Video Information:15th June, 2019, Advait Bodhsthal, Greater Noida, Uttar Pradesh, India
Context:
Is giving birth to a child, a crime?
Who is capable of being a parent?
Why is giving birth to a child a huge responsibility?
Why parents committed mistake to compare child?
Why parents are not apologize for their action?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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#acharyaprashant #relationship #expectations
Context:
Is giving birth to a child, a crime?
Who is capable of being a parent?
Why is giving birth to a child a huge responsibility?
Why parents committed mistake to compare child?
Why parents are not apologize for their action?
Music Credits: Milind Date
~~~~~
#acharyaprashant #relationship #expectations
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00:00First of all, if the child says, why did you bring me into this world?
00:24The parents must straight away apologize, not a laughing matter, think of basic honesty.
00:43And it is because parents have first of all committed the mistake of bringing another
01:07person into this world of agony, longing and suffering that they compensate by
01:25investing themselves in raising the kid.
01:30That is why it is imperative for the parents to bring education to the kid, give food to
01:47the kid, spend money on the kid.
01:54It is a compensation.
01:58Have you seen how much of parent's time, especially the mother's time gets spent on the kid?
02:12It has to be done.
02:13It is a thing of justice.
02:19It is not a favor to the kid.
02:21The parents owe it to the kid.
02:27And the kid is very justified in asking, did I really plead to you to bring me into this
02:36world?
02:42Did I send a formal application?
02:48You in your moment of personal wisdom and planned indiscretion or unplanned lust gave
03:04birth to me.
03:13Now I sue you.
03:20Now I demand damages.
03:25And all the money that gets spent on the kid is actually a compensation.
03:33Compensation for that moment of indiscretion.
03:38It could be conscious indiscretion by way of a planned birth or it could be unconscious
03:45indiscretion when you say, oh, the child just came, we did not plan it.
03:53Whether conscious or unconscious, the fact is that it is an indiscretion.
03:59Because it is an indiscretion, so you pay for it.
04:03Now you know why you have to pay so much for the kid's school fee.
04:10It is a fine.
04:12It is a fine that you are paying.
04:15You are being penalized by existence.
04:19Now you know why the mother has to carry the kid for nine months.
04:23The mother is being severely penalized.
04:27What made you go so blind in emotion or in lust that you allowed yourself to get pregnant?
04:35Now pay the fine.
04:43Now a shrieking, screeching thing will come into the world.
04:53Pay the fine.
04:57It begins by paying the hospital fees.
05:04No kid gets born without the hospital charges being paid.
05:12Does that not tell you that the whole thing starts as some kind of penalty?
05:25See after you fight with someone, you are carried away to the hospital.
05:30You know that something wrong has happened, that is why you have been brought to the hospital.
05:35And when you get pregnant, you are taken to the hospital.
05:39Do not you see the parallel?
05:43So that is true.
05:57And every kid must ask this.
06:03And therefore, giving the best environment to the kid to rid him of all body and social
06:14identification is the minimum that the parents can do for him.
06:19The parents have given the kid the cage that the body is.
06:27The body is a cage and as the kid grows up, there is much more to engage him.
06:41And it is not merely a mistake, it is actually a crime.
06:54There was nobody to suffer.
06:58And you unnecessarily brought suffering to the world.
07:03Now the minimum that you can do is liberate him.
07:10Give him conditions that would enable his liberation.
07:17And that is the role, the dharma of parents.
07:20Give kid conditions that would enable his liberation.
07:27I repeat, this is not a favor that parents do to the child.
07:30This is their obligation.
07:32And if you cannot meet this obligation, then you are committing a double crime.
07:46The first is to give birth.
07:50The second is to give birth without having the credentials to act as worthy parents.
08:20Let all parents remember this.
08:35The day the child is born, he is born as someone to whom you are deeply indebted.
09:04You have to clear the debt.
09:11It is not that the child is indebted.
09:17The parents must be very clear on who the debtor is.
09:21Classically, it has been said that the child owes a lot to the parents, matr-rn, pitr-rn.
09:32The fact is totally different.
09:38The parents owe a lot to the child.
09:46So be very cautious while giving birth.
09:48When you are giving birth, you are actually giving birth to a big debt, a humongous debt.
10:00And you will have to settle that debt, otherwise you will not be able to settle in peace.
10:12If you do not want to increase your debt manifold, then be very cautious while giving birth.
10:30Giving birth is not a plaything.
10:32There was nothing else to do.
10:37So we just decided to break the bed and a few babies we got.
10:47Here are two.
10:48Where is the third one?
10:49Oh, where is the third one?
10:50Look behind the almirah, under the carpet, behind the curtain.
10:59Here third must be there.
11:03It's not a casual affair.
11:09Giving birth is not for kids.
11:16Law just says that there is a legal age, 18, 21 and such things.
11:22First of all, giving birth requires that there has to be mental maturity.
11:28Unfortunately, 99% of the world's population is not at all mentally mature enough to be
11:38parents.
11:41The funny thing is that the 1% who are mentally mature enough to be parents would never want
11:48to give birth.
11:52So all the instances of baby making belong to those who should never have been allowed
12:04to make babies.
12:07It's almost like a five-year-old girl giving birth.
12:10Oh, she looks 25, she's actually 5.
12:20A four-year-old boy giving birth, oh, he looks like a brute of 34, 6 feet, 80 kilograms.
12:32He's actually just 4.
12:37Just as a four-year-old runs behind mama, this 34-year-old runs behind the kid's mama.
12:59We must fully understand what procreation is beyond the social myth.
13:09There is a huge social myth around becoming parents, giving birth, babies.
13:16We don't beget babies.
13:21We beget stories.
13:27We do not know what a baby really is.
13:31We fall for stories.
13:36We have stories.
13:37We don't know realities.
13:40And we become part of those stories.
13:48Those stories are all false.
13:52Open your eyes and look at what the thing actually is like.
14:03It is not the fairy tale we have been told it is.
14:11It is something drastically different.