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00:00:00每一桩摇摇欲坠的婚姻, 尽头都是一座冰山。
00:00:13体面凝结成霜浮于海面之上, 那些难以寻知与众的悲苦,
00:00:25随乡下冻结成巨大的山梯, 在不被觉察的株树中,
00:00:33因痛缓慢生长,直至寒冰万里。
00:00:39其实我最早的时候呢,我有吐槽我的婚姻啊, 但是大家却说,哇,她好幸福啊。
00:00:44其实在一段时间内,我会问自己说, 我有这么幸福吗?就是那种感觉。
00:00:49现在如果我的存在于她的生活中, 对她来说未必是一件好事情。
00:00:54在朋友看来,我们俩金童玉女, 童话般的爱情,美好的不得了。
00:00:59结了婚之后反而越来越过不到一起去。
00:01:03我们总是给人感觉都是外表看起来特别好, 但实际上吵架特别频繁。
00:01:09我从二十岁开始到今年三十二岁, 我所有的青春都与这个人有关。
00:01:16我走到今天,走入了一条死胡同。
00:01:23婚姻之爱,赋予我们重塑爱人的巨大能量。
00:01:29这能量,带来成托与治愈。
00:01:33也将掌控于爱的边界,一再重刹模糊。
00:01:38我已经三十多岁了, 为什么我还是不能有一点自己的主见?
00:01:42你还是要控制我。
00:01:44你要脑子不够用,你就少说话。
00:01:47我见过你爱我的样子,我知道你不爱我啥样。
00:01:51我知道我的生活是怎么回事, 我知道我的爱情是怎么回事。
00:01:54你自己摸着良心讲,婚前婚后对我的差别态度到底有多大?
00:01:59我不服了。
00:02:01我有双方受骗的感觉。
00:02:03当一棵树木,想要肆意生长, 又不忍受其围墙的保护,
00:02:10我们明白了,困死的缘起。
00:02:13我从二岁开始就没有离开过这个人了。
00:02:16一方面想逃离,一方面又离不开他。
00:02:19人生向前,旧时的钉子却往往将人钉在原地。
00:02:24我就直说我真的受不了了。
00:02:26现在我们俩的状态都不是自己想要的那种状态。
00:02:29你能不能放过我,让你发明判定我。
00:02:31你居然真恶心。
00:02:32说得过分了吧。
00:02:34优优独播剧场——YoYo Television Series Exclusive
00:03:04每一次都在狡辩,都说我这是干嘛呢。
00:03:07经之论,随成叹息。
00:03:22每一段关系的丰盛绽放,都需要经历撕裂与迷合。
00:03:30当心中的裂痕成成故事的花纹,
00:03:34也许正是改变的开始。
00:03:37老婆,我要向你说声对不起。
00:03:41我是你的一面镜子,你好我就好。
00:03:45老刘,咱俩一辈子生死与共。
00:03:49我希望我能让你感受到爱。
00:03:52儿媳,我以后改。
00:03:55我是全世界最幸福的人。
00:03:57那些温柔誓言留下的火焰,
00:04:01自然是爱的证据。
00:04:04加油!
00:04:07加把劲!
00:04:09太阳出来了!
00:04:16冰川之下也有爱一万里。
00:04:22再现来人 第三季
00:04:30第四季
00:05:00第五季
00:05:30第六季
00:05:33第七季
00:05:36第八季
00:05:39第九季
00:05:42第十一季
00:05:45第十二季
00:05:48第十三季
00:05:51第十四季
00:05:54第十五季
00:05:58第十六季
00:06:01今年是哪里啊?
00:06:02新疆。
00:06:04新疆
00:06:07新疆
00:06:10新疆
00:06:13新疆
00:06:16新疆
00:06:19新疆
00:06:22新疆
00:06:26新疆
00:06:31新疆
00:06:33将我们下车。
00:06:37你看得过吗?
00:06:45off
00:06:48我叫王诗琴。
00:06:50我是模特儿。
00:06:51我今年33岁。
00:06:53Three years old I'm curious if this suit was sent by Lao Ji to him
00:06:58To the station I won't be the first
00:07:06It's so beautiful this place
00:07:12There are sheep over there
00:07:17Hello little cow
00:07:19I'm a little bee. Hello, you guys
00:07:29Use whatever you wear and you look good
00:07:35Someone's coming
00:07:38Water water water water water water water Come on, I'm gonna take this big box
00:07:47Change
00:07:48Buy it
00:07:49I'm hungry.
00:07:55I'm tired.
00:07:57My name is Wang Wei.
00:07:58You can also call me Wang Shui Shui.
00:07:59I'm a beauty blogger.
00:08:01I feel like I need help.
00:08:03I should be the first one
00:08:05to be driven crazy by a suitcase.
00:08:08The suitcase is so big.
00:08:09It's really big.
00:08:10Hello.
00:08:12Let me help you.
00:08:14Let's do it together.
00:08:15You pull here. I'll pull here.
00:08:16I'm lucky to have you.
00:08:18It's okay.
00:08:19It's the length of my arm.
00:08:21What's your name?
00:08:22I'm Wang Wei.
00:08:23You can also call me Shui Shui.
00:08:24Just call me Shui Shui.
00:08:25Shui Shui.
00:08:26Shui Shui.
00:08:27Okay.
00:08:28My name is Wang Shi Qin.
00:08:30You can call me Little Hui Hui.
00:08:32Little Hui Hui.
00:08:33Yes.
00:08:34Little Hui Hui.
00:08:35Our little signboard.
00:08:38Okay.
00:08:39Thank you.
00:08:40It's okay.
00:08:42How are you?
00:08:43I'm so tired.
00:08:44Mainly because
00:08:46breathing is my biggest exercise.
00:08:49And you don't move at all, do you?
00:08:51I'm too lazy to breathe.
00:08:52Contemporary young people.
00:08:53But it's much better with you.
00:08:55I was really a little...
00:08:57I understand.
00:08:59What do you do?
00:09:00I'm a beauty blogger.
00:09:02You are?
00:09:03I'm a model.
00:09:04I can see that.
00:09:05My long legs are killing me.
00:09:07It's great.
00:09:08I'll have a makeup artist in the future.
00:09:09If you don't mind, I can.
00:09:12What's your name?
00:09:14My name is Zhang Shuo.
00:09:15Zhang Shuo.
00:09:16That's a weird name.
00:09:18No, I was just thinking...
00:09:22Someone's here?
00:09:23Yeah, I think so.
00:09:24Someone's here.
00:09:27The one with the hat.
00:09:29Right?
00:09:35Is that Xiao Er?
00:09:36If Ji sees you like this,
00:09:38he'll go crazy.
00:09:39Xiao Er's hat is nice.
00:09:42No, I can't take it off.
00:09:45Hello.
00:09:46Don't move.
00:09:47We're here to pick you up.
00:09:48Hello.
00:09:49This mission is too hard.
00:09:51It's okay.
00:09:52Let's do it together.
00:09:53Okay, sure.
00:09:54Let's do it together.
00:09:55Let's share the weight.
00:09:57What's your name?
00:09:58My name is Fu Shouer.
00:10:02You...
00:10:03Wait a minute.
00:10:04Are you Fu Shouer?
00:10:05You're too short.
00:10:06I didn't even recognize you.
00:10:07I didn't think Xiao Er would come.
00:10:09That surprised me.
00:10:10She has a lot of
00:10:11unique suggestions
00:10:12between two sexes.
00:10:14She's a very wise woman.
00:10:16A good marriage
00:10:17is when you're mentally prepared.
00:10:18She has the right to get out of the car at any time.
00:10:20But she never left.
00:10:21Love is to appreciate each other.
00:10:22Love is not to force you
00:10:24to change yourself
00:10:25for the life I want.
00:10:26Because every answer you get
00:10:27about love
00:10:28and every understanding
00:10:29you have about human relationships
00:10:30are all in exchange for disappointment.
00:10:33Hello, everyone. I'm Fu Shouer.
00:10:34My job is a language worker.
00:10:36What right do I have
00:10:37to sit here and judge him?
00:10:39Let's go.
00:10:41What is this place?
00:10:42The starting point of meeting lovers again.
00:10:44Yes.
00:10:45It's so beautiful here.
00:10:46It's so beautiful.
00:10:50Are they cute?
00:10:52Which two?
00:10:53You two.
00:10:54Are they cute?
00:10:57Do you think after this trip,
00:10:59after seeing your husbands,
00:11:00do you think you're doing well?
00:11:03Can you make it?
00:11:04Or do you think
00:11:05this journey
00:11:06is almost incomplete?
00:11:08No, I don't want to.
00:11:10Is your husband
00:11:11older than you or younger than you?
00:11:13He's about ten years older than me.
00:11:14Ten years older than you?
00:11:15Yes.
00:11:16Then he should be good at taking care of you.
00:11:20Half.
00:11:21Half done, right?
00:11:22I think I take care of him more.
00:11:24Really?
00:11:25Yes.
00:11:26Can you introduce your partner to us?
00:11:29My partner.
00:11:30Okay.
00:11:33He is a person
00:11:35who looks good,
00:11:37has a good figure,
00:11:39is very self-disciplined,
00:11:40very persistent,
00:11:44and very stubborn.
00:11:45Old Ji really wants to change me.
00:11:48He always wants me
00:11:50to become the person he wants.
00:11:53He is a very peaceful person.
00:11:57He doesn't have any emotional ups and downs.
00:11:58He is very gentle.
00:12:00He is easy to get along with.
00:12:01As for his shortcomings,
00:12:02I think he is
00:12:03not enthusiastic enough.
00:12:06Zhang Shuo can talk to
00:12:07the dogs on the roadside.
00:12:08He likes to make friends.
00:12:10He spends his time
00:12:12with his friends
00:12:14rather than with me.
00:12:16Or you spend
00:12:17too little time on me.
00:12:18Or you spend
00:12:19too little time
00:12:20in this house.
00:12:26You made us wait so long.
00:12:27Really.
00:12:31Thank you.
00:12:33Someone is coming.
00:12:34Is he coming?
00:12:35The boy is coming.
00:12:36Should we help them
00:12:37to get the luggage or not?
00:12:38Of course not.
00:12:39Okay.
00:12:40Let's sit down.
00:12:41I don't know who he is.
00:12:42Let's sit down.
00:12:44He is Brother Shuo.
00:12:54My name is Zhang Shuo.
00:12:55I was born in 1992.
00:12:57My occupation is
00:12:59advertising producer.
00:13:05Zhang Shuo looks handsome.
00:13:12He is a little pitiful.
00:13:13Let's welcome him.
00:13:15Hello.
00:13:16Hello.
00:13:18Nice to meet you.
00:13:20Hello.
00:13:21Hello.
00:13:22Hello.
00:13:23Hello.
00:13:26Sister Shuo.
00:13:27Hello.
00:13:28Hello.
00:13:29My name is Wang Shiqin.
00:13:31Zhang Shuo.
00:13:32Nice to meet you.
00:13:33Please put the luggage here.
00:13:35Brother Shuo is sitting here.
00:13:36The girl didn't give him a reply,
00:13:37so he was afraid.
00:13:44You didn't give him any face.
00:13:45Yes, that's right.
00:13:52Are they angry?
00:13:54It feels like a quarrel.
00:13:55It feels like a quarrel.
00:13:56When I came here just now,
00:13:57I felt like
00:13:58a running map in the game.
00:14:00Running map.
00:14:01What is a running map?
00:14:02It was originally in this scene,
00:14:03and then suddenly
00:14:04a snow mountain appeared in front of me.
00:14:06It feels amazing.
00:14:09Have you been here for a long time?
00:14:10We've been waiting for a long time.
00:14:12Sorry.
00:14:14Let the girl wait for the boy.
00:14:17It's okay.
00:14:18You can wait for us later.
00:14:20Okay.
00:14:25Don't talk.
00:14:26Don't say a word.
00:14:27Ignore him completely.
00:14:28This is actually quite sad.
00:14:31They are both wearing
00:14:32those plain white clothes.
00:14:34Okay.
00:14:36We are two light bulbs.
00:14:40Why don't you say a word?
00:14:44Why don't you say a word?
00:14:48Why don't you say a word?
00:14:49It's like in a TV series.
00:14:50We stand in the middle,
00:14:51and then they sit on both sides.
00:14:54We can publish
00:14:55the poster of this episode.
00:15:01Is there someone riding a horse
00:15:02or something?
00:15:05Is there someone riding a horse?
00:15:07No way.
00:15:08It's not necessary.
00:15:09No, someone is coming.
00:15:13Liu.
00:15:14This is my house.
00:15:16Can you see it at a glance?
00:15:17This is my house.
00:15:18He'll be there soon.
00:15:21I'm Liu.
00:15:22I'm 43 years old.
00:15:24I don't have a specific job at the moment.
00:15:29What should I call you?
00:15:30Just call me brother-in-law.
00:15:31Brother-in-law, okay.
00:15:32Liu.
00:15:35Liu.
00:15:37Hello, brother-in-law.
00:15:38Hello, brother-in-law.
00:15:39Liu.
00:15:42Are you dizzy?
00:15:44Are you dizzy?
00:15:45No.
00:15:46Have a seat.
00:15:50Have a seat.
00:15:51It's okay.
00:15:54Is it hot?
00:15:55No.
00:15:59It's uncomfortable.
00:16:03Have a seat.
00:16:04You're welcome.
00:16:05It's okay.
00:16:06Have a seat.
00:16:07Have a seat.
00:16:09They seem to be very familiar with each other.
00:16:11Yes.
00:16:12They control the whole situation.
00:16:19Do you know what I'm wearing this afternoon?
00:16:20I haven't decided yet this morning.
00:16:29Is it weird?
00:16:30Last night I woke up with a dry throat.
00:16:34Yes.
00:16:35Yes.
00:16:42Liu is so funny.
00:16:47When you came just now,
00:16:48you screamed like a cow.
00:16:49I said, the cow is welcoming you.
00:16:55I think brother-in-law doesn't like to express himself.
00:16:57He doesn't like to talk.
00:16:58I don't know
00:16:59how to break the ice with brother-in-law.
00:17:02Brother-in-law, what day are you?
00:17:05I'm November 5th.
00:17:08I'm the end of October.
00:17:09You can, Wang Shijie.
00:17:11You can open your brother-in-law's mouth.
00:17:12It's really not easy.
00:17:13Really?
00:17:14He doesn't talk much, does he?
00:17:15Brother-in-law is not good at talking to people.
00:17:20But we all don't know
00:17:21there's something wrong with you and your brother-in-law.
00:17:23I think it's pretty good.
00:17:24Really?
00:17:25You will use it to make a complaint on the show.
00:17:27But the more you make a complaint, the more you should...
00:17:29I think it's so sweet.
00:17:30Yes.
00:17:31I thought you were just making a complaint about the material.
00:17:39People will think that we are
00:17:40two very suitable partners.
00:17:42The first four words people say
00:17:43is the weakness of a girl group.
00:17:45People will think that people like her
00:17:46and people like me
00:17:47are very suitable for each other.
00:17:48In fact, when I was on the show,
00:17:49I often complained about my marriage.
00:17:51But everyone said,
00:17:52wow, she is so happy.
00:17:53I would ask myself,
00:17:55am I so happy?
00:17:56It's just that kind of feeling.
00:17:58I think it's mainly
00:17:59that the pace of life of the two of us
00:18:01is relatively far apart.
00:18:03Let's welcome the observer,
00:18:04Fu Shouer.
00:18:06Do you want to do it again?
00:18:07Let's do it over there.
00:18:10I've been getting busier and busier over the years.
00:18:12The things we've been in contact with
00:18:14are getting more and more different.
00:18:16Our ideas are getting more and more different.
00:18:17And the pace of life is getting more and more different.
00:18:19So there will be some communication barriers.
00:18:22We will think about it ourselves.
00:18:25In the end, in this marriage,
00:18:29can we be happier and happier?
00:18:31Or do we still have a new view
00:18:33of self-growth in our hearts?
00:18:42We only need to wait now
00:18:43for the husband who is in love, right?
00:18:44Yes.
00:18:46He always comes late.
00:18:48He usually comes late.
00:18:50Then he must have dressed up
00:18:51as the best of the three boys.
00:18:53The best of the three boys.
00:18:55Yes, he has very high requirements for clothing.
00:18:57Really?
00:18:59Especially for me.
