Welcome to our latest video exploring the fascinating world of human sexuality! In this video, we delve into the psychology of sexual fantasies and what they can tell us about ourselves and our desires.
Sexual fantasies are a normal and healthy part of human sexuality, but they can also be confusing and even disturbing for some people. We explore the different types of sexual fantasies, including the most common ones, and examine the psychological reasons behind them.
Sexual fantasies are a normal and healthy part of human sexuality, but they can also be confusing and even disturbing for some people. We explore the different types of sexual fantasies, including the most common ones, and examine the psychological reasons behind them.
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00:00 Why do people have sexual fantasies?
00:02 Well, according to a survey of over 4,000 Americans
00:06 discussed in a Psychology Today article
00:08 by psychologist, Justin LaMiller, there are a few reasons.
00:12 The most common reason given by survey participants
00:14 was simply to experience sexual arousal.
00:17 While 69.8% of Americans said it was because
00:20 they were curious about different sensations
00:22 and sexual experiences.
00:24 Following that, participants reported having these fantasies
00:27 to meet unfulfilled sexual needs, escape reality for a while
00:31 or express or fulfill a socially taboo sexual desire.
00:35 See, lots of people have seemingly taboo sexual fantasies,
00:39 which is why it's important to discuss this topic.
00:42 According to an article from Insider, evidence suggests
00:45 that those who have sexual fantasies experience less anxiety
00:48 and a greater sense of self-esteem.
00:51 So what are these seemingly taboo thoughts?
00:53 Well, here are four of the most common sexual fantasies.
00:57 Like it rough?
00:58 Apparently over 70% of you do.
01:02 That's right.
01:02 Rough sex and dominant sex have been found
01:05 to be more common than you think.
01:06 Social psychologist, Justin LaMiller,
01:08 surveyed 4,000 Americans and found that 93% of women
01:12 and 81% of men had fantasized about being dominated.
01:15 While 85% of men and 76% of women fantasized
01:19 about being sexually dominant.
01:22 This may make you think of BDSM, which stands for bondage,
01:26 discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism.
01:31 There's a psychological component
01:33 that is often involved in BDSM.
01:36 Many, for example, like psychological role-play
01:39 where an exchange of power is often present.
01:42 Cosplay and role-play.
01:44 Cosplay?
01:46 Isn't that the thing people do at Comic-Cons?
01:49 Well, hey, some may do it in the bedroom too.
01:52 Role-play and cosplay are different.
01:55 According to an article from Insider,
01:57 cosplay is the act of dressing up
01:58 like someone or something else,
02:00 often from a book, movie or video game.
02:03 It's not inherently sexual,
02:05 but some people enjoy impersonating a character during sex.
02:08 However, the term role-play often has a sexual connotation
02:12 as it has often been used
02:13 to fulfill sexual kinks or desires.
02:15 Remember that power exchange mentioned before?
02:18 Dressing up as certain characters
02:20 or taking on different personas with your partner
02:22 may just be a way to safely
02:24 and consensually express that desire.
02:27 Certified sex therapist, Sari Cooper explains
02:29 in an article for Psychology Today
02:31 that the old saying that the brain is the biggest sex organ
02:34 still holds true.
02:36 How we become aroused in a sexual scenario,
02:38 either solo or with a partner
02:40 begins with fantasy and imagination.
02:42 Cooper goes on to explain that often her clients are shy
02:46 about sharing personal fantasies out of fear
02:48 of being perceived as strange, bizarre,
02:50 or disgusting by their partner.
02:52 She adds that not being fully open
02:55 about one's sexual desires and needs
02:57 can lead to problems down the road in the relationship.
03:00 It seems role-playing isn't as taboo as some might think.
03:04 And as Cooper adds, role-playing is one of many options
03:07 that provide a safe, non-threatening way
03:09 for couples to explore.
03:11 Multi-partner sex, threesomes, orgies.
03:15 You may have come across these terms before,
03:17 and that may be because of a sexual fantasy
03:20 involving more than one other partner is pretty common.
03:23 A study published in the journal
03:25 Personality and Individual Differences
03:27 had 788 British adults across four age groups
03:31 take a nationwide quota poll.
03:33 They found that men were more likely to fantasize
03:35 about having sex with more than one person,
03:37 often with anonymous partners.
03:39 For women, the study states that as a proportion
03:43 of total fantasy output, women were more likely than men
03:46 to fantasize about same-sex and famous partners.
03:50 But wait, there's more.
03:51 A 2017 study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior
03:55 and discussed in an article from Insider
03:57 found that out of 274 Canadian university undergrads,
04:02 64% of them revealed that they had interest
04:05 in multi-partner sex.
04:06 When it comes to sexual fantasies,
04:09 the most important thing to remember
04:10 is that it's normal and all right to fantasize
04:14 and explore your sexual desires and interests.
04:17 If you have a partner, it's a great idea
04:19 to communicate your sexual fantasies to them.
04:22 Why?
04:23 Well, it may just improve your sex life and relationship,
04:25 according to a survey conducted by psychologist Ari Tuchman.
04:29 Tuchman explains in an article for Psychology Today
04:31 that those who were most satisfied
04:34 with their relationships and sex lives
04:36 and had the most frequent sex
04:37 were also the most comfortable sharing their fantasies
04:40 with their partner.
04:41 Tuchman adds that these couples
04:43 are doing a lot of things well,
04:45 which makes it easy to feel safe
04:46 with the vulnerable intimacy involved
04:48 in sharing their most secret desires.
04:50 The question is, will you share your secret desires
04:53 with someone else in the bedroom
04:55 or will it remain your prized fantasy?
04:58 A secret only for you to know and enjoy.
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