• 10 months ago
"Empowerment is the key to unlocking potential" David Nurse emphasizes the significance of empowerment in achieving success. By empowering oneself with a clear vision and belief in one's abilities, individuals can tap into their full potential.

Nurse encourages individuals to identify their strengths, set specific goals, and take action towards achieving them. Empowerment is the catalyst that propels individuals forward, enabling them to overcome obstacles and reach new heights.
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00:00 So you told the Phoenix Suns no. Mm-hmm. You turned it down. Yeah
00:03 Was there a part of you that wanted to try to do both?
00:06 I have transferable skills and I think a lot of people think okay if you go from one thing to the next thing
00:11 It's completely new. It's not it was a snapshot moment these moments in our lives where you can remember exactly where you're at
00:17 That was going from 7 in the morning to 7 at night I had prepared and prepared
00:24 I had done that I tallied every time I gave that talk to somebody to my wife to myself
00:29 163 times training all these NBA players. It's everything that I wanted to do
00:33 I just was not finding joy in going to the gym and I would ask my wife
00:38 I was praying that players would not show up because I was just so worn out if this
00:43 works with
00:45 NBA athletes, it's probably something that everybody needs to be able to tap into their mindset and know how to
00:51 optimally
00:53 Perform at their highest level
00:55 You
00:57 Welcome to the show David appreciate you having me on dude. I am so excited to have you here
01:18 This is a long-awaited long overdue finally got you in studio so we can hang out
01:23 I can get into the brain of the great David nurse. It's a dangerous thing
01:27 I don't know if that's good or bad, but we'll find out
01:29 Well, I know it's well sought after around this country and world because you are one of the top motivational speakers
01:35 Thanks, man
01:35 and I guess my first question coming from your background being a professional basketball player working with NBA teams and
01:40 Still doing that but pivoting to now helping business owners and getting into the mindset
01:46 What kind of happened to make you say?
01:48 You know what? I have more to give outside of basketball and I can help inspire motivate and teach others phenomenal question. So I remember it
01:56 Vividly, it was a snapshot moment these moments in our lives where you can remember exactly where you're at
02:01 It's 2019. I was on the court in Santa Monica training Wasserman agent players
02:07 so this was I mean probably five all-stars on their 20 stud NBA players and
02:14 I was going from 7 in the morning to 7 at night and from the outside and if I was looking at my
02:21 Little David that would have looked like the greatest thing to do be training all these NBA players
02:26 It's everything that I'd wanted to do. I just was not finding joy in going to the gym in the morning
02:31 I was asked my wife
02:32 I was praying that players would not show up because I was just so worn out and I realized
02:37 That I mean all my identity had been tied to basketball
02:40 it's the only thing I'd ever done since I can remember my first memory and
02:45 I just remember just being like just worn out collapsing of exhaustion on the court. I do I really love
02:52 the actual
02:54 No X's and O's or telling someone to hold their follow through the 45th millionth time
02:59 And I didn't but what I did love about it was
03:04 inspiring the players showing them their full potential giving them more hope outside of just the
03:09 Jumpshot or the dribble move and seeing them become really excited in it and helping them
03:15 formulate a plan
03:17 Mentally more than physically to continue to grow like if this
03:21 works with
03:23 NBA athletes, it's probably something that everybody needs to be able to tap into their mindset and know how to
03:31 optimally perform at their highest level and
03:33 I didn't really know how to get into it in terms of speaking or
03:38 writing books or coaching CEOs
03:41 And I had an offer from the Phoenix Suns to run their entire player development that GM was a good friend of mine
03:48 I was consulting for them and
03:50 Everybody's like wow, you're gonna be back in the NBA back in NBA coaching. That sounds great and all but this one friend of mine
03:56 His name is John Gordon. He's an author and speaker great great friend of mine
04:00 He challenged me. He's like, is that really what you want?
04:03 Do you really think that's what God is calling you to do just be in the basketball court?
04:07 And I thought about it like well
04:09 He's probably right
04:09 I'm leaning into this because I think this is what I have to do because my identity is basketball and so the only thing I've
04:14 ever done
04:16 so I took the
04:17 Challenge bet on myself and just started writing started writing books and asking him a ton of questions
04:23 Because he'd been there before he was a let me know renowned speaker
04:27 so like I didn't have to try to figure it out myself and he took me under his wing and I
04:31 remember the first talk that I ever gave I
04:34 Didn't know like anything about keynote speaking or how to book talks. I had a friend who worked at Nestle, Australia
04:42 And that's a big company. Yeah. Yeah, it's probably shouldn't be saying this if they're listening to this, but that was my first
04:47 Is what it is good products Nestle. Yeah, totally on everything. Yeah, they really do
04:52 I didn't realize that at the time so I asked him like who books your speakers
04:55 So he sent me an email and then I you know
04:58 You go on down the line of email after email and I finally got to somebody who was in charge of doing so
05:03 I go I'd send me your speaking reel. I didn't know what a speaking reel was. My wife's an actor
05:08 We hired her acting coach and rented out a little church studio type of thing real small. I brought in different outfits
05:15 We brought in some friends
05:16 So it looked like the place was packed and I was given one-liners in different ways
05:19 So it looked like I'd done it a million times before I had smart
05:22 And I finally get on the call with the the actual guy who's booking him like how am I at this situation?
05:26 And he said I would like your stuff
05:29 We'll take you what's your fee and I said a number that I thought was really high
05:33 he's like, yeah, totally I should have asked for more but it's the
05:37 that transformation was is also a you know, I hadn't done it before but I did know that I had
05:45 transferable skills of
05:48 Speaking to basketball players doing tons of basketball camps all over the world. So it's not like I hadn't spoken before
05:54 I just hadn't done it in that setting
05:56 So I gained a lot of confidence from knowing I have transferable skills
06:00 And I think a lot of people think okay, if you go from one thing to the next thing, it's completely new
06:04 It's not right, but then when I step on stage
06:07 now
06:10 How many people were at that first event? There was I mean, it's probably
06:14 1500 it was a it was a solid it was their yearly kickoff. It was a it was a that's a big first day
06:19 Big first stage. Yes big first stage
06:21 So when I go up there now
06:24 Obviously nervous as can be but I had prepared and prepared
06:29 I had done that I tallied every time I gave that talk to somebody to my wife to myself
06:33 163 times Oh Wow
06:36 So but like before that I didn't know that you had to prepare that much that many times and a friend another friend told me
06:41 He's like if you go up there thinking you're just gonna wing it you're done. You will you will absolutely flop
06:46 so I so you're of God in me in that do you have a
06:49 You you have a written in memorized speech. Well, I did then yeah
06:55 Totally. Oh, I was so like I was visually seeing my next thing now as a speaker
07:01 You don't necessarily want to be like so rigid stuck in your ways because you want to you know
07:06 Have the audience feel it sure, but I never done it before so I was pretty much memorizing
07:11 Word for word slide for slide and it went great. It was one of those moments, too
07:16 I I started then I looked down at the clock and there was 20 seconds left. I was hitting it all on point
07:22 Like oh my gosh
07:23 But everything so that's kind of how I transitioned in from there you get the video you send it out and everything like that
07:29 But yeah, I guess long answer
07:32 That's the transition from on court taking the mental aspect of it to use in different fields
07:38 So you you quickly said you bet on yourself. So you told the Phoenix Suns? No. Mm-hmm. You turned it down. Yeah
07:45 Was there a part of you that wanted to try to do both? Oh, totally
07:50 Yeah, I mean the GM was gonna give me full autonomy to run it. However, I want to bring in sleep coaches
07:57 I was totally into
07:58 Optimization, you know every aspect of it. I was gonna be able to run it
08:02 However, I wanted to so I was thinking this is an opportunity of a lifetime
08:06 It is and I totally wanted I totally wanted to do both and that's a huge struggle of mine as it is of the the shiny
08:12 Object syndrome it is it is my what I call the action archetypes in
08:17 The book that I just wrote there's nine action archetypes. These are the reasons people hold themselves back from taking action
08:24 It can be the allodex a phobic which is fear of other people's opinion the burnt where you're burnt by the past in a situation
08:31 The perfectionist but mine is the distracted not distracting like I'm you know, I'm scrolling Instagram or getting notifications
08:38 But the shiny object there's so many good opportunities. How do you pick one? How do you pick one?
