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00:03Welcome to a new episode of...
00:09One more, one more, sorry.
00:12A new episode of...
00:17I don't know.
00:19There's...
00:22I don't know, it's not working.
00:24What is this?
00:25What's wrong with you?
00:26I don't know.
00:27I don't feel like I can make an episode.
00:30Why is that?
00:31Everyone is staring at you.
00:32There are cameras, filming, and production.
00:35It's not going to work.
00:36I mean, suppose I don't know how to talk,
00:38and I'm nervous, and I'm nervous,
00:40and everything is fine, and the filming stops.
00:42And you're the one who's nervous.
00:44And then why are you back?
00:45Why are you back?
00:46I feel like I'm a failure.
00:47Everything I do is a waste.
00:49I'm acting tough and confident,
00:52but in the end,
00:54when you see me like this,
00:55I'm a coward and a coward.
00:58I'm nervous and I'm going back.
00:59Son, that's it.
01:00This isn't the first time you've done this.
01:02We've done hundreds of episodes,
01:04and we've been a failure.
01:05People are waiting for your episodes
01:07to learn from them,
01:08and hear the jokes,
01:09and laugh at them too.
01:11You're not a failure, son.
01:12You're good.
01:13They don't know I'm nervous,
01:15and I can go back at any moment.
01:16Why are you going back?
01:17We've done this hundreds of times.
01:20It's normal.
01:21And God was with us.
01:22Right?
01:23Right.
01:24Especially not now,
01:26because I have a genius director like you.
01:29You're a great director,
01:31and you've done a lot of episodes with me.
01:33We can do it, right?
01:35I don't know.
01:36When you said that, I got nervous.
01:38Do you think I'll be able to do this episode?
01:40You've done a lot of episodes.
01:42It's not the first time.
01:43I know.
01:44But I feel like people feel
01:46that I don't do well every time.
01:48That's what makes me nervous.
01:51I'm lost.
01:53I think I'm going back.
01:54Hey, Buffet!
01:55Buffet!
01:58Yes, Mr. Ghandour!
02:01I need two lemons.
02:02For me and the director.
02:03Because he's going to collapse.
02:07What's wrong with you?
02:08Everyone is asking for tea and coffee.
02:11I don't know how to make a lemon.
02:13I've let you down.
02:14I've let Mr. Director down.
02:16I feel like...
02:18I feel like...
02:21I feel like...
02:22You want to go back, right?
02:24Come on.
02:25We'll all go back there.
02:27Come on.
02:29Do you want to go back too?
02:38Hello, dear viewers.
02:39Welcome to a new episode of The Guest Show.
02:41On May 12, 2017,
02:43the writer Ibn al-Jayman said
02:45on his blog,
02:46about a party he's been holding for years.
02:48It's not just about writers.
02:49It's about all kinds of great people.
02:51Artists, scientists, and explorers.
02:54He said that at the party,
02:55he felt like he couldn't be a writer.
02:57These people are so cool.
02:58What have I gotten myself into?
02:59And at the party,
03:00there's this guy.
03:01He's a big, humble guy.
03:03He's going to talk about things they have in common.
03:05For example,
03:06the guy's name is Nell.
03:07This guy talked to Nell about the people in the bar.
03:09And I'm like,
03:10what am I doing among all these people?
03:11These people have done great things.
03:13I'm not here.
03:14Nell is here, dear.
03:15He'll easily get it.
03:16It's not just that the guy thought of the same thing.
03:18It's because this guy wasn't an ordinary person.
03:20He wasn't just Nell.
03:22He's Nell Armstrong himself.
03:24This guy, dear,
03:25if you don't know him,
03:26is the first person to walk on the moon.
03:28Here, dear,
03:29we're in a meeting between
03:30a successful writer and a genius scientist.
03:32Even if he's not a genius,
03:33he's the first person to touch the moon.
03:35These two here
03:36feel like they're,
03:37as you say,
03:38occupied.
03:39They came here
03:40to make people laugh
03:41and make them understand
03:42that they're important.
03:43They're occupied
03:44and occupied
03:45in an unreal place.
