PRACTICES TO BE MORE VALUED (STOICISM)
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00:00Modernity puts us in an interesting paradox.
00:04We are more connected than ever, but also often feel lonelier.
00:08We are filled with commitments and tasks, yet often feel ignored or undervalued by those
00:14we consider important.
00:16In the current landscape, we all want to feel important to our close circle, but often feel
00:22as though we are not as important to them as they are to us.
00:27Stoicism and philosophy can offer valuable guidance.
00:30The Stoics teach us to find value within ourselves and not to rely solely on the recognition
00:36of others.
00:38But how can we apply these teachings in our daily lives to be more valued by those around
00:43us?
00:44This video explores effective strategies aligned with Stoicism and philosophy to gain priority
00:50in the lives of others and determine if these people have a genuine interest in us.
00:56It's important to note this is not about manipulative strategies or tricks, but about
01:02a wise and authentic approach to building genuine high-value relationships.
01:07As the famous saying goes, show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are.
01:13If you're not a priority for them, these people probably don't have a genuine and authentic
01:18interest in you.
01:20Within this ancient philosophy, we find principles to balance our needs and relationships.
01:26The essence is to be valuable without being needy.
01:30The first step to gaining priority in the lives of others is to create a sense of loss.
01:36When you are always available and respond immediately, people assume you'll always
01:41be there.
01:42In the fast-paced modern world, time is a precious resource and Stoicism teaches us
01:49to give it its proper value.
01:51You should allow people to miss you and occasionally notice your absence.
01:55The Stoics remind us that we can't control what happens around us, but we can control
02:00how we respond.
02:02By valuing your time and attention, you become someone who respects themselves, and others
02:08will start to see you as a valuable person.
02:11Don't be afraid to say no or not to respond immediately to requests.
02:17Practice the art of patience and let others value your time as much as you do.
02:21The art of cultivating patience is a skill that can enrich your life in countless ways.
02:28In the philosophy of Stoicism, we find the concept that patience is more than just a
02:33virtue.
02:34It's a vital force in a turbulent world of constant distractions and upheavals.
02:39Think of patience as a skill, an ability to remain stable and serene amidst chaos.
02:46By embracing tranquility, you become a beacon of stability, an example of composure in tumultuous times.
02:54This skill of calmly waiting without succumbing to the immediacy and pressures of the now
02:59does not imply passivity.
03:02On the contrary, it's an act of inner strength and emotional mastery.
03:06By practicing patience, you not only preserve yourself from the turbulence of emotions,
03:12but also project an image of confidence and resilience.
03:17It's as if you become an oasis of calm that attracts others, offering a refuge from the
03:22constant storm of everyday life.
03:25Furthermore, patience directly influences how others perceive and value your presence.
03:31In a world where everyone is always rushing, those who know how to wait wisely stand out.
03:38You will be seen as someone who is not dominated by impatience and immediacy, but who ponders
03:44and acts with consideration.
03:46To become someone whose presence is valued and sought after, it's essential to start
03:51with yourself.
03:53Prioritizing yourself is not a selfish act.
03:56It's a necessary step to establish the value of your time and attention.
04:01By doing so, you teach others the importance of valuing not only themselves, but also the
04:07time and effort you offer.
04:10It's crucial to learn to say no occasionally.
04:14Constant availability can be interpreted as a lack of self-worth, leading others to
04:19assume that your time and attention are always available without the need for appreciation
04:24or recognition.
04:26In summary, practicing patience and valuing yourself are fundamental steps to being recognized
04:32and appreciated in any environment.
04:35By mastering these skills, you not only benefit yourself, but also provide others with an
04:42inspiring example of balance and resilience.
04:46The wisdom of the Stoics, like that of Seneca, offers us a valuable lesson on the importance
04:51of being masters of our own time.
04:54This philosophy encourages us to carefully reflect on how and with whom we spend our
04:59time, emphasizing the need to make deliberate and conscious choices.
05:05Seneca reminds us that time is a precious resource, and managing it wisely is essential
05:11for a fulfilling and meaningful life.
05:14The ability to say no to others respectfully is a crucial aspect of this time management.
05:20It's not a matter of selfishness, but rather of self-respect and recognizing the value
05:25of our own time and needs.
05:28Epicurus, on the other hand, invites us to ponder freedom and self-control.
05:33His words resonate powerfully.
05:35No man is free who is not master of himself.
05:39This phrase underlines the idea that true freedom and autonomy arise from mastery over
05:45our own decisions and emotions.
05:47It's not just about controlling our external actions, but also governing our inner world,
05:53our thoughts, feelings, and reactions.