08:42 How do you pick your lane?
08:44 How do you know like how do you just go full in on that when there's all the all these other?
08:47 Great masterminds to be at or this and that to be at but to stay just rock solid focused on your vision
08:53 So that's what I had to make that decision of I can't do both and I'm gonna turn it down and I'm gonna bet on
08:59 myself
09:01 But I think either one was kind of betting on yourself
09:03 So there have been when you when you made the decision to bet on yourself
09:06 Did you have in your mind this future David that said I'm gonna be a world-renowned speaker is that was that the intention?
09:13 Yes, absolutely author and speaker author and I just started writing I got on the on the treadmill. I walk when I write
09:20 That's what I find my in the zone and I just wrote I wrote for an hour a day
09:24 It didn't matter if I wrote two pages or two words
09:27 I was just committed like a workout to write for an hour a day and I had no idea
09:32 What I was doing when I was writing my first book
09:34 I just wrote story with point story with point and it was like 90 different stories
09:38 And I got blessed to have a great editor who helped me narrow that down
09:42 But the whole like point of it was in I still see this as I'm gonna be in New York Times best-selling author
09:49 One of the top speakers in the world it will happen. I'm not at that point yet
09:54 Speaking of your I still think there's many different more levels to get one of the best. Well, thank you
09:59 I think there's more levels to get to but like I'm content where I'm at right now
10:04 Sure, I want to be further, but I also know that I'm not ready for that yet
10:08 If I was in front of a hundred thousand people just give you know, giving a talk without slides
10:13 I don't know
10:14 Maybe I'm not ready for that point yet
10:16 And I'm a full believer in that God is going to put you in the spot
10:19 You're supposed to be in and when that times right he'll open that door and if I spend my whole day
10:24 Stressing of like well, why hasn't my book hit the New York Times? All my friends are doing it
10:28 Why hasn't mine or why am I not speaking on that stage or that stage?
10:31 Then I'm just driving myself nuts. Yeah, because it's not my we're all in different races and that's not where my race is right now
10:38 so I think what set you up in your career to be
10:43 coaching CEOs and speaking at the highest level is because the
10:46 Athletes that you were working with were already the highest level performers in their craft, right?
10:50 They're already NBA players, which means they're the top 1% of 1% of 1% totally and
10:54 That's something that amateurs don't really comprehend that the worst NBA player is the greatest player you've ever seen
11:01 Oh my gosh, the greatest crazy. Yeah, it's crazy. I mean, I'll never forget
11:05 I went to University of Arizona and so oh, yeah
11:07 And I was there the year that they were competing for national championships and you know, Jason Gardner will buy them Luke Walton
11:13 Miles Simon Luke Walton are good friends of mine. Yes, and so we'd play amateur basketball in the wreck and occasionally
11:18 One of them would show up Isaiah Fox is a good buddy
11:20 He worked at the Lakers and they would show up and these guys some of them went pro some did Salim's Dottermeier
11:25 They're the greatest thing you've ever seen. Like you're like they don't miss
11:30 It's the greatest thing ever and yet they either made made it or barely made it or performed
11:35 But point is your athletes that you're working with are already so high dude
11:39 So they don't need to be coached on the fundamentals as much as if you coached someone like me or a kid that isn't a professional
11:45 Right, so you're already dabbling in their brain
11:48 What was the common thing you saw amongst your athletes that maybe they didn't all struggle with but kind of you leaned in and said?
11:54 This is where I'm really adding the most value confidence. No doubt. There's absolutely no doubt about it
11:59 That the high performers in any realm but an NBA in my field its confidence
12:04 It's eliminating hesitation and I don't think how people know how powerful that is
12:09 Hesitation is a point zero one second decision happens in your SMA supplementary motor cortex
12:16 Where you just you take the choice of I'm not gonna shoot it or I'm going to shoot it
12:22 No matter what Steph Curry mode he misses 15 shots
12:24 He's shooting the 16th one the exact same way how many people actually do that?
12:29 Very very few so it's confidence. It's it's essentially getting a player to believe in themselves
12:36 Wholeheartedly that they are at their top capacity when they step on the floor every night if you have a beaker of water
12:43 Say it's you can have a hundred percent capacity. Most players are not stepping on that court with a hundred percent
12:50 They're not there's some type of doubt. They had a bad game before they had something going on in their personal life
12:55 They're not stepping out there with that. Maybe the coach isn't giving them the green light or you miss a shot
13:01 You look over at the coach. Are you gonna get pulled out like that?
13:03 That really it hurts your confidence and then it's also in the moments
13:08 During the game what happens when you turn the ball over two times in a row?
13:13 What happens when you miss five shots does that beaker of confidence go down?
13:16 So it's how to step on the floor with a hundred percent unshakable confidence and then also how to perform
13:23 under pressure when bad situations happen when the storm comes how to be calm in the eye of a hurricane and
13:31 That's hard to do there. It is very hard to do and it's a constant constant battle like I'll
13:38 Continually talk with the players that I've worked with or that I am currently working with in and that's it something happens in the game
13:46 How do you?
13:49 Reset yourself the snap of the fingers back to the most confident self you can be in without
13:53 Allowing the compounding effects of negativity to continue to bring you down and cause this
13:59 self doubt and ultimately the hesitation
14:02 And I love I love how you just broke that down because while basketball is an easy example to see it in the form of a
14:09 Game, I think for us non professional sports athletes that deal with it in personal professional world
14:14 It carries over longer because the game isn't 40. Yeah. Yeah
14:18 So I love that you brought that mindset to coaching executives and speaking on stages to impact thousands and millions of people
14:25 What is the things that you work on and obviously we don't have?
14:30 Six months to go into a mall
14:32 But what would you say are like the few things that the audience who is listening these CEOs these entrepreneurs these?
14:37 Yeah
14:38 Employees at companies that are trying to perform but maybe have some of these doubts
14:41 These parents that are dealing with confidence like we all deal with it. That is the thing that hesitation that point zero one second
14:47 What are some steps?
