KATIE and Ness met at the daycare they both worked at and soon fell in love. When Kaylie also started working at the same daycare, the three became best friends and Kaylie was even maid of honour at Katie and Ness' wedding in 2021. However, a shift soon emerged between the three. Ness told Love Don't Judge: "I was attracted to Kaylie right off the back," and Katie admitted to Kaylie: "Every time you walked in, I would get nervous and make sure I look okay." Katie and Ness had a conversation, where they both revealed that they were attracted to Kaylie. Ness said, "It felt weird to say it out loud and to agree with one another, we both have feelings for our best friend." It wasn't until November 2022 on a trip to Disney World, when the three had an honest conversation and established themselves as a throuple. Kaylie revealed: "It was very natural for us because we already had that dynamic of the three of us always being together." The throuple often get stared at when out in public and online things are also tough. Ness said: "We certainly get comments. Usually it's just single word comments like 'gross', 'disgusting' and 'wrong'." Today, their friend Kristina will be heading over to reveal what she thinks about the relationship, stating: " I don't think I could share the person I love." Reflecting, Kaylie said: " Our relationship works because we have the foundation of being best friends."
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00:00This is Katie, she fell in love with Ness and they fell in love with Kaylee.
00:07We fell in love with our maid of honour.
00:09People have judgements about us because we're a throuple.
00:11Usually it's just like gross, disgusting, wrong.
00:15We just want to love one another and live our lives.
00:18Our friend Christina is coming over.
00:20When I first had the first conversation with her where I officially was like, hey yeah
00:24we are all together, we're called a throuple.
00:26That was hard and I don't know why.
00:28I don't think I could share the person I love.
00:31It's definitely not for me.
00:34So this is our king bed.
00:36This is mine, furthest from the door.
00:38And I'm in the middle.
00:39Jason's in the middle.
00:40And I'm on this side, closest to the door.
00:42The reality is that at night, me and Kaylee actually share a blanket and Katie gets her
00:46own because she is- I hog the blanket a lot and I roll.
00:50We met at the job we were working at.
00:52We were working at a daycare and pretty quickly fell in love.
00:56We've been together for about seven years now.
00:58We met Kaylee when she started working at the same daycare that we had met at.
01:02I was attracted to Kaylee right off the bat.
01:04I don't know, you would walk in and I would just stare at you for a second and I was like
01:09no, okay, this is wrong.
01:10Every time you walk in I would get nervous and make sure I look okay, try to impress
01:16you a little bit.
01:17Me and Katie got married in 2021.
01:20Kaylee was our maid of honor.
01:22Sometimes it's funny when I'm referring to the wedding and stuff, I'll accidentally say
01:27our wedding.
01:28And then I'm like, your wedding.
01:31From the start, I was very attracted to them as people, as my best friends.
01:36I saw the possibility of us becoming a thing.
01:39None of us informalized it to one another.
01:42I definitely knew that I was having feelings and pushing them away.
01:45That I just kind of was like, yeah, I think I need to say something.
01:49So we had our conversation.
01:52You coming to me and saying what you had feelings for Kaylee, I kind of had already known and
01:56inside I was also feeling something.
01:57I also have feelings for Kaylee.
01:59It felt weird to like say it out loud and not only to say it out loud, but like to agree
02:03with one another.
02:04Like we both have feelings for our best friends.
02:06Like where do we go from here?
02:09What do we do?
02:11So Kaylee had joined us in Disney World in November of 2022.
02:16We were there with another one of our friends and it felt more intimate.
02:20It felt more romantic.
02:21We were just like flirting left and right, really like affectionate, like all over each
02:25other.
02:26And we just like kept going with it.
02:27I think at one point, like me and you had like gone into a bathroom or something and
02:30I was like, what's happening?
02:31She's doing it back.
02:32Do you think this means what I think it means?
02:35And like, you were like, yeah, I think so.
02:37I was like, maybe we should talk now, like here.
02:41And I remember you were like, no, let's not ruin the trip.
02:44And I was like, no, like I really think we should talk now.
02:46And we, and we did.
02:48So we had sent our friend to bed and we said, go to bed, Tina.
02:52You joined us in our room and we stayed up till 2 a.m. just like talking.
02:56I think that Katie definitely caught me by surprise.
02:59I feel like with Ness, we connect really well.
03:04I think with Katie, me and her have always just been like really like girly, like best
03:09friends, like type of thing.
03:10At the time, I didn't ever really have like a really girly feminine partner.
03:16So I was just like, oh, okay.
03:18So like that was, that was something different for me to navigate.
03:21But it was very natural for us because we already had that dynamic going for us of the
03:25three of us being always together.
03:28I think the most common judgment that we kind of get is like looks and confusion, confusion,
03:34like even talking with our families.
