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00:00Manhood, brought to you in part by Solomon's Bespoke.
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00:14Welcome to Manhood once again.
00:16It's a pleasure to be here to have a discussion with you.
00:19And we always say we're not speaking on behalf of all men.
00:22We are a few men speaking to all men.
00:25And we hope the message is loud and clear.
00:26I know my brother here is saying that certain things are a bit confuffled in that message.
00:32But let me say it again.
00:33We are not speaking on behalf of all men.
00:37We are a few men speaking to all of you that are willing to listen and be open-minded to the conversation.
00:43And the conversation this morning is all about the power of the mind.
00:48The power of the mind.
00:50What you say, what you think, is what you will manifest.
00:53There is no try, there is only do, as Yoda once said.
00:58And so, it's a pleasure once again to introduce the panel.
01:01To my right, Johanse IODK, Behavior Change Consultant.
01:04To his right, the one and only Haisley Crawford.
01:08And to his right, Niall McNish.
01:11Yes, you'll get the title once again, Niall.
01:13You know, Provocature.
01:15You know, Vibes Good.
01:17Okay, so, and in his case, you know, he is on his own with certain comments that are going to be coming out with regards to speaking, speaking on behalf of these few men.
01:28Yeah.
01:30So, let's just get straight into it, guys.
01:32You know, the power of the mind.
01:34What does that mean to each of us?
01:37Well, first is finding a definition.
01:42What is the mind?
01:43When we say the mind, what exactly we mean by that, right?
01:47And specifically for this topic, I didn't want to research a definition for the mind.
01:52Because when I started even thinking about it, I realized many people have different opinions.
01:58What exactly is your mind?
01:59And I think to this day, nobody even have a conclusion.
02:03What is your mind?
02:03So, my definition right now for your mind is a non-physical entity that analyzes physical stimuli.
02:16Okay.
02:18I'll start off deep.
02:20A non-physical part of you that analyzes physical stimuli.
02:27And just go a bit deeper into that.
02:29So, that's what it means to you, but put that in some kind of context.
02:36So, your brain, right?
02:38Sometimes when people think about your mind, you think about your brain, what you're thinking about.
02:42But your brain is a physical thing.
02:44Your mind is something different.
02:47Your mind is something non-physical.
02:50Because what you analyze, your imagination, all of those things, right?
02:56That come from your mind, right?
02:58That's something totally different from just being physical.
03:01It's like, you know what he's saying, mind over matter, right?
03:04Matter is this physical thing that we have.
03:07And many times your mind could push past that.
03:11So, I'll just give you an example.
03:12You could be real tired, right?
03:14And somebody say, you import a spin and somebody say, you know what?
03:17Like, we take our jog to San Fernando.
03:19And he's thinking, but this person's mad.
03:21But then if the person say, well, you know, when we reach San Fernando, we gain a million dollars, right?
03:26Immediately, if he was tired, somehow, your mind is able to push yourself past your matter.
03:32Correct.
03:33So, that's purpose-driven.
03:33So, it's a lot of times, even in karate and things like that, they say, you know, you have to see past.
03:38And the term for that is mind sight.
03:40You know, you have to see past something in order to achieve it.
03:43So, you're purpose-driven at that point.
03:44We could delve a lot deeper into a lot of that, you know, as we go along.
03:48So, I started off with that.
03:49You said, you call it, you know, you said the guy was a smart guy, you know?
03:52So, he comes with that.
03:53It's like, you know, a brief one, I saw my son's report and it had, you know, your son is loquacious.
04:00And in my mind, I'm like, well, he's definitely not going to understand what that is.
04:03Meaning, talkative, you know?
04:04I just said, why not just put talkative?
04:06But, yeah, simplicity.
04:08I'm sorry I have to go back to track and field.
04:11But, um, that is my best example.
04:14Don't apologize for that.
04:15Don't apologize.
04:16We don't apologize on this show.
04:19I want to go in better because of my mind.
