90 Day Fiancé :The Other Way Season 6 Episode 17 Daughter of the Bride
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00:00Previously on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
00:03Paris is the best place to propose.
00:05Don't be putting any ideas in her head.
00:08I was 100% ready to propose to Dempsey
00:11when I visited her the first time.
00:13But we are having some speed bumps.
00:15I feel safe when I'm with you.
00:17Are you proposing?
00:19I'm not proposing, no.
00:23Let me look at your nose for the last time.
00:26After surgery, I'm not going to be my usual self.
00:29I will be here waiting for you, counting minutes.
00:32I really hope that he can step up
00:34because it's going to determine whether or not
00:37this is somebody that I can live the rest of my life with.
00:43Your love languages are switched.
00:45Men usually show their love by buying things.
00:49Josh's love language is just that security.
00:52I hope Josh and I can move past the problems.
00:57My daughter will be back soon.
00:59I'm worried because he's always had issues
01:02with the past.
01:07Can you buddy-buddy with your dad all I want?
01:09I can try to help him with banana chips.
01:11Is that helping us make money? No.
01:14I know my dad wouldn't press her on us,
01:17but James can learn to be a better son-in-law.
01:20I'm going to screw it up and cost him a bunch of money.
01:23Try a little harder.
01:27Oh my God, we're in France!
01:29It's holy and fun.
01:31We're in France!
01:43Oh my God!
01:45What the f***?
01:47I'm pretty sure I'm going to die.
01:49I'm going to die.
01:51I'm going to die.
01:53I'm going to die.
01:55What the f***?
01:57I'm pretty sure it's a stink bug.
02:02We've been traveling for almost two weeks
02:04through England and France.
02:06We've been to Paris,
02:08and we're working our way to Chamonix.
02:15Hey, can you turn that off?
02:18It's messing with the water pressure.
02:21Oh, sorry.
02:23Laundry!
02:28It's like a dog treat.
02:30It tastes nice, though.
02:32It tastes a bit like one, too.
02:34I've taken the last two weeks off of work
02:36so that I can get comfortable with van life.
02:38But tomorrow I'm starting work again
02:41that's going to take some getting used to.
02:49I really hope the campsite is by a river
02:52so I don't have to...
02:59Are you on the Wi-Fi?
03:01What?
03:02Are you on my personal hotspot?
03:04No.
03:06I don't have internet.
03:08Okay.
03:10So we need to go find internet.
03:12Nothing's working.
03:14It's my first day back at work,
03:16and I don't really have enough cell service
03:18to get internet
03:20for my laptop.
03:22Yeah, this has definitely been my biggest fear,
03:25is not having internet.
03:28Because without internet, no job.
03:31No money.
03:33No van life.
03:35If this keeps being an issue,
03:37100% we'll get fired
03:39because I'm not coming across as reliable.
03:44She's stressing about work already
03:47rather than coming up with a solution.
03:49We just need to have this figured out.
03:51Okay, so we can just pack the van up and move then?
03:53It's not an issue, we'll go and find somewhere and pack.
03:56I don't think Stella's going to get fired from work.
04:00We have got time to pack the van up and move
04:03before she starts work.
04:05If the situation isn't right, figure it out.
04:10And I keep checking your signal.
04:13It's at three, but my internet on my laptop
04:16does not seem to be working yet.
04:19I know I have four.
04:21It's connected.
04:23Perfect, what a nice view.
04:25Are you sure this isn't somebody's home?
04:27It says public.
04:29You can park anywhere in France.
04:32Yeah?
04:34Yes.
04:37Can you try putting this in, please?
04:40I don't think it will fit in any of...
04:43You need a plug socket where it goes in the end
04:45because it's too wide.
04:47Can you try, please?
04:49Yeah, it won't work.
04:51Can you just try?
04:53I've tried. I know it won't work.
04:55It's too wide. It won't fit.
04:57You need one that goes in the end there.
04:59F***!
05:01It's not working.
05:04F***!
05:08You're going to have to figure this out now.
05:10Okay.
05:12I made a list of things that we really need.
05:19So the American charge converter that fits there.
05:23Double A batteries because this is on its way out.
05:26Yeah.
05:28So yeah, that would be awesome if you could get that done today
05:31but going forward, it's a lot smoother.
05:34Yeah.
