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Video Information: IIT Kharagpur, 04.02.2022, Greater Noida, India

Context:
~ What are humiliation and insult?
~ How does suffering help the one?
~ How to realize one's true strength?
~ What is the meaning of real pleasure?
~ How should one can get real pleasure?

Music Credits: Milind Date
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#emotions #acharyaprashant
Transcript
00:00I am a first-year undergraduate student from the Electrical Engineering Department at IIT
00:17Kharagpur.
00:18So, my question is that the greed of getting more and more pleasure is getting increased
00:24with the time.
00:25And finally, I am finding myself got stuck into a vicious circle of the getting more
00:34and more pleasure.
00:35So, sir, what are the ways that you will suggest me to get out of it?
00:45Get some real pleasure.
00:49Get some real pleasure.
00:51Real pleasure has quality to it.
00:58And when you have that quality, then your hunger for quantity diminishes.
01:08If you keep looking for more and more pleasure, chances are you are not getting pleasure anywhere.
01:17Had you been getting it somewhere, you would have stopped at that point, right?
01:22Because you don't get it anywhere, that's why you want it everywhere.
01:30So look for the right place where real pleasure can be had.
01:40For that you will have to first of all test whether all these places that promise pleasure
01:46to you are of any avail.
01:53They promise, they attract, they also extract a lot, but do they really deliver?
02:11And maintain the faith that the real thing is not inaccessible.
02:24You are born to achieve the real thing and you can get it, but not if you remain attracted
02:32to, engaged with all the little and false stuff.
02:39Then the little things will keep you forever away from the real deal.
02:49Yes, sir, actually my perspective of asking this question is that in the society, like
03:01a mentality has been induced that just crack this exam and you will get the pleasure after
03:07that.
03:08You will live a life in pleasure after that.
03:13Like if anyone is aspiring to crack UPSC, then he is taught that just crack this exam
03:20after that, you will have this kind of caste, this kind of workers around you and you will
03:26get pleasure by that.
03:29So, sir, in the meanwhile, we actually do not focus on that, after that we will also
03:38have to work hard, means that we do not develop the mentality that what after that we have
03:45to do, actually.
03:46So, sir, what you will suggest?
03:49Mostly people who write the JEE thinking that after the JEE there would only be unmitigated
04:02pleasure or who write the UPSC thinking that once you get your rank and are allotted a
04:09cadre, all you will have is power, wealth, privilege and servants and all the things
04:18that you talked of.
04:20Mostly these people anyway do not get to enter the IITs or the civil services, with
04:32this kind of motivation anyway success is hard to come by.
04:40Even if you do get success, hoping for these things, very soon you discover that these
04:46things are nowhere on offer.
04:50You are just being made a fool of by making to salivate after them.
05:00Just clearing the JEE is no guarantee even of material success.
05:08The last time I checked, a fair number of students, in fact a fair proportion of students
05:15were remaining unplaced even from the IITs.
05:22The scenario might have changed now, I have not been keeping an eye since the last few
05:27years but over a long period of time this was the story.
05:35From every IIT a fair number of students were not able to secure even in the basic
05:41placements and the bulk of the jobs that you get from the IITs are pretty ordinary, except
05:50for maybe 2% or 5% or 8% of the students, the job applicants, others get fairly ordinary
06:06kind of jobs, translating into fairly ordinary pleasures.
06:13Same is the case with civil services as well.
06:18You can dream of the huge Kothi and such things only if you have had no peek, not even a sneak
06:30peek into the insides of how the bureaucracy works and how the bureaucrat lives.
06:41One way to just get rid of these imaginary pleasures is by checking their reality.
06:53Why not speak to your seniors?
06:55Why not speak to the alumni, let's say who passed out 10 years back?
07:05Why not do a reality check?
07:08Actually at that time we had not any seniors around us, so that's why we were used to just
07:18think about what people used to tell us about the places.
07:25How is it so difficult, son?
07:28You are living in the information age, even social media is good enough to tell you the reality.
07:36Sir, actually our coaching teachers also used to tell these kind of things.
07:42They will tell what they have to, they have their own self-interest to cater, but what
07:50prevents you from doing a basic search on the web or approaching a few people and straight
07:56away talking to them?