14:48 What are some things that you work on with your athletes and your clients that maybe we can start to apply immediately?
14:54 Oh, that's good having a plan having actionable goals. So not just
15:00 Vague goals, so I'll tell the story to make make sense on what I mean by having very specific
15:06 Strategic goals so player I started working with in 2018 D'Amato Sabonis
15:11 He was playing with the Pacers at the time coming off the bench
15:14 so he wasn't the Sabonis that if you know the NBA you'll know who he is now and
15:18 He came into the Santa Monica gym and I asked him what his goals are and he said he wants to be great
15:24 Like that's what everybody wants. That's extremely vague. What does great mean? So you need to define your goals?
15:31 You just can't say hey, I'm gonna get in shape
15:33 Well, what does get in shape me like how are you gonna actually take those action steps towards it? So I said, let's define this
15:39 All right. Well, what does greatness mean to you? It says I want to I want to be an all-star
15:42 He hadn't been an all-star is a three-time all-star now hadn't been an all-star
15:45 So like okay, when do you want to be an all-star? He said 2020 so he gave it that 2019 season 2020
15:51 It's like where's the game Chicago, Illinois wins tip-off 730 p.m. What's the date February 18th?
15:57 So we got so specific with the goals that he knew
16:00 Everything he did on a daily basis and his habits was going to lead towards that he even put it on the lock screen of
16:06 his phone where average Americans touched their phone
16:10 47 times a day. So all the times you see that and we also strategically I think this is a key point
16:17 We place it in different spots
16:19 So once your mind sees something for on average 11 days, it starts to turn it off
16:24 So think about that if you put something on your fridge like a motivational quote
16:28 I've got a lot of them up there, but I don't see them anymore the first 11 days
16:32 I did so you have to continue to change it your mind starts getting used to things
16:36 You need to put it in different places as your mind evolves
16:39 So we put it, you know on his in his car different different places
16:43 So he knew every single day he was gonna do something that took one step forward closer to that goal
16:48 There was no ambiguity of it. He knew what his goal was going to be
16:51 2020 comes around February 18th 730 p.m. Chicago, Illinois
16:55 DeMonte Sabonis is an NBA all-star now not because he set goals
17:01 Obviously he put in the work and like there was many
17:04 What I call and a friend of mine drew Hanlon is a great NBA trainer calls the unseen hours
17:09 Like are you willing to put in the work when there's no bright lights?
17:13 Are you willing to put in the work when there's no Instagram that's going to be posting about how hard you're getting your work in?
17:19 Are you willing to do that? And he was that's the insatiable drive that I talk where you have to have that type of insatiable drive
17:26 So one of the biggest things is helping CEOs figure out what are their goals for the company?
17:32 like and and the biggest thing and I'm working with a company that is
17:36 fortune 100 publicly traded and dealing with the street and dealing with the board and there's so
17:42 Many different people that you have to appease and have on the same
17:46 On the same vision like how do you get your staff?
17:50 Everybody with the same mission together no ego involved. So we created these non-negotiables
17:58 So athletes will have our non-negotiables for okay. You have to train every day
18:02 You know, you have to work on your mindset like you have your non-negotiables you're doing for the company
18:08 It was there's no ego. Nobody in the company can have ego
18:11 I've worked with NBA teams and I've seen the good and I've seen the bad and ego is not just in the players
18:17 It's in the coaches in the trainers in every single aspect. So getting everybody on the same page, but but one of the biggest
18:26 You know just detachments that I saw is the actual communication and I know that might sound basic
18:32 But the different areas of the company they were not communicating with each other
18:36 Everybody was in their own lane and they weren't like hey, what are you doing? How can I do this?
18:41 How can I help you here? So some lanes were good. Some lanes were nobody knew what each other was doing
18:46 So getting everybody on the same page is one of the biggest
18:50 culture
18:52 Enhancers there is I mean, it's the same thing for marriage like if you don't communicate
18:55 But you're like that's gonna be very very difficult and I know it sounds so easy
19:00 But it's not actually that easy and I've been blessed to spend time with Eric Spolster is one of my close friends
19:06 best culture
19:07 I think in the NBA over the last 20 years in Miami Heat and
19:09 That's I've taken a lot of principles for how they do it with the with the no ego
19:15 Non-negotiables with every player that is on the team works with a different coach
19:22 It's not the same guy with the same guy because then you start feeling your ownership of that player and nobody else can touch him
19:27 It's a really weird type of thing
19:29 But they're so invested in
19:31 They are who they are and they actually have this saying that we're not for everyone and they embrace that little dog mindset over there
19:37 I mean, they're probably the best for those who don't watch the NBA
19:40 They're probably the team that has exceeded their potential more on an annual year-in-year-out basis regardless of what players are there
19:46 So that gets to that point
19:48 Spolster and the staff they empower players in their role
19:52 So well same thing with companies and CEOs you have to empower your people
19:57 You can't assume that they know what to do
20:00 You can't assume that they're gonna be able to do the same thing that you have in your mind
20:04 You just can't but they do such a great job of empowerment like they have players
20:08 Like you Don is has a moves in the NBA for he's still in the NBA. Yeah, he's forever
20:14 But his role was to be the mentor to the younger guys
20:17 They've got like they empowered Duncan Robinson. Like all I want you to do is shoot threes. Don't worry about anything else
20:22 They'll have offensive rebounders. I have hustle guys. It's the same thing with companies
20:26 You need to be able to empower your players power your people in the correct way all on the same mission same vision
20:32 with no ego I
20:34 Love that I agree
20:38 How what is it?
20:40 For someone who's heard that and they go I mean, that's it
20:43 That's the gospel by the way, rewind that listen to that again. That is the path, right?
20:47 That is how you do it as a CEO or a company you build that culture you do empower
20:51 Hmm, what is something that you notice that maybe CEOs are doing?
20:55 That is adverse to that effect to that outcome, but they may not realize
21:00 Because I think it is so simple and most of the things that make success happen are simple
21:05 But we don't realize that we're not doing or we're doing something that is against it. Yeah
21:09 Well, I mean, I think it is just knowing what your ultimate strength is
21:13 So CEOs that I've been around is they're not always the best at
21:17 Building the business in terms of being the visionary
21:21 So if you're a visionary CEO be the visionary CEO
21:23 But have some person or a CEO or another CEO that knows how to build it knows how to do their strength
21:29 So I think the biggest flaw is thinking that you can do too many things like the founder that also thinks they're a CEO
21:35 There's two very different skills and it works that way for for coaches to like
21:40 NBA head coaches that also think they're player development coaches
21:43 Maybe you can do it maybe but you don't have the time to be able to do one thing
21:49 Great and in the NBA and in high-level business if if you're just good in areas
21:56 You're not gonna be in there for very long
21:57 You have to be great at one being great at one area is much better being good at five areas
22:02 I mean, that's that's profound because that's right. You have to be remarkable
22:07 You have to be the absolute best at your craft. Otherwise, you're just average totally
22:10 I grew up with this guy Kyle Korver in Pella, Iowa. It's one of the top five NBA three-point shooters in history
22:16 He wanted to be everything when he was in high school. He's a couple years older than me when he's in college
22:20 Wasn't really recruited here one scholarship offer from Creighton because he was trying to be everything
22:25 Dana Altman sat him down and said if you want to play
22:29 Here at this level of college or even have a chance to play pro all I want you to do is focus on being the best
22:34 Three-point shooter you can possibly be so he did and he did indeed got drafted barely got into the NBA in the second round
22:39 Second rounders they last I think it's like six percent of second rounders make it past three seasons six percent
22:46 But he honed in that skill dudes not athletic can't hardly dribble. I've done many workouts with him
22:52 Like he's not slashing but oh my gosh, can he shoot threes?
