МАRRIЕD АТ FIRSТ SIGНТ АUSТRАLIА S11Е33 (2024)
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00:00:00 It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.
00:00:04 After more than eight weeks in the experiment...
00:00:07 Alright, let's get going. I need a coffee.
00:00:10 Tonight is the final time our couples will face the experts.
00:00:15 And for one husband and wife,
00:00:17 it'll be an opportunity to show everyone just how far they've come.
00:00:22 Hello.
00:00:23 Hey.
00:00:24 Hey, sweetie.
00:00:25 Looking good.
00:00:27 I feel really good about tonight.
00:00:29 I feel like Tim and I are in a good spot.
00:00:32 We had a really good dinner party.
00:00:34 We were just all over each other, but just having a good time.
00:00:36 I think we were just enjoying being in a good place.
00:00:40 And, yeah, we tried our best to just focus on us.
00:00:43 I had so much fun last night.
00:00:45 Yeah.
00:00:46 I feel like for the most part we were just kind of giggling to ourselves.
00:00:49 Yeah.
00:00:50 It was really fun.
00:00:53 I'm really happy to be in the place that I am with Sarah right now.
00:00:56 It's been a tumultuous journey.
00:01:01 But we've finally kind of come to this place
00:01:03 where we're just like, yeah, all over each other, laughing together.
00:01:07 I'm just excited to show off, like, where we're at, you know,
00:01:10 how far we've come.
00:01:11 It just feels like a sort of the giddy start to a relationship.
00:01:15 It's like we're in the honeymoon phase.
00:01:17 (LAUGHS)
00:01:19 Sarah and Tim may have escaped the drama last night,
00:01:23 but the dinner party highlighted issues in one couple's relationship
00:01:27 that the group hadn't seen before.
00:01:30 So confused.
00:01:32 I mean, I am interested to see what happened with those two tonight.
00:01:36 They did seem a little bit off.
00:01:38 They both didn't seem like themselves, you know?
00:01:41 Eden and Jayden had a fairy tale start to the experiment.
00:01:45 (CHEERING)
00:01:47 Without speaking too soon, is she hopefully the one?
00:01:50 But Eden has at times struggled with confrontation.
00:01:54 I do sometimes get uncomfortable or anxious in a big social setting,
00:01:58 and that's evident being here.
00:02:01 And last night, Jayden's combative fight style left her distressed.
00:02:07 There have been times where I've tried to bring up things with you
00:02:09 on homestays, and you, again, have not had a bar of it and not cared.
00:02:12 So now... I have cared.
00:02:14 You haven't.
00:02:16 So now, going into the dinner party, if I want to say something,
00:02:19 if they ask us a question about how it is, I have to be honest about it.
00:02:22 I don't want to lose you. I've never wanted to lose you,
00:02:24 so I get really scared to go to these things,
00:02:26 cos I feel like I might lose you when we attend them.
00:02:29 With all coming to a head at the dinner party...
00:02:31 I don't want to argue with you.
00:02:33 I don't want to argue, but I absolutely want to talk about specifics.
00:02:35 Jayden, I'm a bit... No, no, no.
00:02:37 Every day, every day for the last four weeks,
00:02:39 you've told me you don't want to... you want to go,
00:02:41 but then you've ended up staying.
00:02:42 I don't think you quite understand what I'm saying.
00:02:44 I don't. I'm going to be straight up with you and honest,
00:02:46 and I don't think you understand what I'm saying either.
00:02:49 Eden was very upset last night, as was I.
00:02:52 We're both struggling, and we're not seeing eye to eye.
00:02:57 It's a bit of a shock, because this is really the last week or two,
00:03:00 it's the first bad that we've actually had for this whole experiment.
00:03:03 So it has taken its toll on my mind.
00:03:06 Morning. Hello.
00:03:08 But we're still here, and I am trying so hard,
00:03:11 and I am really trying to do everything I can to make Eden happy.
00:03:15 But it just doesn't seem to be enough.
00:03:18 Something's changed in the last two weeks.
00:03:26 What's changed?
00:03:28 I'm not sure what it is, to be honest.
00:03:31 OK.
00:03:34 I think the only thing that's really changed is the fact that I am now
00:03:39 sharing my thoughts and my feelings on this relationship
00:03:42 with everyone else, like I did on the couch last week.
00:03:44 Yeah.
00:03:45 And you're worried about that happening again,
00:03:48 because you think that it's going to cause arguments between us.
00:03:51 Yeah, OK, if that's what you think.
00:03:53 You don't want to go to the dinner parties, you don't want to go to this,
00:03:58 you don't want to... OK, what is it then?
00:04:00 I am anxious to have a disagreement with you,
00:04:04 because I can't get out of it once I'm in it.
00:04:06 You can, like...
00:04:08 Yeah, you can very easily get out of conversations with me.
00:04:11 OK, I can.
00:04:13 Eden is very closed off with her feelings,
00:04:15 and she doesn't like to talk about them,
00:04:17 so straightaway she'll shut the conversation down.
00:04:19 But, you know, I like to get to the bottom of things and try and fix them.
00:04:23 And the whole point of this experiment is to share what's going on
00:04:26 with the experts, with the other couples, and get their take on it,
00:04:29 and she just...she doesn't want to do it.
00:04:31 It's not confrontation, it's communication,
00:04:33 and that is exactly what the experts told us to do.
00:04:36 I can't handle it.
00:04:38 OK, well, so you can't handle communication.
00:04:40 With you, no, I can't. Why not?
00:04:42 Because it goes round and round and round. It doesn't.
00:04:45 OK, I'm wrong, sorry.
00:04:47 Unless I agree with Jaden's point of view, he just won't stop.
00:04:52 So...
00:04:54 I feel like it probably does look like I'm always shutting down
00:04:57 conversations about my feelings and about things that he has problems with,
00:05:01 but the reason I shut them down is because I don't want to talk about them
00:05:04 for 25 hours on end.
00:05:06 Can't handle the confrontation.
00:05:08 Can't handle the confrontation with you.
00:05:10 And this is just going to go round in circles
00:05:12 because you don't believe me when I say that, and that's fine.
00:05:14 You don't have to believe me.
00:05:16 That's something we're going to have to bring up with the experts then.
00:05:18 That's fine.
00:05:19 Because when we try to communicate and we try to talk about things,
00:05:21 you just want to get out of it as fast as you can.
