“I think we are in a better place.” In this interview, veteran actor Sharmila Tagore speaks about the changing society.
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00:00Have been asked how did your husband allow you to work after you got married allow you to work after you got married and
00:08my daughter
00:10Nobody asked sir. She lives her my daughter-in-law. The male gaze is still there. The male
00:17Domination is still there
00:30I
01:01I
01:09How difficult was it dealing with the judgment back then because today we look at your story and they only get inspired
01:14But you have gone through all of that
01:16Single-handedly, you know, you live that moment and that moment passes and I had a lot of support from my family from my husband
01:25Who always gave me space always supported me and everything?
01:30I didn't have to explain myself
01:32so I had that kind of
01:37Support so I've been very
01:40blessed in that
01:43that I was like
01:45when my mother
01:48Wasn't allowed to go to a co-ed university. She had to do her ma privately. I
01:53Have been asked how did your husband allow you to work after you got married allow you to work after you got married and
02:02my daughter
02:04Nobody asked sir. She lives her my daughter-in-law. So things are changing. So
02:12Every you know, we are going forward
02:16So society is sometimes slow to change but once change becomes the norm and the changes also
02:24escalates
02:25And which is happening now world over
02:28The male gaze is still there. The male
02:31domination is still there and
02:33as India lives in many centuries, so
02:37different pockets of India believes in different kind of process but in this
02:44Wonderful city of Mumbai and Delhi and Kolkata and you know, the bigger cities have a different perspectives. So
02:52All in all I think we are in a better place
02:55So I believe that like you said beautifully in an interview that geographically distanced shouldn't matter when your emotional bonds are like that
03:02You also have stayed away, you know from the kids right now when they are living their own life
03:06Does it become difficult at at one point emotionally? It sometimes causes a ache in your heart
03:13that you cannot do everything that you wish but you have to kind of accept it that
03:20For
03:21others
03:23the
03:24You know once upon a time they couldn't do without their mothers, but now they have their partners
03:30they have their own children, so their affection has shifted somewhat and
03:35Mother is not going anywhere, but the mother is being taken for granted perhaps, but that shouldn't
03:41It shouldn't bother you because that is a natural process because I've done the same
03:46I when I had got married
03:49Tiger became the focus then when I got children and they became the focus and my focus shifted from my parents
03:56But I wasn't raised by my parents. I was raised by my grandparents. I lived in a joint family
04:01So everybody had authority towards us. So we kind of
04:07tolerance and
04:09Sharing comes very easily to us because we never had anything that we called our own. It was a
04:16Communal thing, you know, so I can't say that's my doll that doll can be everybody everybody
04:21So we we are very different to come, you know lived with lot of other people
04:27So they my aunts are like mothers, you know, yeah, so yeah
04:32So now that the families are different you just have to accept it and that ache will always be there
04:38Which I think comes from loving somebody
04:42but you
04:43Also live because I my needs are also very complicated. I want to work. I want to be independent
04:51I want to do lots of other things too
04:53so
04:56So I want to do everything I want to eat my cake and have it too
05:00Just strive for that and somewhere it works out
05:07You