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00:00It's going to be again. Niall McNish takes Johans here with DK's seat today. He will be back with
00:05us for our next episode. And Ansel Blaise Isaac, the man himself, Junior up with us. Junior. Yeah,
00:12my father is Ansel Isaac, so. Junior. Yeah. All right. Blaise Junior is with us here today. We're
00:17talking masculine energy. Now, before we get into it, gents, I want to read what, what, now there are
00:24many terms for masculine, there are many definitions rather for masculine energy, but this one was
00:30particularly apt. So masculine energy refers to a set of traits, behaviors, and qualities that are
00:35typically associated with masculinity or men. Okay. Well, yeah, I mean, this is self-explanatory.
00:42Exactly. But these traits can include assertiveness, confidence, independence, courage, and a focus on
00:50achieving goals. Masculine energy can also be characterized by competitiveness, strength,
00:55and a desire for control or dominance. It's important to know that masculine energy is not
01:01limited to men, as people of all genders can exhibit these traits. Additionally, not all men
01:09possess masculine energy, and some may exhibit feminine traits. So that gives us a starting point.
01:18A nice piece. To discuss. I finally leave out logic on that one too. Like being like super logical.
01:24Right. I feel I might lean towards masculinity a lot more. You think so? Yeah. I think some,
01:33from my experience, a lot of women are super logical. Okay. And even more logical than men in many
01:40instances. Now, the emotional is there, and this is not womanhood, but the emotional is there,
01:46but sometimes I think that a lot of ladies are, and I take this from like my mother. Right. Yeah.
01:52She was always, she is always very logical, more logical than me. She has three sons. Okay. And
01:58she's been more logical than us most times. Right. So that's just the example I have. I don't know if
02:03it fits everyone. So this is what I want to get into. So you, you were looking at some research
02:07earlier and you, you, you touched on logic. So in logic, you actually mentioned about something that
02:12I wasn't aware of with regards to how the brain works. So men are wired. Well, based on the
02:19research that I just did, men's brains are wired front to back, typically, while women's brains are
02:25wired left to right. So not back to front. So front to back. Okay. It's very specific.
02:29Some are back to front. Some are back to front.
02:32But because of that, that's where the attraction actually happens. Right.
02:37To the cross. Yeah. But, but to go back to what Blaise mentioned about your mom, can I
02:43ask a question, a personal question? Was, did you have your father figure? Yeah. So your
02:49mom, so your mom be logical and your father was also logical in the household? He was a little
02:53illogical sometimes. But, but, but, but, but you know what, you know what, in terms of that,
02:59we would spend more time with our mom. Oh my God, he was a soldier. All right. He was in the
03:04army. So he would be thing, he would work in thing, you know, you know, that's what it
03:07used to be. So you're spending more time with your mom. So I guess he was logical too, but
03:11I would experience her logic. I just, I just want to add to that because, so I understand
03:17what you're saying that, you know, because doing more research and stuff also, you know,
03:21they were saying that in terms of masculine energy is more geared towards logic, while the
03:27feminine energy is more towards like intuitiveness and that kind of thing. Empathy, emotions.
03:32Yeah. But one of the interesting things that, that Blaise raised there is, you know, a lot
03:38of families probably know, but more so back in the day, the wife or the mother was the
03:44one who handled the money. Okay. Yeah. So like the father figure might be the one earning
03:49the money. Yeah. Right. But he, he taken that money and arrested it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
03:54So that level of logic now, you know, that level of, Hey, this is what we need to do.
03:59This is what needs to be done. Right. Blaise had a, Blaise. Okay. This, this June, Blaise
04:05a football practice coming up, you know, so that I can understand that level of, so I agree
04:10with you that in reading, you know, it was saying that more geared towards masculine energy
04:16energy, it was logic, but I agree with Blaise also from that perspective, you know, like
04:21the woman or the one's handled in the scene when it comes to the household and showing that
04:26things done. Because even to a level now, my wife is the one to really, Hey, this one needs
04:31to be done. The quality shot. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. In March, this one needs to be done.
04:34Right. Yeah. Don't forget this. Don't forget that, you know? But would you apply that to
04:39logic though? Because for me, I feel logic is more along the lines of when emotions are
04:45on the table. Right. At some point in time, you have to be able to move aside the fantasy
04:52Right. And do what has to be done. And a lot of the times, and again, we generalize in here,
04:59we're not trying to, of course, there will always be exceptions to the rules. Right. But
05:03the, the, to me, I find that a lot of times women in a general sense would
05:11masturbate to the fantasy of how life's supposed to be. Right. And the reason I would say that
05:19would be, I am talking to my friend, she's around 36 years old right now. And she's still
05:24saying that she wants to wait for the right man who's going to come along and, you know,
05:30Prince Charming. Prince Charming. Right. And I'm like, mom, after the age of 30, you already
05:35use 90% of your ex. So from a logical standpoint.
05:40Well, the other 10% she want to save it for somebody who, who deserve the, the ex.
05:44Which, which I get. But, but you're, you're not thinking about how you're approaching it
05:49logically. You're still, you're still trying to live in a space that is not most conducive
05:57to you, you know. So rather than hoping for that perfect man to come along, how about start
06:02looking at your pool of, in, in your dating pool right now and saying, hmm, maybe I can't
06:07find the Prince Charming who could sweep me off my feet. Maybe I should go to my friends
06:13list. All them, all, all people in my, in that are putting in friends zone. Maybe I should
06:17start looking at those men and saying, I can raise a family with this guy. He's not
06:22necessarily the, the guy that I want.
06:24So she has to be attracted to him, eh?
06:26So after she told him, what happened?
06:27After she told him, no, I just, I'm just kidding.
06:30So that, that itself is another topic that we want to discuss in manhood. Like, can men really
06:37have female friends? Or can females have guy friends? Or is it that something just hasn't
06:43happened as yet? But I want to bring it back to the topic of today, which is.
06:46Yeah, I kind of, too. Well, they have to move on.
06:49Yeah, they move on there. They throw it out there.
06:51And then, and then, you know.
06:52But I want to add to that before, before you think there, Robbie, I just want to add to
06:56Niall in terms of, you know, in terms of logic and, and you look at the way men, and emotion,
07:03logic and emotion seems to be at the two ends of the scope. And I don't, it's like men
07:10just commit suicide more than women, right?
07:11True. And to me, it's something emotional that would trigger them to do this, most men.
07:17So then, I mean, you know, taking a life is not logical.
07:21Yeah.
07:22I would agree.
07:23You would agree.
07:24But I, I think.
07:25But, but, but men do it more than women somehow.
07:26Yeah.
07:27So again.
07:28Just adding to what both of you are saying, I guess we had to also realize that it's never
07:35one thing.
07:36It's not, it's never black and white.
07:37Correct.
07:38The most, only logical.
07:39The most logical.
07:40Right.
07:41All women.
07:42It's a skill.
07:43Only emotional.
07:44You know, yin and yang.
07:45Yeah.
07:46You must have that balance.
07:47Yeah.
07:48So like, because I think one of the things that they also list under feminine energy is
07:55like creativity.
07:56Right.
07:57Okay.
07:58So the reality is that we know creative males, you know, we know creative men.
08:04Yeah.
08:04Um, so, and then also they list competitiveness on the masculine energy.
08:10Mm-hmm.
08:10But we know very good.
08:11We know female athletes.
