What are the difficulties of being single parent celebrities? | SiS (Stream Together)
From the struggles of moving on from their partner to raising a kid alone, Jinky Oda, Lovely Rivero, Jeffrey Santos, alongside other artists share their thoughts on being single parents!
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00:00We walk hand-in-hand, we dream together We giggle and laugh like kids forever
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00:47Through good times and bad, I'm here for you sis
00:50Right by your side, hit or miss
00:53We are sisters, we are friends
00:57We've got magic that never ends
01:01I got you sis, you got me
01:05The best of friends, the best of friends
01:09The best of friends we'll always, always be
01:14We are sisters, we are sisters
01:21Good morning mga sis, good morning Jen
01:24Good morning, it's not just a good morning that we're bringing to you
01:27But it's a good and interesting topic that we're going to talk about
01:30Our subject is very close to home
01:33It's not just in our knowledge that there are a lot of single parents now
01:38That's right
01:39Those who are close to you, sometimes your friends, your relatives
01:42Just friends, acquaintances
01:45You're telling stories, you're sharing your experiences
01:48About how hard it is, how hard it is to be a single parent
01:52Single parent?
01:53Yes
01:54It's hard because in a situation like this, you have nothing to do
01:56But you just have to face your responsibilities
01:58And face being a single parent
02:01That's why this morning, we invited personalities
02:03That will tell us about their true to life experiences as single parents
02:10Correct
02:11And of course, their jobs, their time with the kids
02:16And what stories they should tell
02:20What are their priorities
02:22I don't think I can think of how they can be a single parent
02:27Everything is a decision, they still have to work
02:30They still have to take care of their family
02:32How do you say yes?
02:34Yes
02:36That's the melancholy effect
02:38That's it, and we have a lot more to talk about
02:41Coming up next, SIS!
02:44The advantage? There's no advantage
02:46For me, there's none
02:48Of course, being a single parent, you have to face all the responsibilities
02:52As father and mother, right? That's it
02:54Of course, it's hard
02:56You know, in today's life
03:01You're the only one living with your child
03:03Of course, it's like we can't do anything
03:06You have to work hard, that's it
03:08For me, the advantage of being a single parent
03:12Maybe, it's sadder than having a family
03:18How can you sleep?
03:22Especially now that life is hard
03:25Money is hard now
03:27Right?
03:29That's why we're looking for a job
03:32So that our children can live
03:35The disadvantage is that he's alone
03:37It's hard for him
03:39Let's say, if he has two children
03:41It's hard
03:45Then, the advantage is that he doesn't need a better half
03:49He's single, that's the problem
03:51You know, he can't take care of himself
03:54Any advice that I can give?
03:56Okay, we're now with our guest, SIS
03:59Our single parents
04:01Let's start with Jeff, who's been a single dad for 5 years
04:05Edgar, 14 years
04:09Wow, 14 years
04:11Lovely, 8 years
04:13Jinky, 7 years
04:16Bianca, 2 years
04:19Janice
04:20Jinky's smiling face
04:22I'm with her
04:25Like that
04:27Okay, I'll start with when and the instance or situation
04:31That he told himself
04:33I have to move on
04:35And fulfill my obligations
04:37As a mom and a dad
04:39To my children
04:41When was that?
04:43Let's start with the girls
04:44Are the kids with you?
04:46Yeah
04:48So all of you, all the kids are with you?
04:50Okay, fine
04:53Jeff, when did you realize that
04:55Hey, I have to move on
04:57This is it, I need to be a mom and a dad
05:00The first time was
05:02The birth of the kids
05:05And we had our differences
05:09That was the time that I decided to cut it off
05:12That if he can go, the support will be there
05:16If I can go, the same
05:18But you went to Bali
05:20I'm still in Balihati
05:22I'm the one who's teaching
05:24So when it's school days for me
05:26When it's weekends for him
05:28When it's weekends for mommy
05:30Okay, for Edward
05:32For me, when I was a kid
05:34Huh?