03:46Actually,
03:47this isn't an exceptional event.
03:48Let's take
03:49the greatest writer
03:50and the greatest scientist.
03:51The writer,
03:52Maya Angel,
03:53has written 11 books in her life.
03:55With each book,
03:56she starts to think.
03:57She thinks
03:58that she's occupied
03:59and that this new book
04:00will reveal
04:01her life to people.
04:02You're all in love with her.
04:03I'm not a talented person.
04:04I'm a lucky person.
04:05Dear, let me challenge you.
04:06Go ahead, Abou Ahmed.
04:07If I asked you
04:08who's the most famous scientist in history,
04:10Yes, dear.
04:11I don't know, I don't know.
04:12Artist Ahmed Halawa did his part.
04:13Albert Einstein.
04:14That's not him, Abou Ahmed.
04:15Albert Einstein.
04:16Did he think he was occupied?
04:17Yes, dear.
04:18Einstein says to himself,
04:19I feel like all my life
04:20I've been occupied
04:21in a despicable way.
04:22Einstein wrote this line
04:23when he was a young man, dear.
04:24Maybe he wrote it
04:25in the beginning of his life
04:26in the midst of all the mistakes
04:27that all of us make.
04:28Let me tell you, dear,
04:29that Einstein wrote this line
04:30in 1955.
04:32That, dear,
04:33is the same year
04:34Albert Einstein died.
04:36So, after the whole world
04:37didn't recognize him,
04:38they gave him ten fingers.
04:39You're an important scientist.
04:40E equals MC squared everywhere.
04:42We made the nuclear bomb
04:43based on your theory.
04:45And you won the Nobel Prize,
04:46you genius.
04:47Your theory
04:48changed our view of the universe.
04:49When you don't become
04:50a genius scientist,
04:51who is a genius scientist?
04:52Mr. Samra?
04:53Although, dear,
04:54the achievements of
04:55Neil Armstrong and Einstein
04:56are hard to deny,
04:57the feelings they described
04:58are very widespread.
04:59But, dear,
05:00the world won't recognize them
05:01and give them a name
05:02other than in the early 70s
05:03when Dr. Rose Clance,
05:04the assistant professor
05:05at the University of Oberlin,
05:06was surprised by her students
05:07telling her
05:08that they felt
05:09like they were going to fail
05:10and that they didn't deserve
05:11to be in the university.
05:12And of course,
05:13their parents were wrong
05:14at first,
05:15and it will be revealed.
05:16They say that, dear,
05:17even though their grades
05:18were always high.
05:19This, dear,
05:20is not logical,
05:21but because it's a fact.
05:22These words
05:23were invented
05:24by her personal experience.
05:25When she was born
05:26in a simple family,
05:27her father fought
05:28in a wood factory
05:29to secure their lives
05:30and she felt
05:31that she had failed.
05:32Every test she took
05:33was telling her
05:34that she was going to fail,
05:35but she was succeeding
05:36and she was progressing.
05:37Until, dear,
05:38she became
05:39the first person
05:40in her family
05:41to enter the university
05:42and get a PhD
05:43in psychology.
05:44And she will remain
05:45in doubt
05:46that she is a bully
05:47and an occupier
05:48and that people
05:49around her
05:50who give her PhDs
05:51and teach her
05:52are much worse than her.
05:53And in fact,
05:54they deserve
05:55the place
05:56she thinks
05:57they don't deserve.
05:58Dr. Clarence
05:59and her colleague
06:00Dr. Susan Eames
06:01will spend more than
06:02five years
06:03talking to
06:04150 women like them.
06:05Six women
06:06in different fields
06:07like law,
06:08nursing,
06:09and education.
06:10All six of them
06:11felt the same feelings.
06:12These feelings
06:13will be described
06:14by Clarence Eames
06:15in their research paper
06:16called
06:17The Appearance of the Occupier
06:18in a terrifying way.
06:19Despite the fact
06:20that the study was on women,
06:21humans
06:22among the two sexes
06:23and among all races
06:24and ages
06:25and jobs
06:26will say,
06:27what is this?
06:28I am like this.