00:19:01He cares about you?
00:19:02I've changed my clothes 800 times.
00:19:04I've been thinking about what to wear since the day before yesterday.
00:19:06Until this morning, I haven't decided.
00:19:08So he helped me prepare.
00:19:11But I secretly made the shoes and socks myself.
00:19:14Secretly.
00:19:15You have to secretly make it yourself.
00:19:17Do you like him helping you?
00:19:19I liked him at first.
00:19:20But after a long time, I became very annoying.
00:19:23It's a bit too much.
00:19:26Too much or too much?
00:19:36He woke up.
00:19:38My name is Ji Huanbo.
00:19:40I'm 42 years old.
00:19:42I'm an actor.
00:19:44I used to be a model.
00:19:47He's coming.
00:19:48He's coming.
00:19:50Our family member is very smart.
00:19:53He knows how to ride a bike.
00:19:55Actually, he's not an amateur.
00:19:57Hello.
00:20:01The award ceremony is one night.
00:20:03But you have to pay attention.
00:20:04Don't miss it.
00:20:05If you miss it, you have to go to the hospital.
00:20:08Why are we so taciturn?
00:20:10We didn't go this time.
00:20:12Just give them a picture.
00:20:17Hello.
00:20:18How did you get it?
00:20:20We...
00:20:22It's very simple.
00:20:23It's very handsome.
00:20:26But you're smart.
00:20:27You know how to be handsome.
00:20:29We're all here.
00:20:31We found two sun eyes.
00:20:34Hello, everyone.
00:20:37Hello.
00:20:38Hello.
00:20:39Let me introduce to you.
00:20:40Ji Huanbo.
00:20:41Hello.
00:20:42You can call me Ji.
00:20:44I'm an actor.
00:20:45Hello, brother-in-law.
00:20:46Brother-in-law.
00:20:49You're Ji.
00:20:50You can call me Ji.
00:20:51What about him?
00:20:53What do you call him?
00:20:54I call him...
00:20:56I call him...
00:20:58I call him wife.
00:21:00Wife.
00:21:01I think you and your husband are very sweet.
00:21:03How did you two...
00:21:04The two of us?
00:21:06You'll find out.
00:21:07You'll find out.
00:21:09We'll be sweeter.
00:21:10Don't worry.
00:21:11Who doesn't pretend for a while?
00:21:23Ji.
00:21:24This time it's like this.
00:21:27These three cars are so cool.
00:21:38Sister Le.
00:21:39The appearance is handsome.
00:21:41He made an appearance for himself.
00:21:43Hello.
00:21:44Sister Le.
00:21:46How are you?
00:21:47Hello.
00:21:49Hello, Sister Le.
00:21:51Hello, Ji.
00:21:52Hello.
00:21:53Let me tell you.
00:21:54All unreasonable arrangements.
00:21:55This is the hero of history.
00:21:58Don't be like this.
00:22:01Welcome to the third season of See You Again.
00:22:05I'm the producer of See You Again.
00:22:06Producer Liu Le.
00:22:07I didn't expect this show
00:22:08to come to the third season so soon.
00:22:10Here, on behalf of the show team,
00:22:12for the six of you
00:22:13willing to open up
00:22:14the courage to join this journey.
00:22:16Thank you.
00:22:17Thank you all.
00:22:18Welcome.
00:22:20This season is very special.
00:22:22Because the six of you
00:22:23are still in a marriage relationship.
00:22:26You all have your own confusions.
00:22:28Some are afraid to continue.
00:22:31Some don't want to continue.
00:22:33Some don't know how to continue.
00:22:37After 18 days,
00:22:38you will make a final decision.
00:22:40Do you want to continue this marriage or not?
00:22:42There is still a car.
00:22:45No matter what kind of confusion you have,
00:22:47in the next 18 days,
00:22:49I hope you can all be as crazy as you can.
00:22:52Play with it.
00:22:54Be frank.
00:22:56After 18 days,
00:22:57I hope you can all find
00:22:59your own answer.
00:23:01No matter what your decision is,
00:23:02I hope your confusion
00:23:03has been solved.
00:23:04I hope you all have fun
00:23:05in this journey.
00:23:07Thank you.
00:23:08Thank you.
00:23:10In real life,
00:23:11because of these work things,
00:23:13our relationship
00:23:14is getting more and more tense.
00:23:16I want to see
00:23:17in the process of this show,
00:23:20can I find
00:23:22the one I used to know?
00:23:25I hope through everyone's observation,
00:23:29I can find my own problems.
00:23:31I only changed myself.
00:23:33Only then can I change myself.
00:23:34Only then can I change myself.
00:23:35Only then can I change myself.
00:23:36Only then can I change myself.
00:23:38Our relationship
00:23:39has reached a point
00:23:41where even roommates
00:23:43are going to break up.
00:23:44Either it's good,
00:23:45or we just play it all.
00:23:48I hope we can
00:23:49make a story
00:23:50in these few days.
00:23:52I just want to ask her
00:23:53if she can't be like a little girl
00:23:56and tell me everything.
00:23:59I don't know
00:24:00how much love she has
00:24:01for her current relationship.
00:24:02To be honest,
00:24:03we still have to
00:24:04deal with this relationship
00:24:05in the end.
00:24:08I want to figure out
00:24:09what I think
00:24:10in this journey.
00:24:11What does Liu think?
00:24:13I think if both of us
00:24:14can figure out
00:24:15how to face the future
00:24:16with a more positive
00:24:17and optimistic attitude,
00:24:18no matter what the result is,
00:24:19I think it will be great.
00:24:23You may have noticed
00:24:24that today is a little different.
00:24:26The car that comes with me
00:24:27is not a two-seater,
00:24:28but a three-seater.
00:24:30Next,
00:24:31you will be in pairs
00:24:32to complete
00:24:33your first single-line mission
00:24:34in See You Again.
00:24:37The mission of each group of guests
00:24:38is in the car.
00:24:39You can see it when you get in the car.
00:24:41I hope you can
00:24:42complete this single-line mission alone.
00:24:44The journey starts like this.
00:24:45I hope you have fun.
00:24:46Thank you.
00:24:47Thank you.
00:24:49Thank you, everyone.
00:25:01Let's go.
00:25:02Let's go.
00:25:03It's a mission,
00:25:04not a game.
00:25:06Why are you not happy?
00:25:08I don't like missions.
00:25:10Will you quarrel
00:25:11when you get along with each other?
00:25:12We don't quarrel.
00:25:13What about you two?
00:25:14Will you quarrel?
00:25:15Yes.
00:25:16Really?
00:25:17It depends on me.
00:25:18You've been together for ten years,
00:25:19but you still quarrel.
00:25:20I'm so envious.
00:25:21I'm so envious.
00:25:23I thought it was a boy's team
00:25:24and a girl's team.
00:25:26You really don't play by the rules.
00:25:27Show your cards.
00:25:33This is the map, Liu.
00:25:34Look.
00:25:35The rules of the mission.
00:25:36According to the map,
00:25:37please build a house
00:25:38in the village.
00:25:39After arriving,
00:25:40please go to Xiaobu's house
00:25:41to get firewood
00:25:43and bring it back to the camp
00:25:44for everyone to use.
00:25:46Please go to Pari's house
00:25:48to get food
00:25:49and bring it back to the camp
00:25:50and share it with everyone.
00:25:51Please build a tent camp
00:25:52according to the instructions
00:25:53and the effect map
00:25:54and use your creativity
00:25:56to build a beautiful new camp
00:25:57for everyone.
00:25:59Everyone is different.
00:26:00Pari.
00:26:01Pari's house.
00:26:02Get firewood
00:26:03and bring it back to the camp.
00:26:04392,
00:26:05Xiangdao.
00:26:10What the hell?
00:26:12It feels like a trip.
00:26:15Let me tell you.
00:26:16Just now,
00:26:17Shui and Liu didn't talk.
00:26:19They didn't talk,
00:26:20you know?
00:26:21They started gossiping.
00:26:23They said I was too cute.
00:26:27It's so different this time.
00:26:32They should have had a big quarrel.
00:26:35I guess they had a bad day the day before.
00:26:43That horse is so cool.
00:26:44Why?
00:26:51I took off my glasses.
00:26:54Why didn't you take it
00:26:55when I told you not to?
00:26:57Why did you lie to me?
00:27:01Why did you tell me
00:27:02that you took off your glasses?
00:27:04This girl is so cute.
00:27:07Why is she unhappy?
00:27:08I want to know.
00:27:09The reason is
00:27:10we arrived the day before.
00:27:12The production team said
00:27:13we shouldn't
00:27:14move around in the room.
00:27:16It was 11.30 p.m.
00:27:17It was late.
00:27:18We ordered food.
00:27:19Zhang Shuo's food was sent to my room.
00:27:21I asked Zhang Shuo
00:27:22if he wanted to come over
00:27:23and eat with us.
00:27:25He said no.
00:27:27He said
00:27:28the production team said
00:27:29he wouldn't let us go out.
00:27:31And then
00:27:32there was something wrong
00:27:33with my phone.
00:27:35I wanted to pass on the data.
00:27:37In case the phone was hung up,
00:27:38right?
00:27:39Zhang Shuo sent me
00:27:41a manual
00:27:42on how to pass on the data.
00:27:46I said
00:27:48what if I don't know how to do it?
00:27:49Would you like to help me?
00:27:50He said no.
00:27:51The production team said
00:27:52I couldn't go out at night.
00:27:54Okay.
00:27:55After a while,
00:27:56he said
00:27:57I put on sunscreen today
00:27:58and I haven't removed my makeup yet.
00:27:59But I didn't bring a face wash.
00:28:01He said
00:28:02I'll wash it in your room.
00:28:03Then he came over.
00:28:04Didn't he say
00:28:05he wouldn't let you go out?
00:28:06Why did he ask you to come over
00:28:07when it was my business?
00:28:08Why did he ask you to come over
00:28:09when it wasn't your business?
00:28:10Why did he ask you to come over
00:28:11when it was your business?
00:28:13It doesn't make sense.
00:28:15He can come over
00:28:16when he wants to.
00:28:17He can only come over
00:28:18when he needs to.
00:28:19When you came to me
00:28:20for scissors this morning,
00:28:21weren't you afraid
00:28:22they would say
00:28:23you couldn't come to me?
00:28:25I was in a hurry
00:28:27that morning.
00:28:29And then
00:28:30when you couldn't find it,
00:28:32you didn't dare to come.
00:28:33You asked Tongtong to come
00:28:36twice.
00:28:38I think it's amazing
00:28:39whether you come to me
00:28:40or not.
00:28:41When I need your help,
00:28:43you used the program
00:28:44to prevent us from meeting.
00:28:46Then you turned me down.
00:28:48When you needed my help,
00:28:50you came to me.
00:28:51It's really a little angry.
00:28:53So do you know why
00:28:54I put a long face on you this morning?
00:28:56I don't want to see you.
00:28:57Yes.
00:28:58I put a long face on you.
00:28:59You didn't give me
00:29:00a reasonable explanation.
00:29:01Do you think
00:29:02I put a long face on you
00:29:03for no reason?
00:29:05I thought it was
00:29:06a matter of ID.
00:29:08If you do something next time,
00:29:10please think about it.
00:29:11Think about it.
00:29:12I've told you 800 times.
00:29:13OK?
00:29:14OK.
00:29:15He didn't apologize.
00:29:16Yeah, he didn't solve it.
00:29:18Hello.
00:29:19Sorry, our car
00:29:20can't move in this direction.
00:29:22The gas pedal.
00:29:23If you don't step on it now,
00:29:24it will move on its own.
00:29:25No, step on the gas pedal.
00:29:26There is no engine sound.
00:29:28You pay attention to safety.
00:29:29Second sister.
00:29:30Get it done and then go.
00:29:32He is very enthusiastic with others.
00:29:34It's really wonderful.
00:29:35This person.
00:29:36Let's go.
00:29:39You just met a new friend.
00:29:40You can be so considerate.
00:29:41Pay attention to safety with others.
00:29:44I just want to know
00:29:45how many days you can
00:29:46pay attention to safety with others.
00:29:47When my mobile phone
00:29:48went wrong last night,
00:29:49I helped you
00:29:50send it out for me.
00:29:51How did you do it?
00:29:53You told me a lot of reasons.
00:29:54You let me figure it out myself.
00:29:57It's wonderful.
00:29:59I'm so angry.
00:30:00It's fun.
00:30:01She was angry with me.
00:30:05It made me very uncomfortable.
00:30:08I don't know how to coax her.
00:30:10So I'm afraid
00:30:11there will be a situation where I coax her.
00:30:13So I try to
00:30:14communicate with her less now.
00:30:18How did you coax her before?
00:30:20Yes.
00:30:21I think I'm just asking.
00:30:22I didn't stop
00:30:23to help them fix the car.
00:30:26I told you how to do it
00:30:27last night.
00:30:29If you can't do it,
00:30:30you can tell me anytime.
00:30:33Shouldn't you say
00:30:34if you can do it first?
00:30:35If you can't do it,
00:30:36I'll have a chance
00:30:37to help you later.
00:30:40Right?
00:30:44Yes.
00:30:46Yes.
00:30:49Then you were so anxious.
00:30:50You pushed the pot
00:30:51and pushed the program group last night.
00:30:53You said they told you
00:30:54not to go out of the room.
00:30:56Then I won't say it.
00:30:57I know.
00:30:59I know where the problem is.
00:31:01It's not the first time
00:31:02I've done it.
00:31:03You said they told you
00:31:04not to go out last night.
00:31:05You came last night.
00:31:06You came again this morning.
00:31:08Then I coaxed you.
00:31:09You said you wouldn't come.
00:31:12I'm really angry.
00:31:14Really.
00:31:15Her way of communication
00:31:16I think
00:31:18is too direct.
00:31:20It's even a little
00:31:21violent to me.
00:31:23I know.
00:31:34I used to
00:31:35For example, when I was there,
00:31:36I was wrong.
00:31:37I was wrong.
00:31:38I was angry.
00:31:39I'm angry now.
00:31:41The reason for the lack of patience is
00:31:43The reason for the lack of patience
00:31:44is that I can't get rid of it.
00:31:45It's been a long time.
00:31:46Slowly, one by one,
00:31:47one by one.
00:31:48It's all like this.
00:31:49I don't know how to persuade her.
00:31:50I don't know how to coax her.
00:31:51Every time she's angry,
00:31:52she has to wait for her own
00:31:53to get rid of it.
00:31:54It's no use coaxing her.
00:32:01I always have to pay it back.
00:32:03I always have to pay it back.
00:32:33Lonely
00:32:37Lonely
00:32:40Lonely
00:32:53Our destination is
00:32:54the camp site of Mount Buzhou.
00:32:56It's very simple at night.
00:32:59He took us to a camp site.
00:33:01Just arrived at the camp site,
00:33:02周边什么也没有,拉到一个鸟不拉屎的地儿,你除了聊天能干什么?
00:33:09我跟你说,到今天晚上,睡睡跟张漱耳不聊天的夫妻晚上都聊起来,你信不?
00:33:15不然干嘛两个人在那儿相对无言,不聊天干啥呀?
00:33:21你觉得呢?
00:33:23那刘轩是
00:33:25他话都讲完了
00:33:27张漱耳主导性很强
00:33:29你看那个沙石,全部是那种绿色的,你看
00:33:33你看没?
00:33:34好神奇的感觉
00:33:37哪儿啊?
00:33:38哎呀,你看,这旁边不是有点绿绿的吗?
00:33:42这个是,什么?
00:33:44怎么说?
00:33:46这个是你车上贴膜,你看着就像绿的
00:33:50你胡扯啊
00:33:52你车上贴膜,那山为啥不绿的啊?
00:33:54你再看看绿不绿
00:33:57真的诶
00:33:58是车膜啊
00:34:00那太可爱了这个
00:34:01不对吧,那
00:34:02哦
00:34:08我一直以为
00:34:10我以为沙土是绿色的
00:34:15我在想,你讲什么绿的呢?
00:34:17这个车明显贴膜了,你看出去颜色肯定要变啊
00:34:21哎呦
00:34:22就你们
00:34:27我又忘了我们要到谁家去
00:34:32你想想
00:34:33哈利,哈利
00:34:35他们俩真的不是来演喜剧的吗?
