Married at First Sight UK Season 9 Episode 21
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00:00:00What were the cats dragged in?
00:00:04Previously...
00:00:05Jesus Christ, that was f***ing atrocious.
00:00:07After Hannah faced the wrath of the group...
00:00:09F*** her. You've rubbed me the f***ing wrong way now.
00:00:14One groom offered a welcome distraction.
00:00:17I've got 24 hours to enjoy myself.
00:00:20But it was an indiscreet proposition from Stephen...
00:00:22So you find Sean unattractive?
00:00:24Oh, she's my type. Do something to help me.
00:00:27That prompted outrage.
00:00:29Stephen said, if Ryan doesn't turn up tonight,
00:00:31I'm going to shoot myself.
00:00:32I'm all for it.
00:00:34Stephen has definitely broke my code.
00:00:36And Polly's attempts at damage control...
00:00:39I'm sorry. I'm f***ing sorry, Adam. There you go.
00:00:42..fell short of Adam's expectations.
00:00:45It's a fake sorry. I don't cut it.
00:00:47The stuff that he said about me is f***ing hurtful.
00:00:54Tonight...
00:00:55I want to spend the rest of my life with you.
00:00:58She's finally seeing who I actually am.
00:01:01The impact of the retreat hits home.
00:01:03I felt betrayed. My head's been scrambled.
00:01:06It almost felt like sex was a sales pitch.
00:01:08Pushing some marriages...
00:01:10This is going to be hard to hear.
00:01:11This is why I prepare myself for the worst.
00:01:14..to breaking points.
00:01:15At that moment, I knew I could not stand him.
00:01:19Just, like, squeezing blood from a stone.
00:01:22Were you trying to make Stephen jealous?
00:01:24You can't make a guy jealous of you that doesn't give a f*** about you.
00:01:26Why do I want to even speak to this girl?
00:01:27But it's a shocking revelation.
00:01:29Have they not been sneakily kissing?
00:01:32They've what?
00:01:33You consider what you did an act of infidelity?
00:01:36That delivers the biggest blow of the evening.
00:01:39She deserves to know.
00:01:40I think it's bullshit.
00:01:42Snake.
00:01:43Hannah, zip it.
00:01:44Don't tell me to shut up.
00:01:45You're a sly guy.
00:01:47You're talking f***ing shit.
00:01:48It is very clear that this relationship is done.
00:01:58Is that, I love you, or is it just love?
00:02:00It's not either and I'm up to you, don't you point it.
00:02:05Wouldn't you just say, I love you?
00:02:08Oh, dear!
00:02:10As the couple settle back into apartment life...
00:02:13Do you mind coming to help me?
00:02:15You haven't ever done this before, have you?
00:02:17Yes, I do, all the time.
00:02:19..they're reflecting on their time away.
00:02:23The retreat down Haskerd, because, obviously,
00:02:25a lot of the other couples weren't getting on,
00:02:28it just makes you realise what you do have.
00:02:30Mm.
00:02:31We've come back and I feel cured.
00:02:35And now that we're understanding each other better,
00:02:38I don't see us clashing as much.
00:02:40I'd say we're in a good place now,
00:02:41the best place we've ever been in.
00:02:45The retreat was really nice, wasn't it?
00:02:47Yeah, it was.
00:02:48It was lovely.
00:02:50The retreat was really nice, wasn't it?
00:02:52Definitely.
00:02:53Me and Kieran, we had a lovely time at the retreat.
00:02:57It's really difficult being around me when I have PMDD,
00:03:02but we are in a good place and he's been really supportive.
00:03:07The bumps that we have, like, we can sort it out.
00:03:12I'm just pleased, like, we're actually speaking.
00:03:15Speaking to men, not even speaking.
00:03:18Oh, no.
00:03:31I do feel like me and Adam still have some things to resolve.
00:03:34I shouldn't have said I'd twist with Stephen on the retreat.
00:03:38I hold my hands up, I **** up,
00:03:40but he isn't understanding my point
00:03:43and why I said the comment that I made.
00:03:46And, unfortunately, I feel like the Stephen comment,
00:03:49it was a step back, wasn't it?
00:03:51It felt like a bit of a kick in the teeth, you know what I mean?
00:03:54Yeah, but there's been stuff that you've said
00:03:56that's been a huge kick in the teeth for me.
00:03:58I was fuming, not going to lie.
00:04:01He disrespected me, made me look muggy in front of all the other girls.
00:04:05I have done one thing, one,
00:04:08whereas you've done multiple little things.
00:04:11I know, and that's what was annoying me at the dinner party
00:04:14because the things I've done, we've kind of got past and got over,
00:04:17so at the dinner table, for you to be saying to me,
00:04:20but you did this, you did that...
00:04:22I wouldn't say that's fair to say.
00:04:24I wouldn't say that they have been gotten over.
00:04:26We're just going to argue if we keep talking about it.
00:04:28I think we just need to forget it.
00:04:32I don't really know where me and Polly stand at the moment.
00:04:35Going into the commitment ceremony,
00:04:37I've got a really hard decision to make.
00:04:40We're kind of just waiting for me to either get over this comment
00:04:43or move on.
00:04:49We've had a pretty good week.
00:04:51We've had a really good week, best week we've had in ages.
00:04:54We've had a snog.
00:04:56We've, you know, tested the waters there.
00:04:59It was almost like you went, I'm leaning in,
00:05:01it's got to be everything all at once.
00:05:03For me, it moved really quickly in a week.
00:05:07Sorry!
00:05:10I think the retreat's been really good for Emma and I,
00:05:13but you look at other couples in the process
00:05:15and they're falling in love
00:05:17and they've got these really strong relationships.
00:05:19So we know we've made progress, but have we made enough progress?
00:05:23I'm not sure is the answer.
00:05:29I felt like the retreat would be for us to go and listen to the birds
00:05:32chirping, go for walks. We did none of that.
00:05:34All we did, I felt, I felt, was we sat,
00:05:37consoled Hannah with her tantrums and, you know, her issues.
00:05:41And, oh, this and, oh, Stephen, that, Stephen,
00:05:43just get on with it. Like, she drained me.
00:05:45I'm sorry, but Hannah drained me.
00:05:47She sucked the fun out of me,
00:05:49from the morning till the evening, till the good night.
00:05:52I can feel that you're stressed. Yeah.
00:05:56So we moved back into the apartment. Obviously, Stephen isn't here.
00:05:59He doesn't even have any of his stuff here.
00:06:01He hasn't spent a night in the apartment.
00:06:04In my heart, I'm like, come on, let's just try. We've got this.
00:06:07I don't feel like I've had the opportunity to be a wife.
00:06:12I still care about the boy.
00:06:14I don't just wake up and not give a crap.
00:06:16I don't feel like I've had the opportunity to be a wife.
00:06:19I still care about the boy.
00:06:21I don't just wake up and not give a crap.
00:06:23I don't just wake up and not give a crap about someone.
00:06:26There is still some care there.
00:06:28I loved the guy I married.
00:06:30And I am gutted.
00:06:32I have tried and tried and tried from day one.
00:06:34I've kept my ring on.
00:06:36I've told everyone I've still got a husband.
00:06:38I'm proud of how I've held my own.
00:06:40I'm proud... Oh!
00:06:45I can't rub my make-up. I'm going to the thing.
00:06:48I'm proud of myself. I'm proud of how I've held myself.
00:06:51And I've tried my best.
00:06:53And sometimes you take a risk and it doesn't pay off.
00:06:56And...
00:06:59..I tried. And that's all you can do.
00:07:03Fuck.
00:07:12That Stephen is here for the wrong reason.
00:07:15I just wish you could have seen my reaction when Holly told me.
00:07:18The minute we have a tiff,
00:07:20she's trying to jump in.