06:29But dear,
06:30at this moment,
06:31after half a century
06:32of publishing this paper,
06:33while the examples
06:34we started with
06:35are about writers
06:36and scientists,
06:37according to a report
06:38published in 2024
06:39by Corneferi
06:40which studied
06:41more than 10,000 employees
06:42worldwide.
06:43Let me tell you
06:44that 71%
06:45of CEOs
06:46suffer
06:47from the feeling
06:48of being occupied.
06:49The report described
06:50this as
06:51a crisis of confidence.
06:52A crisis of self-confidence.
06:53At this moment,
06:54all people
06:55who are self-confident
06:56in their looks
06:57and appearance
06:58are considered
06:59models
07:00and icons
07:01of the show.
07:02Let me tell you
07:03that many actors
07:04and icons
07:05of the show
07:06stated that
07:07their life
07:08is nothing but suffering
07:09with the feeling
07:10of being occupied.
07:11I am not talking about
07:12normal actors.
07:13I am talking about
07:14people like
07:15Emma Watson
07:16or Tom Hanks
07:17or Tom Hanks
07:18or Tom Hanks
07:19Honestly, Abu Ahmed,
07:20I never feel
07:21like I am occupied
07:22with my coffee friends.
07:23I feel like
07:24I am Magdy Aqoub
07:25among them.
07:26Really?
07:27Take this
07:28and place it
07:29in your mind.
07:30According to
07:31Journal of General
07:32Internal Medicine,
07:33in 2020
07:3482% of people
07:35suffer from
07:36the imposter phenomenon
07:37the phenomenon
07:38of being occupied.
07:39The students here
07:40found that
07:41we are in front
07:42of a perceptual
07:43experience
07:44a feeling
07:45and the skill
07:46in pretending
07:47that I am smart
07:48or the skill
07:49in pretending
07:50that I am talented
07:51not that I am talented
07:52I am skilled
07:53in convincing people
07:54that I am talented
07:55I am
07:56in the street language
07:57not smart
07:58Although
07:59the inner feeling
08:00that acts like
08:01a hidden secret
08:02is the perceptual
08:03experience
08:04many people
08:05feel it
08:06so much
08:07that when
08:08a term
08:09appears
08:10people become
08:11aware
08:12and say
08:13this is us
08:14and it turns
08:15into a cycle
08:16This, my dear,
08:17starts with
08:18the feeling of being
08:19occupied
08:20which makes
08:21the person
08:22work harder
08:23to get rid
08:24of the feeling
08:25that he is a
08:26imposter
08:27Harder
08:28according to
08:29the description
08:30of the study
08:31as if
08:32superheros
08:33work hard
08:34to escape
08:35the opposite
08:36feelings
08:37A phobia
08:38terrified of
08:39failure
08:40known as
08:41the Atishi
08:42phobia
08:43A person
08:44who feels
08:45he is
08:46an imposter
08:47is terrified
08:48of success
08:49because
08:50simply
08:51when you
08:52succeed once
08:53you need to
08:54succeed
08:55many times
08:56If you
08:57see yourself
08:58as an imposter
08:59if you
09:00succeed
09:01once
09:02you will
09:03be afraid
09:04because
09:05you won't
09:06be able
09:07to succeed
09:08again
09:09People
09:10will say
09:11this is
09:12a
09:13nightmare
09:14and
09:15at the
09:16same time
09:17you won't
09:18be able
09:19to succeed
09:20again
09:21so
09:22next time
09:23show me
09:24because
09:25I won't
09:26be able
09:27to
09:28repeat
09:29the same
09:30feeling
09:31after
09:32every new
09:33achievement
09:34he will
09:35feel
09:36calm
09:37and
09:38talented
09:39and
09:40smart
09:41This method turns many people into work martyrs.
09:44People who are martyrs for the sake of their jobs.
09:47In an attempt to convince people that we are not losers.
09:51Because we feel that we are losers.
09:52But anyway, dear.
09:53One reached the moon, and the other discovered the relativity, and they did not suffice.
09:56So the normal person, with an Excel spreadsheet,
09:58final, final, final, final, will that suffice?
10:00The phenomenon of occupation, dear, does not have a defined definition.