05:56Stoicism values living according to our principles and values, and this includes how we handle
06:02our time and energy.
06:04By choosing not to be always available, we demonstrate that we value our time and energy,
06:10thereby cultivating respect for ourselves and others.
06:15This mutual respect naturally leads others to prioritize us more in their lives.
06:21Therefore, understanding and applying these Stoic and Epicurean teachings can lead us
06:26to a more balanced and fulfilling life.
06:29By valuing our time and being selective in our commitments, we not only improve our own
06:35life but also positively influence those around us.
06:39This is the essence of living with purpose and integrity guided by principles that reflect
06:45our true self.
06:46The pursuit of becoming more important and a priority in the lives of others leads us
06:51to explore the art of mystery.
06:54Being there is a natural inclination to openly share our feelings, thoughts, and aspirations
07:00with others.
07:01However, this practice of overexposure can paradoxically reduce the perception of our
07:08value.
07:09Humans are naturally drawn to the unknown and unexplored, valuing what seems rare or
07:15out of reach.
07:16If you are committed to your evolution, leave this phrase in the comments, I commit to myself
07:22and write today's date.
07:24To ensure it's not forgotten, let's continue.
07:27The Stoic teachings, which emphasize self-discipline and self-control, guide us to approach our
07:34interactions with a calculated reserve.
07:37Maintaining an air of mystery is not about hiding our true identity, but rather about
07:43revealing our essence gradually and thoughtfully.
07:47This strategy not only preserves our privacy, but also stimulates the curiosity and interest
07:54of others.
07:55When it comes to conversations and social interactions, opting for vaguer and less detailed
08:00responses about personal history or intimate secrets can be a wise approach.
08:06This doesn't mean being evasive or dishonest, but rather carefully choosing what to share
08:12and when to do it.
08:13In this way, you invite others to take a more active interest in your story, maintaining
08:19a continuous focus on yourself.
08:22By practicing this approach, you not only safeguard significant aspects of your life,
08:28but also create an environment where people feel motivated to learn more about you.
08:33This can lead to deeper and more meaningful interactions, where the gradual revelation
08:38of your personality and experiences happens naturally and authentically, increasing your
08:45importance and priority in the lives of others.
08:48Seneca's quote, Fortune favors the bold, resonates deeply when applied to the art of
08:54sharing personal information.
08:56In this context, boldness is not about reckless actions, but about the wisdom of knowing how
09:02much information to share, and at what moment.
09:06There is a delicate balance between being open and reserved, and the ability to navigate
09:12this duality can significantly increase your attractiveness and importance to others.
09:18The concept of maintaining an air of mystery, as addressed by Stoic philosophy, is a powerful
09:24tool.
09:25By doing so, you spark others' curiosity.
09:29People are naturally drawn to the unknown and the potential for discovery.
09:34When you leave room for others to wonder about aspects of your life, you become more
09:39interesting and attractive in their eyes.
09:42As Stoicism teaches, it's essential to focus on what is within our control.
09:47The amount of personal information we share undoubtedly falls into this category.
09:53By consciously controlling this aspect, you're not hiding, but choosing to share yourself
09:59in a strategic and thoughtful way.
10:02This practice allows you to reveal yourself gradually, maintaining others' interest
10:07and respect.
10:08Furthermore, it's important to remember that seeking constant approval from others
10:13can lead to dissatisfaction.
10:15By maintaining a bit of mystery, you allow others to value you for who you truly are,
10:21not just for what you choose to show.
10:24This can lead to more authentic and meaningful connections where appreciation arises not
10:30from the amount of information shared, but from the quality of your essence and presence.
10:35Therefore, the true boldness lies in being strategic and deliberate regarding the sharing
10:41of personal information, thus maintaining a balance that enhances your importance and
10:46attraction to others.
10:48The idea of allowing others to invest in you is a powerful concept and a crucial step in
10:54the journey to becoming more important and a priority in their lives.
10:59This approach goes beyond ego.
11:01It touches on the fundamental human desire to feel valued and useful.
11:06Seneca, in Historic Wisdom, highlighted that people feel gratified when chosen to contribute
11:13to someone's life, thereby enriching their own experiences.
11:18Allowing others to contribute to your life can take many forms.
11:22It can be as simple as accepting a compliment with gratitude or acknowledging and valuing
11:27someone's assistance or advice.
11:30By doing this, you not only receive something valuable, but also provide others with the
11:36satisfaction of feeling appreciated and important.
11:40This creates a cycle of positivity and mutual respect where everyone involved benefits.
11:47This principle is in harmony with the Stoic view of human interdependence.