00:07:22Embarrassing, isn't it? Embarrassing.
00:07:24Like, he's shown himself up massively.
00:07:26He blatantly lied.
00:07:28Do you know what? I've kept my cool with him.
00:07:30But this man thinks he's better than what he is.
00:07:33I do not understand where he thought
00:07:36he was going to ever shoot a shot with me.
00:07:39Like, I'd have shot him right back down, and you know that.
00:07:43I have a few things to get off my chest today
00:07:45at the commitment ceremony.
00:07:47I do know that something went down at the retreat
00:07:49between Orson and Hannah.
00:07:54He literally wants to stay in the process
00:07:56by any means necessary.
00:07:58I thought he had a little bit more shame than this.
00:08:01But clearly he doesn't.
00:08:03So he's shown himself.
00:08:06I've lost so many people.
00:08:08I've lost my family.
00:08:11I've lost so many brain cells since being married to Orson.
00:08:14I'm actually a little bit embarrassed that I married him.
00:08:18I actually pity him a little bit.
00:08:21Pity the fool.
00:08:32I have no idea if Rochelle's going to turn up today.
00:08:35She didn't turn up for the dinner party.
00:08:37She didn't turn up for the mix-up.
00:08:39She didn't turn up for this relationship.
00:08:42But there's rumours knocking about,
00:08:45and I would want Rochelle to come and sit and say her piece.
00:08:51Because I'm ready for her.
00:09:10Welcome, everyone, to your fourth commitment ceremony.
00:09:14Look at the person next to you.
00:09:18And think about what they're giving you,
00:09:21and you're giving them.
00:09:24Today, we want you to lay it all out on the table.
00:09:29We want you to lay it all out on the table.
00:09:33We want you to lay it all out on the table.
00:09:36We want you to lay it all out on the table.
00:09:41No secrets, no shame.
00:09:47Now, with that in mind, let's begin.
00:09:52First up on the couch today is...
00:09:56Holly and Alex.
00:09:58Hello.
00:10:05Hello.
00:10:07And quite the different couple sitting on the couch.
00:10:10We did a free sex day.
00:10:12Wow, you did?
00:10:14Holly, one of the things we talked about with you
00:10:18was addressing those issues as they come up in the moment
00:10:21rather than allowing them to percolate.
00:10:23How's that been going for you this week?
00:10:25A lot better.
00:10:26Right.
00:10:27The only way we could progress is if I let him in.
00:10:30The things I struggle with and my triggers and my traumas.
00:10:33And he was like, I get it.
00:10:35And he just held me and was like, I got you, it's OK, let it out.
00:10:39And thank God I bloody did.
00:10:42He understood.
00:10:44And the next day, I woke up and I thought,
00:10:46I could go and run a marathon.
00:10:48That feels so light.
00:10:50It's just an amazing feeling just to know that, like,
00:10:53she's finally seeing who I actually am.
00:10:56You talked to me and you tried it and it worked.
00:11:00Good work.
00:11:02Wow, so how has this conversation changed your relationship?
00:11:07We're just so much more calmer around each other, more relaxed.
00:11:11I feel like everyone else is more relaxed around us.
00:11:14They're not sat there like, are they going to blow?
00:11:16Like, everyone just seems so much more chill around us.
00:11:19I'm glad that we've had the tiffs and the arguments that we've had
00:11:23because when we come back,
00:11:24we've come back 20 times more stronger than before.
00:11:27Where to next?
00:11:28What do you need in order to deepen this relationship even further?
00:11:32Just continue doing what we're doing.
00:11:34Because everything else is fine.
00:11:41Are you telling Charlene not to ask?
00:11:45I feel like we've put the puzzle together.
00:11:47It's just making sure it stays in place.
00:11:50Wonderful.
00:11:51Well, why don't we go to a decision?
00:11:53Yeah.
00:11:54Holly, you first.
00:11:56I feel like a weight's lifted off my shoulders.
00:11:59I feel like we make a good team as well.
00:12:01You're daft.
00:12:03You make me feel stunning.
00:12:05Aww.
00:12:06And you make the best cups of tea ever.
00:12:09So for that reason, my darling, I'm going to stay.
00:12:14Yeah.
00:12:15APPLAUSE
00:12:17Wonderful.
00:12:18Over to you, big man.
00:12:20Yeah, I'm just enjoying getting to know Holly more
00:12:23and spending time with each other.
00:12:25We just have the best time.
00:12:27And there's no reason why she shouldn't be a million percent confident
00:12:30in who she is because everybody loves her, you know,
00:12:34and she's a great girl.
00:12:35Oh, Alex.
00:12:37No-brainer.
00:12:39Stay.
00:12:40APPLAUSE
00:12:44Well, you two are an amazing example
00:12:47of what happens when a couple does the work.
00:12:49Yeah.
00:12:50You're doing it.
00:12:51Don't give up, guys.
00:12:53Don't give up.
00:12:54It's a great message to everyone else.
00:12:56We're really proud of you.
00:12:57Thank you so much.
00:12:58Keep it up.
00:12:59Well done.
00:13:00Well done, guys.
00:13:01APPLAUSE
00:13:08All right, next up, if we could have Brian and Shannon.
00:13:11Come on up.
00:13:12APPLAUSE
00:13:16Yes.
00:13:17Welcome.
00:13:19Good to see both of you.
00:13:21Second commitment ceremony.
00:13:23Yes, we're here.
00:13:24Yes, you were here together.
00:13:26How's the week been for you both?
00:13:28It was an interesting week.
00:13:30We had our first little argument.
00:13:33OK, first argument.
00:13:34Yeah.
00:13:35OK, unpack it for us.
00:13:36It was like a big misunderstanding, honestly.
00:13:39Brian said something that kind of threw me back to one of my exes.
00:13:44You'd kind of said you were done.
00:13:46I took that as done completely,
00:13:48but he meant done with the conversation.
00:13:50I said, I'm done with it.
00:13:51I've gone back to sleep, waking up, and Shannon's not there.
00:13:55And afterwards, we've just said, like, wow,
00:13:57that was just a mountain was made out of a molehill.
00:14:00This one misunderstanding,
00:14:02Shannon, you take and react extremely to it.
00:14:06I just panicked.
00:14:08We all, all react to fight or flight.
00:14:12Any time we feel under threat, what do we want to do?
00:14:15Fight or we want to flee?
00:14:17You chose flight.
00:14:19Instead of taking a pause, sleeping on it,
00:14:22waking up the next morning, resolving it.
00:14:25I'm terrible at that.
00:14:26OK, but now you know.
00:14:28Now I know.
00:14:29Right, now you know.
00:14:30OK, so now, as the dinner party progressed,
00:14:33Ryan, you looked agitated, and you looked worked up.
00:14:40Can you elaborate as to why?
00:14:43Holly came over to me and said, Stephen had said,
00:14:47if Ryan doesn't come to the dinner party,
00:14:49he's going to shoot his shot.
00:14:52So now I couldn't trust you with my wife.
00:14:55So, Holly, when did you hear Stephen say this?
00:14:58So, before Ryan had come into the mixer,
00:15:00Stephen had shouted me over to him, and he said,
00:15:04so, obviously, you know Shannon's my type.
00:15:09If Ryan doesn't come to the mixer tonight,
00:15:11then I'm going to stick it on Shannon.
00:15:16I would never use the word stick it on,
00:15:18cos it's not what I use anyway.
00:15:20You was going to try it on her, though, yeah?
00:15:25Come on, was you going to try it?
00:15:27You've got to let me answer.
00:15:29I would not have done that without speaking to you,
00:15:32and I've said that.
00:15:33A blatant lie.
00:15:35You're a sly guy.
00:15:54So, if Shannon was interested,
00:15:58you would have attempted something.
00:16:05I'd have spoken to you as much as you don't think I would have done.