08:12Yeah.
08:12We know women in the workplace.
08:14Yeah, yeah, yeah.
08:15Yeah, yeah.
08:15Yeah, yeah.
08:16So I think we need to also establish that it's, it will never be black and white.
08:21So it will never be there.
08:22So that's why I want to bring it back to the definition that we read initially.
08:26So competitiveness, creativeness, logic, you said was missing from that definition.
08:30Yeah, agreed.
08:31But within that, as, as in that definition, males can have feminine energy as well.
08:37Right.
08:38And females can have the masculine energy.
08:40Now, in many respects, that's a good thing, right, and can actually help you survive.
08:46Right.
08:46But the topic, the, the, what I want to drill down to in the, in the, in the focus of,
08:51of this brotherhood that we talk, that we're speaking about here today is a negative impact.
08:56Okay.
08:57And then a negative impact of females having, or in them, what is called in their masculine energy.
09:03So, give you a case in point, a woman, they have two, three children, the guy's doing his utmost to, say, earn money, bring it in, but it might not be enough.
09:15So, that defeat, you find your partner then lives in her masculine energy and in survival mode, and that might do certain things or have certain behaviors that she has to protect her young and protect herself.
09:27Right.
09:28And therefore, may emasculate, may emasculate the partner so the man feels less than because the woman may even come and say, well, you, you, you, you can't handle your business.
09:40So, it could be in the bedroom.
09:42It could be financially.
09:43Financially, yeah.
09:44It could be in many different ways.
09:45Right.
09:46And it's that woman taking that stronger sort of alpha male position that then whether, whether subtly, subliminally, whether, you know, very, very to the frontal lobe, the man is aware of how he's feeling.
10:01It's, it's dangerous.
10:02And, and we find, I mean, I've had that experience.
10:06Right.
10:07Where we find that women in a, now, that's okay as a survival mode in certain cases to get by in certain circumstances.
10:15But when it's part and parcel of your relationship, and you're there trying to be the man of the house, but you're not being allowed to be the man of the house, or felt, or you don't feel like you're being the man of the house, it becomes a problem.
10:27That may then connect to many other things down the line.
10:31Okay.
10:32I stumped everyone there.
10:33No, you didn't stump me.
10:34I actually will come into, what I will, based on what you were saying, at the end of the day, balance is key.
10:41Right?
10:42Correct.
10:43You're supposed to have both feminine and masculine energy, male or female.
10:46Of course, they'll always have a mis, mis balance.
10:50Mis balance is a word?
10:51You can put it down.
10:52Imbalance.
10:53Imbalance.
10:55Right?
10:56To me, to my parents.
10:58So, what I hear in you saying is that there's an imbalance where the woman now feels that she has to take, or she naturally starts to take a more masculine role in the relationship, and the man starts to take a feminine role.
11:14Maybe that means that the man himself, because if I was in a relationship, it would never happen.
11:22You understand?
11:23Even if she starts to grow up in her masculinity, I know, or I feel confident that my masculinity will always not only match, but surpass us, always keeping her in her more feminine frame.
11:35So, if it is that a man is feeling emasculated by his wife or his partner, what that is telling me is that his imbalance is really saying that the reason why she's becoming that is because he is more feminine in his frame.
11:51In his frame.
11:52So, let me just get a bit clearer.
11:54That makes sense.
11:55It does.
11:56But that, again, is maybe based on the analogy that I gave.
12:00That was the perception, or what you derived from that.
12:04But it goes a step further.
12:05I'm saying, okay, so, I don't know if you've been in a situation, the wifey, girlfriend, partner asks you a question, and you give an answer, and then they still go and check.
12:18Or they, I'm looking at something on Netflix now, I won't reveal what this series is, but you see things where you're with a partner, and they really respect or admire someone else.
12:30Someone else who might be exuding maybe a bit more masculine.
12:34Big energy.
12:35Exactly.
12:36Okay.
12:37That's what it is.
12:38That's what it is.
12:39And therefore.
12:40Alpha.
12:41Alpha.
12:42And is it like we were talking about, you asked the question earlier about, is she attracted to maybe somebody on her friends list?
12:48So, does it come down to that fact that women are looking, sizing up a man to say, do you have, do you hit the checklist of as to what I want my offspring to look like?
12:58And therefore, if I'm with you, but you're not, or maybe you started off being that way, maybe they thought something of you at that particular point, but now they're looking at others as, you know what, I'd rather listen to him.
13:10And sometimes it's, they're not doing it consciously.
13:13It's just, well, there's lack of respect or different things that happen, but you might even recognize it now.
13:21That's what I'm saying.
13:22But you start to feel it.
13:23But you'll feel it.
13:24Okay.
13:25And then you start to feel less than like, but you might be trying your best to do something.
13:28Yeah.
13:29You might be working as hard as you can to make a dollar on somebody.
13:33But the reality still remains that even though you're feeling it and you're working as hard as you can and you're still not able to satisfy mentally for her, that still doesn't take away from the fact that that man might still be more feminine.
13:48Granted, you know, but what about the other scenarios where they're not?
13:53Well, if that's the case, then in reality, she will never be able to be in her masculine frame.
14:00It, it, two man rat can't be in the same hole.
14:03So if I'm a man, man, I'm an alpha man.
14:05Right.
14:06Right.
14:07And she trying to grow up in gaze, it will never work out.
14:11Something will give, somebody will break.
14:13And one thing is that trust thing too.
14:15Like they don't trust that, listen, if I, if I relax here, if I don't do something that you will meet those needs, that, that if I stop working or if I stop doing this particular thing, that therefore you would step up to the plate in that point.
14:29I think it comes down to, in certain cases, a trust thing.
14:35Well, the, the, the thing is, I mean, it's true what you're saying there, Niall.
14:40I mean, it has some men, they're very, very alpha.
14:42And, you know, it's my house and my rules and my, and my, and yeah, they take it down.
14:48Obviously they can't really contend with a woman who not just willing to just buckle down and, you know, submissive, you know, that kind of thing.
14:59And it's true.
15:00But I believe even with the manhood and, and male energy and man energy and alphaness, I believe also that there must be an, there must be a balance, you know?
15:15And, and, and I think part of being a man is understanding a woman.
15:21True.
15:22That's just how it is.
15:23Right.
15:24And, and the energies, obviously you would, you, you have your masculine energy and you can't help it.
15:29Mm.
15:30You know, it's just like men who have a little more feminine energy, they can't help it.
15:34You might think, oh, darn warm to you.
15:36No.
15:37Yeah.
15:38He can't really help it.
15:39Just like others, you know, you can't help it.
15:41So, so it really comes down, boy, honestly.
15:44He, I mean, I know we're not talking about relationships in, in this episode, but if it's relationships, it really comes down to that kind of balance.
15:51Now, as a man, it's just take it easy, you know?
15:53Yeah.
15:54They, they just, they have masculine energy, you know, but they're just cool.
15:56Why fight?
15:57Yeah.
15:58Yeah.
15:59Like, yo, I don't really fight.
16:00I don't really want to quarrel.
16:01Yeah.
16:02You don't have men like that.
16:03Yo, well, well, you, you go ahead now.
16:04You want to buy peanut butter, well, go ahead now.
16:06I don't really like it, but whatever.
16:07Right.
16:08You know?
16:09But, but if I do that, that doesn't mean that my masculine energy go on.
16:12I agree.
