Therapy Thursday 8-6-20
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00:00Therapy Thursday. Now on Wild 94.1. I understand therapy. Hi everybody. Hi Dr. Nick. It's Therapy Thursday where we give our lean towards the mental health professionals out there and do our community service.
00:15This is where we give you 60 second sessions of brilliance. That's all we can really pull off. Fake it and flogging. We just pretty much make it happen. And you can hit us up 888-429-0941. Whether it's Dr. Davi, Meredith MD, Orlando BGYN, we will give you the best business we can. Let's see here. We actually got a call in Meredith MD. You in? You taking calls yet? I'm ready. All right. Let's see. Taylor is on the phone. Hey Taylor, how you doing? Hi guys. First time caller.
00:43Hey, first time caller. First time caller. Welcome to the freak show, Taylor. Let's see. You are on with Meredith MD. What is your question for Therapy Thursday?
00:53Hi Meredith. So I've been trying to get pregnant for a long time and I'm about 10 weeks right now. I'm trying to be excited, but I'm absolutely miserable and I'm trying not to show everybody that I'm miserable.
01:09Why are you miserable? What do I do? I'm getting sick all the time. I'm exhausted. I'm crying all the time.
01:16All those hormones, they hit you every single second of every day, especially in the first trimester. Have you told everybody obviously that you're pregnant yet?
01:24Um, I've told my family and my coworkers and they're all, you know, trying to tell me that pregnancy is a miracle and everything's great, but I'm, I'm miserable.
01:35I gotcha. Okay. So yes, you're miserable now, but within the next three weeks, maybe four weeks or sooner, it's really going to get better.
01:44Um, the second trimester, I've done this before you get all your energy back. Um, you're not falling asleep in your car anymore. Cause I remember I would try to go to the gym legit on our, on our work break.
01:56And I would try to go to the gym and I would just pass out in my car, right there in the car, sleeping, sleeping. And it would happen to me all the time, uh, trying not to throw up.
02:04So listen, take a day by day. You're doing a great job. You're doing amazing. What your body is going through. It's, um, it's making you suffer. So the baby can put, have all that beautiful effort and grow.
02:16So it's making you sick, but within the next couple of weeks, you're going to feel so much better. Seriously. You will. The second trimester is fantastic. Now the end of the third trimester, that's when you'll start to feel bad again, but, um, just get through this rough patch.
02:28I'm telling you it, uh, you'll, you'll see the light at the end of the time. Can I ask Taylor a question real quick? Taylor, do you think you mentioned that you tried to get pregnant for a long time? Do you think maybe there's a sense of not believe in it or you don't want to get your hopes up? Do you think there's a sense of that going on with you?
02:46Uh, definitely. Maybe that could be part of it too. It's more like you're depressed maybe about certain situations that have happened in the past and then you're feeling sick. So it kind of combines together. You're not really feeling that good right now.
02:58Well, yeah, it's like, I'm trying to be not scared, but I'm like, Hey, this is the miracle, you know?
03:05Well, you know what though? And, and don't, don't, don't even make it so, um, uh, unpersonal. Like just far as the miracle, you know, this is what you've been looking for and just think somebody is going to call you mom.
03:15Somebody is going to benefit your relationship with them is going to be beneficial from this whole struggle that you're going through. Um, so this is that part that you have to like dig down and say, this is for me fighting for my kid.
03:28And, and, and, and keep your mentality strong. Cause during this time you can fall into a depression and, and that's a rough part of it. So the keeping positive is a, is a plus.
03:38It's worth the pain and the struggle because you'll look back on this and be like, Oh my gosh, that happened so fast. But when you're in it, it feels like it lasts such a long time.
03:46Forever.
03:47Yes.
03:48So you'll be good, Taylor. You're doing just as well as everybody else will be doing. So don't think you're being different. Okay.
03:53Okay. Thanks guys. You're doing a great job. Get going. That's what's up.
03:57It's tough. Pregnancy sucks. Sometimes we got one for you, Orlando, out of the seven to seven. It says, Orlando, my question for therapy Thursday is how do you feel about slash manage your daughters and social media?
04:08Um, let's see. I, I don't manage it. Their mom, um, does that. And she pretty much does. I mean, it was, it started with them not really being aware of it. And she just kind of handled everything and put managed by mom type on thing on there.