00:05:23 It's not confrontation then. I'm sorry, it's not.
00:05:25 It's just...you're just trying to shut down the conversation to get out of it.
00:05:29 I'm here for Eden.
00:05:31 I like her and I want to work out things and make things work with her,
00:05:34 but we've got to be able to communicate,
00:05:36 we've got to be able to talk about things.
00:05:38 So I'm not really sure where to go from here.
00:05:41 I just can't do this every single day anymore when I'm hearing this.
00:05:44 Yeah.
00:05:46 I've done nothing but try to help.
00:05:48 OK.
00:05:52 Something definitely needs to change.
00:05:54 I'm just a bit lost on how, but I do really like Jayden
00:05:59 and I don't want to lose him.
00:06:01 And I feel like it's already happening.
00:06:04 So...I don't really know what else to do at this point.
00:06:08 As the couples prepare to face the experts for the last time,
00:06:24 they reflect on their relationships
00:06:27 before making the important decision to stay and continue to final vows
00:06:32 or leave their marriages for good.
00:06:35 And for Lauren and Jonathan,
00:06:38 homestays strengthen their bond and put intimacy back on the menu.
00:06:43 Oh, baby, look at that.
00:06:47 Yeah.
00:06:48 That gets me horny.
00:06:50 How's the intimacy with you and Jonathan?
00:06:54 Yeah, it's good. Back on track.
00:06:56 I've never been with a chick who can cook.
00:07:00 Really? Well, you found the love of your life.
00:07:03 I'm feeling really close to Lauren at the moment.
00:07:09 I think our feelings are pretty strong for each other.
00:07:12 During homestays, we just clicked
00:07:16 and the affection's sort of been coming back
00:07:18 and there's been a bit of intimacy as well, so it's awesome.
00:07:22 At the beginning of the experiment,
00:07:24 I just didn't think that Jono and I were a good match,
00:07:28 so I just wasn't making any kind of effort,
00:07:30 and so, like, I was happy to keep those walls up,
00:07:33 but I haven't been good at choosing relationships in the past.
00:07:37 I've been betrayed, I've been cheated on, I've been lied to,
00:07:40 so it's hard for me to, like, open up.
00:07:43 And as time's gone on and we've gotten to know each other more,
00:07:46 I think I've realised that he's a really nice guy
00:07:49 and I need a nice guy.
00:07:51 I feel like we had a good homestay.
00:07:54 Starting to see what life would look like
00:07:56 on the outside of the experiment together.
00:07:58 You know, my feelings are growing for Jono.
00:08:01 We're in the best place that we've been.
00:08:03 He's a great person and I'm lucky to have him in this experiment.
00:08:08 So, yeah, that feels good.
00:08:10 While Lauren is feeling happier than ever,
00:08:15 this morning, a bride no longer in the experiment
00:08:19 has passed on some information
00:08:22 that threatens to blow up one couple's relationship.
00:08:26 I was made privy to some information
00:08:29 and, like, it's...
00:08:33 ..it's huge.
00:08:35 Hearing this information,
00:08:38 you know, I felt this almost...
00:08:40 ..euphoric feeling.
00:08:43 Cos it's like, "You guys have been coming so hard at us for so long
00:08:48 "and now it turns out you're sitting on your own little secret."
00:08:52 How the tables have turned.
00:08:54 It's like people in last houses shouldn't throw rocks
00:08:57 and I'm going to leave it at that.
00:09:19 Greetings, gents. Hey.
00:09:21 Hello, guys. Hello.
00:09:23 Hello, ladies.
00:09:48 Hello.
00:10:17 Well, welcome, everyone, to the very final commitment ceremony
00:10:21 of this entire experiment.
00:10:23 Now, of course, you're all coming back
00:10:28 from having been doing your homestays,
00:10:30 which is such an important part of this experiment
00:10:33 because finally the mystery is over.
00:10:35 You have a good idea of what it would be like
00:10:38 to be able to be a part of your partner's life in the real world,
00:10:42 outside of the confines of the experiment.
00:10:45 So we're very much looking forward to hearing how that went
00:10:48 for each and every one of you.
00:10:50 You have one last shot here to use us.
00:10:54 So open up, be raw, be vulnerable
00:10:58 and use this experience wisely.
00:11:01 Now, with that being said, let's get our first couple on the couch.
00:11:13 Eden and Jaden.
00:11:15 Hello. Hi.
00:11:26 Well, let's go straight to that conversation last night.
00:11:30 What went down at the dinner party?
00:11:34 Because you guys didn't look very good at all.
00:11:37 Um...
00:11:41 Last night I was just trying to explain
00:11:43 that I can't handle conflict with Jaden.
00:11:45 Mm.
00:11:47 He just goes around in circles and he goes on and on and on
00:11:51 and kind of just doesn't let up and doesn't hear what I'm saying.
00:11:56 And so I've really struggled to get my point across
00:12:02 for the past however long
00:12:04 to the point where I just don't even say anything.
00:12:06 I usually just agree.
00:12:08 Because it's easier to just agree with Jaden.
00:12:11 Jaden, what's your take on last night?
00:12:15 Yeah, honestly, I don't know.
00:12:20 I'm a little bit confused about the whole thing.
00:12:22 I just feel like when I try to bring up my feelings or something
00:12:29 I have a problem with, it just doesn't get addressed
00:12:31 and I felt like the same thing was happening, yeah, last night.
00:12:35 The reason they're not being addressed
00:12:37 is because I don't want to have the conversations with you.
00:12:40 Because I know that as soon as we share our feelings about something
00:12:45 we'll get into a debate that I can't get out of.
00:12:47 I just feel like I don't have a voice.
00:12:52 Once I'm in a debate with you,
00:12:56 the only way for me to get out is to bow down and agree with you.
00:12:59 Shit.
00:13:02 Shit.
00:13:04 I don't want to have the conversations with you.
00:13:18 Because I know that as soon as we share our feelings about something
00:13:21 we'll get into a debate that I can't get out of.
00:13:23 I just feel like I don't have a voice.
00:13:30 Once I'm in a debate with you, the only way for me to get out
00:13:32 is to bow down and agree with you.
00:13:34 Oh, shit.
00:13:37 OK.
00:13:40 I'm going to disagree with that.
00:13:42 When you talk about your feelings or I talk about my feelings,
00:13:46 I don't get a word in.
00:13:48 You do, definitely.
00:13:49 OK, I do now. I guess.