05:36Statler's saying that she needs an adapter
05:38to plug in her monitor for her laptop and some other things.
05:43She could have tested her adapters out in the last two weeks
05:47but she's waited for the morning that she starts work.
05:51Stupid f***!
05:55She's putting all that stress on me like it's my fault.
05:58That's on her.
06:00That's not on me.
06:02Is there any way you can fix the table
06:05so I can have my hand not killing me here?
06:09I do feel that it's one thing after another at the moment.
06:17There just doesn't seem to be a concern for you at all.
06:22Yeah, it's a concern, isn't it?
06:24Could you do it later? Are you busy?
06:26Yesterday was a hell of a drive.
06:28I didn't get here till super late last night.
06:30I just need a minute.
06:32OK.
06:34I don't feel like I've had a single minute to myself.
06:37I'm exhausted today.
06:39So am I.
06:41The agreement that Dempsey and I had going into this
06:44is that I would work and bring in the money
06:46and she would kind of be like a van wife
06:49and take care of everything that has to do with the van.
06:53My job shouldn't just be a priority of mine.
06:56It should also be a priority of Dempsey's
06:59because it's what's putting food on the table,
07:02it's what's putting gas in the tank.
07:04I'll do it in the next hour.
07:06This is just another thing that makes me wonder,
07:09like, is Dempsey all talk?
07:27Shikina is having a nose surgery.
07:30I'm so nervous, so anxious
07:33because I didn't care anyone as I cared Shikina
07:37and I'm going under anesthesia.
07:40What will happen?
07:42I wish I would watch it in the operation room.
07:45At least I know when she's going to awake.
07:48See you.
08:18How are you?
08:20I'm fine.
08:26Do you remember me?
08:29Who am I?
08:31I love you.
08:35Why did you do that to yourself?
08:39For beauty, huh?
08:41You look gorgeous like this too.
08:43You can stay like this. I still love you.
08:47I will take care of you, okay?
09:01Her state, she is vulnerable.
09:03She's like homeless, you know that?
09:06I mean, with no makeup, recovery, surgery, bandage, casts everywhere.
09:11But I can do it.
09:13I'm the perfect nurse.
09:15I will give you juice, okay?
09:19They want you to take a little sugar.
09:29Babe, what I want from you is you will try to stand up.
09:32It's important because of the anesthesia.
09:34Sarper's doing so amazing so far with taking care of me.
09:38Together.
09:40Yes, good girl.
09:44Let's walk a little.
09:46Okay.
09:47Seeing this side of him just is a reminder that, you know,
09:51we do have something really special and I think that we've come a long way.
09:56I get emotional.
09:59And I'm just proud of him.
10:02One more step, babe. Baby steps, you know?
10:05Like me.
10:07I'm making baby steps for you.
10:09What do you say? Small by small?
10:10Small by small.
10:11He's really impressing me, you know?
10:14There's been really hard times and, you know, not everything was easy,
10:21but he's doing great and I'm proud of us.
10:26Recovery is a big process.
10:28This is a good test for our relationship.
10:31But I hope there will be no more surgeries.
10:37So they do want us to have a kid.
10:41It's a terrifying feeling because for me, not wanting to have children,
10:47I can't see it changing.
10:49I'm not sure if I want to have kids.
10:56I want to have kids.
11:06I want to have kids.
11:23Come on in.
11:25Hi.
11:26Do you want a food tester?
11:28Oh, yes.
11:29Come on in.
11:32Today we're going to go try the food for the wedding
11:35and Tata's parents wanted to come along.
11:40It is very common for parents in Indonesia to be completely controlling the entire wedding.
11:45That's why it's caused so many issues is because Tata's dad doesn't care about our budget
11:49and he kind of looks at it as, you know, I'm an American, I should have a bunch of money.
11:53And that's just not the way it is.
11:55We can't just be splurging on anything and everything.
12:01We have four kinds of fried chicken, meatballs, tofu meatballs.
12:07Oh, yes.
12:08And for the fried chicken, we have shrimp paste.
12:11This is the fried chicken.
12:14What kind of chicken is this?
12:16This is a chicken thigh.
12:20If you want to change it to a country chicken, you can add more.
12:24How much more?
12:25No need.
12:26It's better if there are two kinds.
12:28People don't like chicken thighs.
