“We’re constantly conscious about our bodies.” Fashion blogger Sakshi Sindwani talked about how women always feel pressured to meet unrealistic beauty standards and how that affects their self-worth.
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00:00When we were just like, what, 16 years old, we were slut-shamed.
00:04Punjabi families are obsessed with talking about weight.
00:07I don't know why women feel like they're insufficient if they have brains and not the beauty.
00:12We feel that men have so many women to choose from.
00:18We're told that you have to be fairer, you have to be thinner or bigger,
00:24or you have to have a certain chest size and a certain butt size,
00:27but also have a smaller waist, but also have no acne at all, but have no texture at all.
00:37So let's talk about one of the things that happens for women is that whenever they get
00:43down to social media, invariably the conversation drifts towards how perfect somebody looks,
00:50or when they get together, all that they do is discuss weight.
00:55Oh my God, I hate it. I hate it in every possible way.
01:01This is something that I struggle with so much because Punjabi families are obsessed
01:04with talking about weight and talking about, oh my God, how many calories.
01:08They're going to be eating chole bhature while discussing the next intermittent fasting they're
01:12going to be going at. It's ridiculous that our families operate like that.
01:16And it took me a long time to change those conversations.
01:18Now what I slightly do, I know that I can't change everybody's mindset.
01:21I just walk out of the room, as simply as I can put it, I don't try to, I can change myself.
01:26I don't have to be in a terrible situation and listen to people's thoughts and take their energy
01:35just because I'm related to you. I would rather move myself out of the situation.
01:40Why are women obsessed with weight?
01:44It's honestly so many things. It's to do with how we've been brought up.
01:51It's to do with patriarchy. It's to do with the world, the beauty standards.
01:56It's the fact that when we were just like, what, 16 years old, we were slut shamed.
02:04So we're constantly conscious about our bodies all the time.
02:08And we think if we're not perfect, then people will not be attracted to us.
02:13And the idea of I have to have a man, otherwise my life school is not fulfilled.
02:18And I have to attract a certain energy and men, a lot of men don't feel like that.
02:23I know that some men do. I don't want to generalize it.
02:26But I don't know why women feel like they're insufficient if they have brains and not the beauty.
02:33So they constantly are fixated on the fact that
02:37I have to be the most perfect version of myself. Otherwise, I'm nothing.
02:42Women judge themselves for the eyes of men.
02:45Yeah.
02:51I think because we don't believe that we're loved and we're enough at the core of it all.
02:57And also, we're not told very much that you are enough when we're growing up.
03:01We're told that you have to be fairer, you have to be thinner or bigger,
03:07or you have to have a certain chest size and a certain butt size,
03:10but also have a smaller waist, but also have no acne at all, but have no texture at all.
03:15If you have texture, put on that powder, put on that foundation.
03:17We're constantly told to hide the flaws, show the perfect.
03:22So we almost feel like, okay, so we have no self-esteem.
03:26We have nothing to sort of count ourselves for.
03:28So we constantly feel like we have to be perfect for that.
03:32Also, we feel that men have so many women to choose from.
03:39And we have to sort of catch the eye of the person.
03:43So we find the right guy.
03:44As opposed to, can the right guy find me?
03:47Because I'm perfect.
03:49We just constantly feel like there are very less men, which is not the case at all.
03:55And we almost need to be perfect for them.