WES and Cassandra met on a dating app and hit it off immediately. Talking to Love Don't Judge, Wes explained: "I think it was an immediate connection to be quite frank and we also love fashion, so that's definitely something that pulled us closer together." Standing at 5'10" tall, Cassandra is five inches taller than Wes, who is 5'5" - and their height difference is something that many like to comment on. Wes said: "Some of the misconceptions that people make is that I can't protect her, she is not feminine, that I suffer from short man syndrome." Cassandra added: "There are some people who say the most vile and nasty things about our height difference." In this episode of Love Don't Judge, the couple will be having an honest conversation with Cassandra's brother, Curtis, to see what he really thinks about their relationship. Speaking candidly with his brother-in-law, Wes asks: "Would you ever date a woman who's taller than you?"
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00:00This is Wes.
00:02He fell in love with...
00:04Cassandra.
00:06People judge us because my wife, Cassandra, is taller than me.
00:09Girls think my husband is my son.
00:11Some of the misconceptions that people make is that I can't protect her,
00:15she is not feminine,
00:17that I suffer from short man syndrome.
00:20Today we're going to be speaking to my twin brother, Curtis.
00:22It was definitely something that was like,
00:24oh wow.
00:26Didn't see that coming.
00:27Would you ever date a woman that's taller than you?
00:29I wonder what we're going to wear today.
00:34Let's go in my closet and figure it out.
00:36My name is Cassandra.
00:37My name is Wes, and people judge us because my wife, Cassandra, is taller than me.
00:41Wes and I met on a dating app in 2017.
00:44I thought he was cute, he was funny.
00:47I think it was an immediate connection, to be quite frank.
00:50And we also love fashion,
00:52and so that's something that definitely pulled us closer together.
00:59Do you want anything to drink? Like anything in particular?
01:02I'm not ice shy.
01:03Ice shy? Okay.
01:04I'm 5'10".
01:05And I'm 5'5".
01:06So we're 5 inches apart, but when I wear heels I'm about 8 inches.
01:11For me, I didn't necessarily have an issue with dating anybody taller than me,
01:15so I just knew that as long as I'm attracted to the person that I'm with,
01:19that's all that matters.
01:20So we actually knew about each other's heights early on.
01:23She just told me she was 5'10", and we never really made a big deal about it.
01:28When I started dating, I didn't want to date anybody shorter than me
01:31because I was just so focused on what would people think about me and the stigma.
01:35However, once I got serious, it was like, you know what,
01:38I really want to find my person.
01:40I kind of let the height thing go.
01:42And I was just like, you know what, it is what it is.
01:44The person is shorter than me, they're shorter than me, it's fine.
01:47As long as I'm attracted to them and they dress good, I'm set to go.
01:52I guess Wes was the first person I was just like,
01:54height really didn't matter, it wasn't a factor for me.
01:58I have dated someone that has been taller than me several times, actually.
02:02Some of the misconceptions that people make is that I can't protect her,
02:06she is not feminine, that I suffer from short man syndrome,
02:11which means that I actually have an anger problem,
02:13that she walks all over me and I have no say-so in this relationship.
02:17Like a complete change of power dynamics
02:20just because she's taller than me and I'm shorter than her.
02:22We should do a TikTok video because we look really good.
02:25Yeah, why not? Let's go ahead, we're going to do a fit check kind of video?
02:28Yeah, we should do a fit check.
02:29Sounds good.
02:30Hey, what's up y'all? Today we're going to do a quick fit check,
02:33starting off with me, of course.
02:36We started posting on social media actively,
02:38so we would do some content as a couple,
02:40but then we also did a lot of lifestyle as well as fashion content.
02:44Passing it over to my wife.
02:47Alright, what up guys?
02:49Today is something simple but cute, so you guys know how it is.
02:53I do.
02:54When we actually got married, we posted on TikTok and we went viral.
02:58We just wanted to post about being a couple,
03:00I think because we both like to dress,
03:02so that was just something that we shared in common
03:05and just did videos because we look good.
03:07So height wasn't a factor.
03:09And there you have it. Let us know what you guys think.
03:12Of course, I think we got a 10 out of 10.
03:14When I was looking for somebody to date,
03:17one of my non-negotiables was,
03:18if you don't know how to dress, I don't want to be with you.
03:22When I met Wes and I saw he can dress,
03:24and he can really put an outfit together,
03:26and he has his own sense of personal style,
03:28I was like, okay.
03:29You look good back there.
03:32People just say all kinds of crazy things on the internet
03:35when they don't feel like it's deemed normal.
03:38For the most part, it is positivity.
03:40However, there are people that just say the most vile and nasty things
03:45about our height difference.
03:47So let's take a look at some of the comments
03:49that we've actually had on our recent videos.
03:51Why does she have to wear heels all the time?
03:53Because I can.
03:54Because you can and you should.
03:56I love when you wear heels.
03:58You love it too, Shannon?
04:00Someone said he's so down-to-earth.
04:03Why am I now seeing that?
04:05That's your hand purse.
04:07You would have thought that, like, you know,
04:09I was some type of alien or something like that.
04:12A lot of people do think that it's peculiar and it's unusual.