12:32No, just this one.
12:34Just this one, ma'am.
12:35But it's dry.
12:40The wedding plan is stressful for me right now because I want the traditional wedding too,
12:45but we cannot afford everything that my parents want.
12:49I have like 3,000 family just from my dad's side
12:54and he wants them to be there, and then we don't.
12:58So it's hard to keep everyone happy.
13:02What do you think?
13:04I would eat a plate full of this all day long.
13:07Amazing.
13:08Good.
13:11You need to eat it with sambal.
13:19You need to learn.
13:25Ah.
13:31It's not that spicy.
13:37It is a bit embarrassing to have everyone laughing at me,
13:40but here, they do spice different, okay?
13:43When they say spicy, they mean,
13:45ah, you want your tongue to fall out of your mouth.
13:47Okay.
13:49It's worse when it goes down the throat.
13:55It hurts my stomach when I'm forced to do it.
14:01That is nasty. I don't like that at all.
14:05They seem like they're in a good mood.
14:08So I was thinking, do you want to talk about kids and about not having them?
14:16Why are you asking me? Ask yourself.
14:19I know Tata wants me to be honest with her parents about me not wanting to have children.
14:24I want to tell my parents about the kid situation.
14:29I don't even know if I need to. I mean, I don't see what the point of it is.
14:33After the wedding, then they will push us, like,
14:36okay, now you need to pop off the baby.
14:40It's one of the three promises that I made to her dad.
14:44And in Indonesia, it's a huge thing.
14:46Having kids is basically why you get married.
14:49So it feels like just a recipe for disaster,
14:51but it's something my wife asked me to do.
14:54And I respect her enough to have the conversation.
14:57Let's get it over with.
15:01So, we have a question about, what's the word for kids?
15:12Like, with everything going on in the world,
15:15I'm not sure if we, I want to have kids.
15:23Do you want to?
15:45So, they do want us to have a kid.
15:52And what if, what if I don't want to?
16:07In this world, we need to have, like, a history.
16:14If a housewife doesn't have a kid, it's a disaster.
16:20If, like, a husband and wife don't have a kid,
16:25it's like an empty family.
16:30So, the way I'm thinking now,
16:34do you feel it's a selfish way of thinking?
16:45For now, they're not kind of sad that you're selfish.
16:50But maybe one day, when you guys, like, financially stable,
16:55you guys need to have it one day.
16:58I don't know.
17:00I don't know.
17:02I don't know.
17:04I don't know.
17:06I don't know.
17:08I don't know.
17:10I don't know.
17:12I don't know.
17:15If we were financially stable,
17:18and were able to take care of ourselves,
17:22I do think it might change the way I'm thinking about it now.
17:27Maybe one day, when our economy is stable,
17:34we don't feel sad,
17:37we can change their mind towards that.
17:42Okay.
17:47They sound positive now.
17:49They're making it sound like they understand.
17:51But I think it's because in Javanese culture,
17:53as soon as we're outside of the household,
17:56and we're in public,
17:58you're definitely going to catch Indonesians always on their kindest behavior.
18:02They don't want foreigners or outsiders to see any inner turmoil in a family.
18:08You keep that stuff at home.
18:10You don't share it with the world.
18:13It's like bringing joy to their life.
18:22I know that they don't agree with it,
18:24they think it's stupid,
18:25and they expect me to have children, period.
18:28It's going to be something that's going to keep being brought up again and again and again,
18:32until I either change my mind to what they want,
18:35or they'll tell us we shouldn't be married,
18:38and that we should just break up.
18:40It's a terrifying feeling,
18:42because for me, not wanting to have children,
18:46I can't see it changing.
18:58Do you have fun with Vivian?
18:59Okay.
19:00Lily's daughter Vivian is arriving today.
19:02She hasn't always been my biggest fan.
19:09You're so tired, so hard,
19:11just like an old man.
19:14If it were me,
19:15I would have let this man go.
19:37All right, get ready.
19:38We'll take you to the mall.
19:39Okay.
19:42So I'll take George shopping,
19:43and then Vivian's coming today, right?
19:45Yes.
19:46I'm excited.
19:47And then you'll spend some time with Vivian,
19:49and then we'll all meet up,
19:51and I'll have dinner.
19:52Okay.
19:54Lily's daughter Vivian is arriving today.