00:13:58 Jaden, your partner, who you've got strong feelings for,
00:14:02 is saying, "I don't feel heard.
00:14:05 "I have lost my voice.
00:14:07 "I feel like I've got to bow down to you."
00:14:10 Now, let's just suck that up.
00:14:19 Yeah, I know. It's a big thing, but...
00:14:21 That's a huge thing.
00:14:25 Yeah, I'm... I just...
00:14:27 And that's... That's not right or wrong. That's her reality.
00:14:32 So, while you may disagree with her,
00:14:37 that doesn't mean she doesn't feel disempowered
00:14:41 when she's around you and trying to talk.
00:14:43 So, shrugging it off and shaking your head,
00:14:48 is that validating? Is that making her feel heard?
00:14:54 No, it's not, but...
00:14:56 I don't think "but" is the right response.
00:15:00 When you engage in a fight with Eden,
00:15:04 and we saw it first-hand last night,
00:15:07 you get into a state where you fire questions,
00:15:11 a bit like she's in a witness stand
00:15:16 and you're cross-examining her.
00:15:20 And you repeat the same thing over and over again.
00:15:24 For you, it's like a match.
00:15:27 You've got to be right and the other people are wrong.
00:15:30 And this is not a boxing ring.
00:15:34 This isn't about winning or losing when it comes to relationships.
00:15:41 She is your partner, not your opponent.
00:15:46 And you need to know that your fight style is toxic.
00:15:50 OK, in which way?
00:15:52 It's when you try to be right, when you say "but"
00:15:59 and then start qualifying, giving excuses,
00:16:02 giving your side, talking over.
00:16:05 It doesn't matter whether it's Eden or anyone else in this room.
00:16:09 They're going to put the walls up and shut down.
00:16:13 And we saw that last night from you, Eden, didn't we?
00:16:16 Yeah.
00:16:18 I don't mean to be intimidating or all that.
00:16:22 I just like to communicate.
00:16:24 And the advice that we got from Mel
00:16:26 was to communicate and over-communicate.
00:16:29 Over-communication is not about bombarding the other person
00:16:33 with your message over and over and over.
00:16:36 What I think would be more helpful here is over-listening.
00:16:42 Because what we saw last night
00:16:44 was very little empathy or active listening from you.
00:16:47 You know, I could see the frustration that you were experiencing, Eden,
00:16:52 trying to get your message across, but...
00:16:54 ..we saw no evidence of you listening to her.
00:16:59 I'm really not sure what to say to that.
00:17:03 Because a lot of the things that are being said, I do disagree with.
00:17:08 I feel like whenever she comes to me and she asks for something,
00:17:11 I address it and I work my arse off to try and fix it.
00:17:14 Yeah, there are times that I speak too much,
00:17:19 but I always try and listen and really understand how she feels.
00:17:22 I think what we're saying tonight, Jaden,
00:17:24 is that you're doing a bad job of it.
00:17:26 Well, I'm not perfect, John.
00:17:32 And I'm trying.
00:17:33 I'm not asking you to be perfect,
00:17:35 but what we are saying is there's a pattern here
00:17:38 you need to be aware of that you weren't aware of.
00:17:41 So, what's your take on your fight style, how you argue?
00:17:47 Is this where I say how I feel and what I think's going on?
00:17:53 Yeah.
00:17:54 Am I just going to be told I'm wrong by you guys
00:17:56 or am I actually going to be allowed to say how I feel?
00:17:59 You said you were here to learn. Yeah, I am.
00:18:02 Then that's a defensive position.
00:18:04 I just don't want to say the wrong thing is all and then...
00:18:07 I think you're being a bit childish now.
00:18:09 This really is your moment.
00:18:15 Drop the defences, open your mind and walk the talk.
00:18:19 OK, well, I feel like I'm trying my best.
00:18:25 Maybe it's not very good enough at the moment.
00:18:27 And I obviously misinterpreted what you meant by over-communicate.
00:18:34 And if you feel like you can't bring things up
00:18:37 without it turning to an argument and we going at you...
00:18:40 ..I'll just have to try and understand a bit more and listen
00:18:45 and maybe not go at you like you say.
00:18:48 Jaden, if you get something wrong in a relationship,
00:19:01 what's so bad about that?
00:19:03 I don't know. To me, it's not good enough.
00:19:08 What's so bad about that?
00:19:18 It's because you've let your partner down.
00:19:20 Ah.
00:19:27 Ah.
00:19:28 No, it doesn't. It doesn't mean you're not good enough.
00:19:35 Definitely doesn't mean you're not good enough.
00:19:38 I feel like I'm always letting you down.
00:19:44 And if I feel like I'm not good enough,
00:19:46 of course I'm going to try and fix it
00:19:49 and get to the bottom of things.
00:19:51 Jaden, do you feel like you're a failure in this relationship?
00:19:56 Yeah.
00:19:57 No, don't feel like that.
00:20:04 Now it makes sense.
00:20:18 Your interrogation style,
00:20:23 your need to solve, to push through...
00:20:27 ..you have to do that, because if you don't...
00:20:31 ..you feel not good enough, you feel like a failure.
00:20:35 Yeah, I'm always trying to progress in everything. Mm.
00:20:38 And I'm always trying to get better.
00:20:40 That's just me.
00:20:42 I mean, I think everyone can say
00:20:46 that that sort of winning mentality works in the ring.
00:20:50 But when it comes to an intimate, romantic relationship...
00:20:56 ..failure's OK.
00:21:01 Getting it wrong's fine.
00:21:03 Saying sorry is very, very healthy.
00:21:08 And being vulnerable is actually a hugely brave thing to do,
00:21:13 and it's the key.
00:21:19 Yeah, I didn't realise that.
00:21:21 Eden, do you feel like Jaden's good enough for you?
00:21:25 100%, he's good enough. He's more than enough.
00:21:30 My feelings have grown so much.
00:21:38 I love how silly and playful and funny he is.
00:21:43 I love how outspoken and confident he is
00:21:46 and how he can, like, dominate a room like that.
00:21:49 So I'm super into him.
00:21:51 When things are good, Jaden, between the two of you,
00:21:55 how do you feel about her?
00:21:58 Excited.
00:22:01 Just excited, cos I know when things are good,
00:22:07 it just makes me excited for the future,
00:22:09 to do all the things that we want to do and spend our lives together.
00:22:14 My gosh, this is so cute.
