Video Information: Myth Demolition tour, 14.2.20, Rishikesh, Uttarakhand, India
Description:
In this insightful session, Acharya Ji explores the concepts of physical and mental cheating within relationships, emphasizing that cheating can occur on three distinct planes: physical, mental, and spiritual. He explains that a relationship based solely on physical pleasure is vulnerable to betrayal if one partner seeks satisfaction elsewhere. In contrast, mental relationships involve emotional exchanges, where cheating can manifest through unkind words or actions that hurt the partner's ego. Finally, in spiritual relationships, the focus shifts from each other to a higher purpose or truth, where loyalty to that shared goal is paramount. Acharya Ji argues that if a relationship collapses due to physical infidelity, it reveals that the bond was primarily physical, akin to animalistic instincts, rather than a deeper emotional or spiritual connection.
Context:
~ What are the three planes of relationships discussed in the video?
~ What are the different types of cheating in relationships?
~ How can physical cheating affect relationships?
~ What does mental cheating look like in a romantic partnership?
~ Why is emotional support important in a relationship?
~ What makes a spiritual relationship different from other types?
~ Why is loyalty important in a spiritual relationship?
~ How can discovering infidelity change how we view a relationship?
~ What does it mean if a relationship is primarily physical?
~ How can hurtful words be considered cheating in a mental relationship?
~ What does it mean to have animalistic instincts in relationships?
🎧 Listen to Acharya Prashant on Spotify:
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Music Credits: Milind Date
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#AcharyaPrashant #आचार्यप्रशांत #Philosophy #BhagavadGita
Description:
In this insightful session, Acharya Ji explores the concepts of physical and mental cheating within relationships, emphasizing that cheating can occur on three distinct planes: physical, mental, and spiritual. He explains that a relationship based solely on physical pleasure is vulnerable to betrayal if one partner seeks satisfaction elsewhere. In contrast, mental relationships involve emotional exchanges, where cheating can manifest through unkind words or actions that hurt the partner's ego. Finally, in spiritual relationships, the focus shifts from each other to a higher purpose or truth, where loyalty to that shared goal is paramount. Acharya Ji argues that if a relationship collapses due to physical infidelity, it reveals that the bond was primarily physical, akin to animalistic instincts, rather than a deeper emotional or spiritual connection.
Context:
~ What are the three planes of relationships discussed in the video?
~ What are the different types of cheating in relationships?
~ How can physical cheating affect relationships?
~ What does mental cheating look like in a romantic partnership?
~ Why is emotional support important in a relationship?
~ What makes a spiritual relationship different from other types?
~ Why is loyalty important in a spiritual relationship?
~ How can discovering infidelity change how we view a relationship?
~ What does it mean if a relationship is primarily physical?
~ How can hurtful words be considered cheating in a mental relationship?
~ What does it mean to have animalistic instincts in relationships?
🎧 Listen to Acharya Prashant on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2QmVEAAnsNE7Xs0MW0Li8Y?si=09fbcbc7c99c469b
Music Credits: Milind Date
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#AcharyaPrashant #आचार्यप्रशांत #Philosophy #BhagavadGita
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00:00I just want to ask I don't know how to how we put what is I don't know if it is
00:17a valid question or not so what is physical cheating and what is mentally
00:21cheating I mean in a relationship of course I'm telling this so if two
00:26person are in a relationship and if one is cheating on the other physically
00:33obviously and still wants to be with that one this is the one kind of cheating
00:40and the second one which we the two couples are living for a very long time
00:45and still the one or the other or the both in their mind or in their fantasy
00:52world they want to you know just be the other person like like if I and this
01:00person is committed I just fantasize being with that person so is it that not
01:06like this is not called cheating or only the physical cheating if somebody goes
01:11and do something is called cheating and what is I mean see your your definition
01:18of cheating describes the plane on which your relationship exists the
01:31relationship could be on one of these three planes broadly the relationship
01:39could be on a spiritual plane it could be on a mental plane it could be on a
01:42physical plane and cheating is possible on all three planes cheating is possible
01:50and on three planes what is a relationship on the physical plane you
02:00give me pleasure I give you pleasure and to ensure an uninterrupted and secured
02:09supply of physical pleasure you remain physically committed to me and I remain
02:14physically committed to you what do I want from you pleasure physical pleasure
02:19and we are committed to each other what does this commitment now mean you must
02:25be there when I need pleasure from you because our relationship is physical we
02:28exist in each other's lives to scratch each other's itch so it should not
02:37happen that a one particular night I have the itch and I don't find you by my
02:45bedside that should not happen so the commitment practically means you should
02:50be there when I need your body and now what is cheating on this level I needed
02:59you but you are somewhere else and that's cheating that's a violation of
03:06the physical contract what is cheating in simple terms a violation of a
03:13contract two parties agree to something and then one of them goes back on the
03:23agreement reneges that's called cheating so if the relationship exists purely on