10:03In the diagnostic data for psychological diseases.
10:05I give you the simple one, because we know the cause of the disease.
10:07And a specific treatment for it.
10:08However, when we find a group of symptoms that are sometimes the opposite of each other.
10:11Like fear of failure, or fear of success.
10:13At times, dear, it is difficult to identify.
10:15Scientists, like Amy Rooker, say that the Imposter Phenomenon is a spectrum.
10:19This is a phenomenon that includes a wide range of symptoms.
10:21Some call it a syndrome.
10:23Compulsory.
10:24That is, the symptoms come together.
10:25And this is the name that spreads the most.
10:26The Imposter Syndrome.
10:27I don't know what this is, Abu Ahmed.
10:28What does this mean?
10:29Will I remain a prisoner to the illusion that I am occupied?
10:31Will I continue to think to myself that I do not deserve the place I am in?
10:33Without knowing the reasons?
10:35What place are you in?
10:36This is not a matter of interest.
10:37Don't sit next to me!
10:38I feel sorry for you.
10:39But I generally speak to people who are stuck in their work.
10:41Who find themselves in the fourth degree of expression.
10:43You, dear, are not in my calculations at all.
10:45Let me explain to you the reasons for the feeling of the Imposter Syndrome.
10:48The first attempt at logical interpretation will be in the research paper of Dr. Clance Williams.
10:52The first paper to apply this phenomenon.
10:54He said, dear, they will return the subject to childhood.
10:56And specify two patterns.
10:58These two patterns are the ones that deceive the audience.
11:00The first pattern, dear, is that the person has a brother or sister.
11:03Determine them from the beginning that they are the smartest or the most beautiful.
11:06You know, dear, when you go to a teacher and he comes out knowing that he is great.
11:09He keeps thinking to himself, no, you are good, but how, Fadi?
11:12Fadi was good manners, morals, memorization, effort, and grades.
11:16Fadi used to work hard and get grades.
11:18Do you work hard?
11:20The second pattern, dear, is that this person should be known from the beginning.
11:23That he is already superior.
11:25Already clever.
11:26Already nice.
11:27The first group did not get the validation of the house.
11:29Mom and Dad did not tell them, you are clever and good enough.
11:32It is very normal when the world, academic institutions, work, and colleagues tell them,
11:36you are good enough.
11:38They feel that you are laughing at me.
11:39And because I am good, you are trying to make fun of me.
11:41And my mother, who took from their genes and ate from their food, did not tell me.
11:43So you will be honest with me when you tell me.
11:45The second group faces a separation between the expectations of the family towards them.
11:48And between their human experience, which is very normal, is full of mistakes.
11:51Their families have very high expectations of them.
11:53So it is not good to show in front of their families that there is something they do not understand.
11:56Or that they are weak in it.
11:57The common thing in these two types is that they are suffering from a crisis of separation.
12:00Between the messages they received from their families, and the messages they receive from the world.
12:03The difference in these messages creates a division within themselves.
12:06The psychological analyst, Noor Al-Siddiro, in her book, Animal Joy,
12:09describes the person who feels obsessed with the occupation as having two identities.
12:12A fake identity that we present to the world that it is successful and solid.
12:15And we improve it from any behavior that may reveal that it is fake.
12:18And under it is the real identity.
12:20Which has not yet come out of the problems of childhood, and do not doubt it.
12:23This is the identity that you are ashamed of.
12:24You are sure that if it comes out on the surface, it will be rejected.
12:26While, my dear, the truth is not that you are a shabby person,
12:29and wearing a fake identity, or that you have two identities, or anything.
12:31But you are just a person who took a step in his life, and evolved.
12:34These feelings of occupation usually arise after we have taken a big step in our lives.
12:38For example, when we leave a social class and go to a higher class.
12:40When we change our career to another job.
12:42Here, something happens to us that is related to the split habitus.
12:45Our identity is divided, and we live in two worlds at the same time.
12:48The novelist, Lily Jameson, when she asked people on Twitter
12:51to share their experience of being obsessed with the occupation,
12:54one of the messages described the feeling of the person who lives with these two identities.