05:35For me
05:37When did you realize that
05:39This is it, I need to face this
05:41No, he told me to fight first
05:44Fight a lot, break up
05:46Break up, come back
05:48What was the final point
05:52When we got married
05:54That's when we broke up
05:58When we got married
06:00We had a baby
06:02And when we got married
06:04It's been 3 years
06:07That's when we broke up
06:09After we got married
06:11After 2 months, we broke up
06:13Totally
06:15After 2 months
06:18You have a beautiful voice
06:20I'm confused
06:22I'm confused
06:26I realized that I need to move on
06:29When we moved house
06:32And we were supposed to move in together
06:35But I couldn't get permission to move in together
06:38So I got my own place
06:40And I didn't have the energy to try and work it out with him
06:44I felt that I didn't want to exert effort
06:48So without the effort
06:50You don't have anyone to rely on
06:52So I said, it's fine
06:54Why would it take so long
06:56If I'm not giving 100% effort
06:58So I left
07:02It's funny, I was pregnant
07:05They got married
07:07I was pregnant
07:09This is it
07:11You were pregnant?
07:12Correct
07:13I was pregnant
07:15I didn't have a relationship with FADIRET
07:18So 3 months pregnant
07:21This is it
07:22For life
07:23That's when I realized, this is it
07:25This is it
07:26I can do this
07:28Bianca
07:29It's been 1 year
07:31Because we were together for 3 years
07:33The last year
07:35We don't talk anymore
07:38There's a gap
07:42It's cold
07:44Even if you want to confront him
07:46You don't have the strength to confront him
07:48Because it's tiring
07:50You want to make everything clear
07:53Yes
07:54It's weird
07:55Before I left
07:57Before we split up
07:59The 3 nights we were together
08:02We hugged each other
08:04We were like, take care of yourself
08:07We didn't fight
08:09I want one, goodbye
08:11In other words, take care of yourself
08:15It's painful for us
08:17But it's necessary
08:18Because the relationship doesn't grow
08:20It's a mutual decision
08:22I love you, but it's not working
08:30She's like a mother
08:33Yes
08:34You've been together for 3 months
08:37Father
08:39And you booked him
08:41He's already married
08:43First of all, I know he's married
08:46He told me
08:47He was an adult at that time
08:50He remarried
08:53Ex-wife
08:55You didn't know?
08:56Just recently
08:57Last year, I guess
08:58So when he found out
09:00Did he acknowledge you?
09:01Not yet
09:02Until now?
09:03Not yet
09:04I don't think he'll accept that he has a child
09:08You know
09:09Why did you say that?
09:12Anyway
09:15What do you feel at that time?
09:17Because I was alone
09:19Alone in the room
09:20Alone
09:21Nothing
09:22But there's a doctor
09:24I hope the doctor can help you
09:26So you can go to Manila
09:28I hope you'll be healthy
09:31And most importantly, he's a human
09:35I was curious for the first time
09:39I look black
09:41I was curious about my son's appearance
09:44When I found out he's a human and handsome
09:48I'm okay with that
09:51But as you grow up, you become more like a human
09:56He's evolving
09:59Seriously
10:00He's handsome
10:01I was happy when
10:03My heart aches and painful experiences
10:07While I was pregnant
10:09But I'm not that sour
10:13Because
10:14Bitter
10:15I'm really sour
10:16Why is it sour?
10:17My mind is bitter
10:18Because of the sourness in my water
10:19You know
10:21The flaws while I was pregnant
10:24When I see him now
10:26He's gone
10:27They're all gone
10:28All the bitterness you feel at that time
10:30Edgar, you ended your relationship because of drugs
10:34Is it true?
10:35No, it's like this
10:36On and off, we were on drugs
10:39But when we got married
10:41Because we were both in custody
10:44We laughed
10:45We're not meant for each other
10:48When there's no common element
10:51It's like
10:52We're not meant for each other
10:54That's what happened
10:58We were just together before
11:00Just because of drugs
11:02How big was the effect?
11:05On you and your child?
11:06Big
11:07Everything was ruined
11:09How old is your child?
11:11Fourteen
11:12When we separated
11:14Three years old
11:16So he's not that old yet
11:19But now he understands the circumstances
11:22Why it happened
11:24Isn't it hard to explain to him?
11:27My child is smart
11:28Sometimes he explains to me
11:30So you're like the kids
11:32Never underestimate kids
11:34Exactly
11:35Being a single parent is a responsibility
11:38What comes to your mind first?
11:41My fear back then
11:43Because I had no experience
11:45How do I raise a boy and a girl?
