Video Information: Shastra Kaumudi, 20.12.2021, Rishikesh, India
Context:
~ How to find true love?
~ How to get rid of hatred?
~ How to detach with others?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Context:
~ How to find true love?
~ How to get rid of hatred?
~ How to detach with others?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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LearningTranscript
00:00Most people are not liberated by suffering, instead they are pushed into deeper suffering
00:09by suffering.
00:12One wrong relationship does not kindle wisdom in a person to stay cautious of any more wrong
00:24relationships.
00:26Instead what we see happening is that one wrong relationship breeds 100 more wrong relationships.
00:38So that's how the cycle of suffering continues its downward spiral.
00:50We suffer and because we suffer, our ability to ward off suffering diminishes even more.
01:01It's like a sick person with compromised immunity.
01:08Because his immunity is compromised, he falls sick.
01:13Because he falls sick, his immunity gets further compromised.
01:17Because his immunity gets further compromised, he gets into deeper sickness.
01:24That's how most of us are.
01:28Our life is nothing but a succession of sufferings, one deeper than the previous one, each one
01:41worse off than the previous one.
01:46So life was meant to be a journey, a process in which you learned continuously and grew
01:59and gained maturity and ultimately gained liberation.
02:06Life becomes a process in which we are born in bondages and we keep moving from bondage
02:20to bondage and keep gathering even heavier chains with every passing year and month.
02:29Be very cautious of stuff that appears.
02:33Be very cautious of names that reverberate in your mind.
02:38Be very cautious of things that attract and of things that repel.
02:42All of that is happening not because of things in themselves but because there is something
02:50within you that wants to have a sick relationship with things.
02:58There is nothing in the world so important that you fall in love with it.
03:05There is nothing in the world so abhorrent that you start hating it.
03:10At either end of the spectrum lies a strong desire to associate yourself with the world
03:19whether by affection or by disaffection.
03:27You have to go beyond the beyond, how can you get attached?
03:32You cannot be at peace unless you go even beyond the beyond.
03:39What is meant by going beyond the beyond?
03:42There is a beyondness that is a concept of the mind and there is a beyondness beyond
03:49all concepts of the mind.
03:52So it does not suffice at least to the seers to just say beyond because they know whatever
03:58they say would be misinterpreted and co-opted.
04:02For example if you have to make a choice between working hard and you know resting or relaxing.
04:17So at that moment there has to be a strong force which makes you make the right choice
04:31which in our previous discussion also we have said that it has to be love to oppose that
04:39other strong force.
04:45And because this love doesn't have any name or form or anything so for the mind can there
04:55be something with the name and a form that...
04:59You have answered yourself.
05:04Why do you say that the thing worth living will compulsorily not have a name and form?
05:22If name and form is what sinks you, you have to find a way to use name and form in a way
05:37that lifts you because entering the domain of the nameless and the formless straight
05:51away is not going to happen.
06:03I had said love, I would say will, the natural prakritic orientation obviously is to not
06:16only sink but keep sinking, there has to be love, there has to be will, you have to worship
06:29the power of the human will, that is if you want to express it in the language of power,
06:47if you want to be more subtle, more aesthetic then you will have to say that you will have
06:55to surrender to the charm of love but something has to be there to lift you up, whether right
07:13love or right will.
07:18Allow yourself to embrace the dangers of loving rightly, allow yourself to embrace the danger
07:32of willing rightly.
07:41These two are so very similar, they are just one.
07:45They both burn you up and exhaust you, they lead you to a deep rest by not allowing you
08:02to rest in false places.
