Melanie Fiona, Codie Elaine Oliver, Felicia LaTour and Ashley Chea dish on parenting and being a part of The Mama's Den podcast.
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00:00Boundaries for managing motherhood, marriage,
00:04creative stuff, professional stuff.
00:08Um, I don't know.
00:12I could repeat the question all I want,
00:14but I really just don't.
00:15I think it changes every single day, you know?
00:18And I think what's happening for me now is,
00:22I think something that we've talked about this in motherhood
00:24is, like, releasing the guilt of feeling
00:26like I have to show up in every single space
00:29all the time.
00:31So I think giving myself a boundary to say,
00:34you don't have to worry about that today.
00:35That's a tomorrow problem.
00:36You know, not feeling like I have to carry
00:38every load on my back,
00:39neck, and shoulders all day, every day, you know?
00:42So I think that it's setting boundaries with myself,
00:45you know, to be really easy and just be like,
00:48it's the end of the world. It's not going to happen.
00:51You do the best you can every day, and that is enough.
00:53You know what I learned from you, Melanie?
00:54This is, I don't know if you call it a boundary,
00:56but this is something that you do all the time.
00:57You make space for the things that you need to make space for.
01:00So when it's time for you to go to your child's,
01:02like, karate tournament or whatever, you know, practice,
01:05you're there. When it's time for you to record, you're there.
01:08When it's time for you to record with us, you're there.
01:09I think one thing that you really are good at
01:12is making the time for the things
01:13that you need to make time for,
01:15whether it's your career or your family,
01:16and then zoning in on that thing.
01:18Like, you're like, girl, I got to call you back.
01:19I'm walking into my son's thing. Like, you don't play.
01:21Like, you focus on what you need to focus on at the time,
01:24and I think that's something that I really admire about you.
01:25Thank you. It's hard. It's been years and years in the making.
01:28Like, I think when I first had my son and I was doing music,
01:32I didn't know how to be both sides of my brain.
01:35You know, like, I was still thinking about
01:37who was going to get groceries and what was for dinner,
01:39and now I've just given my space to be like, I'm not there.
01:41Yep. But who I've left them with, I trust.
01:44So they're going to figure it out,
01:45and I don't need to use that brain cells
01:47or the capacity to exhaust myself in that way.
01:50So, you know, it has been a journey.
01:52But thank you for acknowledging that.
01:53Girl, I'm trying to be like you.
01:54Child is a jerk. Yeah, but you got a lot of kids.
01:56I know, but I do, the fact that you all,
01:59I think the three of you are better at that than me.
02:01You make time for your dreams.
02:02Like, I don't know how the things that you be planning.
02:05I'm like, how did you figure that out?
02:06Like, you have a whole line dropping.
02:08You'll do, like, a fundraiser, all this stuff.
02:10And I'm like, like, in two days.
02:12You're a little insane.
02:13We already know you, girl. I don't know.
02:14You have, like, 800 jobs.
02:16Do you guys ever notice, I'm sure y'all do notice,
02:18but I always feel like anytime it comes to boundaries,
02:21it's never really somebody else violating my boundaries.
02:23It's me going past the line.
02:26I'm like, it could go a little farther, you know?
02:28No, that's real.
02:2920, 25, we're not even NMO.
02:31Yeah, I'm trying to be like y'all.