04:16And so we get a lot of troll comments.
04:18The man will definitely remain faithful, that's for sure.
04:21Which is so crazy to me because, yes, I am going to remain faithful,
04:24but a cheater's a cheater, and your height doesn't necessarily matter
04:27if you're going to cheat or not.
04:29Then another comment was, like, we want to see your bed.
04:31We have a standard king-size bed, to be quite frank.
04:35A long-distance relationship.
04:38We're only five inches away.
04:40Like, it's not even that big of a difference, but OK.
04:44Somebody said, which one is the man?
04:46What is so concerning about some of these comments
04:49is because there is a height difference in our relationship,
04:52all of a sudden you're no longer feminine, I'm no longer masculine,
04:55and that's not true at all.
04:57And it's just weird to me that people would say that.
05:00I've always been in my soft girl era, never had to get taken out of it.
05:04I rest in my femininity.
05:06He wears the pants. I'm a princess.
05:09The worst reaction that we've ever gotten was they said that my wife,
05:12Cassandra, was actually my mother and I was her son.
05:16It was quite distasteful because I'm not even too sure
05:19what made that person even say that comment.
05:21Honestly, I don't care. I'm a confident person.
05:24I know who I am as a person.
05:26You can say whatever you like, have your own opinion,
05:28but it's your opinion. It's like a nose. Everybody has one.
05:31Yes, I felt a sense of disappointment,
05:34but overall, like, I could care less about what people have to say.
05:38These negative comments actually brought us closer.
05:40At the end of the day, we come online, social media, to, like, show ourselves.
05:44Outside of that, we're not going to pay attention to any of the negative comments.
05:47When we first started dating, on the outside, people would just stare at us,
05:51you know, not really say anything.
05:53How my family and friends reacted, it wasn't really a reaction.
05:56My dad would make a little bit of a joke and be like,
05:59oh, you're just dragging Wes around town.
06:01I'm like, ha ha ha, so funny.
06:03The height difference, so to speak, was not really a factor
06:06with any of my friends or family.
06:08The only comment that I got is, like, when my mom first saw Cassandra,
06:11she was like, wow, she's tall.
06:13But my mom thinks she's actually an Amazon beautiful goddess,
06:17so it's like, you know.
06:20I grew up with my twin brother. We were very close,
06:22and he's never met anybody that I used to date.
06:25He just wanted somebody that had, like, a sense of protection
06:29and that can protect me.
06:31Hey, bro, how are you?
06:33Yo.
06:34What's up, man? How's it going?
06:36What's going on? How y'all doing?
06:38We're doing good, bro. No complaints.
06:40So I just wanted to know, like, what was your first thoughts when you met Wes?
06:44I'll be honest.
06:46It's a dude meeting my sister at the end of the day.
06:49You know, somebody that's interested in my sister.
06:53Take it with a, I don't know, precaution.
06:56I guess it's a brotherly thing to do at the end of the day.
06:59But since I've known him, chill dude, cool dude,
07:04cool dude, get dressed.
07:07Yeah, the only reservations I had this Saturday night
07:10was just making sure that you're treated well.
07:13That was your only reservation?
07:15I mean, yeah.
07:18Now, if you want to get to the grid,
07:20you talk about the court part.
07:22It was definitely something that was like, oh, wow.
07:26Didn't see that coming.
07:28First of all, I didn't know Cassandra's taste,
07:31so being you was kind of like, okay, sure.
07:36Yo, bro, quick question, though.
07:38Would you ever date a woman that's taller than you?
07:41Yeah, 100%.
07:43Probably not to the 7-foot range, to be honest with you,
07:46but, you know, 6'3", 6'4".
07:50I was living with somebody that was taller than me,
07:53and I didn't mind at all.
07:55I really realized that whenever heels was on,
07:57I was kind of like, oh, wow.
08:01But I'm glad to see that you are happy.
08:04It's beautiful to have that arm that I see you guys have.
08:07It's nice. It's really nice.
08:10Appreciate that, man.
08:12I'm gonna start crying now.
08:15All right, bro, thank you so much for chit-chatting with us today.
08:19I really appreciate it.
08:21I hope you enjoy the rest of your day, and I'll talk to you soon.
08:24Likewise, bro. Have a good time. All right.
08:27Peace.
08:28Our relationship works really well because we're one and the same.
08:32Every day we put our best foot forward in regards to the relationship,
08:35and I think that has kept us here where we are.
08:38And this is my bestie.
08:40What I love most about Cassandra is actually her compassion.
08:44What I love most about Wes is that he is so caring,
08:48and he just wants the best for anybody that's in his circle.
08:52He wants me to win. He supports me.
08:55I understand that we are clearly in a different relationship,
08:59and you don't typically see that every day.
09:02If you can't necessarily comprehend or figure out
09:05or even wrap your mind around to understand
09:08how do two people actually get into a relationship, fall in love,
09:12please just keep your judgments to yourself.
09:14Also, stop believing what society has in place for us.
09:17The more you start believing what you want
09:19and start really having an inner look at yourself and loving yourself,
09:24you won't care what society has to say,
09:26or you won't care what is deemed normal.