Today (drumroll please) we are here to give you an introvert’s survival guide to dating. These suggestions are tailored to help you make the most of your best qualities. If you're an introvert, it' time to bond together ;)
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00:14 out there. Hey Psych2Goers, welcome back! In the age of dating apps like Hinge and Bumble,
00:20 it's easy to sit behind a screen and swipe. But meeting your match can still be a daunting
00:25 experience. Does this sound like something you relate to? If so, this video might be beneficial
00:30 for you as we're going to outline some tips for introverts looking to join the dating scene.
00:35 If you want more tips and tricks on living life as an introvert, why not check out Psych2Go's
00:39 very own ebook called "An Introvert's Survival Guide" which can be found on our website and
00:45 is linked in the description box below. With that said, here are 10 tips for dating as an introvert.
00:51 Number 1. Try not to assume how your date sees you. Do you tend to assume what people are thinking
00:57 about you? As an introvert, you might not talk about yourself as much, which means there are
01:02 many things your date won't know about you. How about taking charge of this and bringing up a
01:06 topic on something you like? This way, your focus can be on what you enjoy talking about, rather
01:12 than overthinking how your date views you. Who knows, this might lead you to uncover similar
01:18 interests. Number 2. Do things your way. Do you ever turn down dates because you're not comfortable
01:24 with the suggested activity? If things like bar scenes aren't for you, how about suggesting an
01:29 alternative meetup spot? Places like cafes or restaurants can provide a much more intimate
01:34 space that creates a warm and more inviting conversation. If the person you're dating
01:39 isn't willing to try things you like, then they're most likely not the one for you.
01:44 Number 3. Wear something comfortable and familiar. If you hate wearing a dress and heels,
01:50 forcing yourself into such an outfit is going to leave you feeling out of your comfort zone
01:54 and more self-conscious. If on the other hand, you love wearing a dress and heels,
01:58 then by all means go ahead. The main point here is to wear what you will feel most comfortable in.
02:03 That way, you can focus on engaging with the other person rather than thinking about the
02:07 outfit you're wearing. Number 4. Prep a little on conversational topics. If you find yourself
02:14 being extra anxious over what to talk about, maybe you could try thinking up a few conversation
02:19 starters before the date. This way, you can go into the date feeling more confident and relaxed.
02:24 Some conversation starter topics might include interesting anecdotes of your life or particular
02:29 questions you would like to ask your date. Once the conversations start, it's often much easier
02:34 to maintain them. Number 5. Focus on yourself. Do you tend to overanalyze everything after a date,
02:42 such as if and when they'll text you or whether they'll ask you on another date?
02:47 Rather than obsessing over how the other person thinks the date went, try to focus on yourself
02:53 and what's important to you. This will help you learn to love your introverted demands for
02:57 withdrawal and how to balance dating amongst all the other areas of your life. Number 6. Be well-fed.
03:05 Have you ever been so hungry that you can't focus on the task at hand? Well, there's nothing quite
03:10 like a hungry and therefore seemingly impatient person on a date. If you're getting hungry right
03:15 before, maybe have a quick snack so your attention is not solely focused on your rumbling tummy.
03:20 This will allow you to feel more present on the date and it'll be a more enjoyable experience
03:25 for the both of you. Number 7. Don't take tips from movies or TV shows. Whilst we all might
03:32 have secretly wanted to be as charming as Mary Jensen or as smooth as Joey Tribbiani, there is
03:38 a not-so-fine line between reality and fantasy. TV shows and movies are a great source of
03:45 entertainment but that's all we should view them as, entertainment. Don't use them as a handbook
03:50 to real-life dating because unlike these perfectly scripted, produced and edited shows, our lives
03:56 don't always have the happy ending that movies promise. Number 8. Listen to some music before
04:02 you step out the door. Is music something that alters your mood? Playing feel-good tunes that
04:07 make you want to dance and sing along right before a date can help you feel more energetic,
04:11 enthused and confident. Before your date, how about empowering yourself with your favorite songs?
04:17 Perhaps some K-pop? Maybe some Ariana Grande? Or did someone say Lizzo? Number 9. Allow yourself
04:25 to express things. If you're feeling a certain way, let it out. If you're really enjoying your
04:31 date, let them know. If they've said something that doesn't sit right, you're welcome to share
04:35 your thoughts. Your emotions are valid in any setting so if you have something you want to say,
04:40 say it. It can help the other person feel appreciated and invite them to share how they
04:45 feel and it can also help stimulate interesting discussions. Don't hold yourself back. Letting
04:50 your date know more about how you feel will inevitably let them learn more about who you
04:54 truly are. Number 10. Date someone who gets you. Whilst there's always room for compromise,
05:01 ultimately, you should date someone who gets you and accepts you for who you are.
05:05 If you're wanting some extra encouragement, try new activities. Dating an extrovert can help,
05:12 but if they make you feel bad about yourself or overly push you to do things you don't want to do,
05:17 they probably aren't the one for you. When you're with someone who makes you feel comfortable and
05:22 safe, you shouldn't have to justify your introversion or apologize for who you are.
05:26 So there you have it, 10 tips on dating as an introvert. Did any of these tips help you? If so,
05:32 please let us know which ones in the comments below. If you're wanting to join a community
05:36 especially designed for introverts, please check out our introvert channel called
05:41 Introverts Unite. This can also be found in the description box along with our ebook mentioned
05:46 earlier. As always, thank you so much for watching. If you enjoyed this video, please like,
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05:55 who need some dating advice. Thanks for watching and we'll see you next time.