11:52Our society is a complex web of relationships and interactions, and recognizing our mutual
11:58need for support and collaboration is vital.
12:03Stoicism teaches us that there is no weakness in asking for help or accepting support.
12:08On the contrary, these acts strengthen human connections and promote cooperation.
12:14By opening ourselves to receiving help, guidance, or even a gesture of kindness, we create a
12:21more profound and meaningful relationship dynamic.
12:25People feel more invested in our lives when their actions and contributions are acknowledged
12:30and valued.
12:31This, in turn, increases the likelihood of them considering us a priority in their lives.
12:37In summary, by allowing others to invest in you, you not only enrich your own life, but
12:44also provide others the joy and satisfaction of being part of something bigger.
12:50This mutual recognition and appreciation are key to building strong and lasting relationships,
12:56where you become an important and prioritized person for others.
13:01Let's return to the core of Stoicism and talk about independence.
13:05An ancient Stoic, Epicurus, taught us that it's not what happens to you, but how you
13:11react that matters.
13:13Independence in Stoicism doesn't mean complete isolation from others, but rather autonomy
13:19and self-governance.
13:20It's the ability to make conscious decisions without overly depending on external approval
13:27or influence.
13:29Practicing independence is a crucial element in increasing your value and importance in
13:34the lives of others.
13:36Within Stoic philosophy, independence is not just a matter of physical or financial autonomy.
13:42It's primarily an independence of thought and action.
13:46This independence manifests in how you adhere to your own ethics and values, which in turn
13:52fosters respect and admiration from others.
13:56Being independent means being the guardian of your own morality and principles.
14:01By demonstrating that you act according to your convictions, and not merely following
14:06the expectations or pressures of others, you gain a respect that transcends mere popularity.
14:13Your integrity becomes a beacon to others, highlighting your uniqueness and strength.
14:19Furthermore, independence fosters authenticity in your relationships.
14:25Instead of being a mere passive participant or follower in social dynamics, you position
14:31yourself as an individual who actively contributes to the well-being of others.
14:36This doesn't mean that you isolate yourself or reject the help of others.
14:41On the contrary, it means that you engage in relationships from a position of strength
14:46and self-awareness, capable of offering as much as you receive.
14:51Independence, as shaped by Stoicism, involves strong self-discipline, self-awareness, and
14:58self-control.
15:00These are attractive qualities to those who value strong and integrins individuals.
15:06By cultivating these characteristics, you become an example to be followed, influencing
15:12others through your actions and attitudes.
15:15Additionally, being generous and open to allowing others to contribute to your life is an essential
15:22complement to independence.
15:25This combination of autonomy and receptivity creates a healthy balance, where you not only
15:31maintain yourself as a strong and self-sufficient individual, but also recognize the value of
15:37others' contributions.
15:39This enhances your attraction and respect in the eyes of others.
15:43Ultimately, the true richness of life flies in the depth and meaning of relationships
15:49and connections.
15:50By cultivating independence while remaining open to the contributions of others, you create
15:57a virtuous circle of mutual appreciation and respect.
16:01This not only strengthens your personal relationships, but also expands your impact and importance
16:07in the lives of others.
16:09In our journey to become more important and a priority to others, it's essential to prioritize
16:15our needs.
16:16This is key to learning to be more valued by others.
16:20Often, we end up sacrificing our own needs for the sake of others, leading to excessive
16:26exploitation and a lack of respect for ourselves.
16:30In today's society, there is often the promotion of the idea that we should always be available
16:35to everyone.
16:36However, this is not only unsustainable, but can also make others see you as an inexhaustible
16:43resource, draining your attention and valuable time.
16:47Stoic philosophy teaches us that we must take responsibility for our own life and well-being.
16:53Establishing healthy boundaries and prioritizing our own needs before attending to others.
16:59The Stoic philosopher Epictetus expressed this profound idea.
17:03First, say to yourself what you would be, and then do what you have to do.
17:09This statement encapsulates one of the fundamental principles of Stoicism, which has a significant
17:16impact on how we relate to ourselves and others.
17:20It prompts us to engage in an act of self-affirmation and self-knowledge before undertaking any
17:26action in life.
17:28This self-affirmation involves recognizing our needs, desires, and personal values, understanding
17:35that these need to be met before we can be truly valuable to others.
17:40The Stoic perspective, as you've described, offers a profound insight into achieving a
17:46life full of meaning and value, both for oneself and for others.
17:51This approach emphasizes that true value and virtue begin within us with the cultivation
17:57of self-mastery and self-knowledge.