12:57His life has moved, but his mind has not yet moved.
13:00This message was for a person who sent it to tell her,
13:02I grew up in a rural farm, and now I live in a different place.
13:05But every time I attend people's sermons at a fancy party,
13:08I feel that they still see the roots of the grass in my hair.
13:10In this case, my dear, and for a short period of time,
13:12the world is recognizing you.
13:14There is no one person, but you.
13:15Abu Hamed, let me ask you the question I ask myself.
13:17When the world, in the name of God, is beautiful and beautiful,
13:19and assures us that we are good and understand.
13:21Isn't it time to ease our doubts towards ourselves?
13:24Again, dear, again.
13:25As we saw in the episode of friendship,
13:26our relationship with our family, the words we took from our family,
13:29affects us a lot, even after we grow up.
13:31Even after people convince us that they are safe.
13:34Even after people convince us that we are good.
13:36We always have these doubts.
13:38This relationship is very important, dear.
13:40In fact, it is not necessary to ease our doubts.
13:42On the contrary, as I said, it can increase them.
13:44Sometimes, praise or reflection on our success
13:46confirms to us that we are much more occupied than we expect.
13:49So, the world's representative takes an Oscar,
13:51and all the people applaud him.
13:52But he is from inside, and he feels like he is his father,
13:54so that he doesn't have to stand with him on the bus.
13:56The writer, Stephanie Land,
13:57who wrote the book, Made,
13:58which talks about her memories,
14:00when she was a single mom,
14:01cleaning the house to spend on her daughter.
14:03When she realized how much she had sold,
14:04and found herself in a party,
14:05and people were standing around her,
14:06thanking her for her writing,
14:07she felt that she was the winner.
14:09Not just because she didn't believe that her writing was successful,
14:11but because people misunderstood her story.
14:14Her story, without meaning to,
14:15didn't show the difficulty of her world,
14:17so she didn't have to fight for it.
14:19Instead, she presented a romantic picture of the difference of classes.
14:21The story that the rich like to leave the poor,
14:23like the story of the orphan who wore new shoes,
14:25or the poor guy who survived and achieved the American dream.
14:29But Stephanie didn't want her story to be like that,
14:31so when her story was misunderstood,
14:33she didn't just see herself as a writer who doesn't deserve fame,
14:36but her writings are explained in a way
14:38that makes her participate in another occupation conspiracy.
14:41I mean, I'm a liar, and I also participate in another lie.
14:43It burns me.
14:44My dear audience, the content is exploding,
14:46and we're trying to make it work between three angles.
14:48The first angle is how we see ourselves,
14:50how we present ourselves to the world,
14:52and how the world presents itself to us.
14:54These explanations, my dear audience,
14:55despite their difficulties, weren't enough.
14:56Because many people suffer from the obsession of the occupier
14:58without having a brother or sister who has great achievements,
15:01or even a family that puts pressure on them.
15:03Sometimes, just because you're a smart person,
15:05you don't have any pressure to make you see the world differently.
15:07And this, my dear audience, we call it a knowledge gap.
15:09And this doesn't need a family, or a world,
15:11or anything to empower it.
15:12It creates its own automatic power.
15:14Let me explain.
15:15Talented people assume that anyone can do what they do.
15:18What if we publish a scientific paper in Nature?
15:20It's normal.
15:21What if I go to college for five years and become a teacher?
15:23It's normal.
15:24Talented people see that many people can do what we did.
15:27What's special about us?
15:28Sometimes, my dear audience,
15:29the trigger for the obsession of the occupier
15:31is your place in society.
15:33For example, your gender, or your appearance.
15:35According to a study in 2023,
15:37the obsession of the imposter is more common among women than men.
15:40And it's more common among minorities.
15:42This is according to a study in 2017,
15:44entitled Black College Students.
15:46The study says that minorities feel more obsessed
15:49with the symptoms of depression.
15:50This, my dear audience, happens because many societies
15:52feel that women and minorities are groups
15:54that would have been better off if they had succeeded.
15:56And despite the racism of this proposition,
15:58many victims believe that they have reached their place
16:01contrary to the rules of their society,
16:03and that they are occupied.