00:22:16 Nice work, guys.
00:22:22 Big revelations.
00:22:25 But we need to know about the decision, stay or leave.
00:22:29 Let's go with you first, Jaden.
00:22:32 Stay.
00:22:38 Ah.
00:22:40 Ah.
00:22:42 Eden, what about you, stay or leave? What have we got?
00:22:47 It actually was a hard decision for me,
00:22:49 because I just didn't know whether we were going to be able to move past this.
00:22:54 But it was nice to see at the end of the conversation
00:23:01 that we did kind of get there, so I also wrote stay.
00:23:05 Oh, gorgeous.
00:23:07 (APPLAUSE)
00:23:09 I like the fact you've opened up, Jaden,
00:23:15 and there's a lot about your relationship that's very strong.
00:23:19 You're at a great time where you can really learn from tonight
00:23:23 and move forward in a different way.
00:23:25 It's over to you.
00:23:27 Thanks so much. You go back to the group.
00:23:29 (APPLAUSE)
00:23:31 (APPLAUSE)
00:23:33 Coming up...
00:23:43 ..Ridge opens his heart.
00:23:46 I haven't felt this way about a girl, ever.
00:23:50 And later...
00:23:52 Can I just pipe in there?
00:23:54 ..Tori drops a bombshell.
00:23:57 I was made privy to some information.
00:23:59 (DRAMATIC MUSIC)
00:24:01 Next up on the couch...
00:24:12 ..Jaden Ridge.
00:24:20 (APPLAUSE)
00:24:22 Howdy. Hello.
00:24:26 Hey, guys.
00:24:29 So, you've had homestays this week.
00:24:33 Jade, how did it go?
00:24:35 It went really well.
00:24:38 My family did like Ridge a lot, which was good.
00:24:43 We did the normal routine,
00:24:46 like, just to kind of show him what it's like, everyday stuff -
00:24:49 walking the dogs, gym, school drop-off.
00:24:54 But my mum and sister got very emotional.
00:24:59 What were they emotional about?
00:25:02 Um...
00:25:07 ..I guess they could see, like, how much I am falling for Ridge.
00:25:14 (LAUGHS)
00:25:16 They could tell I was really, really happy.
00:25:20 Like, I was so happy.
00:25:23 So, they just got worried that if things don't go well...
00:25:28 ..that I'll crumble.
00:25:32 OK.
00:25:34 I guess things with Ridge and I aren't simple,
00:25:41 cos we don't live close to each other,
00:25:44 so I guess that's kind of like a concern,
00:25:48 cos long distance can be tough.
00:25:52 (SOMBRE MUSIC)
00:25:54 Jade, what is it that's your biggest fear here?
00:25:58 Um...
00:26:03 ..it is very scary.
00:26:05 Getting feelings for someone.
00:26:08 Why's that?
00:26:13 (LAUGHS)
00:26:15 Um...I guess...
00:26:18 ..just in case he wakes up one day and decides this isn't for him.
00:26:22 (SIGHS)
00:26:29 I feel like maybe he'll be out and he'll find someone that, like...
00:26:34 ..he matches well with and he'll think it's better and easier
00:26:38 than sticking with me.
00:26:40 Yeah.
00:26:44 (SIGHS)
00:26:46 Has she got something to worry about, Ridge?
00:26:48 Honestly, if you understood half of how I felt about you,
00:26:52 then you'd know that you and I, like,
00:26:55 there's nothing that's gonna get between us, no-one.
00:26:57 Like, not a single person.
00:26:59 I only see you, but honestly, I think about you all the time,
00:27:04 and I know when I'm not gonna be around you all the time,
00:27:06 I'll be thinking about you.
00:27:08 So, you've got nothing to worry about, like, at all.
00:27:14 I understand what Jade's saying,
00:27:16 'cause obviously that's my concern as well, the distance thing.
00:27:18 But that's why I've tried to reassure her as much as I can.
00:27:21 So I'm sort of saying to her, like, every time I come and see you,
00:27:24 you come and see me, we'll plan the next time we're gonna see each other,
00:27:27 so there's gonna be a date.
00:27:29 Just to reassure her that, you know, I'm gonna make an effort,
00:27:32 I wanna make this work with you,
00:27:34 and hopefully that's gonna be enough until we finally get to a point
00:27:37 where it's gonna be right for me to move up to Gold Coast.
00:27:40 Ridge, this is huge for you.
00:27:44 I mean, we're not just talking about a guy
00:27:47 who's already living independently,
00:27:49 maybe with his mates, moving in with a girlfriend.
00:27:51 You know, this is you at home with your parents,
00:27:55 moving to another state to live with a woman and her child.
00:28:00 I mean, this is about 15 steps at once.
00:28:05 But it's gonna happen eventually.
00:28:07 I wasn't gonna leave my parents forever.
00:28:09 I think homestays were a big, big help
00:28:12 to see where I was at in the relationship with Jade.
00:28:15 Just, like, spending that time with her,
00:28:17 just being so perfect with her, like, it all felt, like, unreal.
00:28:20 And then, like, I've never felt closer to her,
00:28:22 like, the connection I had with her,
00:28:24 like, physically, emotionally, all of it.
00:28:26 Honestly, I could see...
00:28:28 ..this could be it for me.
00:28:30 I was, like, this close to dropping the L-bomb.
00:28:36 (PHONE CHIMES)
00:28:38 Are you falling in love with Jade?
00:28:41 Yeah, it's... Yeah, I could say that, yeah.
00:28:49 I haven't felt this way about a girl. Ever.
00:28:54 And that's how I know,
00:28:57 because, like, I don't want to be around anyone else.
00:29:00 I don't want to give anyone else my attention.
00:29:04 Like, she just makes me feel, like, warm fuzzy, like...
00:29:07 Yeah, it's a bit sick, if you... if I'm being honest.
00:29:11 And that's why, like, it baffles me that she says this stuff about,
00:29:17 like, "I'm going to find someone else."
00:29:19 I haven't looked at anyone else
00:29:21 since I saw her the first time she walked down the aisle.
00:29:24 None of us have looked at anyone else since Jade walked in.
00:29:27 (LAUGHTER)
00:29:31 Wow. Mmm.
00:29:33 Jade, are you falling in love with Rich?
00:29:39 Um, I definitely feel like I am getting there.
00:29:46 Honestly, I've never felt happier.
00:29:52 So, yes, I like him a lot.
