Aired (February 22, 2025): Session #12 - In Aid of Boundaries: Couple Tattoo with a Friend. Ano ang gagawin mo kung magpa-matching tattoo ang jowa mo at ang best friend niya? Iimbestigahan sa 'Your Honor' ang hot issue na ito! Samahan ang resource persons na sina Ashley Rivera at Hershey Neri sa usaping boundaries and red flags sa relasyon. #YourHonor #YouLOLYourHonor #YouLOLOriginals
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00:00What will you do if your boyfriend and your friend have matching tattoos?
00:04Let's go back to Andy, he has a guy best friend.
00:08Do you think he'll be happy?
00:10Why are you doing this to me?
00:11Film him!
00:14I have a best friend.
00:15It's a different part, like,
00:17Jelai, it's more important to be friends when we have matching tattoos.
00:21It's like nonsense.
00:22Girl, I'm a best friend of a guy.
00:24What's good about him is that he's the one setting the boundary.
00:27I don't see myself with just the two of us.
00:30Girlfriend, I think a lot of people got involved, including us.
00:33I included them in my prayer request.
00:37Hearing is now in session in 3, 2, 1.
00:53You guys, okay?
00:55Guys, as you can see, the Marites here in the studio are very lively
00:58because they still haven't gotten over the issues that happened
01:02only recently.
01:04Oh my, Madam Chair, wait.
01:06Madam Chair, is it you?
01:07Haven't you gotten over it yet?
01:09Actually, I'm not that invested in this issue.
01:12Madam Chair, you did that?
01:14Me? Because I have a lot of tattoos and you're still surprised?
01:17You're so, Madam Chair, you're so, don't be too,
01:21I'm the only one.
01:22I'm the only one. What does this mean?
01:25This is nothing.
01:26And it was so dark.
01:30I was so scared.
01:31Wow.
01:32Brown out?
01:33Just look at this.
01:34It's a tie.
01:36Color match.
01:38Just kidding.
01:39But you know what's crazy?
01:40There.
01:41The mic keeps going off.
01:42What happened was really crazy.
01:44You know, the things that should be in their own conversation,
01:48we were able to see everything.
01:50It was publicized.
01:51We were able to see what happened.
01:53It was so crazy.
01:54It was so crazy on my wall.
01:56But there were so many, I think a lot of things were related.
01:59Yes.
02:00A lot of things were going on.
02:01But this afternoon, this day, wherever you are listening and watching us now,
02:06what we want to talk about is not just the issue itself.
02:09Right.
02:10That we can't get over, get over.
02:12The things that are related here, I'm sure a lot of people will understand.
02:19Understand, not related.
02:21Yes.
02:22That's different.
02:23That's different.
02:24That's different.
02:25Yes.
02:26Whatever you're thinking, you're right.
02:28That's all I can say.
02:29Let's not make this long.
02:32Let's start our hearing because I'm sure you want to investigate this too.
02:36Because our issue now is, what will you do if your partner and friend have matching tattoos?
02:43Oh my God.
02:44Oh my God.
02:45There.
02:46What we know, Mr. Vice Chair, is that it's getting fixed.
02:50And I'm so happy for the both of them.
02:53If it gets fixed.
02:54You're so showbiz.
02:55You're so showbiz.
02:56You're happy?
02:57I'm genuinely happy.
02:58They're getting mad.
02:59These two are reacting.
03:00Yes.
03:01No, you'll get mad at me later.
03:04But really, I'm genuinely happy.
03:06No matter what the family is, you're family, right?
03:08Of course.
03:09You want the whole family to be together for the sake of the kids,
03:13well-being of everyone, mental health, whatever it is.
03:16I'm happy for you guys that you fixed this.
03:19But we'll still talk about it.
03:21Yes.
03:22So let's start this.
03:24Please rise for your honor.
03:26Madam Chair, Tuesday Vargas.
03:28Thank you so much.
03:29Please rise.
03:30Respect me.
03:31Yes.
03:32You're teaching me.
03:33Yes.
03:34And there's a warning.
03:35Please sit down for your second chair, Mr. Buboy Villar.
03:38Good afternoon to you.
03:39And to give their opinions on this issue, we appointed two female fighters.
03:46Two female fighters who are very vocal.
03:48And two female fighters who are, of course, very sexy.
03:52The host of the podcast.
03:58The host of the podcast, Chicks2Go.
04:00Let's welcome Hershey Neri and Ashley Rivera.
04:06Ashley.
04:07You guys look good together.
04:08Hello.
04:09Hello.
04:10How are you?
04:11Are you okay?
04:13Shabra.
04:14But it's not confusing.
04:15You can just call me Ashley Neri Rivera.
04:18The name is already a combo.
04:20It's a combo meal.
04:21If you haven't followed them yet, if you haven't watched their podcast yet,
04:25do it now.
04:26That's why we invited them.
04:28So that their podcast will be a hit.
04:31To be a hit.
04:32To be a hit.
04:33Yes.
04:34Because it's interesting to talk to them.
04:37Of course.
04:38It means that our guests are smart and good.
04:41And they don't have any hidden topics.
04:43And because of that, you need to guess to be sure.
04:46Okay?
04:47Raise your right breast.
04:49Can you do that?
04:51She did it.
04:52You just said it, right?
04:53Smart, right?
04:54She said, raise your breast.
04:55We're talking to each other.
04:56What will I do if it's on your face?
04:59I have a problem if it's like that.
05:01I'm sorry.
05:02I'm confused.
05:03If it's in front of me, I'll say it right away.
05:04Right?
05:05If I'm surprised, like that.
05:06Raise your right hand.
05:07We're the brainy breasties.
05:09Yes.
05:12Brainy besties.
05:13I love it.
05:14Okay.
05:15Do you swear to tell the truth?
05:16The whole truth and nothing but the truth.
05:18So help yourself.
05:19I do.
05:20Yes.