16:13You understand?
16:14It just means that I really, that's not really important to me.
16:17I don't really care about that.
16:18That fight, that fight not worth it.
16:19Yeah.
16:20That fight not worth it.
16:21That quarrel, that side eye, that cut eye not really worth it.
16:23Yeah.
16:24You know what I mean?
16:25My priority is different.
16:26And, and, and that's another thing too.
16:28People priorities change during relationships.
16:30That is correct.
16:31What, what they start off wanting, they mightn't want that in the middle.
16:35Yeah.
16:36And in the end, it, they wouldn't, you know, so, so that's how, that's how things happen.
16:39And that's why they say people change.
16:41It's not that people change, you know?
16:43It's that what you want, change.
16:45Yeah.
16:46The person is the same person, more or less, you know?
16:50So, but, so, so you mentioned having a balance, right?
16:53And he also went on to say that the, as a man, you need to understand your woman.
16:58That there in itself is empathy, which is a feminine trait.
17:02Yeah.
17:03In terms of masculine and feminine, right?
17:05So, where the balance really is for a man, if you're well balanced, you would understand your woman.
17:11For me personally, I do agree with alpha males, that whole alpha male lifestyle.
17:15Because that, to me, it says that you are imbalanced in your masculinity.
17:20You're way too masculine.
17:21You're too, right.
17:22You're too much on one side, right?
17:24You don't have too much on one side.
17:25For you to only function as a masculine man who you so alpha, you need a super feminine
17:30woman who is just, she don't talk, she submissive, you know?
17:34Yeah.
17:35So, I could see why those two match.
17:38But what happens when the scale is a little bit warped in between?
17:43That's where the mismatches happen.
17:45And sometimes the reality is, you're in the wrong relationship with the wrong person.
17:49And the woman, just to touch on what you just said there, is it then that the woman
17:55doesn't see enough masculine energy from you, or doesn't feel that masculine energy from
18:02you, and therefore, whether it be that you simply don't have it, maybe a two, for lack
18:06of a better term, creative, or...
18:09Too much on that scale.
18:10Too much on that scale.
18:11It's scales, right?
18:12Yeah, scales.
18:13So, I mean, we all sit here and we all are creatives, eh?
18:16Exactly.
18:17And some more than others.
18:19And in certain...
18:20I can't help with that.
18:22That's the most creative here.
18:24I don't...
18:25I don't know if I jump on.
18:27You know?
18:28Joanne, back up here.
18:29Back up here, Joanne.
18:30Yeah, back up here, Joanne.
18:31Yeah, back up here, back up here.
18:34So, is it that they simply don't feel that from you, rather than you may be in a case where
18:42you're picking and choosing your battles, and therefore, they might...
18:45It's not that it's not there, it's just simply that they don't feel it.
18:49And so, I'm coming back to the point of women feeling that that pillar that they require,
18:54or that, you know, even though you may have that pillar that you might be earning, et cetera,
18:58they don't feel that, and therefore, they're looking at someone else, maybe in another relationship,
19:03and going, why my man can't be like that?
19:05Well, the funny thing that you mention that, because at the time, about last week or so,
19:10on your show, the morning show, you all were asking, like, on a scale of one to ten,
19:16how would you rate, like, your significance?
19:19Are there more masculine or whatever?
19:21Oh, really?
19:22Yeah!
19:23And a lot of the...
19:24Well, up to the point when I was listening, a lot of the women was rating their significant...
19:28Five.
19:29Six, six.
19:30...and wanted more.
19:31They wanted more, yeah.
19:32I'd say, like...
19:33So, there were some instances where women were saying, boy, I want him to tell me, I can't do that.
19:39Yeah, they want that.
19:40Yeah!
19:41And I was like, what?
19:42Serious?
19:43Yes.
19:44I gave their names?
19:45No, no, no.
19:46Well, we can find out.
19:47That's very interesting.
19:49Yeah, the majority of them were saying, but he's a, he's a mopsie man, you know, I...
19:54Right.
19:55So, there's a woman that was saying...
19:56The people who husbands are they talking about?
19:57Yeah!
19:58For their own.
19:59Yeah!
20:00So, they want that assertion.
20:01They want that a bit of aggressiveness.
20:02So, here's my question.
20:03How come they're in those relationships with those men?
20:05They just settle.
20:06Some people...
20:07And that's what it is, you know, because a lot of people, and you see it with women,
20:11you see it with men too.
20:12And this is by no means a relationship for them.
20:14Yeah, gotcha.
20:15Right?
20:16Based on, you know, the experience, and as Joel pointed out, even, even I was taken
20:21aback with the results of that poll.
20:23Yeah!
20:24It was an unofficial poll.
20:25And the women, and them were saying, well, you know, he's a four, and you need to be
20:28a little more sensitive.
20:29But you need to tell me...
20:30He need to tell me, I want to buy something.
20:31He had to tell me no.
20:32Yeah.
20:33No, don't just give me...
20:34A woman say that, you know.
20:35She say, he need to tell me no.
20:37But he not telling me no enough.
20:39Well, I grew up in a time where a happy wife is a happy life.
20:43Well, that's what we were taught, right?
20:46Who were you taught that by though?
20:48I don't know.
20:49We just heard it.
20:51From where?
20:52We have to identify those things.
20:54I don't know.
20:55You just hear people saying those things.
20:58It comes down to the episode where we spoke about toxic masculinity.
21:02Where do these topics, where do these phrases, where do these sayings, where do these...
21:07Come from?
21:08Come from, yeah.
21:09They're just in the air.
21:10Yeah.
21:11Like I heard, right?
21:12I heard.
21:13Now to cut to your fridge, I'm sorry.
21:14I see.
21:15I heard, I was doing a function, and a guy, he was giving, you know, some pep talk and
21:20thing, and he said, you know, he said, I tell people, pull up your big girl panty.
21:24And I never heard that before.
21:27You ever heard that?
21:28I hear you.
21:30I hear you.
21:31I always heard, pull up your big boy pants.
21:33That's what I hear.
21:34But he said, you know, pull up your big girl panty.
21:37And I say, wait, look at that.
21:39I never heard that before.
21:40But where do these things come from?
21:41We don't know.
21:42Yeah.
21:43No, it come, for me, it come from him.
21:44So every time I say that, it will come from him.
21:46I can't remember.
21:47In a few years, I can't remember who said that.
21:49So, and then also the relationship thing, right?
21:53We know Bob Marley.
21:54Oh, yeah.
21:55Bob Marley and Rita and wife.
21:56So I was watching this documentary a while ago, and they're talking to Rita.
22:00And Rita was basically saying, boy, Bob is not the kind of man I liked, you know?
22:04This little red man, soft feet.
22:07She said, what I like?
22:08Big, strapped.
22:09Yeah, yeah.
22:10Tough.
22:11Yeah.
22:12Dark skin.
22:13And then they flash her shutter Peter Tosh.
22:15Yeah, that's what it's a wicked one.
22:17I said, it's so hilarious, sir.
22:19Because she said, well, obviously we know what has come out of it.
22:23Right.
22:24She said, yeah.
22:25Yeah.
22:26And generational wealth and stuff like that.
22:27Yeah, yeah.
22:28But the man that was really the type.
22:30Didn't.
22:31Yeah.
22:32It wasn't a soft, soft man.
22:33Yeah.
22:34Yeah.
22:35Yeah.