00:16:08Come on, come on. You're the slyest guy I've met.
00:16:10And I'm saying it. Slyest guy I've ever met.
00:16:12I would have spoken to you. Of course you would.
00:16:19You're laughable, lad. OK.
00:16:21I feel for that girl, because you've been grilling her
00:16:24all this experiment, and you have done exactly the same.
00:16:28Do you have anything to say to Ryan or Shannon?
00:16:30I don't, let's leave it.
00:16:33I'm good. You keep it to yourself, mate.
00:16:35You keep your distance from me, I'll keep your distance,
00:16:37and we'll respect that.
00:16:47All right. So now, back to you two, all right?
00:16:51You had your misunderstanding this week, OK?
00:16:54You had all this happening in the group.
00:16:56But do you feel like there's been progress this week?
00:16:59It's made me stronger, this.
00:17:00It's been great, hasn't it?
00:17:02I've been speaking about moving to Manchester.
00:17:04Have you? Yeah. All right, this is good.
00:17:06As long as I get a puppy.
00:17:10This is big.
00:17:11So you've already resolved the distance challenge?
00:17:14Yes, that's done. Wow. It's done.
00:17:17This is good.
00:17:21OK, so now, let's go do a decision, then.
00:17:24Do you want me to go first, Paul? You want to go first?
00:17:28You've already started, go.
00:17:30So, this decision is very easy.
00:17:32Listen, I didn't expect this when I came here.
00:17:34I'm not the one to hit it off straight away.
00:17:37And I said to her one day, I said, where have you been all my life?
00:17:41And this decision is absolutely very, very easy, and it's stayed.
00:17:48Thanks.
00:17:49OK. OK.
00:17:52Shannon, hit us.
00:17:54Ryan has made me feel so comfortable,
00:17:56probably more comfortable than any man has ever made me feel.
00:17:59Which is big.
00:18:00And you've made me this soppy mess
00:18:02that I don't know what the fuck's happened to me.
00:18:05So, obviously, I'm going to stay.
00:18:07All right.
00:18:14Have a great week.
00:18:15Thank you, man. Thank you, Paul. Thank you, Shannon.
00:18:27Next up on the couch...
00:18:30..Amy and Luke.
00:18:38Hey, guys. Hello.
00:18:40How are you both?
00:18:42Yeah, OK. Yeah, you both doing well?
00:18:46We've been very busy at the retreat, haven't we?
00:18:49Yeah. Sort of involved with all the drama.
00:18:53We felt like it was bringing us together
00:18:55because we were both, like, helping the situation together.
00:18:58But since coming back to the apartments, we just feel like we're, like...
00:19:04I felt like, yeah, the retreat was supposed to be a kind of relaxing time.
00:19:08But, you know, Amy, bless her, she was, like, 24-7 babysitting.
00:19:13Which was good, cos I saw really good signs in Amy,
00:19:16like, she's such an angel.
00:19:17But I felt like I was the nurse and the patient,
00:19:19and I felt like the janitor.
00:19:21You know, clearing up after.
00:19:25We were supporting her.
00:19:26I know we were supporting, but look what it's done to us.
00:19:29It wasn't very relaxing. Yeah.
00:19:31And, you know, a few bits happened at the retreat that have affected us,
00:19:35I would say affected me definitely.
00:19:37What happened was, I came back from a lads' day,
00:19:40and I found out that Amy picked Nathan as the sexiest husband.
00:19:44She sat here last week saying I was a 12 out of 10,
00:19:47and now she's saying she finds Nathan as the sexiest husband.
00:19:50She finds Nathan as the sexiest husband, she could have said me.
00:19:53And so what's Nathan, 24 out of 10?
00:19:55Like, what's this, FIFA cards and numbers keep getting bigger?
00:19:58That's crazy.
00:20:00You can appreciate that other people are attractive.
00:20:03Does that mean I can't have any friends with penises?
00:20:06No, it's not that.
00:20:07I'm just saying that's, you know, that's how it affected me,
00:20:10cos then I'm thinking,
00:20:11is it because he's got that fancy jacket and fashion,
00:20:13you know what I mean?
00:20:14Right, so it kind of brings out an insecurity. Yeah.
00:20:16Do you think that it made you experience this situation
00:20:19in a jealous way?
00:20:21Potentially, yeah. I do. OK.
00:20:23And I feel a bit guilty for it.
00:20:25In my opinion, you are the most beautiful girl in this group,
00:20:28which is hence why I chose you.
00:20:30It was doubly painful for me.
00:20:33It was just a game.
00:20:35Fair enough.
00:20:36I can see that it really hurt you.
00:20:39I think it might be worth you just reflecting away from this space
00:20:44about this conversation,
00:20:46and maybe you need some reassurance
00:20:48that actually you're her number one.
00:20:51I think that's how the two of you can really move forward here.
00:20:55But let's look at the dinner party,
00:20:57because one thing that I noticed was that
00:20:59there was quite a lot of affection between the two of you.
00:21:02Intimacy, would you say, is quite good?
00:21:04Yeah, great. Yeah.
00:21:06Is that to say that the intimacy is at another level?
00:21:10SHE LAUGHS
00:21:12Maybe.
00:21:14It was well-earned.
00:21:16I made love to my woman, not...
00:21:20..not just had sex, but I made love.
00:21:23OK, OK, OK.
00:21:25I mean, we're being honest, I'm not saying anything.
00:21:28It was worth the wait.
00:21:30I appreciate your honesty.
00:21:35On that note, let's go to decisions.
00:21:38Amy, would you like to go first?
00:21:40Erm, so...
00:21:42We're still very early in our journey,
00:21:45and I do believe we can both work on things.
00:21:49So I've decided to stay.
00:21:52CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:21:57And Luke, what's your decision?
00:21:59This whole process about learning, isn't it?
00:22:02And things come in life to test us, I think.
00:22:06And, you know, with Amy by my side, I feel ready to take that test.
00:22:10And I want to continue, I want to work hard for it,
00:22:13despite all those insecurities that I have.
00:22:15And I think you will bring the best out of me, Amy,
00:22:18so despite all that, I'm staying.
00:22:20CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:22:25I think my advice for you guys this week is,
00:22:28press the reset button, have some fun together,
00:22:32and enjoy the rest of your week.
00:22:34Thank you. Thank you very much.
00:22:36CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:22:44Next up to the couch, can we have Polly and Adam.
00:22:48Come on up.
00:22:53Hello.
00:22:54Hey, guys.
00:22:56How are you both?
00:22:57Yeah, all right. Thank you.
00:22:59Good to see you both.
00:23:01All right, so now we're looking forward to hearing about the retreat.
00:23:04So let's get into it. What happened?
00:23:06Bit of an argument.
00:23:09So it was on the girls' day.
00:23:13Polly said that she would twist to another husband
00:23:16because he's more emotionally available and talks about his feelings.
00:23:20So I was shocked, upset, disrespected,
00:23:24and just, it just wasn't a nice feeling.
00:23:27Interesting.
00:23:28Because I thought I was making so much effort
00:23:31and coming out of my comfort zone.
00:23:33And I felt like we was going in the right direction
00:23:36and getting better.
00:23:37To then hear that, it was kind of like a kick in the teeth.
00:23:40Interesting.
00:23:41All right, now, who did Polly say that she would twist with?
00:23:45Steven, my good friend.
00:23:49I think one of the comments when she told me was,
00:23:52he's gave me more emotional conversations than you have.
00:23:56And I was like, I've been here three weeks, not three days.
00:23:59Wow.
00:24:00So it's just another shock for me to hear.
00:24:02Right, so Polly, I have to go to you.
00:24:04Why did you say you would twist with Steven?
00:24:08Because of the qualities that Steven has that I wish Adam had.
00:24:15And what are those qualities?
