
36:24But...
36:25Am I going to get a word in?
36:26Hell no!
36:27Am I getting a word in?
36:28Hell no!
36:29No.
36:30No.
36:31First of all...
36:32No.
36:33People elope all the time.
36:34So...
36:35But they come back and tell people!
36:37They come back and say,
36:38Hey, by the way, guess what?
36:39We decided to get married!
36:41You didn't do that!
36:42No, I didn't do that.
36:43And what about Sean trying to reach out to your damn mother?
36:46And say what?
36:47What kind of respect?
36:48What kind of respect am I getting in this relationship?
36:51What do you mean respect?
36:52That's supposed to be my son-in-law!
36:53That's...
36:54I'm his mother-in-law!
36:55Because, Mom, we had...
36:56Uh, we have a plan.
36:59We wanted to do it for ourselves.
37:03Okay.
37:04So, deep breath.
37:05Deep breath.
37:06There ain't no deep breath here!
37:08Okay, hold on.
37:09We knew we wanted to get married.
37:11We did this for the two of us.
37:12We didn't want anybody else's opinions.
37:15Negativity, drama.
37:16We didn't want that.
37:17Okay, there's no negativity or drama here, Joanne.
37:20But you know what?
37:21His mother should know.
37:22Does his mother know?
37:23No.
37:24His mother should know and your mother should know.
37:26There's no negativity.
37:27There's no drama.
37:28You got married two years ago.
37:30I'm sorry.
37:31I'm your mother, Joanne.
37:33I should have been told.
37:35Mom, I didn't want to tell anybody.
37:37It's not anybody.
37:38I'm your mother.
37:40I'm not just anybody.
37:42We did this for ourselves.
37:44We did this for the two of us.
37:45You still could have had that and people know
37:47and wished you good luck.
37:49Not that I would have because I would have said to you,
37:52jackass, you don't even know this guy.
37:55You married a total stranger.
37:58I didn't marry a total stranger.
38:00I married somebody that I knew I wanted to marry.
38:03Does your sister know this?
38:05No.
38:06So don't tell her.
38:07Does your sons know this?
38:09No.
38:10Are they going to know?
38:11Yeah.
38:12When we're there, we planned on announcing it.
38:15I cannot believe you're married.
38:19You know what, Joanne?
38:21I feel like I don't know you for the last two years.
38:25That everything you do is different.
38:27I feel like you're not.
38:29You used to tell me everything by my side.
38:32I didn't tell you everything.
38:33No, you don't.
38:34I just didn't tell you I was married.
38:37Joanne, Joanne, you know I've had your back all your life.
38:42Yeah, I guess I have.
38:43And I will have your back to my last breath.
38:45I understand that, Ma.
38:46But you hurt me by not telling me.
38:49OK, well, I'm sorry for hurting you.
38:52But Ma, after everything that I've been through,
38:56you really just want to live your life
38:58and just be in the moment and just be happy.
39:00Yeah, and you could have explained that to me.
39:02And I would have understood I was there with you through it all.
39:09About 15 years ago, my doctor found an aneurysm.
39:13I was put through extensive testing.
39:16And they found more aneurysms all down my main artery.
39:21And the one in my heart grew.
39:24So I had open-heart surgery.
39:27After the surgery, the doctor told me
39:29that I would have died in two weeks
39:31had that surgery not have been done.
39:33So every day that I'm alive is a blessing
39:36and just taught me do whatever it is that makes you happy.
39:40And this is what made me happy.
39:43Are you going to move to Ireland?
39:46I need to know that.
39:47I need to know that.
39:48Well, I plan on being in Ireland for a month
39:52and then coming home for two weeks.
39:55You're going to stay there for a month...
39:57Yeah.
39:58...come back for two weeks...
39:59Uh-huh.
40:00...and go back again for a month.
40:01Yeah.
40:02So when you go to Ireland for a month,
40:04are you going to be bringing the boys with you?
40:06I can't because we have shared custody.
40:08But the boys have to meet Sean first
40:11before I finalize any plans about moving to Ireland.
40:16If the boys don't like him, you won't feel it?
40:18Don't like him? No, of course not.
40:20They're my kids. Like, I'm not going to do that.
40:24I don't have any doubt that Joanne loves Sean.
40:27I see that she is very happy.
40:29However, I don't know him.
40:32Sean could be the sweetest person in the world,
40:36but he could also be the biggest psycho,
40:38and I don't know.
40:40You're with my daughter three years,
40:44and we have never had a conversation. Never.
40:47Them getting married so fast
40:50does make me feel suspicious of Joanne.
40:54So if the boys aren't really happy
40:58with the situation there with Joanne...
41:00Yeah.
41:01...and you being married or even moving there...
41:03Right.
41:04...where does this leave your relationship?
41:06I don't know.
41:08That's why there's a lot riding on this trip.
41:15Next time on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
41:19There's still time to bail.
41:21No, no, no.
41:22I don't know a lot about Inky's parents.
41:24They're here.
41:25I don't think they've ever had a black person
41:27in their home before.
41:28She thinks it's really pretty.
41:30Oh, thank you! Thank you!
41:32I was shocked.
41:34I do not let people touch my hair.
41:39Here's some tea.
41:41We're going to live like nomads
41:43and I live like nomads.
41:45I just hope we don't go mad.
41:47That's awful.
41:49I just drank sewage or something.
41:51This is it.
41:53Grandma's not going to see you.
41:55The boys are about to meet a man
41:57that they have no idea who he is
42:00and they're about to find out
42:02that that's their stepfather.
42:08I did my best.
42:10He just wants what he wants
42:11and he feels like he might not get it
42:13so he spirals.
42:15I just need to process what happened
42:17because it feels like this isn't real.
42:20Earlier tonight, it was like such a good night.
42:24I'm just like, what's so wrong?