03:29the physical domain then you will be greatly offended if you find your
03:36partner sleeping around with somebody else because that was everything that
03:43there was to that relationship the body the relationship was all about the body
03:49and the body is with somebody else I have been cheated if I are 100% of the
03:59relationship was about the body and the body is now somewhere else so the
04:06relationship has been hundred percent destroyed because hundred percent of it
04:11was about the body if you are very offended if you are absolutely offended
04:20if you find someone physically with someone else then that only means that
04:29your relationship itself is absolutely physical are you getting it if you are
04:37absolutely offended if you find your friend your partner whatsoever I mean
04:43with somebody else in the physical sense then that feeling of absolute offense
04:50implies that the relationship itself is absolutely physical then there is a
04:58mental relationship in the mental relationship there is an exchange of
05:02emotions I'm emotionally related to you it's a romantic relationship right you
05:12do good things for me I do good things for you not necessarily in the physical
05:17way you bring me stuff I cook something for you you take me places I say nice
05:27things to you sometimes you click me in a cool pose sometimes I sing a song for
05:39you in that kind of a relationship hmm now in this relationship what is it to
05:48cheat in this kind of a relationship what is the agreement all about you keep
05:57doing things that please me mentally maybe not so much physically but surely
06:04mentally so you keep doing things that please me mentally and I'll keep
06:09reciprocating by doing stuff that pleases you mentally we'll be each
06:14other's ego friends hmm I boost your ego you please my ego
06:25what is it to cheat in this kind of a relationship why did you offend me I
06:31asked you am I looking fat and you said yes this is cheating weren't we supposed
06:37to say nice things to each other why did you tell me that I have no awareness
06:50that I've read nothing that I don't know how to relate with anybody in the world
06:58you're not supposed to say these things neither am I of course it's an agreement
07:07so now that's cheating and where there is cheating there is anger and violence
07:13so in this kind of an emotional relationship the moment you say
07:17something bad to the other it's cheating and you'll be met with a lot of
07:26aggression hmm you'll be delivered blows why is such things why did you not look
07:36kindly at me I bought this new wonder dress and you ignored me cheating
07:59cheating hmm and obviously in on this plane if you find someone going around
08:08with someone else that too is offensive to the ego so that too is cheating right
08:16but this kind of mutual mental pleasure-giving would not be a part of a
08:23purely physical relationship there you really don't want to say good things to
08:29the other relationship is purely physical and mind you such relationships
08:33do exist and they exist in greater abundance than we might conceive in
08:42those relationships people do not even say good things to each other they just
08:45undress there is no need to say anything just get in the bed that's all I don't
08:52want to hear my praise from you I'm not here to share emotions with you hmm
09:00neither am I here to write a poem in praise of your divine beauty we are here
09:09to fuck and that's it that's physical relationship in emotional
09:13relationship before you fuck you say nice things to each other right so you
09:20know otherwise it looks quite horrible and you need to have some face-saving
09:25mechanism how do we just get on with it so let's have that first mandatory half
09:30an hour of whatever you call it knowing fully well that this half an hour is
09:38just an alibi you are constantly looking at the clock let those 30 minutes be
09:46completed so that we can get on with business and then there is relationship
09:54on the spiritual plane here the primary relationship is not with each other here
10:04the primary relationship is with something else you are committed to
10:11something let's call it as something something something he too is committed
10:20to something and the two of you are together because this togetherness will
10:25take you both to that something this is a spiritual relationship in which two
10:33people are together not for the sake of each other but for the sake of that
10:39something now what is cheating now cheating is not about whether you
10:47deceived me or whether I deceived you now cheating is about whether either or
10:52both of us deceive that something now I won't stay with you for a second if I
10:58find you not loyal to that something you do not need to be loyal to me I neither
11:05demand nor deserve your loyalty but I surely want that you need to be loyal to
11:12that something and if I find you being disloyal to that something then you have
11:18had it then you have had it you don't want to please me no problem even I am
11:26not here to please you chances are I'll do stuff that's not going to please you
11:33because in going towards that something the ego has to take a beating you won't
11:41usually happily and agreeably move towards that something so if I am to
11:47help you assist you move towards that something I'll have to push you against
11:54your wishes you'll resist not always maybe but mostly so obviously this is
12:02not a relationship in which there is mutual exchange of pleasure we are not
12:08pleasing each other right what are we doing we are pushing each other we are
12:12assisting each other we are helping each other some people say that's the best
12:18way to say we are loving each other but then that's not the commonly accepted
12:22definition hmm only some weird spiritualists feel that that is the
12:29right definition of love hmm what is that right definition of love we both
12:35are pushing each other towards that something what is that something some
12:40people call it truth some call it liberation some call it realization some