22:57 Doesn't do many things great does one thing great had a long career made over 100 million dollars. There you go
23:02 You were pretty good at shooting threes. That's all I could do. That's all I could do
23:06 So I what I like to say Jeff is if Steph Curry would have been in the league
23:10 Earlier and changed the game because he transformed the way a game is played which is remarkable. I would have had a chance
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24:20 You know you you paved the way for Steph you
24:22 Have to come in and do it. This is going out to all doctors
24:26 Do not tell someone they're gonna be 6-6 unless they're actually 6-6 and whatever
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24:37 No, I need to sue that company that a anywhere. I mean we didn't get the extra bounce. You're Vince Carter Duncan
24:42 We didn't have any balance man. We didn't have any balance. Well, what what what made you so good at shooting threes?
24:47 It's just the just repetition repetition repetition. But before that, let me preface I
24:54 Watched the way I learned how to shoot was not some I didn't pay some trainer a bunch of money to work me out
25:00 I went in my driveway and I shot but I watched the best shooters
25:04 I'd watch NBA games back then the Utah Jazz were my team. I know all the Bulls fans like why would you like the Jazz?
25:10 Well, I thought I could be John Stockton and Jeff Hornacek. So I'd watch their form. I'd see it. I'd emulate it
25:16 I'd do it now and like sports basketball play
25:19 I can I cannot figure out one of my biggest pet peeves how somebody can have a bad shot just watch
25:25 I tell people watch Klay Thompson. You want to be a good shooter watch him the best
25:28 Fundamentally, he's incredibly amazing. He's not better than Steph. No, he's not but Steph is an anomaly
25:34 So when people so here's the here's the thing that people have wrong kids will try to be Steph
25:38 You can't be Steph unless you've shot eight trillion shots the way that Steph has shot those shots and even then you're not stuff
25:45 You know, you're not because he also has that that never hesitates unshakable. It's a very very rare breed
25:51 It's the Malcolm Gladwell outliers
25:53 Thompson the perfect form so I would watch it and then I do it and I would do it and I would do it
25:58 I would like I mean
26:00 10,000 hours is
26:02 Blew that away. Well, then explain Draymond green to me because he can't shoot and he is surrounded by them though
26:08 He is he knows his role these guys forever
26:10 He totally has but still can't hit a three he can't hit a three, but he knows his role
26:15 So well, he knows why he's in the NBA. He's the enforcer
26:18 Yes, you know why he leans into like they don't care if he gets technical. Yeah, or chokes or choke
26:23 They do not actually care. They might say they do in the media, but that's his enforcing role intimidator intimidator
26:30 But you don't think he's worked on that because if he could hit a three they would never lose. Yeah
26:34 Yeah, he has I mean, I'm sure he's worked at and he's gotten and he's improved
26:38 But I also believe that people have certain everybody has attributes, but they have certain capacity for their potential
26:45 So his capacity to be a great shooter is a lot less than Klay Thompson or Steph Curry
26:49 Maybe he's getting close to there. Maybe he's not but there's certain players that just won't have it
26:55 I've worked with players who are so stiff their upper body like you're only gonna get to a certain level
26:59 But then there's other players who I can just tell they have that gene
27:04 They have the fluidity about him like we can make you great. So you
27:08 You talk a lot about confidence. Hmm. I love that word
27:12 So I'm gonna ask you a question that you asked me once what does confidence mean to you confidence is
27:18 Belief it's self-belief with the ability to flip on and take action at any moment
27:23 Okay, and what self-belief what creates the environment?
27:28 Inside of somebody to have the self-belief to turn that on and not hesitate. Oh, there's so many things that go into it
27:36 So I think confidence gets a bad rap because it's so closely involved with
27:41 Ego with you know self-centeredness where it's just kind of bordering that line
27:47 but then there's also the other side of well, you're not confident and you're
27:51 You're shy you're not willing to so it's just in that fine line dance of it
27:56 And there's so many things that go into building
27:58 Someone's unshakable confidence and it is the people that you surround yourself with is a huge huge one. Think about this
28:05 I know you surround yourself with people who are go-getters. They're driven. They're not gonna be energy suckers who you're gonna say
28:11 Hey, I've got this idea to start this company that I've never done before have no idea how to do it
28:16 They're like, yeah, man. Okay, let's do this. You're gonna do it
28:18 I'm gonna introduce you this person this person most people would be the other way
28:21 So you eliminate those type of people and I'm not saying you don't ever you just say hey high school friends
28:26 I'm never gonna talk to you again. You just don't have to give them the time even family
28:30 I think that with family to family is what you're born into you love them
28:33 but you don't always have to give everybody the time and that so the people that you surround yourself with and
28:38 Understanding what your strength is like I don't say just follow your passion. You got to follow your strength
28:45 You have a gift. Everybody has a gift figure out what that gift is and hone it and hone it
28:51 You're going to gain a lot of confidence through the preparation and practice you put into the into it
28:55 So it's a double win. You're not only improving at it, but you're also putting in that preparation
29:00 That's gonna give you the confidence on there and and then you got to do it you you can talk about
29:06 Hey, I'm gonna visualize this and there's real power in visualization
29:09 I'm a big believer and you visualize the best result that you want and also visualize the worst-case scenario George Mumford
29:16 Who was Kobe and in Jordan's mental coach a very good friend of mine
29:19 He said that that's what Kobe and Jordan would do before they went on the floor every game
29:23 They visualize the one the way they would want to see it happen
29:26 But then they'd also visualize when the storm hit how are they going to react in that moment?
29:31 So visualization, yes great piece for sure, but it's the actual doing it. It's the learning through the fire
29:38 I went to business school when I was since I transferred when I was playing playing basketball
29:42 I can't tell you anything. I remember from business school. I learned it all through doing it
29:48 So there's there's a lot more things in there
29:50 I mean, it's the there's confidence through serving mentality through taking the pressure off yourself where it's not about you
29:58 How are you gonna serve somebody else? There's confidence through comparison. There's confidence through Kobe did it to Jordan?
