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00:00:00Manhood, brought you in part by Reboot, Super Farm and Solomon's Bespoke.

00:00:10Welcome to yet another edition of Manhood where we aim to be better as brothers.

00:00:15And as I like to say, we are not speaking on behalf of all men, we are speaking to all men.

00:00:21But I'm going to say that I think today's topic, as a matter of fact, I know today's topic,

00:00:26we are speaking on behalf of most men, at least the men who are honest enough to admit it, will admit it.

00:00:33And those who won't, we're not going to hold that against you, but we know you do think about it.

00:00:36Because that's what makes us men, you know, the blood running through our veins.

00:00:41Because the topic is the rules and roles of engagement.

00:00:46And the rules and roles of engagement as it pertains to women.

00:00:49And how you advance, how you look, how you peruse, what is the right and wrong of that.

00:00:57So I want to get straight into it, to my right, KG, music producer.

00:01:02To his right, the one and only Skinny Fabulous, needs no further introduction to that, you know,

00:01:08artists, you know, internationally known.

00:01:11And to his right, I know you're a bit worried about, about him to your right,

00:01:16what are you seeing in your soul, behavior change consultant, Johanse IODK.

00:01:21So guys, gentlemen, the rules and roles of engagement.

00:01:26I know you're excited.

00:01:27So let me hear your take first and then we will dive in after you.

00:01:31I don't really, I'm here as a disciple of sorts to be mentored.

00:01:37Because I really don't know what, you know, it was said at one point,

00:01:41and not to sound cocky in any way, but I've never really,

00:01:46I've never had a line, so to speak, to go up to a woman.

00:01:50Right.

00:01:52And so, and that doesn't come from being thinking, you know, cocky that, you know,

00:01:56you're a good looking fellow.

00:01:58But it's more sometimes, you know, being introverted, introverted, extrovert,

00:02:03that you don't know really what you're going to say.

00:02:05Now, once the conversation starts, I'm pretty good.

00:02:09But to say, go up to a woman and say, hey, family, or whatever you say at that point,

00:02:13doesn't apply.

00:02:15But it's more in depth than the rules and roles to engage a woman.

00:02:20It's more specific to women.

00:02:25I've heard so many women, when you make, when they overhear boys talk,

00:02:30and they might say, why men always objectify women?

00:02:33And I ask myself, but when I see women on stage, or in videos, or carnival, or in a party,

00:02:42or any of these things, right, I don't see a gun to the head.

00:02:46I don't see anybody cracking a whip.

00:02:48You've made that of your own volition, your own choice, to dress, behave a particular way.

00:02:53And I know some people hate to hear this, but as being part of the animal kingdom,

00:02:58we're going to watch.

00:03:00And watching is one thing, and some people might take it even further and want to touch.

00:03:05And so no matter what, we all agree, when a woman says no, it's no.

00:03:09But to get to that point of no, or yes, in certain circumstances,

00:03:15what are the rules of said engagement?

00:03:18What are the rules of, do we play in that?

00:03:22And what do we understand women play in that?

00:03:25Well, I'll start first about, firstly, don't break the law, right?

00:03:29Agreed.

00:03:30You see, touching somebody without permission, right, that's breaking the law.

00:03:33Agreed.

00:03:33Right?

00:03:34And let me say that's the easy part, because the other part is more about human dynamics,

00:03:39reading the room, reading the situation, et cetera.

00:03:42So once you're not breaking the law, you start good already.

00:03:45After that, it depends on the situation.

00:03:49It depends on the signs.

00:03:53Let me go.

00:03:54And signs are dangerous, because everybody reading signs are different.

00:03:56I was just going to say.

00:03:57So I'll go in situation, signs, and also sometimes your own self-awareness, right?

00:04:04Because sometimes when you're approaching a woman, however it is, whether it's in her party or not,

00:04:10you could see her facial reaction to you, if it's to face, right?

00:04:17Whether or not you had a kind of pullback or, you know, you get invited to come in.

00:04:23I know you specifically said whether it's to face, which means that you know there's an alternate to that.

00:04:28Right.

00:04:28It's coming from behind.

00:04:29It could be.

00:04:31Were you afraid to say that, though?

00:04:32No.

00:04:32But that is in her party, you're coming from behind, right?

00:04:36It was the double unturned to the coming from behind.

00:04:39That is what artists look about.

00:04:41So KG and Skinny, tell me all your thoughts so far.

00:04:45Well, I mean, I think, and there's the politically correct way to answer,

00:04:51and there's the answers that stay true to the personality of the person answering, right?

00:04:57So I'm going to try, because you explained that this is the program.

00:05:01This is the program to draw politically correct.

00:05:04We don't want no politically correct.

00:05:06So let me just say now that the opinions published here...

00:05:12The comments and views expressed.

00:05:14...are mine.

00:05:15And I am not running for prime minister or trying to be a representative of anything other than my own opinion.

00:05:22But I do believe that the temperature of the interaction between the male and the female,

00:05:30that is often guided by the energy of the female.

00:05:36And so the way I might approach Sandra might be way different than I approach Kimberly,

00:05:44and that's just based on these two women.

00:05:46And I really didn't have a premeditated way to approach these two women.

00:05:53When you spoke about how women carry themselves and how that changes,

00:05:57how a man will try to advance on them.

00:06:01I have a friend back in the day.

00:06:03He would come to the club in his work clothes deliberately.

00:06:07He would come in a jacket and ting, ting, ting,

00:06:09and he would come and he would take off his jacket and just slap him.

00:06:12And he wanted to look like that guy in the club.

00:06:15And his thinking was that would attract a certain type of woman

00:06:18because they would think that he's a businessman or whatever.

00:06:21And there's other guys who would want to put on their big chain and their saggy pants and whatever

00:06:25because they're looking for a certain type of interaction as well.

00:06:28I think that's important for women to acknowledge, right?

00:06:33If you come in the shortest looking a certain way, you're not inviting illegal advances,

00:06:39but you are inviting the type of eyes that will most likely make...

00:06:46Now you're inviting illegal advances too.

00:06:48That may not be your intent, right?

00:06:50Your intent is not to attract illegal advances, but that's part of the mix.

00:06:55But what we're saying is regardless, once a woman says no or you touch a woman

00:07:01without her saying yes or inviting her to do so, that's illegal.

00:07:05But we're not talking about that.

00:07:07What we're talking about is it's amazing to me that we understand that

00:07:15and we want to categorically say that men, if you touch a woman without her permission,

00:07:20that is wrong, that is illegal, you can't do that, right?

00:07:23So we're taking that off the table.

00:07:25What I'm saying is, and I think Skinny is also suggesting it,

00:07:28is that when you perform a particular way, when you dress a particular way,

00:07:33you know you're doing it in a sexual...

00:07:35It's a sexual dance.

00:07:37It's a...

00:07:38Yes, you're having fun.

00:07:39We're not taking that away.

00:07:40But then when you're doing something like that,

00:07:42you're going to invite the attention of men.

00:07:45And why is it that I get people all the time,

00:07:48whether it be in comments or women who hear bar talk

00:07:51or you see it in chats or other brethrens saying things,

00:07:54women are surprised and amazed that this is happening and how...

00:07:59It's like you're dangling food in front of a hungry man

00:08:02and don't expect him to eat now.

00:08:04Or he's tried to eat.

00:08:05Where's the logic behind that, basically, you know?

00:08:07Yeah.

00:08:08But you see, it depends on...

00:08:10You see, the food you put, you want a certain type of man.

00:08:13So if it's the wrong man, then you'll get the backlash, you know?

00:08:16So if...

00:08:17But some of them tell you they're just out with the girls

00:08:19and they want to enjoy themselves, but...

00:08:21No, but if it's a man they're attracted to, come.

00:08:23They wouldn't say that.

00:08:24They wouldn't say you're objectifying them.

00:08:26If it's a man who they're not attracted to, it's a problem.

00:08:29And I think that is an important part of it because...

00:08:32Right, yes.

00:08:33Even your brethren who put on the business suit, right?

00:08:36If he want to attract a certain type of woman, right?

00:08:39Wherever that type is.

00:08:40If he attracts something else, he might react a different way.

00:08:44So I think part of it, and which you wouldn't know beforehand,

00:08:48what the person want to attract, it might be you or it mightn't be you.

00:08:52A perfect example is, it have a trend that are going around now

00:08:55where women in parties or in carnivals

00:08:58and a man will come up to whine on them and they'll be filming

00:09:01and they'll go coast on the man.

00:09:03And that video will go viral now, you know?

00:09:06There is a trend these days now, but let me say skinny.

00:09:09So they're setting up something.

00:09:10No, but let me say skinny, go up to a girl on a big truck,

00:09:13on Monday, she's not going and doing that

00:09:15because he's skinny fabulous, you understand?

00:09:17But a regular man go up to her,

00:09:19you're trying to create a narrative that a man's not supposed to be like that.

00:09:24As I say, if skinny, do it.

00:09:26It depends on the man.

00:09:28So why the narrative is, that is wrong now?

00:09:31Because to me, that is what they try to paint now.

00:09:34They try to paint it like,

00:09:36if a man walk up to you and try to be asserting me with you too up front,

00:09:41that is a problem.

00:09:42But as I say, if it's somebody of stature, it's not a problem.

00:09:45But what you're saying, KG, is that

00:09:47that proves the point even more,

00:09:49that they know what they're doing.

00:09:51Because if they do nothing, they film it,

00:09:53to diss you, that is something that will go viral,

00:09:55you already know what you're doing and what you're encouraging.

00:09:58You let any woman change up and tell you

00:09:59that she don't know what she's doing, right?

00:10:02Now, again, it has some cases, as I say,

00:10:05you'll attract things that you didn't know you would attract,

00:10:07but your intent first,

00:10:09let's say I want to attract John.

00:10:12You might attract John, Michael, and Miguel, right?

00:10:17But your intent was that.

00:10:18So you didn't think about John and Miguel,

00:10:20but that is just consequential.

00:10:21And that's what I think is important for women,

00:10:25not men to wear, but women to understand,

00:10:27is that you have an intent,

00:10:29but that doesn't mean you will draw in other things.

00:10:31And that is the reality of the world.

00:10:34There's no way to change human nature, right?

00:10:38Unless it had a specific way to only filter out John

00:10:42and get John alone, which I don't know exists up to now.

00:10:45Or even if you reverse for men, right?

00:10:47I want Suzanne, right?

00:10:49If I only know the way to get Suzanne alone

00:10:52and might not attract other things,

00:10:54then we would be doing it.

00:10:55But the nature of the game is,

00:10:57as KJ said, if you pour out food,

00:10:59hungry people will come.

00:11:00But you know, like Skinny,

00:11:02you in a dance.

00:11:04Now, granted,

00:11:05what I'm saying is the dance is sexual, right?

00:11:08But I disagree that every woman

00:11:11who's out there dancing in that particular way

00:11:13is looking for a partner

00:11:15or looking for attention

00:11:16because they could be with their partner already

00:11:19and just simply dancing

00:11:20with the song and the momentum.

00:11:22You know, they hear,

00:11:23I was going to put on a skinny voice,

00:11:25but good behavior, nothing, right?

00:11:27And, you know,

00:11:29the songs are designed and engineered

00:11:31and written to evoke certain emotions,

00:11:35behaviors, and dances.

00:11:36So therefore,

00:11:37you could really just be having a good time.

00:11:39But you have to be cognizant of the fact

00:11:41that the dance is still sexual,

00:11:43whether that's your intent at that point or not.

00:11:47And so when an advance comes,

00:11:49don't be shocked by it,

00:11:52especially if you're wearing,

00:11:53I've had this discussion with women

00:11:55on many occasions,

00:11:56that, you know,

00:11:57you wear these low tops

00:11:59or, you know,

00:12:00this side boob

00:12:00and all these other things that,

00:12:03you know,

00:12:03Trinidad and Tobago

00:12:05has the best looking women in the world.

00:12:08So who are taking care of themselves

00:12:10until you're out

00:12:11and you're seeing that,

00:12:12you're going to have man drooling,

00:12:14whether you're with a partner or not.

00:12:15You know,

00:12:15you have a way,

00:12:16men are trained to look in that direction

00:12:18when they're with their partner

00:12:20and be able to clock

00:12:21that left or right very well,

00:12:23you know,

00:12:24like CIA.

00:12:25So it,

00:12:27I'm just going by the fact that

00:12:29the amazement on their face,

00:12:32or you hear women say

00:12:33that women are being objectified.

00:12:36Mm-hmm.

00:12:37And,

00:12:38but yet still,

00:12:39it's the women

00:12:40that are individuals

00:12:41that are behaving a particular way

00:12:45and that,

00:12:46that is the woman

00:12:47that show you know

00:12:47of the objects.

00:12:48Of course.

00:12:49Okay,

00:12:49so I'll say this in a,

00:12:51maybe it might come across

00:12:52very,

00:12:53in an umbrella way,

00:12:54but I think,

00:12:56let me talk directly

00:12:57to the females now.

00:12:58Females,

00:12:59you come out there

00:13:00to have a good time,

00:13:01sometimes just to whine

00:13:02on your friend

00:13:03and just your friend alone,

00:13:04your girlfriend that is.

00:13:06But please do not be surprised

00:13:07when a man tries to whine on you

00:13:09and that's fine

00:13:10if you don't want it.

00:13:12But the one thing

00:13:12I don't ever respect

00:13:13with women doing

00:13:14is don't embarrass a man

00:13:15because he tried.

00:13:16Unless he come and grab me up

00:13:18and disrespectful about a man

00:13:20slowly chipping in

00:13:21to get a whine,

00:13:22you're going to,

00:13:23especially because

00:13:24you're not a camera on,

00:13:25you're going to throw him

00:13:26and size him up

00:13:27and treat him like he's a dog.

00:13:29No,

00:13:29because as KG said,

00:13:31if the right person

00:13:32came up to you

00:13:33in the same approach,

00:13:34it's true back.

00:13:36And that's why

00:13:37there's always,

00:13:37there's always a look back

00:13:39first, eh?

00:13:39There's always a look back

00:13:40to see who it is

00:13:41and depending on who it is,

00:13:42it's a level of waste,

00:13:44right?

00:13:45And then that said,

00:13:46too,

00:13:46I also want to make it

00:13:47a little bit more,

00:13:49I want to broaden

00:13:49the scope of it

00:13:50other than just talking

00:13:52about the whining

00:13:53and the party

00:13:54and environment

00:13:55and the differences

00:13:56in approach.