04:26Yeah, that's good. And now it's pretty much just for the people who reach out to them professionally or for like dance or something like that. Then they know to reach out to their mom. Um, but they have friends who have Instagram and stuff and their friends, right? And they write them back. And that's being able to be monitored by their mom too. So, um, I kind of trust her with it. I, um, I, I don't look at their monitoring as much because their mom,
04:56is monitoring it. So if I see something that's posted nine times out of 10, she's posted it. So I don't reach out and have to say, Hey, take that down. Or, Hey, I don't feel that because I know it came from their mom. Same way. If I post up something and my daughter likes it, I'm like, I don't know if my daughter liked it. That's probably their mom, you know, cause she controls it. So it's not an extension of the kid yet. If you have somebody managing it and, and handling it. And I will say it's a, it's people of Pennsylvania.
05:26about doing it. Um, but I know Carlos Diaz who used to do extra, uh, at eight with us and all time, long time friend of the show. Uh, he has launched Instagram, uh, pages for his son Dacio. Cause his son Dacio is killing it at golf right now. And he's able to be marketed by golf companies and stuff. So they needed a hub of all of his videos. So it's not bad to do it. It's not bad at all. Just be cautious. Be cautious. For sure. That's all. Who, who is this? What is this? It says we need to do a segment.
05:55What is this? Oh yeah. Um, we have a woman on the phone that you want us to do a segment. What is that?
06:01A segment where you call deadbeat dads and you ask them why they're being deadbeat dads for their children.
06:06Like call them on the phone. Yeah. Oh God. Ask them why they're being deadbeat.
06:11I don't know why you call my ex-husband right now. Or he's still my husband, but literally my son just went to the house and knocked on the door where he lived out with his 30 year old girlfriend who he cheated on me with.
06:19Oh. And he wouldn't even answer the door for our son. And it makes me want to kick the door in and just cause havoc.
06:26And you're sure he's at the house? Oh, I'm positive he's at the house. He doesn't go to work until later. His car is there. He's there.
06:33So he's just not answering with his kid knocking? Wow. Yep. Yep. Yep. Wow.
06:39I filed a motion yesterday with the court saying that I won't give him shared parenting time because I won't let our kids sleep over at his girlfriend's apartment.
06:46Which every day, and I have thousands of text messages saying every single day, do you want to see your kids? Do you want to take the kids?
06:52I'm that different mom. I want him to be a father. I don't care about the money. I'm like the exception to the rule.
06:57Be a dad. I don't want our kids to be a statistic. I don't want our kids to grow up having issues.
07:02I want you to be an active dad. And our son's knocking on the door at 8.30 in the morning and you're not answering the door?
07:10What the f***? Who does that? Literally, who does that?
07:14No, I mean, that's heartbreaker right there. I'm sorry.
07:18She's been dealing with this for a while.
07:20That's frustrating. I'm sorry. That's embarrassing. That's embarrassing for her.
07:26Because this woman is 30, has no kids, offers him nothing, and here I am, 46 years old.
07:32I have everything. I gave birth to our twins 12 years ago and even had a heart attack and died during the delivery of our twins.
07:39I literally passed away and was on life support for two days and in the hospital for two weeks in ICU to give birth to our twins.
07:48And then after that, they cut my kidney and I had to get kidney repair 17 months later.
07:54So this is my life and the things that I would do for my children a million times over.
07:58And I can't even get you to answer the door when our 12-year-old's knocking on the door to talk to you before he goes to the gym with his mother.
08:04Like, really? Like, that's so heartbreaking for our kids.
08:08No, that is. I mean, you would hope that, you know, whatever he is going through or whatever shortcoming is going to be like a phase.
08:17Like, I mean, something that he can grow out of and get out of it fast enough to be effective in his kid's life.
08:23Because not answering the door is going to leave an impression that's going to stick with him for a while.
08:27So he's got some time to correct it, but he's got to get on the right side of it soon.
08:32So, I mean, the lucky part is that your son has you and more as a constant for him.
08:38And that's an incredible thing because if your father or your one parent is falling short, having somebody who can be there for him on the other side is a great compensation.
08:47So at least be proud of that.
08:50He's never been a good father.
08:51He has an 18-year-old daughter who I raised, and now he wants to be a dad that she's 18 in the Army.
08:56Now he's a dad because he doesn't have to be a dad anymore.
08:58He doesn't have to be a parent.
09:00He doesn't have to pay child support or give her any emotional support.
09:03She's 18 and she's in the Army.