05:21Check, Ashley.
05:22Check, Hershey.
05:23I'm on the list.
05:24She's on the list again.
05:25Thank you so much.
05:26You can put it down.
05:27You can also do the whole show like that.
05:29She's not singing.
05:31You're crazy.
05:32Okay.
05:33So let's go back to the topic that we need to talk about.
05:35Okay, go.
05:36This is all about boundaries.
05:38That's what I wanted to say earlier.
05:40Because we may think this is about cheating,
05:42we may think this is about just the tattoo,
05:45or whatever it is that's glaring on social media.
05:48But actually, what I really want to talk about,
05:50the topic that you're really good at,
05:53is where is the excess?
05:55When does something become excessive
05:58when it comes to best friend and partner relationship?
06:02Let's go through the situations.
06:04Yes, just like the topic that we're talking about.
06:07If you're in Andy's situation,
06:10what will you do or feel?
06:13I'm the problem there.
06:15Why do I have to...
06:16Yes, I'm the affected one.
06:18No, I don't get it.
06:19Andy, is that you?
06:20Yes.
06:21Ashley, it's Ashley.
06:23Ashley, it's Ashley.
06:24Here, she's not kissing.
06:26She's not kissing!
06:28That's the opening line of Chismosa.
06:31It's just me.
06:33But here, it's just me.
06:35Yes.
06:36Tattoo, because it's forever on the skin,
06:39what's your point there?
06:41Is it that important to get a tattoo?
06:44And then the timing,
06:46after they fight, according to Andy.
06:48So, that's when I was like,
06:50hmm, what's the point?
06:52And it's a type of tattoo,
06:54it's better if it's a smiley face or something
06:57where you can invent the meaning,
07:00but 2-2-4.
07:01Which is?
07:02Which is today, tomorrow, forever.
07:06You're so good!
07:07It's too sweet.
07:10What is this?
07:11As a friend?
07:13There's a lot that can be...
07:16Maybe it can be BFF.
07:18Right?
07:192-4 as a friend.
07:212.
07:22Smiley face.
07:23There's also a 2-4 as a friend.
07:252-4 as a friend.
07:262-4 as a friend.
07:27You haven't kissed yet.
07:292-4 as a friend.
07:31You're too much.
07:32But maybe,
07:33maybe they're fans of Hershey
07:35because it's his birthday.
07:372-4.
07:39Right?
07:40I'll get Hershey's birthday tattooed.
07:43Maybe it's coincidental that it's your birthday.
07:46What do you think, Hershey?
07:48If they get a tattoo of 2-4,
07:50aww, you're my birthday.
07:52I love you.
07:53Oh my god, I know it's your birthday.
07:55You're so sweet.
07:56I really love my boyfriend.
07:58Even his best friend loves me.
08:01Oh my god.
08:02If it happens to you, it's okay.
08:06You'll think,
08:07they like me.
08:09That's also an open mind.
08:11But you were saying something about
08:13different cultures viewing tattoos differently.
08:16So what can you say about that?
08:17No, because I was just thinking,
08:19of course for me,
08:20I really don't want my boyfriend
08:21to have a matching tattoo with his best friend.
08:24I'll join him.
08:25The three of us will get a tattoo.
08:27Polygamous tattoo.
08:29That's what it's called.
08:30But I don't know,
08:31just thinking outside the box,
08:33widening your perspective,
08:34maybe for some cultures,
08:36they don't have it.
08:37Especially since,
08:38he's from a Norwegian country, right?
08:41Or Scandinavian?
08:42I don't know.
08:43It's up to you.
08:44It's up to the weather.
08:45It's up to the snow.
08:47He's from Balik-Balik.
08:50Manila.
08:52Where do you live?
08:53In Pundohan.
08:54In Balik-Balik.
08:55Where are you from?
08:56I'm from Gentry.
08:57Gentry only.
08:58Kabite.
09:03So for them,
09:04they don't have it.
09:05For them, it's just a tattoo.
09:07I don't know,
09:08maybe it's a cultural thing.
09:09But for us,
09:10it should be contextualized
09:11in the culture of the Philippines.
09:13Wait a minute,
09:14it doesn't fit in the Filipino culture
09:16that we value marriage,
09:18we value relationships like that.
09:21But this is their life, right?
09:25Who are we to judge?
09:26Who are we to judge?
09:27We can't do anything about it
09:29because it's their life.
09:30But if we don't know,
09:31they'll keep quiet.
09:32We don't know, right?
09:35We don't know.
09:37We don't know, right?
09:40They have their own thing going on.
09:43Live and let live.
09:44Yes.
09:45But the thing is,
09:46they involved us.
09:47Because they posted it.
09:49We are all involved.
09:50The whole Philippines.
09:51I think a lot of people got involved,
09:53including us.
09:55I included them in my prayer request.
09:57I really included them.
09:59It's true.
10:00I wasn't joking.
10:01I hope they'll get along.
10:03Because it's a waste.
10:04It's a waste.
10:05That day,
10:06I was also married test,
10:07I admit.
10:08Because I was just curious.
10:09But I also sent them good vibes
10:11because it's very hard.
10:12Nobody will know how hard it is
10:14unless you're in that situation.
10:17Which leads me to the next question.
10:19Has something similar happened to you?
10:22For example,
10:23a friend of your partner
10:25and you're like,
10:26this is different.
10:28Ash?
10:29For me,
10:30not yet.
10:31Not yet?
10:32Not yet.
10:33I also don't want her to experience it.
10:35Because it'll make me look bad.
10:38Because,
10:39I don't know,
10:40it takes two to tango.
10:42If it's just a let's say,
10:44she's invited.
10:45If it's you,
10:46you have an objection,
10:47you won't do it.
10:48You can't say,
10:49no, because it's forced.
10:51All of this,
10:52everything is a choice.
10:55You can decide
10:56whether it's good or bad.