08:08They cool you down, they calm you down by first burning you down, so are there strong
08:21will arising from discretion, I know therefore I will, I understand therefore I will or
08:38an unreasonable love, you have to have some force on your side, otherwise the force of
08:50inner tendencies is just too overwhelming, you will fall, see it's not possible that
09:08you have nothing in your life worth admiring, respecting, if not worshipping, why not commit
09:17yourself, that's the thing, people keep searching for great love eternally and they keep talking
09:34of their incessant failure, we want that high perfect divine kind of love and we are
09:41not getting it, my question is, have you first of all done justice to whatever is even a
09:56little lovable in your life, you want the thing that is perfectly lovable, we all want
10:05that, we want something in our life that is absolutely lovely, perfectly lovable, but
10:17first of all please burnish your credentials, there must be lesser things in your life that
10:27are not worth worshipping but are worth at least admiring, respecting, have you done
10:34justice to those things, to what extent have you committed yourself to those things, you
10:43want perfect beauty, it's not as if everything in your life is currently absolutely ugly,
10:52there must be stuff in your life that is at least relatively beautiful, have you done justice to
11:00that which is relatively beautiful, when you are not afraid of beauty, that's when you progress
11:12towards the absolutely beautiful, to what extent do you respect even little beauty in your life,
11:25what is the quality of your respect towards things, ideas, people, books that are respectable,
11:40if you come across something that deserves your love or respect, to what extent you commit to it
11:50and if you don't then how do you expect to find the absolutely respectable or lovable,
11:56you won't get there, it's a thing with life, you have to use relative steers even to reach
12:09the absolute sky, you cannot just launch yourself into the absolute without using any dualistic
12:21mechanism, remember that you as a son of Prakriti are just an element in duality,
12:30non-duality, absolute truth is a great goal but not your reality currently as you are,
12:43I might tell you that your nature, your true self is non-dual, that's something that can
12:57come to you just as knowledge from somebody else, even as I say that the process of reception of
13:06these words is dualistic, these words arise from one human body and enter another human body,
13:12clear duality, so you'll have to respect your dualistic existence and therefore respect the
13:28dualistic way towards non-duality, what is the dualistic way towards non-duality,
13:37it is the way of the relative, be relatively better with every step, be relatively better,
13:48even as you search for the absolute, find someone who is relatively, just relatively,
14:00not absolutely, just relatively better than you and come to the maximum extent you can,
14:07just as you cannot just jump to the 10th step on the staircase straightaway, you go step by step,
14:24similarly you take a step and that opens to you the possibility of the next and the higher step
14:39and when you move to the higher step, you become eligible for the next higher one,
14:50so you'll have to ask this, are you progressing step by step, what kind of justice do you do to
15:05the next available step, you talk of the open terrace, but did you take the step that is right
15:16now available to you, which means are you doing currently the utmost that is possible to you and
15:25obviously except for that there is no way, no opportunity, that's the only option available
15:34to you, the absolute won't come to you and offer darshan or something, all that you have available,
15:47possible is what is there in front of you in your dualistic world, you are a creature of blood and
16:00bones and there are other creatures of blood and bones, you have eyes, there are books, you have
16:08ears, there are words, are you listening to the right words, what do you mean by the right word,
16:15I do not mean the absolutely right words, I mean the best words that are possible to you given as
16:22you are and where you are, how do I know what's the absolutely best thing to hear, I do not know,
16:29I am a limited being, but still there is something I can do, what is it that I can do, if I know that
16:39in my limited experience, in my limited world, in my limited capacity, I have these five limited
16:44options, I at least can choose the best among those given my limited discretion, right, five
16:53options, because I am a small being, so all that I have is these five options and out of these five
16:59options, this is the one that appears the best to me, appears the best to me, something else might
17:04actually be better, I do not know, but given the way I am, out of these five options, this is the
17:10one that appears best to me, so right, I have this one option, now I'll have to be fully committed to
17:18it, if I can't commit to it fully, I have no right to talk of the absolute, this option that I have
17:27in front of me is nothing in comparison to the absolute, nothing, nothing at all, but right now
17:33it is everything for me, given the way I am, so I'll have to worship this very option, there's
17:39nothing else, there's something that we don't easily understand, that the way to eternity, the
17:50way to immortality passes through this very moment, you cannot reach anywhere if you do not start
18:05from where you are, maybe you don't have to reach anywhere far away, maybe what you actually want
18:22is depth at the very point where you are, so you cannot evade your current, your present and ask
18:48of things distant, whenever you will come to me, I'll quickly turn your question around and point
19:01at your life as it is right now and ask you, given the way you live, what do you hope for,
19:11given the way you operate, act, decide, what do you think you can get, yes.
19:28You mentioned in your answer that we have to be ready to face the dangers, so what kind of dangers?
19:37That's the thing, you want to know of the dangers in advance so that you can mitigate the dangers,
19:47that's the thing with those dangers, they are dangerous exactly because they are unpredictable,
19:55if you want to know of them in advance, then the danger is lost and if the danger is lost,
20:03the opportunity is lost, what is the danger, what is it that you lose when you move to a higher step,
20:19your lowly position, your comparatively lower position, that's what you have lost, that's a
20:31danger, when you ascend, you lose something, what do you lose, your lower position, but your lower
20:45position is lower only when you know that you have moved to a higher position or your lower position
20:53is lower when you genuinely acknowledge that you are suffering at your position, then you say,
20:59this does not appear to be a good high place to be at, I want to ascend, move on, graduate.