30:02 He's like I'm gonna watch him and do everything that he did that he does there's confidence through
30:07 Redefining vocabulary. I think that's a really important one
30:11 Where we've just been trained since kids of like success means this failure means this rich means this
30:17 But those are just words that our brains have been wired to think we literally can choose
30:21 Whatever we want something to actually mean so there's confidence through that and there's a lot more that goes into it
30:28 but the main things are
30:30 The people that you surround yourself
30:33 Honing in developing your strengths and putting a ton of preparation and practice and practice into it. I
30:39 Love that you said who you surround yourself with because you're right
30:45 You show somebody your group that you hang with and you will be the average of that type of environment
30:49 Because if you're around people who are pessimistic think the world is small
30:54 Victim mindset no opportunity don't believe that they can improve your you don't have a support staff people to motivate
31:01 Incentivize and see that it's possible and I've mentioned a few times on the show and their episode will be out soon
31:06 Or it's already out when this one airs the math is twins
31:10 They have this phrase that they've coined called exposure leads to expansion and then until you expose your mind and yourself to what's possible
31:17 You can't expand to believe that that's there and it's like the four-minute mile
31:21 Which most people know the story but it was impossible for a human to run four minutes for a mile until Bannister did it
31:27 And then it was like everyone did it right after all the people who are right there because they know it's not possible
31:32 And so you need to surround yourself with those humans and if you're not
31:36 That kind of person yet the people you want to be around don't want to be around you yet
31:41 So you've got to control you to then attract those people to then start to build that and so I love that you went there
31:46 Because I think it's so underserved and how important it is that people
31:50 Improve and I say that word not because we don't love the humans that maybe aren't that but improve their circle of influence
31:56 That's fear people they spend time with yeah, and I know you talk about this and I do as well as
32:01 People will say well, how do you get these friends?
32:04 How do you get these type of people you lead with some type of value my biggest pet peeves - I know I'm talking about
32:10 A lot of pet peeves is when someone messages me like hey, can I pick your brain? Don't ever say can I pick your brain?
32:15 I don't know you not in a bad way
32:17 I'd love to get to know you but lead with value or say hey, how did you get to where you're at?
32:22 Do you we have a week where I'm just gonna tell you my whole story if you lead with some type of value even if
32:28 You're like, I don't have value. Well go serve them go say can I help you with whatever you're doing?
32:33 Or maybe you have some connections or maybe you know something that can be value and don't expect anything in return
32:38 There's givers and there's takers
32:40 Ultimately, you don't want to be around takers. We know takers will will pour into them
32:45 I poured into a lot of people got nothing back not even a thank you
32:48 But that's okay because there's gonna be a lot of people that will reciprocate that and you don't do it for that
32:53 Anyways, but that's how you get into those type of rooms and those around those type of people and it takes a long time
33:01 Relationships are a long game. I hate the term networking because that's a dirty like, oh I got it
33:07 You know, I gotta get in this room. I got to talk to this person. Oh
33:09 Build relationships with them and I learned that so one of my best friends is Jeremy Lin. He taught me
33:15 Lin Sanity. He taught me that when I started working with him years ago
33:19 I'd always like try to sneak a you know, a selfie or a video and you post it on social media
33:25 So it looked like man, I'm the man, you know, Jeremy we sat down one time and he's like David
33:30 I feel like you're using me. I feel like you're using me for
33:34 Your game and I was like, oh like that that did not feel good
33:38 It's like I'd much rather have a relationship with Jeremy where we're eight years old
33:43 Drinking lemonade on the front porch and chatting and talking
33:48 Then I would to use him for a quick try to gain and you get more from it
33:53 I mean I can speak from personal experience because I do a lot of deals with athletes
33:56 Yeah with Ever Bowl and some of our other stuff and one of the questions always in the contract is well
34:00 What do you expect them to do?
34:01 Social media wise how many posts and I was going I don't zero nice. I want authenticity only
34:07 So if they want to share ever share everyone, you know, Drew Brees
34:11 He's a big partner of ours and zero obligatory stuff. He doesn't have to show up to anything doesn't to post anything
34:17 He was the keynote speaker at a big franchise conference and he was talking about all franchises and I get these messages
34:23 Drew Brees just spent the last three minutes talking about you and every ball. I
34:27 Didn't even know I wasn't there. I didn't know he was doing it and there was no obligation because we built a relationship
34:31 He's a friend. He loves the brand. So he wants to help and Jeremy wants to help doesn't want to feel you
34:36 Yeah
34:37 and I think there's so much truth to that as you're building these relationships and
34:40 If I was gonna reach out to David nurse because I want to learn from the great master
34:45 I wouldn't say can I pick your brain and I wouldn't say tell me your story
34:48 What I would say is I watch some of your content. I was fascinated by this point that you made
34:53 I want to go deeper because I want to understand a little bit more about this money. So now I've demonstrated that I've
34:59 Invested time into learning about your message. I've spent time consuming your content and I want more of you
35:05 You are way more likely to say absolutely. Let's schedule a call. I'm happy to help totally versus can I pick your brain?
35:11 I don't follow you. I've never watched you but I know the allure of you and I want to be in the room with you
35:16 They're just a different approach to it, man. Yes, exactly
35:21 You're hitting it spot-on and a couple cheat codes or hacks if you want to call them
35:25 If someone's put a lot of time into something ie a book
35:29 Find something in the book that has had an impact on you post it. Tell them buy somebody's book say hey
35:36 I bought five books for all my closest friends that doesn't cost much
35:40 But if I see that and people have done that like oh, I'm tuned in I want to have a conversation with you
35:45 I want to be around you. It's the little things like that that just make a huge huge difference
35:50 It's the entirety between getting the relationship and not absolutely and I mean we all are on social media
35:56 We all have had that but you know how many people hit me up. I love your stuff. They don't even follow me
36:00 I'm like how many people did you copy and paste this to I still like you don't even follow my content
36:06 How did you love my stuff? That is the worst. What do you need to pick my brain for? Yeah, what are you selling me?
36:11 Yeah, I don't want to be sold and people don't want to be sold man. And so I think relationships are so important
36:16 Yeah, there is something you talk about you have a hand
36:19 Pro. Oh, yeah, oh hand process. Yeah process is that you use before you walk in any room. Totally. Yeah, can you share that?
36:27 Yeah, so
36:28 This is what I talk about when I give give talks I give actionable
36:31 So I'm a really big believer on giving actionable items tools to be able to use instead of talking about
36:36 Concepts philosophies you need to have action with it
36:39 So in the service mode
36:41 The the tool that I give with your hands because your hands are with you at all times you have your hands
36:47 They're with you. They're a tool you have in your back pocket when you enter a room look at the back of your hands and say
36:52 Serve when you say serve it is going to put you in the mindset that you're going to serve the people in the room
36:59 Where most people walk in a room or say we'll walk on a stage and you're concerned about yourself
37:05 How are you gonna look how are people gonna view you who might you meet there and you're only worried about you?