10:58You made that choice.
10:59And it's also hard because
11:01she knows that Andy is a public figure.
11:05He's an artist.
11:06So,
11:07you have to be extra careful
11:09with your actions.
11:11She knows,
11:12she's aware that
11:13they're still taking pictures.
11:14She knows that it'll be on social media.
11:17But,
11:18was he driven by emotion?
11:20No, because I'm mad.
11:21Or we'll get mad.
11:23Or I'll get a tattoo.
11:24For whatever reason, right?
11:26I can't justify it at all.
11:29It makes no sense.
11:30Even if you try to be open-minded,
11:34how?
11:37Let's switch roles.
11:39Let's go back.
11:40Andy,
11:41he has a guy best friend.
11:43Do you think he'll be happy?
11:45Will you be happy?
11:47Let's go back.
11:49Film her.
11:50That's enough.
11:52I'll take care of her.
11:53That's enough.
11:56It's hard.
11:57How about you?
11:58No, because I have a best friend.
12:00A girl?
12:01Yes, Jelai.
12:02What will you do?
12:03This is the big question.
12:05It's hard for us to do.
12:07Because,
12:08like Jelai,
12:09we have...
12:11I can't say it.
12:12We have a rule for each other.
12:14As long as I'm alive,
12:16I'll be your best friend.
12:18That's okay.
12:19That's cute.
12:20Jelai,
12:23it's better to be friends
12:25when we have matching tattoos.
12:27It's nonsense.
12:29I'm not judging you two.
12:31But,
12:32if it's just the two of us,
12:33we won't do it.
12:35Right?
12:36First of all,
12:37why would we have a tattoo
12:39if we can defend what we say
12:41to each other.
12:43We can show it to people.
12:45Even if it's not to people,
12:47to the two of us.
12:48Until we die,
12:50let's be friends.
12:51That's better.
12:53I need to voice out
12:55for the showbiz people
12:57who are non-showbiz.
12:59Because,
13:00there's an angle.
13:01Although,
13:02you said that
13:03he should be aware
13:04that Andy is a public figure.
13:06That Andy is facing so many challenges
13:08because her life is very open
13:10to everybody.
13:11To scrutiny,
13:12to bashing,
13:13to everything.
13:14But,
13:15let's also look at the side
13:16of non-showbiz people
13:17that are involved with us.
13:18It's very difficult
13:19to be with someone
13:20who is so public.
13:21Like,
13:22all your moves
13:23are being watched.
13:25You're being calculated
13:26because people might say something.
13:28Sometimes,
13:29we make stupid decisions
13:30because we are so scared
13:32that people have that perspective
13:34on us.
13:35And of course,
13:36we earn.
13:37And what we earn
13:39is fabulous.
13:42Yes!
13:43Fabulous!
13:44Alright.
13:45So, it's like that.
13:46Especially for girls,
13:47the male ego.
13:48Right?
13:49People also talk about it.
13:51So, their ego gets bruised.
13:53Sometimes,
13:54they also have struggles.
13:55So, we have to hand it
13:56to the both of them.
13:57I think,
13:58they've been through a lot
13:59in the many years
14:00that they've been together.
14:01And this is just one
14:02of the many
14:03experiences that they'll go through.
14:05And we hope
14:06and pray
14:07that the two of them
14:08next time,
14:09make more mature
14:11and conscientious choices.
14:13It can't be like,
14:14because they already have kids.
14:16The communication
14:17will be more intense.
14:18They're already old.
14:20If they're teenagers,
14:21maybe we'll be like,
14:22Oh, they're still kids.
14:24They're still kids.
14:25But they are parents.
14:26They're about to get married.
14:28They chose a life
14:29on the island
14:30that's simple.
14:31And they have someone
14:32to help them
14:33as a couple
14:34in this simple life.
14:35I hope you'll be there.
14:36That's it.
14:37I think that's a different point
14:38of what you want to happen.
14:39That's different.
14:40Yes.
14:41That's just mine.
14:42It's like,
14:43we really need to understand.
14:45Their situation
14:46is also difficult.
14:47It's difficult.
14:48But,
14:49they just let it in.
14:51They opened their eyes
14:52when they came in.
14:53Let's just look at it.
14:54What happened
14:55is a big lesson
14:56for them.
14:58Right?
14:59Hershey, do you have
15:00that kind of situation?
15:01Or you know somebody
15:02who's been through that?
15:03What?
15:04You have a friend.
15:05You have a friend.
15:06I don't like that.
15:07I don't like that.
15:08I don't like that.
15:09You know, Ash,
15:10Hershey is like
15:11a part of our universe.
15:13Why is the signal gone?
15:14No, because it's red.
15:15The signal didn't reach.
15:16Why?
15:17But,
15:18it's green.
15:19No, I mean,
15:20Christmas is over.
15:24It's so annoying.
15:25Sorry, what's the question,
15:26Your Honor?
15:27All the vitamins
15:28went to the poop.
15:29It's gone.
15:30It's gone to the brain.
15:31Yes.
15:32What about you?
15:33Do you have a friend
15:34like that?
15:35I have a friend
15:36who has a matching tattoo.
15:38Or it's like
15:39the story is the same
15:40as theirs.
15:41I have a story
15:42that,
15:44I'm a lesson learned
15:45in a relationship.
15:46But,
15:47I'm not the best friend.
15:49Okay, fine.
15:50Share it.
15:51Go, go.
15:52Because,
15:53I had a relationship before.
15:55Then,
15:56I have a dog
15:57with my ex.
15:58So, I had a six-year-old ex.
16:00We were okay.
16:01We were friends.
16:02When you look at
16:03our message thread,
16:04it's really about the dog.
16:05So,
16:06this is his vet bill.
16:07And you,
16:08this weekend,
16:09we're exchanging.
16:10Co-parenting.
16:11Yes, co-parenting.
16:12Because he's a son.
16:13Yes.