21:07We have a very unfortunate ability to make peace with our circumstances,
21:16to settle down wherever luck situates us. You do not find many people fundamentally
21:32dissatisfied with life, superficially everybody is dissatisfied, but that's not really the case,
21:42people lead very satisfied lives at very wrong places,
21:48there are very few who have genuine discontentment.
21:54We settle down, we accept, we surrender, we compromise,
22:02then there is no urge to move up and move on, there is no urge to break free and fly,
22:16you see this and that's when all change, all healthy and beautiful change,
22:33all progressive change becomes a danger, just don't like it, just don't like it.
22:43The very direct and compelling argument is, am I not already alright, it's already okay,
23:00what's the need to experience drastic change and therefore drastic discomfort,
23:11one fellow told me, these are his exact words, kaam chal toh raha hai,
23:20kaam chal toh raha hai, what's the need to invite so much trouble, isn't it already alright,
23:37if it's not alright, it's at least possible, if it's possible, then why go through needless pain,
23:47that's an argument, kaam chal toh raha hai, one of your colleagues, very recently,
24:03yes, one has to develop a kind of habit, just as it is a habit to settle down,
24:27it is a habit to never settle down, it is a habit to keep disturbing the status quo,
24:40even if needlessly, to keep changing things, sometimes for no reason at all,
24:51why are you disturbing things when nothing appears amiss, because things have been this
24:59way since too long now and that is dangerous, disturb things, disturb things, if things get
25:12settled in your life, that's your patterns settling down in your mind, it's not good for you,
25:20keep changing things, even if you do not find a reason to change those things, the reason might
25:30be hidden, don't be loyal to anything except the absolute, you're not supposed to be loyal to the
25:45brand you wear, not to your boyfriend or girlfriend or to your landlord or to the particular gas pump
25:59you patronize or the cafe you frequent, you're not supposed to be loyal to these, loyalty must
26:09be the preserve of the absolute, except the absolute keep changing everything, just keep
26:17changing everything and if you cannot change these small things in your life, then you'll
26:26find you cannot stick to the absolute, because that which cannot be changed is the absolute,
26:33if you cannot change the brand of your undergarments, then your underwear has become
26:42your absolute, only the absolute is unchangeable, everything else changes and is supposed to change,
26:54must be changed, why are you trying to immortalize it, let it flow, don't freeze it,
27:06too many days in one city, move, move, move for no reason at all, if you can't pack your bags and
27:22shift for good, at least take a break, two weeks or month something, too accustomed to one kind of
27:33dressing, try something else, even it makes you feel awkward, you didn't feel awkward while taking
27:42birth, while passing from formlessness to this awkward form, now how do you feel awkward just
27:55changing your apparels, what do you think this human form is beautiful or something, four random
28:03limbs, so much of hair over the body and our truth is formlessness, look at the fall from grace,
28:17look at the absolute dishonor and disgrace, you took form, you became this contemptible little
28:31stinking mass of flesh and then you didn't say, oh but why am I changing my nature, did you protest
28:40then, no there was no protest, you meekly took form, if you didn't protest the change then,
28:50why do you resist change now, keep changing everything, because you're nothing, if you
28:59cannot change something, you're getting identified with it, only the one must remain unchangeable,
29:08that, that and that and because you cannot change little things, therefore you end up
29:16compromising on the one, because you start showing loyalty to all and sundry, therefore
29:25you become guilty of disloyalty towards the one, be openly disloyal, live the glorious life of the
29:48one, who am I, a perpetual renegade,
30:06who am I, whose passion is to break promises, because he has a promise to keep,
30:26there is one promise that I must keep and therefore I must keep breaking all other promises,
30:36there is the one thing that must be honored, therefore everything else must be taken very
30:53lightly, you don't have to purposefully dishonor something, but the moment something stands
31:03in the way of the truth of your liberation, treat it as you treat a fly with the fly sweater,
31:24have you seen a fly sweater, how do you treat flies with it, that's how you are to treat
31:42anything that tries to dress up as the truth or supplant the truth by becoming permanent,
32:00only the truth is permanent, in fact the truth is beyond permanence, truth is timeless, anything
32:10that tries to become a fixture in your life is to be seen with cynicism, why don't you
32:37have a t-shirt in the coming months, gloriously disloyal, or I'll break all promises because
32:54I have a promise to keep, or I keep breaking all promises because I have a promise to keep.
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