Married at First Sight UK S9 Episode 30
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00:00:00Good morning, universe!
00:00:03Previously, homestays were a family affair.
00:00:07I'll snap your mouth.
00:00:08As Polly and Adam made a major breakthrough...
00:00:11You've actually shocked me.
00:00:12You can actually be loving and a really nice lady.
00:00:15Yes!
00:00:18..for Christina and Kieran...
00:00:20I need to figure out the situation
00:00:21and know what the right move is to take next.
00:00:23..time apart pushed them to consider their fate.
00:00:25To see yourself spending the rest of your life with him.
00:00:28Yeah, I do really like him.
00:00:29Christina deserves somebody to love her.
00:00:32I'm going to get upset now.
00:00:34And for Sasha and Ross...
00:00:38..the pull of loved ones...
00:00:39Can't Sasha stay?
00:00:41No!
00:00:42..raised uncertainties.
00:00:44I need to be here.
00:00:45I really can't be away from them.
00:00:48It kills me.
00:00:49But it was Luke's thoughtless comments...
00:00:51In here, you look a bit, like, bloated.
00:00:54Luke's saying I basically look hideous.
00:00:56..and a disastrous meeting with Amy's friends...
00:00:59Adult entertainment,
00:01:00is that something you see yourself doing moving forward?
00:01:02This is definitely an attempt to assassinate my character.
00:01:05..that left the marriage...
00:01:06As of now, I'm a single man.
00:01:08..hanging in the balance.
00:01:10Well, bleep, then.
00:01:11I don't know why you're still sat here.
00:01:13Maybe it's not meant to be after all.
00:01:18..tonight...
00:01:19I've seen a side to Polly that are chilled, giggling, smiling.
00:01:23..the final commitment ceremony brings out the best in some couples...
00:01:27I feel like we're tap dancing round the love at the minute.
00:01:30I haven't felt this way about someone before.
00:01:33..as tensions continue for others...
00:01:36I felt humiliated, I felt disrespected, I felt violated.
00:01:39Why can't you grow the f*** up?
00:01:41It makes me feel uncomfortable.
00:01:43I can't feel anything but anger towards him right now.
00:01:46..and after a difficult homestay apart...
00:01:48To go from that wedding to then how we are now,
00:01:52that is what kills me.
00:01:54..Kieran questions the future of his marriage...
00:01:57I just don't know how much I've got in us
00:01:59for the amount of emotional support Christina needs.
00:02:02..while the dilemma of where to call home...
00:02:05The situation is affecting me.
00:02:07..pushes Sasha and Ross to crisis point.
00:02:10I really wanted to do everything I could to make you happy.
00:02:23I think Barnes' spread's gone a bit hard.
00:02:28..after time away at homestays, the couples are back at the apartments.
00:02:33What are you wearing today?
00:02:35My blue cord with feather arms.
00:02:38You're going to look like a peacock.
00:02:41It's like a football.
00:02:43It is, isn't it?
00:02:46Is it?
00:02:48It's not a good thing for me and Christina to be apart.
00:02:51She's always in my mind.
00:02:53You know what you're doing, what you're up to.
00:02:56Christina is one of the most amazing girls I could ever wish to meet.
00:02:59She's beautiful inside and out.
00:03:01I care about the girl.
00:03:03I care about how she feels.
00:03:05I care about what she's going through.
00:03:07I care about what she's going through.
00:03:09I care about what she's going through.
00:03:12I care about the girl. I care about how she feels.
00:03:15All I've ever done is put other people first.
00:03:18I need to focus on what I want out of life and where I want to be
00:03:22and who I want to do that with.
00:03:29I haven't seen Kieran since the really emotional dinner party.
00:03:33I've missed him. I haven't stopped thinking about him.
00:03:36I just want to know that he's all right.
00:03:40It hurts because we were really happy.
00:03:45He knows that I want a future with him and I'm fighting for him.
00:03:57I actually enjoyed seeing all your family again.
00:03:59Your mum made me feel ridiculously welcome.
00:04:02I didn't want you to feel out of place or uncomfortable,
00:04:05like you couldn't do anything.
00:04:07I've seen a different side to you that I preferred.
00:04:10Yeah.
00:04:12I feel like you seeing that and your positive response to that,
00:04:15I feel like that's definitely something that I've got to be more mindful of.
00:04:19Me and Adam are in genuinely one of the best positions we've ever been in.
00:04:24The way Adam was with me when we were at my homestays
00:04:27was just a lot more relaxed.
00:04:29He gravitated towards me more.
00:04:31It was really nice to see.
00:04:34Hopefully it can continue now we're back in the apartment,
00:04:36do you know what I mean?
00:04:38Me and Polly are in a pretty good place at the moment.
00:04:40We've always said we like that we're both family orientated
00:04:43and she's so close with her family.
00:04:46I would like to think this new side of Polly will continue.
00:04:49Time will tell and we've just got to see what will happen.
00:04:58Me and Luke haven't benefited from homestays at all.
00:05:01It started shit, it ended shit.
00:05:03He's made an awful first impression in front of my friends.
00:05:07I've not seen him since and we've stayed in separate apartments.
00:05:12I'm absolutely dreading seeing Luke at the commitment ceremony today.
00:05:17Right now I just feel so much anger towards him.
00:05:20I don't even want to look at his face.
00:05:22I just feel so let down.
00:05:24As soon as somebody lies to me, that breaks the trust.
00:05:27I have no idea what goes on in his brain.
00:05:29I have no idea why he lies and I have no time left for it.
00:05:38I haven't seen Amy since I took the ring off at the restaurant with her friends.
00:05:43I really wanted to meet Amy's friends
00:05:46and I feel like Amy squandered the opportunity
00:05:48by dealing with it the way she did on the night.
00:05:52I feel like there was an agenda to upset me, to attack me
00:05:56and Amy seemed to be the one that was egging it on,
00:05:59so I find that very hurtful.
00:06:01And I took my ring off.
00:06:03And, yeah, it just makes me feel even more disappointed.
00:06:07I'm in no shape or form any better in terms of deciding
00:06:11what my headspace is at with Amy.
00:06:20Homestays went really, really well.
00:06:23Other than the confusion on where to move to,
00:06:26we did have a good homestays.
00:06:30But this morning, I'm feeling pretty deflated.
00:06:34Me and Ross had an argument last night.