00:29:59 This is so cute, I want to cry.
00:30:01 Well, I'm loving what I'm seeing right here.
00:30:05 Shall we go to the decision?
00:30:07 Jade.
00:30:08 It's obviously...
00:30:11 You know how I feel. Mmm.
00:30:13 I would never say anything other than stay.
00:30:17 (APPLAUSE)
00:30:19 Rich, over to you.
00:30:22 I wonder... Mmm.
00:30:24 Stay.
00:30:26 Yay.
00:30:28 Well done, guys.
00:30:30 (APPLAUSE)
00:30:32 Jade said that she's worried that I'm just going to wake up one day
00:30:37 and just get up and leave.
00:30:39 I think that comes from a lot of her past traumas
00:30:41 with her previous partners,
00:30:42 but I've told her every day that I'm not her ex's, you know,
00:30:45 I'm way better.
00:30:46 So, uh, she's got nothing to worry about.
00:30:49 Good.
00:30:50 (GENTLE MUSIC)
00:30:52 All right.
00:31:04 Our next couple up...
00:31:06 ..Blue Cinder and Tim.
00:31:12 (APPLAUSE)
00:31:14 Hey, guys.
00:31:16 Hello. Hello.
00:31:17 How you doing?
00:31:18 Good.
00:31:19 Well, uh, we witnessed the dinner party last night
00:31:24 and, frankly, it is so different
00:31:27 to what we saw the last time at the commitment ceremony.
00:31:32 Yep.
00:31:34 So, homestays has occurred,
00:31:38 something has clearly gone off the rails
00:31:41 and we want to know what's happened.
00:31:44 (GENTLE MUSIC)
00:31:46 Uh, I...
00:31:50 Yeah, it wasn't a good vibe at Tim's place.
00:31:54 I think the steel gates went up pretty quickly.
00:31:59 I felt pretty uncomfortable and I felt a bit unwelcomed.
00:32:06 You know, and, yeah, there was a couple of incidences that happened
00:32:13 that I felt really disappointed in.
00:32:15 There was one particular night where Tim said to me,
00:32:21 "I'm off to hang out with my friend Mike
00:32:25 "and I'll be back in an hour."
00:32:27 And this was at about 5.36,
00:32:32 and I thought, "OK, cool, he'll come back, easy breezy."
00:32:37 Seven, eight, nine, no communication,
00:32:40 ten, 11, 12, one.
00:32:43 You got home at 1.30.
00:32:45 And it was disappointing.
00:32:51 There was no communication and really...
00:32:54 ..I felt rejected.
00:32:57 Sometimes feels, Tim, like having a relationship with a brick wall,
00:33:03 you know?
00:33:05 Yeah, it's hard to sometimes get in there, you know?
00:33:08 I get it, but, you know, I openly said I wasn't feeling good.
00:33:13 Yeah, I get that. I get that.
00:33:15 So should I have communicated that I was going to stay longer?
00:33:20 I was already...
00:33:23 Timothy, I think the answer's yes.
00:33:25 Most probably, I should have, yeah.
00:33:32 (SOMBRE MUSIC)
00:33:34 Look, I didn't go into homestay with the best attitude.
00:33:41 I think Lou is really on this journey
00:33:48 with feelings and that's her jam.
00:33:52 And I get that you love digging into the feelings,
00:33:58 but that's definitely not me.
00:34:02 And the more that you dig into it,
00:34:09 the more I retreat and I need that space.
00:34:12 Lucinda, throughout this experiment,
00:34:20 you've been nothing but patient.
00:34:22 You've gone at his speed.
00:34:26 What have you missed out on here from Timothy?
00:34:30 I suppose just more consideration.
00:34:40 A bit more kindness, a bit more effort.
00:34:44 Tim's never initiated a date, really, for me,
00:34:49 like, so I just have felt a bit of minimum chips
00:34:53 with a drizzling of gravy on the effort.
00:34:56 And I've not really felt special or desired.
00:35:04 You know, in the end, the slow burn, he fizzled out.
00:35:13 I don't know, I feel a tiny little bit
00:35:19 that that was a bit of a catchphrase
00:35:22 that you were sort of holding on to that wasn't so true.
00:35:25 And I think really bottom line, Tim,
00:35:30 you just haven't really felt a chemistry with me.
00:35:33 And sometimes I've been like, how about now?
00:35:38 How about now? How about now?
00:35:41 Trying to sort of get some sort of rise,
00:35:44 but I haven't been able to get close to Tim.
00:35:50 Yeah.
00:35:51 You know, that's obviously been the challenge from the start.
00:35:55 But normally I'm pretty quick to cut and run,
00:36:03 so, you know, I could have handled things better,
00:36:07 but in my own way, I did make the space and time.
00:36:13 Yeah.
00:36:14 Certainly I have enjoyed Tim immensely.
00:36:18 I do think you're a total spunk.
00:36:21 And I have held, you know, the lantern of hope.
00:36:25 Particularly interesting and beautiful and exquisite times for me
00:36:31 have been your vulnerability and letting me in.
00:36:34 It's just been so beautiful, those bits.
00:36:38 And, yeah, it's been such a treasured time, actually.
00:36:41 It's been beautiful.
00:36:44 Yeah, Lou's been very, very supportive, very patient.
00:36:54 She's always so positive.
00:36:57 And, you know, I've pushed that positivity to its absolute limits
00:37:03 over the last couple of months.
00:37:05 But I wouldn't change my match.
00:37:08 It's...it has been great.
00:37:11 Thanks, Tim.
00:37:12 Yeah.
00:37:13 Well, it's time for us now to go to the decision.
00:37:21 Stay or leave...
00:37:24 ..Lucinda?
00:37:27 Well, I've got a little bit of sense that I wanted to share.
00:37:36 What a wild ride on this zippy marriage carch.
00:37:40 In my heart, I know I did my best from the very start.
00:37:43 Many tears I've shed from hilarity and from pain.
00:37:48 Thank God for the trusty sex toys that kept me rather sane.
00:37:52 LAUGHTER
00:37:53 You're a lovable brick wall, hilarious and a character of a guy.
00:37:58 But the essence of this story, Tim, is that you never really did try.
00:38:03 You've helped me grow and strengthen up and attune to what is true.
00:38:07 And I'm holding space now for a really gorgeous husband.
00:38:11 And it's no surprise that we're through.
00:38:14 So leave from me.
00:38:17 Spotlight is on you, Tim.