00:24:17Emotional availability.
00:24:20Voicing how he thinks and how he feels to other people
00:24:23without feeling ashamed.
00:24:25And being secure in himself to be able to just say it.
00:24:30So I don't feel like he shows me that he cares about me enough.
00:24:34I felt like I'd come out of my comfort zone complete
00:24:38and I was trying to get us to the best place we could be
00:24:41and then that was, like, hurtful, you know what I mean?
00:24:44I think that's obviously made Polly realise
00:24:46that obviously I do care because it's hurt me, so...
00:24:49It shouldn't have had to have taken me saying,
00:24:51I want qualities in someone else for you to show
00:24:53and tell me how you feel about me.
00:24:55I mean, he's never said that I'm sexy or I'm beautiful
00:24:57or I look gorgeous.
00:24:58I know, but I've been giving a bit more affection,
00:25:00like the little kiss and stuff. I know sometimes I forget...
00:25:02On the cheek.
00:25:04Yeah, but I'm not a PDA person, you know what I mean?
00:25:06But it's even when we're at home.
00:25:08Even when you leave to go...
00:25:09I know, but that's because I've just had our first massive argument
00:25:12to the point where I felt betrayed.
00:25:15And I've said to you, the last thing I'm going to do now
00:25:17is want to give you a kiss when my head's been scrambled.
00:25:19But that's not fair when it's taken us so long
00:25:21to get to where we are on that front.
00:25:23Of course, I know it's not fair, but...
00:25:25Now I feel like I'm being punished for one comment I've made
00:25:27after the fucking ten that you've made.
00:25:29To me, it was a big comment. It wasn't just a jokey comment.
00:25:32It was a massive comment to where everyone else couldn't believe it.
00:25:38You have to understand what I've had to sit and listen to
00:25:41and deal with that I've taken on board and understood.
00:25:44I have not thrown anything in your face...
00:25:46No, I get that, but it's more...
00:25:48To react how you did was unfair.
00:25:52You still haven't given a lot.
00:25:54I know that you feel like you have, but you haven't.
00:26:00I do obviously see a future with me and Adam
00:26:02and I do genuinely believe that it can get there.
00:26:05But at the moment, I'm just seeing the potential.
00:26:08And it's like, is this just another fucking relationship
00:26:11at nearly 30 years old?
00:26:13So here's the thing, the worst thing in the world
00:26:15is falling in love with potential.
00:26:18So if your objective is what you think Adam will be in the future,
00:26:22you might as well leave today.
00:26:30So go to the decision.
00:26:33BELL CHIMES
00:26:36BELL CHIMES
00:26:46The worst thing in the world is falling in love with potential.
00:26:49So if your objective is what you think Adam will be in the future,
00:26:54you might as well leave today.
00:27:03So go to the decision.
00:27:10The conflict that we had maybe shouldn't have happened how it did,
00:27:13and I apologise for that.
00:27:15But I feel like I am more affirmed in certain ways
00:27:19by Adam and his reaction.
00:27:22So I put...
00:27:24APPLAUSE
00:27:29Adam.
00:27:33I did have a feeling that, did she say that to make me think,
00:27:37well, I'm jealous, I'm going to try harder?
00:27:40But me personally, a comment like that more would hurt me
00:27:43and make me retract.
00:27:45I'm sorry if I can't give you what you want right now,
00:27:48but there is two of us here, and there's two people's feelings.
00:27:53And I know you want something, but then I need things as well.
00:27:58But...
00:28:01But there's definitely feelings there,
00:28:03otherwise that comment wouldn't have bothered me,
00:28:05I'd have just been like, whatever.
00:28:08So I put stay.
00:28:10APPLAUSE
00:28:16All right, we'll see you back in this week, all right?
00:28:19Thank you so much. All right, thanks.
00:28:21Thanks, Adam.
00:28:23APPLAUSE
00:28:27APPLAUSE
00:28:37Next up on the couch...
00:28:41..Hannah and Stephen.
00:28:43APPLAUSE
00:28:48OK.
00:28:50Hello. Hello.
00:28:52Where I'd like to begin is where we last saw you,
00:28:55and that was right here on this couch.
00:28:58Hannah, you wrote stay. Mm-hm.
00:29:01Stephen, you wrote leave,
00:29:03but you agreed to continue to work on your marriage.
00:29:07Do you believe you did? No.
00:29:09Why?
00:29:11Because after I'm off to meet Orson with a few other boys,
00:29:15she just goes, Orson, why did you hold my hand?
00:29:17To make him jealous.
00:29:19So the respect thing then just disappeared straight away,
00:29:22walls went straight up.
00:29:24So let's just figure this out right now.
00:29:26Hannah, were you trying to make Stephen jealous?
00:29:30You can't make a guy jealous of you that doesn't give a fuck about you,
00:29:33so that's not what that was.
00:29:34It was just a bit of banter for someone trying to make me smile
00:29:36and trying to make me have a bit of a giggle.
00:29:40He didn't say one word to me after the commitment ceremony.
00:29:42He avoided me like the plague. He couldn't look at me.
00:29:45I don't feel like you can sit here and say,
00:29:47that's the reason why you weren't trying,
00:29:49is because me and Orson had some banter,
00:29:51because you checked out way before that.
00:29:56All right, so now you're at the retreat.
00:29:59Did you stay together at the retreat? No.
00:30:01We had an argument as soon as we moved into the lodge.
00:30:04You both had an argument? I wouldn't call it an argument.
00:30:07I'd call it an ambush, and then I'd leave the room.
00:30:09OK. Because that's what he does.
00:30:11This whole me and Orson having banter situation,
00:30:14you held on to it, held on to it, didn't speak to me,
00:30:18stewed on it, then waiting until we were in a room together,
00:30:21dropped a bomb on me, waited for me to react, cos I do,
00:30:25and then you're like, see, that's why I don't really like you,
00:30:28and then you darted out of the room.
00:30:30OK, well... That's so toxic.
00:30:32What was the bomb that was dropped?
00:30:34That me and Orson were pissing around and having banter
00:30:36and pretending to hold hands. OK.
00:30:39I said I'll try at the retreat,
00:30:41and I was trying to get into that headspace,
00:30:43but there was all this kind of stuff going on
00:30:45with Hannah and the girls or whatever.
00:30:48I was kind of just listening to it all,
00:30:50and all I'm hearing is she's trying it with everyone's husband.
00:30:53It's just making me completely check out even more.
00:30:56I'm like, why do I want to even speak to this girl?
00:30:58Right. So let me ask the group this.
00:31:01This kind of notion of Hannah trying it with different guys,
00:31:05that seems to keep coming up.
00:31:08And clearly that had a lot of impact on you,
00:31:10especially the girls' day.
00:31:12So were you feeling that? Yeah.
00:31:15OK. Me and Hannah discussed it,
00:31:17but it felt like she was, like, very flirty with Ryan.
00:31:22I was just very vocal in saying to Hannah
00:31:25that I don't like how she's gone about things,
00:31:27I don't like what she's said to certain people,
00:31:29when we've all made her feel so welcome.
00:31:32And I called a spade a spade.
00:31:35She deserved to know, so I told her.
00:31:37And then she started getting lippy to someone else.
00:31:40Just didn't sit well with me.
00:31:42Right. I mean, this is interesting for us to know
00:31:45because that was happening, Hannah,
00:31:47but at the same time, Stephen,
00:31:49the whole, you know, you shooting your shot with Shannon,
00:31:53that's playing out too.
00:31:56It's ironic, don't you think?
00:31:58Yeah, of course. Ironic, yeah.
00:32:00Yeah.
00:32:02Do you think that these rumours about Hannah and the guys,
00:32:06did that influence your behaviour whatsoever with Hannah?
00:32:12It probably did influence it, yeah.