00:34:37哎呀,笑死了
00:34:38我说别人话会像我这么多
00:34:44你晚上可以问一下
00:34:45我问他们在车上聊什么?
00:34:47怎么样?
00:34:48可以啊
00:34:49你来问
00:34:49那我不问
00:34:50那你,你给我出门话策
00:34:53你给我出门话策
00:34:55你给我出门话策让我去问
00:34:57我并不好奇啊
00:34:59你看你让我去问
00:35:00你好奇啊
00:35:01你怎么知道我好奇
00:35:03那你不好奇你问这个事情干嘛呢?
00:35:06哎呦,老刘很可爱
00:35:08老刘,老刘好可爱
00:35:09老刘很可爱
00:35:11不知道他们
00:35:13是不是像我们一样也要开这么远
00:35:17你不是不好奇吗?
00:35:20你晚上问他们呀
00:35:22你问不问?
00:35:26可爱的呀,他们两个
00:35:27对啊,感觉看着挺好的
00:35:31世界真大呀
00:35:33中国真大
00:35:35祖国真大
00:35:37不来新疆不知道中...
00:35:56啊
00:36:01地上是平的
00:36:02哎呦
00:36:02哎呦
00:36:03哎呦
00:36:03哎呦
00:36:03哎呦
00:36:04哎呦
00:36:04哎呦
00:36:04哎呦
00:36:05哇哦
00:36:07啊
00:36:07看见小房车
00:36:10啊
00:36:12哎
00:36:13我们第一个到的呀
00:36:15可太美了
00:36:17啊
00:36:17啊
00:36:17啊
00:36:18啊
00:36:18啊
00:36:18啊
00:36:18啊
00:36:19很美
00:36:20是真的很漂亮
00:36:23哇
00:36:24好舒服
00:36:25不修山
00:36:26林地公园
00:36:28这海拔蛮高的哦
00:36:29嗨
00:36:34这水也太浅了
00:36:36传说中的一辆房车
00:36:39走吧,我们去里面看看
00:36:42哎呦
00:36:46女生使用手册
00:36:49哈哈
00:36:52这边淋浴
00:36:56好温馨啊
00:36:58这里可以睡两个人
00:37:02嗯
00:37:03这个是
00:37:06好冰箱
00:37:07啥都有不错
00:37:08哎呦
00:37:09我天真是啥都有啊
00:37:15怎么样
00:37:15我基本上了解完了
00:37:18你那几个床啊
00:37:19只有两个
00:37:20你呢
00:37:21两个呀
00:37:22哎
00:37:22是不是因为让我们要搭帐篷
00:37:24有的人要睡在外面呀
00:37:26有道理
00:37:28应该这是搭的吧
00:37:29就是平一点的地方
00:37:32研究一下啊
00:37:36妈呀
00:37:38这从来没弄过呀
00:37:40没见过啥样啊
00:37:44我的天哪
00:37:45我先看看
00:37:47这个很难搭
00:37:49嗯
00:37:51小心旗子
00:37:55周围地钉全部打上
00:37:58你先把那个钉分出来了
00:38:01然后你数一下有多少个
00:38:02这个周边就知道是哪个了
00:38:05嗯
00:38:06一二三四五六七
00:38:12这一看就没搭过的
00:38:13是是是
00:38:14十
00:38:15十二
00:38:16十二
00:38:18十四
00:38:20十四吗
00:38:23再数一遍去
00:38:25从你这开始啊
00:38:26从你这开始
00:38:28你是一
00:38:29二三四五六七八九十
00:38:34十一十二十三十四
00:38:36一二三四五六七八九十
00:38:39十一十二十三十四十五
00:38:40确实是十五
00:38:42为什么这是十五呢
00:38:43这是啥意思啊
00:38:45哎呀真费劲啊
00:38:47这要搞到什么时候啊
00:38:48其实在家组装这个柜子
00:38:50我挺厉害的呀
00:38:52让我仔细看一下
00:38:54那么这个拉起来之后
00:38:57系不好系
00:39:00那会是怎么系呢
00:39:01楼上画的是
00:39:03这个东西在外面的呀
00:39:07研究一下啊
00:39:08好好看看这个图
00:39:10这个是一个什么东西
00:39:12连在一个什么上
00:39:17这个任务抽的我的天
00:39:18这是搞搭配的方式在搭
00:39:21完美主义
00:39:22就很沉浸在细节里
00:39:23怎么说以前去露营几次了
00:39:29你现在研究一下
00:39:30这个是啥意思
00:39:33这看着一点也看不出来啊
00:39:43摆烂了我
00:39:46他们也不笑得出来
00:39:49太苦了
00:39:50他们几点来啊
00:39:53挺好插进去的
00:39:54然后
00:39:55这么一下就开了
00:39:58回家回家回家
00:39:58来来来
00:40:00旋转
00:40:02成功了
00:40:05陷入平静
00:40:07不知道咋搞
00:40:13所以
00:40:14我觉得是
00:40:16先用钉子先固定上
00:40:19这样
00:40:23天哪
00:40:25这肯定是进去再
00:40:28这能对吗
00:40:30进吧
00:40:31小心点你那个胳膊肘啊
00:40:36我撑不住了你得快一点
00:40:39这个风太大了
00:40:40我没那么大劲
00:40:42一二三
00:40:43好好好
00:40:44行
00:40:45快成了
00:40:47中心点有点偏啊上面
00:40:49好了起来了
00:40:51你看看外面这些怎么利用上
00:40:53就这些角这些
00:40:54图上画的是
00:40:56这个东西在外面的呀
00:40:59是不是
00:41:01我觉得上面肯定要有绳
00:41:04但现在没找到上面是哪一根
00:41:06你也不可能所有这些都穿它呀
00:41:11你快点你发挥一下
00:41:13你聪明才智烦死了
00:41:14那就得把那个再拆了
00:41:17中间那根
00:41:18你现在把这儿先研究一下
00:41:21生气了
00:41:22两个小时了
00:41:23这研究完了谁能上去穿那个呀
00:41:30跟你对话觉得很蠢你知道吗
00:41:32不想跟你说话
00:41:34显然不对的
00:41:35那个绳子还要跟那个扣发生关系呢
00:41:38他会自言自语这件事情还蛮好玩的
00:41:41对对对
00:41:42弄一个这个什么东西在这拴着它呢
00:41:46把这个一借啊就这样啊
00:41:51咱俩这智商也是很感人
00:41:55救命
00:41:58这个图真是画的一点也不清楚
00:42:01这说明书可以发上网让大家看一看
00:42:03多复杂
00:42:05第一次这么无助
00:42:07平时我弄这个还可以啊
00:42:11来了
00:42:12有人回来了
00:42:14哈喽
00:42:16我们来了
00:42:17终于来了你们去哪了
00:42:19我们去砍柴了
00:42:21我们需要你们的智慧不行啊
00:42:23先弄上再慢慢修也行
00:42:31大哥大嫂
00:42:34大哥
00:42:35我跟你说他呀是牛
00:42:37现在我们俩已经变成大哥大嫂了
00:42:39已经不是大姐姐夫了
00:42:42你看我给大家打个样
00:42:43然后大家分别找一个这个去弄啊
00:42:46斜45度往里边斜啊
00:42:50现在得进去一个人把这个给撑起来了
00:42:52对
00:42:53我进
00:42:58搭起来了
00:42:59挺好挺好
00:43:02我们俩刚刚在里面快哭了
00:43:04这个帐篷快把我俩吹跑了
00:43:07好嘞
00:43:08完美
00:43:08嗨
00:43:12帐篷终于搭起来了
00:43:14对终于
00:43:15寓意着这个关系的建立是吧
00:43:18有了一个稳定的基础
00:43:19对
00:43:20欢迎回来再见爱人第三季
00:43:24再见容易
00:43:25再见很难
00:43:27大家好我们是
00:43:29再见爱人吹耕团
00:43:35这一季的节目呢
00:43:36就是感觉好像跟前面两季不太一样
00:43:39就是三对的夫妻看起来都很欢乐
00:43:43然后都还在婚姻的状态里
00:43:45然后就是好像还蛮温馨很甜蜜
00:43:49说说笑笑啊
00:43:50就很温暖吧
00:43:52温暖吗那一对90后你觉得温暖吗
00:43:55没有就是他们的吵架也是让我感觉
00:43:57就是那种爱过的
00:44:00因为他还会跟他说我为什么不开心
00:44:03你永远都是自己想要什么的时候
00:44:05你就来找我了
00:44:07他会讲
00:44:07但那个男生就完全不回答
00:44:09他顶多会回答说
00:44:15但是他也不解释也不道歉
00:44:17对也不解释也不道歉
00:44:18就感觉这个话题就把他划过去了
00:44:20就冷处理他
00:44:22这种真的会越来越生气的
00:44:25感觉那个穗穗是想要一些回馈
00:44:28对
00:44:29所以其实穗穗与其说是生气
00:44:32不如说她是委屈
00:44:35她其实因为委屈不好表达
00:44:37所以她表达出来的是生气
00:44:40可是我前面看仙岛片
00:44:42我记得那个张硕他曾经说过
00:44:44他觉得穗穗的脾气很大
00:44:46然后经常骂她
00:44:47我不知道他会不会觉得说
00:44:48现在这是一种相对好一点的处理方式
00:44:51就是我不在你的气头上去跟你互动
00:44:55他就是怕他跟他再说两句
00:44:57然后穗穗又会更
00:45:00但这个才不是一个解决好的方法吧
00:45:04我觉得他这是借口
00:45:06他就是懒得吵架
00:45:08大家认为他不对的
00:45:10他就是说因为他太凶了
00:45:12因为他脾气坏
00:45:13那我听到现在我没觉得
00:45:15穗穗有说什么过分的话
00:45:16我也觉得是
00:45:17只是直接说她的感受
00:45:20而她也不是无理取闹
00:45:21是可以生气的
00:45:23换过我也生气了对啊
00:45:24我觉得穗穗的表情很好玩
00:45:26还一直在翻白眼
00:45:29那白眼翻到天上
00:45:30对
00:45:31其实穗穗只是想要有一个
00:45:34一个感觉
00:45:35就是好像她的情绪有被认可
00:45:37甚至有被看见这样
00:45:39而且明明有个很好的契机
00:45:41女生都已经说了
00:45:43餐点送到我这边要不要一起来吃
00:45:45这是一个非常好的契机
00:45:47结果男生就说我不去
00:45:49这个男生他只希望
00:45:50他在他需要这个女生撒娇的时候
00:45:52他才撒娇
00:45:53其他这个女生他撒娇的时候
00:45:55他根本都看不到
00:45:56对
00:45:57那我也有个问题
00:45:59就在两个人的亲密关系当中
00:46:02会直言不讳的那个占主导优势
00:46:04还是那个不说话的是主导优势
00:46:27要不然就是张硕不知道对方要这个
00:46:30要不然就是我知道你要这个
00:46:32可是我偏偏不给你
00:46:33所以其实就会变成一方气得要死
00:46:35可是拿你完全没办法
00:46:37对啊都搞疯掉了
00:46:39我感觉张硕就不在乎
00:46:41对
00:46:42包括他那个仙草片里面
00:46:43不是说他们婚礼的事情
00:46:45为什么没有领证
00:46:46他也是不在乎
00:46:47我觉得他
00:46:48无所谓
00:46:49根本就无所谓
00:46:50我觉得他是吵架吵怕了
00:46:51然后他选择了一种逃避的方式
00:46:54去解决问题
00:46:55黄老师你不是在第二季的时候
00:46:57张婉婷和宋宁峰吵得很厉害的时候
00:46:59我觉得当时你给了一个方法
00:47:01你说在那个场景之下有的时候
00:47:03冷处理不失为一种好方法
00:47:05大家觉得只要不哄好你
00:47:07我们就不能开心吃饭
00:47:08可是其实不是的
00:47:09其实大可以杨迪就跟其他人在聊嘛
00:47:12对就是你生气
00:47:13可是你的问题我们解决不了
00:47:15你就放这儿
00:47:16对不对
00:47:19这有差别
00:47:20因为我们那时候在第二季的时候
00:47:22张婉婷很知道自己要什么
00:47:24而那个东西根本就不是宋宁峰能给的
00:47:26那这时候我说ok那冷处理
00:47:28可是刚才不是
00:47:29刚才睡水并没有得出过分的要求
00:47:33如果事情如他刚才所陈述的这样
00:47:36他要求一个解释道歉
00:47:37或者是承认是很合理的
00:47:39而我很讨厌张硕刚才用了一个词
00:47:43叫做我不想再哄他了
00:47:47他生气哄不好
00:47:48他生气要哄半天
00:47:49你看哄其实就是糊弄过去
00:47:52对
00:47:52以及他用了一个词叫耍贱
00:47:54这都是什么意思
00:47:55都是把别人的认真做戏虐化的处理
00:47:58对
00:47:59明明我受了委屈
00:48:00结果你那边耍贱
00:48:00还说对不起都是我的错
00:48:03你根本就没有面对问题
00:48:04对
00:48:04你把他当成一个笑话
00:48:05他不是一个笑话
00:48:06对
00:48:07我觉得你没有
00:48:08就是我
00:48:09对
00:48:10他没有直面
00:48:11就是睡一睡的那个
00:48:13他真正的感受
00:48:14对
00:48:15而且张硕他还有一句话
00:48:16他说不知道睡水能不能什么时候
00:48:19能够再像一个小女孩一样
00:48:20但是其实睡水现在已经不在这个阶段了
00:48:23张硕是还活在过去校园的时代
00:48:26就是不想长大
00:48:28其实你看包括那个模特儿夫妇是吧
00:48:31对
00:48:32他们也是不高兴就讲出来了
00:48:3490后
00:48:35他们也是不高兴就讲出来了
00:48:37然后现在我反而觉得傅首尔和老刘
00:48:42看起来很平和
00:48:45但是我感觉他们应该问题最大
00:48:47对
00:48:47他都没有说出来
00:48:49就是在我们做婚姻咨询的里边
00:48:52我们有一句话
00:48:53我们有的时候会觉得没有问题
00:48:55可能是最大的问题
00:48:58因为我们一直认为婚姻关系
00:49:00它本质上就是一个不断的发现问题
00:49:02和解决问题的关系
00:49:04我们最初解决的问题叫什么
00:49:06叫做孤独感
00:49:07然后接下来我们要解决
00:49:08比如说安全感的问题
00:49:09边界感的问题
00:49:10自我价值的问题
00:49:11好多问题
00:49:12首尔跟老刘那种状态
00:49:14他们好像是惯性
00:49:16我觉得他们两个人在车上的聊天
00:49:18也聊的其实很愉快
00:49:20没有实质性的
00:49:22是
00:49:22那老夫老妻不就是这样
00:49:24老夫老妻这样子挺好的
00:49:25是我其实觉得是蛮好的
00:49:27但你知道我们蛮好的
00:49:28他们就只有在一起老夫老妻的聊天
00:49:31我懂了
00:49:31就是他们这样在一块是可以过下去的
00:49:34对
00:49:34没有大问题的
00:49:35所以他们都不会去聊那个真正的问题
00:49:38到底是什么
00:49:39所以我觉得老刘在仙岛片里
00:49:41老刘制造了一个问题
00:49:43这个问题叫做
00:49:44我们要不要还是分开试一下
00:49:46因为制造了这个问题
00:49:47所以才有这个旅程
00:49:48所以我觉得其实他们现在是在
00:49:50让这段婚姻某种意义上
00:49:53有可能再去焕发新的一些生机
00:49:55这个旅程对他们来说是很好的
00:49:58对
00:49:59开始
00:49:59对
00:50:00因为他们的问题就是两个人
00:50:01不在一个同频的时间上
00:50:04这个大家都是放下了工作什么的
00:50:06然后两个人一起旅游18天
00:50:09对
00:50:10我们看第一段影片
00:50:12我们就讨论得这么的热络
00:50:14接下来不知道会发生什么事
00:50:17让我们继续往下看
00:50:23我们要吃饭了
00:50:25今天晚上咱是火锅趴
00:50:30在这种雪山下面吃火锅
00:50:32那是多爽啊
00:50:33好漂亮
00:50:34先摆菜吧
00:50:36来
00:50:36先摆菜
00:50:37对
00:50:38拿一下
00:50:40这个肉
00:50:42来
00:50:43端端
00:50:45放上
00:50:51火锅底料
00:50:53手好开心啊
00:50:55什么东西
00:50:56这个蒜末
00:51:03那咱的调料在
00:51:05在上面
00:51:06走
00:51:06我觉得咱们可以自己拿碗
00:51:08走
00:51:09然后咱们也拿一个碗
00:51:10我们三先调好对不对
00:51:11好
00:51:12然后他们三小组是在调
00:51:13好
00:51:14咱先调自己的
00:51:15行
00:51:16走吧
00:51:17我帮老季调了
00:51:18她的料都是我调的
00:51:20我帮张少把碗带上
00:51:22她调料我没调
00:51:24我帮她把碗带上
00:51:26老刘你自己调吧
00:51:28还是我帮你调
00:51:28你自己调吧