07:58You want to get into something for the rest of your life without even concretely knowing
08:07what lies in store for you.
08:11Sir, finally one thing that sir, this was just with the perspective of students, let's
08:22take example of a person who has a car that is enough to provide him the required safety,
08:32but he wants more and more cars for him to just show off or to get some pleasure out
08:40of it because he is used to getting good brands of cars to just show off.
08:50So, what are your views about that?
08:54About what?
08:55Cars?
08:56No sir, that what should be done so that person should be taken out of that type of mentality.
09:08There has to be a purpose in life, nothing else.
09:11I too have loved cars since my childhood, but then there is something I have lovedтАж
09:18to an extent I agree that it is good.
09:20There is something else that I have loved more than cars, that's all.
09:25We all have these bodily, social, mental and likes and dislikes, that's the way our bodies
09:38are, that's the way the personality is, it will have certain leanings, it will have certain
09:45likes and dislikes, so all these are there, but they fade in the light of something far
09:56more important.
10:00I have a mission to run.
10:09I may have personal preferences in this and that, but there has to be a pecking order,
10:17a hierarchy.
10:20You know that something else is more important, so the first right over all resources, your
10:26time, your life belongs to that really important thing.
10:33Cars can wait.
10:34Yes sir.
10:35Sir, one more thing sir, in my JEE times I used to study more and more like 12-14 hours,
10:45but now the situation is totally different sir, even in 8 hours of study I feel that
10:55it is too much and then after I used to get into my comfort zone sir, but I don't want
11:01it sir, but there is a condition, there is a situation that I am unable to change it
11:07sir.
11:08Can you please suggest some ways on it?
11:11You see I cannot tell you how to study for 10 hours or 12 hours, if that's what, because
11:19frankly I didn't do that ever to slogging for 10 hours or something, so I cannot tell
11:28you how to do that, but what I can tell you is that if you have the right reason for a
11:36thing, then you do not count hours you put into that thing, have the right reason, have
11:48the right reason and then you will stop counting hours, whether it's towards your studies
11:59or something else and as a young man it is incumbent on you, it is necessary for you
12:08to have the right reasons in life, to have the right purpose in life and it's something
12:15very very personal, it's not a crowd thing, you cannot say nobody is doing such a thing
12:21so why should I do it, you have your own life to live, figure out something worth giving
12:27your time to right and then time will meet its right utilization and if something is
12:35getting utilized rightly, why do you want to limit the utilization, then any number
12:41of hours can go into it. Sir, what are the changes that you want today's youth to bring
12:52about in the society for the betterment of it, like sir our country is a developing country
13:00and we have the most youths all over the world but still our country is lagging so much behind
13:09sir, so what are the changes that you would suggest the youths that they can bring about,
13:16like sir what do you think that is the main root cause of it that our country is lagging behind?
13:29I would want that they remember that they are young human beings, the youth should remember
13:46that they are young, young human beings not young animals, that's all. Yes sir, that is fine but
13:58what are the changes that you would suggest to bring about in the society, in our today's
14:05society, what are the things that you think that are affecting most to our society, that
14:12are affecting most negatively towards our society? I am requesting wannabe animals to
14:20remember that they are human beings, that's the change I want to see and there is a lot
14:29that goes with being called a human being, it's a huge responsibility and a huge privilege.
14:39Yes sir. So you are not just young, any species can be young, you can have a young monkey,
14:51you can have a young donkey, you are not just young, you are a young human being, see what that means.
15:03That means that we have the responsibilities towards the society, we will have toтАж
15:09First of all figure out whose society, a society of monkeys?
15:14No sir, the society of human beings.
15:18So, first of all comes the human being, the society comes much later and the society will
15:25be taken care of. First of all, you discover what it means to be human as against being an animal.
15:35Okay sir.
15:48What okay? Fine, I will see you again, these talks will continue, so over the next months
15:59I am sure I will see you again. My blessings, do well in life.
16:10Thank you sir.

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