11:49The generation of kids is different
11:52Their world is different
11:54From our world back then
11:56So I sought advice
11:59From the experienced moms
12:01In the church
12:03The Christian moms
12:06In the school
12:08There were pastors
12:10And their principals
12:12They taught
12:14I didn't know what to do
12:16They gave me steppings
12:19In a way that
12:20My child's age can adapt
12:24Have you ever told yourself
12:28Every single day
12:29When you wake up
12:31You realize you're the only one
12:33It's hard especially when you're a mom
12:35It's different when you're a mom
12:39Because
12:40When you wake up in the morning
12:42You don't have a spouse
12:44You only have your child
12:46It's so emotional
12:48It's like you're emoting
12:50You don't have a daddy
12:52You don't know what to do
12:54Sometimes you'll cry
12:56For example, he's from school
12:58He has stars
13:00He wants to share with you
13:02But he can't
13:04It's like
13:06It's so hard
13:08It hurts
13:10Sometimes
13:12I blame myself
13:14I'm such a loser
13:16I'm a duster ever
13:18Right?
13:20Yes
13:22So now
13:24When I realize
13:26I'll have to put on makeup
13:28I'll have to put on weight
13:30You'll have to put on weight
13:32You'll have to put on shampoo
13:34You'll have to put on weight
13:36You'll have to put on weight
13:38You'll have to put on weight
13:40Being a single parent
13:42It has advantages and disadvantages
13:44We'll find out
13:46When Sis comes back
13:48There are limitations
13:50Things you can't do
13:52Because you're a single parent
13:54Do you have those?
13:56Limitations
13:58I can't do it
14:00I don't think there are many limitations
14:02Really?
14:04I respect my kids
14:06I respect my kids
14:08If I have a date
14:10Who's not her mom
14:12I try not to kiss
14:14In front of my kid
14:16Or I try not to be so cuddly
14:18You have a certain demeanor
14:20When she's in front of me
14:22I'll go back to her
14:24Have you explained it to your child?
14:28She's 5 years old
14:30Turning 6 this 5th
14:32For me
14:34It's easier for me
14:36To explain it to her
14:38To explain it to her
14:40Whatever questions
14:42He would want to ask me
14:44I would answer it
14:46I don't have to hide anything from her
14:48Because the only thing I can provide right now
14:50For him is respect
14:52Aside from education
14:54Because he doesn't have a secured home
14:56I destroyed that
14:58The only thing I can provide right now is respect
15:00I can't take it away from her
15:02What's easier for you
15:04Now that you're a single parent
15:06What's easier for you
15:08Now that you're a single parent
15:10Because
15:12I was young
15:14So I didn't enjoy
15:16Being a mother
15:18Now I'm able to go out
15:20But there are limitations
15:22Like you don't have to go home
15:24Or you don't have time for the baby
15:26I still spend
15:28Quality time for Ice
15:30But now
15:32I'm able to go out
15:34You're going to be naked
15:36You're going to be naked
15:38You're not wearing a duster
15:40Even the clothes
15:42Can show a little cleavage
15:44But it's just slight
15:46It's embarrassing
15:48It's embarrassing to my son
15:50Oh mommy, what are you doing?
15:52You're getting old
15:54I can't ask you
15:56What's easier
15:58It's not life
16:00To have a boyfriend
16:02But if you have a child
16:04What are the limitations?
16:06Being gay
16:08It's different now
16:10Your grandmother is getting old
16:12So
16:14Being gay on stage
16:16It's different at home
16:18Gay language is prohibited
16:20How true is it
16:22That being a single parent
16:24Is emotionally and financially draining?
16:26Single parent
16:28That's a good question
16:30I'm really like that
16:32Financially
16:34But by grace
16:36I was able to overcome
16:38Let's say Bianca
16:40That I don't have a father image
16:42The point is
16:44She's turning 7
16:46And you're sad once in a while
16:48But I didn't feel
16:50That I'm crazy
16:52I was just asking
16:54And
16:56Finances
16:58I stopped working
17:00For 2 years
17:02It's not like
17:04You can get a job right away
17:06It's a good thing I saved up
17:08So when I was about to finish
17:10Your grandmother gave up
17:12But by grace
17:14I was able to get a job
17:16Guys
17:18What's the question again?