00:06:36Ross threw his dummy at the pram for absolutely no reason.
00:06:40I'm at the end of my tether.
00:06:43He doesn't have to react the way he does.
00:06:45My drama is your drama, your drama is my drama.
00:06:48In recent weeks, Sasha and Ross have found it difficult to resolve
00:06:52conflict in their marriage.
00:06:54You should have your wife's back, always.
00:06:57I don't have a problem, Ross. I am.
00:07:00Ross doesn't say a word to me, Sian.
00:07:03Grabs his two suitcases, starts putting all his trainers in.
00:07:07Honest to God, it was awful.
00:07:09No, no. Wedding ring fell across the floor.
00:07:12I'll stop doing that.
00:07:14I am not comfortable with you being in this apartment.
00:07:18I'm going.
00:07:23I feel like shit because last night,
00:07:25Sasha's attitude towards me was stupid.
00:07:28I had enough. I just wanted to leave because it's too much for me.
00:07:33I've not seen her since. I've not spoken to her.
00:07:41Hello, my baby girl.
00:07:47How's your homestay been?
00:07:49Our homestays was really good.
00:07:51But literally, the day we get back... Yeah.
00:07:54..out for a drink, all of a sudden, out of nowhere,
00:07:57Ross lost his temper and stormed off.
00:08:11Have you spoke to her?
00:08:13Oh, yeah.
00:08:19Ross, you messaged Sasha saying,
00:08:22stay in separate rooms tonight.
00:08:25That's a lot. You're both very angry.
00:08:29When he left, he texted me saying,
00:08:31I can do better and everyone will see that I deserve better.
00:08:35The only person I can see that deserves better is me.
00:08:38Because I've put so much into the relationship,
00:08:41I completely support him all the time.
00:08:43You deserve better than that. But, yeah, what more do you want?
00:08:46What more can I give?
00:08:48Her response was, good luck finding somebody
00:08:51who puts up with your shit.
00:08:54It's never going to get sorted, calling each other names.
00:08:59I basically just texted him to say,
00:09:01you're literally the one in the wrong and you're treating me like it's me.
00:09:05He's not even apologised. Oh.
00:09:07Oh, you can get argumentative,
00:09:09but my anger in comparison to Ross's is completely different.
00:09:13Like, Ross likes to break things, throw things,
00:09:16like, food up the wall. Not acceptable.
00:09:18So I thought he'd wake up thinking, God, that was really bad,
00:09:21whatever I spoke to Sasha yesterday.
00:09:23But he's not said a word to me.
00:09:26Are you thinking now about long-term
00:09:28and if you can do this in the long run?
00:09:31The moving situation, quite difficult. Right.
00:09:34On homestays, like, I ended up thinking,
00:09:39oh, I don't think Manchester's the right place.
00:09:43When this whole time I've been so set on Manchester.
00:09:47She wants to be close with the family. Mm.
00:09:50Same for me. Plus, I've got a daughter back at home as well. Yeah.
00:09:53So it's pretty hard.
00:09:55My head is all over the place and I can't think what's what.
00:09:58I think it's a lot to do with the pressures of the experiment.
00:10:01Yeah, definitely.
00:10:03I don't know. I don't know what we're going to do, to be honest.
00:10:06It's a mess. Mm. The relationship is messy.
00:10:15I've got a lot of things on my mind.
00:10:17Honestly, I can't wait to meet the expert.
00:10:20I just need to pull it all out, because the more I keep hold of it,
00:10:24I'll probably struggle more.
00:10:26I do need to show him the temper.
00:10:29Yeah, that we don't need to show him.
00:10:31That we don't need to show him as well.
00:10:33This is my third time thinking about this decision,
00:10:37because it's too much. It's a lot.
00:10:41I'm extremely confused on what to do with the commitment ceremony today.
00:10:45There's a beautiful connection between me and Ross,
00:10:48and we should maybe fight for it,
00:10:50but Ross takes it too far when there's a disagreement.
00:10:55I don't know what is best anymore.
00:10:58I'm not sure I can tolerate it any longer.
00:11:28Well, here we are for your last commitment ceremony.
00:11:32We know with the finish line in sight,
00:11:35you'll be thinking more and more about what it will take
00:11:39to make your marriage last long-term.
00:11:43This is your last chance to come to us with any issues,
00:11:48worries or requests for advice.
00:11:51We're here for you.
00:11:53This is your last chance to come to us with any issues,
00:11:57worries or requests for advice,
00:12:00so please don't squander that.
00:12:06First up to the couch, can I have...
00:12:14Amy and Luke, come on up.
00:12:18Welcome, guys.
00:12:24So without a doubt,
00:12:26this is the furthest you two have sat apart from each other.
00:12:30Why are we at this distance right now?
00:12:33Um, where do we start?
00:12:36Let's start the last time that we saw you.
00:12:39We'll go back to the dinner party.
00:12:41We heard something that, Luke, you had mentioned to Lacey.
00:12:46So what was that?
00:12:48So Luke made quite a big deal about this photo of Lacey and Adam,
00:12:52saying that he's glad that I act with integrity and have class.
00:12:57However, when I spoke to Lacey, he'd said to Lacey,
00:13:00I'm actually really envious because I wish my own wife behaved that way.
00:13:06What I meant was, you know,
00:13:08I was envious that me and Amy weren't like that, you know,
00:13:11we don't dance like that.
00:13:13I just think it's bullshit.
00:13:15It's excuses, and I just can't connect with it.
00:13:19OK.
00:13:21So then from there, we go to homestays.
00:13:26Luke, walk me through your homestay.
00:13:29I walked in a bit before to switch everything on,
00:13:32and there was a photo of me and a girl that I worked with.
00:13:35And I thought, hang on, I don't want Amy to walk into my house
00:13:39and see a random girl strapped around my arm.
00:13:42So I got a pair of scissors and I cut the girl out.
00:13:45Amy walks in, she says,
00:13:47oh, who was on the other side of the photo?
00:13:49I said, no, the photo was printed like that.
00:13:52She said, no, Luke, it's wonky.
00:13:54And then after a minute, Amy said, I just lied to you.
00:13:57I don't know why, I didn't need to.
00:14:00OK, started the homestay on a lie.
00:14:03Caught yourself on the lie.
00:14:07The issue is that if you want to establish any amount of trust
00:14:11you have to consistently be truthful.
00:14:15Of course.