22:36Hard man.
22:37Hard man.
22:38Yeah, yeah, yeah.
22:39So, is it safe to say that sexual attraction and security for women sometimes are different
22:47people?
22:48True.
22:49True.
22:50Ten, no, he's rich and secure.
22:51That's what is going on.
22:52Which makes sense.
22:53That's what it is.
22:55Because if you are unfaithful in a relationship, that person has something-
23:08That missing.
23:09That missing here.
23:10That's what it is.
23:11He might have the finance and security and whatever.
23:12I'm not saying that the man can't have his time, but he is not enough.
23:13Yeah.
23:14So, you will buy a Joe grind.
23:15That's what, that's how this position Joe grinds on.
23:18All he wants to do is smoke weed
23:24and beat her back down.
23:26And stop smoking weed.
23:28He's just
23:29a man just waiting to kill people.
23:33Or kill somebody's wife or kill friends.
23:36That's what Joe Grane is.
23:38So he has masculinity for her.
23:40Is it in a way to say monogamy
23:42for the most part is a construct?
23:44Is it that
23:45as you said 80%
23:48is the safety who's the man she may marry
23:50and if 15% or
23:5120% is the bad boy in the back
23:54of her mind that either
23:55was part of her body count
23:57or is it that
23:59that person's
24:01looming outside or is some sort of
24:03fantasy to be fulfilled hence that
24:06there would never be
24:07100% of a respect
24:10or a full on I'm
24:12into you
24:13type scenario because if you marry the
24:15bad boy then that comes with other things.
24:18Well yeah
24:18you might get to watch.
24:20You might get to watch.
24:20You know what you know
24:21he may not necessarily be the person
24:23that you will look at
24:23as a father figure
24:25for your children
24:25and stuff like that.
24:26I feel like the main thing.
24:27You know
24:27so correct.
24:29Somebody for the future.
24:30Yeah somebody that you can
24:31somebody who will ensure
24:333 o'clock the children
24:34had to get picked up.
24:35Yeah yeah.
24:36Not 3 o'clock
24:36key on a meet some girls.
24:38You know
24:38somebody else.
24:40That's what Joe Grimes lived in the life.
24:42They live it.
24:43They live it.
24:44They are living.
24:45Joe Grimes lived in the life.
24:46So that means
24:47so that means
24:48what
24:48based on
24:49this is a real good conversation
24:51I must say
24:52so that means
24:53based on the
24:54if a man is
24:55imbalanced
24:55to a woman
24:57she will always
24:58air to the side of
25:00I need to ensure
25:01that my offspring's
25:02okay
25:02so if it is
25:04he not giving
25:04the full masculinity
25:05that she really want
25:06where her sexual side
25:08and her emotional side
25:09could be satisfied
25:10she will always
25:11lean towards
25:12the side of
25:13my kids need to be okay
25:15that's all I can
25:16as I say
25:17at 30
25:1890% of your eggs
25:19are gone
25:19so
25:20her mind
25:21don't switch into
25:22yo I don't care
25:23about nothing else
25:24other than my offsprings.
25:25So
25:25you're making a
25:27very very good point there
25:28so is it then
25:29that we're looking
25:29at masculine energy
25:31in two
25:31different
25:32in two silos
25:33or maybe
25:34you know
25:34as maybe
25:35one complete one
25:36but if you are
25:36in a relationship
25:38with no children
25:39masculine energy
25:40may be different
25:41in that
25:41in this particular
25:42circumstance
25:43but with kids
25:44there's survival
25:45that comes in
25:45so you may say
25:46listen
25:47that 15%
25:48that's my
25:49my needs
25:50I could put
25:51on a back burner
25:52or I could get
25:52that by Joe Grimes
25:53right
25:54basically
25:55the masculine energy
25:56in terms of
25:57I look at you
25:58and my masculine energy
25:59is suppressed
25:59because in this
26:01particular case
26:01I don't have to be
26:03in survival mode
26:04because you're a good father
26:05or if you're not
26:06a good father
26:07then it's
26:08elevated
26:09then it will increase
26:10as a result of
26:11you're not providing
26:12that
26:12but if you're also
26:13not a Joe Grimes
26:14and satisfying
26:15the other side of me
26:17then we're not a problem
26:18so is it that we
26:19compartmentalize
26:20and to say
26:21okay well
26:21there's a difference
26:23and as we speak
26:24in relationships
26:25and masculine energy
26:25between a woman
26:27with kids
26:28and a woman
26:28in a relationship
26:29with old kids
26:31because in both cases
26:33there could be
26:33that masculine energy
26:35that's in a negative
26:35capacity
26:36I mean you know
26:38it's very
26:39you know
26:39just as
26:40as we do
26:41on this show
26:42where we
26:42we look
26:44at manhood
26:45and we discover
26:46we discuss
26:48male
26:49esque
26:50topics
26:51and it's
26:52complexities
26:53and the same
26:55thing happens
26:55with relationships
26:56relationship
26:57people can write
26:58books from now
26:59till whenever
27:01people will buy it
27:03but it still
27:03wouldn't provide
27:04all the answers
27:05that's just how it is
27:06and when we delve
27:08into these things
27:08now we delve
27:09into complexities
27:10each relationship
27:11is complex
27:12because it's like
27:13a human being
27:13all of us
27:15are different
27:15in some form
27:16or fashion
27:16there's not
27:17the perfect human being
27:18although Hitler
27:19tried to
27:19try to make that
27:20you know
27:21that was
27:21that failed miserably
27:23but at the end
27:24of the day
27:24it's something
27:26where it's very
27:27complex now
27:28so to say that
27:29what might work
27:30for X
27:32might work for Y
27:33and that's where
27:34all the complexities
27:34start to happen
27:36while a woman
27:36might like a man
27:37who real artsy
27:38and thing
27:39and then like
27:39so no I want
27:40thing I want
27:40so it's all over
27:42the place
27:43so this is
27:43something that
27:44we can just
27:45speak out
27:46discover
27:47and keep on
27:48discussing now
27:48and keep on
27:49discovering
27:49with healthy
27:51discussion
27:51you know
27:52and further
27:52to that Blaise
27:53is the fact
27:54that people
27:55change today
27:56you're like
27:56payload
27:56so you go
27:59through different
27:59points in your
28:00life
28:00social influences
28:01because we as
28:02men change too
28:03you know
28:03we change too
28:04you have different
28:05wants
28:05as we age
28:07as we age
28:08you're thinking
28:09and you're watching
28:09and nobody's
28:10100% compete
28:11for somebody
28:12that only happens
28:13in the movies
28:14exactly
28:14and we
28:16try to live
28:16your life
28:17like a movie
28:17and then we
28:18find out
28:18that's just a movie
28:18that's just a movie
28:19so in other words
28:21basically