12:44call it joy on our own we probably won't reach there independently right because
12:56even though I do have a desire to reach there yet I have my tendencies I have my
13:05inertia I have my laziness and I have my ready excuses so on my own I would have
13:13raised some story and said you know today again I cannot move in that
13:17direction because I have something else more important to take care of but when
13:22you are there you call me out you expose my lies and that's your place in
13:31my life that's a contribution in my life you call my bluff you do not let me
13:37remain my usual tardy self and that's exactly how I reciprocate I do not let
13:45you remain who you are and who you are usually is not someone you would want to
13:54remain even you agree that you do not want to remain who you are yet there is
14:03a tremendous inertia sloth my role is to keep nudging you pushing you huh
14:13sometimes gently prodding you and sometimes kicking you hard in the butt
14:19that's my role in your life right this is a spiritual relationship this is love
14:26on the spiritual plane and we have already discussed what is meant by
14:31cheating on this plane what is cheating now I entered your life so that we may
14:37both move towards that something instead you got attached to me now this is
14:43cheating now this is a very inverted definition of cheating on the physical
14:50and emotional planes it was cheating when you were looking at somebody else
14:55on the spiritual plane it is cheating when you are looking at me how dare you
15:01look at me am I not your lover you're not supposed to look at your lover you
15:07are supposed to look only at that something if you look at me you are
15:11cheating on me don't look at me no the more you look at me the more you are
15:21guilty of adultery because he is the real target he is the one we both have
15:28to go to so we both have to look only at him we won't don't have to look at each
15:33other we are fellow passengers co-passengers you're traveling alongside
15:43each other we are not traveling to each other we have a shared destination and
15:49we are together only so that we may more easily more practically reach that
15:57shared destination this is spiritual affinity getting it hmm so your
16:09definition of cheating tells of who you are if the relationship is primarily
16:20spiritual it won't really matter to you whether you are able to arrest that
16:28person's body or not you will say your body is not my concern the body anyway
16:36does not ever reach anywhere it is not the body that wants to reach that
16:41something so do whatever you want to do with your body I won't object not my
16:48concern my bigger concern is something else and I need to take care of that so
17:01why it is like people are obsessed with that only bodily concern or bodily
17:07cheating like if two person are loving in madly loving with each other like for
17:12years eight nine years and suddenly one finds out he cheated on her or him all
17:20the love and everything vanished and they started looking that person that he
17:25started looking that person or she started looking that person as an enemy
17:28yeah like so just one thing I mean I am just confused about the key only that
17:35physical physicality or the body is that much important to that only shows that
17:40for the last eight years the relationship was only physical if for
17:46the reason of a physical transgression the relationship can collapse then the
17:54relationship itself was just physical what else is the conclusion not obvious
18:02you have had relationships since eight years and then one fine day you find
18:08that your partner has been sleeping with somebody else you're so outraged
18:14that you break up what does that tell about the relationship that the physical
18:21part was absolutely central to that relationship it's just that you know one
18:27feels a little guilty a little ashamed of accepting that 99.99% of our
18:39relationships are just sexual so we cover it up with fancy names
18:48covering it up with fancy names we somehow managed to convince ourselves as
18:54well that the relationship is not just physical but all that self-deception
19:04falls into pieces when you have instances like these you know instances
19:11of cheating and such things it was just physical that's how animals relate don't
19:23they yeah we are animals we are animals and animals get can get extremely
19:34violent if they discover their mate being stolen away there was one board I
19:48once read it said how to be cautious of dogs it particularly warned against
19:58disturbing dogs on two or three occasions one when they're having their
20:03food second when they are fighting among themselves and they are angry and third
20:10when they're meeting don't disturb them at that point even the most emaciated
20:20kind of dog will leap at your throat like a lion if it is in the process of
20:29lovemaking that's our relationships as are as well you know we are we are
20:37fundamentally animals but we are very cunning animals animals do not try to
20:45obfuscate their intentions dogs do it on roads and no dog first allures the bitch
21:03with gifts or promises or rounds or stuff over the fire hmm or holy chants
21:22all that doesn't happen the dog knows what it wants the bitch knows what it
21:28wants and they just get over it quite quickly done and dusted human beings
21:36spend five years seven years in courtship knowing fully well that the
21:45objective is just one but neither the man nor the woman assuming it's a man
21:54woman relationship would dare confess it to the other especially not in India
22:04and especially not if you are a woman you cannot tell the man you know all I
22:12want is your body here the man won't be offended even if he's an Indian it's far
22:29better to be honest very very rare our relationships on a higher plane we have
22:42moved out of the jungle but within we remain animals and it's been not a long
22:56time since we migrated out of the jungle right look at the entire evolutionary
23:00history we are pretty recent immigrants so the jungle is very much alive and
23:09kicking within us see