17:20Financially
17:22It's not like
17:24We have guests
17:26At least tomorrow
17:28I'll buy milk
17:30Financially
17:32It's not a problem
17:34You were able to save
17:36And
17:38You'll make your own racket
17:40To make up for
17:42Lost finances
17:44That you should've gained before
17:46It's a good thing
17:48I didn't save up
17:50I had a year in showbiz
17:52So I didn't save up
17:54Then
17:56You're a teeny-bopper
17:58Then suddenly
18:00You're a junkie
18:02I really didn't save up
18:04It's a good thing
18:06At least
18:08Vong
18:10I have a cat
18:12Let's go 50-50
18:14Some people
18:16Sometimes I feel ashamed
18:18To buy
18:20Pampers
18:22It's a long discussion
18:24Before giving
18:26It's a good thing
18:28I was lucky
18:30She's a cat
18:32I've been single for 2 years
18:34I just got
18:36A job
18:38They say
18:40Single parents
18:42Tend to be more mature
18:44In life
18:46How true is that?
18:48Maturity-wise
18:50Because
18:52You set your maturity
18:54You should've
18:56Raised your kid early
18:58Why did you join?
19:00You don't plan
19:02For the short term
19:04You always look
19:06To the future
19:08How far you can bring
19:10Your kid's education
19:12When to get a house
19:14Everything is centered
19:16To your kid
19:18Your maturity is centered
19:20In being a single parent
19:22Your maturity skyrockets
19:24You look at things
19:26From different lights
19:28I think
19:30It's the same with
19:32Being a decision-maker
19:34When you're a decision-maker
19:36Your maturity is enhanced
19:38Because you have to
19:40You have to
19:42If you're
19:44A decision-maker
19:46All of a sudden
19:48You're the leader
19:50You have to take control
19:52You have control over everything
19:54If you're a decision-maker
19:56Not only will you affect yourself
19:58But your kids' lives
20:00That's what they say
20:02Now it's up to you
20:04But there are also instances
20:06Where you still need to consult
20:08Your father or mother
20:10What are those instances?
20:12For me, it's the major decisions
20:14Maybe it's because
20:16I'm blessed because
20:18My husband is kind
20:20He's very much present in my kids' lives
20:22He's a kind person
20:24Until now, we're still okay
20:26I want my kids to feel
20:28That their mother
20:30Lost her husband
20:32But they didn't lose their father
20:34There's no gap in love
20:36In terms of decisions
20:38Even the minor decisions
20:40As long as it's concerning them
20:42I really consult
20:44For example, if the kid's grades are low
20:46How can we improve?
20:48Will we transfer him to a tutor?
20:50Will we get extra help?
20:52To help the kid?
20:54I involve him in all of those
20:56Bus service, bus or driver
20:58It's like you're together
21:00And I guess initially
21:02Especially when your kids are grown up
21:04It's the situation
21:06Why will it change all of a sudden?
21:08I think it needs mutual consideration
21:10Yes, that's true
21:12You shouldn't lose your respect for each other
21:14Because that's also where
21:16The kid's growth is based
21:18If he sees you fighting
21:20It has a big effect on them
21:22Even if you don't say it in front of them
21:24They'll feel it
21:26Your kids are smart
21:28And very sensitive
21:30Very, very much
21:32Even when the baby is weak
21:34For example,
21:36Dada will follow you
21:38Sometimes he'll say
21:40Come with Dada
21:42I'll tell Dada
21:44Come with Mimi
21:46It's like you can't say
21:48I can't, I can't stay there anymore
21:50Then he'll say
21:52Dada, come with Mimi
21:54Let's go for a walk
21:56Of course, I'll be like that
21:58But the truth is, I'll cry
22:00Oh my
22:02How can a single parent
22:04walk
22:06On the way home
22:08Okay, we're still here
22:10We're still with single parents
22:12Earlier, we talked about
22:14Mutual decisions
22:16The other party is also there
22:18To explain
22:20Why is it like that all of a sudden
22:22How did you say it?
22:24How did you say it, Bianca?
22:26Since you're the youngest
22:28How did you say it?