09:04He just has to answer the phone and be like, I have a daughter in the Army.
09:07Look at me wearing my cool shirt.
09:09You know, which he had nothing to do with.
09:11That was me.
09:12That was all me.
09:13And he doesn't have a good relationship with an ex because I was married before, and my first ex-husband and I are best friends.
09:19His wife and I are best friends.
09:20We go on vacations together.
09:23We stay at each other's homes.
09:25I'm from New Jersey originally.
09:26I go to Jersey.
09:27I stay there.
09:27They come here.
09:28They stay with us.
09:29So you can have a good, healthy relationship with somebody that you used to be in a relationship with and have children with.
09:36It's possible.
09:37I hear you.
09:38Absolutely.
09:38I agree.
09:39I agree.
09:40To be somebody that's younger and has no kids, that's the thing.
09:42She has no children and does not.
09:44She comes from a broken family as well.
09:47She doesn't have a good relationship with her father at all.
09:50And that fastens me too because I'm a female.
09:52My father is my best friend.
09:53I can't imagine not having a relationship with my dad or a woman not having a relationship with their father.
09:59To me, you've got to be the lowest form of life if you have a good parent and you don't have the relationship with them.
10:03That's just my opinion.
10:05Because there's nothing I can do that my dad would ever stop talking to me.
10:08Literally nothing.
10:09I hope it gets better.
10:10I mean, all this is really good ammunition to, like I said, be able to be that effective parent.
10:16So that's an awesome thing.
10:18It's really hard.
10:19I'm sure it is.
10:20But just keep doing what you're doing and that's what you can control.
10:25Hopefully he catches up to your greatness.
10:27All right?
10:27So I do appreciate you checking in.
10:29I hope we put at least a little perspective on it, at least let you get it out a little bit.
10:34But, you know, it's Therapy Thursday, so we want to try and help as many people as possible.
10:40But, yeah, we can't air him out like you want it.
10:42But I think karma is going to air him out in the long run.
10:45Okay?
10:45I hope so.
10:46Thank you guys so much.
10:47I appreciate it.
10:48No problem.
10:49All right.
10:49Those kids are lucky to have him.
10:51Wow.
10:51I got some more therapy for y'all if y'all ready to keep killing it.
10:55We can keep therapy in.
10:56You keep ready.
10:56This one is for Meredith or O.
11:00All right.
11:00Take it, Meredith.
11:01Okay.
11:01I just took Mama Yum Yum talk over here.
11:03Okay.
11:04All right.
11:04Here we go.
11:05It says, I am a bisexual man that is basically being forced into a heterosexual relationship.
11:11Who's forcing you?
11:12Because I have a kid.
11:14I am not happy.
11:16She is always mad about something.
11:18I lean more towards men because the vibe is better.
11:21But I love kids and I want more.
11:23I am so torn.
11:25Well, I mean, there's different options for you.
11:27You can be with a man and adopt.
11:29I mean, there's plenty of options out there for you.
11:31If you don't like being with a woman, you don't have to be with a woman.
11:35You will have to associate with a woman in the future because you have a kid with one.
11:39Yeah.
11:39You got at least 18 years.
11:40Exactly.
11:41And by the way, I mean, try to make that relationship as sweet as possible.
11:45And I know it's difficult.
11:47It's difficult because you're dealing with, I don't know, a lot of issues at the moment.
11:51Because you ain't a man.
11:52But you know, yeah, she can't grow that part on her.
11:55So go find somebody that makes you happy, whether you're bisexual or not.
12:00If you're with somebody that doesn't make you happy, you don't have to be stuck in that relationship.
12:04It doesn't sound like they're married.
12:06You know, you can make sure a kid's taken care of, make sure she's okay.
12:10But go and live your life.
12:11Go find a man that you want to be with.
12:13Yeah.
12:13You can't force yourself into that situation.
12:17For real.
12:17That's never going to work out.
12:19Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
12:20Yeah, be true to yourself.
12:23Ah, that was record timing right there.
12:27I mean, that's kind of, once you say that you ain't on that team no more, it's kind of limited on what you can say.
12:32Yeah, you're close.
12:33He's on both teams.
12:34Well, I mean, not really.
12:35Right now, he said, I'm done.
12:37I'm ready to tap out and move on.
12:38He said, I am a bisexual man.
12:41Right.
12:41He didn't say I'm a gay man.
12:42But he's a bisexual man.
12:44That doesn't want to be with women.