19:56She hasn't always been my biggest fan,
19:58because there was an issue between Lily and I
20:01before we met in person,
20:03and Lily, Vivian, and I, we talked about it.
20:06So I'm hoping it's all in the past.
20:08I will see you in a few hours.
20:11You have fun with Vivian.
20:12Okay.
20:13Enjoy shopping.
20:15All right.
20:16I will miss you, honey. Bye-bye.
20:19My ex-husband and I have a daughter.
20:22She's 27 years old.
20:25She's an actress.
20:26Because of her job,
20:28she usually lives in Beijing.
20:31Oh, baby.
20:32Oh, my God.
20:33It's been a long time since I've seen you.
20:35Oh, my God.
20:36It's been eight months, right?
20:37Yeah, it's been more than eight months.
20:38Lolis.
20:39Oh, my God.
20:40She forgot you.
20:43She forgot you.
20:45She doesn't recognize me in this state, does she?
20:47Yeah.
21:12Okay.
21:17Last summer.
21:20Do you like your room?
21:22I love it.
21:23It's good.
21:24I think my mom is in love with Zhao Shi.
21:28The second floor is the room for me and Jia Shi.
21:31It's so cozy.
21:33I think she can put up with anything for Zhao Shi.
21:37Zhao Shi doesn't have a stable job now.
21:39Zhao Shi won't help my mom
21:41with some household chores at home.
21:44He's just like an old man.
21:48Oh, my God.
21:49Is it comfortable?
21:50Yeah, it's comfortable.
21:51Look over there.
21:52That's our TV.
21:54Okay.
21:55I think Zhao Shi and Jia Shi
21:57will enjoy our TV there.
21:59What's that?
22:01It's a projector.
22:02It hasn't been installed yet.
22:03And...
22:05He should take some responsibility.
22:07You're so tired.
22:08It's so hard.
22:09But I think he should
22:10at least help you with something.
22:14No, wait.
22:15He didn't come before.
22:18So it's all me
22:19facing this house alone.
22:20Can he give you some
22:22psychological guidance
22:24from afar?
22:26When you were under so much pressure,
22:28you came to me every time.
22:29Yeah.
22:30But you already have...
22:34I can't help it.
22:35I won't listen to you.
22:37I didn't persuade you before.
22:39Do you remember
22:40about the Vietnamese girl?
22:43But he apologized to me.
22:46Apologizing can solve everything.
22:48Why did he need the police?
22:53Because he lied a lot.
22:56Before my mom and Zhao Shi got married,
22:58Zhao Shi changed his WeChat profile picture
23:01to a photo of him
23:03and a Vietnamese girl.
23:06Zhao Shi said
23:07this is his dead friend.
23:10But later we found out
23:12this girl wasn't dead.
23:14And this girl
23:15was his girlfriend at that time.
23:18If it were me,
23:20I would have let this man go.
23:23I said, why?
23:25The woman who was with you,
23:26you actually posted a photo.
23:28In order to keep in touch with me,
23:30you said he was dead.
23:32And then he...
23:33He kept going back.
23:35He never apologized
23:36or avoided this issue.
23:39My daughter, Vivian,
23:40asked me to blacklist her
23:42and delete her.
23:44About four months after that,
23:46she sent me a message.
23:48She said she missed me.
23:50So we started over.
23:52She felt she made
23:54the biggest mistake she regretted.
23:56She didn't want to be alone.
23:57Because she was afraid of being alone.
23:59She was afraid of being alone.
24:04Indeed, this is very...
24:05I think this reflects her quality.
24:08But now,
24:10I think it's all over.
24:13Now she's in China.
24:15We're getting married.
24:17We just hope she...
24:19We hope we can live together
24:22seriously.
24:23Of course, that's the best.
24:27I know my daughter loves me very much.
24:29She really wants to protect me.
24:30She doesn't want me to be hurt.
24:32But now I'm a little worried
24:35about the relationship between
24:37my husband and Vivian.
24:39They're both my favorite people.
24:43Can I leave?
24:44I don't want to see you.
24:49I'm gonna go into town now.
24:51I'm not feeling supported at all.
24:54She just is off in fairyland
24:56where things are amazing all the time.
24:58That is crazy.
25:01I can't help but feel
25:03like I'm being used.
