He was asked why he married a woman of his "mother's age," while her family didn’t approve of their love. This is how Nikhil and Geeta’s love challenged assumptions.
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00:00People say that I'm marrying an old woman, I'm marrying an auntie, I'm of my mom's age, at least have some respect.
00:06And they ask me, oh my god, you're in your 60s, in your 60s, how do you do physical intimacy and sex?
00:13I'm 40.
00:14I'm 16.
00:15And we both are married.
00:16Since last 4 years.
00:21My name is Nikhil Doshi.
00:23And my name is Geeta.
00:25I grew up in India.
00:27Graduated from school.
00:29Then I got married.
00:30And we were from a middle class family.
00:33Both of our families.
00:35My first husband and my family.
00:37And we got married well.
00:40Our 22 years went really well.
00:44Then my ex thought, let's go to Canada.
00:48So I was feeling a little bad.
00:51But still, at that time, the atmosphere of 87-90 was like, no, no.
00:57The husband says yes, we have to say yes.
00:59So after 22 years, suddenly, I mean, there was a little change in my ex.
01:06He started going away alone for training.
01:10And he always used to say, I need a space.
01:12I mean, we had such a good bonding, such a good pararelation.
01:16Suddenly, the distances started increasing.
01:18One year Diwali came.
01:20And on Diwali, my ex left the house.
01:23Then I called the police.
01:26So then the police called me in half an hour.
01:29And said, no, no, he is safe.
01:31He is safe, but he doesn't want to come home.
01:33Then the next day, I was crying again and again.
01:35I was keeping voice messages on my ex's phone.
01:38Then he suddenly came the next day.
01:40Then I held his hand and said, no, I won't let go of this hand now.
01:44No matter what happens.
01:45Then he said, look, she will do this.
01:47So I will call the police.
01:49I said, call the police, call anything.
01:51Even if you go to jail, there is no tension.
01:53But I won't let go of your hand now.
01:55So he said, okay, okay, let go of your hand.
01:58Now I won't go anywhere, I will stay here.
02:00Later, those six months were so beautiful.
02:03So beautiful, like before.
02:05My ex said, let's go back to India now.
02:08In the meantime, my niece Radhika Jagta came to our house.
02:13And said, where do you sit in this cement building?
02:17Come with me for a vaccination drive.
02:20Then I went with her.
02:21And after that, I was standing there.
02:24In the meantime, Nikhil came to me.
02:26This is January 16, 2016.
02:30In 2015, my ex left me.
02:32And now Nikhil, you tell me.
02:34So I approached him.
02:36And I asked, are you Geeta?
02:38Who posts on Facebook, mostly political related.
02:41So he didn't say anything to me.
02:43But later I told him.
02:45I showed him his ID.
02:47So he said, yes, yes, it's me.
02:49We had a common WhatsApp group.
02:51So I got his number from there.
02:53Geeta's.
02:54And then I started talking to him every day.
02:57In the beginning, I used to do it once every two months.
03:01But later, gradually, I got used to it.
03:03Later, once a week.
03:05How is Canada?
03:07What do I do when I go to visit?
03:09How is it for a visa?
03:11He used to ask me all this.
03:13We talked for 6-7 months.
03:15After that, June came.
03:17In June, my ex called me and said,
03:19I want to be separated.
03:212016.
03:23This is in June.
03:25When I signed the divorce papers.
03:27And for about a month and a half,
03:29around August,
03:31he came.
03:33He got a divorce.
03:35He got an email.
03:37He got a judgmental copy.
03:39He sent a photo of both of us.
03:41My ex and a Filipino lady.
03:43Both of us.
03:45A photo together.
03:47I saw this photo.
03:49He had written below.
03:51I am going to marry this lady next month.
03:53That's when I understood.
03:55These 5-7 years.
03:57Which I went through with pain.
03:59And the distance between us.
04:01He had kept away from me.
04:03Maybe that was the reason.
04:05I was unconscious many times.
04:07I was not in my senses.
04:09And after that,
04:11I saw so many doctors.
04:13I was fainting a lot.