22:30I'm lost
22:34I just
22:36I'm the type of quiet person
22:38If I can't say it
22:40I'll just write it
22:42But
22:44I really got a lot of love
22:46Because I feel sorry for the baby
22:48Because
22:50They feel
22:52They feel
22:54Like they're not together anymore
22:56They don't talk anymore
22:58We watch cartoons
23:00And you're just like that
23:02It's different
23:04It's not like before
23:08I had to confront him
23:10While he's sleeping
23:12He's so calm
23:14Because I don't want
23:16I'm afraid of shouting
23:18I don't want that
23:20Fighting
23:22So I said
23:24I just really have to be strong
23:26This is a really big decision
23:28I think it's for the best
23:30How did you find the lack
23:32Of another role in the family?
23:34Of course
23:36Because you become
23:38The mother and the father at the same time
23:40Light and role
23:42How did you find that?
23:44Because
23:46There are really roles
23:48Even if we say
23:50We're already
23:5221st century
23:54There are really roles
23:56The father and the mother
23:58So since the father's role is different
24:00And you're the mother
24:02How did you find that?
24:06I believe
24:08That you can't fulfill
24:10100%
24:12No matter how we say
24:14I can be a mother and father
24:16It's different
24:18The father image
24:20The role model
24:22It's impossible
24:24100%
24:26The best that you can do
24:28Is try to be their friend
24:30Try to be their friend
24:32So that they can tell you
24:34Their concerns easily
24:36And at the same time
24:38You can explain
24:40Their questions
24:42Since we're good terms
24:44With my husband
24:46He's still there
24:48I try to make it a point
24:50I can't do it alone
24:54It's really not the same
24:56Their father is different
24:58How about the boys?
25:00For the boys, I've always believed
25:02That the role of the mother
25:04In her morals
25:06Values, virtues
25:08That's where you'll get your child
25:10For the boys, discipline
25:12For us
25:14Discipline
25:16Being confident in life
25:18That's what they get
25:20From the boys
25:22The point of view of the boys
25:24Especially me, I have a son
25:26So I would rather have him
25:28To be more like me
25:30Than to be idolized
25:32By other people
25:34For example, King
25:36I don't want to be idolized
25:38Aren't you afraid
25:40That your children's views
25:42Will be corrupted
25:44When it comes to family?
25:46When they have their own families
25:48It destroys the idea of
25:50The norm
25:52They'll be too casual
25:54Because of their acceptance
25:56That's life
25:58That's what they'll apply
26:00In their lives
26:02That's normal
26:04They won't strive for more
26:06That's a big concern
26:08In fact, there are scientific studies
26:10That say that children
26:12From broken homes
26:14Have the tendency
26:16To repeat history
26:18That's a big concern
26:20You really cannot
26:22Guarantee
26:24100% that they won't
26:26Lose their acceptance
26:28In that situation
26:30What I can do is try to tell them
26:32That it's not
26:34The ideal situation
26:36And that
26:38If they can strive
26:40For a happy family
26:42That's what's good
26:44But then, I always say
26:46What's important to me
26:48Is for my child to learn
26:50To love himself
26:52Because if you love yourself
26:54Your decisions
26:56Will be right
26:58A lot of people
27:00Try to save their family
27:02For the wrong reasons
27:04But they won't be happy
27:06I don't want that either
27:08So I tell them
27:10If you think you're doing the right thing
27:12And you're comfortable with it
27:14Then do it
27:16Instead of staying in the marriage
27:18It's miserable
27:20This is the situation
27:22When it comes to family
27:24It's okay to be miserable
27:26It's normal to be miserable
27:28Because either
27:30They will strive so hard
27:32To become a girlfriend
27:34Or a wife
27:36Or it's okay
27:38Extremes
27:40It's hard
27:42How do you balance that as parents?
27:44How do you think you should balance that as parents?
27:46Because the school teaches
27:48That there's a family
27:50There's a dad, a mom, a brother, a sister
27:52Then they will see
27:54In your situation
27:56That there's something missing
27:58There's something missing in the equation
28:00So you try to provide information
28:02To him
28:04In his own language
28:06You can't be together
28:08Tell me
28:10What's the situation
28:12In Jinky's case
28:14I went through that
28:16I know that
28:18It's hard for the kid
28:20To not see that you're together
28:22In our case
28:24There's no pain
28:26There's no pain
28:28You don't miss what you didn't have
28:30He experienced that you're together
28:32That will be a major change
28:34Now, how do you explain
28:36To the children
28:38How important is the presence
28:40Of both parents in their children's lives
28:42Regardless of whether they are
28:44Under one roof or not
28:46Edgar?