37:11 So when you say the word serve you're worried about serving other people what that does
37:15 It alleviates any pressure that it's about you because when we put pressure on ourselves
37:20 We you know, I've had those moments when I step on stage and I think I need to perform
37:24 They're usually not my good talks. They're not but it's it's the this the service mentality that you have by looking at your hand
37:32 It's just a cue
37:32 It's a cue reminder for that and you end up you end up meeting the right people that you're supposed to meet
37:38 It's the worst thing too when someone goes into a room and you know having that conversation there who's behind you who's behind it happens all the time
37:45 But if you just stay focused on that just that service mentality, so that's that's one of them with the hands
37:50 I've got some other hands
37:52 confident ones and
37:54 one I really like is
37:56 snapping your fingers, so I think it's
37:58 It's really hard for people to you know
38:01 When when the tides are turning to be able to stop and reset resets are so important because once negative momentum builds
38:08 It's almost like okay the whole day's gone to downward spiral
38:11 But the snap is just a trigger to your subconscious that I'm gonna stop so S is stop. Okay pause
38:18 It's like the matrix everything stops it freezes notice. Okay, I'm gonna notice my surroundings
38:24 What's going on here? A is assess now. I'm assessing the situation. Why is this happening? Why am I feeling this way?
38:31 Why is my boss yelling at me?
38:32 Why is my kid throwing a frying pan at my head be ever what it may and
38:37 Then the P is pivot and the pivot is just a small turn in perspective change is daunting
38:41 Pivots are easy, but that small change in perspective a basketball term you have all the defense on you you pivot now
38:49 It's wide open spaces. So you just snap the fingers
38:52 It can just be a cue you have when anything is going crazy or the fires come in and you stop
38:58 Notice assess pivot and when you get that down you have that power of that tool to know
39:05 Okay, no matter what bad happens to me. Boom snapping my fingers and I'm okay. That is so good. That is so good
39:12 I'm gonna have to use that now. You're gonna people walking on the street just
39:15 Yeah, get the beat going
39:18 I've given it to NBA players like I'll watch them in the you'll see him do it into the game because it's so actionable in
39:24 The moment you need actionable actionable in the moment is everything. Yes. I it's an here we go more pet peeves
39:31 I'm sorry, bring it you don't like when when there's there's writers or speakers and they're just so above like
39:37 philosophical and all this and this and
39:40 Stoic and like okay cool, but break it down to the simple
39:45 I think the best communicators are the ones who yeah have different points that they're not regurgitating
39:51 But then how do you help people actually put them into action?
39:53 Because it's one thing like we're talking about on my show of there's a lot of knowers people will just consume content
40:01 But how do you move them to doing is the difference maker? And that's the 1%
40:05 That's the 1% the world is run by the 1% who do yeah, cuz you know
40:09 That's those who do do it's simple. Yeah, and it's you just do stuff
40:15 Yeah
40:15 Where others aren't you win and you know what a lot of people think - is like, oh well
40:20 They're in that top 1% because they were born into it. No 80% of millionaires are first-generation millionaires
40:27 There are people aren't born in it. I do it when we're walking on the beach
40:29 Like how do these people get these houses? Oh, they were born into it. No, probably not
40:33 No, cuz normally the kids that inherit it lose it. Exactly. Yeah. No, what is that? There's that saying it says
40:38 And I think it's not as politically correct because they use the word men, but it's strong men create good times good times create
40:47 No good times create. I don't want to butcher it now. Damn it. No, I know what you're saying the middle kind of
40:54 They'll kind of keep it afloat. Yes, and then by the third generation, it's gone
40:57 Yeah, and it's just because they don't understand what it took to get told they don't value it
41:02 They don't understand it and the truth is the most talented people in this world achieve very little
41:07 Because they haven't had to build young when you are really good at something young right out the gates. You're really smart schools easy
41:14 You're really athletic. So you don't have to practice the fundamentals sports are easy. It's
41:19 It's almost a detriment because early on
41:22 You're performing so good when you're competing against everyone when we're all bad at it because we're just learning
41:27 But then as you try to move up the ranks and you're more talented than everyone else
41:31 The people the men and women who put in the hard the work, you know as Anthony truck says the dark work
41:37 And when no one's looking yeah
41:39 And as they're putting in all that effort and cutting their teeth and doing the reps in the 10,000 hours
41:44 They're now more talented and skilled wise
41:47 But they lack the raw talent or ability that so you have all these exceptionally talented smart brilliant humans that never fulfill their
41:54 Potential because they haven't had to work on their craft. It came too easy. So good man
41:59 So that's why I think you're right. I don't think it's the top 1% that achieve it
42:02 I think people really need to understand that of like the talent does it can get you indoors?
42:07 But it's not gonna win in the long run the amount of NBA players that I've worked with who have been
42:12 Undrafted or second round picks that have much better careers than top 10 picks. It's crazy. I've been around
42:18 Joshua Jackson number three pick in the NBA out in three years did not have that type of drive
42:24 But then there's players like the norm Powell Jeremy Lin Kyle Corver second rounders are really Kobe Austin Reeves
42:30 Oh, yeah, exactly. Love him. It's a very rare. Yeah, he's great this swag
42:35 That's confidence
42:38 Undrafted. Yeah, just signed a 50 million dollar contract, but that's it, right?
42:43 I mean it's it's it's that type of drive that that gets you there and it's a
42:48 very rare person like a LeBron who has
42:51 Incredible talent an incredible drive. You don't see that much at all. They're the LeBrons. That's the LeBrons
42:57 Yep, and it's rare and you don't have to compare yourself to that. No because Pepsi is a great company
43:03 He may not be coca-cola
43:05 But Pepsi is a great company. Sure. So you may I say it all time. I'm and I say it on stage
43:11 It's kind of one of my go-to lines, but I believe it. I'm an ordinary guy
43:15 I don't have that extreme intelligence or any of those rare gifts that an Elon Musk or a Bezos or you know
43:21 Zuckerberg have but I figured out what extra stuff to get extraordinary results and it's duplicatable by everybody and if you are if you do
43:28 What I do and you're more raw have more raw talent. You're gonna be coke. I'm gonna be Pepsi. You'll beat me
43:34 Yeah, I beat most more people who are more talented than me just cuz I'm gonna outwork them. Yep. I have a process
43:39 I follow it again and again
43:41 And so it's attainable for everybody and it's really hard to get super talented people to put in that work
43:45 Because they've never had to totally they don't know what that process is. Yep. Yep someday. I want to write the book of
43:51 The best gene to have when we're saying males it can be the same for females is but that athlete
43:58 Who wasn't the super talented one?
44:01 Was on the bench or got cut and had to work their butt off for it small dog syndrome small dogs in there
44:07 It is there's the title right there, but that's the gene. That's it because you have that
44:12 I mean that's built into you because you had to work for everything. Yeah, and work doesn't work is a scary word
44:17 It doesn't mean that you have to
44:20 Spend 10,000 hours every single year to do something
44:25 It just means that you have to put in more effort than it made someone else to get the same result and you know
44:30 I we talked about Kobe Bryant, but one of my favorite Kobe Bryant stories
44:33 I heard him say is when he was a kid
44:35 He went to the summer camp and he didn't score a single point the entire summer
44:40 Not one he missed every shot. He didn't get a lucky free throw nothing and he said he went home and he realized okay
44:47 I have to put in the work and he spent like he didn't score a Kobe Bryant. That's great all humans
44:52 Yeah, and it's out of his mouth
44:54 Yeah, he didn't score a single point for an entire summer playing basketball because he was not as good as everyone else
44:59 He was smaller than they were all these things and so he started to put in the work and he's like
45:04 I'm gonna play the long game. I'm gonna beat him when they're 18
45:05 He ended up beating when they were 12. Yeah, because he put in the work and that's the difference
45:10 So good. So we jump into a couple Kobe stories. Can I tell you a couple?