04:21You dare not tell his, he can't do something.
04:24All right.
04:25I grew up extremely poor.
04:28My family don't like to hear that, but I'm extremely poor.
04:31And that was my way of getting out of poverty.
04:36Um, my friends used to, of course, beat me around fifth, sixth, seventh.
04:42But my father died.
04:43And 11 of us, 11 of us, yeah.
04:52That is normal for those times, eh?
04:54Right?
04:55Yeah, yeah, yeah.
04:56Six girls, five, six boys, five girls.
04:58And I can remember, there was a time we had no food to eat.
05:04Because he was the breadwinner.
05:05Right.
05:07And you've seen your mother toiling.
05:09And this is what young people should do, eh?
05:11You know, they see things around them.
05:14Young people want to understand that there's a responsibility.
05:17Your mother making ends meet.
05:20Have one shoot, one punch, you iron it.
05:22Put it behind the fridge.
05:24And I said, I'll fix that.
05:26I said it.
05:26I said, I'll fix that.
05:2913, 14, I don't know where I was going.
05:31Right.
05:31But I did everything to ensure that my mother do not go through that.
05:35And to say thanks to my mother.
05:37But she stood there with us.
05:40She toyed with us.
05:42She cried sometimes.
05:43But, um, your mind, my mind,
05:46you do not tell me that I cannot do something.
05:51People don't know they have a very, very bad temper.
05:54But it's really, it's not very temper.
05:55Maybe you could help me.
05:57It's aggression.
05:59Well, I was not going to say that, you know.
06:00Most times, people who have the ability to push mind over matter,
06:04sometimes it comes across as aggression.
06:06Because you have to have that bad mind.
06:09Bad mind.
06:10Right?
06:11Aggression of passion.
06:13Well, it's a mix.
06:14It's a mix.
06:15Again, there's a fine line between that.
06:18There's a book, you know, I was trying to refer to it,
06:20a book called The Champion Mindset,
06:22which is a very good read.
06:24And this guy called Goggins as well,
06:25who speaks about that.
06:26But it comes from something.
06:28But again, purpose-driven.
06:29Bad mind still comes from,
06:31so bad mind in certain ways,
06:32which we could talk about later in the show,
06:34is sometimes negative.
06:36It's bad mind.
06:36Men do it in relationships,
06:38where the wife may sometimes say,
06:41oh, you're bad mind,
06:42or you're not talk for X amount of time.
06:45But there's also bad mind in a good way.
06:48And in Haisley's case,
06:49in a lot of people's case,
06:50when it's purpose-driven,
06:51it leads you to achieve
06:53or leads you to move past something.
06:55It's in a good way.
06:56And it's a champion mindset in Haisley's case.
06:59I mean, we got our first gold medal.
07:00I don't really care what are the limitations.
07:02I don't care what people say
07:05versus I just want to accomplish
07:07what I know I want to accomplish.
07:09And that is the mind.
07:10You mentioned that you grew up poverty-stricken.
07:14However, there are many people
07:15who were in that situation.
07:18And a lot of them never had the mindset of,
07:22let me not see my mother be in that position, right?
07:25So I can't, it's not just the bad mind of,
07:30I don't want to, I want to,
07:32I could do anything that I put my mind to.
07:35Because it had to be from a parenting situation,
07:40the framework and the structure
07:44that your parents would have put out for you.
07:47I'm almost certain that you didn't,
07:49you was poverty-stricken,
07:50but did you live in the city
07:51or you live in the country?
07:52San Fernando.
07:54Well, second at the city, San Fernando.
07:58Okay.
07:58So I was trying to draw some kind of reference, right?
08:00But my point is, is that what,
08:03and I think Johansson would be the best person
08:05to try to assist with this,
08:06but what would have made your mindset different
08:09from the mindset of someone else
08:11who came from a similar situation?
08:15Very, I'm sure.
08:16I'm sure you had friends that were in the same situation
08:18that didn't end up in your space.
08:19I find some of us, we complain too much.