16:04And this, my dear audience,
16:05will make a model as famous as Bella Hadid
16:07say that the imposter syndrome,
16:09and her feeling that she doesn't deserve her place,
16:11made her do plastic surgery since she was 14 years old.
16:14And she hoped that if she hadn't done that,
16:16she would have kept her middle eastern features,
16:18instead of trying to change them.
16:20And also, the imposter syndrome is the cause
16:22of the culture of the whole society,
16:24not just its discrimination.
16:25According to a study in 2022,
16:2747% of Britons suffer from the symptoms of the imposter syndrome.
16:31And this, my dear audience,
16:32is due to the English culture itself.
16:34According to a trainer in Una, Brooklyn,
16:36in her article in The Guardian,
16:37Feeling Like an Imposter,
16:38her British clients were afraid of being classified as successful,
16:41because their society describes those who say that
16:43as arrogant, arrogant.
16:45And this is the opposite of her American clients,
16:47who were more open to their successes.
16:49Simply, we can take the expression of the psychologist
16:51Slazar Nunez,
16:52who says,
16:53The problem isn't necessarily the person,
16:55it can also be the setting or the culture.
16:57Depending on the difference of all these reasons,
16:59anyone who suffers from the imposter syndrome
17:01suffers from what is called pluralistic ignorance.
17:04His feeling that he is the only one who feels that he is an imposter,
17:06while all the people around him are fine.
17:08According to me, my dear audience,
17:09most of the people who share the same job,
17:11or even the environment,
17:12may feel that they are imposters.
17:14But the problem of the person who feels that he is an imposter,
17:16is that if he exposes his problem,
17:17and asks for help,
17:18then he is able to prove and confirm that he is an imposter.
17:20That's why, my dear audience,
17:21we see in front of us,
17:22a global consensus.
17:23All its heroes feel that their problem is rare.
17:25But everyone doesn't know that in front of them,
17:27they are the same.
17:28Insecure.
17:29Also, we don't know the effort that people around us put in.
17:32So naturally, because we don't see it,
17:33we imagine that this effort is big.
17:35So we feel that we are less efficient than the people around us.
17:39Now, my dear audience,
17:40the world is dealing with,
17:41with care and calm,
17:42with commitment.
17:43There are many reasons for this,
17:44which may be your intelligence genes,
17:45or your upbringing at home,
17:46or the culture of your society,
17:47or the color of your skin,
17:48or your gender.
17:49We see, my dear audience,
17:50a group of people who follow human development,
17:52trying to help.
17:53Books like The Middle Finger Project,
17:54which says in its author,
17:55that the most important question you ask yourself is,
17:56how would you behave if you were the best in the world?
17:58Another book,
17:59like The Imposter Syndrome Workbook,
18:00helps you imagine the voice of the occupier,
18:02as if he is worse than your choice,
18:03and makes you imagine that you are a vessel,
18:05that needs to be filled with love,
18:06and positive findings,
18:07and written accomplishments.
18:08You are the best in the world.
18:09Get rid of the haters,
18:10and the doubts.
18:11Of course, my dear,
18:12this is nice talk,
18:13and it can help, of course,
18:14but as I told you in the first episode,
18:15the praise and accomplishment
18:16of the occupier's occupier,
18:18can really get him in trouble.
18:20It makes him feel that he is an occupier.
18:22He is an occupier,
18:23to the extent that he consults a book,
18:24to tell him,
18:25how to be smarter in the occupation.
18:27You have, for example,
18:28the author, Daniel Kwan,
18:29who will win the Oscar for the famous movie,
18:30Everything Everywhere All at Once,
18:32a great movie, my dear,
18:33I recommend it.
18:34It's nice, I give it 9 out of 10,
18:35because the guy is a student,
18:36and he got 10 out of 10.
18:37Another thing, my dear,
18:38he will say,
18:39and he won the Oscar,
18:40for his accomplishment,
18:41and for the positive findings,
18:42that he gets from all over the world.
18:43They say the movie is nice,
18:44and he says,
18:45my imposter syndrome is at all time high.