25:17I'm gonna go into town now
25:19and get your things.
25:21Yeah, that would be helpful.
25:34My first day at work has been rough.
25:37First, I didn't have Wi-Fi,
25:39and now the adapter that I have
25:40for my monitor
25:42won't fit into the outlet.
25:44Dempsey agreed to go into town
25:46and get one for me,
25:47but it did take some convincing.
25:50She just is off in fairyland
25:52where things are amazing all the time,
25:54and life is wonderful.
26:04Shamanie was, like,
26:06one of the number-one spots
26:08that I wanted to hit in France.
26:11The mountains, the panoramic view.
26:14I'm going into town
26:15to get Statler the adapter
26:17that she needs,
26:18but since she can work without it,
26:20I'm not in a rush to get back.
26:23Bonjour.
26:25Bonjour.
26:46If there's something that I really want to do,
26:48whether Statler's working or not,
26:51I'm going to do that,
26:53because this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.
26:57I've always wanted to travel and explore and do things,
26:59and now I'm doing it.
27:01But I wish she could be here.
27:03I feel bad for doing these things on my own.
27:07Whoa.
27:08It's a bit cold up here.
27:10This is crazy.
27:16Dempsey's been gone for a couple of hours.
27:19It's really just been me in my head the entire time
27:22and not having the best thoughts.
27:26I'm not feeling supported at all.
27:28If I could choose between doing what I'm asking of her to do
27:32and doing what I'm doing,
27:34I'd pick her up any day.
27:36It just, I can't help but feel like I'm being used.
27:42Hey.
27:44Hello.
27:46How are you?
27:48I'm good.
27:51I've got your stuff.
27:55Listen to this.
27:57Sure.
27:58Yeah.
27:59Yeah.
28:00Yeah.
28:01Yeah.
28:02Yeah.
28:03Yeah.
28:04Yeah.
28:05Yeah.
28:06Yeah.
28:07Yeah.
28:08Yeah.
28:09Listen to the video.
28:11Yeah, you'll really like it.
28:14Yeah, it fits.
28:15Oh, that's f***ing awesome.
28:19You're welcome.
28:20That's good.
28:27You're cooking?
28:28Yeah, I don't really know what though.
28:30Just some potatoes and onion and garlic.
28:33Oh, nice.
28:36How was biking into town?
28:39It was nice.
28:41We could go down there tomorrow.
28:44I have to work.
28:48I sent the updated schedule to my boss.
28:51Yeah.
28:52To make up for the time, I'll be working every single day for the next 30 days.
28:59So yeah, we won't be able to really go anywhere for a while.
29:06While working, it's going to be hard to drive.
29:08We're going to have to drive in the mornings and we can only do it for a couple of hours.
29:12So that basically means wake up, drive, work, go to sleep.
29:17Wake up, drive, work, go to sleep.
29:20We're going to all of these beautiful places, but I'm not getting to enjoy them or see them.
29:25So that sucks.
29:26It's just kind of all like hitting me like, what did I, what am I doing?
29:32This is like a curry.
29:34Yeah.
29:35Smells very good.
29:37What's up?
29:38Nothing.
29:39You okay?
29:44What did you do today?
29:47I went into town to get you your things and then I went up the cable car.
29:51Cool, that's cool. That's good.
29:54You have fun?
29:55Yeah, it was nice.
29:57That's good.
29:59Was it nice to have some time apart from me?
30:01Yeah.
30:03It was good. You sleeping?
30:05Not yet.
30:06We can move soon.
30:08No, I'm fine. I need to get a shower and everything anyway.
30:12Here? Or at the campsite?
30:14In the back of the...
30:26What's wrong?
30:32Nothing.
30:55I have so much stress on my shoulders.
30:58I'm used to living on my own and living freely and going to bed when I want,
31:03taking a shower when I want.
31:06And now we're in a van and the bed is Statler's office.
31:13I have to think about her as well.
31:16It's hard to stay so positive when someone is being so negative.
31:21It does take its toll.
31:24What's really hitting me hard is that I thought that I had a partner in this,
31:28but I'm actually feeling quite alone.
31:32You can just drive straight to the campsite and go to sleep.
31:35I can put everything up if you want.
31:39Let me start putting things away.
31:41Dempsey's in tears and refusing to tell me what's going on.