03:37Sometimes our family members will throw in the like, wife, you're married, you're not.
03:42Since being online, we've certainly gotten some comments.
03:46Usually it's just like those like single word comments, like gross, disgusting, wrong.
03:51Or like people lean into like their religious views or things like that.
03:55We just have to be okay with like laughing it off.
03:57I personally feel like the positive outshines the negative.
04:00So far, yeah, the positive has been great.
04:02Even just in like the comment sections and stuff, like we've seen people just be like,
04:06thank you so much for sharing your story.
04:07Like you've helped me open up to my friend that I have feelings for.
04:12Our friend Christina is coming over to chat with us a little bit about our relationship
04:18and the trip that she was on with us.
04:20I remember when I first had the first conversation with her, where I officially was like, hey,
04:24yeah, like we are all together, like we're called the throuple.
04:27And that was hard.
04:28And I don't know why.
04:29I have known Ness for a very, very, very long time.
04:32So I wasn't surprised at all when I found out that Kaylee was joining their relationship.
04:36I was very fearful of judgment.
04:39I was very worried about how people would perceive the relationship.
04:43How did you feel on the trip?
04:46So there were a lot of times where I felt a little like left out.
04:52Ness was like shoving Kaylee out of the way for guys staring at her.
04:55And I'm like, why am I not like being shoved out of the way for guys staring at her?
05:00I didn't really understand.
05:01But obviously, now that I know like what's going on, I totally understand why.
05:06And now I understand why there was always a fight on who's sitting with who on rides.
05:10I want to sit with her.
05:11I want to sit with her.
05:12Oh, fine.
05:13I'll sit with Tina.
05:14I'll sit with Tina.
05:15I'll sit with Tina.
05:16I wanted to say that, you know?
05:17Well, maybe I want to sit with her.
05:18No.
05:19No, you can't sit with my girl.
05:22Fine.
05:23Get out of here.
05:24I have always struggled with jealousy issues.
05:27So that would definitely be the absolute hardest part for me.
05:30I don't think I could share the person I love.
05:32I don't know how you guys do it.
05:34We get that a lot.
05:35We do.
05:36I can never share.
05:37I feel like that's like very typical for like monogamous couples.
05:40They're always like, oh, I don't like think I could share and like, I mean, neither did
05:45we.
05:46Yeah.
05:47I feel like at this point, we don't really consider it like sharing.
05:50Yeah.
05:51It's just like us.
05:52Yeah.
05:53Like, I love you.
05:54I love you.
05:55That's normal.
05:56Cool.
05:57Yeah.
05:58But it's definitely not something that's for me.
06:00How did you feel like, so the day that I told you.
06:03I was like a little surprised, but I really wasn't.
06:06And I was a little bit nervous because like, all I've ever wanted is for you guys to be
06:11like happy and safe.
06:13Being in a throuple is not something that like you see very often or you hear about
06:17very often.
06:18So I was just worried about how people were going to perceive you.
06:21People are mean.
06:22And it's a scary world too.
06:24I mean, like, we've seen it like in our travels a little bit, like the culture shifts and
06:29changes that we encounter in other countries, like, yeah, we could run into really like
06:34dangerous scenarios.
06:35Like, not only are we women, not only are we lesbians, but we are in a three way polyamorous
06:44relationship and like it could get us into certain scenarios.
06:48I mean, it's really sad because like there's a bunch of countries and places that like
06:51we would love to go because they're beautiful.
06:53And like, we just can't.
06:55Right.
06:56We just can't.
06:57Yeah.
06:58How do you feel about like us now as like an established like throuple?
07:01Do you see like.
07:02Do you see like how we've changed or.
07:05I feel like you guys have changed in a good way.
07:09You know, you've grown and developed as people do and you've gotten stronger as a relationship.
07:14If you have judgments about people in an alternative relationship dynamic, whether it's ours or
07:21any other type of relationship dynamic, it's good to just like really like look inside
07:26yourself and like try to figure out like why it is that you have those judgments.
07:31It's not directly harming you that we're together, that we're in love.
07:36In the near future, we are looking to get a house.
07:40We want to plant some roots somewhere.
07:42Yeah.
07:43Yeah.
07:44And babies.
07:45And start our family once we plant our roots.
07:46Yeah.
07:47Yeah.
07:48I think that our relationship works because we have the foundation of being best friends.
07:54At the end of the day, like it doesn't matter what's going on in the world around us.
07:57I know that I can come home and I can just like drop it all at the door and just like
08:01be with you guys.
08:02Yeah.
08:03Be with my people.
08:04Right.
08:05I think it works because we love each other.
08:06Yeah.
08:07That's the simple answer.