28:21it's really
28:22the balance
28:23the balance
28:24of femininity
28:25and masculinity
28:25keep changing
28:27the scale always
28:28keep moving
28:28as you go along
28:31so for me
28:33now
28:33again
28:33trying to understand
28:35this in totality
28:35I have to
28:36if I'm a husband
28:37and I have a wife
28:38with children
28:39I have to
28:40identify
28:41that her scale
28:42is moving
28:42and I have to
28:44try to adjust
28:45my scale
28:46accordingly
28:47and vice versa
28:48if she's a good wife
28:49she needs to know
28:50that my scale moving
28:51I might not be
28:51as aggressive
28:52as I was
28:53to begin with
28:53so she might know
28:55you know
28:56she had to adjust
28:57her scaling
28:58to that
28:58and then different
28:59things change you
29:00because when
29:01because I know
29:03that men
29:03who's real hard
29:04man
29:04them is bad man
29:05them is
29:05you can't match
29:07the clocks
29:07they can't even
29:08don't even look at me
29:09don't look at me
29:10and these men
29:12I have seen
29:12these men change
29:13and them
29:14well back in my days
29:15them fellas
29:16it's grandfathers now
29:17and them real cool
29:18and calm and nice
29:19because things like
29:20children
29:21this change people
29:22like men
29:24I have two girls
29:25and I
29:27girl children
29:28this
29:28like change
29:29you know
29:30they softening up
29:31you know
29:31anybody who have
29:32girl children
29:32now boys
29:33yeah all children
29:34it's changed
29:34but boys
29:35I don't have
29:37boy children
29:37so they probably
29:39have to take
29:39a different
29:39approach
29:40with a boy
29:41so different
29:42things now
29:42Niall might do
29:44so now
29:44and Niall is
29:44a hard man
29:45or Joel
29:46right
29:46and she like
29:58the hard man
30:00thing now
30:00and then
30:01she make her
30:02a gill child
30:03for him
30:03they just say
30:04and he just
30:04start all of a sudden
30:06after he get a gill
30:06he just become
30:07more flurry
30:08and soft
30:09and she might be
30:10watching him
30:10and saying
30:11but we're
30:11no gay
30:12but he can't
30:14help it
30:15he can't help it
30:16because he
30:17adjusting
30:17to life
30:18you know
30:19so this is
30:21what takes place
30:22the manhood
30:23now
30:23and the
30:24masculine
30:25and the thing
30:26different things
30:27change it
30:28at different times
30:29you understand
30:30but then when
30:31when your daughter
30:32grow up now
30:33and she get a boyfriend
30:33now all of a sudden
30:34I had to show him
30:38who's more man
30:39so it is right
30:41it is right
30:42and as Niall said
30:44you had no one
30:45to adjust with her
30:46because sometimes
30:47she might be feeling
30:48I find her not
30:50really assertive enough
30:51and in work
30:52they tell me
30:52I need to be more
30:53assertive
30:53so she now
30:54trying to be more
30:55assertive
30:55and she coming at you
30:56with the assertiveness
30:57now
30:57and you say
30:58take it on
30:59but it's a circumstance
31:02causing that
31:03you understand
31:05it's a circumstance
31:06causing it
31:06in the same way
31:07just like how I
31:08explained with you
31:08that
31:08so this is something
31:10that going back
31:11and forth
31:11and it riding
31:11during your life
31:12is different things
31:13and we now need
31:14to adjust
31:15with each other
31:16but most people
31:16don't know
31:17how to identify
31:17that
31:18with themselves
31:20and worse yet
31:21with the partner
31:21because as my grandfather
31:23told me a long time ago
31:24he said women
31:25is tests
31:26for men
31:26all the time
31:27they go and test you
31:28every way
31:29because again
31:30for her
31:31it's security
31:32and safety
31:32right
31:33so just like
31:34how you want to know
31:35if this is firm
31:36if I could stand on this
31:37and do a little test
31:38for this
31:38you're going to get
31:39tests
31:40every day
31:41so just like
31:42the example
31:42they gave Rob
31:43where
31:43she might
31:44you know
31:45she ask you a question
31:47you give her the answer
31:47but she still go back
31:49and check
31:49and that's where
31:53now the man
31:54now
31:54supposed to
31:55either
31:55pass
31:56or fail
31:57and the fail
31:58might be
31:58boiling down
32:01you know
32:02when
32:02what she's really
32:03looking for
32:04based on
32:04you see
32:05yeah
32:06she's supposed
32:08to be
32:08yo
32:09I now tell you
32:10that this is the answer
32:11you're wasting
32:13you're wasting
32:13you're wasting
32:13you're wasting
32:14you're wasting
32:15so the man
32:16just take that
32:17and you lost
32:17the voice
32:18but then
32:19we come back
32:20to
32:20you know
32:21as you mentioned
32:22about listening
32:23to Blaze Show
32:24where they talk
32:25about that
32:25and maybe
32:26they're missing
32:26that percentage
32:27but do they
32:28acknowledge
32:28first of all
32:30that they're
32:30missing that
32:31percentage
32:31in their pairs
32:32or if you
32:33then
32:33if you
32:34hear that
32:35conversation
32:35or a friend
32:37call and say
32:37hey that's
32:38all like
32:38the wife
32:38and you decide
32:40are you going
32:41to put on
32:41a bit of
32:41assertiveness
32:42is it not
32:43when they
32:43this week
32:45they're feeling
32:45like this
32:45the following week
32:46they make a change
32:47like you said
32:48they watch
32:48something on TV
32:49something
32:49all of a sudden
32:51you're in toxic
32:51masculinity
32:52all of a sudden
32:54you're in a
32:55different realm
32:56now
32:56that now
32:56could be
32:57having a
32:57negative impact
32:58even though
32:59you're positively
32:59trying to
33:01enhance your relationship
33:02or to fill a gap
33:04so is it that
33:05we're saying
33:06women simply
33:06don't know
33:07what they want
33:07which is
33:08naturally
33:08and so if
33:14you don't
33:15know what
33:15you want
33:15because you're
33:15human
33:16things change
33:17life changes
33:18how then
33:19if I just
33:21bring this
33:21sort of
33:22full conversation
33:23back to
33:23you know
33:24we want to
33:24always leave
33:25someone with
33:26we don't know
33:26it all
33:27we don't
33:27pretend to
33:28it all
33:28we're not
33:28speaking on
33:29behalf of
33:30we're just
33:30speaking
33:31we're just
33:32talking
33:32we're having
33:32a conversation
33:33so if
33:34in masculine
33:35energy
33:35in your
33:36relationship
33:36you simply
33:39cannot provide
33:40what might
33:41have them
33:43in their
33:45masculine
33:45energy
33:46what do you
33:46do
33:47so you know
33:48they want
33:49a Range Rover
33:50or they want
33:51a particular
33:51lifestyle
33:52and you
33:53you're hustling
33:54for $5,000
33:55a month
33:55but you're
33:55honest living