00:38:24 Stay or leave, what have you got for us?
00:38:30 Like Lou, the time has come.
00:38:33 But...
00:38:37 ..it's been an incredible time with Lou.
00:38:41 She has actually taught me a lot.
00:38:44 And I know for a fact that we'll always be in each other's lives.
00:38:48 My doors are always open.
00:38:52 And I love you.
00:38:54 Thanks, Lou. I really appreciate it.
00:38:57 APPLAUSE
00:38:58 Thank you.
00:38:59 Good luck, guys. Thank you.
00:39:08 It's been an absolute delight having you in this experiment.
00:39:10 Yeah, it really has.
00:39:11 You've brought a lot of very interesting layers to it all
00:39:14 and we are very grateful.
00:39:16 You will be missed.
00:39:19 Aw, thanks, gorgeous.
00:39:21 All the very best.
00:39:22 APPLAUSE
00:39:23 Woo!
00:39:24 APPLAUSE
00:39:27 Thank you.
00:39:28 I actually feel really good.
00:39:35 I think it's a really honest close for Tim and I.
00:39:39 I'm going to exit this and really love the shit out of myself.
00:39:43 And, you know, hopefully I've got some sutans
00:39:46 that slip into my DMs
00:39:49 that might feel that I'm their cup of tea.
00:39:53 Our next couple up...
00:39:55 ..Tim and Sarah.
00:40:02 Woo!
00:40:03 APPLAUSE
00:40:04 Hello. Hello.
00:40:07 Hola. Hola.
00:40:09 All right, well, I'm not going to muck around.
00:40:11 I mean, I'm seeing two people in front of me right now
00:40:14 that are very different.
00:40:16 I think we see it, the group sees it,
00:40:18 and I think we see it.
00:40:20 I think we see it, the group sees it.
00:40:22 Explain what the hell is going on.
00:40:24 LAUGHTER
00:40:26 Who is this couple?
00:40:27 What has happened here?
00:40:29 What has happened?
00:40:30 Come on.
00:40:31 We're having a ball.
00:40:32 Yeah, we're having the best time.
00:40:34 It's been great.
00:40:35 What's changed and who's changed it?
00:40:38 I mean, I feel like Sarah's really put in a lot of hard yards,
00:40:45 you know, over the last couple of weeks.
00:40:47 She's really shown me that she wants to be here
00:40:49 and she wants to give me what I need out of the relationship.
00:40:53 You know, we're just laughing together a lot more and...
00:40:58 ..yeah, it's just, like, very positive vibes.
00:41:01 Oh, we can see it.
00:41:02 Yeah.
00:41:03 LAUGHTER
00:41:04 What do you think you've been doing differently, Sarah?
00:41:09 I think it's just, like, the feelings have changed for me
00:41:13 so my actions are different.
00:41:15 I'm more playful with Tim.
00:41:17 I always want to be around him now.
00:41:19 Everything's clicking, everything's working
00:41:21 and it's just getting better and better.
00:41:23 I guess two weeks ago, you were at crisis point.
00:41:29 Mm.
00:41:30 You know, there was the betrayal that happened.
00:41:33 I mean, Tim...
00:41:34 ..where do you stand on it now?
00:41:37 Has Sarah won back your trust?
00:41:40 Has she repaired this?
00:41:41 Mm.
00:41:42 I feel like trust is a tricky one
00:41:50 to sort of say it's just been rectified.
00:41:53 But we're definitely on the way there, you know,
00:42:00 like, just the way that we're hanging out
00:42:02 and enjoying each other's company
00:42:04 and we have, like, a mutual respect for each other
00:42:07 and appreciation for each other.
00:42:09 I'm really feeling valued in the relationship now
00:42:13 and so, you know, if that continues,
00:42:16 then it'll be pretty easy to say
00:42:18 that we've fully put this behind us.
00:42:21 And for you, Sarah, how critical is rebuilding trust for you
00:42:28 in this relationship right now?
00:42:31 Oh, it's huge.
00:42:32 Like, making sure that I'm reassuring him
00:42:34 about how I feel about him.
00:42:36 You know, we're talking about future plans.
00:42:39 Just doing those things to make sure that Tim knows
00:42:42 that I am here for him and that I want him to trust me.
00:42:46 You know, you've certainly received
00:42:49 some direct feedback from the group.
00:42:51 How determined are you to prove them wrong?
00:42:54 Yeah, I mean, look, all I care about is winning Tim's trust back,
00:42:59 but if in the process it proves everybody else wrong,
00:43:02 I wouldn't be mad about it.
00:43:05 We're not mad about it either.
00:43:07 It's kind of what we're hoping for.
00:43:09 You're the comeback kids.
00:43:11 Thank you.
00:43:12 Yeah, it's awesome.
00:43:13 All right.
00:43:16 Let's go to the decision.
00:43:18 Stay or leave?
00:43:20 Let's go with you first, Tim.
00:43:23 Well, pretty easy decision.
00:43:26 We've been having an absolute blast together,
00:43:28 so I'm going to stay.
00:43:30 Nice.
00:43:33 A strong stay.
00:43:35 And what about from you, Sarah?
00:43:37 Stay or leave?
00:43:38 So I wrote stay.
00:43:41 Well done. Well done.
00:43:45 You know, we constantly get surprised by our couples
00:43:49 in these experiments, and you're a real story
00:43:53 of how you can do things differently quickly
00:43:56 and get very effective change.
00:43:58 Yeah.
00:43:59 Well done. Thanks, guys.
00:44:00 Happy for you.
00:44:01 Well done.
00:44:02 Thank you.
00:44:03 Thank you.
00:44:04 [applause]
00:44:06 Next up on the couch...
00:44:12 Tori and Jack.
00:44:18 [applause]
00:44:20 Hello, hello.
00:44:22 Hey, guys.
00:44:23 So big piece of news this week from what we heard.
00:44:30 Consummation. I think that was said last night.
00:44:33 It was the consummation of the marriage occurred.
00:44:36 It was very dramatic.
00:44:37 So do you feel different after?
00:44:40 That's a great question.
00:44:42 I can answer it easily.
00:44:44 I actually do.
00:44:48 I just felt more connected, and I am connected to you,
00:44:51 but it's on another level, I suppose.
00:44:54 For me, I think it definitely did draw me closer to you.
00:44:59 It's like the ultimate sharing of your soul.
00:45:03 Mm-hmm.