31:45I, you know, am super in love with her and so I want this to work, ultimately.
31:51But my anxieties are being triggered and I'm wondering if she's also thinking
31:56that maybe our relationship won't survive.
32:00I'm just kind of in my head like, oh great, what's next?
32:11I know the woman from Vietnam.
32:14Your mother had doubts, so, you know, I dated.
32:22But you like her.
32:24Your daughter is going to try to ruin our marriage.
32:52I can feel that you're a little nervous.
32:55Yeah, I'm going to meet my new dad.
32:57What?
32:58My new dad.
33:00After all, I want to say that he's my mother's current husband.
33:03I want to say that he's also an important person to you.
33:08Yes.
33:09Of course he's important.
33:10Yes.
33:11But I hope he treats you well.
33:12Hi.
33:13Hi.
33:14Josh.
33:15Josh.
33:16Hi.
33:17How are you?
33:18Ni hao.
33:19Ni hao, ni hao, ni hao.
33:20Jared.
33:21Josh is a brother, Jared.
33:22Hi.
33:23Finally in person.
33:24Did you see the shopping?
33:25Clothes?
33:26Yeah, I just got a few things.
33:27Oh.
33:28It was cold today.
33:29Yeah.
33:30It was cold.
33:31It was cold.
33:32It was cold.
33:33It was cold.
33:34It was cold.
33:35It was cold.
33:36It was cold.
33:37It was cold.
33:38It was cold.
33:39It was cold.
33:40It was cold.
33:41It was cold.
33:42It was cold.
33:43It was cold today.
33:44Yeah.
33:45So cold.
33:46Tonight's the first night I'm meeting Lily's daughter, Vivian.
33:48I am a little nervous because Lily and Vivian are very close.
33:52And I don't know if Lily's telling her about her current arguments.
33:58We are just a little nervous.
34:02Nervous.
34:03Yes.
34:04Nervous.
34:05I'm nervous.
34:06You?
34:07Yeah.
34:08You're nervous?
34:09Yeah, yeah.
34:11Really?
34:13Yeah.
34:14So, is this your first time to China?
34:17Yes.
34:18What do you think?
34:19I'm glad I made that choice.
34:21I love it here.
34:23You love here or love my mom?
34:29I love your mom, of course.
34:32And that's why I want to stay.
34:34She's good.
34:35She's good.
34:36I know.
34:38I can imagine when you first heard this.
34:40You had a hundred questions.
34:42Yeah, of course.
34:44As time has gone by, do you feel more comfortable?
34:48Or do you still have a lot of questions for him?
34:56I still have a lot of questions.
34:59Because, no offense, but I know the woman from Vietnam.
35:05Yes.
35:06You know what I mean?
35:08Yeah.
35:10That's a question.
35:16So, what happened is, being long distance, your mother had doubts.
35:22So, we'd always have our arguments breaking up.
35:24So, it was on and off.
35:26And I didn't know if I would ever meet your mother in person.
35:30And I think I wanted that companionship.
35:34So, you know, I dated.
35:36But you lied to her.
35:38Well...
35:39Yeah, you said the woman is dead.
35:43Well, she was dead to me.
35:45Oh, okay, okay.
35:47So, she was dead to me.
35:49So, you're not lying.
35:51Well, yeah.
35:55Lily and I, we're always arguing.
35:57She was always breaking up.
35:58And I dated another woman.
36:01I posted a photo on my social media of me with the girl I was dating.
36:07When Lily and I got back together, she mentioned that photo.
36:11I did tell her that it was a girl from the past.
36:16And she's dead.
36:20And that's why I posted the photo.
36:22Just so I wouldn't get into all the drama.
36:26And I do regret that.
36:27That was wrong.
36:28I do regret that.
36:29That was wrong.
36:30But just wanted to move past that moment.
36:34That was when we weren't together.
36:36When I changed the profile picture.
36:37Yeah, yeah, yeah.
36:38Your mom was still dating the other American guy.
36:46She said no.
36:48You posted a photo before.
36:50Then I deleted you.
36:53When I deleted you, I have...
36:57I can't say new relationship.
36:58Translate it for me.
37:02She...
37:04She dated a new man.
37:07After she deleted me.
37:08Yeah, yeah, after.
37:09Yes, I know.
37:10That's why I was never upset.