00:13:56my approach

00:13:58to Alicia Keys

00:13:59versus Ariana

00:14:01is going to be

00:14:02two different things

00:14:03and that's because

00:14:04they sell themselves

00:14:05different.

00:14:06It would guide

00:14:06how I approach them.

00:14:08My approach

00:14:09to Angela Hunt

00:14:10versus Nyla Blackman,

00:14:12two different things.

00:14:14I wouldn't,

00:14:14I would know

00:14:15not to approach

00:14:16Nyla a certain way

00:14:18or versus Angela

00:14:20and equally,

00:14:21I would know

00:14:21well,

00:14:21I feel like maybe

00:14:22I could go and

00:14:23talk a little

00:14:24out-of-time

00:14:25and think too

00:14:25because it's just

00:14:26the way it's presented.

00:14:29Same thing for men.

00:14:30If a man come

00:14:31and he dance

00:14:31with the thing

00:14:32and he flex

00:14:33in a certain way,

00:14:35don't be surprised

00:14:35as a person

00:14:36approaches you

00:14:38like if you're

00:14:38some kind of bad man.

00:14:40Meanwhile,

00:14:40you go into church

00:14:41but you come in

00:14:42and he dance

00:14:42with the most thing

00:14:43and your foot roll up

00:14:44and you have one.

00:14:45Design the same thing

00:14:46for women.

00:14:47Understand,

00:14:48when you walk

00:14:49into a room,

00:14:50you are selling

00:14:51an image

00:14:52and that image

00:14:53will guide

00:14:54how us as men

00:14:55talk to you

00:14:56and approach you.

00:14:58Well,

00:14:58women don't believe

00:14:59that, right?

00:15:00Because women

00:15:00do not believe

00:15:01that.

00:15:01They believe

00:15:02that it doesn't

00:15:02matter how

00:15:04they sell

00:15:04themselves.

00:15:05We have to

00:15:05treat them

00:15:06one way.

00:15:07Do you believe

00:15:08in that though?

00:15:08No,

00:15:09impossible.

00:15:09I mean,

00:15:09it has a little

00:15:11part to that

00:15:11that I could

00:15:12agree with.

00:15:12We have to

00:15:13treat all women

00:15:14with respect.

00:15:15Agreed.

00:15:16But at the end

00:15:17of the day,

00:15:18we as men,

00:15:18that's why

00:15:19there is manhood.

00:15:19We understand

00:15:22that it's two

00:15:23different products.

00:15:24I am respecting

00:15:26you in the

00:15:27environment,

00:15:28but I'm going

00:15:29to look if

00:15:30you're dressed

00:15:30a particular

00:15:31way, right?

00:15:32I'm going to,

00:15:33if you're up

00:15:34on a stage

00:15:34or whining

00:15:35a particular

00:15:35way, I'm

00:15:36going to look

00:15:37and yes,

00:15:38in many ways

00:15:39we are men,

00:15:39it's going to

00:15:40turn you on

00:15:40and if you

00:15:41have a little

00:15:42inebriated,

00:15:43you have a little,

00:15:44you know,

00:15:44what I see old

00:15:44people say,

00:15:45you have a little

00:15:45grog in your

00:15:46head,

00:15:46you might make

00:15:47an advance.

00:15:48And as you

00:15:48said,

00:15:49don't shine

00:15:50up the man

00:15:50at that point.

00:15:52Let me play

00:15:53devil's advocate

00:15:53here.

00:15:54So two things.

00:15:54One,

00:15:55Dave Chappelle

00:15:55have a joke

00:15:56where he said,

00:15:57if you're wearing

00:15:57a uniform,

00:15:58you must think

00:15:59it's that.

00:15:59If you see

00:15:59somebody wearing

00:16:00a uniform,

00:16:01right?

00:16:01If you see

00:16:01somebody wearing

00:16:02a police uniform,

00:16:03whether they're

00:16:04really a police

00:16:05man or not,

00:16:05you'll think

00:16:05there's a police

00:16:06man, right?

00:16:07So if you're

00:16:07wearing a uniform,

00:16:09right,

00:16:09where you're

00:16:10showing certain

00:16:10things,

00:16:11right,

00:16:11then people

00:16:12will think

00:16:12a certain

00:16:12way.

00:16:13And you,

00:16:15I can't say

00:16:15it can't be

00:16:16vexed because

00:16:16you could be

00:16:18vexed if you

00:16:18want,

00:16:19but I still

00:16:20reality do it.

00:16:20And then you're

00:16:21saying,

00:16:21don't shine

00:16:21up,

00:16:22man.

00:16:23I don't

00:16:24advocate men

00:16:25getting shine

00:16:25up,

00:16:26but at the

00:16:26same time,

00:16:27it's a jungle

00:16:27we're in,

00:16:28it's a game

00:16:29we're playing.

00:16:29So if you

00:16:30shoot your

00:16:30shot,

00:16:31it's a possibility

00:16:32you might

00:16:32get shine

00:16:33up.

00:16:33That's just

00:16:34part of it

00:16:34for me.

00:16:35There's a

00:16:35respectful way

00:16:36to turn

00:16:38that,

00:16:39my man.

00:16:40Yeah,

00:16:40true.

00:16:42But not

00:16:42everybody

00:16:42respectful.

00:16:44So you

00:16:44can't just

00:16:44expect everybody

00:16:45to be

00:16:45respectful.

00:16:46So respect,

00:16:47respect is

00:16:48paramount.

00:16:49We're all

00:16:50agreeing that

00:16:51one,

00:16:52we're stating

00:16:53it categorically,

00:16:54there's respect

00:16:55there.

00:16:56We're also

00:16:56stating that

00:16:57no matter

00:16:58what,

00:16:58you cannot

00:16:58touch a

00:16:59woman,

00:17:00no is

00:17:00no,

00:17:01and an

00:17:01advance on

00:17:02a woman

00:17:02and touching

00:17:03her is not

00:17:04right regardless

00:17:04of what is

00:17:05happening.

00:17:06But again,

00:17:06there are

00:17:06circumstances

00:17:07where...

00:17:08I wind as

00:17:08touch her.

00:17:09I wind as

00:17:09touch her.

00:17:09Yeah,

00:17:09but you have

00:17:11grog in your

00:17:12head.

00:17:12We're not

00:17:13saying it's

00:17:13wrong,

00:17:14but I...

00:17:15If we're

00:17:15going by

00:17:15law books,

00:17:16if we're

00:17:17going by

00:17:17law books,

00:17:18because going

00:17:19up behind

00:17:19a woman,

00:17:20right,

00:17:21and resting

00:17:22your front

00:17:23and her

00:17:23behind,

00:17:24that illegal

00:17:25thing,

00:17:25it's only

00:17:26a permissible

00:17:27dream

00:17:28carnival.

00:17:28because skinny

00:17:28and them

00:17:29singing the

00:17:31music for

00:17:31that to

00:17:32have fun.

00:17:32If you

00:17:33always come

00:17:33wrong me

00:17:33for

00:17:34Trinidad,

00:17:34right,

00:17:35you're

00:17:35going to

00:17:35come

00:17:35wrong

00:17:36skinny

00:17:36and

00:17:36them

00:17:36for

00:17:37that

00:17:37illegal

00:17:37behavior.

00:17:38You

00:17:38rehearsing,

00:17:41you spending

00:17:41the whole

00:17:42year writing

00:17:42thing to come

00:17:43in somebody's

00:17:44head.

00:17:44For that

00:17:44kind of

00:17:44behavior.

00:17:45It's

00:17:45selling that

00:17:46man in a

00:17:47trance and

00:17:47then you

00:17:47see that

00:17:48bam bam

00:17:48rolling.

00:17:49What's the

00:17:49song I

00:17:50read like

00:17:50now?

00:17:51The

00:17:51Bamsi song

00:17:52with Young

00:17:53Brother.

00:17:53When you

00:18:00do those

00:18:00songs,

00:18:01like I

00:18:01say,

00:18:01you take

00:18:01yourself,

00:18:02you're

00:18:02having a

00:18:02drink,

00:18:03you decide

00:18:03to go

00:18:03out for

00:18:03a party,

00:18:04and all

00:18:07of these

00:18:07things,

00:18:08like a

00:18:08melting pot,

00:18:09everything

00:18:10comes

00:18:10together like

00:18:11the perfect

00:18:11storm.

00:18:13You

00:18:14can't blame

00:18:15my brother.

00:18:16Right,

00:18:16and because

00:18:17the rules

00:18:17change for

00:18:18carnival.

00:18:19I was

00:18:19about to

00:18:20say that.

00:18:20But it

00:18:21had no

00:18:21standard

00:18:21rules,

00:18:22because

00:18:22Robert

00:18:23KG

00:18:24rules,

00:18:25skinny

00:18:25rules,

00:18:25my

00:18:26rules,

00:18:26still

00:18:26different.

00:18:27And then

00:18:27we don't

00:18:28know the

00:18:28women's

00:18:29rules either

00:18:29now.

00:18:30Right.

00:18:30Which is

00:18:31what we're

00:18:32trying to

00:18:32establish.

00:18:33But the

00:18:34law have

00:18:35rules,

00:18:36set rules.

00:18:36So outside

00:18:37a carnival,

00:18:38you can't

00:18:39just go and

00:18:39rub up on

00:18:40a woman

00:18:40just so.

00:18:41But once

00:18:41carnival

00:18:42starts,

00:18:42where there's

00:18:42a feta

00:18:43party,

00:18:44Monday,

00:18:44Tuesday,

00:18:45the rules

00:18:46change.

00:18:46But there's

00:18:48no set

00:18:48rules,

00:18:48and that's

00:18:49where the

00:18:49problem is

00:18:49coming.

00:18:51Right?

00:18:51And I

00:18:52think is

00:18:53that we

00:18:54should

00:18:54understand

00:18:55human nature

00:18:56again.

00:18:57You're

00:18:57shooting your

00:18:57shot,

00:18:58it's

00:18:58possible you

00:18:59can get

00:18:59shot down.

00:19:00You would

00:19:01say,

00:19:01and I hear

00:19:02KG say to

00:19:03women should

00:19:03be respectful.

00:19:05Yes,

00:19:06I agree with

00:19:06respect,

00:19:07but there are

00:19:07disrespectful

00:19:08women.

00:19:09Just like

00:19:09how a woman

00:19:10would say,

00:19:10I want to

00:19:11wear wherever

00:19:11I want and

00:19:12I shouldn't

00:19:12be objectified,

00:19:13it have men

00:19:14who will

00:19:14objectify her.

00:19:15That is just

00:19:16reality of things.

00:19:16that is what

00:19:17I want to

00:19:18spend most

00:19:19of the second

00:19:20segment talking

00:19:21about,

00:19:21that objectification.

00:19:22That's where I

00:19:23want to come

00:19:23back to the

00:19:24rules and

00:19:24roles of

00:19:25engagement,

00:19:26and that

00:19:26specific thing

00:19:27women say

00:19:28all the time

00:19:28about objectifying

00:19:30women,

00:19:31but we'll

00:19:31talk about

00:19:31that after

00:19:32the break.

00:19:42Boom.

00:19:42So welcome

00:19:43back to

00:19:44another

00:19:44exciting

00:19:45edition of

00:19:46Manhood.

00:19:47Right?

00:19:47And today's

00:19:48topic is the

00:19:49rules and

00:19:49roles of

00:19:50engagement as

00:19:51it relates

00:19:52to how we

00:19:53look at

00:19:53women,

00:19:53how women

00:19:54look at

00:19:54themselves,

00:19:55how they

00:19:55present

00:19:56themselves,

00:19:56and how

00:19:57we should

00:19:57approach

00:19:57them.

00:19:58What are

00:19:58the rules?

00:19:59Are there

00:19:59any rules?

00:20:00We're not

00:20:01sure,

00:20:01but that's

00:20:02what we're

00:20:02discussing

00:20:03this afternoon.

00:20:05Here's the

00:20:05thing.

00:20:07Women,

00:20:08contrary to

00:20:08popular belief,

00:20:09women sometimes

00:20:10actually get

00:20:11put on

00:20:11clothes,

00:20:12put on

00:20:12eyelashes,

00:20:13weave,

00:20:13and all

00:20:13these

00:20:13crazy things,

00:20:14not to

00:20:15impress men,

00:20:15you know.

00:20:16They be

00:20:17impressing each

00:20:17other.

00:20:18Sometimes

00:20:18women love,

00:20:19in fact,

00:20:20most women,

00:20:21when they

00:20:21look good and

00:20:22they're getting

00:20:22nails done,

00:20:23it's not even

00:20:24to impress a

00:20:25man because

00:20:25us as men,

00:20:26sometimes we

00:20:27don't even pay

00:20:27attention to

00:20:28your gel and

00:20:29your acrylic

00:20:29and if it's

00:20:31Brazilian,

00:20:31if it's

00:20:32Peruvian,

00:20:32we don't care

00:20:33about that.

00:20:33All we know,

00:20:34there's an

00:20:34overall picture.

00:20:35She looks

00:20:35good,

00:20:36she doesn't

00:20:36look good.

00:20:37Who will

00:20:38pay attention

00:20:38to the detail

00:20:39is another

00:20:40woman.

00:20:41So women,

00:20:42sometimes dress

00:20:43a particular

00:20:43way to

00:20:44impress other

00:20:45women and

00:20:47men should

00:20:47not always

00:20:48think that

00:20:49it have

00:20:49anything to

00:20:49do with

00:20:50them.

00:20:51Don't come

00:20:51out your

00:20:51head,

00:20:51she ain't

00:20:52looking for

00:20:54you to

00:20:54give her a

00:20:55compliment.

00:20:55She's actually

00:20:56more interested

00:20:56in her

00:20:57girlfriends

00:20:57giving her

00:20:57a compliment.

00:20:58Equally,

00:20:59men,

00:21:00when men

00:21:00buy the

00:21:01cars and

00:21:01they put

00:21:02on big

00:21:02rims and

00:21:03they set

00:21:03in the

00:21:03back and

00:21:04the spoiler

00:21:04and the

00:21:05MSG

00:21:06ignition and

00:21:07this,

00:21:08they're not

00:21:08trying to

00:21:08impress women

00:21:09and it's

00:21:10for other

00:21:11men to

00:21:11say,

00:21:11wait,

00:21:12but the

00:21:14overall game

00:21:15though is

00:21:15that a

00:21:16female would

00:21:17associate that

00:21:18type of

00:21:18car and

00:21:19this type

00:21:19of dress

00:21:19code with

00:21:20success and

00:21:21it would

00:21:21appeal,

00:21:22but we're

00:21:23not actually

00:21:23doing it

00:21:24directly to

00:21:24get compliment

00:21:25from a

00:21:26girl.

