Aired (October 27, 2024): Sa panayam na ito, sasagutin ni Ai-Ai delas Alas ang mga katanungan tungkol sa kung sino siya bilang ina, at ano ang pagkakaiba ng kanyang paraan ng pagpapalaki sa kanyang mga anak kumpara sa pagpapalaki sa kanya ng kanyang mga ina.
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00:00But Nanny Justa is strict with men who are courting, but you became a boyfriend quite easily.
00:06Yes, because I'm a flirt.
00:08Because that's not allowed, right?
00:10Yes.
00:11But she's going to ban me, so it's like...
00:13And you're really subtle about what you're doing.
00:15Yes, I'm really subtle, father.
00:17Was there a point that you fought with Nanny Justa?
00:20No, but I wrote a long letter.
00:23Oh.
00:25I didn't speak.
00:26You didn't?
00:27I just cried.
00:28You wrote a letter?
00:29Yes, I wrote a long letter that seemed to have no effect.
00:33Did she physically hurt you?
00:35Yes.
00:36That's how physical a mother is when she's angry.
00:39How bad was it?
00:41It was bad.
00:42Because when I was in college, I was wearing a mask, father.
00:46And we had a play.
00:47Of course, we rehearsed.
00:49The auditorium of the F.E.U.
00:50For example, the auditorium here has a gate.
00:53But at night, around 8 or 9 or 10, it would close.
00:57The gate?
00:58So you're here at the gate and you're going out.
01:00And she's waiting here.
01:02So she thought I was lying that we had a rehearsal.
01:05Because that's where I came from.
01:07I lied to her that I didn't go out here.
01:10My mother was really angry.
01:12She said I lied.
01:13Why am I here at night?
01:15She's been there for a long time.
01:17When I got home, she gave me a badminton racket.
01:21It was broken.
01:23The head was there.
01:24The racket was here.
01:26It was like that.
01:27Okay.
01:28Madir got mad.
01:29Then she kissed me.
01:32She kissed me.
01:34Madir got mad.
01:36What did she kiss you in Japan?
01:38She kissed me in Japan.
01:40She kissed me on the head.
01:42She kissed me.
01:43I thought you were going to Japan.
01:44No.
01:45Just a light kiss.
01:48To lessen the impact.
01:50To lessen the impact.
01:51Okay.
01:52Madir kissed me.
01:53She got mad.
01:55You resented that?
01:56Of course.
01:57She got mad at me.
01:58Because she brought ice.
01:59Because she hit me on the head.
02:02So she brought the ice.
02:04Yes, she brought the ice.
02:05She apologized.
02:06In a different way.
02:08Without having to verbalize it.
02:11Why didn't I think of that?
02:13Don't you understand?
02:16I'm not your mother.
02:18I'm not you, son.
02:21I'm not you.
02:25Son.
02:26How long did it take for you to accept that you were adopted?
02:33Or did you ever accept that?
02:37I think I accepted it.
02:39But what I couldn't accept was when she scolded me.
02:42And when she hit me.
02:44When she hurt me.
02:46It always came to the back of my mind.
02:49Maybe if I was with my mother, she wouldn't hit me.
02:52Something like that.
02:53That's when you came back?
02:54Yes.
02:55When I was in Grade 4.
02:57I had a low grade.
02:59I wasn't in the top 10.
03:04Usually, I'm in the top 10.
03:05Wow.
03:06Intelligent.
03:07Usually, I'm in the top 10.
03:09She got mad.
03:10She said,
03:12If you don't study, I'll send you back to Kalatagan.
03:15I was hurt.
03:17She did something to my heart when I was a kid.
03:20Grade 4.
03:21And she said that to the back of my mind.
03:25Why am I here?
03:26I'm supposed to be in Kalatagan.
03:28Why are you telling me that I'm supposed to go there?
03:33Is that it?
03:35If my grade drops, you're going to send me back to my mother?
03:39Something like that.
03:40Because of that, Aileen,
03:41were you careful in letting your kids speak?
03:46Having come from that experience.
03:48When I was angry,
03:50when I was high-blooded,
03:51I didn't use my words.
03:55I didn't sugarcoat it.
03:58Okay.
03:59Because that's what you hear.
04:00Yes.
04:01What you hear.
04:02It hurts.
04:03It hurts to speak to your mother.
04:06I'm like that when I'm angry.
04:09You know that.
04:10It hurts to speak.
04:11But what's the difference?
04:13Do you apologize?
04:14Do you explain?
04:15Yes, I apologize.
04:16And I explain after.
04:18Why I said that.
04:19I always apologize.
04:22And I meet them.
04:23You told me that.
04:24That was not done by Nanay Justa.
04:26Yes.
04:27You said it's a different love language.
04:29It's a different love language.
04:31What kind of mother are you because of your Nanay Justa?
04:36She's strict.
04:38But my love language is money, gifts.
04:42Like Nanay Justa?
04:44Yes.
04:45I'm always on taping.
04:47We go to the mall.
04:48If they want something, I'll buy it.
04:51What did you change?
04:53Did you make a deliberate change in raising you?
04:59In raising your child.
05:01Yes, communication.
05:03We're open.
05:05If she's sick, you tell me.
05:06If she has a problem, you tell me.
05:08Because I don't speak to Justa.
05:11Because I'm afraid of her.
05:13And she doesn't like men.
05:14I'm not allowed to court her.
05:16How can I communicate with her?
05:18Like, Mom, I have a crush on this person.
05:20Nothing like that.
05:44You