08:24And I always ask the question,
08:27what are you doing about it?
08:28And whatever is there,
08:30I'm going to do something about it.
08:32So what did I do?
08:33I started to take some small jobs.
08:38In other words, you notice those pamphlets?
08:40A man would pay me $10 to go and hand out pamphlets.
08:44I work in a grocery store.
08:46I can remember this finger here,
08:47it was broken,
08:48and it's very same day I was supposed to fix it.
08:50It's the same day I got a job at Hilo.
08:54And of course, the manager said,
08:59you come here, have a special job here.
09:00I don't know, white shirt.
09:02Really white shirt with a tie.
09:03That's the way I was brought up.
09:05Okay.
09:06And apparently, the Friday,
09:08they dropped 100 bags of potato.
09:11Rain fell.
09:12Right.
09:13And he gave me a little bag,
09:15and some bags,
09:16and some clothes.
09:18He said, watch them,
09:19clean them,
09:20and put them in five-pound bags.
09:23I can recall when I was going home the night.
09:26The taxi man said,
09:27I'm smelling, excuse me,
09:28I'm smelling a mess.
09:29Smelling.
09:31Smell s**t.
09:31I can say s**t.
09:33I can say it on the show.
09:34It's okay.
09:36The point I'm making is this,
09:37I always got menial work to do.
09:40I remember in Michigan,
09:41when I was going to school,
09:43they gave me 20 floors,
09:45steps,
09:47the mop,
09:48no elevator.
09:48So you'll find when they reach,
09:51when they reach the 19th floor,
09:52they'll walk back down,
09:53and walk back up with a bucket.
09:56I always get a menial,
09:57but I will do it,
09:58and ace it.
09:59Do it well,
10:00so the next time I'm wrong,
10:01they'll give me something better to do.
10:03And there's always a,
10:04step up.
10:05Step up.
10:06So again,
10:07like you said,
10:08whatever you do,
10:08make sure you do it well,
10:09regardless of what the task.
10:11And it really doesn't matter.
10:12Like my dad,
10:13for example,
10:13came from a place called Cobotown,
10:15which was Charles Street,
10:16or whatever,
10:17in Port of Spain area.
10:18And it depends again,
10:20and that's what the topic is about,
10:22Niall Haisley,
10:23Johansi.
10:24When we talk about the power of the mind,
10:25and bad mind,
10:27in particular,
10:27it is what you decide to do with it.
10:29Do you decide to go left,
10:30or do you decide to go right?
10:31And those choices,
10:32some people are leaders,
10:34some people are followers.
10:35And again,
10:35even the people that become leaders,
10:37it might be based on your,
10:39your societal influence.
10:41The area that you're born in,
10:42in this case,
10:43Haisley coming from poverty,
10:45is what drove him,
10:46at that point,
10:47to be something.
10:48Now,
10:49if his father didn't die,
10:50and they had money,
10:51and all the rest of it,
10:52maybe we may not be speaking to Haisley Crawford here today,
10:55but circumstances were put in front of him,
10:58that drove him to say,
10:59you know what?
11:00I am not going to see my mother,
11:02be put in this situation.
11:04And,
11:05it's very similar,
11:06and I'd prefer Haisley to talk about it,
11:07because he's told me the story many a time.
11:09And I know you were interested as well.
11:12Before he ran that gold medal winning race,
11:16what was on his mind?
11:19Yeah,
11:19what was he mind?
11:20Tell him why he ran,
11:21you know,
11:21what was on your mind to push through,
11:23on the day of that race?
11:26Well,
11:26I think I set myself up,
11:27first of all.
11:28I used to live in,
11:29Michigan is very close to Toronto.
11:30So,
11:31most weekends,
11:32I'll go to,
11:34spend the weekend in Toronto,
11:35four hours driving.
11:38And I said,
11:39set up.
11:41Now,
11:41can you recall Muhammad Ali?
11:43Of course.