00:32:15I don't see boys and girls differently,
00:32:17so if I have, like, banter with one of the boys,
00:32:20I don't see that as, like, oh, that's a boy.
00:32:22So I should be careful how I speak to them over a girl.
00:32:29OK, so, Hannah, what are you thinking at this point?
00:32:32Are you thinking, I want to try to make this work still,
00:32:35I don't want to make this work, what's your thought?
00:32:39It's still, in the back of my brain was, like,
00:32:42I'm here for a marriage, like,
00:32:44there is probably things we can work on.
00:32:46Yes, I was, like, every single time we have an argument,
00:32:49I check out, like, more and more and more and more,
00:32:51but I still wasn't finished.
00:32:52OK, so you were still in it? Yeah.
00:32:56The best case scenario for me was, can we squash it?
00:33:02We've had this experience,
00:33:04let's remember that we actually had a really good start,
00:33:07and I wanted to say thank you for how he made me feel
00:33:10on the wedding day, cos I felt incredible.
00:33:14Hearing that, what are you thinking?
00:33:17Does it change anything?
00:33:21I will never deny the fact our wedding day was special.
00:33:27But...no.
00:33:29No.
00:33:34A lot has been said about two from both of you tonight.
00:33:40So, let's go to a decision.
00:33:43Stephen, would you like to go first?
00:33:49Last week, before I put leave, I was still in the mindset of,
00:33:53I don't think I can be the man you need.
00:33:59But my mindset is very much now, I don't want to be your man.
00:34:06I don't think you're in it for me, I think you're in it for a pro...
00:34:09I don't know what the reasons are and why you're here.
00:34:12So, for those reasons, I'm going to leave.
00:34:16OK. OK. Thank you.
00:34:21Hannah? Erm...
00:34:30I think this is probably my opportunity to...
00:34:35..try and leave this process as amicably as I can with everybody.
00:34:43As much as whatever's happened's happened,
00:34:46I do think, deep down, you are a good guy
00:34:48and I do think you'll make someone happy.
00:34:53It's meant to be about marriage.
00:34:55It's meant to be about marriage.
00:34:58And ours hasn't worked, so...
00:35:01..I am going to leave.
00:35:06OK. OK. All right.
00:35:11Thank you for your vulnerability here on the couch.
00:35:14We want to thank you for your participation
00:35:16and we truly wish you the best in your future relationships.
00:35:19Thanks, guys. Thank you. Thank you.
00:35:21APPLAUSE
00:35:38I don't know. That was bloody hard.
00:35:41I think we're going to get married sometime, aren't we?
00:35:47Next up on the couch, can we have...
00:35:49..Kieran and Christina.
00:35:51CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:35:53Oh, he's still moving.
00:35:55Hello. Hello. Hello.
00:35:57Hello! Welcome.
00:36:01So, how was the retreat, you two?
00:36:03Full of drama.
00:36:05But it was good.
00:36:07We had one day where...
00:36:09..it was a little bit questionable, on my behalf.
00:36:12What happened there for you?
00:36:14It just got in my head.
00:36:17PMDD hit and it was just a little bit tough.
00:36:23I'm going to get a mosh.
00:36:25You're OK. You're OK.
00:36:29It's just, like, the worst feeling ever,
00:36:31and you just, no matter how much you try and fight it,
00:36:34like, when you are in that moment, like, it just feels...
00:36:39It just feels really just dark and horrible, and...
00:36:45I think what makes it worse almost for me
00:36:48is because I know, like, how it affects Kieran.
00:36:54But I just don't want it to, like, just push you away.
00:36:59That's what I'm scared of.
00:37:02I'm more careful about what I say and what I do when PMDD's here.
00:37:06Because you don't know what it's going to be,
00:37:08that's going to be the set-off.
00:37:10But it's horrible seeing Christina like that,
00:37:12and I think I can really... I really empathise with you, don't I?
00:37:15I've cried with Christina quite a lot
00:37:17when I can see how emotional she's getting.
00:37:20You know, we haven't got that intimate connection at the moment.
00:37:24Even though, obviously, we are like this,
00:37:26because that's all we, like, can do,
00:37:28and I am just feeling rejected. OK.
00:37:32And just so I'm clear, you're talking about the cold sore?
00:37:35Yeah. Is that right? I've just nearly, nearly gone.
00:37:37OK, good.
00:37:39I just want to feel wanted by you.
00:37:42It's not just about sex, but it's been since the honeymoon, man.
00:37:47I've done it once since the honeymoon. All right.
00:37:52I think I've distanced myself intimacy-wise,
00:37:56because I don't want to get excited and I don't want to wind her up.
00:38:00You know, it's just like we're friends living together again.
00:38:03Like, I know you've taken a step back.
00:38:06I wouldn't say I've taken a step back.
00:38:08You just said you had. You've distanced.
00:38:11I've distanced, but I wouldn't say I've took a step back.
00:38:15I just would love to ask you, Kieran,
00:38:18and really ask you to be really honest with yourself here.
00:38:22Would you say you've been holding back on the physical affection
00:38:26just because of the cold sore?
00:38:29Or has it also been because of Christina's reaction during the PMDD?
00:38:36Um, yeah, it's a mix of both.
00:38:39It's not... I can't blame it all on the cold sore.
00:38:41I can't, and I'm not going to do that.
00:38:44So, if you're being real,
00:38:46what is it that you'd like to say to Christina at the moment?
00:38:49Um...
00:38:51Don't hold back now. No, I'm not.
00:38:53Let us get me words, though. Um...
00:38:55Yeah, take your time.
00:39:01And this is going to be hard to hear.
00:39:03I think it's something you've probably heard before,
00:39:05and I really don't want to be the guy that says it.
00:39:07But...
00:39:09I'm really questioning it at the minute.
00:39:12Um...
00:39:18..if I'm able to sustain a relationship...
00:39:23..with someone that suffers with PMDD.
00:39:42I'm really questioning it at the minute.
00:39:45Um...
00:39:51..if I'm able to sustain a relationship...
00:39:56..with someone that suffers with PMDD.
00:40:11I know, Kieran, which is why I've, like, said to you from day one,
00:40:15like, whatever you say to me is, like, nothing.
00:40:19I haven't hurt before.
00:40:28It's fine. Like, it's fine.
00:40:32But...
00:40:33Christina, it's not fine.
00:40:36This is not fine for you.
00:40:38No, but, like, I understand.
00:40:40Like, I understand and, like, respect Kieran's feelings in this.
00:40:46But what about your feelings?
00:40:48Well, it's fucking shit. Right. Yeah.
00:40:50It is. Yeah.
00:40:59This is why I prepare myself for the worst in every situation,
00:41:04and I live in the moment for every good bit that I have.
00:41:11I'm not saying that I don't want to be with you, cos I do.
00:41:13I want to give this as much as I can. Yeah, but you're not...
00:41:15You're just not... I've got questions.
00:41:17I think everyone in this room's got questions about their relationship,
00:41:20but I'm not saying I don't want to be with you.
00:41:22That's not what I'm saying here.
00:41:24Right, now all I've got in my head is if you can't,
00:41:27if you're going to struggle,
00:41:28it's going to be a struggle for life, cos I can't change.
00:41:32But that's something that I'm working out whether I can.
00:41:42I just don't want to get hurt.
00:41:48Everything takes work, and I'm prepared to work at it, Christina.
00:41:53And I'll work at it until there's no bones left.
00:41:56Kieran, good on you for being so incredibly honest just now.
00:42:01Yeah, thank you. I know that was very hard for you to say.
00:42:04I also know that this is not you signalling to Christina,
00:42:08I want out. No, it's not. I know that.
00:42:10It might have felt a little bit that way in the moment. Yeah, it does.