00:51:29我自己调
00:51:29我调我的啊
00:51:31走
00:51:32这个很不一样
00:51:33很不一样
00:51:34真的很不一样
00:51:36简单一个调料
00:51:37我来生火吧
00:51:53她不是给了那个固体的酒精吗
00:51:55有了那个就很容易生了
00:51:59先点着一两个扔进去
00:52:01再多放几个酒精
00:52:04不一会儿那个整个柴火都会烧起来
00:52:08我去生火
00:52:10主要也不是为了
00:52:12说去干个什么活
00:52:14我就觉得好玩
00:52:15老刘很好啊
00:52:16对啊很好啊
00:52:17生火
00:52:18觉得好玩
00:52:19这句话我还喜欢
00:52:21我发现了很多好吃的
00:52:24我打开冰箱直接一个开心
00:52:26老刘
00:52:27上面还有
00:52:28上面的冰箱没打开
00:52:29我打开以后
00:52:31我简直快乐
00:52:33我们都感受到了她的快乐
00:52:35就反正放到里面煮呗是吧
00:52:37就捞上吃点啊
00:52:40这火也太吓人了我
00:52:41我跟你说我发现了好多吃的
00:52:43是吧
00:52:43是的
00:52:44他们俩开心的点根本都不一样
00:52:46开心的点根本都不一样
00:52:48开心的点根本都不一样
00:52:50根本都没在听对方在干嘛
00:52:52一个是看吃一个是看火
00:52:56其实我是一个
00:52:58相对会比较自洽的人
00:53:01不会对两个人之间的感情
00:53:04有过多的要求
00:53:05可能比较容易活在自己的世界里
00:53:10还有摆盘
00:53:11哇摆盘
00:53:12还有摆盘
00:53:13放一下吧
00:53:15切得还很艺术
00:53:16没啥用其实
00:53:18好看
00:53:20好吃啊
00:53:24你生的
00:53:26生这火有用不
00:53:28好看
00:53:30你这说有什么用没什么用
00:53:33风太大了
00:53:36入席吧
00:53:37入席入席朋友们
00:53:42你要不要穿上袜子
00:53:44很单纯的美好
00:53:45很单纯对
00:53:46对超简单的
00:53:49你坐我旁边吧
00:53:50你坐这
00:53:51反正他们都不讨住
00:53:55开心开心
00:53:56可是时候的确没有参与到我的快乐
00:53:58对对对
00:53:59今天一天
00:54:01成果满满
00:54:02对啊我们弄了这么多东西
00:54:04还搭了两个帐篷
00:54:05还生了一盆火
00:54:06虽然是很少露营
00:54:08没有弄过
00:54:09但是第一次还是感觉挺快乐的
00:54:12挺愉快的
00:54:13那我们端一个呗
00:54:14我们来来来
00:54:15我们来端一个呗
00:54:16嗨
00:54:17我们的第一次露营第一场晚饭
00:54:20很高兴认识大家
00:54:22很高兴认识
00:54:23真的很高兴认识大家
00:54:24而且感觉我们六个人见面
00:54:26就好像挺熟的那种感觉
00:54:27对
00:54:28是的
00:54:29很高兴认识
00:54:30很高兴认识
00:54:33这边这边这边
00:54:35这一场这一场
00:54:36这五卡
00:54:38这五卡
00:54:39对不起没有经验
00:54:41嗨各位爱人
00:54:43从今天开始
00:54:45你们将开启18天的房车旅行
00:54:47共同感受壮美和可爱
00:54:51你们此刻所在的地方叫做
00:54:53布州山营地
00:54:55它位于帕米尔高原的核心区域的
00:54:58喀拉库勒湖边上
00:55:01幸运的话
00:55:02早晨可以看到日照金山奇迹
00:55:05晚上可以看银河星球
00:55:09有银河
00:55:12希望你们尽情地去享受
00:55:14自然风光和特色美食
00:55:16去实现未完成的心愿和挑战
00:55:19去探索一直以来都想得到的答案
00:55:23现在请大家共同选举出一对夫妇
00:55:26担任第一站的轮值导游吧
00:55:29我提议
00:55:31现在导游手套在谁的手里
00:55:34我跟你想的一模一样
00:55:35我也是
00:55:36真的是
00:55:37我觉得我们第一值班的
00:55:39我觉得就是施琴和季老师
00:55:44我说一下为什么
00:55:46倒不一定是导游手套在施琴手里
00:55:49因为虽然经过这短短的几个小时的相处
00:55:53我觉得施琴和季老师都是属于那种
00:55:57爱操心
00:55:58配合得非常好
00:55:59然后他俩其实都属于挺爱操心的
00:56:03你看今天我们见面的时候
00:56:05施琴第一个到的
00:56:06然后我拉箱子她就赶快去接我
00:56:08让我觉得瞬间就温暖了起来
00:56:10我的箱子也是
00:56:13那肯定的呀
00:56:15得去
00:56:16我觉得导游是轮值
00:56:19但是我想第一队咱们选出来的
00:56:21就是能给咱们一个打样
00:56:23我觉得是不是
00:56:24没问题
00:56:25我接受
00:56:26特别希望能给大家照顾好
00:56:29先适应几天
00:56:30好的
00:56:33那我们是不是吃起来
00:56:34来
00:56:35来吧老刘
00:56:36生活辛苦了
00:56:38来吧
00:56:40老刘一直在关心火盆
00:56:42哇巨好吃
00:56:43什么巨好吃
00:56:44妈呀
00:56:45调的料好吃
00:56:46好吃
00:56:47你要辣锅还是不辣
00:56:48我感觉饿了
00:56:49就辣的吧
00:56:50好
00:56:51谢谢
00:56:52给你搞上了
00:56:53好的
00:56:56番茄味
00:56:57季老师你平时健身吗
00:57:00健身啊
00:57:01我感觉你保持的挺好
00:57:03怎么知道
00:57:04看得出来呗
00:57:06看我搭帐篷那个
00:57:08劲儿啊
00:57:11你们生活在哪个城市
00:57:13我们生活在上海
00:57:14有孩子吗
00:57:15有
00:57:16你们呢
00:57:17我们没有
00:57:18你们呢
00:57:19只有我们有孩子
00:57:22姐我问你个问题呗
00:57:25你们为什么会来这个节目呢
00:57:29聊起来了
00:57:38我真的没想到
00:57:39你会来这个节目
00:57:41寻找答案嘛
00:57:43大家来这个节目
00:57:44都是为了寻找答案嘛
00:57:46这太公事了
00:57:47问题是啥
00:57:51我觉得我们俩
00:57:53非常像兄弟
00:57:55好朋友
00:58:01我俩之间亲情的部分
00:58:03和友情的部分
00:58:04都毋庸置疑
00:58:05肯定就是互相都为彼此好
00:58:08而且也不怎么有特别大的矛盾
00:58:10因为我们已经磨合了十五年了
00:58:13但是我们之间的爱情
00:58:15越变越少
00:58:16我觉得我们俩之间的爱情
00:58:17已经降到零了
00:58:24啥时候这么觉得的
00:58:30走开了
00:58:31老刘有点不高兴
00:58:35慢慢的吧
00:58:36好几年了吧你
00:58:38在一起多少年了
00:58:39十五年了
00:58:40十五年了
00:58:42老刘说在那是冷的
00:58:43在这至少是暖的
00:58:46按这么算的话
00:58:47恋爱经历应该不多
00:58:49不多
00:58:50因为我们俩在一起
00:58:52我二十五岁我就结婚了
00:58:54她比我大一些
00:58:55她八零年
00:58:57我还想吃这个燕脚
00:58:58但我感觉我捞不起来
00:59:03燕脚好像没了
00:59:08我看你俩不太吵架
00:59:10我俩还好吧
00:59:11但也不能说一点不吵
00:59:13还是有意见
00:59:15那个什么的时候
00:59:17但是确实姐夫脾气也比较好
00:59:19对我看这是吵不起来
00:59:21其实年轻的时候
00:59:22我也脾气就是
00:59:23也会有时候会冲动
00:59:25我又是急性子
00:59:26我们也是这么多年磨合的
00:59:28因为姐夫脾气其实是挺好的
00:59:30然后人也比较温和
00:59:31有什么事也不太容易计较
00:59:33反正这个就是
00:59:34过日子嘛就是配得好呗
00:59:36那我听明白了
00:59:37这问题出在
00:59:40出在我身上
00:59:43你不能这么说
00:59:44这也挑不起战争啊
00:59:45不能这么说
00:59:46你赶紧
00:59:47招呼一下
00:59:49首先是这样
00:59:50我来的时候
00:59:51开车一路就想
00:59:52这小夫妻这么小
00:59:53这么年轻
00:59:54又很
00:59:55你看这个又很甜啊
00:59:57老夫老妻过日子呗
00:59:59有什么问题是能够
01:00:02除了原则性问题
01:00:03有什么问题
01:00:04家长离短
01:00:06是能够升级到
01:00:07来节目的
01:00:09我想知道这个原因
01:00:11因为我俩原因
01:00:12我们很清楚
01:00:13我们很特殊
01:00:14这个慢慢逐渐相处
01:00:16我再给大家聊
01:00:17你咋特殊了
01:00:18我怎么都不知道
01:00:19要特殊
01:00:21不知道你来
01:00:29今天不是我们出发的时候吗
01:00:31那个制片人就说
01:00:33我们都不一样
01:00:36有的是害怕自己会离
01:00:38有的是想好了要离
01:00:41有的是还今天想着离
01:00:43明天又或许不离
01:00:45那目前这个阶段
01:00:46你们属于哪一种呢
01:00:51我觉得我是最后一种吧
01:00:54你俩属于那种
01:00:55生气了闹了就说
01:00:57我们俩生气是谁都不理谁
01:00:59就掰
01:01:00而且我俩吵大家的时候
01:01:01是她失去理智
01:01:02她会说出来很伤人的话
01:01:03然后男士之后呢
01:01:04她会主动说和好
01:01:05然后我是属于那种
01:01:06就我一旦说出什么话
01:01:08我就说到做到
01:01:09就我这人听劝
01:01:10你要是说今天我做这事不对
01:01:11好我以后再也不做这事了
01:01:13举个例子啊
01:01:14就是她觉得我这人性格就是
01:01:16不要跟她朋友玩
01:01:17融入不进她朋友圈
01:01:19然后我表现就是慢热心的嘛
01:01:21然后我也为她
01:01:22那些朋友我也觉得我做出挺多的
01:01:24就是去她家里
01:01:25我会提前准备礼物
01:01:27然后她又说
01:01:29那些礼物都是我自己乐意准备的
01:01:31然后说
01:01:32委屈了
01:01:34她又没求着我准备
01:01:35这样子
01:01:36这多气
01:01:37我就觉得很伤人
01:01:38我就说好
01:01:39那我以后再也不准备了
01:01:41天哪
01:01:42好丧人哦
01:01:44哪有纸巾你
01:01:49我是一个会把就是这种
01:01:51吵架时候当真话的人
01:01:53你看你多气人
01:01:55的确挺气人的
01:01:57第一集就跟我妹气哭了
01:01:59后面还有好多集呢
01:02:04但我其实一般我不喜欢生气
01:02:08顺顺的脾气属于
01:02:10稍微有一点小火星的
01:02:12不是不是
01:02:13又甩锅
01:02:14然后她就说得很直
01:02:16可能有些时候就不是因为
01:02:18那个事怎么怎么样
01:02:20又不是她的错了
01:02:21是情绪
01:02:22对人不对事了变成
01:02:24不是我就是就是认识
01:02:28就是你这个事情惹到我了
01:02:30我就直接跟你说出来
01:02:31然后说话肯定很直
01:02:33非常的不留情面
01:02:34就非常不给她面子
01:02:35这样子
01:02:36当她朋友面吗
01:02:37也不能当她朋友面
01:02:38那她就会受不了
01:02:39感觉顺顺很直接的人
01:02:41就是刚开始
01:02:42在一起刚开始的时候可能
01:02:46还让着点
01:02:47或者是忍耐着点
01:02:48但是慢慢慢慢的
01:02:50就已经十年了
01:02:58就是我们俩怎么说呢
01:03:00也不是说单纯的谈恋爱时间长
01:03:03我们俩从高三开始同桌
01:03:07然后又一个大学
01:03:12就然后又一起
01:03:13又一直在南京
01:03:14然后又一直生活在一起
01:03:18感情看起来以前很好啊
01:03:21嗯
01:03:31我没办法具体说
01:03:33是在哪个时刻形豔感
01:03:35满消失的
01:03:38但是大概应该是
01:03:41我们毕业两三年以后
01:03:44开始生活中多了一些
01:03:46生活中的碎事
01:03:48嗯
01:03:49这个时候
01:03:50其实激情就变少了
01:03:54我们俩现在形容
01:03:55就是我们俩感觉跟室友一样
01:04:01其实我们俩
01:04:02那个婚也可以不结
01:04:03我们俩结婚
01:04:04主要是因为她家里催的
01:04:06不是因为两个人想结
01:04:10她家里多大也就催啊
01:04:14主要可能还是跟
01:04:17我们俩在一起的时间有关系
01:04:19在一起时间长了
01:04:20家里说你得给人女孩一个交代
01:04:22是吧
01:04:23对催不是催
01:04:25催这个年龄的问题
01:04:27可能是催我们在一起
01:04:29年头的问题
01:04:30嗯明白
01:04:31而且我觉得睡睡的眼
01:04:33就是眼泪哭的这么伤心
01:04:35是因为你们之间
01:04:37真的感情很深
01:04:38就是以前感情有多深
01:04:39现在不是不是
01:04:40她只是觉得委屈
01:04:42对我是受不了委屈的人
01:04:44然后跟他结婚之后
01:04:46是委屈我觉得
01:04:49最大的委屈就是拍照不好看
01:04:51不是比这个更委屈
01:04:53这个更委屈啊
01:04:58我们俩到现在都没有领证
01:05:04没有领证
01:05:05就是所有人都不知道我没有领证
01:05:07所有人都
01:05:08不知道
01:05:11不理办了
01:05:12办了
01:05:13不领证的原因也很奇葩
01:05:16哦看来要说了
01:05:18就是
01:05:19就是
01:05:25因为就婚闹你们知道吗
01:05:27婚闹
01:05:28对
01:05:29哦还有这回事
01:05:31我没有想过说是
01:05:32在我的规律上会出现说
01:05:34闹伴娘这件事情
01:05:36闹伴娘
01:05:38婚闹
01:05:41所以是她那边的朋友闹了这个
01:05:45极俗闹了这个婚闹
01:05:47对
01:05:48然后我那个伴娘
01:05:50本来我给她订了晚上住那边的酒店
01:05:52因为这件事情她就是
01:05:54我一事一结束就直接走了
01:05:58而且结婚前
01:06:00我那朋友来的时候就跟我说
01:06:02听说你们婚闹很严重
01:06:05就是她有这个担心
01:06:07然后当时张叔也请她吃过饭
01:06:09然后我也跟她聊过
01:06:11说你放心不会的
01:06:13我就觉得
01:06:15那结果出现这种事情了
01:06:17你收尾也没有收好
01:06:19那你这是
01:06:21在干嘛呢
01:06:22那你朋友过去这个事了吗
01:06:25我朋友今天可能已经过去了
01:06:27但是就那件事情之后
01:06:29我跟我朋友已经很少联系了
01:06:31我们之间关系很好
01:06:33哦这很不能接受
01:06:35等于说
01:06:37等于说面子上可能就是
01:06:40有隔阂了
01:06:41对
01:06:43其实后来经过那件事以后
01:06:45已经
01:06:46不联系了
01:06:47不怎么联系了
01:06:50然后我当时跟她说了
01:06:52事情当时
01:06:53因为我这边女方戏偶团也在嘛
01:06:55我这边女方戏偶团先制止的
01:06:58制止之后呢
01:06:59然后那两个人又罢手了
01:07:02然后再然后呢
01:07:03我就当场跟张叔说
01:07:04我说这是你的朋友
01:07:05你去处理一下这件事情
01:07:06他说好
01:07:08然后我说我要的也不多
01:07:09你就让当事人跟我朋友道个歉就行了
01:07:11对吧
01:07:13但是他没有
01:07:16他说
01:07:17那个两个朋友之前
01:07:19就是跟他们家可能关系比较好
01:07:21帮我家里不少忙
01:07:23可能碍于人情世故
01:07:25他张表这个嘴
01:07:26所以呢
01:07:27他去跟我的朋友道了歉
01:07:29但是当事人没有跟我朋友道歉
01:07:31什么
01:07:34生气
01:07:35对呀
01:07:36我就不太懂这个事情
01:07:37因为
01:07:38我从小的理念里都是
01:07:41谁做错谁就要道歉
01:07:43而且这种胡闹这些事情
01:07:45就是一个绝对的对错的事情
01:07:48就是为什么那个男的
01:07:50就不能跟我的朋友当面道歉呢
01:07:52对呀
