Actor Babil Khan shared how the women in his life shaped his take on love.
📹: Humans of Bombay
📹: Humans of Bombay
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00:00I am a hopeless romantic. Like, I am a hopeless romantic.
00:04I think love is when you completely understand again
00:08the femininity within you and the masculinity within her.
00:11I saw my mother raise me and my mother is a queen.
00:25So, what's your definition of love?
00:28Okay, my definition of love.
00:33I think love is when you completely surrender
00:40to the equality of your partner.
00:43I think love is when you completely understand again
00:47the femininity within you and the masculinity within her, right?
00:52And you have to also understand that she is not an achievement, right?
01:02It's so important to understand that you don't get girls, right?
01:06That statement, we're so used to saying that,
01:11bro, I got this girl, you know.
01:13That is such a, actually a really regressive statement.
01:16Yeah, you can't acquire.
01:17Yeah, you can't, you don't acquire a woman.
01:20You know, you partner up with a woman.
01:23And I think my definition of love is just to surrender
01:27to the innate equality of me and you.
01:31And what's it like dating for you?
01:32As a young, attractive actor, new in the film industry, what's dating life like?
01:37Can I say I'm famous? I'm not famous, right?
01:39Yeah, you're pretty famous.
01:40I don't think, I don't know.
01:44But I think it's tough.
01:47I, it's, people think that, oh, when I become famous, bro, I'll get, you know.
01:52I'll get.
01:53Yeah, see, I will, I will be able to receive so much love from women, you know,
01:58like women will love me, bro.
01:59But the truth is that you go on a date, right?
02:02And then 15 people come to you and they're like,
02:05so can I have a photo with you?
02:06So can I do it?
02:08And she's just waiting.
02:11She's just waiting.
02:12She's just waiting.
02:12And you drop her home and you tell her, I really hope you had a good time.
02:17And then she says, I really did not.
02:19Because we barely spoke.
02:24You know, I had no conversation with you.
02:26I don't know who you are.
02:28All I know is that you're somebody who people come to when you're in a restaurant.
02:31And I don't know if I want to do this.
02:34So, yeah, since I'm single, I am a hopeless romantic.
02:40Like, I am a hopeless romantic.
02:42Like, I will do these little extra efforts for you.
02:47Like, you know, if, say, when I was dating back in the day, I would do those things.
02:54Like, I would get those flowers every day.
02:57Wow.
02:58You know, like some days I would miss, but...
03:00That's okay.
03:01Yeah, like in a week, at least three to four times, I would get those flowers, you know.
03:05And I would remember what she likes, and where she likes to go, and the food she likes,
03:10and the music she likes, and the art she likes.
03:13And all of these things, I'd remember.
03:14And I'd keep giving surprises.
03:17You know, I'd keep giving surprises.
03:18And if she's, I think we should normalize this.
03:22When she's on her period, you know, I would take care of her.
03:27Even though she doesn't need to be taken care of, I know.
03:29But I would pamper her for no reason.
03:32There is no reason, but I would pamper her.
03:34So, I'm a very hopeless romantic in that way.
03:42Did you grow up watching that kind of love?
03:46For you to have arrived at this definition?
03:48No, no, no, I didn't.
03:49My parents were bestest friends in the world, right?
03:54But Baba was way too busy.
03:56Yeah.
03:56And Mama was always with me.
03:59So, I didn't get to see physical affection a lot when I was growing up.
04:04But I saw the respect that, you know, they had as best friends.
04:13And I saw my mother raise me.
04:18And my mother is a queen, right?
04:20So, when you're raised by a queen, I think these qualities, they come to you.
04:28Mama's very, like, how do I explain this?
04:30After Baba did Paan Singh Tumhar and he came back home, Mama had 17 pages of criticism.