16:14He's not just a dog,
16:15he's a family.
16:16And,
16:17I can't take it
16:18that it's just me.
16:19Because,
16:20I get it.
16:21Dogs are expensive.
16:22And I don't want to
16:23give it to our dog.
16:24His father is also expensive.
16:25And then,
16:26when I had
16:27an ex-boyfriend,
16:28after my six-year-ex,
16:30I had an ex-boyfriend.
16:31My next boyfriend.
16:32There are a lot of exes.
16:33Why?
16:34I'm not an ex-boyfriend.
16:35He's too handsome.
16:36No.
16:37You're not.
16:38You just fall in love,
16:39Hershey.
16:40You just fall in love.
16:41I love,
16:42I love so much.
16:43Wow.
16:44You have so much love
16:45to give.
16:46So much.
16:47It's overflowing.
16:48Overflowing.
16:49Guys,
16:50I'll leave now.
16:54So,
16:55when I had an ex,
16:56I said,
16:57is it okay
16:58if I talk to my ex?
17:00My ex number one.
17:02I asked, is X number 2 okay? I talked to X number 1.
17:05Oh, oh, oh, oh, is it okay if it's like this?
17:09Then she said, well, I'm changing my setup because I just had a girlfriend who's still close with her ex.
17:16But I will try to understand.
17:18She said that. So I thought that was okay.
17:23Because for me, a yes is a yes, a no is a no.
17:27I don't know, this is the lesson I learned the hard way,
17:30that sometimes people say yes, but it's not a yes.
17:34Deep inside.
17:36That's what I'm telling Ash, I'm not good at that.
17:40I'm not good at reading between the lines.
17:43Now, this is where I learned that people can say yes but not mean it.
17:49So when I was talking with X number 2,
17:51is it okay for you that we're still okay with X number 1?
17:54I thought it was okay until one day,
17:56he broke up with me because he couldn't take it anymore that we have a dog together.
18:00Then I was like, I'll block X, I'll unfriend him,
18:06I'll cut his communications, please don't leave him like that.
18:09Then he didn't want to do it either.
18:11So I was like, okay.
18:13He just doesn't want to work on it.
18:15But that's a different thing.
18:16But that's the question, the boundaries.
18:20For me, it's like I don't know the boundaries.
18:23But you know, as Ash said,
18:25when we were talking earlier, X is different.
18:27He's a friend.
18:29X, you have a romantic involvement that you might get back,
18:33so there's fear because you're still communicating,
18:36or you're still sharing a common goal,
18:39which is the well-being of your pet.
18:41But what about being friends?
18:43That's the hard part because the friend came before the boyfriend.
18:46Especially in the decades that you've been friends,
18:50he knows everything about you,
18:52he can read your mind,
18:54he can read your mind.
18:56It's like he's reading a poem.
18:58He can read your mind, ma'am.
19:00The friend said, friend,
19:02friend, is this right, friend?
19:06Is this right?
19:08Okay, let's do it.
19:10Hey, boundaries!
19:12We're talking about boundaries.
19:14Let him be.
19:16I forgot.
19:19You're so close,
19:21and you have a problem understanding each other
19:23even though you're just partners.
19:25Of course, X is close to the person
19:27who can understand him.
19:29He's close to the person who knows him,
19:31but the partner is left out.
19:33What do you do about that?
19:35And they've been best friends for 10 years.
19:37That's what the story is about.
19:39And there are a lot of videos or photos
19:43that show that they've known each other
19:45from before.
19:47Yes, they've been friends for 10 years.
19:49Yes, they've been friends for 10 years.
19:51Again, again.
19:53It's been 2 years.
19:55It's been 2 years.
19:57But sorry to our friends
19:59that we don't see each other much anymore.
20:01You know that if you're true friends,
20:03we won't lose our friendship.
20:05So we'll see each other or not.
20:07Especially when we're in love,
20:09because we'll really lose each other.
20:11Just understand.
20:13My friends know this, I disappear
20:15I'm happy in love life.
20:17I'm a rare Pokemon.
20:19What's that?
20:21You know this, Ash.
20:23I know.
20:25Let's play a game.
20:27That's why I said
20:29Tuesday will disappear.
20:31What happens on Tuesday?
20:33It's missing.
20:35The posts, the flowers.
20:37It's disappearing.
20:39It's disappearing.
20:41I'm quiet.
20:44Don't do that.
20:46Sorry to our friends
20:48that we don't see each other much anymore.
20:50But I think the lesson here is
20:52who's the priority?
20:54Is it a friend or a boyfriend?
20:56You, if you have to choose.
20:58It's a good question.
21:00I don't want to be like you
21:02that suddenly disappears.
21:04I'm not like you.
21:06Sorry.
21:08Sorry, I love you friends.
21:10I'll see you soon, like 2027.
21:12I'm kidding.
21:14For me, it's all about balance.
21:16For example, girls' night out.
21:18That's bad.
21:20And your me time.
21:22We're already together.
21:24But I want to enjoy
21:26things on my own.
21:28You don't have to be involved
21:30in everything.
21:32Just because you're my partner doesn't mean
21:34you have to be involved in everything.
21:36Because I'm still my own person.
21:38For example, I want my me time.
21:40With my family, with my friends.
21:42It shouldn't be an issue.
21:44That's where it builds up.
21:46Why are you leaving?
21:48Why aren't you with me?
21:50There are trust issues.
21:52Hey, relax.
21:54Or for example,
21:56there are boys' night out.
21:58As long as we have an understanding
22:00that I trust you, you trust me.
22:02You know what you should do
22:04and what you shouldn't do.
22:06Let's keep it that way.
22:09You can still be your own person.
22:11Go.
22:13You want to have fun? Go ahead.
22:15Because I know that
22:17we trust each other.
22:19We love each other.
22:21We respect each other.
22:23It shouldn't be an issue.
22:25And you know what?