01:07:53这两件事
01:07:55他为什么不去表这个态度
01:07:57跟他的那个朋友说
01:07:58你这件事情做错了
01:07:59你需要跟伴娘道歉呢
01:08:02他都没有告诉那个人
01:08:03你做错了
01:08:04这是让我觉得
01:08:06特别恶心的一件事情
01:08:09三年了
01:08:10我就一直在跟他说道歉这件事情
01:08:12他就一直没有解决
01:08:14他就有在找事
01:08:16不想面对
01:08:17找事
01:08:18当时没有解决
01:08:19事后也没有及时解决
01:08:21那拖到现在
01:08:23是不是有一个弥补的
01:08:24一个挽回的一个措施呢
01:08:26今天晚上也是我第一次
01:08:28当着外人面聊
01:08:29我跟张说婚礼上这件事情
01:08:31你总觉得好像
01:08:33我在强行地去
01:08:35反正你的一些态度
01:08:37一些方式
01:08:38一些处理方法
01:08:39所以你要不要听听
01:08:41大家的声音
01:08:44第一天
01:08:45顺水就把我们
01:08:47三年前结婚有胡闹的
01:08:49这个事
01:08:50和大家倾诉了出来
01:08:53我当时的感受是
01:08:55没必要吧
01:08:56当然有必要
01:08:58是心里的解啊
01:09:00真的是
01:09:02那到底为啥呢
01:09:04这个事
01:09:05当时
01:09:08当季的情况是
01:09:10我刚拿着手捧花跪下
01:09:12给她求完婚
01:09:14然后在找鞋子的
01:09:16那个时候
01:09:17那个阶段
01:09:19我当时脑子里
01:09:21就是一堆结婚的事
01:09:26然后可能没有
01:09:28第一时间站出来
01:09:29去制止这个事情
01:09:31那事后你也没有让他们道歉啊
01:09:33事后你也没有告诉那人
01:09:35你做错了呀
01:09:37不管他之前跟你们家关系有多好
01:09:39他做这件事情就是错的
01:09:41就是论事
01:09:42对
01:09:43就是当时我的处理方式就是
01:09:45我来不停地给那个朋友道歉
01:09:47那不是他做的错啊
01:09:49就是他在哄
01:09:51顺水要求我去要求
01:09:53这个男生
01:09:55去向他的伴娘道歉
01:09:57这个行为
01:09:59我觉得首先
01:10:03认知不在一个层面
01:10:07我可以要求他说一句对不起
01:10:09但是
01:10:11又怎么样呢
01:10:13他回头他过来他还要骂我
01:10:15你干嘛
01:10:17因为他如果意识到他错了
01:10:19他就不会去做这个行为
01:10:21或者他意识到他的行为低俗
01:10:23他就不会去进行这个行为
01:10:25我觉得跟他解释不通
01:10:27就
01:10:29就不必要去对他说教了
01:10:31就不必要去对他说教了
01:10:33你跟他说不明白
01:10:36那这个时候
01:10:38我们那个朋友又受到了伤害
01:10:40只能我去道歉
01:10:44我觉得这就是对我来说的
01:10:46可能最好的处理方法
01:10:50顺水要的那个处理方法
01:10:52我真的
01:10:54我做不到
01:10:56怎么会这样子
01:10:58他还有一种自我牺牲感
01:11:00对他有
01:11:02其实后来经过那件事以后
01:11:05不联系了
01:11:07不怎么联系了
01:11:09你就跟他高中同学
01:11:11他是什么样的人你还不知道
01:11:13就是因为跟他结婚之后
01:11:15他这个态度才让我觉得看不明白他
01:11:17然后就是
01:11:19我们结婚之后有太多太多
01:11:21因为他朋友之乱乱乱然后吵架的事情
01:11:23就每次他都选择委屈我这边
01:11:25这个不行啊
01:11:27你变成了就是本来是你
01:11:29闺蜜跟他朋友之间的
01:11:31对
01:11:33所有的原因都是因为他处理不当
01:11:35他甚至还跟我说
01:11:37那你要觉得这件事是错的
01:11:39那你当时为什么不去制止呢
01:11:41对那你有本事你当时报警啊
01:11:43你怎么不报警呢
01:11:45他说什么天哪
01:11:47什么东西啊
01:11:49他跟我说这种混账的话我就觉得
01:11:51我和你那个朋友道歉
01:11:53你道歉没有用我要当事人道歉
01:11:59这个事就说不明白
01:12:02一直到现在他能提起来就生气
01:12:12但是我就算跟那两个人
01:12:14说多少句你们是错的
01:12:16他们不会理解
01:12:18他们只会觉得我有问题
01:12:22非常糟糕
01:12:24我只是需要你去跟那两个人去表态
01:12:26说你们做的是错的
01:12:28他要他的态度啊
01:12:30你站在他这边
01:12:32不是站在我这边
01:12:34你要站在这个事情正义的一边
01:12:36不是我这边
01:12:38对跟错
01:12:40他确实讲得很好
01:12:42我崩溃的根源就是因为
01:12:44我听太多他那种套话
01:12:48反正我每次一提起这件事
01:12:50我都特别气就气到哭
01:12:52应该气啊
01:12:54就是我包括我到后来觉得
01:12:56你让我去跟那个女孩道多少次歉
01:12:59都行
01:13:01但是你就不能跟你朋友说一句
01:13:03你做错了
01:13:05我只能从道德上去要求
01:13:07他们来道歉
01:13:09他根本没要求啊
01:13:11那你要求了吗
01:13:13对啊
01:13:15我觉得要求没有用
01:13:17他才没有用啊
01:13:19至少要先去说啊
01:13:21你不能因为没有用就不做有的事情
01:13:23因为我要求了他他们不可能有道歉的行为
01:13:26你不能因为你觉得没有用就不做
01:13:28我不是说
01:13:30他们最后有没有这个实际行为
01:13:32起码你要有一个
01:13:34你去要求你的一个态度
01:13:36我需要是你的态度
01:13:38我需要是一个三观其法
01:13:40不会说是一位朋友不会去道歉
01:13:42我就默认他的事情
01:13:44就没发生
01:13:46不是这样的
01:13:48对他在乎的是你的价值观
01:13:50我要的是他坚定地解决的态度
01:13:52但是没有想到今天
01:13:54他一直在嘴硬
01:13:56不行
01:13:58我就想要一句
01:14:00我觉得他们做的是错的
01:14:04是他发自内心说的
01:14:06对
01:14:08这个不是服软
01:14:10这个是一个原则的问题
01:14:12一个道德的问题
01:14:24我当时我就觉得那一天
01:14:26我顺利地把她娶了
01:14:28这件事是对我最重要的
01:14:30又开始了
01:14:32你刚才这句非常重要的话
01:14:34在你俩发生矛盾之后
01:14:36不是在这饭桌上
01:14:38你跟她单独说过吗
01:14:40说娶你是我那天最重要的事
01:14:42我说过
01:14:44我不相信
01:14:46这句话是什么意思
01:14:48我说过
01:14:50我说过
01:14:53我不相信
01:14:55这句话还可以
01:14:57但是这个事
01:14:59我觉得正常人都会觉得他做的是错的
01:15:01两件事
01:15:03我前面都没听明白
01:15:05是藏鞋子是吧
01:15:07因为前面风太大了
01:15:09我就说这风太大了
01:15:11你说好的刚才
01:15:13我觉得还是他俩的
01:15:15表达方式和
01:15:17想一件事情的
01:15:19角度不一样
01:15:21不是藏鞋子
01:15:23就是他们那两个人趁我
01:15:25趁赵热和跟我在这忙的时候
01:15:27然后
01:15:29骚扰我的伴侣了
01:15:31那不行吧
01:15:37月球炸了
01:15:39月球都气炸了
01:15:41他当时就是没有
01:15:43说那两个人是错的
01:15:45这种事情怎么能用这么软的方式
01:15:47给人家处理呢
01:15:50他还说你们不要这样到小姑娘
01:15:52怎么能这样呢
01:15:54怎么能这样呢
01:15:59骚扰很严重的
01:16:01非常严重
01:16:03我觉得这个行为
01:16:05就婚闹的这个行为
01:16:07我是不赞同的
01:16:09我也是不认可的
01:16:11我也很自责
01:16:13是因为那个人是通过我的关系
01:16:15来到我们的婚礼
01:16:17只能我来
01:16:20道这个歉
01:16:22你快停吧我不想听他说话
01:16:24我生气了
01:16:26该有的造成的后果
01:16:28或者责任我来去承担
01:16:30我没有办法
01:16:32去强行把那个人绑票过来
01:16:34去给他的伴娘道歉
01:16:36只能我不停地表示歉意
01:16:38什么呀
01:16:40对啊
01:16:42人家心寒的是你这样做
01:16:44那哪天事情发生在我身上
01:16:46你不会保护我对
01:16:48所以现在能理解我们愤怒吗
01:16:50我理解你愤怒
01:16:52涉及到这是一个大事了
01:16:54对
01:16:56所以我前面没听清楚
01:16:58我刚才发现你
01:17:00这是原则性的事了
01:17:02我以为开玩笑嘞
01:17:04那我理解了说
01:17:06我前面没听清楚
01:17:08我觉得他希望他的另一半有正义感
01:17:10要跟他一起做一件对的事
01:17:12对
01:17:14我那天当然觉得
01:17:17所以可能没有第一时间
01:17:19站出来处理这个事
01:17:21后面也没有找我
01:17:23你后面也觉得
01:17:25没有必要再
01:17:27当面说了
01:17:29那你说的那句话
01:17:31不是真正的原因
01:17:33就是什么婚礼那天肯定是
01:17:35你是最重要的
01:17:37你是哄他
01:17:39你看首尔很清楚
01:17:41没有这个事就是一个黑白分明的事
01:17:43是的
01:17:45就是应该承担
01:17:47然后应该去有这个正义感和责任感
01:17:49如果是这个事情
01:17:51那我充分
01:17:53站在女孩一边
01:17:55是的
01:17:57你应该承认你缺乏勇气
01:17:59我说实话
01:18:01我觉得这个是真正的原因
01:18:03你应该真实地去剖析他的原因
01:18:05然后找到这个原因
01:18:07才有助于你们把这件事过去
01:18:09所有的你拿出来搪塞的原因或者理由
01:18:11都不可能被他接受
01:18:14对 很懦弱
01:18:16我觉得首尔姐就直接点出了
01:18:18我不够勇敢的这件事情
01:18:20其实我挺诧异的
01:18:22但是我也挺认可的
01:18:24我觉得这个确实是我身上的一个问题
01:18:28我觉得我处理方式确实欠妥
01:18:30是的
01:18:32好可怜哦
01:18:34其实如果再给我一次机会
01:18:36我当即就把这个行为给制止
01:18:38这个对女孩子来说
01:18:40确实是非常大的心理上面的阴影
01:18:43我也有阴影
01:18:47更何况当事人
01:18:49当事人只要求一个道歉而已
01:18:51而且不是他当事人要求
01:18:53是我替他要求的
01:18:57这个要求确实也不过分
01:18:59这个是应该要给
01:19:01确实欠妥
01:19:03这个事情处理确实欠妥
01:19:05是欠妥
01:19:07在他婚礼上
01:19:09在婚礼就有污点了嘛
01:19:11是的
01:19:31而且这个在他心里面过不去啊
01:19:33过不去你有好日子过吗
01:19:35没有好日子过
01:19:37你做什么都是错的
01:19:40何不把它解决一下呢
01:19:42真过不去
01:19:44反正我都想到最好的解决办法就是
01:19:46我要补牢
01:19:48你去告诉那两个人你们错了
01:19:50哪怕那两个人不承认
01:19:52你也要表明你的态度
01:19:54对
01:19:58这件事情能做吗
01:20:00我觉得做一下吧
01:20:02这个事肯定能做
01:20:04我觉得能做
01:20:06你今儿就表个态
01:20:08但我也不太喜欢他这样说能
01:20:10就是这种感觉有点
01:20:12感觉是大家逼他的
01:20:14不行不行我跟你一起说去
01:20:16关你什么事
01:20:18我自己来
01:20:20好 可以
01:20:22没事啊
01:20:24是是是答应你了到时候我们监督他
01:20:26好
01:20:30那既然这样说了
01:20:32我就给他一次机会
01:20:34我相信他说的在当下
01:20:37就是不止我一双眼睛看到这件事情
01:20:39他起码要对大家有个交代
01:20:41所以
01:20:43我相信他赖不掉
01:20:45如果他没有做到的话
01:20:47那我可能他这辈子就得不到我的信任了
01:20:55这个太劲爆了这个
01:20:59真的很生气
01:21:01所以婚闹是一个
01:21:03就只是热闹而已
01:21:06就是没有些比较不好的动作
01:21:08可能就是大家一起来热闹热闹
01:21:10然后会稍微熟络一下
01:21:12对原本只是这样而已
01:21:14但是现在慢慢有的地方
01:21:16可能有的人他不会有那种分寸感
01:21:18变成了骚扰
01:21:20对
01:21:22他把他当成一个
01:21:24就是以喜庆为依托
01:21:26然后就对他上下其手
01:21:28然后就假借着玩游戏
01:21:30把他弄得非常的
01:21:32非常的没底线
01:21:34但是我觉得婚闹这件事情
01:21:36本质上
01:21:38他其实是身体边界的侵犯
01:21:40而一旦涉及到身体边界的时候
01:21:42他不应该是一个我们认知上说
01:21:44我支持不支持赞同不赞同
01:21:46他就是不应该
01:21:48因为做这种事情是要有付出代价的
01:21:50我刚才在听到那段的时候
01:21:52我在脑中过了一遍
01:21:54我这辈子所认识的所有朋友
01:21:56当然人不多
01:21:58任何一个人
01:22:00哪怕我最熟的脑中过的一个人
01:22:03如果是刚才他闹了半年
01:22:05我都会当下给他一巴掌
01:22:07是的
01:22:09因为我非常愤怒这种事情
01:22:11我很不能接受是那男生
01:22:13刚才有一段他在讲说
01:22:15因为那个朋友帮过忙
01:22:17我也听到这一句
01:22:19他解释
01:22:21他的立场真的
01:22:23那种懦弱所以那个帮了忙的朋友
01:22:25以后对你的亲人骚扰的时候
01:22:27你也OK吗
01:22:29那你OK呢
01:22:31这真的是一个底线
01:22:33三观的一个底线
01:22:35穗穗更在意的是张硕的价值观
01:22:37对
01:22:39所以她一直在强调说
01:22:41她的这个价值观她的态度相当的重要
01:22:43是的
01:22:45其实穗穗主要是我要我老公的一个态度
01:22:47老公的一个态度对
01:22:49我老公要站在正义的这一边
01:22:51但我也真的不知道
01:22:53这个事情怎么就能拖拖拖拖拖三年
01:22:55对
01:22:57不领证也不分手
01:23:00我早就
01:23:02还办婚礼
01:23:04如果跟他办婚礼到这一步
01:23:06我可能就带朋友走了
01:23:08有没有可能他还没有时间没有空间去
01:23:10发展他的正义感
01:23:12不
01:23:14他三年前他又不是三岁
01:23:16三年小孩都可以自己上厕所了
01:23:18是
01:23:20胡老师刚刚讲
01:23:22穗穗最在乎的是张硕的价值观
01:23:24我觉得张硕最在意的
01:23:26是这段关系的稳定
01:23:29我认为这三年之所以他可以一直拖到最后
01:23:31是因为张硕其实应该也是
01:23:33使尽了浑身解数
01:23:35包括各种敷衍 哄 逃避
01:23:37逃避这个问题
01:23:39可能我觉得在穗穗心里边
01:23:41一部分她其实能够感受到
01:23:43张硕这个人对于这段关系
01:23:45是在乎的
01:23:47但是她好像也没有真的去在乎说
01:23:49怎么去理解我
01:23:51可是另外一个角度呢
01:23:53我又觉得其实穗穗不停地去
01:23:55发脾气去讲这件事情
01:23:57张硕就会把接下来的所有问题
01:23:59全都变成我该怎么在今天
01:24:01别得罪她
01:24:03今天怎么把她的情绪暂时先敷衍过去
01:24:05就反过来我在想
01:24:07包括张硕对
01:24:09睡雪前面的这些话
01:24:11他说我就以前就是忽悠忽悠
01:24:13耍耍剑这样
01:24:15就证明可能张硕这个人
01:24:17他不具备直面问题的能力
01:24:19对
01:24:21对 没错
01:24:23当一个矛盾出现我能否有能力直面
01:24:25且去解决她
01:24:27我觉得这件事情是
01:24:29打一个问号的
01:24:31就是这件事情是可修补的
01:24:33对
01:24:37那我觉得今天
01:24:39他们在这个晚餐上面
01:24:41穗穗她很勇敢地把她的委屈说出来
01:24:43让大家来讨论是好的
01:24:45因为她说他们不领证没有人知道
01:24:47这表示说她可能憋在心里面