00:14:17How can she continue any relationship with you
00:14:21if you can't be truthful?
00:14:25I'm feeling so disconnected with this person.
00:14:29Every single time we go to move forward,
00:14:32he does something and we just go straight back.
00:14:35We went to a castle
00:14:39and Luke made another sexual comment
00:14:42and we ended up having an argument then.
00:14:44We told you this first, Amy, I don't think it was a sexual comment.
00:14:48We were speaking about walking my dog
00:14:50and he made that into a sexual comment.
00:14:52Why can't you read the room, grow the fuck up
00:14:55and realise it makes me feel uncomfortable.
00:14:58Why do you not care? All you care about is yourself.
00:15:01OK. Why are you rolling your eyes?
00:15:03I don't think it was sexual.
00:15:05It was basically about, can you see yourself living in Kent?
00:15:08Can you see myself bringing John the dog for exercise?
00:15:11Not only John, his exercise.
00:15:13We'd slept together the night before,
00:15:15so it's like, what does this man want from me?
00:15:17That's why it was a little joke.
00:15:19Read the room.
00:15:23So homestay ends rocky.
00:15:26So you go into your homestay.
00:15:29What happens?
00:15:31We went into my mum's house
00:15:34and there's a photograph of me when I was 18.
00:15:37And Luke says, oh, is this before the glow-up?
00:15:40And he was like, you look a lot more bloated on this.
00:15:45It's like, your teeth, your lips,
00:15:47I just don't understand why those comments were made.
00:15:51All I was saying was that I prefer how you look now.
00:15:54You'd like to think that after making some changes
00:15:57at a certain cost that you're going to improve,
00:15:59and I thought you did improve.
00:16:01If there were the two girls in front of me,
00:16:03I would pick this one now.
00:16:06Babe, if you go into a girl's house and say,
00:16:09you practically said you look fucking fat on this photo...
00:16:12No, bloated doesn't mean fat.
00:16:14Bloated means you look a bit bloated.
00:16:18OK, so once again, misunderstanding in the communication,
00:16:22which happens over and over and over again with both of you.
00:16:26I think reading the room is a real theme here.
00:16:29The impression we're getting is that you're not watching Amy,
00:16:32you're not reading Amy.
00:16:34You struggle to understand sometimes how you're feeling.
00:16:37I don't know sometimes whether it's because facial expressions
00:16:40don't come across so well.
00:16:45No, we're not going to take that.
00:16:47We're talking about your capacity to read your partner.
00:16:52And we're hearing so many examples here
00:16:55of you completely missing the cues.
00:16:57So either you're not demonstrating empathy
00:17:00or you're choosing to overlook them.
00:17:03I'm not going to agree with you on that one.
00:17:06And you're not going to blame her face.
00:17:08Quite frankly, what you need to be doing is reading your partner.
00:17:13She's telling you these comments make her feel uncomfortable.
00:17:17That should be all that matters.
00:17:19That's what's important here.
00:17:23I know it doesn't make me feel good to know that I've done that.
00:17:27But from my point of view, I feel like it's very difficult
00:17:31because everything I do or say is not right or inappropriate.
00:17:37It gets worse.
00:17:38Jeez.
00:17:40We walked in to meet my friends.
00:17:42My best friend Alex wasn't at the wedding and basically said,
00:17:46Luke, tell me about yourself, tell me about your job.
00:17:49What do you do in your spare time?
00:17:51This is still a very sensitive subject to me
00:17:53because I've just found out my husband's a butler in the buff,
00:17:56which he told me he wasn't.
00:17:58I was saying, do you want to tell her what else you do?
00:18:01And he was like, oh, there's an agenda here.
00:18:04He was like, I don't have anything else to say now.
00:18:07Took his wedding ring off and went, I'm single.
00:18:10And you were kind of egging them on,
00:18:12oh, but tell them, tell them, tell them what you do.
00:18:15Because I did one job with an apron on.
00:18:17So it's just one now? I thought it was three.
00:18:19One job. And then it was two and now it's one.
00:18:21One job I did with an apron. One, OK.
00:18:23But it was more than that.
00:18:24And this is how my wife's introducing me to her friends.
00:18:27I felt like Quasimodo being taken around Paris.
00:18:30Here's the Muppet, here's the butler in the buff, here's the liar.
00:18:34That's how you introduce me to your friends.
00:18:36I felt humiliated, I felt disrespected, I felt violated.
00:18:39Why are you ashamed about it? It's your job.
00:18:41I'm not ashamed of it. I'll talk about it. I'm not ashamed of it.
00:18:44Because you introduced me like that.
00:18:49All right.
00:18:51Amy, you want to have truth and transparency
00:18:56and honesty in your relationship.
00:18:58The only way that you can get that
00:19:00is that you have to create an environment
00:19:03where that becomes the standard.
00:19:05But you don't create a safe environment for Luke.
00:19:12This is the first time he's meeting your friends.
00:19:15Clearly he wants to make a good impression.
00:19:18How do you think he felt in that moment?
00:19:21Probably a little bit intimidated, but...
00:19:24You know, what's interesting is that you're not even listening to him.
00:19:27Because he just told you how he felt.
00:19:29He just said, I felt humiliated.
00:19:32Regardless of lies in the past,
00:19:35you are failing to just acknowledge your role in this.
00:19:39Yes, there's a lot that he has to do,
00:19:43but this process is about each of us becoming better.
00:19:47So if you want the transparency, you have to show up and say,
00:19:50you know what, I'm going to create a safe environment for you.
00:19:53You have to be empathetic, to stay in the moment and say,
00:19:56you felt humiliated, and I'm sorry for my role in that, period.
00:20:03You removed your ring.
00:20:05Yeah.
00:20:06Why?
00:20:07It was the definition of an immature person, Paul.
00:20:10I should have kept my cool,
00:20:12and I regretted it the moment I took it off.
00:20:15Yep, and you know, Luke, I know you adore Amy.
00:20:20I think part of your lying is because
00:20:23you may not feel in your heart that you're enough for her.
00:20:26And you're constantly trying to figure out
00:20:28how you could fit into her world.
00:20:30These are issues that you have.
00:20:33You have to know that you are enough.
00:20:36So my only question to you right now is,
00:20:39can you consistently be truthful?
00:20:44I'd like to think I have the ability.
00:20:47The lies that I say, they are white lies.