28:48When my wife and I got separated
28:50She didn't let my son go
28:52There's no presence at all
28:54So it's just you
28:56My son thought
28:58His mom is my mom
29:00His grandma?
29:02No, because my mom
29:04Didn't have a child
29:06She raised him
29:08So sometimes she said
29:10Why don't you sit next to my dad
29:12He's young
29:14He's 7 years old
29:16Why don't you sit next to my dad
29:18Because she called my mom
29:20That's confusing
29:22How do you answer that?
29:24Because she's also my mom
29:26No, I said
29:28She's your grandma
29:30Bianca, if your son
29:32Asks you
29:34Where's your dad?
29:36Why isn't he here?
29:38Why don't you get married?
29:40He's still young
29:42He's only 3 years old
29:44In the event that he does ask
29:46Sometimes he asks
29:48That's one of my fears
29:50That time
29:52When he knows
29:54When he thinks
29:56Why isn't he here?
29:58He always asks
30:00Shooting, taping, working
30:02You might be surprised
30:04One of these days
30:06He might tell you
30:08He's not working
30:10But everytime
30:12He asks
30:14Like field trips
30:16It's hard to pretend
30:18That you can be a mom and dad
30:20Like basketball players
30:22I'm wearing a miniskirt
30:24Basketball
30:26It's ugly
30:28So I'm telling you
30:30I'm talking to him
30:32You really need to be here
30:34You really need
30:36In this activity
30:38It's different
30:40If you're a dad
30:42You might say
30:44Where's my dad?
30:46Where's my dad?
30:48Actually, the dad is just there
30:50But explaining
30:52Why you're not together
30:54You don't need to lie
30:56Just say it
30:58But according to their understanding
31:00Complete honesty
31:02Just say it
31:04Whatever
31:06They're smart
31:08It's faster for them to accept
31:10It's important not to ruin
31:12Exactly
31:14Actually, it should be easier
31:16For older children to understand
31:18But it's easier
31:20For younger children
31:22To heal faster
31:24When they're older, they have their own thoughts
31:26They have their own opinions
31:28They have it inside
31:30We'll talk about
31:32Moving on with their lives
31:36How is it to move on?
31:40What did you discover
31:42After being a single parent
31:44For some time?
31:46About yourself
31:48I matured a lot
31:50Like
31:52What do you call it?
31:54The decisions
31:56When I didn't have a child
31:58I didn't care
32:00But now, I'm very careful
32:02Then
32:04I behaved
32:06My son is my mirror
32:08When I perform
32:10I'll tell him
32:12You look okay, but you're bright
32:14That's how he is
32:16He's my mirror
32:18I matured a lot
32:20And
32:22When it comes to
32:24I'm very careful with my words
32:26I'm like a girl now
32:28I'm not gay anymore
32:30Unlike before
32:32Then
32:34Spiritually, I'm okay
32:3690% of my life
32:38Is very much
32:40Approach
32:42Godly approach
32:44Then
32:46A lot has changed
32:48Move on
32:50Hopefully, he'll learn
32:52When he has his own family
32:54Edgar
32:56Everything has changed
32:58Totally
33:00And it changed again
33:02A lot has changed
33:04My wife has changed
33:06I'm with my girlfriend
33:08Okay
33:12Of course, it can't be avoided
33:14Do you still feel
33:16Sadness? Emptiness?
33:18How do you separate yourself?
33:20Ever since
33:22I accepted myself
33:24It's time to move on
33:26I still have a lot of what ifs
33:28What if I take him home?
33:30What if we're together?
33:32I'll carry that to my grave
33:34Because those are
33:36Unanswered questions
33:38That
33:40What if
33:42It doesn't materialize
33:44That's what will
33:46Haunt me
33:48Do you really think about what ifs?
33:50Why don't you do something
33:52So you won't have what ifs?