22:27Cheating
22:29doesn't just happen
22:31in failed relationships.
22:33Even in happy relationships,
22:35cheating happens.
22:37There are many reasons.
22:39One of which is this.
22:41I don't recognize myself anymore
22:43since we became a couple
22:45because I don't have space
22:47to be me.
22:49Exactly.
22:51I also forget myself.
22:53This is the person that you fell in love with.
22:55I don't know her anymore.
22:57Allow me a little time to find her again
22:59so that I can love you better.
23:01This is an English conference.
23:03If I said the same, wow.
23:05It hurts.
23:07We still have one more later.
23:09Pure English, Madam Chair.
23:11It hurts so much.
23:13That's how it is.
23:15Right, Hershey?
23:17Earth to Hershey.
23:21Boyfriend or boyfriend?
23:23Boyfriend or friend?
23:25You don't have to choose.
23:27You are your own person.
23:29It matters that there is
23:31harmony and balance.
23:33I am a best friend
23:35of a guy.
23:37What's good about him is that
23:39he sets the boundaries.
23:41We don't see each other anymore.
23:43I have a girlfriend.
23:45I left my license in their condo.
23:47I really don't have boundaries.
23:49Girl, it's like
23:51you have a friend's condo.
23:53No.
23:55I have out of their condo.
23:57You have a problem with your bladder.
24:00Hide all your CRs
24:02because Hershey will come in.
24:04I feel like your bathroom is broken.
24:06I feel like the bathroom of your house is broken.
24:08You're crazy.
24:10It's good that you don't have a bathroom in your house.
24:12I feel like you don't need a plumber.
24:14I left my license.
24:16The following day, I have a first date.
24:18I can't drive.
24:20You don't have a license?
24:22Yes.
24:24My best friend's girlfriend
24:26took my license.
24:28They gave me chocolates.
24:30Here's your license and some chocolates.
24:32I hope your date is as sweet as you are.
24:34Love, name of girlfriend,
24:36and name of best friend.
24:38That's beautiful.
24:40So, it's okay.
24:42Guy is the one who sets the boundaries.
24:44Yes, to avoid conflict.
24:46It's awkward to have a family gathering
24:48and invited friends.
24:50Your boyfriend's friends don't notice you.
24:52It hurts.
24:54I'm involved in your friend's life
24:56especially for big friend groups
24:58that have inside jokes.
25:00They have a lot of memories.
25:02You're very open
25:04because you're the new joke.
25:06Do you make an effort?
25:08Or is she with the girlfriend?
25:10What efforts do you do to make her feel comfortable?
25:12I also let her pee in our house.
25:16You need to go to the bathroom.
25:18You can go to our bathroom.
25:20You took Napao's license
25:22and left it at home.
25:25If I have a conscious decision,
25:27instead of going out with the guy,
25:29I'll go out with the girlfriend.
25:31Black ink.
25:33You're conscious of black ink.
25:35Girl code.
25:37In the past,
25:39we were close.
25:41We used to say,
25:43I love you, and the name of the girlfriend.
25:45Love you.
25:47Love you too.
25:49Love you like this?
25:51With your friend?
25:53You said love you?
25:55That's cute.
25:57Yes, we say love you.
25:59Don't worry, you're not alone.
26:01What?
26:03You're not alone?
26:05Don't worry, you're not alone.
26:07We got you.
26:09That's crazy.
26:11You know what?
26:13We need to look at the red flags.
26:15We're both like that.
26:17I also have a problem with that.
26:19What I see is what I get.
26:21There's another meaning.
26:23Are you good at reading?
26:25Let's see how good you are.
26:27I have a list.
26:29Wait, don't.
26:31I'm under pressure.
26:33I have a list.
26:35Some red flags that we can talk about.
26:37She's always not in the mood.
26:39She's always with her friend.
26:41Is that a red flag or not?
26:43We don't know.
26:45There are many reasons why.
26:47So,
26:50case to case basis.
26:52But,
26:54maybe,
26:56there's a possibility that
26:58she's not in the mood
27:00or she's irritated
27:02because she's not happy anymore.
27:04She's just tolerating you.
27:06Okay, I'm just staying
27:08because,
27:10for the sake of staying.
27:12But when she's with her friends,
27:14she's happy because she's comfortable.
27:16That's who she is.
27:18That's who you are.
27:20You're normal. You're happy.
27:22But in a relationship,
27:24maybe toxic
27:26or,
27:28for whatever reason,
27:30you're detaching.
27:32Even if you're in a relationship,
27:34sometimes,
27:36if there's always a problem,
27:38over and over again,
27:40you reach a point where you don't care anymore.
27:42You don't want to talk anymore.
27:44There's a burnout.
27:46It's okay.
27:48You don't fight anymore,
27:50but you don't try to fix it.
27:52What's more painful?
27:54We fight,
27:56but there's no attention.
27:58It's a long time.
28:00The opposite of love is not hate.
28:02It's indifference.
28:04I like that.
28:06Capture that on your Instagram, Booboy.
28:08Everyone will be shocked.
28:10Just my story.
28:12There's no connection.
28:14The opposite.
28:18Happy birthday, Ashley.
28:20The opposite of love is,
28:22and by the way,
28:24I'll be waiting for that.
28:26Guys, let's make this popular.
28:28The post will go viral.
28:30Happy Dinagyang Festival,
28:32and by the way,
28:34the opposite of love is indifference.
28:36The search bar will go up.
28:38Indifference.
28:40What's indifference?
28:43You're crazy.
28:45Don't go to America.
28:47Your hosts will have a hard time.
28:51Red flag.
28:53Actually,
28:55it's not a red flag.
28:57It's pink.
28:59It's a pink flag.
29:01We don't know the reason.
29:03It's not in the mood.
29:05It's not in the drive.
29:07It's not in the libido.
29:09Mood in different levels.
29:11That's not the meaning.