00:21:26We're actually

00:21:27doing it for

00:21:27a wee

00:21:27bedroom too.

00:21:28So females,

00:21:29I understand

00:21:30that when you

00:21:31put on your

00:21:32little,

00:21:33lash them

00:21:35down.

00:21:35when you

00:21:36do that,

00:21:36it's not

00:21:38for men.

00:21:40So we

00:21:41don't

00:21:41necessarily

00:21:42need to

00:21:42always take

00:21:43it as

00:21:43an invitation

00:21:44for us

00:21:45to make

00:21:46advances.

00:21:47But let

00:21:47me take

00:21:48what you

00:21:48just said

00:21:49and ask

00:21:50for us to

00:21:50do a

00:21:50deeper dive

00:21:51into that

00:21:51from

00:21:52everybody

00:21:52here.

00:21:54So

00:21:54with men,

00:21:56I could

00:21:57speak for

00:21:57men,

00:21:57when we

00:21:58do that,

00:21:58fix up

00:21:59the car

00:21:59and all

00:21:59that,

00:22:00we want

00:22:00amongst

00:22:00our

00:22:01peers

00:22:01to be

00:22:02recognized

00:22:03and to

00:22:03be seen

00:22:04as,

00:22:04hey,

00:22:04I have

00:22:05this,

00:22:05I have

00:22:05that,

00:22:06and other

00:22:07men to

00:22:07go,

00:22:08like you

00:22:08said,

00:22:08way that

00:22:09real cool,

00:22:10he has

00:22:10the fastest

00:22:10car.

00:22:11But by

00:22:12doing that

00:22:12and being

00:22:12accepted into

00:22:13your environment,

00:22:14it also

00:22:15puts you

00:22:16in an

00:22:16environment

00:22:17even amidst

00:22:18the females

00:22:19because of

00:22:19the chatter

00:22:20that then

00:22:20happens and

00:22:21the woman

00:22:22seeing how

00:22:23you are

00:22:23respected

00:22:24amongst

00:22:24your peers

00:22:25all of a

00:22:26sudden

00:22:27attracts

00:22:27her.

00:22:28So I

00:22:29mean,

00:22:29I'm not a

00:22:29woman,

00:22:30but are we

00:22:30saying then

00:22:31that maybe

00:22:31women are

00:22:32also doing

00:22:33that,

00:22:33that by

00:22:34women

00:22:34recognizing

00:22:35them,

00:22:35they're

00:22:35dressing up

00:22:36for that,

00:22:36are seen

00:22:37in their

00:22:38pack as

00:22:39the

00:22:39desirable

00:22:40one.

00:22:42Or

00:22:42whisperings

00:22:43like,

00:22:43you know,

00:22:43other women

00:22:44may whisper

00:22:45and say,

00:22:45she real

00:22:46pretty boy.

00:22:47Yeah,

00:22:47because if a

00:22:48woman show

00:22:49off her

00:22:49figure,

00:22:50right,

00:22:50because let's

00:22:51say it's

00:22:51not for men,

00:22:52she showing

00:22:52off her

00:22:52figure because

00:22:53she like

00:22:53her figure,

00:22:54other women

00:22:54say,

00:22:55because other

00:22:55women recognize,

00:22:56hey,

00:22:56that woman

00:22:57have a nice

00:22:57figure,

00:22:58and they

00:22:58might say,

00:22:58hey,

00:22:58you know,

00:22:59Susie lose

00:23:00real weight,

00:23:00you know,

00:23:01she barely

00:23:01flattened,

00:23:02look,

00:23:02she bottom

00:23:02wall outside

00:23:03here,

00:23:04that is not

00:23:04a mantle,

00:23:05women would

00:23:06recognize it.

00:23:06So,

00:23:07you see,

00:23:08it's twofold

00:23:08because what

00:23:10you're doing

00:23:10will attract

00:23:11attention.

00:23:12What is

00:23:12attention,

00:23:13hey,

00:23:14your brethren

00:23:15saying,

00:23:15hey,

00:23:16that's a

00:23:16real good

00:23:16car,

00:23:16or women,

00:23:17and women

00:23:18too,

00:23:18whether women

00:23:19admiring you

00:23:19or a man

00:23:20admiring you,

00:23:21the fact is,

00:23:22and we

00:23:23cannot escape

00:23:25this fact,

00:23:26what you do,

00:23:27you know,

00:23:27when they say

00:23:27you make a

00:23:28fashion,

00:23:29statement,

00:23:30right?

00:23:31Even though

00:23:31you know

00:23:32what the

00:23:32statement is,

00:23:33other people

00:23:33will interpret

00:23:34the statement

00:23:34different,

00:23:35and you

00:23:35cannot deny

00:23:36that it

00:23:37will attract

00:23:38people,

00:23:39and that is

00:23:39the part

00:23:40that's really

00:23:40important.

00:23:41So,

00:23:42once you

00:23:42understand that,

00:23:44you could

00:23:44understand that

00:23:45it has some

00:23:45people it

00:23:46won't attract,

00:23:46so why be

00:23:48surprised?

00:23:49You could get

00:23:50vexed,

00:23:51you could be,

00:23:52you're not saying

00:23:53it could be

00:23:53disrespectful,

00:23:54right?

00:23:54But what

00:23:55I'm saying

00:23:55is,

00:23:56why be

00:23:56surprised?

00:23:57The surprise

00:23:57part is the

00:23:58part that

00:23:58gets me,

00:24:00why are you

00:24:01surprised?

00:24:01You could be

00:24:02disappointed that

00:24:03you attract,

00:24:04you want to

00:24:05attract he or

00:24:05them kind of

00:24:06men,

00:24:06you could be

00:24:06disappointed,

00:24:07but the surprise

00:24:08part don't make

00:24:09sense,

00:24:10especially when you

00:24:11pass a certain age

00:24:12and you're supposed

00:24:13to know the game,

00:24:14you're supposed to

00:24:15know nature.

00:24:15I think we

00:24:15could all agree

00:24:16with that.

00:24:16Don't be

00:24:17surprised.

00:24:18KJ,

00:24:18you had a

00:24:18question for

00:24:19me?

00:24:20I have two

00:24:21questions here.

00:24:23One is the

00:24:24rules.

00:24:25You as an

00:24:26entertainer in the

00:24:27soaker industry,

00:24:28what would you

00:24:28say is the

00:24:29rules to

00:24:29approach a

00:24:30woman?

00:24:33Well,

00:24:33you see,

00:24:34I season,

00:24:34I tell myself

00:24:35I'm a

00:24:36professional,

00:24:37right?

00:24:37I know how

00:24:38to do my

00:24:39thing,

00:24:39I know how

00:24:39to read the

00:24:40room.

00:24:40You have a

00:24:41skill.

00:24:42I will never

00:24:43get blank

00:24:43from a woman

00:24:44on the road,

00:24:45or in a

00:24:45party.

00:24:45It will

00:24:46never,

00:24:47ever happen

00:24:47because I

00:24:48will make

00:24:49sure to

00:24:49establish

00:24:50certain

00:24:50things

00:24:50before I

00:24:51approach.

00:24:51First of

00:24:52all,

00:24:52I know I'm

00:24:52just approaching

00:24:53from the

00:24:53back and

00:24:54unless she

00:24:54look wrong

00:24:55to discover

00:24:55me,

00:24:56I'm not

00:24:56doing that

00:24:56at all.

00:24:59She has

00:25:00to first

00:25:00know that

00:25:00she has

00:25:01to establish

00:25:01my presence

00:25:02in the

00:25:02room,

00:25:03right?

00:25:03So I'm

00:25:04going to

00:25:04make sure

00:25:04that she

00:25:05sees me

00:25:05looking at

00:25:06her at

00:25:06some point.

00:25:07She has

00:25:08to know

00:25:09that.

00:25:09I feel

00:25:09like he

00:25:10edging up

00:25:10to dance.

00:25:11And I

00:25:12might actually

00:25:12just have

00:25:13a conversation

00:25:15before just

00:25:15holding

00:25:17your waist

00:25:17or anything.

00:25:18I might have

00:25:19rubbed shoulders

00:25:20with her to

00:25:20just see the

00:25:21temperature.

00:25:21The way you

00:25:21do so is

00:25:21more than

00:25:21the way you

00:25:22say holding.

00:25:22Yeah,

00:25:23holding everything.

00:25:25But no,

00:25:26I'm too

00:25:26careful because

00:25:27I don't like

00:25:28rejection at

00:25:28all.

00:25:29Me,

00:25:29personally,

00:25:29cannot handle

00:25:30rejection.

00:25:31I don't like

00:25:31people style

00:25:32me.

00:25:32I don't like

00:25:33people reject

00:25:33me.

00:25:34So I

00:25:34will do

00:25:35everything

00:25:35in my

00:25:35power to

00:25:36make sure

00:25:36all those

00:25:37boxes checked

00:25:38first before

00:25:39I make an

00:25:39approach.

00:25:40So I

00:25:40know,

00:25:41KJ,

00:25:41you had a

00:25:41second

00:25:41question for

00:25:42you.

00:25:42See,

00:25:45off the

00:25:45topic of

00:25:45rules and

00:25:46roles of

00:25:46engagement

00:25:47because

00:25:47Johansi

00:25:48done

00:25:48scale

00:25:49up and

00:25:49down

00:25:50there

00:25:50now

00:25:50because

00:25:51they

00:25:51said

00:25:51about

00:25:51rejection.

00:25:52So you

00:25:52know right

00:25:52now it's

00:25:53therapy session.

00:25:54Well,

00:25:54that's good.

00:25:55That's good.

00:25:56I'm not

00:25:57taking rejection.

00:25:58Why it is

00:25:59you have

00:25:59the issue

00:26:00of rejection?

00:26:00You know,

00:26:01we started

00:26:01to go back

00:26:01into the

00:26:02childhood.

00:26:02Well,

00:26:03KJ,

00:26:04you hold

00:26:04your question.

00:26:06What you're

00:26:06saying is

00:26:07good because

00:26:07if,

00:26:09let's say

00:26:09we have a,

00:26:10somebody have

00:26:10a fear of

00:26:11rejection,

00:26:11it will also

00:26:12change how

00:26:13they approach,

00:26:14right?

00:26:15Because it

00:26:15have women

00:26:16who fear

00:26:16rejection too,

00:26:17you know,

00:26:18right?

00:26:18So they,

00:26:20how they

00:26:20carry about

00:26:21themselves would

00:26:22also reflect

00:26:23the fear,

00:26:24right?

00:26:24It have some

00:26:25women,

00:26:25let's just say,

00:26:26who think,

00:26:27well,

00:26:27I don't think

00:26:28I am high

00:26:29on the sexual

00:26:30marketplace value,

00:26:31right?

00:26:32So I need

00:26:33to do a little

00:26:33more,

00:26:34right?

00:26:35But I want

00:26:36to attract,

00:26:36I think I hear,

00:26:38but I want to

00:26:38attract a man

00:26:39here,

00:26:39so let me

00:26:40do the most,

00:26:41but then I end

00:26:42up attracting

00:26:42a man here,

00:26:44I will get

00:26:44vexed with

00:26:45him,

00:26:45because I

00:26:45didn't attract

00:26:46the man here,

00:26:46if you

00:26:47understand where

00:26:48you are coming

00:26:48from.

00:26:49You might be

00:26:50his up there,

00:26:52so the scales,

00:26:53they're not

00:26:53balancing.

00:26:54Right,

00:26:54and that's

00:26:55why I say

00:26:55with human

00:26:56dynamics,

00:26:56it's real

00:26:57tricky,

00:26:58because you

00:26:58see what you

00:26:59did,

00:26:59that's your

00:27:00technique,

00:27:01and I

00:27:01understand it

00:27:02because sometimes

00:27:03you want to

00:27:03make eye

00:27:04contact first,

00:27:05you say you

00:27:05have a conversation,

00:27:06sometimes you

00:27:06have a conversation

00:27:07with the eyes,

00:27:08you see what is

00:27:09going on,

00:27:10that might work

00:27:10for some people,

00:27:11it might work,

00:27:12and the

00:27:12approach.

00:27:13But isn't

00:27:13that only if

00:27:14you're looking

00:27:16for something,

00:27:17other than just

00:27:17a, you know

00:27:18what I mean,

00:27:18like a woman

00:27:19pelting way,

00:27:20saying,

00:27:20I just say,

00:27:21you don't want

00:27:21to take a,

00:27:22you're not trying

00:27:23to,

00:27:24all that eye

00:27:24contact,

00:27:25to me that's

00:27:26more,

00:27:27if you're looking

00:27:27for a bit,

00:27:28something more

00:27:29than,

00:27:29it depends,

00:27:30you know,

00:27:30you see.

00:27:30Well I mean,

00:27:31you're just

00:27:31whining on

00:27:32anything,

00:27:32you know,

00:27:33you're looking

00:27:33for certain

00:27:34grades,

00:27:35you know,

00:27:36we don't

00:27:36just go

00:27:37to whine,

00:27:37any man

00:27:38that's a

00:27:40wild man

00:27:40thing.

00:27:42I have no

00:27:44whiner boy,

00:27:45so I don't

00:27:45know,

00:27:46you know,

00:27:46I am more

00:27:47the young

00:27:47brother,

00:27:48you know,

00:27:48where a woman

00:27:50say,

00:27:50take it easy,

00:27:50I go do

00:27:51the work,

00:27:52you know,

00:27:52I start

00:27:52off at

00:27:53the...

00:27:53It's the

00:27:54intent to

00:27:54know,

00:27:55because some

00:27:55parties you

00:27:56go to,

00:27:56you just want

00:27:57to whine

00:27:57on anything,

00:27:57if you don't

00:27:58even know

00:27:59the girl

00:27:59face,

00:28:00then some

00:28:01may go

00:28:01to,

00:28:01you want

00:28:02to establish

00:28:02the connection.

00:28:03Just like

00:28:04we as men

00:28:05have the

00:28:05intent,

00:28:06women have

00:28:06an intent,

00:28:07and sometimes

00:28:07you wouldn't

00:28:08know the

00:28:08intent before

00:28:09and that's

00:28:09what I was

00:28:10saying.