18:48This doesn't do anything,
18:49but it proves that I am a clever occupier.
18:51Sometimes, my dear,
18:52I feel that there is a person
18:53who is tired.
18:54I mean, I feel cool,
18:55to show that I am an imposter.
18:56These positive findings,
18:57the best of them,
18:58is that they write the voice a little,
18:59that tells you that you are an occupier.
19:00And you stop it for a short time,
19:01then the voices come back.
19:02I mean, the director who won the Oscar,
19:04if he really has an imposter syndrome,
19:06he is definitely an occupier now,
19:07and he is working on the new movie.
19:08Where else will he go?
19:09Of course, when it comes out,
19:10people will know that this movie
19:11is not like the first two that won the Oscar.
19:13And if he won the Oscar,
19:14he will say that he knows how to
19:16get people to vote for him.
19:17And he will stay like that.
19:18Ripley, loop.
19:19But, my dear,
19:20it's not easy.
19:21It's not a magic trick.
19:22This recipe is successful.
19:23All the people read the books
19:24that I told you about,
19:25and confirmed for themselves
19:26that it is smarter,
19:27more beautiful,
19:28and better than what they see.
19:30Can I imagine a world like this?
19:31A secure, confident world,
19:33where all humans are confident
19:34in their intelligence and achievements.
19:36Imagine, my dear,
19:37a world where they eat
19:38self-doubt.
19:39Self-doubt.
19:40This is a disaster.
19:41In 1999,
19:42David Dunning and Justin Kruger
19:44published a research
19:46entitled
19:47Unskilled and Unaware of It.
19:49Meaning,
19:50I'm not smart,
19:51and I don't know I'm not smart.
19:52My dear,
19:53the respondents in this research
19:54were volunteers,
19:55and they were asked general questions,
19:56like law, medicine, logic,
19:57chess, and fishing.
19:58During each test,
19:59they asked the participants,
20:00what do you think you did?
20:01The results confirmed
20:02that the people
20:03who did badly in the tests
20:04rated their skills
20:05much higher.
20:06Meaning,
20:07those who got 10%
20:08said they'll get 70%.
20:09Most people
20:10who don't have an idea
20:11about the subject
20:12in which they were tested
20:13see that they are experts
20:14and teachers in it.
20:15Not only that,
20:16they also noticed
20:17that the more a person
20:18knows about the subject,
20:19the more he realizes
20:20that there are areas
20:21that he still doesn't know about.
20:22This, my dear,
20:23will be known
20:24by the effects of
20:25Dunning-Kruger.
20:26I made an episode about him
20:27on the old YouTube channel.
20:28This study, my dear,
20:29will win a prize
20:30called the Ig Nobel Prize.
20:31This is a prize
20:32that is usually given
20:33to the best researchers.
20:34This, my dear,
20:35is a statement
20:36that explains
20:37Dunning-Kruger's idea.
20:38The more you know,
20:39the less confidence you have.
20:40And the less you know,
20:41the more stupid you are
20:42and your self-confidence
20:43increases.
20:44In the words of
20:45the writer Robert Hughes,
20:46the more the artist,
20:47the scholar,
20:48the thinker,
20:49or the writer
20:50is great,
20:51the more their doubts increase.
20:52Complete confidence
20:53is a gift to people
20:54with the least talent
20:55for their talents.
20:56They can hurt their friends
20:57without feeling it.
20:58It's true, my dear,
20:59self-doubt
21:00can cause suffering,
21:01worry,
21:02and lost opportunities,
21:03and it consumes time,
21:04energy,
21:05psychology,
21:06insomnia,
21:07and overthinking
21:08before going to sleep.
21:09And the scholar
21:10will throw you
21:11at the end of the world
21:12to give you validation
21:13and compensate you
21:14for this doubt.
21:15But,
21:16despite all this pain,
21:17the doubt is important
21:18and has a decisive role
21:19in forming a good character.
21:20Doubt opens your eyes
21:21to your actions
21:22and allows you
21:23to grow.
21:24Happiness, my dear,
21:25is the confidence
21:26in our knowledge.
