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00:00 Now this is my skill.
00:02 So, what are the studies I studied?
00:04 I can do this as a job.
00:06 You can do the course along with your skill.
00:08 You can work along with it.
00:10 This is why you have to identify your skill.
00:12 It is very very important.
00:14 The fifth key element of self-awareness is
00:18 Needs
00:20 What are our needs?
00:22 Need to understand
00:24 Maslow's hierarchy
00:26 Theory of human needs
00:28 One of the best work is this
00:30 What Maslow clearly says is
00:34 For any action
00:36 For any action
00:38 There is a physiological
00:40 There is a physiological
00:42 or psychological
00:44 need
00:46 This need is the motivating factor
00:48 and pushes it forward
00:50 So, our needs
00:52 What we need in life
00:54 What we think we need
00:56 is very very important
00:58 So, basically from this Maslow's hierarchy
01:00 when I take it, first is physiological needs
01:02 For you
01:04 Food
01:06 Breathing air
01:08 Clothing and the comfort
01:10 around you
01:12 These are physiological needs
01:14 What kind of house do I need?
01:16 What kind of office room do I need?
01:18 What kind of setup can I work in?
01:20 I studied civil engineering
01:22 But in civil engineering
01:24 there is a need for site work
01:26 But I don't like working in the sun
01:28 I don't like the sun
01:30 When I didn't have that need
01:32 in my comfort zone
01:34 I immediately went to the technology side of civil engineering
01:36 Because
01:38 I can satisfy my comfort zone needs
01:40 at that age
01:42 Without this understanding
01:44 If I had gone to site work
01:46 What would have happened?
01:48 It was sunny every day
01:50 I had to go to office in the morning
01:52 I would have started feeling sad
01:54 I would have felt bad about my skin
01:56 I would have felt headache
01:58 I would have felt bad about my skin
02:00 I would have done that work without any desire
02:02 So, these are the basic physiological needs
02:04 Next is safety needs
02:06 When we talk about safety needs
02:08 First is
02:10 Do you have the comfort you need?
02:12 Are you not afraid?
02:14 Do you feel safe in that job?
02:16 Next is
02:18 social needs
02:20 Social needs are
02:22 the people who are related to you
02:24 What do you need?
02:26 Do you have friends?
02:28 Do you have time with your family?
02:30 Do you have a relationship?
02:32 Do you have a spouse?
02:34 What will society
02:36 give you?
02:38 These are the basic needs
02:40 that you need
02:42 Next is
02:44 esteem needs
02:46 esteem means
02:48 power
02:50 We all need
02:52 authority
02:54 power
02:56 When someone gets a job
02:58 because of this particular job
03:00 he will get a big branding
03:02 authority
03:04 power
03:06 If you are a political person
03:08 you will have more inclination
03:10 to take decisions
03:12 or
03:14 esteem is important
03:16 name is important
03:18 If you are
03:20 asking someone who doesn't need
03:22 to do a job
03:24 you will not have the power
03:26 you will not have the motivation
03:28 to do it
03:30 no matter how much you give
03:32 they will not be motivated
03:34 I need money
03:36 I need financial security
03:38 I need money
03:40 I need authority
03:42 I need this understanding
03:44 Beyond this
03:46 self actualization
03:48 Once all these needs are satisfied
03:50 the elders will be there
03:52 their children will be settled
03:54 all their needs are fulfilled
03:56 they will get a good position
03:58 and fame
04:00 after that
04:02 my knowledge
04:04 my talent
04:06 I will spend it for the society
04:08 I will see how I can
04:10 be better in service
04:12 money is not important
04:14 this self actualization
04:16 is necessary for all
04:18 before this
04:20 it was possible for people above 50
04:22 but today's generation
04:24 can buy a house at the age of 20
04:26 or buy a car
04:28 and within 30 to 40
04:30 they can do what they like
04:32 they can do a business
04:34 everyone is
04:36 very courageous
04:38 to pursue their dreams
04:40 when they go to a place
04:42 after they have achieved everything
04:44 they will have a goal
04:46 this is how Maslow
04:48 explains it
04:50 I have to tell you from my coaching experience
04:52 a parent and a son
04:54 came to me
04:56 and very clearly
04:58 he said he wants to study merchant navy
05:00 that is my interest