00:28:11So even

00:28:11though you

00:28:12have an

00:28:12intent and

00:28:13a woman

00:28:13have an

00:28:13intent,

00:28:14to me,

00:28:15you still

00:28:15have a

00:28:16shoot your

00:28:16shot if

00:28:16you're

00:28:16doing that.

00:28:17But like

00:28:18kids,

00:28:18you man

00:28:18like me,

00:28:19we don't

00:28:20whine,

00:28:20we don't

00:28:21ever go in

00:28:21a dance

00:28:22or whine

00:28:22on everything.

00:28:23No,

00:28:23never,

00:28:24never.

00:28:24And I

00:28:26just had

00:28:26one conversation

00:28:27with him

00:28:28and I

00:28:28know,

00:28:28he's not

00:28:29that kind

00:28:30of guy.

00:28:30He's not

00:28:31that kind

00:28:31of guy.

00:28:32We go

00:28:32in an

00:28:32event,

00:28:33we go

00:28:33rock back

00:28:33in a

00:28:34corner

00:28:34and chill

00:28:35with the

00:28:36boys.

00:28:37And we

00:28:38can size

00:28:39up what

00:28:40appeals to

00:28:41our taste

00:28:42and then

00:28:43carefully

00:28:43curate

00:28:44that moment.

00:28:45We're not

00:28:45just whining

00:28:46and everything,

00:28:46it's

00:28:47trusty man

00:28:47thing,

00:28:47we don't

00:28:48do that.

00:28:49Trusty man

00:28:49thing,

00:28:50but that's

00:28:50a topic

00:28:50that we

00:28:51have.

00:28:51And that's

00:28:52why it's

00:28:52mostly

00:28:53trusty

00:28:53men that

00:28:53get the

00:28:54embarrassing

00:28:55moments

00:28:55because they

00:28:56just want

00:28:56to come

00:28:57wild and

00:28:57rarity.

00:28:58They're not

00:28:59appreciating the

00:29:00moments.

00:29:01It depends

00:29:02too,

00:29:02you know,

00:29:03because it's

00:29:03a thirsty

00:29:04girl too.

00:29:04So if a

00:29:05thirsty man

00:29:05needs a

00:29:06thirsty

00:29:06girl,

00:29:06it's a

00:29:07match in

00:29:07heaven.

00:29:08And that's

00:29:08why thirsty

00:29:08girls sometimes

00:29:09get braced

00:29:10too.

00:29:12I tell you

00:29:13straight,

00:29:14women come

00:29:14up and

00:29:15just start

00:29:15her hand.

00:29:16Exactly.

00:29:17What's

00:29:17going on

00:29:17in their

00:29:17family?

00:29:18So you

00:29:18understand

00:29:19even the

00:29:20reading the

00:29:20room.

00:29:21Because if

00:29:21you're looking

00:29:22for us,

00:29:22if you're not

00:29:23a thirsty

00:29:23man,

00:29:23so you're

00:29:24not looking

00:29:24for a

00:29:24thirsty

00:29:25girl,

00:29:25your approach

00:29:26is different.

00:29:26If you're a

00:29:27thirsty man,

00:29:27looking for a

00:29:28thirsty girl,

00:29:28now the

00:29:29problem is

00:29:29when it's

00:29:30incompatible.

00:29:31So when it's

00:29:31a thirsty

00:29:32man with a

00:29:32non-thirsty

00:29:33woman,

00:29:33or the

00:29:35tustiness

00:29:36you're looking

00:29:36for is not

00:29:36the same

00:29:37tusty,

00:29:37because as a

00:29:39man,

00:29:39you can be

00:29:40tusty for

00:29:41this woman,

00:29:42but that

00:29:43woman,

00:29:43even though

00:29:43she's

00:29:43tusty,

00:29:44you're not

00:29:44her flavor.

00:29:45tusty

00:29:47woman is

00:29:47I've seen

00:29:47it.

00:29:48That

00:29:48worse

00:29:48than a

00:29:49thirsty

00:29:49man.

00:29:52There's a

00:29:52very deep

00:29:53question,

00:29:53somewhat,

00:29:54but I just

00:29:54want to hear

00:29:55your perspective

00:29:55on it.

00:29:56Let's just

00:29:57say the

00:29:57female artists

00:29:58in the

00:29:59soaker

00:29:59industry,

00:30:00at least

00:30:0090% of

00:30:01them,

00:30:01they sexualize

00:30:02themselves to

00:30:03kind of get

00:30:04it forward,

00:30:04right?

00:30:06But they

00:30:06also have a

00:30:06complaint that

00:30:08they don't get

00:30:08the same

00:30:09respect as

00:30:10the male

00:30:10artists,

00:30:11right?

00:30:11I think

00:30:12it's because

00:30:13artists like

00:30:14Skinny,

00:30:15we will

00:30:15focus on

00:30:16your talent.

00:30:16We're not

00:30:17focusing on

00:30:17your clothes,

00:30:18we're not

00:30:18focusing on

00:30:18your tone

00:30:20of voice and

00:30:21your music

00:30:21and all

00:30:22these things.

00:30:24Naila,

00:30:24who is

00:30:25just as

00:30:25talented,

00:30:26but she

00:30:27sexualized

00:30:27herself so

00:30:28much that

00:30:29that's all

00:30:29we can think

00:30:30about when

00:30:30we hear the

00:30:31word Naila.

00:30:31She's a

00:30:32real good

00:30:32boy or

00:30:33whatever.

00:30:34I don't

00:30:35want to

00:30:35just single

00:30:36out Naila

00:30:36alone,

00:30:37but the

00:30:38majority of

00:30:38the soaker

00:30:39artists,

00:30:39female-wise,

00:30:40they will

00:30:41sexualize

00:30:41herself a

00:30:41lot.

00:30:42So every

00:30:42time we

00:30:42think about

00:30:43the name,

00:30:43we'll

00:30:43think about

00:30:44the sexiness.

00:30:45But as I

00:30:46say,

00:30:46they will

00:30:46complain that

00:30:47they're not

00:30:48on all

00:30:48their level

00:30:48or don't

00:30:49get the

00:30:49same type

00:30:50of respect.

00:30:52How you

00:30:53see that

00:30:53as the

00:30:54sense of,

00:30:54because we're

00:30:54talking about

00:30:55the logic

00:30:56behind doing

00:30:57a certain

00:30:58type of

00:30:58action,

00:30:59but getting

00:30:59back a

00:31:00certain type

00:31:00of response

00:31:01now.

00:31:02Do you

00:31:03think that

00:31:03they should,

00:31:05if they

00:31:06want the

00:31:06respect,

00:31:07they would

00:31:07have to

00:31:08tone down

00:31:08that type

00:31:10of energy?

00:31:10I think

00:31:11it goes

00:31:12back now.

00:31:12You say

00:31:12Angela

00:31:13Hunt.

00:31:14Angela

00:31:14Hunt

00:31:15do

00:31:15have

00:31:15much

00:31:15music

00:31:16out

00:31:16here,

00:31:16but her

00:31:17name is

00:31:18well

00:31:18respected.

00:31:19And I

00:31:20think it's

00:31:20mainly because

00:31:21she never

00:31:21really sexualized

00:31:22herself.

00:31:23Even artists

00:31:24like Lauren

00:31:24Hill,

00:31:25when you hear

00:31:26the name,

00:31:26you just

00:31:26think about

00:31:27music.

00:31:27but that's

00:31:28nothing

00:31:28so-called

00:31:29would she

00:31:31get the

00:31:32same

00:31:32reaction?

00:31:33I say

00:31:34Angela

00:31:34Hunt,

00:31:34he say

00:31:35Alicia

00:31:35Keys,

00:31:36like when

00:31:36you hear

00:31:36these

00:31:36names,

00:31:37you think

00:31:38about

00:31:38their

00:31:38talent,

00:31:39you think

00:31:39about

00:31:39the

00:31:39piano,

00:31:39all different

00:31:40things come

00:31:40into the

00:31:41head when

00:31:41you hear

00:31:41these

00:31:41artists,

00:31:42but when

00:31:42they say

00:31:42Cardi B,

00:31:44they say

00:31:44Nicki Minaj,

00:31:46yes,

00:31:46they have

00:31:47talent too,

00:31:48but they

00:31:49may not

00:31:49get the

00:31:49same respect

00:31:51as Lauren

00:31:52Hill or

00:31:53as Alicia

00:31:53Keys.

00:31:53But I

00:31:54just

00:31:54think

00:31:54in KG,

00:31:55and of

00:31:55course,

00:31:55I know

00:31:56you're

00:31:56doing

00:31:56the

00:31:56question

00:31:57to

00:31:57skinny,

00:31:57but just

00:31:57to say

00:31:58that in

00:31:59Soka,

00:32:00I'm just

00:32:01thinking if

00:32:02one of the

00:32:03female artists

00:32:03didn't dress

00:32:05a particular

00:32:05way and

00:32:05perform a

00:32:06different way

00:32:06and just

00:32:07came out

00:32:07in a long

00:32:08full gong

00:32:09and stood

00:32:10up there,

00:32:11nobody...

00:32:13Calypso

00:32:13rose.

00:32:14But that's

00:32:15Calypso.

00:32:15No,

00:32:16we're talking

00:32:17on the

00:32:17hole and

00:32:17asking him

00:32:18about Soka

00:32:18because he's

00:32:19a Soka

00:32:19artist,

00:32:20but we

00:32:20see it all

00:32:21across the

00:32:21industry,

00:32:22women try

00:32:22to sexualize

00:32:23yourself as

00:32:24we were

00:32:24talking about

00:32:24the logic

00:32:25behind,

00:32:26you're

00:32:26putting out

00:32:27this image

00:32:27and all

00:32:29men can

00:32:29think about

00:32:29is sex

00:32:30when they

00:32:30think about

00:32:31you,

00:32:31but you're

00:32:32upset that

00:32:32they're not

00:32:33respecting you

00:32:33like Lauren

00:32:34Hill,

00:32:35like Alicia

00:32:36Keys,

00:32:36you as

00:32:38a man

00:32:38in the

00:32:38Soka

00:32:38game,

00:32:39how you

00:32:40see that?

00:32:41I do

00:32:42think that

00:32:43women in

00:32:44the Soka

00:32:44industry

00:32:44face a

00:32:46very unique

00:32:46challenge

00:32:47because they

00:32:49are trying

00:32:49to grab

00:32:50attention.

00:32:51when a

00:32:53male Soka

00:32:54artist could

00:32:54put up

00:32:55something funny

00:32:56and get

00:32:56how much

00:32:57of a

00:32:58likes and

00:32:58get some

00:32:58engagement,

00:33:00a female

00:33:00artist may

00:33:01look to

00:33:01resort to

00:33:03putting on

00:33:04something

00:33:04revealing

00:33:04because that's

00:33:06what will

00:33:06get the

00:33:07clicks,

00:33:07right?

00:33:08So we

00:33:08understand the

00:33:09marketing value

00:33:10of having a

00:33:11good body

00:33:11and sexualizing

00:33:12yourself.

00:33:14My thing is

00:33:15that just

00:33:15like you were

00:33:16saying,

00:33:17don't be

00:33:17surprised

00:33:18when the

00:33:19audience see

00:33:20you as

00:33:21just an

00:33:23object or

00:33:24a sexualized

00:33:25object and

00:33:26if it is

00:33:26that's what

00:33:27you're doing

00:33:28then own

00:33:28it and be

00:33:29about it and

00:33:30don't complain

00:33:31about it.

00:33:31That's just

00:33:32it.

00:33:32Like what

00:33:33can't we do?

00:33:33It's fine

00:33:37because we're

00:33:38not burning

00:33:38you down for

00:33:38it.

00:33:39It's fine.

00:33:39It is

00:33:40absolutely

00:33:40fine and

00:33:42everybody has

00:33:42a personality.

00:33:44When I look

00:33:44at Fayan,

00:33:45you tell

00:33:47me you

00:33:48guide me

00:33:49if I go

00:33:50on the wrong

00:33:50road.

00:33:51Go ahead.

00:33:52No,

00:33:52because I was

00:33:52going to say

00:33:53something about

00:33:53Fayan too.

00:33:54When I look

00:33:56at Fayan,

00:33:57I do think

00:33:58Fayan is one

00:34:00sexy human,

00:34:00right?

00:34:01But it

00:34:02doesn't give

00:34:03me the

00:34:04same sales

00:34:06pitch as

00:34:07Nyla or

00:34:10Patrice.

00:34:11It's a

00:34:11different

00:34:11personality of

00:34:12sexiness.

00:34:13So whatever

00:34:14that comes

00:34:14with,

00:34:15that comes

00:34:15with a

00:34:15kind of

00:34:16bravado.

00:34:17That comes

00:34:17with a

00:34:17I am

00:34:18me.

00:34:18I is a

00:34:20sexy

00:34:20boss.

00:34:22She sells

00:34:23that.

00:34:24I have

00:34:25to take

00:34:25that.

00:34:26When

00:34:26Patrice

00:34:27comes and

00:34:27she sells

00:34:28me,

00:34:28I think

00:34:28the last

00:34:29video,

00:34:29that was

00:34:30real steamy.

00:34:31All I

00:34:31can't think

00:34:32about is

00:34:32the steam.

00:34:34Don't

00:34:34vex with

00:34:34me if

00:34:35I'm

00:34:35watching

00:34:35you now

00:34:36and

00:34:36steaming

00:34:37up my

00:34:37thoughts.

00:34:38That's

00:34:38fine.

00:34:39When it

00:34:41comes to

00:34:41the

00:34:41arts,

00:34:41we're

00:34:42talking

00:34:43here

00:34:43specifically.

00:34:44I know you

00:34:44mentioned

00:34:44Alicia Keys

00:34:45and a

00:34:45couple

00:34:46others.

00:34:46In the

00:34:47soccer

00:34:47industry,

00:34:48it is

00:34:50about that

00:34:50in many

00:34:52ways.

00:34:52Even for

00:34:53the male

00:34:53artists,

00:34:54they have

00:34:54to bring

00:34:55up dancers

00:34:56or you

00:34:56might bring

00:34:57up somebody

00:34:57from the

00:34:57stage or

00:34:58your lyrics

00:34:59are suggesting.

00:35:01It's actually

00:35:02calling you

00:35:03out like an

00:35:04anthem to

00:35:04behave in a

00:35:05particular way.

00:35:06and so

00:35:08with

00:35:10Fefe,

00:35:11Fefe,

00:35:11Fefe and

00:35:11Lyons,

00:35:12because I

00:35:12know when

00:35:13she's on

00:35:13the job

00:35:14site,

00:35:14she said

00:35:14it's

00:35:15Fefe and

00:35:15Lyons.

