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Narcissistic abusers are not always obvious with their toxic behavior; they disguise themselves by being covert narcissists. Here are 5 dangerous signs you are being abused by a covert narcissist. Narcissists tend to minimize your needs; they rarely ever take fault and even when they do apologize, they do it sparingly and without meaning it, just to get you to forgive them. They don’t care for facts nor logic; they only what they want to hear or believe whatever benefits them. Narcissists also tend to forget that you exist, and project false humility. Narcissists rarely approach you first and wait for you to come to them. In fact, they seem annoyed when you come to them with your problems. Do you think you’re being abused by a narcissist? Let us know in the comments. We try our best to read through everything, because you matter a lot to us as a member of our community ❤ .
Source: Psych2GO
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00:02 What is covert narcissistic abuse?
00:08 Are you a victim?
00:09 Mind games.
00:10 Nobody enjoys being played,
00:12 but narcissists enjoy playing them.
00:14 They enjoy the game of cat and mouse
00:16 and seek pleasure from reeling
00:17 in their next vulnerable victim.
00:19 But more often than not,
00:21 people who are prone to being taken advantage of
00:23 by narcissists overlook their innocent facades.
00:26 In fact, they often make excuses for them,
00:29 even when they're being poorly mistreated
00:31 by their toxic behavior.
00:32 Why is this?
00:33 Because narcissists aren't always obvious.
00:36 They disguise themselves by being charmingly covert.
00:39 Here are five dangerous signs
00:41 you're being abused by a covert narcissist.
00:44 One, they minimize your needs.
00:47 Do you feel like you're giving more than you're receiving?
00:49 What about feeling small when you're around them?
00:51 Covert narcissists have a sneaky way
00:54 of getting inside people's heads
00:55 and making you believe
00:57 like you're responsible for everything.
00:59 They rarely take fault.
01:00 And even when they do apologize,
01:02 they do it sparingly and without meaning,
01:04 just to get you to forgive them.
01:06 They don't care for facts or logic,
01:08 only what they want to hear or believe that benefits them.
01:12 Recognize that what you need is important too,
01:15 so don't always yield for their benefits.
01:18 Two, they forget that you exist.
01:20 Being passionate about a hobby or a career
01:22 is an attractive trait,
01:24 but there's a fine line between passion and obsession.
01:27 If your friend or romantic partner often ignores you
01:30 or cancels plans with you
01:31 to focus on their favorite activities,
01:33 then it's a sign that they just don't care about you.
01:36 Being understanding and open-minded.
01:39 You probably always make up excuses for them.
01:41 You frequently say things like,
01:43 "Well, they worked hard to get where they are today,
01:46 so I'm gonna be supportive."
01:47 Or, "There's always next week, what's the rush?"
01:50 But this is exactly how they have you
01:52 wrapped around their finger.
01:53 Don't let them have the upper hand
01:55 and emphasize your boundaries.
01:57 Three, they project false humility.
02:00 Do they often cry to you and put themselves down,
02:02 saying they aren't good enough or feel misunderstood?
02:05 Before believing them, recognize that this is a trap.
02:09 Covert narcissists like to play the victim card
02:12 and feel like people never understand them enough.
02:14 They might be highly sensitive individuals
02:16 who say things like,
02:17 "If only people could understand how smart I am,"
02:20 or, "Why don't others appreciate who I am?"
02:22 They love surrounding themselves
02:24 with those who can boost their ego.
02:26 It's better not to give in and dish out less compliments.
02:30 Four, they never approach you first
02:32 and wait for you to come to them.
02:33 Covert narcissists feel a sense of entitlement.
02:36 They believe that they should be appreciated
02:39 and noticed first by others
02:40 before giving someone attention in return.
02:43 They dislike being in a group full of people,
02:45 unless all eyes and talk are on them.
02:48 If you find yourself constantly putting in all the work
02:51 and go to them first,
02:52 then you've become their little puppet.
02:54 Stand up for yourself and show them
02:56 that you don't have all the time in the day to serve them.
02:59 You're better than that.
03:01 Five, they seem annoyed when you come to them
03:03 with your problems.
03:04 Are you the reliable friend or partner
03:06 that can always count on to listen to them
03:09 when they're having a bad day?
03:10 But you're human too, and sometimes you have a bad day.
03:14 When you run into trouble,
03:15 do they grow impatient or frustrated
03:17 and have a habit of dismissing your emotions?
03:20 If they claim they're too busy
03:21 to help you deal with your problems,
03:23 then it's clear they lack empathy,
03:25 a strong indicator that they're a narcissist at heart.
03:28 It's better to find someone who treats you right
03:31 instead of being with someone who takes you for granted.
03:33 Do you think you're being abused by a narcissist?
03:36 Please share your thoughts with us below.
03:38 Also, be sure to subscribe to our channel
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03:43 With your help, we can reach more people
03:44 to spread awareness on mental health issues.
03:47 Thanks for watching.
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