11:44People didn't like him,
11:45because he used to talk a lot.
11:46Yeah.
11:46What he was really doing,
11:47he was setting himself up.
11:48We never understood that.
11:50No.
11:51Right?
11:52I told my friends,
11:53I'm going to beat,
11:53I used to talk a lot.
11:55I told my friends,
11:56I'm going to win the gold medal.
11:58I said,
11:58I'm going to win the gold medal.
12:01And I knew,
12:02if I don't win the gold medal,
12:04when I go back there,
12:05it's trouble.
12:06And in a nutshell,
12:07that is why I won.
12:08I set myself up.
12:10I said,
12:10boy,
12:10I can't go back to Michigan.
12:11They will kill me.
12:11But our people here,
12:15we do not self,
12:16I mean,
12:17we do not,
12:18some of us do not like Muhammad Ali.
12:20But in a nutshell,
12:21you may understand that
12:22better than I do.
12:25You've got to
12:25charge yourself
12:27or set yourself up.
12:28You must do that.
12:29That's what I did.
12:31So,
12:31is he setting yourself up
12:32more aligned with,
12:34I don't want the embarrassment?
12:36So,
12:36in other words,
12:37I can't say,
12:38I'm going to be
12:38the prime minister
12:39of this country one day.
12:40Right?
12:40And I sing it out and loud.
12:44And,
12:44but the hope is that one day
12:46that someone don't look back on me
12:49and say,
12:49hmm,
12:49you never became that prime minister
12:51that you said it's going to be.
12:52And that's what the drive is
12:54to become.
12:55We promise some of us,
12:57we say things
12:58that we don't mean it.
12:59There are two words
13:00I don't use loosely.
13:02Love and like.
13:03And like?
13:04Love and like.
13:05If I tell you I like you,
13:06I really like.
13:08If I tell you I love you,
13:08I really love you.
13:09I don't use those words
13:10you know,
13:12just all willy-nilly.
13:14No,
13:14no.
13:14It was serious words.
13:16And that's the mistake we made.
13:17We say things
13:17and we don't mean it.
13:19When you say,
13:20when do I come out of here?
13:22It means something.
13:24Those are powerful things.
13:25I mean,
13:25I don't play with it.
13:27Love and like are powerful words.
13:28And we really,
13:30really don't understand
13:31what we're doing in front of us.
13:33Get me very careful.
13:34But even in that sense,
13:36with regards to,
13:37again,
13:38we're talking about
13:38the champion mindset here,
13:39but there's the opposite.
13:40There's the other side of things.
13:42So even though,
13:43you may have.
13:43How do you find
13:44the opposite of a champion mindset?
13:45Well,
13:45in the same way we say
13:47there's bad mind,
13:48there's bad mind
13:49that people may use
13:50for negative.
13:52Like I said,
13:53to harm somebody.
13:54Or they may,
13:55or your words,
13:55your words have power.
13:57And that's where we talk.
13:57I want you to give my word,
13:59your word,
14:00for the opposite
14:00of a champion mindset.
14:02Is that what mindset?
14:02I can't.
14:04Loser.
14:05You know,
14:06a loser.
14:07I can't.
14:08No,
14:08but what I'm saying to you,
14:09when you say that,
14:10I can't,
14:10I'll try,
14:12you know,
14:12things like that.
14:14Why are you asking
14:15for a definition?
14:15That's a negative mindset.
14:17Because you go into that mindset,
14:20you've already defeated yourself.
14:22And people have to understand,
14:23even if you,
14:24in your case,
14:24Niall,
14:25said,
14:25listen,
14:25I will be prime minister.
14:27And that doesn't happen.
14:29Where you've let yourself down
14:31is you could only fail.
14:33You only fail
14:33when you stop trying.
14:35And it's not about
14:35the destination.
14:36It's about the journey
14:37most of the time.
14:38And you'd see it before.
14:40My guy,
14:40Michael Jordan,
14:41won six NBA titles,
14:43right?