00:42:14But I think the fact that you're both sitting here right now,
00:42:17opening up the way that you are,
00:42:19showing such incredible care and empathy for each other,
00:42:23is such a strong sign that you have incredible potential as a couple.
00:42:30How about we go to the decision? Oh, no, I'm scared now.
00:42:33Christina, why don't you go first?
00:42:38I know I'm the biggest pain in your bum.
00:42:41I know that I am hard work.
00:42:44But I'm looking forward to seeing what's more to come.
00:42:48There's still so much I want to explore with you,
00:42:51so for that reason...
00:42:53I'm smiling!
00:42:59And Kieran.
00:43:01This week you've shown us that you are there for us,
00:43:04even when I think no-one can be there for us.
00:43:07And you've allowed us to open up in ways
00:43:09that I've never been able to open up in a relationship before,
00:43:12without being attacked.
00:43:14So I think that in itself speaks volumes about the person that you are.
00:43:18So thank you very much.
00:43:20And for that reason, I wrote Stay.
00:43:22CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:43:27Have a wonderful week. Thank you.
00:43:29Thank you very much, guys. Thank you so much.
00:43:31Thanks, guys.
00:43:43Next up to the couch, Nathan and Lacey.
00:43:47Hello. Hello.
00:43:49Hi, guys.
00:43:51Lovely to see the two of you.
00:43:53Lovely to see you all.
00:43:55So, tell me about the retreat.
00:43:58How was it for you?
00:44:00I had a great time, yeah. Did you have a good time?
00:44:03I was having a good time.
00:44:05Yeah, I just, um...
00:44:07I don't know.
00:44:09I think something's bothering me.
00:44:12He said the other day, um,
00:44:14I'm not going to say I love you.
00:44:16Like, I love you, not love you.
00:44:18I love you, until after the experiment
00:44:20to see if the distance worked.
00:44:23But that a little bit upset me,
00:44:25cos I was like, are you only giving me half, then?
00:44:29I don't want to, like, give her my heart fully.
00:44:32We finished the experiment, and she's like,
00:44:34oh, the distance ain't working.
00:44:36It's like, what's the point of that, you know what I mean?
00:44:38What you're doing is you're giving her your heart.
00:44:41What you're doing is you're trying to hedge yourself.
00:44:43You're trying to make it safe.
00:44:45But that's not how love works.
00:44:47Love works as you dive fully into the pool.
00:44:49You can't toe-dip into love.
00:44:53Would either one of you consider relocating?
00:44:56I would in the middle.
00:44:58I need my mama near me, not going to lie.
00:45:00I need my mama there.
00:45:02I think if I can find the work,
00:45:04depending on circumstances, I could relocate, yeah.
00:45:08For me, I can definitely feel in love.
00:45:11I just feel like the word is different,
00:45:13saying the word, you know?
00:45:16OK, so the word is of high importance to you.
00:45:20Yeah.
00:45:21But what I'm here to tell you
00:45:23is the action is of higher importance,
00:45:25and you're already exhibiting the action.
00:45:27You've just said you will move.
00:45:29Mm.
00:45:31Yeah, I'd like the word to be in, like, the right timing,
00:45:34you know what I mean, a special moment.
00:45:36So you're saying that you already love Lacey,
00:45:39but you're waiting for the moment
00:45:41to tell her that is important to you.
00:45:44Maybe.
00:45:46LAUGHTER
00:45:48So, Lacey, where would you say you are in terms of love?
00:45:54Yeah, no, I do feel it, like, yeah.
00:45:58Yeah.
00:46:01I think it's very clear to see
00:46:03that you guys are in a really good place.
00:46:06So let's go to a decision.
00:46:11Erm, what I've wrote was easy, of course.
00:46:15You know, I can see that we are growing closer,
00:46:18you know, I'm really still happy with you,
00:46:21and that's why I've put staying.
00:46:23APPLAUSE
00:46:25Thank you, Lacey. And, Nathan, what's your decision?
00:46:28So, obviously, you're going to take on board what you've said,
00:46:31and I feel the same way as Lacey, so I'm also going to stay.
00:46:34Excellent. Thank you. Well done.
00:46:36APPLAUSE
00:46:37OK, guys, so, a big well done for sharing how you feel today.
00:46:41OK? Have a good week.
00:46:45APPLAUSE
00:46:54Next up on the couch...
00:46:58..Emma and Kasper.
00:47:00APPLAUSE
00:47:04Hello, my lovelies. Hello.
00:47:07So let's look at your week.
00:47:09Definitely we're having a far better week,
00:47:12in terms of just being around each other, laughing,
00:47:15being more comfortable.
00:47:17The first half of the treat for me was really good,
00:47:20but there was a slight change for me in the second half
00:47:24with Emma's behaviour.
00:47:26Oh.
00:47:28Emma was getting advice from the girls and everyone else,
00:47:31going, well, you've just got to sleep with him.
00:47:34If we get intimate, we're going to accelerate our relationship,
00:47:37and that's not how I go about things.
00:47:39I need the emotional side first
00:47:41before I get to the intimate side from someone,
00:47:44and we're still working on that, in my opinion.
00:47:47And Michelle gave me some advice to get a kiss.
00:47:50I thought, right, I'm going, I'm going, we're going in.
00:47:53So you did have a kiss. Yeah.
00:47:56And how would you describe that experience, Kasper?
00:48:02I think she's a very good kisser, I can tell you that much for free.
00:48:06So you enjoyed it? Yeah, it was a good kiss. Yeah.
00:48:09But there were comments made afterwards,
00:48:12after we'd just kissed, that were way too far forward
00:48:15and crossed lots of lines.
00:48:17She basically went, why don't you just write stay
00:48:19and then we can shag for a week?
00:48:21That wasn't the most romantic pitch I've ever heard,
00:48:23if I'm being completely honest.
00:48:25She scared him off.
00:48:28I think that was just me exploring things.
00:48:30You know, I'd had a few wines, I got a bit excited.
00:48:33It almost felt like sex was a sales pitch. Yeah.
00:48:37And that wasn't attractive for me.
00:48:41Kasper writing leave in the last commitment ceremony,
00:48:44although I expected it,
00:48:47it felt a fight in me to want to work on things.
00:48:54And I think what I meant to say was,
00:48:57I think there are things for us to explore
00:49:00when it comes to intimacy.
00:49:02Now I'm scared that Kasper has ended this week
00:49:06the same headspace that he ended last weekend.
00:49:13I think it goes back to not putting pressure on yourself
00:49:15and doing things at a pace that feels right for you,
00:49:17but also remembering a kiss and sex,
00:49:20there's so many other ways that you can form
00:49:23intimate connections with your partner.
00:49:27OK, let's get to the decisions.
00:49:30Emel first.
00:49:33I'm proud of myself for listening
00:49:36and showing me that I can take on feedback
00:49:38and I want to learn and I want to develop.
00:49:41And I think there are definitely things to explore
00:49:44with us, but I hear you.
00:49:47I would like to, yeah, spend some more time together.
00:49:51Yay! Well done, Emel.
00:49:57Kasper, what's your decision?
00:50:00I mean, honestly, I am denied.
00:50:05A few days ago, I was relieved to be away
00:50:09and gone out and thinking that's where my head's at.
00:50:13And so that felt really good when I wrote leave, I'm not going to lie.
00:50:16You know, I let go a lot of emotions.
00:50:19I'm reluctant to say stay and then almost be, again,
00:50:22feel dragged along into something that I don't feel comfortable with.
00:50:43But we're still building on their success.
00:50:46I don't know if this is the truth,
00:50:48but there's a certain level of authenticity
00:50:51where, yeah, I'm more pleased than ever to have written a movie.
00:50:57I don't want to be afraid of the editing.
00:50:59I don't want to be afraid of anything,
00:51:01because I want to be able to play a part
00:51:03and have a different kind of experience for the audience.