05:02 that is my ambition
05:04 I asked him
05:06 why are you so strict
05:08 he said merchant navy
05:10 we were like that
05:12 we finished his session
05:14 and started to understand him
05:16 he said it is not enough
05:18 for him
05:20 his parents
05:22 are giving him good marks
05:24 in physics and maths
05:26 he will definitely get good marks
05:28 you can see
05:30 he will get good marks
05:32 or they will do something else
05:34 we came back to him
05:36 and told him
05:38 he doesn't need merchant navy
05:40 he said
05:42 he will have to join
05:44 and in the final year
05:46 he will have to go to sea
05:48 for 6 months
05:50 in the second month
05:52 he jumped into the sea
05:54 while he was practicing
05:56 during practical learning time
05:58 he jumped into the sea
06:00 very simply
06:02 he was in need of
06:04 friends
06:06 family
06:08 he likes his mom
06:10 he likes his mom's cooking
06:12 he likes his friends
06:14 he likes his family
06:16 he was telling all these
06:18 to his parents
06:20 and to his son
06:22 when we told him
06:24 he said
06:26 in your needs
06:28 love and
06:30 being with your family
06:32 and the reason
06:34 he decided to join
06:36 merchant navy
06:38 was his peer pressure
06:40 he has a neighbor
06:42 who is older than him
06:44 when he joined
06:46 merchant navy
06:48 he bought a BMW
06:50 bike
06:52 he started
06:54 building his house
06:56 he saw a fast growth
06:58 he thought
07:00 he can earn fast
07:02 he and his parents
07:04 decided to join
07:06 think well
07:08 if you are in merchant navy
07:10 you will be in sea for 6 months
07:12 you will be in sea
07:14 people will be working with you
07:16 they will not speak your language
07:18 they will not be your countrymen
07:20 there will be less people
07:22 who can connect emotionally
07:24 you cannot talk to your family
07:26 daily
07:28 you cannot get food
07:30 so people who have emotional needs
07:32 cannot join
07:34 this is an important thing
07:36 to understand
07:38 we will have
07:40 many problems
07:42 so it is important to understand
07:44 your needs
07:46 there is an important concept
07:48 in needs
07:50 deficient needs
07:52 and growth needs
07:54 we can divide needs
07:56 for example
07:58 super singer
08:00 Muthusirpi
08:02 when he was making a video
08:04 his family members were
08:06 praising him
08:08 when he got a chance
08:10 he was in corona time
08:12 he was not getting a chance
08:14 to act
08:16 he was not able to feed his family
08:18 when he joined super singer
08:20 he was not able to earn
08:22 when we were thinking
08:24 we were not able to leave him
08:26 we were suffering all these years
08:28 now we have to suffer together
08:30 it will be difficult
08:32 but if he goes to super singer
08:34 and gets a good name
08:36 our family will be in a better position
08:38 he will earn more
08:40 this is the
08:42 example
08:44 to explain
08:46 when we are struggling
08:48 to get food
08:50 if he goes to super singer
08:52 he will not be able to
08:54 get a job
08:56 how will he feed his family
08:58 we will be hungry
09:00 he was not getting a chance
09:02 he was sitting at home
09:04 he was doing small things
09:06 this is called deficient needs
09:08 you are thinking from your own
09:10 you are not having anything
09:12 you are thinking what is the problem
09:14 and taking decisions
09:16 this is called growth needs
09:18 if he wins
09:20 our family will be in a better position
09:22 he will go to a better place
09:24 then all these problems will be solved
09:26 what are the benefits
09:28 we will get from this
09:30 you are taking decisions
09:32 this is called growth needs
09:34 why you should understand this
09:36 all these needs will be there
09:38 is it deficient needs
09:40 or growth needs
09:42 can you shift your perspective
09:44 to growth needs
09:46 some people cannot
09:48 i told that boy
09:50 he was not able to
09:52 shift his perspective
09:54 he was struggling
09:56 he was not able to
09:58 shift his perspective
10:00 he was not able to
10:02 shift his perspective
10:04 if you are not able to
10:06 understand this
10:08 this is the need
10:10 next is emotions
10:12 when i say emotions
10:14 emotional intelligence
10:16 today's topic is
10:18 emotional intelligence
10:20 we should explain it in simple terms
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