முடிவுகள் எடுக்க தயங்கும் வயதா 40 + ? | Dr. Poorna Chandrika | HTT
முடிவுகள் எடுக்க தயங்கும் வயதா 40 + ? | Dr. Poorna Chandrika | HTT
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00:00 You must have seen many times, 5-6 people in the park, enjoying and smiling.
00:05 And exercise.
00:06 In the marathons, when you see good aged people with good fitness,
00:10 with good running speed,
00:13 you feel like, "Oh, it's okay, we should also be that age."
00:17 So, we should go to the age where we feel this desire.
00:22 Likewise, the elders in our home should also have that kind of
00:25 beautiful, good physical and mental health.
00:30 It's our duty.
00:31 Next is an important thing for us women.
00:44 Our career, our identity, who we are.
00:49 We look back at ourselves at the age of 40,
00:53 we wonder what we have done, what we are doing, what we are going to do.
00:59 A father is a big identity for all women.
01:04 Most of the time.
01:06 A mother likes her father, a mother likes her husband.
01:10 How would a father like that have brought us up?
01:13 Let's leave the current generation.
01:15 It's our time.
01:16 Because, when it comes to women who are 40 or 50 years old,
01:19 we will study how to become like that.
01:22 At the same time, when we have to do something,
01:27 we say "No".
01:28 I see so many women,
01:30 I see women in the medical field.
01:32 When I ask them, "Why didn't you do this post?"
01:35 "No, no, I got married at that time, I had a child.
01:39 I couldn't see that post, so I didn't take it, so I said no."
01:44 So, I still say, "No" even if I get a big promotion in this field.
01:52 There are so many women in this field.
01:54 That sacrifice, we are standing there after overcoming all that.
01:58 There are so many sacrifices in that travel.
02:03 So many mental problems.
02:05 Sometimes, my husband has gone somewhere for a promotion.
02:07 I have to go with him, leave that job and travel with him.
02:12 I have traveled with my husband and now I am standing here.
02:15 Then, a life that is in demand of the wishes of the father and mother.
02:19 If that life is well, I will be happy.
02:21 Sometimes, it is not well.
02:23 Unstable addiction.
02:25 That is also a part of the addiction.
02:27 Many people say that you have a husband and wife relationship.
02:29 You have some sort of a desire.
02:31 There are some women like that.
02:33 There are many women who are in this life for the sake of their child.
02:37 When I ask them, "What do you say to them?"
02:41 When I ask them, "Who am I?"
02:43 When I look back, I wonder why sometimes I feel like that.
02:46 Why don't they take a decision?
02:48 I know what the problem is.
02:50 I know that this is the solution.
02:52 Why don't they take a decision?
02:54 Why are you still in that life?
02:56 I have read and heard this somewhere.
03:00 All the women have grown up.
03:04 A beautiful bird that is going to fly with its wings spread wide.
03:08 Cutting, cutting, cutting, cutting, cutting the wings.
03:12 The wings are not able to spread.
03:14 There is a desire to spread.
03:16 There is a desire to spread.
03:18 There is a barrier.
03:20 Even if the wings are cut,
03:22 the bird has to fly.
03:24 It takes time.
03:26 But at that age,
03:28 at the age of 40,
03:30 we have tried so much.
03:32 We have tried everything.
03:34 What is there to do more than this?
03:36 We have tried.
03:38 This marriage is our
03:40 body, soul, and everything.
03:42 We have tried.
03:44 We cannot do it.
03:46 It is time to take a decision.
03:48 It is time to make a decision.
03:50 Let's look at another example.
03:52 When we go to school,
03:54 they ask, "Nirmala Amma, Vimala Amma."
03:56 No one knows our name.
03:58 We know that we are the mother of this child.
04:00 When we go to school,
04:02 even the teachers didn't have the opportunity to know our name.
04:04 They don't know our name.
04:06 They don't know our name.
04:08 They don't know our name.
04:10 They see us as a symbol of our child.
04:12 We grow up as their mother.
04:14 We grow up as their mother.
04:16 When we grow up,
04:18 we don't have a place to go to school.
04:20 What do we do next?
04:22 Another example is
04:24 my co-worker.
04:26 When I was talking to many people,
04:28 he said,
04:30 "I cannot take these decisions
04:32 because of some things that I was brought up with.
04:34 I cannot take these decisions because of some things that I was brought up with.
04:36 When I was brought up,
04:38 I was in the first rank of my class.
04:40 When I was in the first rank,
04:42 I had to stand outside my house
04:44 until 3 in the morning.
04:46 I had to stand outside my house
04:48 because I felt bad about it."
04:50 I asked him,
04:52 "How is he now?"
04:54 He said, "He is still in the first rank.
04:56 He still says that I am not doing the right thing.
04:58 But I am doing this
05:00 for my satisfaction."
05:02 So, we have to go through
05:04 many experiences and feelings
05:06 and stand up now.
05:08 and stand up now.
05:10 I like this.
05:12 I like this job.
05:14 You may not like it.
05:16 Don't compare me with others.
05:18 I am going to take a decision now.
05:20 Let it be now.
05:22 You may feel like you are leaving the marriage
05:24 because you don't like the marriage life.
05:26 I would have had a career break.
05:28 Let it be a decision to start the career again.
05:30 Let it be a decision to start the career again.
05:32 There will be some opposition in everything.
05:34 You have to take it as a decision
05:36 that can be taken beyond the opposition.
05:38 Don't feel like you are old.
05:40 Don't feel like you are old.
05:42 Show your youth again.
05:44 Because it is always mental age.
05:46 Even though my biological age is this much,
05:48 they say, "I feel young."
05:50 They say, "I feel young."
05:52 Thank you.
05:54 The position we are going to see today
05:56 is a very important position.
05:58 Everyone can say,
06:00 "Yes, it is true."
06:02 "Yes, it is true."
06:04 "Yes, it is true."
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