18:00Seeking self-approval rather than constantly depending on external validation is one of
18:06the cornerstones of Stoicism.
18:09This pursuit of self-approval is not an act of selfishness, but rather a recognition of
18:14the importance of self-acceptance and confidence in our own identity and goals.
18:20When we are secure in who we are and what we want, we project an authentic confidence
18:26that naturally attracts others.
18:29This confidence doesn't come from arrogance, but from a clear and honest understanding
18:35of our capabilities, limitations, and values.
18:39Epictetus, one of the great Stoic philosophers, emphasized the importance of aligning our
18:44actions with our intentions and words.
18:47It's not enough to just state our virtues and goals.
18:51We need to back up our words with consistent actions.
18:55This congruence between what we say and what we do is crucial for establishing our integrity
19:01and trustworthiness.
19:04When our actions reflect our values and authentic identity, we strengthen our value in the eyes
19:10of others.
19:12Authenticity and integrity are highly valued and attract those who respect such qualities.
19:18Furthermore, by defining our values and goals through introspection and self-assessment,
19:24we create an internal compass that guides our decisions and actions.
19:30This internal guidance allows us to navigate the complexities of life with greater clarity
19:35and purpose, strengthening our character and our ability to positively impact those around
19:41us.
19:42In summary, Stoic philosophy teaches us that to be truly valuable to others, we must first
19:48cultivate virtues within ourselves.
19:52This creates a foundation of authenticity and integrity, enabling us to live meaningfully
19:58and establish deep and valuable relationships with others.
20:02Here we reach the crucial point of this video.
20:06Don't center your life around others.
20:08In today's society, we often fall into the trap of putting others on a pedestal, losing
20:14our own direction.
20:16Don't make others the center of your life.
20:18Don't always be available.
20:21Value your time and attention, and you'll see how it makes you more valuable to others.
20:26Here we reach the crucial point of this video.
20:29Don't center your life around others.
20:31In today's society, we often fall into the trap of putting others on a pedestal, losing
20:37our own direction.
20:39Don't make others the center of your life.
20:42Don't always be available.
20:44Value your time and attention, and you'll see how it makes you more valuable to others.
20:50No one can harm you without your consent.
20:53Don't allow others to define or control you.
20:56This powerful quote is a reminder that, ultimately, we are the guardians of our inner peace and
21:02emotional well-being.
21:04In a world where critical opinions and judgments of others can be pervasive, it's essential
21:09to understand that we have the power to choose how they affect us.
21:14Stoicism teaches us to cultivate the virtue of selective indifference, meaning we must
21:19learn to discern what deserves our attention.
21:23Being masters of our minds and emotions is a call to self-reflection and authenticity.
21:29The authenticity of being who we are without fear of external judgment.
21:34When we internalize this stoic principle, we become masters of our own fate, and our
21:40self-esteem and self-respect flourish, culminating in making you more valuable and important
21:46to others.
21:47Therefore, when facing challenges and criticisms in our lives, let's remember this powerful
21:53truth from Marcus Aurelius.
21:56No one can harm you without your consent.
21:59Stop initiating conversation.
22:02In a world where constant communication is the norm, this may seem challenging, but it
22:07has its roots in stoic wisdom.
22:10Stoics like Epictetus reminded us of the importance of listening more than speaking.
22:15Allowing others to initiate conversation lets you learn more about them and yourself.
22:20When you're always ready to talk, you can appear anxious and sometimes self-centered,
22:26which often pushes people away.
22:28Patience and willingness to let others initiate conversations align with building genuine
22:33high-value relationships.
22:36This approach, focused on applying stoic principles in daily life, is a powerful tool for personal
22:43growth and strengthening genuine and meaningful relationships.
22:48By incorporating concepts such as the creation of a fear of loss, practicing patience, moderating
22:55availability, maintaining a certain mystery, being open to receiving investments from others,
23:01prioritizing one's own needs, cultivating independence, and the ability to let others
23:07initiate interactions, you are positioning yourself for a more balanced and authentic
23:13life.
23:14It's important to highlight that the core of stoicism goes beyond its impact on external
23:19relations.
23:20It promotes a profound transformation in the relationship we have with ourselves.
23:26By following these principles, you learn to find serenity amid chaos, make more thoughtful
23:31decisions and face adversity with robust mental strength.
23:36These skills are essential for a fulfilling and meaningful life.
23:41If you are looking to deepen your knowledge and practice of stoicism, any book on the
23:45subject can be a valuable resource.
23:49This reading can provide additional insights into how to cultivate these stoic virtues
23:54in your everyday life, helping you further develop your resilience, wisdom, and balance.
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