00:20:50But I have to take accountability of what I do.
00:20:53She's just asking for you to be honest.
00:20:55I know.
00:20:56You know, it's a simple request.
00:20:57I know.
00:21:00Okay.
00:21:01Let's go to the decision.
00:21:05Amy, why don't you kick things off for us?
00:21:09I feel like I could see such great potential between us,
00:21:13and when we have the conversations about the lies,
00:21:16I'm thinking to myself,
00:21:17yes, we're getting somewhere, we're going to get better.
00:21:24But...
00:21:26Homestays have just been absolutely awful.
00:21:29You absolutely humiliated me in front of my friends.
00:21:33It brought out a side of me that I've never seen before,
00:21:38and I really don't want to be that person.
00:21:41And for that reason...
00:21:44..I put leave.
00:21:50OK.
00:21:55Luke?
00:21:56I was in a dilemma.
00:21:58How can I say stay when I make her feel like this?
00:22:02I want you to be happy.
00:22:03That's the first and the last thing I want, you being happy.
00:22:06Perhaps I'm not good enough to make her happy.
00:22:09As painful as that is, if it's the truth, it's the truth.
00:22:17But...
00:22:19..I really like her.
00:22:21I feel she's really good for me.
00:22:24So I'm willing to try everything I've got left in me
00:22:28to give you a glimpse that I can be the Luke
00:22:31that I need to be for you.
00:22:33And for that reason, I said I'm going to stay.
00:22:46We know if one member of the couple writes stay,
00:22:51then the couple needs to stay.
00:22:55Amy, are you willing to stay and work on the marriage?
00:23:07I don't know where we can go from here, if I'm honest.
00:23:22BELL RINGS
00:23:30Amy, are you willing to stay and work on the marriage?
00:23:42I don't know where we can go from here, if I'm honest.
00:23:52BELL RINGS
00:23:55If you have anything left in you and you can prove
00:23:59that you can go a few days without lying, then that's a start.
00:24:05But if it continues, then I don't want to carry on.
00:24:10That's a very fair request.
00:24:13Thank you. Thank you very much.
00:24:15Well done, you two. Well done, guys. Good work.
00:24:21Before Amy letting leave, I did not see that coming.
00:24:24I feel upset, but mostly I think I feel disappointed in myself
00:24:28that I have caused this woman to want to leave our relationship.
00:24:34I'm not a quitter, so I am going to take the expert's advice on board,
00:24:38but I can't feel anything but anger towards him right now,
00:24:41and I have no idea where we're going to go from here.
00:24:47Next up on the couch...
00:24:52..Nathan and Lacey.
00:24:54CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:24:57Hello, you all right?
00:24:59Hello, guys. Welcome back. Thank you. It's nice to be back.
00:25:04You look like you're happy. Yeah. It's a good sign.
00:25:09Let's start with the homestays.
00:25:12Nathan, what was it like meeting Lacey's mum again
00:25:16after that incident when you said something negative about her cooking?
00:25:22Yeah, so she said, oh, no, don't worry about it.
00:25:26She was amazing, honestly, such a great host.
00:25:29Really good mum, really loving person.
00:25:32Honestly, couldn't have picked a better homestay.
00:25:35They loved him. Yeah.
00:25:38So it sounds like, Nathan, you're in there.
00:25:40Yeah, I mean, she's got me doing a bit of DIY around the house.
00:25:44Oh, you're definitely in.
00:25:47Yeah, it was really good.
00:25:50And her mum helped her, giving her a load of reassurance.
00:25:53I just want to be the best partner I can be for him.
00:25:57She's an over-thinker.
00:25:59Like, for example, if I go off into a daydream,
00:26:02I can look sad, but it's just my face expression.
00:26:05She might think in her head, am I thinking about her in a negative way?
00:26:09But if I felt sad, I'd let her know.
00:26:11So if I don't, then you're sweet. Yeah.
00:26:14I needed a bit of mummer advice.
00:26:16And Lacey, you've got a good one there, do not fail him.
00:26:19You're doing a good job.
00:26:22I suppose it's about just getting to know what works for your partner.
00:26:26Because if you're not saying how you feel,
00:26:29then it does leave space for a partner to wonder, is everything OK?
00:26:33Yeah.
00:26:35Nathan, Lacey needs to hear your voice, not your silence.
00:26:40You should be thinking, how can I over-communicate?
00:26:43Because it's never going to be too much for Lacey.
00:26:46Tell me about it. Yeah, it's never going to be too much.
00:26:49I definitely appreciate that.
00:26:51When I wander off, it can be a bit of a concern,
00:26:54and you might need me to go, no, it's all right.
00:26:56I do, but I do it more.
00:26:58I'll keep giving you a bit of reassurance. Yeah.
00:27:03Would you say the homestay was a good indicator
00:27:08that this could be our future? Yeah.
00:27:14I knew I had feelings for him.
00:27:17But since coming back, I've just got this rush of...
00:27:21I keep looking at him like...
00:27:24Yeah, I've got strong feelings. Yeah.
00:27:27I'm feeling you.
00:27:31I'm just wondering whether you've had an opportunity
00:27:34to speak about the distance.
00:27:36Do you know what, that's not even a worry anymore.
00:27:39Because how I feel about him,
00:27:41it's stupid not to give it a go.
00:27:43And you would as well.
00:27:45Lacey just told you.
00:27:47Nathan, what are your thoughts?
00:27:49It's never really been an issue for me.
00:27:51And now seeing you with my family,
00:27:53and how much they, like, love you...
00:27:55They get on, yeah.
00:27:57..it just fits right in, you know? Yeah.
00:28:00I mean, this feels absolutely perfect.
00:28:03I suppose that confirms that actually there's something
00:28:06really growing here between the two of you.
00:28:08Yeah. Definitely. Yeah.
00:28:12Let's go to the decisions.
00:28:14Shall we start with you, Nathan?
00:28:18I haven't felt this way about someone before.
00:28:22You communicate amazingly.
00:28:25I love chatting with you.
00:28:27You're like a good best friend.
00:28:33So, I put Stay.
00:28:37APPLAUSE
00:28:42So, I definitely feel like my feelings for Nathan
00:28:45are getting stronger.
00:28:47You're my safe place, but my best friend, my family approve.
00:28:51And they said if we don't work out, they still want to know, yeah?
00:28:54So...
00:28:56And it is heading in the love. It's going in.