14:44He failed numerous times.
14:46But it wasn't about,
14:48it wasn't being seen
14:48as failures.
14:49It was seen as,
14:50hey,
14:50this is one step closer
14:51to if it,
14:53And that's because of
14:54his mindset.
14:55Now,
14:56another comeback.
14:56That's a champion mindset,
14:57but not,
14:58but doesn't mean
14:58that there are not
14:59many other persons
15:00who would have wanted
15:02or still do
15:03want to become
15:03like Michael Jordan.
15:05But that is if they really want to.
15:06Now,
15:06I want to come back
15:07to what Niall had asked
15:08in terms of
15:09somebody could grow up
15:10in a same poverty stricken
15:12but end up differently.
15:13And what is about,
15:15about Hazy,
15:16what is about that person
15:17who actually succeed
15:18versus somebody
15:18who grew up
15:19in these same conditions
15:20and not succeed.
15:22And thinking about it,
15:23and this is why
15:23I realize
15:24in a lot of
15:26philosophies,
15:27science,
15:28even spirituality,
15:30right?
15:31People still can't define
15:32exactly what the mind is.
15:34But I'll give her
15:35perspective.
15:37Reward,
15:37like we call it
15:38carrot and stick,
15:39carrot or the stick,
15:40or reward.
15:41We will only push hard
15:43for something
15:44if we know
15:45there's a reward,
15:46right?
15:47How our,
15:48let's call it brain,
15:49mind,
15:50however you want
15:50to describe it.
15:53Physically,
15:53our brains
15:54does not give
15:55our bodies energy
15:57unless it could come
15:58up with a reward.
15:59So that's why,
16:00let's say,
16:01it's Sunday
16:01and it's the day
16:02before school
16:03or the day before work
16:04and you don't really
16:04want to go
16:05and you start to feel sick
16:06and your head
16:07start to hurt
16:07and wherever it is
16:08because I don't really
16:09want to do this thing.
16:10But let's just say
16:11you realize,
16:11if I don't go to school,
16:12I'll get links.
16:13I can't see my friends.
16:14If I don't go to work,
16:15I can't pay my mortgage,
16:16et cetera.
16:17Now,
16:17your brain,
16:19right?
16:19And I could use
16:20your mind
16:20into your brain
16:21gives your body energy
16:23now to do
16:24what it want to do.
16:25So I think
16:26it's really
16:26based on a reward.
16:28Not necessarily a reward.
16:29I just want to say
16:30purpose driven
16:31and I'll come back to it.
16:32But even your purpose,
16:33your purpose is something
16:34that you want
16:35to accomplish.
16:36Right.
16:36And if you want
16:38that bad enough
16:38because you were saying
16:39some people just say
16:40it and don't mean it.
16:41But if you really,
16:42if you really mean something,
16:44so you looked at
16:45your situation
16:45and you said,
16:46I going to change
16:47the situation
16:48and you really meant it.
16:49So it don't really matter
16:50what was the process to know.
16:52I don't care
16:52if I had to clean
16:53them 20 floors.
16:54I don't care
16:55if I had to clean
16:56all them potato.
16:57I know what I want
16:58and the reward
16:59or the perceived reward
17:01is so great
17:02that it don't really matter.
17:04I don't like the term reward.
17:05Why do I like it?
17:05Why do I like it?
17:06The reason why I want
17:06to stick with purpose driven
17:08is because when you use the,
17:09to use your own analogy,
17:11when you mentioned about
17:12not to get licks,
17:14is it that we're saying
17:14when I reach home
17:15not getting licks
17:16is a reward?
17:17Yes.
17:17Of course.
17:20Yes.
17:20You like licks?
17:22No,
17:22but I wouldn't consider
17:23it a reward.
17:23And I know,
17:24I know,
17:24I know it's just a term
17:26and the definition
17:27would certainly
17:29show that
17:33it's exactly that
17:34regardless whether
17:35it's licks
17:35or whether it's
17:35something positive
17:36or negative,
17:37it is still a reward.