29:13But Madam Chair,
29:15I'll say go.
29:17Ashley, go.
29:19Chicks to go.
29:21Go.
29:23I'm lost again.
29:25That's so hard.
29:27This is the hardest guest.
29:29You go first.
29:31But...
29:33There.
29:35Loading.
29:37Pink flag.
29:39I'm back.
29:41There's something like...
29:43forcing.
29:45There's a factor like that.
29:47There's a factor like that.
29:49There's nothing.
29:51Why do you have to?
29:53I don't like.
29:55And when you're forced,
29:57it's okay.
29:59Don't do it.
30:01Intimacy becomes routine.
30:03It's not intimacy anymore.
30:05It's not fun anymore.
30:08It's a chore.
30:10When you reach it,
30:12you feel like it's a chore.
30:14Then you should start thinking
30:16about the whole relationship.
30:18And it'll become red.
30:20You'll have an umay.
30:22You'll have an umay factor.
30:24When you're there,
30:26there's a possibility
30:28that you'll cheat.
30:30Because you don't want to do it anymore.
30:32So it's okay.
30:34You'll be curious.
30:36Then there's nothing.
30:38That's it.
30:40That's the red flag.
30:42That's why it's painful.
30:44Because this is our point.
30:46There's a problem.
30:48Then suddenly,
30:50it's like this.
30:52So it means
30:54there's a deeper reason.
30:56Like I said,
30:58there's a lot of scenarios.
31:00It's not really about the tattoo.
31:02It's just a byproduct
31:04that's deeper.
31:06But it doesn't care about your feelings.
31:08Again, love is
31:10consideration.
31:12There's a lot of love.
31:14Love is heart.
31:16Love is blind.
31:18The opposite of indifference.
31:20I just want to say,
31:22indifference.
31:24That's how I am.
31:26When the teacher asks,
31:28indifference.
31:30So you'll look smart.
31:33That's it.
31:35That's where I'll go.
31:37That's it.
31:39As long as the rent is heard, that's important.
31:41For example, a partner
31:43will go out of the house.
31:45I'll go out with the boys.
31:47Suddenly, they're handsome,
31:49they smell good, new haircut.
31:51It's like he prepared
31:53his appearance.
31:55It's not like that before.
31:57You'll look cute.
31:59You won't cut your nails.
32:01You'll have tits.
32:03Why when there's two of us,
32:05you don't put effort, but you'll go out with friends.
32:07What's there?
32:09There's extra effort.
32:11Is that a red flag?
32:13Yes, Ashley?
32:15Because it's unusual.
32:17Why all of a sudden?
32:19You're like this.
32:21So you generalize all the unusual behavior.
32:23Not just being annoying.
32:25You'll pick up on that.
32:27Why is it that
32:29women have a strong intuition?
32:31Especially if we're women.
32:33Our intuition is strong.
32:35The gut feel of a woman is different.
32:37If you feel that, is it true?
32:39No, there's a tinge of truth.
32:41Not exactly the whole truth.
32:4350-50?
32:45It's like 99 for us.
32:47We're always right.
32:49Actually, you're right.
32:51Right?
32:53It's hard to explain.
32:55But we feel
32:57that there's something.
32:59Even with friends,
33:01even when you introduce them,
33:03they're just friends.
33:05In a group,
33:07you can pinpoint
33:09this feeling.
33:11There's something.
33:13You can see something.
33:15They can deny it.
33:17They can't tell
33:19that maybe there's something.
33:21Or not boyfriend-girlfriend.
33:23Let's say they're flirting.
33:26Whatever.
33:28But there's something.
33:30But I can't do anything about it.
33:32It's just my gut feeling.
33:34I can't prove it.
33:36It's just in my head.
33:38It lingers.
33:40Until I can prove
33:42that I'm right.
33:44The gut feel is different.
33:46Yes.
33:48There are little things.
33:50Little by little.
33:52It's not one thing.
33:54It's busy.
33:56Strike one.
33:58Yes.
34:00Strike two.
34:02It's defensive.
34:04Strike three.
34:06There's a lot of strikes.
34:08So,
34:10that's it.
34:12It disconnected.
34:14So my point is,
34:16reflect.
34:18I suddenly got tired of talking.
34:20I don't want to anymore.
34:22I'm so glad you're pointing this out.
34:24Because for me,
34:26if my partner is like,
34:28you're so pretty, come here.
34:30I won't let her go.
34:32Hershey really likes different people.
34:34You're so pretty.
34:36You're mine.
34:38You'll make her have good memories.
34:40You'll make her have good memories.
34:42You'll make her have good memories.
34:44Hershey's so good.
34:46So she won't forget you.
34:48You're so pretty.
34:51It's for you.
34:53It's not for her.
34:55If you're fooled by your partner,
34:57I'll punch you.
34:59Don't come back to the show.
35:01Then you'll complain to me.
35:03I told you.
35:05You know,
35:07I'm the one who'll experience that.
35:09Who did I tell you?
35:13We're eating spam and eggs.
35:15Who did I tell you?
35:17She's like that.
35:19Why is she still your friend?
35:21Please evaluate.
35:23I'm just kidding.
35:25You know what I advise?
35:27I'm the counsellor.
35:29So she'll pay you.
35:31We've been together for 2 hours.
35:33So she'll know my point.
35:35I have something else.
35:37Hershey, you're like this.
35:39I can't see how beautiful the world is.
35:41I can't see the bigger picture.
35:43Actually,
35:45that's why they made a podcast.
35:47To help their own mental health.
35:49This is their therapy.
35:51We're just wasting your time.
35:53So thank you.
35:55You're part of the session.
35:57Benefit from it or not.
35:59We don't care.
36:01Here's the next one.
36:03Is a red flag when you're extra sweet?
36:05There you go.
36:07She's so kind.
36:09She's so sweet.
36:12Why is she so sweet?
36:14Hershey, don't answer.