12:45That don't want to be with a woman no more than he's with.
12:47I think the problem is the woman that he's with.
12:49I think it's her.
12:51Maybe it's easy for him to be with a guy right now.
12:53Try that.
12:54Who knows?
12:55Wow.
12:55All right.
12:56Let's see here.
12:56We got Joe on the line.
12:58Joe, you got Dr. Davi.
12:59What you got?
13:01Good morning, guys.
13:02How y'all doing?
13:03We're doing good.
13:04Joe, what's good?
13:05Man, 100 times caller one.
13:07100 times caller.
13:08I need a little therapy action on this Thursday.
13:13Okay, so we got masks on, right?
13:16Yeah.
13:16Everybody's wearing masks.
13:18You don't want no spittle going this way, whatever.
13:21How about when it comes to getting down and dirty with the SEX?
13:26Like, people ain't worried about putting their mouths other way, but you want to put your
13:32mouth behind a mask.
13:34That's true.
13:35That's all good.
13:36You can't casually date out there in this world and be swatted.
13:40It's not the casual time.
13:40Yeah.
13:41You can't be exchanging fluids that way.
13:43Okay, so what do you tell the chicks?
13:46Oh, you a single man?
13:47You got something like myself?
13:49What do you tell them when they want you to come through and bless them?
13:51How?
13:52How do you tell them no?
13:53How do you tell them I still like you, I still love you, whatever the case may be?
13:57But I ain't coming through right now.
14:01Without losing them.
14:02You know what I'm saying?
14:03Without losing them.
14:04Because if you don't show a woman affection, they kind of, you know, stretches away.
14:10Don't get mad.
14:10Yeah, they do.
14:11They do.
14:12Dr. Davi, what you got?
14:13Okay, so I think there's a lot here.
14:16One of the main things is be careful.
14:18And if you're just kind of with like one person, then you're pretty much being careful.
14:24You know what they've been doing.
14:26I don't think abstinence is what we're calling for.
14:29I think it's...
14:30Davi's against that.
14:31Yeah, I'm against abstinence.
14:32He is totally against abstinence.
14:33But I think now more than ever is the time to be cautious, really protect yourself.
14:41And like, I wouldn't be on Tinder swiping right right now if I was like, you know what I'm saying?
14:47I don't think right now is the time to be like extra promiscuous.
14:49So if there was ever like cuffing season, I think Corona is bringing like its own version of cuffing season.
14:54You find that one or maybe two people that you can have in your room.
14:58No, you just messed it up, doctor.
15:00I mean, we're being realistic here.
15:02Your lab coat is getting smudged.
15:04You got to know your audience.
15:06Let the doctor speak.
15:08So I think now is the time to be very limited with your interactions with people.
15:15Be careful.
15:16Do your due diligence.
15:18Don't stop altogether.
15:20But like, you know...
15:21Two of them.
15:22How are you being careful with two chicks?
15:24Don't do more than two.
15:25Meredith, be quiet.
15:26Joe is listening.
15:27Who is that?
15:28Meredith, this is not your appointment.
15:33Just asking.
15:34Thank you very much.
15:34Much love, y'all.
15:35I appreciate you, Joe, man.
15:38You just got to keep it real with the people, man.
15:40With the peeps?
15:41With the people.
15:42But you know what, though?
15:43It is true because having one person is cool, but you have to unequivocally know what that person is into.
15:49Right.
15:50If they still date an ex-boyfriend.
15:52Right.
15:52And their ex-boyfriend got a new girlfriend.
15:54And she dating two people.
15:54And she work at a germy massage parlor or something.
15:58Just the whole pathogen control, the whole transfer.
16:04However, it'll make it to you.
16:06Share one gross person.
16:08He's talking about two.
16:10I know.
16:10It's too much.
16:10But I'm saying...
16:11Mr. Pandemic over here.
16:13If you were like...
16:14If you had a bigger rotation, if you had like a 10-person rotation...
16:18You know, it's not in the Rona.
16:20But that's what I'm saying.
16:21Back in the day...
16:22So now you can't go from that big squad to one.
16:25Damn, we said back in the day, and that was like four months ago.
16:27That's what I'm saying.
16:28That's sad.
16:28Four months ago.
16:29Just be realistic.
16:29Four months ago, you could have had a team.
16:31You can't do that now.
16:32There'll be Thursdays of rap, people.
16:34Commercial-free me.