00:45:04 And it's like when you give someone that energy
00:45:06 and you get the exact same energy back,
00:45:09 it's quite validating.
00:45:11 It's quite a moment, and I definitely felt that.
00:45:16 Yeah.
00:45:17 Yeah.
00:45:18 So let me ask you this, Tori.
00:45:20 Did I hear correctly last night
00:45:22 that you were falling in love with this man?
00:45:25 Mm...
00:45:26 [laughs]
00:45:28 Yeah, I could fall in love with Jack, for sure.
00:45:31 Jack, how does it feel hearing it?
00:45:36 Yeah, no, it feels really nice.
00:45:39 Like the feeling's mutual.
00:45:41 I could absolutely fall for you, for sure.
00:45:45 Tori, you made a very big statement last night.
00:45:50 You said something to the effect of
00:45:52 you're not really friends with anybody in this group.
00:45:55 They're not important.
00:45:57 I absolutely said that,
00:46:01 and I said that with a lot of gusto.
00:46:04 But that was said at a point of the night
00:46:07 where I actually didn't have anything left.
00:46:10 I was, like, down and out.
00:46:12 And there have been times
00:46:16 where I've felt very isolated in this group, I won't lie.
00:46:20 I feel like I don't really have, like,
00:46:23 anyone in my corner, per se.
00:46:26 Um, but I guess, like, that comment...
00:46:31 ...like, could have easily been tears,
00:46:34 but instead I, like, channelled it with anger.
00:46:37 [sniffles]
00:46:43 [soft music]
00:46:46 We've got your back, Tori.
00:46:55 -We do. -Yeah, we all do.
00:46:56 We're all behind you.
00:46:57 You really did cop an absolute firing squad last night.
00:47:00 There's absolutely no doubt about it,
00:47:01 but I hope you can see that we all really care about you.
00:47:05 And that's why I wanted to ask about the statement,
00:47:09 because it is a very strong, very big statement.
00:47:14 And you also have mentioned how much it's hurt
00:47:17 to receive the criticism and the questioning from the group.
00:47:22 Why does it hurt?
00:47:24 Um, because...
00:47:27 ...it's been, like, constant
00:47:31 throughout the whole experiment.
00:47:33 Like, I don't feel like we've had, like, a positive moment
00:47:38 when it comes to the group.
00:47:40 And I guess, like, that hurts.
00:47:43 It hurts because, like, this is real.
00:47:48 And I just wish, like, my judgment
00:47:53 of Jack's character could be trusted.
00:47:56 Lauren, what is it you see?
00:48:05 Because you've been very verbal in your criticism
00:48:08 of this couple.
00:48:10 Lauren, what is it you see?
00:48:24 Because you've been very verbal in your criticism
00:48:27 of this couple.
00:48:34 Yeah, look, it's what I don't see.
00:48:37 And I feel like I don't see any emotion or reaction
00:48:43 to really anything.
00:48:45 Like I said to you, Tori, I'm like, you know,
00:48:53 even just pick one of the things on the list
00:48:56 of what Jack's done or said.
00:48:57 Like, I haven't really seen you react.
00:49:02 You know when you've got really deep feelings for someone
00:49:04 and, like, you hear something like, "Oh, that hurts,"
00:49:07 and you've got, you know, a bit of emotion towards something,
00:49:09 I feel like you both haven't really given any of that.
00:49:11 And maybe it's just in front of us, but what we said last night,
00:49:14 we're like, we just don't see it.
00:49:16 And I think it's more like when I asked Jack,
00:49:20 "How do you feel about Tori?"
00:49:21 He was like, he's just, like, warm or something.
00:49:24 He's a little wholesome.
00:49:26 I do feel wholesome.
00:49:28 Yes, it's a very tepid way of describing.
00:49:32 It's odd.
00:49:33 No, I struggle.
00:49:36 I struggle verbalising these feelings.
00:49:38 The relationship's always unwrapped
00:49:40 and there's a lot of attention focused on the negative.
00:49:43 But there is a lot of positive, you know.
00:49:46 Despite what the group has been pointing out,
00:49:50 where are you guys at right now?
00:49:52 We are probably in the best place we've been in.
00:49:58 Yeah, I think we're really happy.
00:50:00 I think she's my equal.
00:50:03 I think I've met my match,
00:50:06 which is what I was coming on here to find.
00:50:08 And, yeah.
00:50:11 Well, we do need to get to a decision,
00:50:15 so let's start with Jack.
00:50:18 No surprise.
00:50:21 I'm here to the end.
00:50:24 [music]
00:50:29 Miss Tori.
00:50:31 Obviously, stay as well.
00:50:33 [applause]
00:50:35 Good luck, guys.
00:50:37 I cannot believe that Lauren is still coming from our relationship.
00:50:42 The constant questioning and the lack of support.
00:50:45 I'm just really over it.
00:50:47 She needs to maintain her own garden and get out of mine.
00:50:53 I need to bring home something fun and hopeful.
00:50:57 Our last couple on the couch, Lauren and Jonathan.
00:51:05 [applause]
00:51:07 Hi!
00:51:11 Welcome, guys. Welcome back, Lauren.
00:51:13 Thank you so much.
00:51:14 Very happy to have you back.
00:51:15 I'm happy to be back.
00:51:16 I'm wondering what homestays were like.
00:51:21 I would say that homestays definitely made me feel closer to Jono.
00:51:25 I feel like we just had a pretty good time.
00:51:28 Yeah.
00:51:29 We had a lot of fun, and it was light-hearted, and it was easy,
00:51:33 and it made me feel like, yeah, I've got the right person here.
00:51:37 What a crock of **** that is.
00:51:40 And, yeah, I feel like it just set us in the right direction.
00:51:47 Jono, how was it being in Perth in her world
00:51:52 and getting to know her in her environment?
00:51:55 It was amazing.
00:51:58 Lauren was the best host, and she knows everyone.
00:52:02 Perth is small.
00:52:03 [laughter]
00:52:05 Yeah, it was really-- I had an amazing time,
00:52:11 and I think it was a changing point in our relationship.
00:52:14 Yeah, it was good. It was good for us.
00:52:17 How do you feel about Lauren?
00:52:19 I feel really close to Lauren at the moment.
00:52:22 I feel happy. I feel excited when I see her.
00:52:31 Like, whenever I look at her, I feel lucky.
00:52:35 Thanks.
00:52:37 Thanks.