33:56you're doing
33:57everything that
33:57you can do
33:58or in another
33:59situation
33:59it could be
34:00in the bedroom
34:00wherever the
34:02case may be
34:02but if
34:03you simply
34:04can't deliver
34:05that
34:05is it a case
34:05of walk away
34:06yes
34:07yeah you have
34:08to move on
34:08you have to
34:08because why
34:10you're staying
34:10there
34:10I mean you
34:11cannot
34:11let's
34:12listen
34:12I as a man
34:13I just call
34:14a speed
34:14a speed
34:15and you need
34:16to call
34:16a speed
34:16a speed
34:17before you
34:17call it
34:17with people
34:18you need
34:18to call
34:18it
34:19with yourself
34:19I can't
34:21go in a
34:21bodybuilding
34:21competition
34:22with abs
34:22I know
34:24that
34:24I'm not
34:25going to
34:25try
34:25I'm not
34:26going
34:26if somebody
34:27said please
34:27we were
34:29here for
34:29bodybuilding
34:30competition
34:30I'd say no
34:31why
34:32because I can't
34:32bodybuilder
34:34you understand
34:35and you have
34:36to be real
34:36not this month
34:37yeah
34:37I wouldn't
34:38even do that
34:38I really can't
34:39come in
34:39that way
34:40check
34:40Nihel
34:41or Joel
34:41you can check
34:43Robert
34:43do it
34:44stop doing
34:45it
34:46right
34:46so
34:49that is
34:51where we
34:51need to
34:52channel
34:52first
34:53in terms
34:54of
34:54we need
34:55to
34:55arrange
34:56and
34:57judge
34:59ourselves
35:00not too
35:01hard
35:01but
35:02that's
35:03what we
35:03need
35:04to do
35:04we need
35:05to be
35:05real
35:05with
35:05ourselves
35:06first
35:06and if
35:06that is
35:07not
35:07happening
35:07for you
35:07you need
35:08to
35:09move on
35:09find
35:10somebody
35:10else
35:11go by
35:12yourself
35:12do some
35:13introspection
35:14or
35:15have a
35:16conversation
35:16and
35:17let the
35:18person know
35:19how you feel
35:20and what
35:20they want
35:21and see if
35:22some kind
35:22of compromise
35:23can happen
35:23that's based
35:25on communication
35:25if you say
35:26well I don't
35:26really want to
35:27hear you
35:27I want
35:28long organ
35:29Morgan
35:29there's no
35:35way I can
35:35come in
35:36that realm
35:37I need
35:38to press
35:39but to
35:40be real
35:41with yourself
35:41you actually
35:42need to
35:43have a
35:43balance
35:43between
35:43logic
35:44and
35:44emotion
35:45you have
35:46to have
35:46that
35:46because
35:47you need
35:48to be
35:48able to
35:49say
35:49something
35:49not
35:50working
35:50which is
35:51a logical
35:51side
35:52coming
35:52into
35:52play
35:52and then
35:53you need
35:53to be
35:54able
35:54to have
35:54empathy
35:55self
35:55empathy
35:56which is
35:57now your
35:57emotional
35:57side
35:58and the
35:59only way
35:59you can
36:00do those
36:00two things
36:01is if
36:01you're
36:01balanced
36:01on the
36:02middle
36:02because
36:02I can
36:02tell it
36:03for sure
36:03alpha
36:03meals
36:04cannot
36:04tell
36:05when
36:06they
36:06don't
36:06care
36:08so
36:12I
36:12follow
36:14in the
36:14thought
36:15where you
36:15say
36:15yeah
36:15you
36:15had to
36:16be
36:16real
36:16but
36:16I
36:17feel
36:17it
36:17really
36:18takes
36:18practice
36:18over
36:19and
36:19over
36:19with
36:20your
36:20partner
36:20not
36:20only
36:21with
36:21yourself
36:21but
36:21with
36:21your
36:21partner
36:22to
36:22get
36:23to
36:23that
36:23level
36:23of
36:24something
36:25not
36:26right
36:26with
36:26me
36:27I
36:27feel
36:28like
36:28I might
36:29with
36:29you
36:29honey
36:29like
36:30being
36:30able
36:30to
36:30talk
36:30to
36:31you
36:31know
36:31are you
36:31sure
36:31no
36:32man
36:32ever
36:32say
36:33I
36:33little
36:34bit
36:34too
36:34feminine
36:34with
36:34you
36:35know
36:35what
36:35you
36:35think
36:35I
36:36don't
36:37I
36:37have
36:38conversation
36:38like that
36:39ever
36:39happen
36:39and she
36:39say
36:39yeah
36:39well
36:40I
36:40think
36:40so
36:40maybe
36:42that
36:42why
36:44those
36:44women
36:44call
36:44into
36:45the
36:45station
36:45rather
36:45than
36:45talking
36:46to
36:46the
36:46man
36:46and
36:46say
36:46oh
36:46gosh
36:47tell
36:48me
36:48no
36:48no
36:48please
36:50you
36:51might
36:51be
36:51opening
36:51Pandora's
36:59when
36:59they
36:59ready
37:00to
37:00switch
37:00now
37:00and
37:01the
37:01next
37:02week
37:02the
37:02following
37:02week
37:02they
37:03decide
37:03they
37:03in
37:03a
37:03different
37:04zone
37:04or
37:04different
37:05mode
37:05you
37:06tell
37:06me
37:07you
37:07ask
37:08me
37:08to
37:29and
37:29this
37:29and
37:29this
37:30is
37:30some
37:30of
37:30the
37:30things
37:30so
37:31the
37:32other
37:32the
37:33flip side
37:33to the
37:33conversation
37:34now
37:34is
37:34feminine
37:36energy
37:36what I
37:37mean
37:37how
37:38therefore
37:38how much
37:39do you
37:39then
37:40exude
37:40how much
37:41do you
37:41showcase
37:42for men
37:43you're talking
37:44about
37:44I don't
37:45know
37:45as I
37:45said
37:46it
37:46goes
37:46back
37:46to
37:47who
37:47you
37:47are
37:48and
37:48where
37:49you
37:50are
37:50different
37:50you
37:51could
37:52be
37:52somebody
37:53calling
37:54on
37:54blaze
37:54show
37:54you
37:55could
37:55be
37:56the
37:56recipient
37:57of
37:57somebody
37:58calling
37:58on
37:58blaze
37:58show
37:58if
37:59you
37:59are
37:59there
38:00in
38:00your
38:00feminine
38:00energy
38:01no
38:01just
38:01to
38:01be
38:01clear
38:02feminine
38:02energy
38:03in
38:03men
38:03does
38:03not
38:03result
38:04in
38:04homosexuality
38:05that's
38:06not
38:06what I'm
38:06talking
38:06about
38:07as you
38:08say
38:08you're
38:08a little
38:08too
38:08soft
38:09not
38:12necessarily
38:12that
38:12you're
38:13attracted
38:13to
38:14men
38:14or
38:14anything
38:14like
38:15that
38:15or
38:15you're
38:15moving
38:15a
38:16certain
38:16way
38:16it's
38:16just
38:17that
38:17you're
38:17a little
38:17too
38:17soft
38:17let's
38:18communicate
38:19what can
38:20I do
38:20for you
38:20today
38:20you know
38:21let me
38:21give
38:21you
38:21massage
38:22which
38:23is
38:23horrible
38:23a woman
38:25saying
38:25that
38:25as soon
38:29as
38:29she
38:30walked
38:30through
38:30the door
38:31husband
38:31take off
38:32her shoes
38:33massage
38:33her foot
38:34and she
38:35said
38:35he's a
38:36soft
38:37man
38:37and it's
38:38like
38:38I was
38:39asking
38:39right
38:40I asked
38:40her
38:40well
38:41don't
38:42women
38:42want
38:43that
38:43exactly
38:43but
38:44where
38:44it
38:45came
38:45from
38:45and I
38:46came to
38:46that
38:46conclusion
38:47for
38:47myself
38:48it came
38:48from a
38:49place of
38:49jealousy
38:49could be
38:50because
38:51she
38:51said
38:51her
38:51friend
38:52her
38:52friend
38:53man
38:53is
38:54a
38:55soft
38:55man
38:55but
38:55it
38:56coming
38:56from
38:56a
38:56place
38:57of