00:35:17Well,

00:35:18I mean,

00:35:19just see you've

00:35:19been around

00:35:20them enough,

00:35:20you hear

00:35:20Bonji,

00:35:21call her

00:35:21affectionately.

00:35:22Bonji,

00:35:22not you.

00:35:23Well,

00:35:24they're

00:35:25friends of

00:35:27Garden

00:35:28Media,

00:35:28so by

00:35:28extension,

00:35:29I say

00:35:30they're

00:35:30family.

00:35:32And so

00:35:32Fefe,

00:35:34when she

00:35:34goes up

00:35:35on a

00:35:35stage or

00:35:36is out

00:35:36in public,

00:35:37yes,

00:35:37she's sexy,

00:35:38but she

00:35:39knows that

00:35:39she has,

00:35:40apart from

00:35:40adoring fans

00:35:41and adoring

00:35:42husband,

00:35:43who's right

00:35:43there,

00:35:44very secure

00:35:45in his own

00:35:46manhood,

00:35:46no pun

00:35:47intended,

00:35:47and she's

00:35:48also very

00:35:49secure in

00:35:49her womanhood

00:35:50and her

00:35:50sexiness,

00:35:51but also

00:35:51when she

00:35:52goes up

00:35:52there,

00:35:52everyone

00:35:53else knows

00:35:54it.

00:35:55They're

00:35:55very public

00:35:55with that

00:35:56affection,

00:35:57and very

00:35:57public to

00:35:58know that,

00:35:58okay,

00:35:58I'm looking

00:35:59at you,

00:36:00but I

00:36:00know that

00:36:01you're

00:36:01a married

00:36:01woman,

00:36:02I know

00:36:02that you're

00:36:03a mother,

00:36:03so the

00:36:05vibes,

00:36:05as you

00:36:06say,

00:36:06about

00:36:06reading

00:36:06the room,

00:36:07you're not

00:36:07going to

00:36:08jump up

00:36:08inside there.

00:36:09We know

00:36:09Petrie's

00:36:09a mother

00:36:10too.

00:36:10But I

00:36:11see,

00:36:11you're

00:36:11going up

00:36:12doing

00:36:12garland

00:36:13right there?

00:36:14Come

00:36:14my man,

00:36:14you're

00:36:15looking to

00:36:15Let me

00:36:16forget

00:36:16a bungee

00:36:18for a

00:36:19second.

00:36:19I think

00:36:19we should

00:36:19forget

00:36:20garland

00:36:20for a

00:36:21second.

00:36:21Let me

00:36:21just

00:36:21rest

00:36:22for a

00:36:22second.

00:36:24Fian

00:36:24presents

00:36:26herself as

00:36:26a wife,

00:36:27even though

00:36:28she's sexy.

00:36:29Think about

00:36:29it.

00:36:29If you're

00:36:31not

00:36:31fat,

00:36:32you have

00:36:32women who

00:36:33deal with

00:36:33a man

00:36:34looking sexy,

00:36:35but how

00:36:36they move,

00:36:37they move

00:36:37like a

00:36:38woman with

00:36:38a man.

00:36:39Now,

00:36:39I know

00:36:39there's no

00:36:39exact

00:36:40science

00:36:40behind

00:36:41that.

00:36:42You can

00:36:43look at

00:36:43a woman

00:36:43and know

00:36:44she's with

00:36:44a man,

00:36:44or she

00:36:46is taken.

00:36:47I say

00:36:48not because

00:36:48it's always

00:36:49a statement

00:36:50you're

00:36:50making.

00:36:51Fian

00:36:51not giving

00:36:52you no

00:36:52current.

00:36:53You're

00:36:54not feeling

00:36:54the

00:36:54inviting.

00:36:55You can

00:36:55say,

00:36:55this woman

00:36:57put time

00:36:57in her

00:36:58body.

00:36:58This woman

00:36:59put time

00:37:00in her

00:37:00outfit.

00:37:01This woman

00:37:02looks sexy,

00:37:03but you're

00:37:03not feeling

00:37:03like she

00:37:04inviting me

00:37:05to come.

00:37:06I think

00:37:06that is a

00:37:07major factor

00:37:08because

00:37:08women who

00:37:09invite you,

00:37:10there's no

00:37:10one or

00:37:12invite you.

00:37:13They just

00:37:13might be

00:37:14inviting you,

00:37:15but they

00:37:15might be

00:37:15inviting someone

00:37:16or they

00:37:17open an

00:37:18invitation,

00:37:18they just

00:37:18might not

00:37:19know it

00:37:19as yet.

00:37:20They might

00:37:21be going

00:37:21meaning

00:37:23at that

00:37:23particular

00:37:24party or

00:37:25FET or

00:37:26occasion,

00:37:26they might

00:37:27be looking

00:37:27for anybody,

00:37:28but people

00:37:28go into

00:37:29relationships

00:37:30all the

00:37:30time where

00:37:31somebody

00:37:31comes up

00:37:31and starts

00:37:32a conversation

00:37:32and next

00:37:33you know,

00:37:33that's your

00:37:34boyfriend or

00:37:34you're interested,

00:37:35your husband.

00:37:35Let me tell you

00:37:36human behavior.

00:37:37Human behavior

00:37:38is thought

00:37:39into feeling

00:37:40into action.

00:37:41Whatever you're

00:37:41thinking here,

00:37:42let's come out

00:37:43in your behavior.

00:37:44If you're

00:37:45looking,

00:37:46whether it is

00:37:47you're open

00:37:47looking or

00:37:48you're kind

00:37:49of looking,

00:37:50you could

00:37:51tell,

00:37:51you could

00:37:52look at

00:37:52a woman

00:37:52and know

00:37:53even if

00:37:53it's a

00:37:54married woman,

00:37:54even if

00:37:55it's a

00:37:55taken

00:37:55run,

00:37:55you will

00:37:56know if

00:37:57she's

00:37:58looking.

00:37:58She might

00:37:59be explicit.

00:38:01Is there

00:38:01energy?

00:38:02Is there

00:38:02energy?

00:38:02Yes,

00:38:03no.

00:38:03So I'm

00:38:04saying that

00:38:04because if

00:38:05a woman

00:38:05comes to

00:38:06her FET

00:38:07and she

00:38:08looking,

00:38:08you will

00:38:09get the

00:38:09energy.

00:38:09If she's

00:38:10not looking,

00:38:10if she

00:38:10just comes

00:38:11to vibes

00:38:11with

00:38:12she girls,

00:38:12you'll

00:38:12get her

00:38:13energy too.

00:38:14And remember,

00:38:15energy could

00:38:15change too.

00:38:16So she could

00:38:16come vibes

00:38:17with the

00:38:17girl and

00:38:18see some

00:38:19men and

00:38:20start her

00:38:20move like

00:38:21she's looking

00:38:21after too.

00:38:22So I see

00:38:23KG say the

00:38:24energy,

00:38:24that's a

00:38:25real important

00:38:25part.

00:38:26Yeah,

00:38:27so fellas,

00:38:28let me take a

00:38:28break and

00:38:29we'll come

00:38:30back with

00:38:30some more.

00:38:31Welcome

00:38:41back to

00:38:41Manhood.

00:38:42We're talking

00:38:42about the

00:38:43rules of

00:38:44engagement in

00:38:45terms of

00:38:45approaching

00:38:46women.

00:38:47And we

00:38:47had some

00:38:48very interesting

00:38:49topics that

00:38:51came up in

00:38:52terms of

00:38:52energy,

00:38:54in terms of

00:38:55women wearing,

00:38:57revealing things

00:38:57and then

00:38:58surprised when

00:38:59the man

00:39:00approached.

00:39:01And Robert,

00:39:03you were

00:39:03saying that

00:39:03sometimes

00:39:04women would

00:39:06do through

00:39:07themselves and

00:39:08then talk

00:39:09about being

00:39:09disrespected.

00:39:11Right?

00:39:11And Skinny,

00:39:12we come to

00:39:13you just now

00:39:14about your

00:39:14perception from

00:39:15this stage.

00:39:16What I want

00:39:17to say to

00:39:17that is I

00:39:19think sometimes

00:39:19is a gas

00:39:21light.

00:39:22Right?

00:39:22Because if

00:39:24you had an

00:39:24intent, so

00:39:25you threw

00:39:25yourself and

00:39:26you were

00:39:26saying that

00:39:27you weren't

00:39:27expected to

00:39:28call them

00:39:29after and

00:39:29expect.

00:39:30You know,

00:39:31Anita, you're

00:39:33giving a

00:39:33little snippet.

00:39:34I need to

00:39:36qualify and

00:39:37clarify.

00:39:38Very important,

00:39:39especially on

00:39:39this show.

00:39:39And you

00:39:40might get a

00:39:41lot of all

00:39:41of a sudden

00:39:42I go walking

00:39:42down the

00:39:43road and

00:39:43some woman

00:39:44say, hey,

00:39:45to qualify

00:39:46the statement.

00:39:47There are

00:39:48times when

00:39:48women know

00:39:49it, men

00:39:49do it as

00:39:49well.

00:39:50There's no

00:39:50reason why

00:39:50there's no

00:39:52difference in

00:39:52it.

00:39:52Men go on

00:39:53the hunt,

00:39:53women also

00:39:54go on

00:39:54the hunt.

00:39:54Right.

00:39:55And there's

00:39:56a desire.

00:39:57So for

00:39:57example, I'm

00:39:59not saying

00:39:59skinny,

00:40:00whether you

00:40:01admit it or

00:40:02not, women,

00:40:03they're groupies.

00:40:04They're women

00:40:05who come

00:40:05backstage,

00:40:06whether it be

00:40:06for an

00:40:06artist or

00:40:07in general,

00:40:08women,

00:40:08it depends on

00:40:09who they're

00:40:09attracted to.

00:40:10and they

00:40:11are, as

00:40:12you speak

00:40:12about the

00:40:13rules of

00:40:13engagement,

00:40:14you have,

00:40:15you know,

00:40:16what's it

00:40:16called,

00:40:17FTFs or

00:40:19F-Buddies and

00:40:21things like

00:40:21that, trying

00:40:21to save the

00:40:22editor from

00:40:22having to

00:40:22beep out,

00:40:23right?

00:40:24To say,

00:40:24FWB,

00:40:28and?

00:40:29Friends with

00:40:30Benefits,

00:40:30yes.

00:40:31So that's the

00:40:32cleaner one to

00:40:33say.

00:40:34And the

00:40:35rules at that

00:40:36point are

00:40:36supposedly very

00:40:37clear, whether

00:40:38it's stated or

00:40:39understood,

00:40:40that you want

00:40:41X, Y, and

00:40:41Z, and we

00:40:42shit.

00:40:43There's a

00:40:44mutual exchange.

00:40:45And then

00:40:45afterwards, you

00:40:46know, you

00:40:46find women

00:40:47make, maybe,

00:40:49I'm not saying

00:40:49just women,

00:40:50maybe men as

00:40:51well, but

00:40:52women may

00:40:52come and

00:40:53say, I'm

00:40:54not respected,

00:40:56or why is

00:40:57he not

00:40:57calling me?

00:40:58All of these

00:40:58different things

00:40:59start to come

00:40:59about, and

00:41:00it's like,

00:41:00well, you

00:41:01know what

00:41:01you're going

00:41:02in for,

00:41:03and why are

00:41:04you now

00:41:05surprised by

00:41:06the end

00:41:07result of

00:41:08how you

00:41:08presented

00:41:09yourself would

00:41:10have warranted

00:41:10whatever level

00:41:11of respect or

00:41:13lack thereof is

00:41:14now meted

00:41:14out.

00:41:15And it

00:41:16happens, it

00:41:17happens all the

00:41:18time in all

00:41:19walks of life,

00:41:19whereas men

00:41:20may be a bit,

00:41:21it would be a

00:41:22bit easier, it's

00:41:22like, okay, well,

00:41:23I jammed that, I

00:41:24did this, and I

00:41:25move on.

00:41:27Women may now

00:41:28feel a particular

00:41:29way about it.

00:41:30And as again, I'm

00:41:30not speaking on

00:41:31behalf, I'm not

00:41:32speaking, saying

00:41:34it's all women,

00:41:35I'm just talking

00:41:35very general here

00:41:36because we're

00:41:36having a

00:41:37discussion.

00:41:37You notice I

00:41:38get a bit

00:41:39nervous, but

00:41:40you know, you

00:41:40have to be so

00:41:41careful, you

00:41:42have to be so

00:41:43careful, but the

00:41:45reality is

00:41:46But I

00:41:46understand what

00:41:47you're saying,

00:41:48Robert, and it's

00:41:49happened with men

00:41:50too because

00:41:50sometimes a man

00:41:51might say, I

00:41:52give a woman

00:41:52flowers and I

00:41:53give you this

00:41:54and that, and

00:41:54then you expect

00:41:55something right

00:41:56to when she

00:41:56tells you from

00:41:57the start, hey,

00:41:58I ain't really

00:41:58in for all of

00:41:59this, but you

00:42:00think you could

00:42:00have convinced

00:42:01her or convinced

00:42:02him otherwise,

00:42:04which is of

00:42:04course, you're

00:42:05setting yourself up

00:42:05for failure.

00:42:06So I want us

00:42:08to go, one

00:42:08thing that I've

00:42:09been trying to, I

00:42:10want to ask since

00:42:12we started, when

00:42:13you spoke about

00:42:14reading the room

00:42:15and approaching

00:42:15how, we keep

00:42:16talking about how

00:42:17women, a woman

00:42:17dresses and it

00:42:20can be very

00:42:20inviting and there's

00:42:21a specific thing,

00:42:22even as a

00:42:22soak artist, you

00:42:23dress a particular

00:42:24way, what does

00:42:26our, and this

00:42:27might be slightly

00:42:28off topic when it

00:42:29comes to the

00:42:29rules and roles

00:42:30of engagement, what

00:42:32does a man do in

00:42:33an environment

00:42:33to attract, you

00:42:36know, a woman

00:42:39dresses a

00:42:39particular way,

00:42:40dances a

00:42:40particular way, but

00:42:41I'm telling

00:42:42myself, if I

00:42:43see a man

00:42:44dressed in a

00:42:46particular way

00:42:46that is supposedly

00:42:48revealing and

00:42:49behaving in a

00:42:50same way, I

00:42:50have a totally

00:42:51different impression.

00:42:53If a man

00:42:54dresses revealing,

00:42:55you're saying.