45:13 so on that when he was in high school, so this came from Chip Kelly Chip Kelly the the UCLA football coach and
45:20 He was telling a story of him and Rip Hamilton Richard Hamilton when they're in high school pistons
45:25 So it was like the the ratings tournament in the summer. So all the people that would give the top 100 ratings
45:31 So Richard Hamilton's telling Kobe's like Cobe like if you play well at this tournament, you're gonna be rated in the top hundred
45:38 Richard Hamilton plays great
45:41 Phenomenal it gets rated like number three or four or something like that. Kobe doesn't get rated and
45:46 He shoots every shot with his left hand does everything with his left hand and Richard Hamilton's like dude
45:54 What are you doing? Why did you do that? He's like, here's the difference you want to be the best right now in your class
46:00 I want to be the best of all time
46:02 Now it's like oh my gosh, it was like goosebumps 15 or 16 at that time
46:07 And then when he was in the pre-draft
46:09 So a good friend of mine
46:10 I used to coach for the Nets one of my best friends who actually married Taylor and I and brought me out here for UCLA
46:15 used to coach for the Nets before me and
46:17 Kobe was doing pre-draft
46:19 So this is where these
46:20 Guys who were gonna go into the NBA they go to all these different teams and workouts and they're brutal workouts
46:25 Like I used to run some of these for the Nets and they're like just kill them like see what they're made of see where
46:29 The will is so you don't want to do extra work after it like nobody does extra work
46:34 But there was this one teenage guys what Ed Schilling my friend was telling me he stayed because he couldn't get this one move down
46:42 So Ed stayed with him for 45 minutes after and they just mastered one footwork move some kind of step back thing that he wanted
46:48 To work on 45 minutes after a grueling workout. It was Kobe Bryant
46:53 Built differently. Mm-hmm. My one of my favorites is actually from Jason Williams former Duke Blue Devil
46:58 Yeah, he was saying that he was young in the league
47:01 They were playing the Lakers and he's like, all right, I'm showing up against Kobe
47:04 I really want to impress so he got to the gym and he's like I got to the gym like four hours early
47:08 But yeah before the game, you know, and I get there and Kobe's in a deep sweat like he is wrenched
47:14 Yeah, so he's been there working, you know, and I he's like Jason's like I got into my workout
47:18 I worked out for about an hour hour and a half didn't pay attention
47:20 I get done and I'm walking out of the gym and Kobe still at it 100%
47:23 So I'm like that's strange. So I go in and I leave I go to the game and
47:27 Play the game and I think Kobe dropped 40 on him or something
47:30 So after the game he goes up to Kobe and he's like Kobe I just you know
47:33 I don't I have to know like, you know, I got here early
47:35 I wanted to see this and Kobe said I just want you to know that no matter how I saw you come in
47:39 And I wanted you to know that no matter how hard you work
47:42 I will outwork you and he's like this is Kobe Bryant like an MVP a final a champion a finals MVP
47:48 And he's saying that to me a young kid
47:50 He just wanted to basically put the fear of God in me right now that no matter what I do
47:54 I will not be his that's I just I was like wow. Oh, what a story. Oh, he's got the best stories
48:00 Yeah, so he lives and embodies the fulfillment of potential because Kobe was I mean listen, he's 6'7. Yeah, he's an athlete
48:06 But he'll tell you I didn't have the biggest hands, you know, Michael Jordan size hands. He didn't have Vince Carter size jumps
48:11 He wasn't Allen Iverson quick, right? He wasn't the greatest shooter, right? Yeah, totally
48:15 But he maximized his potential which we can all apply in business in life
48:19 And you know, we're talking a lot of basketball because you are the man from the NBA
48:22 But those listening who maybe aren't involved in basketball. How do you apply this?
48:25 You apply the same principles to your day-to-day life totally in whatever field you're in
48:30 Yep, and the greatest thing about it too is it's not a race. There's no end
48:36 There's no mountaintop that you're gonna hit that's gonna fulfill you. It's at that same dinner with Chip Kelly
48:43 Eric Spolstra and another good friend Sean McVay who coaches the Rams was there and I was just soaking this in man
48:49 It's like a master class. He's a genius. But oh, some McVay knows every play they've ever
48:53 I mean, he's got that photographic or whatever kind of memory. It's called in a
48:56 Phenomenal leader like we could go in a whole leadership from that from that dinner alone, but they both said so get this
49:04 This is when I was like, okay, I knew this but it's it just
49:08 Brings it home even more Spolstra top 10 NBA coach history multiple championships
49:13 He said he was at his lowest point after he won
49:16 His first championship was depressed wanted to quit after he won his championship, which is the Paramount
49:22 Epic, you know mountaintop McVay
49:26 Openly came out and almost retired after he won his championship because they thought that was going to fill them now
49:32 They've realized it's about much more. It's about the people over just the results
49:37 but the great thing is
49:39 it's
49:41 There literally is no race to this and there's nothing that's gonna be like, oh, I've made it. I'm done
49:46 It's over the result that we all aspire to because I used to have that same issue
49:50 I in my head when I was young, I'm like, I'm gonna make a million dollars
49:52 I mean my whole world and when you achieve it
50:00 What you realize is you've built it up so big in your brain in your mind in your vision in your soul
50:06 It doesn't fulfill that but what you come to learn is the process of getting it the person you have to become to get it
50:13 the
50:14 Journey to get there the trials the tribulations the successes the moments that's actually the fulfilling side
50:19 And so the fear is once you get it, how do you duplicate that? Yeah
50:22 How do you bring back that same level of enjoyment because you've done it and I think we mentioned this off-air
50:28 But you know my favorite Michael Jordan quote
50:31 Staying in the basketball theme is what I think was after his fifth championship when they said what's your favorite championship Michael?
50:37 And he said the next one totally which makes you realize that it's not about the end result
50:41 It's not the mountaintop and I think too often
50:43 We spend so much focusing when I get to this when I accomplish this when I receive this
50:49 You fail to realize that the power of life is the journey to receive this and get it and hopefully you do so many more
50:56 That you get to the top of the mountain and realize oh my god. That's just my stepping stone to the next mountain
51:01 Absolutely, and that's where true success in anything comes parenthood
51:04 relationships financial health and wellness business
51:08 Teaching yeah coaching and what you know to of true success is not how bright your light shines, but how?
51:15 Bright you help others shine theirs like that's that's when the flip of the switch is is made and I know a lot of people
51:21 Listening are like well, you guys can say that because you both been successful in your fields. No, that is literally it
51:28 That's where you get the most joy of helping somebody start their first ever Bowl that you probably get fired up
51:34 If I see one of my players have a good game or you know
51:37 The stock go up for the company that I'm working with like that fires me up
51:40 Because it's how you shine other people's lights and we're just built that way as human beings. We like to be in communities
51:46 We're not meant to be solos. Yep. Some of us might be individually, but the masses
51:51 We're all more meant to be part of a community and grow together and win together and team mindset
51:56 So I would I have to ask because I know you don't have one but to
52:01 Guinness World Records. Are you ready for the story?