00:51:07And it's a little bit different than when I wrote leave.
00:51:09I'm not afraid of anything.
00:51:11We're still building on this.
00:51:14Emma and I, you know, I think we deserve to keep...
00:51:18have another shot at this for a little bit longer,
00:51:20see where we get to, cos we have made strides.
00:51:22So, for me, I wrote...
00:51:24Snape.
00:51:25CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:51:30Oh, thank God!
00:51:32We wish you all the very best.
00:51:34Thanks very much. Thanks, team. Well done, guys.
00:51:37Well done, guys.
00:51:42Next up on the couch, Sasha and Ross.
00:51:51Hey, guys. Hello.
00:51:53Hey, guys.
00:51:55How was your time at the retreat?
00:51:57Was it nice to get away?
00:51:59No, I hated it. Oh!
00:52:01Tell us about it.
00:52:02I just hate the countryside and being away from everything.
00:52:05I felt like it was a taste of hell,
00:52:07so I'm going to be a really good person from now on.
00:52:09Wow. OK.
00:52:11And so, apart from the physical discomfort, shall I say,
00:52:15was there anything else that made it like hell for you?
00:52:19Obviously, all the drama has affected, like, the girls a little bit.
00:52:23Like, we're usually quite a happy family,
00:52:25but there has been some explosive arguments between the girls,
00:52:28which is really rare.
00:52:30But as a couple, it doesn't really affect us.
00:52:32Like, when we're at the dinner parties,
00:52:34it's like we're sitting on the end and it all happens there.
00:52:37And we're in just, like, our little bubble.
00:52:39I'm a very argumentative person.
00:52:41So, yeah, we're good.
00:52:45I just hate being away from, like, the girls.
00:52:47I was like, oh, I just can't wait to see my husband.
00:52:51Now, we know that the two of you are choosing not to open up
00:52:54and share too much of the physical journey with us,
00:52:57and we respect that.
00:52:58But what's important for us to understand is,
00:53:00are the two of you talking about it,
00:53:02and do you feel that things are progressing
00:53:05in the right direction for you?
00:53:09Yes.
00:53:14Very concise. That's fair.
00:53:16The two of you have created a really safe, trusting environment.
00:53:20Yeah.
00:53:21You're going really well.
00:53:24Well, on that note, let's go to the decision.
00:53:27Ross, over to you first.
00:53:30I love being with you every minute,
00:53:32and let's see what next week brings.
00:53:36Diatude, Stay Always.
00:53:40Lovely.
00:53:41Well, that's how I was going to start my speech.
00:53:45We've learnt a lot about each other,
00:53:48and I want to spend the rest of my life with you.
00:53:51And you already know that.
00:53:53So I wrote Stay Always.
00:53:56I wrote Stay Always.
00:53:58Oh, wonderful.
00:54:01Wonderful.
00:54:02And, yes, that comment was not lost on us.
00:54:04I know, right?
00:54:05No, not at all.
00:54:06Nice little mic drop there from Sasha.
00:54:09Thank you so much.
00:54:11Well done.
00:54:17Next up on the couch, can we have...
00:54:22..Orson and Rochelle.
00:54:32Hello.
00:54:33Hello.
00:54:36So I understand it's been a tough week for the two of you.
00:54:40Yes, it has.
00:54:41Yeah.
00:54:42It has been.
00:54:43Why don't we start with where we left off
00:54:46at the last commitment ceremony?
00:54:49So can we just go back a little bit to the commitment ceremony?
00:54:54I made it quite clear to him that I was ready to leave
00:54:57and I wanted to go back to work,
00:54:59and if I left, I could get home in time for my daughter's 21st birthday.
00:55:04But when I re-entered the process after I left the first time,
00:55:07I'd say, like, yeah, I'm not going to do it again.
00:55:10I'd say, like, yeah, I'm not going to leave again
00:55:13until we're on the same page.
00:55:15Orson said that he wanted to stay another week,
00:55:19which to me was a bit surprising because at this point
00:55:22I'd been very open and honest with him.
00:55:24I'd basically told him, I don't think I'm attracted to you.
00:55:28I don't overly fancy you.
00:55:30Wow.
00:55:32Wow, wow, what?
00:55:33Continue, continue.
00:55:34Wow, wow, what?
00:55:35No, just continue.
00:55:36The truth, I know that you don't have a great relationship
00:55:39with the truth, Orson, so it's OK.
00:55:41No, just continue.
00:55:42So, you know, I said to him, I think you're quite selfish.
00:55:45You basically have locked me in for another week,
00:55:48you've dragged me along for your experience
00:55:51when you know there's nothing there.
00:55:53Then on the day of the retreat, that was my daughter's actual birthday,
00:55:57I was, like, visibly, you know, upset.
00:56:00And, you know, Orson's making this big show of singing
00:56:04and enjoying himself, you know.
00:56:06At this point now, I'm getting worked up.
00:56:08And I haven't even been able to wish my girl a happy birthday.
00:56:11And he's singing in my face.
00:56:15And at that moment, I knew I could not stand him.
00:56:20You couldn't stand me from before that?
00:56:22I can't stand the sight of him.
00:56:24Can I say something really quickly?
00:56:25If you knew I couldn't stand you before, why did you want to stay?
00:56:28You're the one that said you want to stay to work out what if we're matched.
00:56:31No, no, no, you are lying.
00:56:33That's exactly what you said.
00:56:35You are a stinking liar.
00:56:37You are a stinking liar.
00:56:39Because I was the one who told you I wanted to leave.
00:56:41I was the one who told you that I wanted to get back for my daughter's birthday.
00:56:44So don't sit here and lie.
00:56:46All right?
00:56:47Your lies don't work with me, Orson.
00:56:53You finished? Can I speak now?
00:56:54Stop. If you can tell the truth, try and tell the truth.
00:56:57OK, guys, it's very clear that things have completely broken down here.
00:57:03I'd like to hear from both of you where you believe the relationship is at right now.
00:57:10Orson, let's start with you.
00:57:12There is no relationship right now.
00:57:16Michelle.
00:57:17At the retreat, Orson and Hannah have been bonding.
00:57:23And they have had talks about recoupling.
00:57:33Oh, wow.
00:57:34Yeah, wow, indeed. Orson's backed himself.
00:57:37He's finally found his queen.
00:57:42That reinforced that Orson isn't really here for the right reasons.
00:57:47He's even had a little bromance going on with Stephen.
00:57:51While behind Stephen's back, Orson and Hannah were, you know, talking amongst themselves.
00:58:00Which continued once we returned from the retreat,
00:58:03and I walked in last night and found Orson and Hannah.
00:58:08Holly and Alex almost, like, you know, having a little double date set up.
00:58:17So all that did was reinforce...
00:58:20We weren't. We were all sat in separate chairs.
00:58:23Chill out. Chill with that business.
00:58:25Chill with that business, Michelle.
00:58:27Hannah, Hannah, zip it.
00:58:29Alex, shut up.
00:58:31Michelle, don't do that. Alex, Alex, Alex.
00:58:33Michelle, don't do that.
00:58:34No, I think it's bullshit, cos they're meant to have lips.
00:58:42They've what?
00:58:43Kissed. They've kissed. Him and Hannah.
00:58:45Oh, you've kissed? Him and Hannah.
00:58:47The very last night of the retreat.
00:58:49You've been kissing him?
00:58:58Sophie's gone mad.
00:59:01She's unresponsive.
00:59:03It's abomination!
00:59:06I mean, dammit.
00:59:07Completely 이상 savings account behind.
00:59:10She not only looks horrible, but she looks horrible.
00:59:14Shut up.
00:59:15You ugly moron.
00:59:21So we had a 10-minute bit of a sex bathroom.