01:24:49她可能也觉得很羞愧
01:24:51难受
01:24:53因为其实就不是她
01:24:55要不要迫于压力去做一些
01:24:57新的应付的事情
01:24:59这件事
01:25:01而是他们有没有可能稍微有一个
01:25:03可以谈话的心理空间
01:25:05是真的能够让张硕去理解
01:25:07睡睡的感受和处境
01:25:09他不理解
01:25:11他理解他这三年
01:25:13三年他早理解了
01:25:15是很难
01:25:17可是现在的问题就是
01:25:19我觉得睡睡给了太多的情绪的时候
01:25:21张硕就在他的舒适区里
01:25:23他躲在他的情绪里面
01:25:25不去直视问题
01:25:27而且张硕他常常会说
01:25:29他就是有些情绪
01:25:31没有人家讲的是非常原则
01:25:33而且非常清晰的问题
01:25:35我们也很希望大家都要先去看那个仙岛篇
01:25:37仙岛篇里面张硕也是说
01:25:39他常常为了这种收东西的小事
01:25:41我们以为睡睡无理取闹
01:25:43我们现在知道他不是
01:25:45对不是完全不是
01:25:47目前为止睡睡的每一句话
01:25:49都非常在点上
01:25:51包括有句我忘了是谁说
01:25:53不是站在我这边
01:25:55是站在正义那一边
01:25:57那句话很漂亮
01:25:59所以我觉得睡睡现在一定要搞清楚张硕
01:26:01他到底是拥有正义感
01:26:03但是不够勇敢
01:26:05还是这件事情
01:26:07如果不够勇敢
01:26:09那还有机会
01:26:11对他来讲没什么
01:26:13根本就不觉得有事
01:26:15那就很可怕
01:26:17对张硕来讲他实在太善于
01:26:19去逃避这个问题了
01:26:21他只是想怎么逃避了这三年
01:26:23是
01:26:25我现在想回过来去理解这件事情
01:26:27我觉得现在这个事情的焦点有点偏了
01:26:29现在这个事情的焦点变成了
01:26:31你要不要去道歉
01:26:33我觉得这件事情是睡睡最绝望的地方
01:26:35没错
01:26:37我没法让他感同身受我的那个处境
01:26:39对
01:26:41整个这个东西我觉得它的核心是在于
01:26:43有的时候其实男生缺乏教育
01:26:45我们其实在我们成长的过程当中
01:26:47我们很少被带入到一个
01:26:49真的处在这样的一种
01:26:51被侵害
01:26:53有可能会受伤
01:26:55就那个立场当中
01:26:57其实很多时候男生是不知道的
01:26:59张硕他可能很委屈
01:27:01因为他觉得我在做事情
01:27:03只不过我做的没有达到你的标准而已
01:27:05但是可能
01:27:07在睡睡这里
01:27:09或者说其实在我们很多人看来
01:27:11这根本就是没做事
01:27:13你能理解人家到底在痛苦什么
01:27:15我有一种理解
01:27:17就是我认为张硕
01:27:19他当时是给人家递了一根烟
01:27:21说不要这样
01:27:23他觉得他已经对这个事情做到了
01:27:25他能做的很硬的
01:27:27很坚决的态度了
01:27:29他也觉得这个事情是不对的
01:27:31只不过是在睡睡看来
01:27:33这个是不够的
01:27:35我需要你去更强力的去跟人家说
01:27:37你这个事情是
01:27:39你这样做是不对的
01:27:41张硕的那个反应太像是
01:27:43我们是一帮人
01:27:45对
01:27:47我觉得其实睡睡心里面真实的感受是
01:27:49他完全没站在我这里
01:27:51但他表达出来可能是说不够
01:27:53然后就变成张硕说那我怎么才够
01:27:55他的反应他还一直就是为自己平反
01:27:57说我有跟人家道歉
01:27:59我没有办法去控制别人
01:28:01但是我有去跟人家道歉
01:28:03所以可能他觉得他已经
01:28:05尽他所能
01:28:07是的 我现在很诚实地讲
01:28:09有可能我在那个位置上边
01:28:11可能我也真的没有办法
01:28:13感同身受到另外一个性别
01:28:15另外一个人的处境里
01:28:17他更像是好像在一种
01:28:19自己本身认知也没有达到的
01:28:21一个情况下 我觉得他有一点在荒不择路
01:28:23他也在用他自己的
01:28:25一些很不成熟的方式
01:28:27在错误地解决
01:28:29这个问题
01:28:31我也很担心就是我们
01:28:33这段节目播出之后
01:28:35甚至会有人去在网络上
01:28:37攻击张硕
01:28:39如果我们这么做
01:28:41其实就是把张硕当成替罪羊
01:28:43这是不对的
01:28:45我只希望这一段的节目
01:28:47是让大家意识到
01:28:49我们有一些恶俗的行为
01:28:51是需要被改变的
01:28:53不应该被所谓的习俗所包裹了
01:28:55那我们从中得到的最大的收获应该是
01:28:57以后自己不做这件事
01:28:59以后自己去阻止别人去做这件事
01:29:01以后在这件事情上
01:29:03表达自己的态度
01:29:05我觉得这最棒
01:29:07我有一个那个
01:29:15我有一个那个卡
01:29:17剧透卡
01:29:19围绕一件本集你最关心的问题
01:29:21向导演组发起两分钟的提问
01:29:23大阶级环节不可使用
01:29:25这么早就用了
01:29:27现在可以用嘛
01:29:29因为这事情很大
01:29:31你们讨论一下问题
01:29:33开始我们就计时两分钟
01:29:35就是后续的这个结果
01:29:37解决方案是什么样的
01:29:39就是张碩本人对这件事情
01:29:41他的后续的看法和态度
01:29:43到底是怎么样的
01:29:45有没有什么行为动作去支撑
01:29:47这个观点的对吧
01:29:49应该是这样
01:29:51开始吧
01:29:53这一天过完之后
01:29:55他意识到自己的问题之后
01:29:57他有没有在后续做出一些什么
01:29:59具体的立场表态
01:30:01或者是弥补之类的
01:30:03有具体说说展开说说
01:30:05是瑞瑞想要的方式
01:30:07那还不错
01:30:09有做到
01:30:11张碩的朋友跟瑞瑞的朋友道歉
01:30:13他朋友道歉了
01:30:15他去跟男生讲了一些话
01:30:17是节目以后还是什么
01:30:19旅程当中
01:30:21发的微信吗还是打电话
01:30:23发的消息
01:30:25那个男生的态度是
01:30:27没有回复
01:30:29他是不是真的理解
01:30:31为什么这件事情对
01:30:33瑞瑞这么的严重
01:30:35这是一个主观判断
01:30:37我没有办法回答
01:30:39那瑞瑞的反应是什么
01:30:41生气
01:30:43当时瑞瑞正在生气
01:30:45是在生混闹的气吗
01:30:47生别的事情的气
01:30:49所以瑞瑞在生别的事情的气
01:30:51然后他又去解决问题
01:30:53又是来安抚他
01:30:55哦
01:30:57我们还有什么想问的吗
01:30:59我不在乎了
01:31:03好我们不想问了
01:31:05后面时间浪费
01:31:07没事
01:31:09之后还可以看到
01:31:11我们继续看影片
01:31:13你拥抱一下吧
01:31:19气哥你真的
01:31:21你就乱给我搞节奏
01:31:23哪有节奏
01:31:27老刘和姐
01:31:29我们有什么过不去的事
01:31:31哪有节奏
01:31:37我俩没有具体的事情
01:31:39没有具体的事情
01:31:41你们这么多年
01:31:43应该全是具体的事情
01:31:47你有啥事过不去
01:31:49我没啥事
01:31:51真的太冷了
01:31:55你可以把帽子戴上
01:32:05说事呢
01:32:07你别躲避
01:32:09你俩有什么具体问题
01:32:11有过不去的事吗
01:32:15我们俩的问题
01:32:17我想听他说
01:32:19听我说
01:32:21我说的没什么问题
01:32:23挺好
01:32:25你是来救我的是不是
01:32:27左问问右问问
01:32:29到你你就没问题了
01:32:31我的问题是基于她的问题之上
01:32:33她如果没问题
01:32:35我就没问题
01:32:37态度很明确
01:32:39所以你俩在不再见完全看她
01:32:41我觉得是
01:32:45我就是包容到
01:32:47包容不了了
01:32:49还说咱俩
01:32:51要去这个节目
01:32:53咱俩婚姻有啥问题
01:32:55有确实是有
01:32:57但这个问题不是我提出来的问题
01:32:59如果她觉得没有问题
01:33:01那么我就觉得好好生活
01:33:03你不沟通啊
01:33:05你沟通吗
01:33:09我觉得很大的一个问题是
01:33:11我们俩是可以一起吃苦
01:33:13但是不能一起享福
01:33:17就是
01:33:19生活
01:33:21每天都不开心
01:33:23啊
01:33:25每天都不开心
01:33:27然后她说好好沟通
01:33:29她也没有沟通
01:33:31我们经常是去一个城市
01:33:33吵架了
01:33:35她说走就走
01:33:37自己去机场
01:33:39自己坐飞机
01:33:41自己选座
01:33:43也不跟我坐在一起
01:33:45我很失望
01:33:47我觉得没什么可吵的了
01:33:49我也改变不了你
01:33:51我就是在这种
01:33:53慢慢失望里面
01:33:55但是我又觉得算了
01:34:01我也跟她明说过
01:34:03就是再也不会跟你一起出去
01:34:05别说旅行了
01:34:07一起出去吃饭
01:34:09跟朋友见朋友
01:34:11我都不想
01:34:13有她出现的场合
01:34:15说实话我都不想
01:34:27事不重要
01:34:29是这样的
01:34:31我来说吧
01:34:33就是因为来这个节目
01:34:35我有一个工作在澳门
01:34:37他想要我10号的档期
01:34:39其实10号本来就是我们转场的那天
01:34:41然后我就想让经纪人
01:34:43去协调一下
01:34:45看我能不能11号再来
01:34:47我10号去工作
01:34:49我觉得这个真的不重要
01:34:51她其实也是一个
01:34:53她对我没有什么尊重
01:34:55她不需要对我
01:34:57有这个尊重
01:34:59或者是说话的界限
01:35:01这也是我们两个
01:35:03一直很大的一个问题
01:35:05就是她会打断我的说话
01:35:07我会打断她的说话
01:35:09你问我是什么事
01:35:11那我想给大家讲一下是什么事
01:35:13你只有讲了大家才能够准确的去判断分析
01:35:15这个到底能值不值得吵架
01:35:17对不对
01:35:19我觉得你要从我这方面
01:35:21弟弟刚刚问我
01:35:23我如果可以告诉你就是
01:35:27我不认识她了
01:35:31他为什么不让她讲
01:35:33我想听啊
01:35:35经过了12年的
01:35:37感情
01:35:39我开始觉得我不认识她了
01:35:45这才是问题
01:35:47我觉得这是问题
01:35:49这不是出现了一个事
01:35:51咱们怎么去应对这件事
01:35:53他没有说完
01:35:55我觉得这是一个结果
01:35:57为什么会出现这样的情况
01:35:59才是问题
01:36:01他还去给人家分析去了
01:36:03虽然我今天白天就跟大家在一块
01:36:05挺喜欢二哥的
01:36:07但是呢我挺想听诗心姐姐讲
01:36:09为什么原因是这样
01:36:11就是他应该讲出来
01:36:13可以讲吗
01:36:17你肯定有你的立场
01:36:19不然你怎么会
01:36:21对啊那我可以讲吗
01:36:35那一会我们仨讲
01:36:37也许
01:36:41其实这是工作上的一个事情
01:36:43他觉得我不应该去争取
01:36:45你还在说这个事情
01:36:49这不是一个事情
01:36:51同志们
01:36:53知道知道
01:36:55这是人是思想
01:36:57你思想是这样
01:36:59你对待每一个事情都是这样的同志
01:37:01好老派啊他才40岁怎么这样
01:37:03他真不像40岁的
01:37:05他像60岁
01:37:07晚上大家聊起来的时候
01:37:09有几次问到我们的问题
01:37:11我一开始是去回避的
01:37:13我觉得我们俩的问题
01:37:15跟工作的背景是
01:37:17缠绕在一起的
01:37:19很多东西我需要从头
01:37:21跟大家说起
01:37:23我为什么要管他
01:37:25我为什么不管他不行吗
01:37:27这是很简单的事
01:37:29是有原因的嘛
01:37:31我说吧
01:37:33捅破这层窗户纸
01:37:37他以前是模特
01:37:39我以前也是模特
01:37:41我遇见她的时候她20岁我30岁
01:37:43她十几岁呢不到
01:37:4516 17岁就出国去
01:37:47你对我一无所知
01:37:49我19岁第一次出国
01:37:5116岁参加模特比赛
01:37:53我18岁参加模特比赛
01:37:55我18岁
01:37:58后来我发现这个女孩子
01:38:00是一个很朴实
01:38:02很真诚的一个女孩
01:38:04让我有种想要去
01:38:06照顾啊想要去
01:38:08这种感觉
01:38:12她是一个特别有责任感的人
01:38:14我被她打动的一个点是因为
01:38:16她结束一段感情
01:38:18然后她把房子和所有东西
01:38:20都留给前任了
01:38:23老姬是一个非常有责任心的人
01:38:26她会给到女生比如我
01:38:28足够的安全感
01:38:30这个安全感不是她真的
01:38:32给你多少物质
01:38:34而是她会给我一些
01:38:36如何去
01:38:38获得这些东西的能力
01:38:40她说我可以养你
01:38:42可是我不希望这样子
01:38:44我希望你可以自己在
01:38:46这个社会上面有自己的
01:38:48女生的价值
01:38:50这也是我对自己的诉求
01:38:52所以这是我们三观上面
01:38:54合适和一致的一个点
01:38:56她是模特圈的前辈嘛
01:38:58那个时候那我作为刚出道
01:39:00不久的新人
01:39:02在那个当下她可以给我
01:39:04很多很多的指导跟意见
01:39:06然后这些给了我很多的自信
01:39:08我觉得这个是我最需要的
01:39:10她会想拖住我
01:39:12然后让我或者踩在她的肩膀上面
01:39:14向上走
01:39:16她是一个奉献性人格
01:39:18她人很好啊
01:39:20我觉得
01:39:22有过这样一段
01:39:24非常
01:39:26辛苦
01:39:28以及有过这种苦日子吧
01:39:30一步步走过来的
01:39:32所以我们两个才有很坚实的感情基础
01:39:34就是我们俩一路是这么
01:39:36捆绑着互相搀扶着
01:39:38你护着我
01:39:40我护着你
01:39:42这么走过来的
01:39:46时间一下
01:39:48一下跳到了2020年
01:39:50我们搬到了上海
01:39:56然后转型的现在是
01:39:58做一个职业叫KOL
01:40:02尽管她是名模出身的
01:40:04名模转行过来的
01:40:06但说实话在我感觉
01:40:10这些专业的东西上
01:40:12就是
01:40:14还没有达到那么好
01:40:16没有达到那么高的一个专业
01:40:18你说话也挺客气啊
01:40:20她明明就觉得我毫无品味
01:40:22就是土
01:40:24她有个习惯啊
01:40:26就是自己日常出去吧
01:40:28抓起啥是穿啥
01:40:30抓起什么是什么
01:40:32你不会说是哪个配哪个好看啊
01:40:34什么镜子都不照
01:40:36就这样就出去了
01:40:38就走了
01:40:40你不是挺喜欢她朴实的吗
01:40:42这也喜欢了
01:40:44做相关的人嘛
01:40:46有时候让我这匪夷所思
01:40:48就是我有点不能接受
01:40:50所以呢我在很多时候
01:40:52会帮助她参与到她的这个工作里面
01:40:56她是真的是责任带到生活里
01:40:58我就是她的芭比娃娃
01:41:02因为她很喜欢打扮我
01:41:04就是她觉得我的穿衣服啊
01:41:06我的外貌啊都是应该她来负责的
01:41:08她的审美会更好
01:41:10所以我基本上是没有决定权的
01:41:12刚开始被打扮的时候还挺开心的
01:41:14对
01:41:16但到后面就会发现有很多问题
01:41:18就比如说
01:41:20她想让我穿的那个
01:41:22我也觉得也没有太好看
01:41:24我自己也有审美了
01:41:26我觉得这个也不是很适合
01:41:28或者是今天挺冷的
01:41:30你让我穿一个特别薄的衣服
01:41:32然后我就会提出要求
01:41:34我说这个衣服我不穿
01:41:36它太小了
01:41:38这个衣服太紧了
01:41:40但随着时间的推移
01:41:42我慢慢长大了
01:41:44我有我自己的理解
01:41:46我有我自己的思想
01:41:48我有我自己的判断
01:41:50我想做自己的主
01:41:52但是她就不能接受我