52:04 So this might this might let you down a little bit, but it might be even like hey, that's even cooler
52:09 I'm gonna go with it's gonna be cooler. All right
52:12 That's how I look at - so
52:13 When I was starting to run basketball camps
52:16 Like all I could do was shoot and I had to you know, like make myself the best shooting coach
52:21 I wanted the camps to do well
52:22 I wanted to my goal was to become an NBA shooting coach and it was a five-year journey to get there
52:27 It's like I got to do something that makes me stand out
52:30 So I'm all about hitting singles daily and then taking massive home run swings wherever I can. This was one of those
52:36 Looked up what the YouTube world record for most threes made in a minute with one basketball
52:42 It was 19 like I can do this
52:44 So got my friend the key is in the rebounder the ball hit the floor. You can have a rebounder
52:50 Oh, yeah one ball, but the rebound has to pass it back to you
52:52 Okay, so the key is not like the ball hit the floor like one time, but I broke it
52:57 So I get it 20 so I put it up there as Guinness World Record on YouTube
53:01 It was catching fire Guinness World Record
53:03 ESPN picks it up and they play it, you know how they stream it and stuff
53:07 So is this Guinness World Record shooting coach, so it just became known as a Guinness World Record
53:12 So I did it again in five minutes
53:14 Where is like 82 out of 90 with one ball 82 was there 81 was the record? There wasn't even one. Oh you
53:21 I decided yeah, I just said it so now I got into like well if that's gonna catch on as a Guinness
53:25 I'm gonna do another Guinness World Record
53:27 Weren't official there was an official person there
53:30 But it got known as that and caught that and it was probably like five years ago
53:34 And this was a validation piece for me
53:36 I get a random email from Guinness the official Guinness like hey, we see this record on YouTube
53:43 This hasn't been officially stamped if you want to have it a Guinness you got to do it again with
53:48 Official get it like that's all I needed to know if Guinness is gonna reach out to me, then I know it's a record
53:53 So did you do it again? I haven't done it again. I'm actually gonna do it at some point
53:57 I just haven't done it again. You gotta do it again. I know that we should do it
54:00 We should hold me to that. I am holding it. I think I can hold you - I think I can get 21
54:05 We'll do it around like an 83 and 5. Yeah, you have to be both. You have to actually beat your own record
54:10 Okay, that's gotta be the that's gotta be the threshold see I can I know I can do it
54:14 We're we're on the top of the key stand that no movement now top of the key. Don't give me move
54:19 That's the easiest three for me. It is because you're three in the NBA is the shortest
54:24 Yeah, but with the background backdrop top of the key top of the key. How many think you could do in 10 minutes 10 minutes?
54:31 It's a good question probably tire a little tire a little but it's when you start getting in the zone
54:36 You black out like it's the flow state where you're shooting you just stop thinking it's a beautiful feeling
54:42 I used to do that just for clearing my mind
54:45 I just go shoot hoops because I knew it could just you know, just let it up. I'd say if I had 82
54:51 I'm gonna go 150 150. So why don't we do three records?
54:55 All right, let's do three record. You got to do one minute five minute ten minute. Perfect
54:59 I think I mean we got to set it up. We got to set it up. Okay, I'm totally a gym
55:03 We'll bring out some some press some yeah. All right, let's pump do it around a couple book launches or something like that
55:09 Just get a bunch of meat. Yeah, I love okay. There it is. You heard it here
55:12 You heard it here and I want you all to hold David accountable. Yep when somebody challenges me, I'm in
55:16 Okay, and before I let you leave for my audience, I have to ask
55:20 What are David's non-negotiables for yourself on a daily basis weekly monthly yearly? I don't care
55:26 But just what are those things that you say? This is what I do no matter what absolutely start the day off
55:31 It's I'm always given the first 30 minutes to God and that is reading a devotional. It could be reading a Bible verse
55:38 It could be some type of thing. It could be just sitting there in quiet prayer time
55:42 But that is my non-negotiable no matter where I'm at
55:45 It starts with giving my time to God and I would like to say that I hear him speaking to me
55:51 But I've never heard him audibly speaking to me, but you feel like you get you get direction and stuff from those points
55:57 that's a non-negotiable and
55:59 Pouring into my wife is an absolute non-negotiable. I always in my morning
56:04 Journaling time it's how can I pour into my wife? What does that look like for today? Is it just listening?
56:10 Is it something we're gonna do that's an absolute non-negotiable
56:13 So those two are the biggest and then for me like it's movement. It's exercise
56:18 It is the I tell people this if if you could take a pill that would give you more energy
56:24 It would give you more clarity more drive
56:27 Better health better sleep literally better everything. Would you take it? And they're like, yeah, of course, it's exercise
56:34 So I make that a daily staple as well. So it's God my wife
56:38 Exercise those are the biggest coffee for sure coffee. Yeah, those are the biggest staples
56:44 I've never felt closer to you
56:46 I don't trust people that don't like coffee. I don't get it. It's weird. If you tell me you're a tea drinker. I'm like
56:51 You can do tea after coffee, right?
56:54 But not just tea coffee run like if you took my blood yeah, you could probably fill up a coffee mug
56:59 So I think a lot of I've been throwing a lot of like, you know company invention ideas for you
57:04 Can we get a coffee IV?
57:06 We like IV it into my veins. I mean I do like the taste though. I do too
57:10 I do like the taste but I feel like IV you get it even more of the hit. Well David this has been incredible
57:16 I mean honestly
57:17 you are one of my favorite speakers because you just hit it at the beginning when you said it's not just about the
57:23 Overarching philosophy and to make you feel good, but you leave people with actionable steps to improve
57:28 And I think that's why you've been hired by so many NBA teams and players
57:32 I think that's why so many CEOs like to hire you as their coach and business leaders
57:36 I think that's why you speak at so many conferences and so
57:38 You're not just there to make me feel like I can do it
57:42 You actually give me a roadmap to do it and I try to emulate that myself when I'm speaking
57:45 And so I think that that is a what people need
57:48 They need the actual step-by-step directions when you buy the thing open it up step one
57:53 What do I do like that's what people need and want and I love that you do that and you do it at such a high
57:58 Level that for those watching and learning about David for the first time if you're not
58:01 Immediately following him and consuming his content you're missing out. I learned from you every day. I watch your stuff
58:07 It's been a an effort for us to make this happen because of the scheduling but I'm so glad and I'm so bummed when I missed
58:13 You and we were both in Dallas
58:15 But David, thank you so much for coming and pouring yourself into the audience and sharing all that wisdom that knowledge
58:21 Just a huge fan and I want to thank you Jeff
58:23 Thank you for this opportunity and thank you for having me down and that felt like it was like five minutes
58:28 I know I almost wish we could do it. You know, we're gonna do another one
58:31 I would love around - I'm telling you like I told you on my on our podcast episode that it's a man crush bromance
58:38 It's on it is on. Thank you. Oh, man
58:44 Thank you so much for listening
58:45 If you're looking to level up your relationship capital game, then take a minute and text the word Jeff to three three
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