00:59:24So why the fuck are you trying to defend when they've been just wrong talking about
00:59:37Fucking snake man snake you me. Yeah you
00:59:42Where was the double date?
00:59:45Have they not been sneakily kissing? I know you didn't say so fix it
00:59:49I'll tell him out don't talk about no double date business
00:59:52There was no double date business four of them were in the apartment. Let me rephrase that Alex talking shit that fucking shit, man
01:00:02You guys want to say
01:00:06Don't don't don't don't don't
01:00:08Say to me don't do that to me Alex. I'm asking if you got something
01:00:11Can you just I think I don't think you need to turn to a shell and say you're talking fucking shit
01:00:15And then get a light say oh, you're my fucking snake the certain ways of addressing things calmly look
01:00:20You know what Rochelle it were in a double date this happened
01:00:23You don't need to attack attack attack attack and I've sat here and I've watched you attack the women either end
01:00:28And it's fucked me off because I didn't like it Alex
01:00:36Don't take it out on me. I'm just trying to calm the peace in the room who is taking anything out on you
01:00:40Please respect the floor. Oh my god. I'm better
01:00:51Holly's annoyed I told Lacey that I think she's a snake and now you've got Sasha coming at me
01:00:57Just be quiet your voice is gone straight through me like if I was rushed
01:01:02I'd be telling my wife pipe down not everything needs your two pence
01:01:08Alex has definitely overreacted and it has embarrassed me. I can't be with a man who treats my friends like that
01:01:16Because if he's gonna treat my friends like that
01:01:18It can happily treat me like that
01:01:24Now amongst all of the talking it sounded like someone said you and Hannah have kissed yes
01:01:33On the last night of the retreat me and Hannah sat and was speaking. Oh, she had a kiss
01:01:40There was a little connection there, I'm not gonna lie there was a little connection there
01:01:44What I had was done, I know what she was in was done like so
01:01:50Honestly, I didn't feel like I was walking on anybody's toes or like disrespecting anyone
01:01:56The fact is that this is a process isn't it?
01:01:58Yeah, and so if you don't want to be with someone you both understand the rules
01:02:02Yes, and the rules is that you make that decision here and you let us know
01:02:07It's not that you then go and kiss another person's wife
01:02:14I take that
01:02:22That's done it mate
01:02:31Do you consider what you did an act of infidelity
01:02:37In this process, yes
01:02:40What impact did you expect that to have on Rochelle
01:02:45If I'm being totally honest man, and this might come across a song wrongly. I
01:02:52Didn't really care about Michelle's in that moment
01:02:59At the end of the day Orson from when I said I didn't like you and I didn't fancy you and and I didn't see
01:03:04A future with us. I mean at that point I thought you would have gathered up your dignity and wanted to leave anyway
01:03:10You know, why would you have wanted to stay I mean, I know I was trying to honor my word
01:03:16But what where was your self-respect and your dignity like you were you that desperate to stay in the process?
01:03:25Because what I'm sensing from Orson is a desperation to stay in the process by any means necessary
01:03:33He saw an opportunity with Hannah to recouple and stay in the process he jumped at it
01:03:40You're an embarrassment to yourself at this point
01:03:43Do you know I mean because it's like Hannah bless her went round all the different guys trying to latch on to somebody
01:03:51Yes to stay in the process and Orson is the only one who's stuck
01:03:55It just reeks of desperation and just like, you know, no self-respect. It's just I find it embarrassing
01:04:03You know
01:04:04Okay. Well look it is very clear that this relationship is done
01:04:08We do need to go to the decision awesome to you first
01:04:16I came here with the right intentions. I
01:04:20Feel like I was trying and trying and trying and trying
01:04:24Just like squeezing blood from a stone stop the performance Orson stop the performance
01:04:30I'm you so the performance if it was that bad
01:04:33You know, I'm not no like just get me out of here, please and to you Rochelle
01:04:40Before I came into this process. I asked for a strong
01:04:45Intelligent
01:04:48Man who has a bit of integrity and I haven't found that in Orson at all
01:04:56I find him quite weak-willed
01:04:59I find him quite weak-willed
01:05:02He's you really aren't as sharp as you think you are. It's pretty obvious. I think to most people that you're a bit simple
01:05:12He definitely lacks
01:05:15Any shred of integrity so one week too late, but it's obvious
01:05:22leave
01:05:29There are certain expectations around respect
01:05:33Some of those points of respect have been broken by both of you by you Rochelle not turning up to dinner parties
01:05:39Showing disrespect not only to awesome, but to everyone else here including us and the experiment
01:05:45Orson
01:05:46Kissing another person the two of you are showing very low level of regard for this entire process
01:05:54and
01:05:55That's something we don't take lightly
01:05:58It's really disappointing
01:06:02You can both take a seat
01:06:14Three rounds to one and Rochelle's normal
01:06:17You
01:06:24Well, this has been both a challenging
01:06:29And enlightening commitment ceremony, please say your goodbyes to those leaving the process
01:06:41Very quickly
01:06:47I
01:06:56Came on here for love I came on here to find my person
01:07:00Hannah was bouncing from husband to husband. She kissed awesome. I didn't give it my all but she didn't deserve my own
01:07:10I
01:07:12Do feel a bit bad about what me and Orson have done
01:07:15we tried to shut it down just out of respect for everyone else, but actually we keep gravitating back towards each other and
01:07:22Steven checked out ages ago. There was no trying there was no support. So I don't feel like I got a fair shot
01:07:30at marriage
01:07:37I definitely do not
01:07:40Be a great kiss in Anna
01:07:45Rochelle picked up everything really and there's only so much a man can take
01:07:57I think Orson's just shown his true colors and my intuition about him was right all along
01:08:03I genuinely don't think that Hannah likes Orson. I don't even think he really likes her
01:08:09He's just trying to
01:08:11Recoup some of his manhood that he probably feels has been stripped from him during this process. It just screams of desperation
01:08:20Orson is a clown and I just wanted out of the circus show
01:08:26Yo, Ross
01:08:29Talk to you in a bit. I don't am I talking a bit
01:08:33If he's beefs with me, why is he talking to my husband, you know, why does he want to talk to my husband? Talk to me?
01:08:38I think fuck that
01:08:40Yeah, fuck that
01:08:43Alex has just got an attitude problem. I can completely see where Holly's been coming from this whole time
01:08:48I'm not gonna tolerate it. Why does he want to talk to you and not me?
01:08:53I'm getting involved into it
01:08:56Not your problem, so your wife isn't your problem
01:08:58I'm trying to get involved in drama. That's not one
01:09:08Right now it doesn't feel like Ross has my back but we're married. I'm his wife
01:09:12I would have expected Ross to say don't talk to my wife that way
01:09:18I'll tell you from there. I don't get involved in driving
01:09:21Problem rockers. Oh, yeah, but I'm not getting involved in all this shit. Yeah, but it's not it's not their shit
01:09:26It's more than Alex's shit. It's against you then. Yeah, I get that. You should have your wife's back
01:09:34My drama is your drama
01:09:43Next time I'm interested to see what you don't like about me, honey. There's a lot more than what you think
01:09:47There is it's love hate week. Good luck. Good luck. You're gonna need it where honesty is crucial lack of intimacy
01:09:56You lacked it. What's that mean for some couples happy tears? It draws them closer together
01:10:02Is it the most romantic thing someone's ever done for you? Yeah, I am feeling quite giddy
01:10:12But others can't even get the task off the ground I'm really unhappy I'm going home today
01:10:18Why
01:10:20Get me out of there. I am NOT running after my body
01:10:24Well, Sasha and Ross and he went to see this throws it up the wall face their biggest challenge yet
01:10:30I am NOT comfortable with you being in this apartment. I am gonna struggle to recover from this
01:10:38Fucked up my head
01:10:48You
01:11:09You