21:27It creates a sense of satisfaction
21:28that prevents us
21:29from learning,
21:30and prevents us
21:31from discovering
21:32other points of view
21:33and directions.
21:34Doubt teaches you
21:35to be humble,
21:36makes you hungry
21:37for knowledge,
21:38and makes you want
21:39to achieve more.
21:40While some achievements
21:41can close your mind
21:42and make you
21:43narrow your horizons.
21:44And when this happens,
21:45you will feel fulfilled
21:46and stop listening.
21:47I have achieved
21:48a certain achievement.
21:49If I decide it,
21:50I will remain successful.
21:51Congratulations, you failed.
21:52Your fulfillment, my dear,
21:53comes from your realization
21:54that they need to see
21:55their success.
21:56Try to look around
21:57all the time
21:58to get rid of it.
21:59Then tell me
22:00that the world
22:01will collapse
22:02if there is no doubt
22:03about it.
22:04And if I don't
22:05doubt myself,
22:06I will collapse.
22:07Doctor,
22:08Jill studied
22:09in an article
22:10titled
22:11How to Succeed
22:12Despite Imposter Syndrome
22:13How to Succeed
22:14Despite Imposter Syndrome
22:15She says
22:16that this obsessive-compulsive disorder
22:17didn't start
22:18in the 70s
22:19or in the industrial revolution.
22:20According to the same
22:21evolutionary science,
22:22we may have been programmed
22:23to believe
22:24that each one of us
22:25needs to realize
22:26his place in the group
22:27and always asks
22:28if he needs to add
22:29something to the group
22:30to ensure
22:31that the group
22:32doesn't leave him.
22:33Simply put,
22:34this was the meaning
22:35of collapse.
22:36The people
22:37who doubt themselves
22:38the most
22:39were the ones
22:40who contributed
22:41the most
22:42in saving the group
22:43with their efforts.
22:44As Einstein,
22:45Armstrong,
22:46writers,
22:47and artists
22:48always say,
22:49the obsession
22:50makes them
22:51save our civilization
22:52and save Texas.
22:53If we consider
22:54this obsessive-compulsive disorder
22:55to be a big deal,
22:56in the end,
22:57there is always a tax
22:58that doubting yourself
22:59is the only fuel
23:00that moves you
23:01towards success.
23:02This tax is paid
23:03by depression,
23:04anxiety,
23:05and finally,
23:06sometimes,
23:07by getting rid of people.
23:08This, my dear,
23:09is the result
23:10that most sources
23:11agree on.
23:12For anyone who suffers
23:13from obsessive-compulsive disorder
23:14without facing it
23:15because they are
23:16simply humans
23:17who didn't get out
23:18of the minds
23:19of the fishermen
23:20who fight
23:21for their livelihood
23:22or their sex,
23:23they will have to
23:24double their efforts.
23:25They may feel
23:26the same threat
23:27and danger
23:28as their ancestors
23:29and if they stop
23:30for a moment
23:31and believe
23:32that they are not
23:33obsessed
23:34and that they are
23:35useful to the group
23:36and deserve
23:37the place they are in,
23:38the group
23:39may be satisfied
23:40and the danger
23:41may come.
23:42The point,
23:43my dear,
23:44is that you need
23:45doubt
23:46to be able
23:47to develop yourself
23:48but you don't
23:49need this doubt
23:50either to be satisfied
23:51with yourself
23:52and your knowledge
23:53or to increase the need.
23:54Instead,
23:55all you need
23:56is to be healthy
23:57between doubt
23:58and certainty.
23:59We need these two,
24:00my dear,
24:01we need to be
24:02doubtful
24:03at times
24:04and certain
24:05at other times.
24:06That's it,
24:07my dear.
24:08Finally,
24:09we will watch
24:10the last episode
24:11and the next one.
24:12Click on the sources
24:13and we will subscribe
24:14to the channel
24:15on YouTube.
24:16Honestly,
24:17I want to confess
24:18that while I am
24:19in this room,
24:20Ahmed Daby calls
24:21himself Zohan
24:22because simply
24:23no one is around
24:24in this room.
24:25I am myself,
24:26a voice inside you.
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