00:28:58Yeah, I feel like we're tap dancing round the love at the minute.
00:29:02So, yeah, of course I'd love to stay.
00:29:05APPLAUSE
00:29:08Well, we can't wait to see how this progresses.
00:29:11We want to wish you all the best.
00:29:13So, good luck, guys. Well done.
00:29:15Don't live your life.
00:29:17APPLAUSE
00:29:22That was lovely.
00:29:24Are you happy with that? Really happy.
00:29:27Thank you. Thank you, baby.
00:29:30Next up on the couch, we have...
00:29:34..Ross and Sasha.
00:29:36Go on, Sasha.
00:29:38APPLAUSE
00:29:40You've got this.
00:29:42Hello, you two.
00:29:47Oh, God, she's going to cry already.
00:29:53Wow.
00:29:56Wow.
00:29:58Just got to call it straight away.
00:30:00You don't look happy, you two.
00:30:26It is an overwhelming stage of the experiment.
00:30:30Tension has built, and we can help you with that.
00:30:35Perhaps, Sasha, why don't we start with you?
00:30:39First off, I just want to say...
00:30:42..I know that my emotional regulation is bad.
00:30:46I can be argumentative, you know I can.
00:30:48You've seen how I can be argumentative.
00:30:50How I've been with Alex, for example.
00:30:53The issue is, when Ross gets a temper...
00:30:58..how bad it is.
00:31:00He's got this attitude and this tone.
00:31:03Food gets thrown at the wall, I get called names.
00:31:06He was calling me a little fake bitch.
00:31:10The most recent time, it happened last night.
00:31:13I always thought when today, he'd probably be like,
00:31:15I can't believe I just spoke to Sasha like that.
00:31:18But he didn't even speak to me.
00:31:20He doesn't even feel remorseful when he reacts the way he reacts,
00:31:24so I feel like I've got nothing to work with.
00:31:29Ross, I noticed as you're listening, you're shaking your head.
00:31:34It's not just me, it's her as well.
00:31:36It can't be just me, I'm not flipping for no reason.
00:31:40You have a temper as well, don't you?
00:31:45Sometimes it's like the smallest thing.
00:31:47I was texting Kieran the one day once we got back in from the pub
00:31:50and he was like, what are you texting Kieran for?
00:31:53Hang on, hang on. I caught an attitude.
00:31:55I went, well, what's the problem?
00:31:57And he picked up his food and threw it at the wall.
00:32:01Talking about the Kieran situation,
00:32:03I did say to him, when we go back to the apartment,
00:32:05promise me we'll have the conversation before anything else.
00:32:08So as soon as we got back to the apartment,
00:32:10the first thing she did was text Kieran and I was waiting,
00:32:12sitting down, that's what I got pissed off about.
00:32:15But I was in the room for that.
00:32:38Ross and Sasha, we've seen your fiery sides.
00:32:41In fact, that's one of the compatibility points for the two of you,
00:32:45is you are both incredibly passionate,
00:32:47but it can also lead to butting heads.
00:32:50This is about the dynamic between the two of you
00:32:53and you are both contributing to it.
00:32:55What I'm talking about here is the communication
00:32:59between the two of you that goes from zero to ten, boom.
00:33:02You're both seeing red, the conflict is elevating
00:33:06and you're blaming each other.
00:33:08I'm not hearing any examples of either of you
00:33:10taking accountability for what's going on.
00:33:13So when you're in that challenging situation,
00:33:17rather than keep going, say to each other,
00:33:20we need to stop.
00:33:22Take a step back to give yourselves that time out to cool down.
00:33:27Then come back together with less emotion and talk through things.
00:33:32How can we work together to get what we both want?
00:33:39Basically, I try to think before I speak.
00:33:41Yes.
00:33:42I don't even mean it, just when I get angry,
00:33:44I just say some fucking stupid things, really.
00:33:48The idea here, guys, is to stop things before you get to that point.
00:33:53You also need to put some ground rules in place.
00:33:56No throwing things.
00:33:58No name-calling.
00:34:00No disrespectful behaviour at all.
00:34:03I agree with that 100%.
00:34:05Mm-hm.
00:34:07Sasha, you look concerned.
00:34:11I would love that time apart,
00:34:13just to come back and see each other's perspective.
00:34:16That's what I want.
00:34:18Mm-hm. Good.
00:34:20All right, so let's dig a little bit deeper about the last week.
00:34:25I understand you recently met Ross's daughter, Blue.
00:34:29Yeah, I got really emotional seeing him with his daughter
00:34:33because she was so excited to see him
00:34:35and I knew how much it meant to him.
00:34:39Ross, how was it for you observing Sasha with Blue?
00:35:00It's clear that the two of you really do care about each other
00:35:04and you're starting to have these really important,
00:35:08powerful conversations about what's life going to look like
00:35:12after the experiment.
00:35:15And I think the fact that you guys are experiencing tension as well
00:35:18makes it extra difficult.
00:35:20I agree with that, yeah.
00:35:23Ross, is there anything you'd like to say to her right now?
00:35:35I'm very sorry.
00:35:37Hopefully, whatever they like to get from us, we will learn from it
00:35:41and be happy the way we were before.
00:35:48And do you accept his apology?
00:36:04I do accept his apology, yeah.
00:36:07It's a shame that that didn't come this morning.
00:36:11I've never felt for anyone the way I feel for you.
00:36:20One of the questions you asked me on our honeymoon was,
00:36:23do you fall in love easy?
00:36:25And I said, absolutely not.
00:36:28But...
00:36:30..when I met you, you were everything that I wanted.
00:36:34So I thought...
00:36:38..the universe had, like, blessed me.
00:36:42And...
00:36:46..I really wanted to do everything I could to make you happy.
00:36:51You do make me happy, babe. Oi, you do make me happy.
00:36:54And I feel like I have bent over backwards in this process
00:36:57to do all that I can for you. Hey.
00:37:00And I've never done that for anyone the way I am with you.
00:37:04I've never... I've never been... I've never been that way.
00:37:12I feel... I just feel...
00:37:25You're always going to do my work, no matter what.
00:37:28I just want to make it this way. I know we can.
00:37:31Because we're both very strong.
00:37:34I am willing to make this work and I'm going to face for it
00:37:37and I'm going to bring it back up here again
00:37:39to get the smoke back in the face again.
00:37:41So, yeah.