36:16It's Ashley's turn.
36:18Because you didn't learn anything from the ladies.
36:20Those who are watching
36:22are like,
36:24you're right.
36:26I love you.
36:28You're handsome.
36:30Go home.
36:32Dora is getting mad.
36:34Dora is getting mad.
36:36Backpack.
36:38Why are you like that?
36:40Why are you like that?
36:42Enhance the inside of the ladies.
36:44Don't be like, you're so handsome.
36:46You're the one who believes in being handsome.
36:48There you go.
36:50That's right.
36:52Sweet.
36:54Quiet.
36:56You also love being handsome.
36:58Oh my God.
37:00Don't be mean.
37:02You're handsome.
37:04That's right.
37:06At least it looks good.
37:08At least when you say it,
37:10you're proud.
37:12It's not a disclaimer.
37:14It's not photogenic.
37:16Wait a minute.
37:18But she's more handsome in person.
37:20The disclaimers are too long.
37:22The explanations.
37:24Yes, but there's a lot.
37:26Because when you show it to your friends,
37:28they're like, who is that?
37:30Show it to your friend.
37:32What is that?
37:34Ashley, you're so daring.
37:36You're the one who lied.
37:38You can't even show
37:40your real reaction.
37:42Like this?
37:44Are we sure?
37:46He's kind.
37:48He's the one who cleaned our aircon yesterday.
37:50He's your ex.
37:52It's really you, Ashley.
37:54Yesterday,
37:56he just served us.
37:58Is he your ex?
38:00You're not saying anything.
38:03It's not like that.
38:05I know you're our friends.
38:07You don't lie.
38:09You can also bash someone.
38:11That's the concern.
38:13My family is one of them.
38:15Your mom is a basher.
38:17All of them.
38:19It's not okay.
38:21It's not over yet.
38:23Babe, I want to meet your family.
38:25Don't.
38:27Us against the world.
38:29I want to meet your mom.
38:31She doesn't want to meet you.
38:35Straight to the point.
38:37I'm kind.
38:39I'm hardworking.
38:41It's okay.
38:43It's okay.
38:45They don't like me.
38:47As long as I love you.
38:49It's not the right time.
38:51You're married.
38:53You're not meeting my parents yet.
38:55She's the first look.
38:57This is Ashley's groom.
39:01Why?
39:03We didn't raise you like that.
39:05We studied you, Ashley.
39:07That's why.
39:09When is your wedding day?
39:11We poured everything on you, Ashley.
39:13We poured everything on you, Ashley.
39:15You're getting married and you're crying.
39:17My imagination is long.
39:19Anyway.
39:21Let's go back to the red flag.
39:23Extra sweet.
39:25Extra effort.
39:27There could be a mistake.
39:29There could be a mistake.
39:31There's an angle.
39:33The guilty ones.
39:35No.
39:37I just saw you at the grocery store.
39:39You bought flowers and chocolates.
39:41What did you do?
39:43That's how I am.
39:45It's not true.
39:47Really?
39:49You know what?
39:51To all the staff,
39:53keep Hershey away from me.
39:55I'll just fart.
39:58It's too long.
40:00Hershey.
40:02Calm down, Madam Chair.
40:04We want to make the ladies cry.
40:06Don't listen to Hershey.
40:08I'll reconsider our friendship.
40:10I'm the one who's stressed.
40:12Answer me.
40:14Let's not.
40:16I'm just kidding.
40:18Believe me.
40:20Women Empowerment.
40:22Your show is a girl's show.
40:24You two are so balanced.
40:28Can't you see?
40:30I'm the one who's saying no.
40:32Let's stay here.
40:38Hershey, you can answer this.
40:40But fix it.
40:42The glass is empty.
40:44It's going to explode.
40:46Madam Chair.
40:48Your jellyfish is disappearing.
40:50It's rising.
40:52Wait.
40:54I thought your hair was clean.
40:56Are you okay?
40:58We're okay, Madam Chair.
41:00It's because of them.
41:02Here's the red flag.
41:04You're good at this, ladies.
41:06It's hot.
41:08It's like my head is on fire.
41:10For the ladies.
41:12Go ahead, ladies.
41:14What should we do?
41:16When everyone sees the red flag,
41:18as the ladies,
41:21Ashley and Hershey,
41:23but I'm just looking at her.
41:25What will you do when you see the red flag?
41:27You go first, Ashley.
41:29You made me do it.
41:31Do you want to be confused again?
41:33It's pressuring me.
41:35Do you want to be confused again?
41:37Do you want to go first?
41:39Let's give them advice.
41:41Why are you cutting the tissue?
41:43I'm so hot.
41:45A lot is happening.
41:47I feel hot.
41:49I'm sweating.
41:51What will you do, Ashley?
41:53When you see the red flag,
41:55what's the best solution?
41:57Goodbye.
41:59Farewell, goodbye.
42:01If I give you too many chances,
42:03clearly,
42:05you're not doing anything.
42:07I've already voiced it out.
42:09I've already voiced it out.
42:11It's like,
42:13it's going in here and out there.
42:15Let's stop this.
42:17I respect and love myself
42:19too much
42:21to settle for less.
42:23If you don't value me
42:25as a partner,
42:27or as a person,
42:29you're pushing me again and again.
42:31There's no reason for me to stay.
42:33That's it, Hershey?
42:35That's the answer?
42:37That's it, Hershey?
42:39I thought she answered.
42:41I thought she answered.
42:43I believed Hershey.
42:45Let's fight that.
42:47Hershey got pressured.
42:49Is this a joke?
42:51It's just a joke.
42:53It's just a joke.
42:55It's just a joke.
42:57When you see the red flag,
42:59what will you do, Hershey?
43:01I'll have a self-reflection.
43:03What are my non-negotiables?
43:05What matters to me?
43:07What can I compromise?
43:09What's not?
43:11These are my values.