00:42:55Well, like a

00:42:56woman reveals

00:42:57things.

00:42:58So a man,

00:42:58apart from doing

00:42:59carnival, is

00:43:00with puffy

00:43:00shirt, you

00:43:00know, training

00:43:01364 days a

00:43:02day, right?

00:43:03And looking

00:43:05for those two,

00:43:06the fets to

00:43:07start and

00:43:08them two days

00:43:08of carnival,

00:43:09right?

00:43:10Outside of

00:43:11that, a

00:43:12woman, by

00:43:13less is more

00:43:14in certain

00:43:15cases, and

00:43:16reveals a

00:43:17certain parts

00:43:17of your body

00:43:18and attracts

00:43:19a man.

00:43:21And dances a

00:43:22particular way

00:43:23and attracts

00:43:23a man.

00:43:24But what

00:43:24does a man

00:43:25do?

00:43:28To have the

00:43:29same effect?

00:43:30Oh, God, I

00:43:30was waiting,

00:43:31man.

00:43:31I like how

00:43:32God, I

00:43:32had to say

00:43:33everything.

00:43:33But I

00:43:33take a

00:43:34different

00:43:34circle, so

00:43:35I'll come

00:43:35down to

00:43:35the circle

00:43:36again.

00:43:37So, let

00:43:37me just

00:43:38say it's

00:43:38a ground

00:43:38circle,

00:43:39let me

00:43:39say it's

00:43:40a hood

00:43:40thing,

00:43:41right?

00:43:41In a

00:43:42city kind

00:43:42of vibes.

00:43:43The man

00:43:44who probably

00:43:44have on

00:43:45the bad

00:43:46shoe,

00:43:46he might

00:43:47be the

00:43:47man.

00:43:48Then the

00:43:48level does

00:43:49go up.

00:43:49Let me just

00:43:50say it's

00:43:50in the

00:43:51industry.

00:43:52I think

00:43:52status have

00:43:53a part to

00:43:54play in

00:43:54that too,

00:43:54who he

00:43:55is,

00:43:55what he

00:43:55does do,

00:43:56that kind

00:43:56of vibe.

00:43:57So you

00:43:57just run

00:44:02if you

00:44:03have a

00:44:04visa face,

00:44:04right?

00:44:05If people

00:44:05know you,

00:44:06you could

00:44:07use your

00:44:07face.

00:44:08But we

00:44:08ain't doing

00:44:09nothing.

00:44:09You ain't

00:44:09working for

00:44:10that.

00:44:10But you

00:44:11work for

00:44:11it.

00:44:11You work

00:44:12to be a

00:44:12visa face.

00:44:13So you

00:44:13work for

00:44:13anything.

00:44:15If your

00:44:16man went

00:44:16to the

00:44:16gym,

00:44:17you might

00:44:17wear a

00:44:17muscle

00:44:17shirt to

00:44:18show off

00:44:19your

00:44:19muscles.

00:44:19If you

00:44:20went to

00:44:20the gym,

00:44:21you show

00:44:21off the

00:44:22arm.

00:44:22You know

00:44:24what I

00:44:24talking about?

00:44:25You show

00:44:26off that.

00:44:27If you

00:44:27do work

00:44:28on your

00:44:28abs,

00:44:29you show

00:44:29off something.

00:44:30It

00:44:32what about

00:44:32the skinny

00:44:33men and

00:44:33them?

00:44:34What will

00:44:34you do?

00:44:35Show off

00:44:36wear?

00:44:37You have

00:44:39a chain,

00:44:40as you

00:44:40say,

00:44:40the shoes.

00:44:41Sometimes

00:44:41you show

00:44:42off your

00:44:42chain,

00:44:42you have

00:44:43a goal

00:44:43or something.

00:44:44Whatever

00:44:44you think

00:44:45will attract

00:44:46the woman

00:44:47that you

00:44:47think you

00:44:47want.

00:44:48That

00:44:48works?

00:44:49I think

00:44:49everything

00:44:51comes with

00:44:51the energy

00:44:52because a

00:44:52woman could

00:44:53look good

00:44:53and you

00:44:55could go

00:44:55to a

00:44:55party and

00:44:56see a

00:44:56hundred

00:44:56beautiful

00:44:57women,

00:44:58but you

00:44:58don't want

00:44:59a hundred

00:44:59of them.

00:45:00You're

00:45:00looking at

00:45:00one of

00:45:01them.

00:45:01What

00:45:02attracting

00:45:02you to

00:45:02that one

00:45:03woman is

00:45:04a certain

00:45:04energy that

00:45:05she possesses.

00:45:06I think

00:45:06that men

00:45:07have that

00:45:07same energy

00:45:08too.

00:45:08You could

00:45:08go to a

00:45:09party and

00:45:09a woman

00:45:10want you

00:45:10out of all

00:45:11the men

00:45:11in the

00:45:12party.

00:45:12He's a

00:45:13skinny man,

00:45:13muscles and

00:45:15things.

00:45:15I went

00:45:16to party

00:45:16and a

00:45:18girl

00:45:18on to

00:45:18me.

00:45:19I sent

00:45:20a strong

00:45:20man around

00:45:20me and

00:45:21she's

00:45:21still on

00:45:22to me.

00:45:23She

00:45:23don't know

00:45:24me from

00:45:24my place.

00:45:25That energy

00:45:26I think

00:45:26is possessed.

00:45:27that's

00:45:29really

00:45:29important.

00:45:29Mojo is

00:45:30still a

00:45:30word?

00:45:31Of course,

00:45:31of course,

00:45:32of course.

00:45:34You're

00:45:34that game.

00:45:35You're

00:45:35that game.

00:45:37But when

00:45:39you say

00:45:39about

00:45:39visa

00:45:40face and

00:45:41things like

00:45:41that,

00:45:41that there's

00:45:42certain,

00:45:44you know,

00:45:44Redman is

00:45:45hard to

00:45:46have

00:45:46anything but

00:45:47you go out

00:45:48there and

00:45:48it's just

00:45:49an energy

00:45:50like you

00:45:50said.

00:45:50Sometimes

00:45:52you start

00:45:53and you

00:45:53don't get

00:45:54through,

00:45:54you don't

00:45:54get

00:45:54through,

00:45:54no big

00:45:56deal.

00:45:57One thing

00:45:59I'd like to

00:45:59highlight,

00:45:59you talk

00:46:00about

00:46:00objectification.

00:46:02A lot

00:46:02of people

00:46:03really

00:46:03objectify

00:46:04each other

00:46:04because if

00:46:05you say

00:46:06that man

00:46:08with the

00:46:08muscles,

00:46:09that is

00:46:10objectification.

00:46:11If you

00:46:11say that

00:46:12man who

00:46:12was wearing

00:46:12the gold

00:46:13chain,

00:46:13that is

00:46:13objectification.

00:46:15Even if

00:46:17you use

00:46:17your car,

00:46:18if you

00:46:18be known

00:46:18as the

00:46:19man with

00:46:19this

00:46:19car,

00:46:20there's

00:46:20still

00:46:20objectification

00:46:21and I

00:46:23think

00:46:23sometimes

00:46:24objectification

00:46:25gets a

00:46:26little bit

00:46:26demonized

00:46:27because I

00:46:27don't have

00:46:28a next

00:46:28word for

00:46:28it yet.

00:46:29Objectification

00:46:30gets demonized

00:46:31because we

00:46:31still consider

00:46:32somebody based

00:46:33on what

00:46:34they present

00:46:34to us.

00:46:35If somebody

00:46:36says the

00:46:37therapist

00:46:37really dreads,

00:46:38they don't

00:46:39know my

00:46:39name,

00:46:40somebody

00:46:40could say

00:46:41in fact,

00:46:41that is

00:46:41all you

00:46:42are saying.

00:46:42If you

00:46:42understand

00:46:43what I

00:46:44say.

00:46:44Because let's

00:46:45just say I

00:46:46present that,

00:46:47I have my

00:46:47hair out,

00:46:47so I present

00:46:49that to the

00:46:49old and

00:46:49that might

00:46:50be what

00:46:50stands out

00:46:51to somebody.

00:46:53So with a

00:46:53woman,

00:46:54if she

00:46:54has her

00:46:55bottom

00:46:55exposed and

00:46:56somebody

00:46:57sees it,

00:46:58that is the

00:46:58object that

00:46:59they see.

00:47:00So that is

00:47:00what attracts

00:47:01me to you.

00:47:01If it's her

00:47:02face,

00:47:03if it's her

00:47:04breast,

00:47:04if it's

00:47:04something else,

00:47:05that's what

00:47:05I see now.

00:47:07So sometimes

00:47:08objectification is

00:47:10kind of a bad

00:47:10rap, but

00:47:11sometimes the

00:47:12first thing we

00:47:12see is an

00:47:13object.

00:47:13first impression

00:47:14and the

00:47:14last impression

00:47:15most times.

00:47:15And his

00:47:16life.

00:47:16You can't

00:47:17learn from

00:47:17it.

00:47:17There's just

00:47:17a hypocrisy

00:47:18that exists

00:47:19between male

00:47:20and female

00:47:21when it comes

00:47:22to who gets

00:47:23objectified and

00:47:24all these

00:47:24things.

00:47:25That's the

00:47:25point.

00:47:26And here's

00:47:27how crazy

00:47:27it is.

00:47:28If I go

00:47:30on stage,

00:47:31bear back,

00:47:32and a female

00:47:33in front comes

00:47:34and starts to

00:47:35rub my leg,

00:47:36it's all

00:47:36fine.

00:47:37I can move

00:47:37with it,

00:47:38and that's

00:47:39fine.

00:47:40Nobody says

00:47:40anything.

00:47:41If

00:47:42Destra go

00:47:43up there,

00:47:43Patrice go

00:47:44up there,

00:47:44and a man

00:47:44take his

00:47:45hand and

00:47:46slide his

00:47:47hand down

00:47:48her leg,

00:47:48it's like

00:47:49way out of

00:47:49timing,

00:47:50molest,

00:47:51assault,

00:47:51this is the

00:47:53hypocrisy of

00:47:54the world

00:47:55that we

00:47:55live in

00:47:56right now.

00:47:57But we're

00:47:58also talking

00:47:59about the

00:47:59fact that

00:48:00how do

00:48:00us as

00:48:01men go

00:48:02out and

00:48:03be noticed?

00:48:05And you

00:48:06rightfully said

00:48:07it depends on

00:48:07the circle

00:48:08you're in.

00:48:09There are

00:48:10circles that

00:48:10feel like

00:48:11they need

00:48:11to buff

00:48:11up in

00:48:12the gym.

00:48:12It might

00:48:12have circles

00:48:13that feel

00:48:13they need

00:48:14to put

00:48:14on the

00:48:14designer

00:48:15clothes,

00:48:16might need

00:48:16to buy

00:48:17jewelry,

00:48:18or they

00:48:18might need

00:48:19to put

00:48:19themselves

00:48:20in a

00:48:20certain

00:48:20circle of

00:48:21other men

00:48:21to make

00:48:22sure they

00:48:22get noticed.

00:48:23There's

00:48:23not really

00:48:24one rule

00:48:24of it.

00:48:26But for

00:48:26me now,

00:48:26let me

00:48:26just talk

00:48:27about me

00:48:27now.

00:48:27You see

00:48:28when my

00:48:29red dot

00:48:30hit a

00:48:31woman

00:48:32forehead,

00:48:33that's it.

00:48:33Straight

00:48:34shot.

00:48:35Chopper.

00:48:36It's

00:48:36chopper.

00:48:36I don't

00:48:37have no

00:48:37strategy for

00:48:38that.

00:48:38But when

00:48:39that dot,

00:48:40and she

00:48:41looks up,

00:48:42when she

00:48:42friends say,

00:48:43I'm a red

00:48:43dot,

00:48:44and a

00:48:45skinny dot,

00:48:46that's it.

00:48:47Chopper.

00:48:49But you're

00:48:52asking me

00:48:52off here,

00:48:53how do I

00:48:54see it from

00:48:54the lens

00:48:55of an

00:48:55artist?

00:48:57When I

00:48:58look at

00:48:58Dexter

00:48:59Daps,

00:48:59we are

00:49:00responsible

00:49:00for the

00:49:01type of

00:49:01reactions

00:49:02that we

00:49:02get,

00:49:02and it

00:49:02goes from

00:49:03men as

00:49:04well.

00:49:04When

00:49:04Dexter

00:49:04Daps

00:49:05go up

00:49:05and he

00:49:06started

00:49:06singing

00:49:06a million

00:49:07girls at

00:49:08a rush,

00:49:08he looks

00:49:09for that.

00:49:10He looks

00:49:11for it

00:49:11and he

00:49:11knows that

00:49:13what he's

00:49:14doing will

00:49:15attract that.

00:49:16You know

00:49:16what I'm

00:49:16saying?

00:49:17Same

00:49:17as

00:49:17Bungie

00:49:20a lesser

00:49:21artist than

00:49:23Dexter Daps?

00:49:24By far,

00:49:25no.

00:49:25Same

00:49:26caliber.

00:49:27In fact,

00:49:27Bungie's

00:49:28my boy.

00:49:29But you

00:49:29wouldn't see

00:49:29that same

00:49:30reaction.

00:49:31Even if

00:49:32Bungie was

00:49:32single and

00:49:33not married,

00:49:34you wouldn't

00:49:34see that

00:49:34same reaction

00:49:35because he

00:49:35don't go up

00:49:36there selling

00:49:36this,

00:49:37he's a sexy

00:49:37man,

00:49:38come touch

00:49:38man.

00:49:39He's

00:49:39going up

00:49:39there like,

00:49:40yo,

00:49:40I'm from

00:49:41the grung,

00:49:41you know.

00:49:42I come

00:49:42from when

00:49:43grung used

00:49:43to carry it,

00:49:44so respect

00:49:44me,

00:49:45you understand?

00:49:46So it's

00:49:46all about

00:49:47how we

00:49:48push out

00:49:48with image

00:49:49and I

00:49:50just find

00:49:50that everybody,

00:49:51male and

00:49:52female,

00:49:53do not be

00:49:54surprised and

00:49:55do not style

00:49:56people for the

00:49:57things that they

00:49:58perceive of you

00:49:59that you gave

00:50:00to them in the

00:50:00first place.

00:50:01And that just

00:50:02goes for all

00:50:03artists,

00:50:04for all people.

00:50:05Deal with it.

00:50:05It's life.

00:50:06I want

00:50:07you just

00:50:08to piggyback

00:50:09off what you

00:50:10just said.