00:37:44All right, well, I think we'll go to the decision for the two of you.
00:37:48Ross, we're going to start with you.
00:37:51To be honest, I couldn't wait to meet you guys.
00:37:55Right now, I do feel a lot better.
00:37:59That's right, I meant what I said about willing to make this work
00:38:02and fight for it, because this is what I need here, babe.
00:38:05I'm very sorry for what happened.
00:38:09Believe me when I say this, I'm going to make you back up here again
00:38:12and I want us to be on the right path.
00:38:15Be happy. Yeah.
00:38:18That's it.
00:38:30And to you, Sasha.
00:38:33Obviously, you know how much I care about you.
00:38:39It's a lot. It's really deep.
00:38:42Because when things are good,
00:38:44it's magical.
00:38:48But my head's just absolutely messed, to be honest.
00:38:54I definitely saw a different side to Ross.
00:38:57Having a husband that has a temper is a complete no.
00:39:04Even if we do get argumentative with each other,
00:39:07I don't think that's a good enough excuse to be throwing a tantrum.
00:39:12Saying I'm a fake bitch.
00:39:15And I am absolutely emotionally drained.
00:39:26I did right leave.
00:39:42BELL RINGS
00:39:48I am absolutely emotionally drained.
00:39:53I did right leave.
00:40:04It wasn't an easy decision at all, because I couldn't decide.
00:40:09And that's why I thought I needed to leave.
00:40:16So, just to clarify,
00:40:18when one partner says stay and the other says leave,
00:40:22both partners stay for another week
00:40:24to continue to work on their relationship.
00:40:27Are you both prepared to do that?
00:40:38Now that you've had this conversation with us and with Ross,
00:40:42have you changed your decision in your mind?
00:40:46Well...
00:40:56Yeah, because I want to believe that the relationship will change.
00:41:04You can do this, guys.
00:41:05Yeah, you're both on the same side here.
00:41:08Work together as a team.
00:41:11Well done, you two.
00:41:13Well done, guys.
00:41:34I know that Ross means his apology
00:41:36and Ross sounds like he wants to fight for it,
00:41:39so I'm willing to fight for it with him.
00:41:43Because, at the end of the day, I do love Ross
00:41:46and I do want this to work.
00:41:53Next up...
00:41:57..Polly and Adam.
00:41:59Come on up.
00:42:00APPLAUSE
00:42:06Greetings to the both of you.
00:42:08How are you doing, man?
00:42:09Yeah, we're good. Well, I'm good, thank you.
00:42:13So, let's go to partner swap.
00:42:16How did that go for both of you? Adam, let's start with you.
00:42:19Me and Amy had a right laugh, to be fair.
00:42:21Amy went to a lingerie shop to get some bits and bobs
00:42:25to kind of spice up the bedroom.
00:42:29I got edible bra for Polly and edible thong for me.
00:42:33I think you should swap.
00:42:37And I got a really nice four-piece matching set for Polly.
00:42:42I said to Adam, like, I really appreciate it,
00:42:45like, I love the fact that you've done this,
00:42:47but in my mind, it's like you've given me nothing.
00:42:50I've not been made to feel wanted or desired in that way
00:42:53in how you've bought me lingerie.
00:42:55I've bought stuff with me that I've not yet put on
00:42:57because I haven't thought we were there.
00:42:59OK. So I was like, this is great,
00:43:02but I feel like you've now gone from zero to 100.
00:43:06Polly's response wasn't what I was expecting.
00:43:08We had an argument where I said,
00:43:10I keep coming out of my comfort zone for you
00:43:12and trying to do things that you want from me,
00:43:15but it's not good enough.
00:43:16I was like, I feel like you are being a bit selfish.
00:43:20I feel like it was just because it was that
00:43:22which you know has been a topic for us consistently.
00:43:26Yeah, it was a big jump, you know what I mean?
00:43:28Probably should have been built up to.
00:43:30OK. So I did get why she felt like it,
00:43:32it was just a bit of a kick in the teeth.
00:43:35Now that you've clarified that, that makes sense.
00:43:39So now, moving into the homestays.
00:43:42Mm-hm.
00:43:43So the first stop was Adam's. Mm-hm.
00:43:46Polly, did you feel welcomed in Adam's house?
00:43:49Yes and no,
00:43:51because there was clearly no room for my stuff anywhere.
00:43:56It was a case of I'll just sit on the end of the sofa,
00:43:58not touch anything because I don't want to fuck up your cushions.
00:44:01I didn't feel comfortable.
00:44:03I was just a knob and I apologise.
00:44:06I can't say anything else.
00:44:09OK. So that was definitely a step back.
00:44:13How was the rest of the time at Adam's?
00:44:16My best man from the wedding came round.
00:44:18Polly told Rich about the massive argument we had
00:44:21about the Stephen twist situation.
00:44:24And it made me feel like Polly was saying to my friend,
00:44:27I'm acting like Stephen now because that's what she wanted.
00:44:30OK.
00:44:32And then we had a huge bust-up in front of his mate
00:44:35while he was sitting on the sofa.
00:44:37I feel like I went in more because he was so shitty the whole day.
00:44:43It did get sorted, but just not until after another bust-up
00:44:46the next morning.
00:44:48Resolution on the conflict.
00:44:50We're now stronger as a couple.
00:44:52Yeah. OK.
00:44:53We now go into Polly's homestay.
00:44:55So how'd that go?
00:44:57Amazing. It was so good.
00:44:59OK. Really good.
00:45:01I mean, clearly, Polly, family means everything to you.
00:45:04Were you able to see Adam fitting within your family?
00:45:08Oh, absolutely.
00:45:10It was just comfortable.
00:45:12It was just so natural to the point where I forgot about him being there.
00:45:15It was easy. Yeah.
00:45:17Yeah, cos I was really nervous, but the moment I walked in,
00:45:20I've never been made to feel, like, so comfortable,
00:45:23and, like, it was actually really nice, wasn't it?
00:45:25Wow. It was really nice, I'm honest.
00:45:27So, Adam, could you see at that moment actually fitting into Polly's family?
00:45:31Oh, yeah, definitely.
00:45:33This is good. This is good.
00:45:38So, overall, you think about the homestays.
00:45:41What do you believe you learn?
00:45:43That he's one very patient man.
00:45:46Very understanding of seeing how I have been throughout this
00:45:51compared to who I was at home.