38:57jealousy
38:57because
38:57she
38:58wished
38:58she
38:58had
38:58a
38:59man
38:59who
38:59does
38:59do
38:59that
39:00to
39:00rub
39:00her foot
39:00you
39:01understand
39:01so
39:02you
39:02had to
39:02look at
39:02where
39:02things
39:03coming
39:03from
39:03too
39:04you know
39:04and then
39:04love
39:05languages
39:05that's
39:05interesting
39:06because
39:06women
39:07say
39:07they want
39:07to be
39:08touched
39:08and then
39:08when
39:08you're
39:08touching
39:09you're
39:10not
39:10touching
39:10me
39:10hard
39:11enough
39:11you're
39:11not
39:11touching
39:11me
39:12you're
39:13moving
39:13too
39:14soft
39:14you know
39:16when you
39:18always say
39:19I feel
39:20like I'm
39:20the man
39:21who will
39:22rub my
39:22wife
39:22foot
39:22when she
39:23comes
39:23to
39:23the
39:23door
39:23and
39:23that's
39:24what
39:24I'm
39:26very
39:26acts
39:27of
39:27service
39:28which
39:28is
39:28my
39:28love
39:29language
39:29right
39:29I have
39:30been
39:30told
39:30that
39:31I'm
39:31more
39:32of a
39:33feminine
39:33guy
39:34I get
39:35hit on
39:36by gay
39:36guys
39:36all the
39:37time
39:37I don't
39:39say
39:39sorry
39:40I'm
39:41more
39:41I'm
39:42more
39:42again
39:44I'm
39:44very
39:45confident
39:45with
39:46my
39:46masculinity
39:46that's
39:47why
39:47there's
39:48no
39:48issue
39:48for me
39:48to say
39:49this
39:49right
39:49I
39:50wouldn't
39:50get
39:51offended
39:51when
39:51a man
39:52walk up
39:52to me
39:53and be
39:53like
39:53you're
39:53very
39:54attractive
39:54thanks
39:55it's
39:56cool
39:56you know
39:57if they come in
40:00too sharp
40:00if they come in
40:02anything else
40:02if I tell you
40:04I'm not
40:05interested
40:05are you still
40:06activated
40:07then I
40:08might have
40:09to
40:09push
40:11the scale
40:11back
40:11over
40:12and be
40:12like
40:12yo
40:12my lord
40:13my lord
40:14I can
40:16give
40:16my
40:17point
40:20is
40:20that
40:20when
40:21you
40:21say
40:21my lord
40:22I
40:22told you
40:22you
40:22call
40:23like
40:23you
40:23gonna
40:23pray
40:23now
40:24the way
40:26the way
40:26say
40:27my lord
40:28my lord
40:29no it's not like that
40:31say my lord
40:31my lord
40:33my lord
40:35my lord
40:37or he could have
40:37said my lord
40:38just before
40:39you know
40:39before you activate
40:40move this man
40:44because I am
40:45out
40:45I actually had to get
40:47into a situation
40:48because again
40:49I'm so
40:50passive
40:51you know
40:52he felt like
40:54I was
40:54rejecting him
40:56rather than
40:56still think I was gay
40:57right
40:58and he felt like
40:59I was playing hard
41:00to get
41:01and I had to hit him
41:02a burners
41:03I had to
41:03I knew that
41:05at that point in time
41:06I had to put on
41:07my logical cap
41:08and I had to
41:09be more aggressive
41:11in that particular
41:12situation
41:13for him to understand
41:14I'm not
41:15homosexual at all
41:16you're just
41:17I'm just very
41:18passive
41:19I'm cool
41:19you understand
41:20I am cool
41:21so
41:21but granted
41:22I may have been
41:23showing signs
41:25because one
41:26I was in a space
41:27where I wasn't supposed
41:28to be in
41:29with a girlfriend
41:29at the time
41:30because she was
41:31supporting one of her
41:32gay friends
41:33and I was
41:33I have no problem
41:34going to a gay bar
41:35you understand
41:36with my gal
41:37you understand
41:38what I'm saying
41:39so he now
41:40thinking
41:40and he bring
41:41and he bring
41:41a drink across
41:42from me
41:42and
41:43he's in Trinidad
41:43you're wearing
41:46your pencil jeans
41:47wearing my pencil jeans
41:48and he bring a drink
41:48across from me
41:49and I say
41:50thank you
41:50didn't drink it
41:51something fruity
41:53right
41:53I don't like
41:54I don't like that
41:55so I
41:56like I just
41:57leave it on the bar
41:58and they come across
41:59and so
42:01all that to say
42:02no meat
42:03with hot
42:06with a straw
42:07all that to say
42:07is that I may be
42:09my balance
42:11may be more
42:12on the feminine side
42:13if I'm speaking
42:15if I'm looking at myself
42:16I'm third person
42:17right
42:17so I could see how
42:19women
42:20especially women
42:21who call in
42:22would look at their man
42:24and say
42:25he a little bit
42:26too feminine for me
42:27but that just goes
42:28that just tells me
42:29that they now
42:30are with the wrong person
42:32they chose that person
42:34out of security
42:35for their offspring
42:36rather than
42:38what they truly desire
42:39you understand what I'm saying
42:41but then
42:42that could be logic
42:43that could be
42:45or
42:45or
42:46logic rather than emotion
42:47or desperation
42:48because that could be
42:49instincts
42:50rather than logic
42:51logic okay
42:52you understand what I'm saying
42:53they're just doing this
42:55because they know
42:56they have to do it
42:57that's not a decision
42:58generally
42:59that could have been made
43:00you know
43:00so I'm saying
43:01so real good conversation
43:03as always
43:04this one's
43:06particularly
43:06I think this one
43:07brought in a lot
43:08of other topics
43:09it did
43:10and also it allows
43:11for a lot more topics
43:13to come from this
43:14you know
43:14there's so many conversations
43:16that could be derived
43:16from
43:17this energy
43:18even something
43:19you had mentioned
43:20on the top
43:20which was speaking about
43:21men committing suicide
43:22and there's also
43:23reasons behind that
43:24as we go into
43:26domestic violence
43:27and those types
43:28of conversations
43:28so
43:29that being said
43:30Blaise
43:31you want to close
43:31with your
43:32well
43:32your closing
43:33well
43:34the thing is
43:35I mean
43:35when we have
43:37these great discussions
43:38you realize
43:40that we can't
43:41just discuss
43:42one thing
43:43because everything
43:44kind of interrelated
43:45so sometimes
43:46we might say things
43:47over and over
43:48just because
43:48it's interrelated
43:50and you can't
43:50discuss this topic
43:51without
43:52without
43:52yeah
43:52without
43:53that
43:53it can't
43:53stand on
43:54its own
43:54you know
43:55what I mean
43:55so
43:56for me
43:58it means
43:59as having
44:00discussed this
44:00with three
44:01of my colleagues
44:02here
44:02it means
44:03balance
44:04we are
44:05how we are
44:06whether
44:08it's
44:08that's the way
44:09we grew up
44:09in the environment
44:10or examples
44:11whatever
44:11but
44:12we need
44:14to adjust
44:15to people
44:16and people
44:17need to adjust
44:17to us
44:18that is what
44:19it is
44:19that's what
44:20I think
44:20and sometimes
44:21what you
44:22start with
44:22you might
44:24really want
44:25that
44:25you know
44:26and those
44:26are the changes