00:50:10So when

00:50:12you go up,

00:50:13you perform

00:50:13and you evoke

00:50:15those emotions

00:50:15and the same

00:50:16things that we

00:50:17are talking

00:50:17about where

00:50:17women behave

00:50:18a particular

00:50:19way,

00:50:19that starts

00:50:20from your

00:50:21planning where

00:50:21you're writing

00:50:22it.

00:50:22so you

00:50:24have it,

00:50:25you almost

00:50:26in that

00:50:28genre,

00:50:29like a

00:50:29scientist,

00:50:30you're already

00:50:31planning certain

00:50:32things,

00:50:32so you're

00:50:33doing a,

00:50:34in your

00:50:35lyrics,

00:50:35you know

00:50:36what you're

00:50:36looking for

00:50:37to get

00:50:38people to

00:50:39do,

00:50:39to follow,

00:50:40to,

00:50:41to,

00:50:41where they

00:50:43say,

00:50:43like to

00:50:44carry it,

00:50:44or what's

00:50:45this one

00:50:45where you're

00:50:45telling

00:50:45everybody

00:50:46to,

00:50:47to,

00:50:47pick up

00:50:48something,

00:50:48pick up

00:50:48something,

00:50:49anything,

00:50:49and all

00:50:50these different

00:50:50things.

00:50:50So when

00:50:51you're

00:50:51telling

00:50:51someone to

00:50:52wine,

00:50:52jam,

00:50:53party,

00:50:53whatever it

00:50:54takes,

00:50:54right?

00:50:55So that's

00:50:56part of

00:50:56it,

00:50:56you're

00:50:56writing it,

00:50:57understanding

00:50:58the formula,

00:50:59and then you

00:50:59go up and

00:51:00you perform

00:51:01it,

00:51:01which is

00:51:02another thing,

00:51:02rehearsals,

00:51:03et cetera,

00:51:03because I

00:51:04think even

00:51:04you said

00:51:04it,

00:51:04where you

00:51:05only

00:51:05practice,

00:51:06you practice

00:51:07what you

00:51:07don't know,

00:51:08but you

00:51:08rehearse

00:51:09when you,

00:51:10something along

00:51:11those lines,

00:51:11you said it,

00:51:12smart on

00:51:12point,

00:51:13right?

00:51:13And,

00:51:16when,

00:51:17so when

00:51:17you go up

00:51:18there with,

00:51:18with all that

00:51:19thinking and

00:51:19understanding,

00:51:20based on what

00:51:22we told

00:51:22about the

00:51:22rules and

00:51:23rules of

00:51:23engagement

00:51:24and the

00:51:24objectification,

00:51:26like how

00:51:26as an

00:51:27artist,

00:51:30put on

00:51:30that skinny

00:51:31fabulous head

00:51:32now as

00:51:32the,

00:51:35boy,

00:51:35for the

00:51:36first time

00:51:36I did,

00:51:36you don't

00:51:37know what

00:51:37you want

00:51:38to ask?

00:51:38No,

00:51:38I know

00:51:39what I

00:51:39want to

00:51:39ask,

00:51:40it's just

00:51:40the context

00:51:42of,

00:51:44you're doing

00:51:44all of that,

00:51:45and you're

00:51:46seeing this

00:51:47behavior,

00:51:47and it's

00:51:47almost like

00:51:48a flow I'm

00:51:48looking for

00:51:49in terms of

00:51:50to get

00:51:51inside the

00:51:52head of

00:51:52skinny

00:51:52fabulous at

00:51:53that point

00:51:53to talk

00:51:54me through

00:51:55that process

00:51:55basically,

00:51:56what did

00:51:57you see?

00:51:58I consider

00:51:59myself a

00:52:01crowdsmith,

00:52:03a wordsmith,

00:52:04an energy

00:52:05smith,

00:52:06and that is

00:52:07because I

00:52:08understand that

00:52:09words have

00:52:09power,

00:52:10I understand

00:52:10what I

00:52:11write and

00:52:12what the

00:52:13intention of

00:52:14it is when

00:52:15I eventually

00:52:16get to a

00:52:16point that I

00:52:17perform it,

00:52:17right?

00:52:18And that's

00:52:18why I

00:52:19come from

00:52:19St.

00:52:19Vincent.

00:52:20We are

00:52:20accustomed to

00:52:21very riotous

00:52:22revelry.

00:52:24We are

00:52:24accustomed to

00:52:24shaking things

00:52:25and so most

00:52:26of my

00:52:27writing I

00:52:28hope to

00:52:28invoke the

00:52:30freedom of

00:52:30revelry and

00:52:32expression,

00:52:32you know what I'm

00:52:33saying?

00:52:33And so my

00:52:35style of

00:52:35writing might be

00:52:36different from

00:52:37Young Brother.

00:52:38When I listen

00:52:38to Young

00:52:38Brother,

00:52:39I know Young

00:52:39Brother likes

00:52:41to make

00:52:42girls whine

00:52:43and men

00:52:44over and

00:52:44he,

00:52:44you know what I

00:52:45mean?

00:52:45So when

00:52:45he goes

00:52:46on stage

00:52:46and girls

00:52:47start to

00:52:47scream,

00:52:48I understand

00:52:49and that

00:52:50is a part

00:52:51of a formula

00:52:51that works

00:52:52for him

00:52:53and that

00:52:54is brilliant.

00:52:55That in

00:52:55and of

00:52:56itself is

00:52:57the brilliance

00:52:58of a young

00:53:00brother and

00:53:00how he

00:53:01chooses to

00:53:01write versus

00:53:02a lady,

00:53:02Lava,

00:53:03who chooses

00:53:04to write

00:53:04embracing

00:53:05her own

00:53:06sexuality and

00:53:07dealing with

00:53:08a man in

00:53:09the most

00:53:09aggressive and

00:53:10dominating

00:53:11whatever

00:53:11situation she's

00:53:13in.

00:53:13I write

00:53:14differently.

00:53:14Kess writes

00:53:15differently.

00:53:16Kess plays

00:53:16it very

00:53:17safe mostly

00:53:18and appeals

00:53:19to a more

00:53:20romantic

00:53:21side of

00:53:22the audience.

00:53:23So every

00:53:24artist that

00:53:24goes up

00:53:25there

00:53:25understands

00:53:26what their

00:53:27superpower is

00:53:28and they

00:53:29play into

00:53:30that.

00:53:30Bungie is a

00:53:30lyricist.

00:53:31Bungie will

00:53:31glad when

00:53:32the music

00:53:32cut off

00:53:33and the

00:53:33song system

00:53:34giving

00:53:34problems

00:53:35because

00:53:35I went

00:53:37to freestyle

00:53:37for three

00:53:38minutes and

00:53:38the song

00:53:39system

00:53:39and the

00:53:39DJ

00:53:40and the

00:53:40man in

00:53:41red

00:53:41and all

00:53:41kind of

00:53:42crazy.

00:53:42That is

00:53:43his power.

00:53:43So everybody

00:53:44understands

00:53:45what they

00:53:46are selling

00:53:47and what

00:53:47they look

00:53:48for success

00:53:49out of.

00:53:50Women too.

00:53:51So I saw

00:53:52Nessa had a

00:53:53really bad

00:53:54lash out.

00:53:55And I

00:53:56understood it

00:53:56because

00:53:57persons were

00:53:58kind of

00:53:58criticizing her

00:53:59for her

00:54:00singing

00:54:00some things

00:54:01about,

00:54:02I don't know

00:54:02what she was

00:54:03singing about,

00:54:03if it was a

00:54:03booty or

00:54:04whatever.

00:54:04Banty,

00:54:05like a

00:54:05too big for

00:54:05the panty.

00:54:06whatever it

00:54:07is.

00:54:07Spider.

00:54:07Soot.

00:54:08Right,

00:54:09right.

00:54:09And I

00:54:09hear she

00:54:12paying because

00:54:13it's a

00:54:13hypocrisy.

00:54:14Because when

00:54:15her problem

00:54:15child or

00:54:17who is

00:54:17this that

00:54:18take off

00:54:18the show

00:54:18or

00:54:18or any

00:54:20one of

00:54:20these men

00:54:20who pay

00:54:21attention to

00:54:21physique,

00:54:22right?

00:54:22And they

00:54:23grow up there.

00:54:23It's fine,

00:54:24a man can

00:54:25take off

00:54:25what he

00:54:25want and

00:54:26it's just

00:54:27love and

00:54:27respect,

00:54:28same which

00:54:28way.

00:54:29So when

00:54:29a female

00:54:29goes and

00:54:30does it,

00:54:31you want

00:54:31to burn

00:54:32her down.

00:54:33So that

00:54:33ain't really

00:54:33right.

00:54:34But at

00:54:34the same

00:54:34time,

00:54:35females,

00:54:35when you

00:54:35do it,

00:54:36understand

00:54:36that you

00:54:37are making

00:54:37that your

00:54:38superpower.

00:54:38You're

00:54:39selling that.

00:54:40So when

00:54:40people buy

00:54:41it,

00:54:42accept the

00:54:42sale,

00:54:43give them

00:54:43a receipt

00:54:43and go.

00:54:45And this

00:54:46is what I'm

00:54:46saying.

00:54:47So you

00:54:47understanding

00:54:48that the

00:54:49reason why

00:54:49you're

00:54:50successful,

00:54:50why you're

00:54:51skinny fabulous,

00:54:52why your

00:54:53performances and

00:54:54why people

00:54:54react the

00:54:55same way is

00:54:56because you

00:54:56understand what

00:54:57people still

00:54:58happen to

00:55:00fight down

00:55:00that we

00:55:02objectify in

00:55:03us or we

00:55:03behave in a

00:55:04particular way.

00:55:05But the

00:55:05reason I'm

00:55:06saying your

00:55:06music is

00:55:07accepted is

00:55:07because you

00:55:09understand that

00:55:10that is all

00:55:11horseshit.

00:55:12That is what

00:55:13it is.

00:55:13It is what

00:55:13it is.

00:55:14Right.

00:55:14When you go

00:55:15a fetal

00:55:16dance,

00:55:17right?

00:55:17Now,

00:55:17I can't speak

00:55:18for everybody,

00:55:19but most

00:55:19people want to

00:55:21have a good

00:55:21time,

00:55:22right?

00:55:22And a good

00:55:23time could be

00:55:23different things

00:55:24with different

00:55:24people.

00:55:24But I think

00:55:25for the most

00:55:26part,

00:55:26people want to

00:55:27free up a

00:55:27little bit.

00:55:28People want to

00:55:28relax.

00:55:29And that

00:55:30could still

00:55:30take different

00:55:31forms.

00:55:32But the point

00:55:32is you want

00:55:32the artists,

00:55:34whatever style

00:55:35it is,

00:55:36you want them

00:55:36to make you

00:55:37feel relaxed

00:55:38and free up

00:55:38in a certain

00:55:39way.

00:55:39So if it's

00:55:40jam music,

00:55:41that is a

00:55:42free up.

00:55:42If it's

00:55:43romantic,

00:55:44dancing style

00:55:44music,

00:55:45it's still a

00:55:45free up.

00:55:46If it's the

00:55:46lyricist,

00:55:47right?

00:55:47And you're

00:55:48still into it.

00:55:49You might be

00:55:49whining and

00:55:50jamming it,

00:55:50but you're

00:55:51still getting

00:55:51to free up

00:55:52now.

00:55:53And I

00:55:53think that

00:55:54sometimes

00:55:55where the

00:55:56hypocrisy

00:55:56comes in,

00:55:57when you

00:55:57start to

00:55:58free up,

00:55:59you currently

00:55:59predict sometimes

00:56:01human behavior

00:56:01when you start

00:56:02to free up.

00:56:03And especially

00:56:04the nature

00:56:05of carnival.

00:56:05Carnival,

00:56:06and this is

00:56:07how I perceive

00:56:07it,

00:56:08carnival is

00:56:08like a

00:56:08drug,

00:56:09right?

00:56:09You spend

00:56:10this portion

00:56:11of the year

00:56:12sometimes

00:56:13pretending,

00:56:14sometimes

00:56:14suppressing,

00:56:15right?

00:56:15And when you

00:56:16reach out

00:56:17here,

00:56:17you let

00:56:18loose.

00:56:19And again,

00:56:19let loose

00:56:19can look

00:56:20different to

00:56:20everybody,

00:56:21but the point

00:56:21is you let

00:56:22loose in

00:56:22some way.

00:56:23You might

00:56:23let peace

00:56:24loose,

00:56:24or some

00:56:25people let

00:56:25all loose,

00:56:26but you're

00:56:26still letting

00:56:26something

00:56:27loose.

00:56:27And you

00:56:27can't really

00:56:29predict how

00:56:30that will

00:56:31look.

00:56:31So when

00:56:31you're not

00:56:32presenting

00:56:32yourself,

00:56:33male or

00:56:33female,

00:56:34in a certain

00:56:34way,

00:56:35and somebody

00:56:35you letting

00:56:36loose and

00:56:37somebody else

00:56:37letting loose,

00:56:38right?

00:56:38It's almost

00:56:39like a

00:56:39chemical reaction,

00:56:43right?

00:56:43And this

00:56:44chemical,

00:56:45you're dropping

00:56:46in chemicals,

00:56:46you ain't

00:56:46sure what

00:56:47the chemicals

00:56:47are,

00:56:48so when

00:56:48the reaction

00:56:49happens,

00:56:50you're not

00:56:50sure.

00:56:51And that's

00:56:51the nature

00:56:51of carnival,

00:56:52and to

00:56:52pretend you

00:56:54don't

00:56:54understand

00:56:55carnival.

00:56:56I think

00:56:57that is a

00:56:57major hypocrisy,

00:56:58as you were

00:56:59saying,

00:56:59and a

00:56:59major gaslight,

00:57:01because that's

00:57:02what carnival is.