33:54I'm married
33:56Don't have what ifs
33:58I'm just saying
34:00You can't get rid of the thought
34:02What if I became patient
34:04What if I worked it out
34:06Instead of
34:08Making my head heat
34:10What if I was more mature that time
34:12If my maturity now was then
34:14It might have worked
34:16I'll get rid of the what if
34:18Good for you
34:20I'll get married
34:22That's a good idea
34:24We'll get married
34:26You'll get rid of what if
34:28You'll get rid of what if
34:30You'll get rid of what if
34:32I don't know
34:34I don't know if you believe me
34:36When it comes to that
34:38It's very emotional
34:40Because you're a woman
34:42Okay, I'll give it to you tonight
34:44Okay, finished
34:46That's it
34:48That's what I'm thinking
34:50Women have to dwell
34:52You have to dwell
34:54To the utmost
34:56Excruciating pain
34:58But when you're done
35:00You've overcome it
35:02Men
35:04They haven't faced it
35:06For me
35:08They have
35:10What ifs
35:12For me, for a while
35:14I felt guilt
35:16I felt guilt
35:18What if
35:20I became more mature
35:22But after that
35:24I became more confident
35:26That I can handle it alone
35:28I was able to hurdle my initial fears
35:30Now that I think about it
35:32I don't want to go back
35:34I'm very content
35:36With my current situation
35:38It feels good
35:40To be in control
35:42To have your own life
35:44And you're not answerable to anybody
35:46As long as you know what you're doing is right
35:48And you're not hurting anyone
35:50It feels good
35:52Maybe in the future
35:54If I have a partner
35:56I won't be able to give him
35:58My whole personality
36:00I've learned to love myself
36:02You said that before you get married
36:04You should ask your children for permission
36:06What if he chooses you
36:08You know, you'll be surprised
36:10Because kids are usually best matchmakers
36:12There are times
36:14For example
36:16I've introduced him
36:18To a couple of my friends
36:20I always go out with
36:22And she's okay with it
36:24She calls her aunt
36:26So there's no problem
36:28There's no favorites
36:30She doesn't have favorites
36:32Although there are some times
36:34When you're on a constant date
36:36And she sees you
36:38She becomes close to you
36:40To the point that
36:42One time my niece fought with her
36:44And my baby bit her
36:46She's like my mom
36:48We got into a fight
36:50I lost my place
36:52If your mom hears you
36:54You're dead
36:56What if she doesn't want you
36:58I think he's too young
37:00For now, he's easy to bribe
37:02He's easy to bribe
37:04You can give him candy, lollipop
37:06Friends forever
37:08For now, he's like that
37:10What I'm afraid of
37:12Is when he's 8 or 9 years old
37:14He'll make his own decisions
37:16You'll be on his side
37:18You'll be more careful
37:20Lavi, you said
37:22When the right time comes
37:24You'll go for another relationship
37:26What's the right guy for you?
37:28I think
37:30The person that I've become
37:32The one he can accept
37:34The acceptance that
37:36I'm like this
37:38I'm not the one he can
37:40Subordinate to
37:42I want us to be equal
37:44I can't follow him
37:46I want
37:48The ideal for me
37:50I have my own life
37:52I have my own thing going
37:54He'll respect my quality
37:56Maybe if it's like that
37:58If the chemistry is right
38:00Who doesn't want to belong
38:02He's sincere
38:04That he'll love his daughter
38:06That she's not his daughter
38:08That's irrational
38:10He'll accept her
38:12That's a package deal
38:14Alone and lonely
38:16Or alone and free
38:18Which one are you?
38:20Alone and free
38:22Likewise
38:24Alone and free
38:34I said once in a movie
38:36Alone doesn't necessarily mean
38:38Lonely
38:40It's just different
38:42From being two
38:44It's different
38:46But it doesn't necessarily mean
38:48That you'll be lonely
38:50I'm not alone and free
38:52Alone and still surviving
38:54There you go
38:56She has her own choice
38:58I thought about it
39:00Alone and still surviving
39:02Jinky?