17:38But I'm just saying
17:39generally when you hear
17:40the word reward,
17:40it's something that gives
17:41you a good feeling.
17:44Right.
17:44But not getting licks
17:45would give you a good feeling.
17:46Not really.
17:47At that point,
17:48I'm in survival mode.
17:49So for example,
17:50if I know I'm in
17:51an environment where
17:52if I don't do this,
17:53I'm not going to get food.
17:54I don't see that
17:55as a reward at that point.
17:57It's simply,
17:58you know.
17:59No,
17:59but survival is a reward.
18:00If we go
18:01the world famous
18:02Maslow hierarchy of foods.
18:04Right.
18:04Exactly.
18:05Food is a reward.
18:06Even though as basic
18:07as it is,
18:08food is a reward.
18:09Most times when we eat,
18:11whether you want to call it
18:11for survival or not,
18:13we just feel good.
18:14Right?
18:15Even if you eat something
18:16you don't really want,
18:17it's not your preference,
18:19your belly feeling good,
18:20that feeling of feeling satiated,
18:23you feel good.
18:23So adding that now
18:24to the motivation
18:25is that all of us
18:27want something.
18:29Right?
18:29All of us want something.
18:31And when we want that thing
18:33enough,
18:34right,
18:34and truly,
18:35not just we saying it
18:35for people
18:36to look at it
18:38in front of people.
18:38Right?
18:39We want something
18:40bad enough,
18:41we will do
18:42what it takes.
18:43Right?
18:44And right now
18:44what we want
18:45is to take a break.
18:46Right.
18:46And obviously
18:47we need to reward ourselves
18:48for such good conversation
18:50by taking a break.
18:51Welcome back to Manhood.
19:02We're discussing
19:03the power
19:04of the mind.
19:05We have Robert,
19:06we have myself,
19:07Johansi,
19:08we have Hazelie Crawford
19:09and we have
19:10Niall McNeish.
19:12So,
19:12Niall,
19:13you had a question
19:14in terms of my definition
19:15of the mind.
19:17Tell me.
19:18No,
19:18you gave your definition.
19:19What I was claiming
19:20was that I have
19:21a different term,
19:22right?
19:24To me,
19:25the human brain
19:26is made up
19:26of two people.
19:28So,
19:28I am I
19:29and then there's the me.
19:31Okay?
19:31I and me,
19:32all right.
19:32I and me,
19:33right?
19:34The me is feel emotions.
19:37Right?
19:37I would,
19:38I could get angry.
19:39The me would get angry.
19:40The me would,
19:41when I am not satisfied,
19:43I use an I
19:43as an example,
19:44but it's really
19:45the me
19:46in my mind,
19:47right?
19:48But,
19:48when you're crying
19:49or when you're
19:50real upset,
19:51you could,
19:53at that point,
19:54let's just say
19:54you take a moment
19:55for yourself
19:55and you separate.
19:57You could
19:58third party yourself
20:00and look back
20:01at yourself
20:02and ask,
20:03why am I upset
20:04right now?
20:05The person
20:06who's able
20:07to do that,
20:08who could
20:08look at yourself
20:10at third person,
20:11if I could see myself
20:12or I could understand
20:13that I,
20:14I am not really angry,
20:16the person
20:17who's viewing
20:17is not angry.
20:18That's what I'm trying
20:19to say,
20:19right?
20:20In other words,
20:22Yes,
20:23I understand
20:24what you're saying,
20:24you know,
20:25right?
20:25And that ties
20:25into everything
20:26because there's
20:27a,
20:27there's a,
20:28there's a theory
20:29in science,
20:30there's something
20:31called reductive
20:32physicalism,
20:33which means that
20:34everything in science
20:35is reduced to physical,
20:36right?
20:36There's nothing,
20:37they have nothing else
20:38to prove
20:39than physical.
20:40But,
20:40what's his name?
20:42René Descartes,
20:43I think he was a philosopher.