43:14These are the things
43:16that I'm not happy with.
43:18How can I fix this?
43:20Know your worth
43:22and leave with your chin raised up.
43:24Leave with your chin up.
43:26No.
43:28Head held high.
43:30As long as you're like that.
43:32Goodbye.
43:34Leave with stiffness.
43:36Leave with stiffness.
43:38Bye.
43:40I don't deserve this.
43:42You're so confusing, Hershey.
43:44Make a list of the people
43:46who can't come here again.
43:48This is a blacklist.
43:50Because we're tired.
43:52I'm tired.
43:54I'm tired.
43:56I'm tired.
43:58And also,
44:00her last memory with you,
44:02wow.
44:04She knows her worth.
44:06She's hot.
44:08Because
44:10there's no hotness level
44:12to come back.
44:14That happened to me.
44:16There.
44:18Sorry.
44:20There was a break for me.
44:22She said something.
44:24She said something.
44:26Yeah, you can search far and wide
44:28but there is only one me.
44:30That's true.
44:32It should be
44:34the end scene.
44:36Later, I said,
44:39What do you smell?
44:41Nothing.
44:43What do you smell?
44:45Nothing.
44:47There's more.
44:49There's more.
44:51Madam Chair,
44:53Namaste.
44:55There.
44:57We're going to separate ways in the parking lot.
44:59There's more?
45:01I hugged her and said,
45:03I love you.
45:05I love you so much.
45:07She said,
45:13Ouch.
45:15So girls,
45:17when you have a break,
45:19don't say, What do you smell?
45:21I'm so proud of you.
45:23Can we not have a round 2?
45:25What do you smell?
45:27Let's end it.
45:29There is only one me.
45:31That's it.
45:33Roll credits.
45:35Paid to black.
45:37I feel like you grew
45:39right before my eyes.
45:41In this episode,
45:43you started as if I wanted to kick you.
45:45Then you finished.
45:47You're so good.
45:49The airship is spinning.
45:51I told you.
45:53Comeback is real.
45:55She's so good.
45:57You said you won't guest me anymore.
45:59I was scared.
46:01We love having you.
46:04It's funny.
46:06You're hot.
46:08I'll burn this shirt.
46:10With a list of guests
46:12who can't be here anymore.
46:14Who will burn this shirt in Manila?
46:16In Baguio,
46:18I won't do that.
46:20We'll make it hotter.
46:22You'll make it hotter.
46:24Ask a hot question.
46:26We have an executive whisper.
46:28You can say it.
46:30You can say it
46:32but you can also say it.
46:34If you're not comfortable.
46:36We have a list of questions.
46:38The first one is
46:40for Ashley, Madam Chair.
46:42Who's the artist
46:44who did your make-up?
46:46Just make-up.
46:48The one who did my make-up and that's it.
46:50The one who shaved.
46:52The one who shaved.
46:54The one who did it intentionally.
46:56The one who did a trip.
46:58Roll credits.
47:02Again.
47:04Really?
47:06It's a big reaction, right?
47:08Just reach here.
47:14You heard it? Sorry.
47:16It's just a secret.
47:18I'm sorry.
47:20I'm your friend.
47:22Reynold Lagrimas.
47:24I'm sorry.
47:26The second one is
47:28for Hershey.
47:30He's a celebrity.
47:32Do you know him?
47:34Who's the one who confirmed
47:36that he shaved?
47:38The one who said,
47:40you're so handsome.
47:42What else?
47:44I've never been shaved
47:46by an artist.
47:48Why?
47:50She's calling
47:52all the sparkle artists.
47:54Please.
47:56She's calling all the guests.
47:58It's impossible, Nershy.
48:00Maybe you don't know.
48:02There's no one.
48:04There's no one.
48:06After this, there's a lot.
48:08Why do you always call me your friend?
48:10I have a lot of friends.
48:12I'm here.
48:14Please.
48:16Delete everything.
48:18Cut this out.
48:20This is trending.
48:22For this episode,
48:24in the comment section,
48:27let's give a round of applause
48:29to all of the guests
48:31who shaved Hershey.
48:33Let's give a round of applause
48:35to Ashley and Hershey.
48:37Let's give a round of applause
48:39because of your sharing.
48:41Today, we have a law
48:43that will be passed by Madam Chair.
48:45This law is so good.
48:47The title is
48:49Couple Tattoo with a Friend Law.
48:51It's so specific.
48:53Who can help me with this?
48:55It's an honor.
48:59Couple Tattoo with a Friend Law.
49:01The market is so niche.
49:03Only 11 people
49:05will benefit from this law.
49:07As a friend.
49:09The meaning of this is
49:11love is like a tattoo.
49:13The mark is deep,
49:15but it can be erased.
49:17If you want to have a matching tattoo
49:19with your friend,
49:21let's do this.
49:23Your name,
49:25your partner's name,
49:27your children's name,
49:29the barangay captain's name.
49:31Make a list
49:33so that he's still in love with you.
49:35Like that.
49:37Thank you so much,
49:39Ashley and Hershey.
49:41We enjoyed
49:43having an interview with you.
49:45It's already 20 seconds.
49:47There's a limit.
49:49Let's give a round of applause
49:52for this episode.
49:54Thank you so much, girls.
49:56We wish you all the best in your podcast
49:58and in your respective careers.
50:00It's high time women
50:02have a place in this platform.
50:04Thank you so much
50:06for bringing that female perspective,
50:08that female voice
50:10to the issues you're talking about.
50:12We're also confused.
50:14Please support Ashley and Hershey's podcast,
50:16Chicks To Go.
50:18Thank you for coming here.
50:20Madam Chair,
50:22I'm about to explode.
50:24Thank you for listening to our hearing today.
50:26Always remember,
50:28you deserve to laugh.
50:30That's why we brought
50:32more laughter,
50:34more joy.
50:46Guys,
50:48someone told me that I'm stupid.