00:45:53And I do need to give him a little bit more credit than what I have.
00:45:57The week before we went to homestays,
00:45:59I was seeing a side to Polly that I said to her, like, I'm not feeling it.
00:46:03You're being loud, you're swearing loads.
00:46:05It's a bit off-putting.
00:46:07And then when we went to the homestays,
00:46:09I was like, you're like a completely different person.
00:46:11You're chilled, like, you're giggling, you're smiling.
00:46:14Like how I think she should be.
00:46:16I just don't know if it's the experiment that's making her erupt.
00:46:20OK.
00:46:21Yeah, that when we were on our homestays,
00:46:24we just gravitated towards each other even more.
00:46:28I feel like being at mine brought us closer together.
00:46:32Because he saw me like that,
00:46:34he could see this is how she is all the time.
00:46:38I felt a huge shift.
00:46:40So we have said that I need to try and bring home Polly back to the apartments.
00:46:45So all of my focus and energy needs to be on him.
00:46:48Your focus and energy needs to be on Adam, on the relationship,
00:46:52but also on yourself.
00:46:54Yeah.
00:46:55Adam, you've made great progress.
00:46:57And I believe you've probably delivered more in this relationship
00:47:00than you have in any previous relationship that you've been in.
00:47:03Mm-hm.
00:47:04But there's more that you need to deliver.
00:47:07And I think you have it within you clearly to do it.
00:47:12So can we go to a decision?
00:47:15Yeah.
00:47:16Adam, would you like to do the honours and go first?
00:47:19Right.
00:47:20So this last week has been interesting.
00:47:24I think seeing you at your homestays has changed a lot of things.
00:47:28It was really nice to see you in your home environment.
00:47:31It was really nice to see you in your home environment.
00:47:34And I'm excited to see what the rest of the process brings.
00:47:39So for that reason, I said stay.
00:47:47We've had, yeah, a start from, obviously, a bad week
00:47:53that then improved and we spoke about, obviously,
00:47:56what we need to do and what we're going to do.
00:47:58And, yeah, I've enjoyed it as much as I haven't,
00:48:01but I feel like we've needed that for, again, us to be where we are.
00:48:05So I have decided to stay.
00:48:13Thank you both.
00:48:14Thank you so much.
00:48:20That was so nice, wasn't it?
00:48:22Yeah.
00:48:24OK, last up on the couch...
00:48:28..Kieran and Christina.
00:48:34Hello. Hello.
00:48:35What's up, guys?
00:48:42How are the two of you getting on?
00:48:49It's been a really tough week.
00:48:52I just feel like I'm drained.
00:48:57I understand, Christina, that this isn't an easy situation.
00:49:00I know, of course, you've had some time away,
00:49:03but for dinner party, you received an anonymous letter.
00:49:07Yeah.
00:49:08It seems like it brought up a lot of emotions for you.
00:49:12Oh, it was so emotional, reading it.
00:49:16I knew it would because I know, like,
00:49:19I knew it would because I know the guys sat down there love us,
00:49:23both as individuals and as a couple.
00:49:25Like, they root for us.
00:49:27From their perspective,
00:49:29there are things that we could still do to improve.
00:49:33And it just made me flood with emotion.
00:49:38And I just got really passionate,
00:49:40cos I thought, actually, come on!
00:49:44I just felt really passionately, like, towards Kieran.
00:49:49I think everybody can see how much I care about him.
00:49:53How I admire you so much.
00:49:59And that's very courageous of you.
00:50:01Kieran, what was it like to hear Christina say
00:50:04that, actually, she wants to fight for this?
00:50:07Receiving it was really difficult,
00:50:09and I broke down when she was speaking.
00:50:13At some point, we've all been in the position of,
00:50:15I've put Christina in, and it's not nice doing that at all.
00:50:20And I hate seeing her upset.
00:50:24So that night was very difficult at the dinner party.
00:50:29At the same time, I'm thinking, I'm so fucking proud of you right now.
00:50:33I'm still really proud of you for projecting what you want
00:50:36and what you believe in.
00:50:39So where are you guys at right now?
00:50:41We've done homestays separate.
00:50:45And that was because I didn't want to take Christina back to mine,
00:50:49knowing where my head's at.
00:50:53I took Mel's advice, and that was to go away and write down
00:50:57how Christina is different from me ex.
00:51:01And this is where it gets scary.
00:51:04The only difference that I could find,
00:51:07and I really thought about this,
00:51:09is that Christina is very outgoing.
00:51:16What is it that you're saying?
00:51:18I've been in this position before.
00:51:21I kind of go through my life just putting other people first all the time.
00:51:27I know Christina is a totally different girl, and I do.
00:51:30You are.
00:51:31But I can't help but see similarities.
00:51:35Can't get past that.
00:51:38What outlook on life is completely different.
00:51:41OK.
00:51:42And I'm not willing to live in the moment as much as Christina does.
00:51:47I believe that, yes, you should have to change yourself
00:51:50to be in a relationship in certain ways.
00:51:53But changing the core, what you believe in
00:51:55and where it is you want to be in life,
00:51:57that's not something I'm prepared to change,
00:51:59because that's who I am.
00:52:00I'm not prepared to change.
00:52:02I'm not prepared to change.
00:52:04Where it is you want to be in life,
00:52:05that's not something I'm prepared to change,
00:52:07because that's who makes me, me.
00:52:13Do you feel that it gave you the space
00:52:16to think about your situation,
00:52:19get advice from family?
00:52:21Christina?
00:52:23I just feel like, as frustrated as I am with Kieran,
00:52:26and I want to bang his head against a brick wall
00:52:29and tell him to sort himself out,
00:52:32it's clear that there is still strong feelings there.
00:52:37My family, they were like,
00:52:38where's Kieran?
00:52:39And I was like, oh, my God, man.
00:52:43I just, nobody saw it coming.
00:52:47Don't cry.
00:52:51I just love him as a person.
00:52:56In my vows, all I ask is to never be judged,
00:53:00to be accepted for all of me,
00:53:02to be patient with me, to listen to me,
00:53:05and I will do the same.
00:53:08And I've done that for you.
00:53:13Kieran, you talked about outlook on life.
00:53:15You can have different philosophies on life.
00:53:18You can have different views on five-year outlook
00:53:21or different views on finance.
00:53:23It can still work.