04:15But seeing all that,
04:17Nikhil started calling me every day.
04:19For 3 years,
04:21I kept hearing about his past life.
04:23He kept talking about the same things.
04:25About the same journey for 28 years.
04:27I used to call him every night.
04:29Then suddenly,
04:31he left my slip of tongue.
04:33Like, Geeta, leave all this.
04:35Will you marry me or not?
04:37So,
04:39I paused.
04:41And he hung up.
04:43I thought,
04:45is he also like this?
04:47Are all gents like this?
04:49He has such thoughts.
04:51That's when I told Geeta.
04:53Sorry, it's my fault.
04:55I don't know what I said.
04:57I don't know how it came to my feelings.
04:59He told me,
05:01Nikhil, you are a good person.
05:03But there is an age gap.
05:05In between,
05:07I registered him on the matrimonial site.
05:09I was his niece.
05:11That's when you came.
05:13Yes, that's when I came.
05:15At that time,
05:17I was shocked.
05:19His parents were also there.
05:21I told them,
05:23whatever you are doing,
05:25no one can understand
05:27Geeta better than me.
05:29I have been talking to her on the phone for so many years.
05:31I can understand her.
05:33It's better if you get her married to me.
05:35Her family was shocked.
05:37They asked,
05:39are you crazy?
05:41Don't you understand the age gap?
05:43My brother also told her,
05:45Geeta is only 10 years old.
05:49She will look old.
05:51That's when you won't like her.
05:53You will go with someone else.
05:55This keeps happening.
05:57My sister is sad
05:59because of her age.
06:01Who else will take care of her?
06:05I told them,
06:07I am in front of you.
06:09If I do something to her,
06:11you will kill me.
06:15They were not convinced.
06:17But I started loving Geeta a lot.
06:19One day,
06:21her mother told me,
06:23leave all this.
06:25If Geeta gets married,
06:27she will come to your house.
06:29Are your family ready?
06:31I told my parents,
06:33Geeta is only 10 years old.
06:39Everyone was shocked.
06:43My mother started shouting at me.
06:45My brother was also there.
06:47He told me,
06:49Nikhil,
06:51should I call her aunt or sister-in-law?
06:53After a few days,
06:55I convinced my father.
06:57I told him to meet Geeta only once.
06:59My mother asked him to come to another room.
07:01I asked her what happened.
07:03She said,
07:05we will show him good proposals.
07:09He might get married.
07:11Until then,
07:13keep some distance from him.
07:15Don't talk like friends.
07:17My friends and cousins
07:19called me and tried to explain.
07:21What are you doing?
07:23I told them,
07:25I don't know.
07:27But I am happy with Geeta.
07:29One day,
07:31I decided to leave the house.
07:33I told them,
07:35whatever you are doing,
07:37is wrong.
07:39I like Geeta.
07:41Instead of keeping distance from her,
07:43try to keep some distance.
07:45Until then,
07:47my brother,
07:49my father,
07:51hugged me and said,
07:53let it go.
07:55I accept your love.
07:57I went to his house.
07:59I told him,
08:01Geeta,
08:03will you marry me or not?
08:05Tell me once.
08:07Whatever is in your mind,
08:09tell me.
08:11If you are not going to marry me,
08:13then say no.
08:15I came to his house for the last time.
08:17I will never come again.
08:19I told him,
08:21I will never come again.
08:23As a friend,
08:25I never wanted to lose him.
08:27I told him,
08:29I will marry you.
08:31I forgot my parents.
08:33My parents looked at me
08:35and asked,
08:37why are you saying
08:39that you will marry me?
08:41I thought,
08:43let it be 2, 3, 4, 5 years.
08:45As long as we are destined.
08:47Now,
08:49it has been 4 years.
08:51I am very happy.
08:53We got married on 11th December 2020.
08:55When my parents met us,
08:57they were very happy.
08:59Whenever my parents take me,
09:01they say that
09:03Geeta is their daughter-in-law.
09:05I like it very much.
09:07We both want to say
09:09that if you both have bonding,
09:11trust,
09:13true love,
09:15it doesn't matter.
09:17Age is just a number.