00:52:38 Observing you guys last night, I believe I heard something being said
00:52:51 about intimacy being back on the table for you two.
00:52:55 It disappeared out of nowhere.
00:52:59 I just felt closer to him.
00:53:02 I feel like those walls were dropping,
00:53:04 and yeah, I think we just had a really good time together.
00:53:07 We weren't talking about all the heavy stuff, and yeah.
00:53:10 It just happened.
00:53:12 I want to spew.
00:53:16 It gets so awkward.
00:53:18 Can I just pipe in there?
00:53:23 Um, sorry to interrupt.
00:53:25 I was made privy to some information today.
00:53:33 Um...
00:53:35 That Jono...
00:53:39 You had been...
00:53:45 texting Ellie.
00:53:48 Oh!
00:53:53 Hi!
00:53:54 What are you doing?
00:54:00 I just want to make sure I'm not in your way.
00:54:03 I just want to make sure I'm not in your way.
00:54:08 I just want to make sure I'm not in your way.
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00:57:44 There's something wrong with that behaviour, Jono.
00:57:48 And if you don't know that, you've just got to look at this group and go,
00:57:51 "Wow, every woman in this room right now thinks I've dropped the ball.
00:57:57 "I've got it wrong, and I'm doing something behind her back."
00:58:01 I feel like as a woman we have a gut instinct,
00:58:07 and that intuition is usually 98 to 100% right.
00:58:13 What is your intention with Ellie on the outside?
00:58:16 If she's a friend, great, but I personally don't get that vibe.
00:58:20 OK. Um...
00:58:22 You are wrong.
00:58:24 Lauren, does this feel like a betrayal for you?
00:58:29 Um...
00:58:31 Like, sorry, I'm just... Yeah.
00:58:36 Yeah.
00:58:40 She's hurt.
00:58:42 I just think it's, like, a little bit...
00:58:49 It's just a bit triggering for me, clearly. Yeah, I know.
00:58:54 In the past, I've just felt like a fool.
00:58:56 Like, I've been around other women that, like, were messaging my long-term partner.
00:59:01 I just think they're like, "I'm just very...
00:59:09 "Like...
00:59:11 "Like, seriously traumatised from my past relationships."
00:59:17 And, like, it's just these things, like, how it all kind of started.
00:59:36 I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get over it.
00:59:39 I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get over it.
00:59:41 I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get over it.
00:59:43 I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get over it.
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00:59:55 I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get over it.
00:59:57 I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get over it.
00:59:59 I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get over it.
01:00:01 It's a bit triggering for me, clearly.
01:00:03 Yeah, I know.
01:00:05 In the past, I've just felt like a fool.
01:00:07 Like, I've been around other women that were messaging my long-term partner.
01:00:11 Yeah, I know.
01:00:15 I just think that, like, I'm just very...
01:00:17 ..like...
01:00:20 ..like, just seriously traumatised from my past relationships.
01:00:28 This is, like, how it all kind of started.
01:00:31 HE SIGHS
01:00:37 I'm really, really sorry.
01:00:44 I thought we were doing really well.
01:00:48 Like, I feel like we were at a good place.
01:00:50 We were talking about what our future looked like together.
01:00:54 Like, you've literally just had sex with me after so long,
01:00:57 and then you're messaging another girl.
01:00:59 What the actual... Like, I feel hurt and betrayed.
01:01:04 I feel like I've been lied to.
01:01:06 Like, I just feel...stupid.
01:01:13 It's not... You don't feel stupid.
01:01:15 No, you do feel stupid. Oh, OK.
01:01:17 Like, I do feel...stupid. It's just humiliating.
01:01:20 I...I feel horrible.
01:01:24 I obviously never want to make you feel that way.
01:01:26 I know that.
01:01:28 But...it's not good enough for me.
01:01:31 I know.
01:01:32 All right.
01:01:36 We're going to go to the decision.
01:01:39 Stay or leave.
01:01:42 Jono...
01:01:43 ..let's go with you first.
01:01:46 All right, stay.
01:01:54 Lauren, what have you got?
01:01:56 Um, I wrote stay.
01:02:00 But that was obviously before I knew about this situation.
01:02:06 Jono, you need to understand, this is not acceptable.
01:02:14 And it's not something that should be given the benefit of the doubt.
01:02:23 You're omitting a very important fact here,
01:02:27 which is I'm texting another woman
01:02:30 who I met in this experiment and you don't know about it.
01:02:34 And I'm not telling you.
01:02:36 It creates an insecurity in the relationship.
01:02:41 It erodes the foundation.
01:02:43 She may be reaching out to you, Ellie,
01:02:47 but you don't need to be reaching back to her.
01:02:49 And here's the other thing.
01:02:51 You may say to Lauren and to the group,
01:02:53 "There's nothing going on here."
01:02:55 You don't know that for Ellie.
01:02:57 You know, one of our roles is just to make sure we point out
01:03:01 when things are going wrong and then we watch closely
01:03:03 to see whether you're going to put it right.
01:03:05 Jono, you have some heavy lifting to do this week.
01:03:11 So really think about this next week and use it wisely,
01:03:16 because it's a very big decision you've got to make before final vows.
01:03:21 Good luck, you guys.
01:03:23 APPLAUSE
01:03:25 - There you go. - Yeah.
01:03:29 Well, well done, everybody.
01:03:33 That brings us to the end of the very final commitment ceremony
01:03:39 for this experiment.
01:03:41 And we are so grateful for how raw and honest you've all been.
01:03:48 I'm... I'm pissed off. I'm really pissed off.
01:03:51 We finally built up to a good place
01:03:54 and it's all just been kind of shut on, really.
01:03:59 In terms of this upcoming last part of the experiment,
01:04:05 you need to make a huge decision about the final vows.
01:04:11 Do you want to take this relationship into the real world?
01:04:16 Like, was he messaging her while I was in surgery?
01:04:20 Like, in hospital? Like, was he messaging her then?
01:04:23 We look forward to seeing how this next week ahead goes for you all.
01:04:30 Thanks. A wonderful night and well done.
01:04:33 - Bye. - Bye.
01:04:35 - Bye. - Bye.
01:04:37 Thanks. A wonderful night and well done.
01:04:40 I definitely want to know more about the situation.
01:04:43 I really need to lay next to the bottom of it
01:04:46 before I decide what to do,
01:04:48 because I just don't feel like I trust Jono right now.