00:57:03I know we

00:57:06need to

00:57:06get around

00:57:07to closing

00:57:08thoughts,

00:57:09and hopefully

00:57:09skinny,

00:57:10you know I

00:57:10like when

00:57:11you go

00:57:12acapella,

00:57:12so I

00:57:13don't know

00:57:13if you

00:57:13could close

00:57:14us on

00:57:14something,

00:57:15you know,

00:57:15when we

00:57:15come to

00:57:15that point,

00:57:16but in

00:57:20those rules

00:57:22of engagement,

00:57:23and the

00:57:24rules within

00:57:25that,

00:57:25I would

00:57:26like to

00:57:26start by

00:57:27saying that

00:57:27there's

00:57:29definitely,

00:57:29respect is

00:57:32a must,

00:57:33in everything

00:57:34respect is

00:57:35a must,

00:57:36and again I

00:57:36want to

00:57:37clarify and

00:57:38qualify that

00:57:38we,

00:57:40as men,

00:57:41you can't

00:57:41touch,

00:57:42you can't

00:57:43touch unless

00:57:43you're invited

00:57:44to touch,

00:57:45a woman

00:57:46saying no

00:57:46is no,

00:57:47regardless of

00:57:48how they're

00:57:48dressed,

00:57:48how they're

00:57:49behaving,

00:57:51I understand

00:57:52the temptation,

00:57:54but according

00:57:57to the

00:57:57advice that

00:57:58we've had

00:57:58here,

00:57:59get some

00:57:59eye contact,

00:58:00read the

00:58:00room,

00:58:01figure it

00:58:01out,

00:58:02go wrong

00:58:03and check

00:58:04it out,

00:58:05see whether

00:58:05or not

00:58:06you're in

00:58:07the game,

00:58:07whether you

00:58:07have game

00:58:08at that

00:58:08point,

00:58:09and sometimes

00:58:10it is not

00:58:11your turn

00:58:12to win,

00:58:13sometimes it's

00:58:14your turn

00:58:14to lose,

00:58:14so walk

00:58:15away from

00:58:15that,

00:58:16enjoy

00:58:16yourself,

00:58:16enjoy the

00:58:17revelry,

00:58:18there's so

00:58:20much that

00:58:20men are

00:58:21still trying

00:58:21to understand,

00:58:22but men

00:58:22are men,

00:58:22and know

00:58:24that much

00:58:25about them

00:58:25in terms

00:58:26of you,

00:58:28the attractiveness

00:58:29is there,

00:58:30women are,

00:58:30Trinidad and

00:58:30Tobago women

00:58:31are the most

00:58:32beautiful in

00:58:32the world.

00:58:33And it

00:58:33works both

00:58:34ways,

00:58:34ladies,

00:58:35you're not

00:58:35also at

00:58:36liberty to

00:58:36just walk

00:58:37up and

00:58:37touch,

00:58:39read the

00:58:39room,

00:58:40right?

00:58:41See,

00:58:41that could

00:58:42be a whole

00:58:42different manner

00:58:43there about

00:58:43women and

00:58:44sexual harassment

00:58:45and coming

00:58:45and touch

00:58:46men,

00:58:46but you

00:58:48leave that

00:58:48day right

00:58:48where you

00:58:49leave it.

00:58:50I had my

00:58:51experience in

00:58:51and actually

00:58:54upset with

00:58:55me that I

00:58:56upset with

00:58:56cheese.

00:58:57How are you

00:58:57going to do

00:58:58that?

00:58:58And they're

00:58:59watching you

00:59:00in your face

00:59:00too when

00:59:00they do it.

00:59:01I have

00:59:01had so

00:59:02many occasions

00:59:03women touch

00:59:03your back

00:59:04and front

00:59:04and then

00:59:05looking back

00:59:06and smiling

00:59:06afterwards.

00:59:08And you're

00:59:08like,

00:59:09where's the

00:59:10equity in

00:59:11that?

00:59:12Yeah,

00:59:12no,

00:59:12I fresh

00:59:13too.

00:59:13I style

00:59:14in the same

00:59:15way.

00:59:15So,

00:59:16closing

00:59:17thoughts.

00:59:19Rules of

00:59:19engagement when

00:59:20it comes to

00:59:20women.

00:59:21one,

00:59:22we relate

00:59:22the law

00:59:22about

00:59:23following

00:59:23the law.

00:59:24You can't

00:59:25just go and

00:59:26violate somebody

00:59:27just like

00:59:27that.

00:59:27We touch

00:59:28that,

00:59:28but everything

00:59:30have an

00:59:30energy,

00:59:31right?

00:59:31And it's

00:59:32possible that

00:59:33the energy

00:59:33you're giving

00:59:34off could

00:59:34be read

00:59:34wrong,

00:59:35so open

00:59:36yourself to

00:59:36the possibility

00:59:36that you

00:59:37might have

00:59:38to embrace

00:59:39somebody,

00:59:40invite something

00:59:41that you

00:59:41may not

00:59:42want,

00:59:42and you

00:59:42may invite

00:59:43something

00:59:43that you

00:59:44want.

00:59:45And

00:59:45carnival is

00:59:46a unique

00:59:46period.

00:59:47many

00:59:49studies

00:59:49have been

00:59:49done on

00:59:50carnival,

00:59:51and you

00:59:52can't really

00:59:53put a

00:59:53formula on

00:59:54carnival,

00:59:55because every

00:59:55year is

00:59:56something

00:59:56different.

00:59:56Every

00:59:57year we

00:59:57have

00:59:57different

00:59:57people

00:59:58coming,

00:59:58every

00:59:59year have

00:59:59different

00:59:59songs.

01:00:00So if

01:00:01you

01:00:01understand

01:00:02the

01:00:02randomness

01:00:03of

01:00:03carnival,

01:00:04which is

01:00:04a beautiful

01:00:05thing in

01:00:05itself,

01:00:06then there

01:00:08will be

01:00:08parts of

01:00:09it that

01:00:09you may

01:00:09not enjoy,

01:00:10that you

01:00:11may invite,

01:00:11that you

01:00:11wouldn't want,

01:00:12and that is

01:00:12just part

01:00:14of it.

01:00:16I mean,

01:00:18I think we

01:00:19touch on

01:00:20everything.

01:00:21No pun

01:00:22intended.

01:00:22Yeah.

01:00:25Ladies,

01:00:26be real with

01:00:27yourselves,

01:00:28and fellas,

01:00:28stop embarrassing

01:00:29yourself.

01:00:30That is

01:00:31what I

01:00:31take away

01:00:31from this

01:00:33topic.

01:00:36Well,

01:00:37for me,

01:00:38ladies,

01:00:39you have

01:00:40the power.

01:00:40You're the

01:00:41most powerful

01:00:41creature on

01:00:42this earth,

01:00:43and you

01:00:44create life

01:00:44in so many

01:00:45ways.

01:00:46You can

01:00:46destroy life

01:00:47in so many

01:00:47ways.

01:00:49Understand

01:00:49the power

01:00:50of your

01:00:51body,

01:00:51understand

01:00:52the power

01:00:52of the

01:00:53energy

01:00:53that you

01:00:54put out,

01:00:55and sometimes

01:00:55if you go

01:00:56out and you

01:00:56realize your

01:00:57energy invited

01:00:58a certain

01:00:59type of

01:00:59advances that

01:01:00you don't

01:01:01want,

01:01:02maybe it

01:01:02is wise

01:01:03to re-evaluate

01:01:05how to

01:01:06get the

01:01:07actual

01:01:07advances that

01:01:08you're looking

01:01:09for.

01:01:10And that's

01:01:10not to say

01:01:11that you are

01:01:12now responsible

01:01:13for every

01:01:13man who

01:01:13come up

01:01:14with an

01:01:14out-of-time

01:01:14approach to

01:01:15you.

01:01:16And we

01:01:17as men,

01:01:17we have

01:01:18the same

01:01:18kind of

01:01:18responsibility

01:01:19to know

01:01:20that we

01:01:21also invite

01:01:22the energy

01:01:23that we

01:01:23put out.

01:01:26And I

01:01:29just want

01:01:29to say

01:01:30because I

01:01:30know for

01:01:31sure,

01:01:31the only

01:01:33time I

01:01:34said a

01:01:34statement in

01:01:34this room

01:01:35and the

01:01:36one female

01:01:36who's part

01:01:37of the

01:01:37technical

01:01:38crew

01:01:38nodded in

01:01:39approval was

01:01:40when I

01:01:40said that

01:01:41most women

01:01:42dress and

01:01:43get sexy

01:01:44for the

01:01:45approval of

01:01:46other

01:01:46women.

01:01:48Understand

01:01:48that.

01:01:49I really

01:01:49want men

01:01:50to understand

01:01:50that too

01:01:51and just

01:01:51don't always

01:01:52think that

01:01:53the universe

01:01:53is about

01:01:54them when

01:01:54a woman

01:01:55leaves her

01:01:55house with

01:01:56nice clothes.

01:01:59Skinny,

01:01:59I wanted

01:02:00to, so

01:02:00again, if

01:02:01you could

01:02:02take us

01:02:02with a

01:02:02verse of

01:02:03good behavior

01:02:04and nothing,

01:02:04but before

01:02:04you do that,

01:02:05the one

01:02:05thing I

01:02:05want to

01:02:05ask you,

01:02:06because you

01:02:06really have

01:02:07some insight,

01:02:07some very

01:02:08deep,

01:02:08insightful nuggets

01:02:10that you're

01:02:10leaving us

01:02:11here with

01:02:11today.

01:02:13What's

01:02:13your thoughts

01:02:14on,

01:02:14what does

01:02:16it take

01:02:17to be

01:02:17a man

01:02:18and what

01:02:18is a

01:02:18man to

01:02:19you?

01:02:20What does

01:02:20it take

01:02:20to be

01:02:20a man?

01:02:21To be

01:02:21a man

01:02:21and what

01:02:22is a

01:02:22man to

01:02:22you?

01:02:23When you

01:02:23say I

01:02:24is a

01:02:25man.

01:02:27Inherently,

01:02:28a man

01:02:29is a

01:02:30provider.

01:02:31Inherently,

01:02:31a man

01:02:32is a

01:02:33protector.

01:02:34Inherently,

01:02:35a man

01:02:35is a

01:02:36hunter.

01:02:37Inherently,

01:02:37a man

01:02:38is a

01:02:38leader.

01:02:39And the

01:02:40minute you

01:02:40lack more

01:02:41than two

01:02:42of those

01:02:42things,

01:02:42I have

01:02:43questions for

01:02:43you.

01:02:44I want

01:02:46to hear

01:02:47that

01:02:47good.

01:02:48I just

01:02:48think it's

01:02:48so

01:02:48appropriate.

01:02:51Boom!

01:02:52Everybody

01:02:53push

01:02:53something

01:02:54in the

01:02:54air,

01:02:55Lord.

01:02:55Behavior

01:02:56nothing,

01:02:57good

01:02:57behavior

01:02:57nothing,

01:02:58yeah.

01:02:58Good

01:02:59behavior

01:02:59nothing,

01:03:00when the

01:03:00soaker

01:03:00hit my

01:03:01brain,

01:03:01Lord.

01:03:02Behavior

01:03:02nothing,

01:03:03good

01:03:04behavior

01:03:04nothing,

01:03:05good

01:03:05behavior

01:03:05nothing,

01:03:06I

01:03:06say,

01:03:06murder.

01:03:08When

01:03:08we mash

01:03:08up the

01:03:08people

01:03:09fed,

01:03:09we

01:03:09just

01:03:10lash

01:03:10up the

01:03:10people

01:03:10fed,

01:03:11we

01:03:11just

01:03:11mash

01:03:11up the

01:03:12people

01:03:12fed,

01:03:12I

01:03:12tell

01:03:12them,

01:03:13murder.

01:03:14When we

01:03:14mash up the

01:03:15people

01:03:15fed,

01:03:16we

01:03:16just mash

01:03:16up the

01:03:16people

01:03:16fed,

01:03:17chuk-chuk-chuk-chuk-chuk-chuk-chuk.

01:03:18Then I promise

01:03:19them today,

01:03:20I go jump

01:03:20like I never

01:03:21jump,

01:03:21wave like I never

01:03:22wave,

01:03:23whine like I never

01:03:24went before,

01:03:25just to show

01:03:25you I

01:03:26sorry.

01:03:27Ladies,

01:03:28if I

01:03:28disrespect you

01:03:28today,

01:03:29I

01:03:29sorry,

01:03:30but I

01:03:31need you

01:03:32back in

01:03:32my

01:03:32life,

01:03:33look at

01:03:33people

01:03:33body

01:03:34choke,

01:03:34behavior

01:03:35running

01:03:35wild.

01:03:36You

01:03:36know what

01:03:36I'm

01:03:36saying,

01:03:37Skinny

01:03:37Fabulous,

01:03:37this was

01:03:38another

01:03:38exciting

01:03:39version,

01:03:40episode

01:03:40of

01:03:41Manhood.

01:03:42Big up

01:03:42the

01:03:42behavior

01:03:43specialist,

01:03:44big up

01:03:44KG,

01:03:45big up

01:03:45Robert,

01:03:46and I

01:03:46want to

01:03:46be in

01:03:47your

01:03:47program

01:03:47next time

01:03:48because we

01:03:48have some

01:03:48real

01:03:48things to

01:03:49talk

01:03:49about.

01:03:49Don't

01:03:50know,

01:03:50big up

01:03:50Brian,

01:03:50you,

01:03:51the whole

01:03:51team.

01:03:51Until

01:03:52the

01:03:52next

01:03:52time,

01:03:53manhood,

01:03:53give me

01:03:53a job

01:03:54to co-host

01:03:54some

01:03:55of

01:03:55these

01:03:55things,

01:03:55right?

01:03:56Don

01:03:56know,

01:03:56BAM!

01:03:57BAM!

01:04:27friend

01:04:27that

01:04:27kawaii

01:04:29Mama tell

01:04:30about

01:04:30friend,

01:04:30tell

01:04:31about

01:04:31friend

01:04:32What do

01:04:32you believe

01:04:33doc say

01:04:33it always

01:04:34have a

01:04:34end,

01:04:34give them

01:04:34things and

01:04:35them still

01:04:35come

01:04:35wrong

01:04:36like

01:04:36you

01:04:36never

01:04:36have

01:04:37the

01:04:37month

01:04:37I

01:04:37think

01:04:37I

01:04:37might

01:04:37talk

01:04:38to

01:04:38might

01:04:38really

01:04:38get

01:04:39Mama tell

01:04:40about

01:04:40friend,

01:04:40tell

01:04:41about

01:04:41friend

01:04:42You keep

01:04:43it up

01:04:43it might

01:04:43lead

01:04:43it to

01:04:44your

01:04:44death

01:04:44You

01:04:44have

01:04:44be

01:04:45strong

01:04:45in

01:04:45the

01:04:45street

01:04:45every

01:04:46month

01:04:46on

01:04:46a

01:04:46target

01:04:47Shabbat

01:04:47nation

01:04:47have

01:04:48tell

01:04:48them

01:04:48you

01:04:48know

01:04:49the

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