37:11What upset me was, after we got back together,
37:14she still communicated with him.
37:27After I deleted Jia Shi,
37:29he sent me a message one day.
37:32We talked for a while.
37:34I felt like it was a good thing.
37:37I did want to confirm our relationship.
37:42But before we could formally confirm our relationship,
37:45Jia Shi added me.
37:47I've been with Jia Shi for a long time.
37:50So in the end, I put Tian Ping's weight on Jia Shi.
37:53In the end, I put Tian Ping's weight on Jia Shi.
37:55In the end, I chose Jia Shi.
37:57She didn't chat with ***
37:59when you got back together.
38:03Well, I saw messages.
38:04Why would she save them?
38:06Because I was romantic.
38:07I wrote,
38:08Oh, this is my dream.
38:10That's how she appeared in my dream.
38:13I wrote something like a novel.
38:15Then she found out.
38:17You thought it's not a message.
38:19It's her diary.
38:21Why were there new messages in the dating apps?
38:39Jia Shi,
38:40I think
38:41you are so, so terrible.
38:43I told you
38:45your daughter is going to try destroying our marriage.
38:48And I was correct.
38:51I'm not satisfied with you.
38:54And that's understandable.
38:56It's fine.
38:57But it doesn't matter what anybody thinks.
39:00If we focus on now and move forward.
39:03I tell you that every day.
39:05This is between me and her now.
39:07I know, but I think
39:08you're redirecting this.
39:11Vivian is the one who asked the question.
39:13Well, there is no relationship between me and her.
39:16Well, if you marry her mom,
39:18Well, of course we're related,
39:20but I don't care if she hates me or anything else.
39:24I just want a relationship with my wife.
39:27Josh, you could be a little more sensitive.
39:31And so can you.
39:33Oh, I am.
39:34When I disagree with you, you should welcome.
39:37Well, when I disagree with you,
39:39you should accept it as well.
39:41But you're disagreeing with everybody at this table.
39:44Well, it's the way it is.
39:46It's the way it is for you,
39:48but it's not how relationships work.
40:17This is between me and you.
40:19I don't give a crap about what
40:21anybody else is saying right now.
40:23What about us, our marriage?
40:34Yes, Friday.
40:36I think let's think.
40:38Let's think, uh...
40:44I'm so sad.
40:46I'm angry.
41:02I always forgive you,
41:04but this time I don't.
41:12Next time on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
41:15I love you.
41:16My sister, we're like best friends
41:18until a few years ago.
41:20You come to our life and then gonna steal my sister.
41:24After we had gotten engaged,
41:26Angel spread some pretty malicious lies about me.
41:29Uh, I don't trust you.
41:32Hi, Mom.
41:34So you're my son-in-law,
41:36and I'm just meeting you now.
41:39You plan on taking my daughter
41:41and my grandkids away from me?
41:43We have a lot of stuff to figure out.
41:45Don't you think you should have been
41:47figuring this out when you got married?
42:02So you're still going to continue the wedding tomorrow?
42:05I don't know.
42:06To be honest, I think...
42:10At which point did you become exclusive?
42:12Six months ago.
42:14We might have seen him with girls.
42:16She's seen you at bars talking to girls.
42:20Did she see me, like, making out on a dance floor?
42:23Were you?
42:31I don't know.
43:01I don't know.
43:31I don't know.
44:01They have done everything they can to improve their situation,
44:05but it will be extremely painful
44:07if they can only do one thing
44:10which is to cut off their relationship with their child.
44:15I was learning how to let go.
44:17A father shared,
44:18if I don't reject my life with this problem,
44:21that situation is like a sick relative.
44:24You're not willing to accept the death of that person.
44:27However, the daily pain is still there,
44:31while the normal events become the source of humiliation.
44:36What will the parents say
44:38when the grandmothers ask about their grandchildren?
44:41Because the parents admit to the counselors
44:48that they can't control their children at home,
44:51not to mention at school.
44:53It's really humiliating.
44:55Every incident is like a strong reminder
44:58of the failure of their most important experience
45:02in raising children.
45:04After all, the children don't care
45:07or worry about their parents' pain.
45:12When asked about their parents' pain,
45:15a boy replied,
45:17it's like a surgery.
45:19They have to live in pain,
45:21and that's their problem.
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