39:04Alone and free
39:06Free
39:08Really free
39:10Alone and free
39:12They're both free
39:14You guys
39:16You
39:18Actually they're both free
39:24Thank you
39:26Thanks for sharing your lives
39:28Your single lives
39:32It's a different life
39:36Edgar will be our guest
39:38In another topic
39:40It should be one on one
39:46Don't cry
39:48It's just a slide
39:54Thank you
39:56I'll be back
40:16We once again
40:18Play host to search for SM Star Baby 2001
40:20We have 12 finalists
40:22For the month of October
40:24Let's see what qualities the moms
40:26Saw in their babies that made them
40:28Decide to join the contest
40:30She knows all the hand signs
40:32When we take a picture
40:34She smiles in front of the camera
40:36Everyone smiles
40:38When we tell her
40:40You're so cute
40:42She appreciates it
40:44She eats
40:46The moments he wakes up
40:48In the morning he would smile
40:50She's happy
40:52She's cheerful
40:54Cute, smiling face
40:56She's friendly
40:58She's very sociable
41:00She's always smiling
41:02Except when she's sleepy
41:04She's easy to copy
41:06She's happy at home
41:08Very active
41:10She eats well
41:12She's easy to teach
41:16She's kind
41:18She's hyperactive
41:20She likes to sing and dance
41:42She's energetic and adorable
41:44Now, presenting the candidates
42:12For the month of October
42:14Our semifinalist for
42:16SM Star Baby 2001
42:18Grand Search is
42:20Our winner is
42:22Peaches Anna Bagadion
42:24Congratulations to
42:26Peaches Anna Marie Bagadion
42:28She will take home
42:3010,000 pesos worth of
42:32SM gift checks
42:34500 pesos worth of
42:36Bidget products
42:38500 pesos worth Pro Kids products
42:40And ride coupons from Storyland
42:46This portion is brought to you by
42:48SM's Infants Accessories and Furniture Department
42:50And Infantswear Department
42:54Single parenthood is not really for everybody
42:56That's not the ideal thing
42:58Because the most important
43:00Institution is the family
43:02Correct
43:04The smallest but the most core
43:06Exactly
43:08That's what builds the character of every person
43:10That grows up in a community
43:12Yes
43:14But sometimes it works
43:16And that's the reality of life
43:18Sometimes it works and sometimes
43:20It doesn't
43:22Don't laugh at me
43:24Why are you laughing when I'm saying that
43:26I'm not reacting anymore
43:28That's life
43:30That's life
43:32You really have to make the most out of what you have
43:34At the moment
43:36You have to accept
43:38Your situation
43:40You have to accept
43:42Yourself
43:44You have to accept yourself
43:46Accept that this is your situation
43:48Explain
43:50It will reflect
43:52Your child will see it
43:54He will feel it
43:56The children's recovery
43:58Depends very much
44:00On the recovery of the parents
44:02So that's it
44:04Let's remember this
44:06Especially those who are watching
44:08Single parents
44:10Or those who know single parents
44:12Sometimes it's hard in life
44:14You don't know what to do
44:16Just relax
44:18It's important to take care of yourself
44:20And complete honesty with your children
44:22Let's not be quick to judge
44:24When we see families that are not whole
44:26They didn't like it
44:28Thank you so much for joining us
44:30This morning
44:32See you next time
44:34Here at
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44:38You got me
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44:42Mossimo
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44:46Wayless Center
44:48Adidas
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44:52Optical Works
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44:58Jurastar
45:00La Germania
45:02Yuman for my clothes
45:04Salon de Manila
45:06Janeline Shoes
45:08Under the Sea Pet Shop
45:10And
45:12Buntis palang
45:14Sila kinasala
45:16Buntis palang
45:18Ito na yun
45:20Buntis ka palang?
45:22Bakit?
45:24Eh kasi buntis palang wala nang relationship
45:26Dun sa FADIREP
45:28Yung anak mo e, misan siya pa nagpapaliwanag nga sa akin
45:30Sa mga bata, ano
45:32Never underestimate kids
45:34Exactly
45:36Hindi talaga kayang punoin 100%
45:38Meron at merong kulang
45:40No matter how we say na
45:42Kaya ko naman maging mother and father
45:44Iba talaga yung ano, una-una sa lalaki lang na anak
45:46Yung father image, yung role model nila na
45:48May tatay, diba?
45:50So imposible talagang 100%
45:58Best of friends we'll always, always be
46:18Hit or miss
46:20We are sisters
46:22We are friends
46:24Magic that never ends
46:28I got you sis
46:58I got you
47:00I got you
47:02I got you
47:04I got you
47:06I got you
47:08I got you
47:10I got you
47:12I got you
47:14I got you
47:16I got you
47:18I got you
47:20I got you
47:22I got you
47:24I got you