44:27that we go
44:27through
44:27sometimes the changes
44:28are unfortunate
44:29you know
44:29and unfortunate
44:30things happen
44:31because of those
44:32changes
44:32but we can't
44:33help it
44:34it's just
44:34human nature
44:35so the whole
44:36thing about this
44:36and about all
44:37the discussions
44:38that we always
44:39have to discuss
44:40what we've discussed
44:41what we will discuss
44:42is balance
44:43that yin and yang
44:44that's just
44:45that's the universe
44:46you understand
44:48so that's why
44:49again from this
44:50that things
44:51happen
44:51when you start
44:53with you might
44:53want it again
44:54you might switch
44:54but then
44:55the communication
44:56must be there
44:56somehow or the
44:57other
44:57you know
44:58and you adjust
44:59accordingly
45:00Joel
45:02well
45:03my takeaway
45:04is longer
45:04than more
45:05God
45:05on a serious
45:18note
45:18as
45:18Blaise says
45:19you know
45:19in life
45:20everything is not
45:21black and white
45:22there's not
45:23this has to be
45:25so
45:25or this has
45:26to be so
45:26the reality
45:27is that
45:28everybody has
45:29a level of
45:29masculine energy
45:30in them
45:31and a level
45:31of feminine
45:32energy
45:32in them
45:33and as
45:33Nilo's
45:34continuously
45:35saying
45:35it's finding
45:36that balance
45:36so to me
45:38that's what
45:38comes out
45:39to you know
45:39it will never
45:40be
45:40even
45:41even
45:42within the
45:43most alpha
45:43of alpha
45:44males
45:44there may be
45:46something
45:46there is a
45:47level of
45:47feminine energy
45:48that
45:49no matter
45:50what they
45:50say
45:50there is
45:51that there
45:51and on the
45:52other end
45:53of the
45:53spectrum
45:53the most
45:54feminine
45:55of women
45:57otherwise
45:58you know
45:58you'll always
45:59have that
45:59masculine
46:00energy
46:00and it's
46:00all about
46:01finding
46:01the balance
46:02between the
46:03two
46:03and helping
46:03us navigate
46:04true life
46:05with balance
46:06because anything
46:07that is
46:07too much
46:09of one
46:10thing
46:10will never
46:11be good
46:11I love
46:12curry
46:12eating curry
46:13every day
46:14three days
46:15too much
46:18of one
46:18thing
46:18will never
46:19be good
46:21so you know
46:21it's just
46:21all about
46:22finding the
46:23balance
46:23and
46:23this
46:25conversation
46:26I have
46:27enjoyed
46:27each conversation
46:28that we have
46:28had so far
46:29it's always
46:30good
46:31sitting on
46:31with brothers
46:32and reasoning
46:33and you
46:34know
46:34I think
46:34that I
46:35would
46:35encourage
46:36that
46:36you know
46:37so
46:37yeah
46:37in closing
46:40for me
46:40I would
46:43say that
46:44everything
46:44has been
46:46established
46:46that balance
46:47is needed
46:48right
46:48but I feel
46:49that the
46:49conversation
46:50needs to
46:50start with
46:51self-first
46:52self-realization
46:53and reflection
46:53I feel
46:54that's the
46:54main thing
46:55only then
46:58you can
46:59now
46:59understand
47:00someone
47:00else
47:00only when
47:01you have
47:01a strong
47:02understanding
47:03of self
47:04after that
47:05then you're
47:06wasting time
47:06to be honest
47:07right
47:07and I just
47:08want to
47:08reiterate
47:09that when
47:10we use
47:10the words
47:10feminine
47:11energy
47:12and masculine
47:12energy
47:13we don't
47:13mean
47:14female
47:15and
47:15married
47:16we just
47:17mean
47:17the traits
47:18that fall
47:19underneath
47:20those
47:21based on
47:22the description
47:22that you read
47:23right
47:23so that's
47:24the only
47:25thing that
47:25I wanted
47:25to make
47:26sure that
47:26was said
47:27you know
47:28and that's
47:30it
47:30I really
47:31appreciate
47:31this
47:31having me
47:32on
47:32I guess
47:33unfortunately
47:35I didn't want
47:36to
47:36do it
47:37as a real
47:38of
47:38my lord
47:39my lord
47:40my lord
47:40my lord
47:43my lord
47:44you know
47:47once again
47:50a really
47:50really good
47:51conversation
47:51I hope
47:52that those
47:52who are
47:52listening
47:53and viewing
47:54really takes
47:55something away
47:56from our
47:57conversations
47:57and again
47:58we don't
48:00even attempt
48:00to speak
48:01on behalf
48:01of all
48:02men
48:02or even
48:03speak on
48:04behalf
48:04of what
48:04women
48:04may be
48:05thinking
48:05we simply
48:06having a
48:06conversation
48:07to invoke
48:08thought
48:09opinion
48:09and to
48:10hopefully
48:11make change
48:11and also
48:13manhood
48:13is about
48:14better
48:15as brothers
48:16of which
48:16we all
48:17are
48:17so Niall
48:17it was a
48:18pleasure
48:19I think
48:19of course
48:20man
48:21you certainly
48:22brought
48:22you know
48:23something
48:24at next level
48:25to the
48:25conversation
48:26and the
48:27takeaway
48:28for me
48:28in this
48:29particular
48:29episode
48:30is
48:31balance
48:31and in
48:33balance
48:33we are not
48:34talking about
48:34masculine
48:35or feminine
48:36energy
48:36feminine
48:37as a gender
48:38as you alluded
48:39to Niall
48:40but it's an
48:41energy
48:41and there's
48:42nothing wrong
48:42it's actually
48:43a positive
48:43for males
48:44to have
48:45feminine energy
48:46as well as
48:46females
48:47to have
48:47masculine
48:48energy
48:48but there
48:48must be
48:49balance
48:50balance
48:51is important
48:52so guys
48:53next episode
48:54is topic
48:55yeah
48:55topic
48:57what are we
48:58talking about
48:59relationships
49:00I feel like
49:01you mentioned
49:04something to do
49:05with domestic
49:05violence
49:06especially in
49:07your household
49:08and I feel
49:08that
49:08it goes
49:09both ways
49:10it goes
49:10both ways
49:11you know
49:11there are a lot
49:12of men
49:12who get abused
49:13in their
49:13households
49:14and it
49:16it goes
49:16unsaid
49:17a lot
49:17of the
49:18times
49:18and I feel
49:19like that
49:19is something
49:20that some
49:21men need
49:22their voices
49:22heard in
49:23situations like
49:24that
49:24and men
49:25you know
49:25the fact
49:26is why
49:26why are we
49:27doing those
49:27things
49:27because in
49:28the same way
49:29men are also
49:29recipients of
49:30domestic violence
49:31be it mental
49:32or physical
49:33abuse
49:33the stats
49:35show it's
49:36women
49:36for the most
49:37part
49:38and I believe
49:39it's three
49:39in one
49:39because it's
49:40reported
49:40it's reported
49:41so it's
49:42simply not
49:42acceptable
49:43but that
49:44that's next
49:44so that's
49:46next week
49:46there we
49:47are talking
49:47and we also
49:48need to touch
49:49on that
49:49topic of
49:50suicide
49:51so another
49:54episode of
49:54Manhood
49:55Joel
49:55Niall
49:56Blaise
49:57myself
49:57Robert
49:58thanks again
49:59manhood
50:09manhood
50:09bro