01:41:54慢慢的不想不听她的这个事情
01:41:56我已经三十多岁了
01:41:58我已经到了你认识我的时候
01:42:00你做主的那个年纪了
01:42:02为什么我还是不能有一点自己的主见
01:42:04你还是要控制我
01:42:06我每天穿什么衣服穿哪双鞋
01:42:08穿什么小红书
01:42:10我朋友圈的那个九宫格的顺序
01:42:12她都要管
01:42:14哇
01:42:16这个很常见
01:42:18就是从我们刚在一起的时候
01:42:20她就经常可能是POA我吧
01:42:22她希望改变我
01:42:24用她的想法
01:42:26她对工作的态度
01:42:28来影响我改变我控制我
01:42:32但她最开始是接受这些的
01:42:34对
01:42:36我们刚见面的时候
01:42:38我发现一个特别明显的细节
01:42:40就是二姐你特别渴望
01:42:42得到
01:42:44二哥的回应和认可
01:42:50我
01:42:52可以吗
01:42:56挺好
01:42:58可以啊
01:43:00怎么不可以啊
01:43:02不是
01:43:04挺好
01:43:08没有自信
01:43:12你其实特别希望在你往前走的时候
01:43:14她也能往前快走两步
01:43:16然后给你同样的回应
01:43:18对你希望一个平等的关系
01:43:24对
01:43:28其实她曾经对我
01:43:30那个管着我呀
01:43:32然后教育我呀
01:43:34然后保护我呀这些
01:43:36我以前都挺幸福的
01:43:38我小时候
01:43:40然后慢慢长大了
01:43:42我觉得这些东西对我来说
01:43:44慢慢变成了一种负担
01:43:46然后变成了我不想要的
01:43:48一部分
01:43:50我不想要的一部分
01:43:56我听到施琴说这句话的时候
01:43:58我很难受
01:44:00我很难受
01:44:02我在努力
01:44:04我在努力
01:44:06努力给予她更好的生活
01:44:08帮助我们共同经营的家庭
01:44:10事业
01:44:12但是我不知道她为什么会觉得
01:44:14这样
01:44:16会觉得
01:44:18那么大的压力
01:44:20会觉得
01:44:22好像那么想脱离我
01:44:26我觉得我不是在害她
01:44:30她会很伤心
01:44:32我觉得老季
01:44:34肯定
01:44:40就是施琴变了嘛
01:44:42就你俩以前既是伴侣又是合伙人
01:44:44现在她只想跟你做伴侣不想做合伙人
01:44:46对不对
01:44:48是我知道事实也是这样
01:44:50今年自己去了国外
01:44:52然后收拾东西
01:44:54一往都是我收拾东西我陪她去的
01:44:56这次自己去然后回来之后
01:44:58她说你知道我为什么
01:45:00没跟你一起出去
01:45:04我就是为了证明
01:45:06没有你我会更好
01:45:08没有我不是这么说的
01:45:10原话我记得清清楚楚
01:45:12你记得不清楚
01:45:14我的原话是
01:45:16我就是想看看没有你我到底行不行
01:45:20我所有的东西都一个人
01:45:22我就想看看我到底自己能把我的工作
01:45:24做成什么样事实证明
01:45:26我可以做好而且我做的很好
01:45:28她没有给我任何建议
01:45:30但是当我说出
01:45:32我说我就是想看看
01:45:34没有你我到底行不行这句话的时候
01:45:36她爆发了
01:45:38她一整个情绪崩溃
01:45:40她说所以你就是
01:45:42现在觉得我没有用了就要一脚把我踢开
01:45:44是吗
01:45:46而且她是怒吼的
01:45:48因为一句话大家的听到的东西不一样
01:45:50对
01:45:52以前每次出国
01:45:54每次工作
01:45:56所有的箱子所有的衣服
01:45:58所有的东西都是我给她整理
01:46:00我给她装在里面
01:46:02但现在呢
01:46:04回来箱子一打一看
01:46:06这不是我装的那些衣服呀
01:46:08这些
01:46:10我装的什么什么在家呢拿出来了都
01:46:16感觉
01:46:18不认识她了
01:46:20就是跟以往的生活不一样了
01:46:22她信任
01:46:24你们两个在一起
01:46:26会有更好的生活
01:46:28但现在她说了这句话
01:46:30没有你我会更好
01:46:32她没有这样子讲
01:46:34而且她是故意这样子的
01:46:36记错了
01:46:42她觉得自己被抛弃了
01:46:44哇她好难过啊
01:46:48不信任
01:46:50被盗了
01:47:02我
01:47:04想要证明
01:47:06她在某些东西上某些方面不是对的
01:47:08是错的
01:47:20对我们的感情
01:47:22婚姻来说是好的是吧
01:47:24但是你知道
01:47:26对我这个情况是好的
01:47:28只是一个自己要往什么方向发展
01:47:30我不能一辈子
01:47:32一辈子都信任
01:47:34我说这个话
01:47:36可能有点没脸
01:47:38因为以前确实是依赖
01:47:40帮了我很多
01:47:42但是我还是要买几件衣服
01:47:44因为日子还早
01:47:46我现在不卖以后也会有机会
01:47:48对
01:47:50这有点难受
01:47:52这个是真没办法
01:47:54对这没有对错
01:47:56都是一道道病难解的词
01:47:58这个其实
01:48:00跟我们有一些类似的地方
01:48:02就是
01:48:04我们作为
01:48:06老公或者是男朋友
01:48:08就是被需要的那种感觉
01:48:10被减弱了
01:48:12其实倒并不是出于什么控制于
01:48:14不是
01:48:16我控制他干啥
01:48:18你们也看到了他的性格
01:48:20比较外向开朗
01:48:22他在上海现在的我们生活的环境里
01:48:24工作环境里是挺能
01:48:26挺融洽的去这样的
01:48:28但反而我呢
01:48:30到上海之后
01:48:32我没有那么
01:48:34融洽
01:48:36我没有融入的很好
01:48:38那你其实跟我也一样
01:48:40我到上海之后
01:48:42确实也变得越来越封闭
01:48:44他们俩
01:48:46我也没有朋友
01:48:56你们也是刚搬到上海不久
01:48:58搬了四年了
01:49:00差不多
01:49:02我们的矛盾也是
01:49:04搬了城市从北京搬到上海
01:49:06开始比较愈演愈烈
01:49:08就是矛盾更大了
01:49:10问题出在上海
01:49:12因为我俩的性格显然就是属于
01:49:14更加外向一点
01:49:16就是比较容易跟
01:49:18个人交朋友
01:49:20也容易谈得来
01:49:22他们俩比较内向一点
01:49:24我是认为
01:49:26我这么一说我觉得咱俩真是很像
01:49:28找到知音了
01:49:30我知道我们两队的区别了
01:49:32我觉得我们是两个极端
01:49:34你像我
01:49:36我现在很少不开心
01:49:38其实我还蛮快乐的我觉得
01:49:40他其实本身就是一个
01:49:42比较容易快乐的人
01:49:44因为他比较简单他很乐观
01:49:46他的性格特别好他积极向上
01:49:48我俩的问题是在于
01:49:50我俩都各自有自己很快乐
01:49:52很阳光的一面
01:49:54但是越来越少跟对方有关系
01:49:56你明白吗
01:50:00但是我觉得这是你们两个人
01:50:02两种处理方式造成的
01:50:04我觉得季哥呢
01:50:06他还是很想像以前一样
01:50:08比如说能给你提供建议
01:50:10但是老刘呢是彻底放弃了
01:50:12参与我的生活
01:50:14他完全不干涉我
01:50:16因为一个是
01:50:18他自己也觉得我
01:50:20他很相信我的能力吧
01:50:22这个是我正面的去看待
01:50:24他经常跟我说他说如果我
01:50:26什么都给不了你我起码给你独立的空间
01:50:28让你快乐
01:50:30让你不要因为我束手束脚
01:50:32但其实呢
01:50:34这样时间长了以后呢
01:50:36我觉得也不好
01:50:38就是我们走到今天
01:50:40季哥刚才问我有没有具体的矛盾
01:50:42我诚实地跟大家讲
01:50:44没有
01:50:48但这种没有
01:50:50是一件好事吗
01:50:52如果是一件好事我觉得我
01:50:54作为知名情感博主
01:50:56我对我自己的问题啊
01:50:58我非常清楚
01:51:00但是我解决不了
01:51:02我不知道怎么解决
01:51:04因为那不是他能够控制的
01:51:06我也知道他
01:51:08不参与我的生活
01:51:10不是因为他对我没感情
01:51:12或者是他不想
01:51:14就是因为他的理念
01:51:16和季哥是不一样的
01:51:18他每次聊到一些有张力的话题
01:51:20老刘就会逃避
01:51:26当时那团火
01:51:28就是我
01:51:30即时从当下抽离的一个
01:51:32救命药吧
01:52:02理解季哥的心情
01:52:04他不是想要控制你
01:52:06我觉得他害怕
01:52:08说到他心里去了
01:52:10我觉得他担心
01:52:12他当然一开始还不知道我和老刘的状况
01:52:14今天他知道我和老刘的状况
01:52:16他更担心
01:52:20我没想到他们两个是
01:52:22跟我们完全反方向的一种关系
01:52:24我听完之后我觉得
01:52:26天哪这可怎么办
01:52:28我慢慢长大了
01:52:30我觉得这些东西对我来说
01:52:32慢慢变成了一种负担
01:52:34然后变成了
01:52:36我不想要的一部分
01:52:38我俩的问题是在于
01:52:40我俩都各自有
01:52:42自己很快乐
01:52:44很阳光的一面
01:52:46但是越来越少跟对方有关系
01:52:48你明白吗
01:52:52我不想跟他
01:52:54变成完全没有交集
01:52:56他们的状态让我
01:52:58看到了我们
01:53:00反方向的一种
01:53:02我觉得也挺吓人的
01:53:26这个字
01:53:28配的太有灵性了
01:53:56我今天来我不是一个观察室嘉宾了
01:53:58我自己都一肚子问号
01:54:00但是带着困惑和寻找答案的心来的
01:54:02但是其实在听你们讲的时候
01:54:04确实带入感很强
01:54:06有时候不知不觉我就
01:54:08投入了
01:54:10他太可爱了
01:54:12真没想到我们第一天就把彼此的问题
01:54:14聊这么透
01:54:16我想坦诚地
01:54:18让对方两队都知道了自己的问题
01:54:22而且在这么大冷的天
01:54:24确实顶着寒风
01:54:28行让我们一起期待明天
01:54:30对我们的第一顿饭
01:54:34我们第一顿饭非常美好
01:54:36对
01:54:38泪点满满收获多多
01:54:40来干个杯吧
01:54:42明天开心
01:54:44很高兴认识你们
01:54:46是我们认识的第一天
01:54:48真的
01:54:54我们以后再就是
01:54:56我们的赛朝
01:54:58有好队友
01:55:02我们会很想
01:55:04来这里
01:55:08是我们亲口并肩
01:55:10同学们
01:55:12你们一起有可能
01:55:14遇到正 rethink
01:55:16好
01:55:18我也是对老友比较
01:55:20就是内心比较好奇
01:55:22I'm looking forward to it.
01:55:24Pangpang is here.
01:55:30Then I'll go back to my car.
01:55:32I'll wait for you there.
01:55:44I'm looking for Pangpang.
01:55:52I'm going to pick up Pangpang.
01:56:00I'm happy to see you there.
01:56:02Where are you going?
01:56:06Oh, I'm going to pick up Pangpang.
01:56:08I miss you.
01:56:10I missed you.
01:56:12I missed you.
01:56:14I walked 20km with you.
01:56:16I missed you.
01:56:18I miss you.
01:56:20I can't stay here, if I were you, I'd walk fast
01:56:26Down the path of a thousand stars
01:56:31One day we'll meet, one day we'll part
01:56:35We'll walk the path of a thousand stars
01:56:38We'll walk the path of a thousand stars
01:56:41We'll walk the path of a thousand stars
01:56:47We'll walk the path of a thousand stars
01:56:50We'll walk the path of a thousand stars
01:57:24It's so cute.
01:57:27He doesn't care about the soul.
01:57:28No.
01:57:29He doesn't care about anything.
01:57:34Old Liu.
01:57:38They look like the calmest people.
01:57:39Look.
01:57:41It's really amazing.
01:57:47I thought this part was okay.
01:57:48But I got angry at the end.
01:57:51Why did they do that?
01:57:52I don't understand.
01:57:54At the end, this part was stuck.
01:57:56I couldn't get rid of my anger.
01:57:57I wanted to get rid of my anger.
01:58:02Wang Siqin was really wronged.
01:58:05But I also sympathized with
01:58:07Teacher Ji.
01:58:07I think both of them
01:58:09did nothing wrong.
01:58:10Yes.
01:58:11I'm curious.
01:58:11I have a question.
01:58:12I don't know if it's because
01:58:14Teacher Ji doesn't feel safe.
01:58:17He's afraid that he'll slowly fall into the abyss.
01:58:19Then his wife will get better and better.
01:58:21One day, he'll leave him.
01:58:22Yes.
01:58:23Actually, Wang Siqin didn't say that he doesn't love you.
01:58:26He just said that he doesn't need you.
01:58:27He doesn't need you to pack his luggage.
01:58:29Actually, for him,
01:58:32some people are finally free.
01:58:33Yes.
01:58:33But his sadness is that
01:58:34as long as you don't need me,
01:58:36it means that you don't love me.
01:58:38Old Ji should build a relationship with others.
01:58:41He's the kind of person who says that he can do more.
01:58:43I think I'm valuable.
01:58:45I guess this is probably his experience
01:58:46of intimacy or all relationships.
01:58:50I think this is probably similar to the mentality of parents.
01:58:53When parents see their children
01:58:54don't need me anymore,
01:58:56they will feel sad.
01:58:57Yes.
01:58:57But it's not because their children surpassed them.
01:59:00They just feel that they can still give you money.