00:53:25But what will never work
00:53:27is a partner that has high emotional walls.
00:53:32When you have high emotional walls,
00:53:34you don't allow any joy into your life, man.
00:53:39The strongest act of courage
00:53:41is for you to drop them and be vulnerable.
00:53:54But I ask myself the question...
00:53:59..can I see myself and Christina being together in ten years' time?
00:54:18But I ask myself the question...
00:54:21..can I see myself and Christina being together in ten years' time?
00:54:30Yeah, but who does that?
00:54:32Well, we're in a marriage. That's why I'm here.
00:54:34You're not guaranteed to be here ten years from now.
00:54:38The focus is on enjoying every moment that you have together.
00:54:45Tomorrow is not promised, but today is.
00:54:49I just don't want to see you lose someone who is phenomenal for you.
00:55:01I just don't know how much I've got left in us
00:55:04for the amount of emotional support Christina needs.
00:55:09OK.
00:55:10That's a big deal to me.
00:55:12If you're talking about not having the capacity
00:55:15for emotional support, that's something different.
00:55:19I have got better.
00:55:21Yeah, yeah, totally, you have.
00:55:23Even the PMDD, from when that first happened to now,
00:55:27the last time you had it, I was like, has it even been?
00:55:31It's here now.
00:55:32Is it? Is it? Is it really?
00:55:34Yeah. Well done, you.
00:55:36Well done.
00:55:40As a couple, me and Christina,
00:55:43as a couple, look how you've managed that.
00:55:46Yeah.
00:55:47I understand I do manage it, but it's just...
00:55:53I'm a lot, I know I am.
00:55:55I just want to be loved, that's all it is.
00:55:58Oh, yeah. I just want to be loved.
00:56:01And all I just keep thinking about is just that wedding day.
00:56:06Like, that is just what kills me.
00:56:11To go from that wedding to then how we are now,
00:56:16every time I look at the wedding pictures,
00:56:19I literally say to him, I want that man back.
00:56:24I want my husband back.
00:56:26I want the guy that I met at the aisle with,
00:56:29with those fucking goofy teeth, back.
00:56:33It's late, Christina's here.
00:56:35At the wedding, I literally walked over to my dad
00:56:38and I went, just everything I asked for.
00:56:42I care about you a lot.
00:56:44Mm. I care about you a lot.
00:56:49The tears that I've shed,
00:56:51the tears that I've cried,
00:56:53the tears that I've cried,
00:56:55the tears that I've cried,
00:56:57the tears that I've cried,
00:57:00the two of you have been on quite a journey
00:57:03over the last few weeks
00:57:05and you've both tried to be very respectful
00:57:07and be very honest with one another.
00:57:12Should we go to the decisions?
00:57:15I know I'm not going to meet another girl like you.
00:57:20You're a fucking superstar.
00:57:25And I'm really sorry to put you in this position, Christina.
00:57:28It was never my intention.
00:57:30I'll always think the world of you.
00:57:35I'm not going to meet another girl like you.
00:57:38You're a fucking superstar.
00:57:40I'll always think the world of you.
00:57:46I just know that...
00:57:49..I kind of give you the best version of me.
00:57:59And for that reason, I've got to leave.
00:58:02OK. Thank you, Kieran.
00:58:11Christina?
00:58:15I feel I put in 110% effort from day one.
00:58:22I can't just turn my feelings off overnight.
00:58:25Kieran knows that.
00:58:29I have been so patient and so understanding,
00:58:33and so respectful.
00:58:35The ball's been in his court for ages.
00:58:43So...
00:58:48..I'm going to leave.
00:58:50OK.
00:58:57Wow. You've both written leave,
00:58:59so, of course, this is the end of the experiment for the two of you.
00:59:06I promised myself that I wouldn't cry, so I'm not going to.
00:59:10It has been such a joy to be on this journey with you.
00:59:15The effort that you've put in has been amazing.
00:59:18I genuinely, genuinely wish you both the very best.
00:59:24And I hope that the two of you stay friends.
00:59:26Oh, absolutely.
00:59:30I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart
00:59:33for giving this your all.
00:59:36And I just genuinely wish you the best for the future.
00:59:40Don't change for anyone.
00:59:43Thank you for the most magical, amazing day of my life at a wedding.
00:59:50I'm gutted, but I do only wish you the best.
00:59:54You'll be in my life, don't worry.
00:59:57Thank you, guys. Thank you so much.
00:59:59Thank you, guys.
01:00:11I'm going to miss you so much.
01:00:14I literally gave Kieran my all and everything.
01:00:20I took this experiment so seriously.
01:00:23I genuinely thought I was going to have a husband at the end of this.
01:00:28How can I go from being your perfect match,
01:00:32the girl of your dreams, everything, to then nothing?
01:00:39The end goal was to fall in love.
01:00:41Find me a forever person.
01:00:43It hasn't happened.
01:00:46Of course, I wish that things did turn out differently.
01:00:49Of course, I wish that things did turn out differently.
01:00:52But I have got a friend for life.
01:00:55I love Christina a bit.
01:00:57And I'll always be there for her.
01:01:01I am hopeful that I am going to find this everlasting love
01:01:05with the right person.
01:01:07I'm a lot stronger than I think,
01:01:09and I know what I deserve
01:01:12and what I want from my next partner.
01:01:20Next time...
01:01:21I definitely should have had that sandwich before I got in here.
01:01:24..the couples head off for final dates.
01:01:26It kind of suits you, driving this.
01:01:28As Ross attempts to win Sasha over...
01:01:31It felt right to leave.
01:01:33I'm on fire, mate. Are you happy again?
01:01:36..for Polly and Adam...
01:01:38Cheers to us and to the future.
01:01:40..marital bliss is short-lived.
01:01:42I feel like you're not giving me what I want.
01:01:44Why do you sit there and go, I care about you?
01:01:46That's what you do. That's not what I do.
01:01:48The old Polly is slowly creeping back.
01:01:50..but it's Luke falling back into old habits...
01:01:53That's actually really sexy, I'm not going to lie.
01:01:55Behave.
01:01:57This is a cooking class, not a porno.
01:01:59I've given Luke chance after chance.
01:02:01..and lack of honesty...
01:02:03Can you tell me how many relationships you've had?
01:02:06..that drives Amy to despair.
01:02:08Even that number's probably inaccurate.
01:02:10What the fuck? Absolutely...
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