01:59:02When they realize that they don't need me anymore,
01:59:04they will feel that they are not needed.
01:59:08But I think how to solve this problem?
01:59:12Admit that your parents still need you.
01:59:16But I think that Old Ji's control
01:59:20is all about his career.
01:59:21Because he's KOL.
01:59:22Yes.
01:59:23When you post something on social media,
01:59:25it's all about your career.
01:59:27Yes.
01:59:28So he may have a strong desire to control
01:59:29in some aspects.
01:59:32And Sijin said that he thinks he's KOL.
01:59:35I'm also curious.
01:59:36I want to ask the teacher
01:59:38what is the definition of KOL?
01:59:40Because we often hear KOL now.
01:59:42I will summarize it into one sentence.
01:59:45In a relationship that is KOL,
01:59:48you will no longer believe in your own feelings.
01:59:53Old Ji just said that you are KOL.
01:59:55Your aesthetic is not good.
01:59:57After all, they have a professional need
01:59:58in terms of aesthetics.
02:00:00So I can't judge.
02:00:02For example, Old Ji's professional ability.
02:00:04What kind of relationship does he have with Wang Sijin?
02:00:06Another way to judge is
02:00:08that no matter how Wang Sijin dresses,
02:00:11he is KOL.
02:00:12Only the one I match with is good.
02:00:13This may be called KOL.
02:00:15Yes.
02:00:16Deny all your judgments.
02:00:17One is that you dress very KOL.
02:00:19You can dress like this today.
02:00:21You just haven't learned how to dress more professionally.
02:00:24Then you can accept it.
02:00:27Obviously, Old Ji's KOL is not successful.
02:00:30Not successful.
02:00:31If he succeeds, he won't have this problem.
02:00:33It proves that Old Ji doesn't have KOL.
02:00:35But Wang Sijin may feel
02:00:36the discomfort of being manipulated.
02:00:39He said that Old Ji likes to control me.
02:00:41There are two meanings of the word control.
02:00:43One is control.
02:00:44He is controlling me.
02:00:45But sometimes we often say
02:00:47another sentence called
02:00:48why don't you care about me anymore?
02:00:49Care.
02:00:50Yes.
02:00:50At that time, the control is
02:00:51you are responsible for me.
02:00:52You care about me.
02:00:53You care about me.
02:00:55Yes.
02:00:56But the two of them
02:00:57really mix work and love together.
02:01:00I don't think a couple should work together.
02:01:03Because there are a lot of bindings.
02:01:05In the end, you can't tell
02:01:07what to do.
02:01:08Then it's one plus one is greater than two.
02:01:11And these questions will be reflected in your
02:01:13feelings at the end.
02:01:14You will feel very uncomfortable.
02:01:16Yes.
02:01:16So it's good to be clean.
02:01:19In my life experience,
02:01:21I feel that he is good.
02:01:23Being able to work with the person you love,
02:01:25I think it's quite lucky.
02:01:26Because we have the same interests.
02:01:28It makes me feel that
02:01:29we are standing together.
02:01:31I don't think so.
02:01:34I really don't think so.
02:01:35Especially the same professional.
02:01:37For example, the couple is on the same project.
02:01:39These two people have to talk about
02:01:41how the project is going after work.
02:01:42Have you told the client?
02:01:43Work and life can't be separated.
02:01:46I have two friends.
02:01:47Two people write things at home every day.
02:01:49Two people write a piece of work.
02:01:51Two people are quarreling at home.
02:01:53Do you know how to write?
02:01:55Do you understand?
02:01:56They are quarreling.
02:01:59I don't think
02:02:00they can work together.
02:02:01Yes.
02:02:03In the example that Poppy gave,
02:02:04her professional role
02:02:06and the role of the couple
02:02:08are mixed.
02:02:13For example, when I am very professional
02:02:15and say that I don't agree with your writing method,
02:02:17when I have my opinion,
02:02:18maybe in the feelings of the other party,
02:02:20they don't think it's just
02:02:21you are discussing professional with me.
02:02:22Yes.
02:02:23Actually, I think Ji Huanbo and Wang Shijin
02:02:25are like this.
02:02:26Maybe Ji Huanbo is just
02:02:29saying that I am professional.
02:02:30I think how to do it at this time.
02:02:32But Wang Shijin will feel
02:02:33that you are still controlling me.
02:02:34You are still controlling me.
02:02:35This is not a partner
02:02:36for a career.
02:02:38Why do you talk to me like this?
02:02:40There is no boundary.
02:02:42Emotions and work.
02:02:43I don't agree with the relationship.
02:02:45Love is love.
02:02:46Work is work.
02:02:47But if two people work together
02:02:50and unfortunately fall in love,
02:02:52we still wish them
02:02:54to deal with it well.
02:03:00Yes.
02:03:01There is no way.
02:03:02Like Soer and Liu,
02:03:04I feel like there is no problem.
02:03:06It's peaceful.
02:03:08But in the end, both of them wrote
02:03:10divorce.
02:03:11Yes.
02:03:13I think Soer's real trouble
02:03:15is not having something,
02:03:17but having nothing.
02:03:18For example, passion.
02:03:20And passion brings
02:03:21a very unique thing called uncertainty.
02:03:24People are like this.
02:03:24If you are sure,
02:03:25you have to pursue a little uncertainty.
02:03:26But Liu's reaction
02:03:28and Soer's control of life
02:03:31are too certain.
02:03:32But the trouble is
02:03:34Liu is not able to
02:03:35create a little uncertainty
02:03:37for this relationship alone.
02:03:39But in the past ten or twenty years,
02:03:42how to maintain
02:03:44his passion?
02:03:47Yes.
02:03:47Liu is such a person.
02:03:50One thing I'm sure of is
02:03:51Soer knew it from the beginning.
02:03:53And Soer knew
02:03:54he was such a person.
02:03:55That's why he chose to be with this person.
02:03:57Because it's stable.
02:03:58Yes, Soer said before
02:03:59that he decided to get married
02:04:00at the earliest time.
02:04:02It's very clear.
02:04:02His standard is
02:04:03that this person must be reliable enough,
02:04:05reliable enough.
02:04:06I just want a stable,
02:04:07safe marriage.
02:04:09He actually got it.
02:04:10Yes.
02:04:10But I think maybe Soer
02:04:11at this time,
02:04:12he will find that
02:04:13this is not all he wants.
02:04:14Yes.
02:04:15I think the 90s and the model couple,
02:04:19both of them,
02:04:20they are thinking about a problem.
02:04:22In my life,
02:04:23is love always two people?
02:04:25Yes.
02:04:25But I have a feeling
02:04:27like Soer and Liu,
02:04:30they wrote the word divorce at the end.
02:04:32So there is a third way
02:04:33in this world now.
02:04:34It's good for me to be alone.
02:04:36The state of marriage
02:04:37or the state of two people,
02:04:38I don't need it at this moment.
02:04:40At this moment, I just want to live alone
02:04:42to explore myself.
02:04:43Yes.
02:04:45If two people are in a relationship,
02:04:47if you find that the distance is getting farther and farther,
02:04:49if one party can't keep up,
02:04:50or doesn't want to keep up,
02:04:52how to make the distance closer?
02:04:54Yes, for example, the relationship between a strong woman and a weak man.
02:04:56Yes.
02:04:56Puppy.
02:04:57Because you have known each other since you were students.
02:04:59Yes, we also suffered together.
02:05:01When I just graduated from college,
02:05:02my husband raised me for four years.
02:05:04Then I was lucky.
02:05:06Then we started dating.
02:05:08But I never
02:05:09regarded our relationship
02:05:10as a strong woman and a weak man.
02:05:12I think all the strong women and weak men
02:05:15or strong men and weak women
02:05:15are all about who makes more money.
02:05:18Yes.
02:05:18Right?
02:05:19It doesn't matter who is strong.
02:05:20But in the relationship between me and Hu,
02:05:23we don't use who makes more money
02:05:25to decide who is strong and who is weak.
02:05:27We are just
02:05:28I am strong in the relationship.
02:05:30I am strong.
02:05:33Even if at that time
02:05:34every penny I used
02:05:35was earned by Hu.
02:05:36You are strong, too.
02:05:36I am strong, too.
02:05:38But your husband is stronger than me.
02:05:40Yes.
02:05:42Hu is a good man.
02:05:45But I think
02:05:47Hu has a good mentality.
02:05:49He is very generous.
02:05:51He thinks his wife is better than him.
02:05:53He feels very happy.
02:05:55Whether I am popular or make more money,
02:05:58there will be people around him from time to time.
02:06:01At first, I will ask him
02:06:02how he is doing.
02:06:04When did you make so much money?
02:06:07I don't know.
02:06:08Yes.
02:06:08You know?
02:06:09I know.
02:06:11Hu thinks it doesn't matter.
02:06:13Who decides that men should make more money than women?
02:06:15Happy just said
02:06:17men have a good mentality.
02:06:19Sometimes,
02:06:20in the relationship between strong women and weak men,
02:06:22I can see that
02:06:22women don't accept it, either.
02:06:24Yes.
02:06:25They don't accept it
02:06:26not because they don't accept it,
02:06:28but because they live in
02:06:30such a big environment.
02:06:31The environment doesn't accept it.
02:06:32Yes.
02:06:33They feel stressed.
02:06:33They think they are too strong.
02:06:35I don't think it's a good marriage
02:06:37in the traditional sense.
02:06:39Yes.
02:06:40But I think in the end,
02:06:42in a marriage,
02:06:42it will still be quantified
02:06:45as a certain standard.
02:06:46For example,
02:06:47you think she is taking care of the child,
02:06:49and she gives me support in life.
02:06:51Whether I accept it or not,
02:06:53it's a huge support for me.
02:06:57I think this is also very important.
02:07:00Yes.
02:07:00If mutual recognition is in line with consensus,
02:07:02I think it will be very good.
02:07:04Yes.
02:07:04Yes.
02:07:05One of the strong and weak standards
02:07:08is who has what I want.
02:07:10Yes.
02:07:10For example, look at Shouer.
02:07:12She said,
02:07:12I need emotional feedback.
02:07:15I need emotional needs.
02:07:17At this point,
02:07:18who can give this to me?
02:07:19Liu can give it to me.
02:07:20So at this time,
02:07:21Liu is strong,
02:07:22Shouer is weak.
02:07:23Because Liu doesn't have such strong emotional needs.
02:07:26She can be very happy if she sets fire.
02:07:28But Shouer will hope,
02:07:29can you give me more like this?
02:07:32Yes.
02:07:33Yes.
02:07:35Liu is also very interesting.
02:07:37Yes, I think he is very stable.
02:07:39But when I observed the two of them,
02:07:40I always feel like Liu
02:07:42doesn't have nothing to say.
02:07:44He just said,
02:07:44you are so good at talking.
02:07:46Just say it.
02:07:47Anyway, I gave him all my sayings.
02:07:50The only time Liu spoke
02:07:51was when he had a resonance with Ji.
02:07:55He said we are the same.
02:07:56One is that he doesn't care about her at all.
02:07:58One is that you want to control her more.
02:08:01They can just persuade each other.
02:08:05I think it's okay.
02:08:08Liu and Ji,
02:08:11in the marriage,
02:08:12they have two completely extreme views.
02:08:16Liu said,
02:08:17I wish you a successful marriage.
02:08:19I don't care about anything else.
02:08:20Ji said,
02:08:21I have to control her.
02:08:23You have to listen to me.
02:08:24Because these two ways are extreme.
02:08:26Yes.
02:08:27Obviously, they didn't get the best result.
02:08:29Yes, but this kind of extreme approach
02:08:31should be like this.
02:08:33In my opinion,
02:08:34extreme approach is not a solution.
02:08:36It's a way to escape.
02:08:38A mature person's focus is not right or wrong.
02:08:39His focus is flexibility.
02:08:41It's not doing this or that.
02:08:42It's keeping it at any time.
02:08:44Sometimes I do this, sometimes I do that.
02:08:45Flexibility is very difficult.
02:08:48It needs to be learned.
02:08:49Extreme.
02:08:50Always do this direction.
02:08:51Keep going this way.
02:08:52It's simple.
02:08:55In fact, Ji and Liu
02:08:57are facing the same problem now.
02:08:59It's like I can't participate in
02:09:00the other person's body.
02:09:01That feeling of disappointment.
02:09:02Then the two of them
02:09:03deal with it in their most familiar way.
02:09:05Liu's way is called suppression.
02:09:07I don't express it.
02:09:08I'll digest it by myself.
02:09:10Then Ji's way is that
02:09:11I repeatedly express it.
02:09:12Then I express it invalidly.
02:09:14It may even cause trouble to the other party.
02:09:17So many times,
02:09:18when some of us
02:09:19can't find the right way,
02:09:21I don't know what's right.
02:09:22But I keep going this way.
02:09:25This is actually to some extent,
02:09:27I think it's self-abandonment.
02:09:29I don't intend to really solve the problem.
02:09:31I just want to give myself an explanation.
02:09:34After recording this first episode today,
02:09:35it's also the first time for me to participate in the show.
02:09:37As an observer,
02:09:39I really think it's more exciting than I imagined.
02:09:42I didn't expect so many things to happen in the first episode.
02:09:45Then all these contradictions in each team
02:09:46are very clear.
02:09:48It makes me look forward to
02:09:49what will happen in the next episode.
02:09:51So thank you all for inviting me here.
02:09:54I really think I'm so lucky.
02:09:55So happy.
02:09:56Welcome Poppy.
02:09:58Welcome Mr. Li.
02:09:59Thank you all.
02:10:00Let's say this together.
02:10:02Goodbye.
02:10:03It's easy to say goodbye, but it's hard to say goodbye.
02:10:06See you next time.
02:10:31There was a little conflict just now.
02:10:33Why are you angry again?
02:10:35You really know how to talk.
02:10:35Don't say it.
02:10:36I like every word you say.
02:10:38See?
02:10:39I'm going to be angry with you now.
02:10:42It's not more than three, OK?
02:10:44Count it when it's three.
02:10:45How many times is it?
02:10:47I'm so embarrassed.
02:10:49I trust you every time.
02:10:50You once again trampled my trust in you.
02:10:52Trample your trust?
02:10:53That's too much.
02:10:54Solve the problem, bro.
02:10:56I did it, and you're talking about these things again.
02:10:58What is that?
02:10:59I'm going to break down.
02:11:01I can do what I want now.
02:11:02No, you do what I want, OK?
02:11:03I don't want to record it.
02:11:04You can record it if you want.
02:11:05I don't want to record it, either.
02:11:08The reason for not wearing it.
02:11:09She thinks that face is gone.
02:11:14Why did you cover your eyes before?
02:11:16I can't see the clear future.
02:11:19I've been like this for a long time.
02:11:20We've already thought about the north and south.
02:11:25Life is a mess.
02:11:26I want to wear sports shoes.
02:11:27She said no.
02:11:28I have to wear leather shoes today.
02:11:29Are you a god?
02:11:30I'm not a god.
02:11:31I'm a subordinate.
02:11:32She's a subordinate, too.
02:11:35She's a little bit
02:11:36different from me.
02:11:37I want to get closer to her.
02:11:39It's a little tiring to pull you.
02:11:42She has a bias against her own cognition.
02:11:44It's hard for me to wake up from this journey.
02:11:47Oh my god.
02:11:48I broke my teeth and my stomach.
02:11:51Maybe I just enjoy loneliness.
02:11:53When I was young, I still liked beautiful women.
02:11:56Now, I don't think I have such a need.
02:12:01Maybe I'm more suitable for living alone.
02:12:03More suitable for living alone.
02:12:05Are you really sure that you're suitable for living alone?
02:12:07If she's wrong,
02:12:09I think she needs to live alone.
02:12:10Why can't you adjust and change
02:12:13what you want to do in the marriage?
02:12:16You've been married to me for so many years.
02:12:19Do you regret it?
02:12:20You're so foolish to love me.
02:12:25Maybe if I still exist in her life now,
02:12:30it may not be a good thing for her.
02:12:34I can answer you now.
02:12:35You're so foolish to love me.
02:12:38Oh my god.
02:12:39You're so foolish to love me.
02:12:42You're so foolish to love me.
02:12:49You're so foolish to love me.
02:12:53You're so foolish to love me.
02:12:56You're so foolish to love me.
02:12:59You're so foolish to love me.
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