20:45He said,
20:45I think therefore I am,
20:47right?
20:48So,
20:49then with his philosophy
20:51and science,
20:51then there's a school
20:53of thought
20:53called interactionalism
20:55in,
20:56so where they're both
20:56supposed to interact,
20:58right?
20:58And that is where
20:59you could understand
21:01that my mind
21:02might be thinking
21:02something,
21:03a thought might come up,
21:04but my mind,
21:05no,
21:06my brain have a thought,
21:07but my mind,
21:08which is something different,
21:09could override that,
21:11could say,
21:11but why I start
21:12to feel sad now?
21:13Why I'm feeling frightened
21:14or why whatever it is now?
21:17Does this make sense?
21:19Right?
21:19And then you could be,
21:21if you have that awareness,
21:22because not everybody
21:22have that awareness,
21:23you could be able
21:24to override that.
21:27Tell me it to us
21:28and tell me it to us.
21:28No,
21:29well,
21:29so you just perfectly
21:31summarized it for me
21:31because,
21:32so then now I have
21:33a better understanding
21:34of what I feel
21:36and who I am
21:37are two different things,
21:38are two different entities,
21:40hence the me and I,
21:41like I don't know
21:42how to express it.
21:42What I feel
21:42and who I am
21:43are two different things.
21:45So when we're discussing
21:46the power of the mind,
21:48right,
21:48and I'm going back
21:49to our gold medalist,
21:54every time they call
21:55in a name,
21:55by the way,
21:56and not mention
21:57the way that you're
21:57Olympian or gold medalist
21:58as kind of,
21:59as feel hurt by that,
22:00by the way.
22:01I find that as,
22:01like how we say,
22:02honorable Dr. Rowley,
22:05I want to hear
22:05gold medalist.
22:06But anyway,
22:07the point is,
22:08so when you're saying
22:09that I'm not going
22:11to allow my mother
22:12to go through that,
22:13right?
22:14Is it that you're talking
22:16from the emotional
22:17part of yourself
22:18or were you talking
22:20from the mindful
22:21part of yourself
22:22to make that decision?
22:26The love.
22:27So it could be
22:28the emotion then?
22:29Yeah, the emotion,
22:29the love.
22:31It's more than that,
22:32you know,
22:32I mean,
22:32I give you a little
22:33a little toups,
22:34but it's more than that.
22:36You see,
22:37as I told you,
22:38we were very poor
22:38when she opened the fridge,
22:39it fell,
22:40it fell,
22:40the doll fell on her feet.
22:42She sat down on a spring,
22:44it's spring alone
22:45and there's a sheet.
22:47So, you know,
22:48young people are not observant,
22:49we're not observant.
22:50You see things are wrong,
22:51that's why we don't really
22:51take note of what
22:53this thing in place.
22:54And it's a thing
22:54you call thanks.
22:55It's a thing you call
22:56give back.
22:58I believe in those things.
23:00You must always say thanks,
23:01you must always,
23:01there must be a giving back.
23:03And that is where,
23:04maybe that's how I think,
23:05that's my mind,
23:06that's where I am.
23:07So,
23:07I want to,
23:08I want to,
23:10you know,
23:10I'm going to save
23:11my,
23:12my,
23:12my thoughts
23:14to what you just said there,
23:15Niall,
23:16as part of my closing.
23:17But to respond
23:19to something specific,
23:21you know,
23:21here's this story.
23:23We want to break it down,
23:25Barney.
23:26And break it down,
23:26Barney,
23:27you know,
23:27Barney,
23:27the character,
23:28the child's character,
23:29purple,
23:30break it down,
23:31Barney means,
23:31you don't want to simplify,
23:32stuff.
23:33Gotcha.
23:33And what I want to get to is,
23:37there,
23:37there,
23:37there's 11 of you,
23:39right?
23:40You had six brothers,
23:41you said?
23:42Six boys,
23:42five girls.
23:43Six boys,
23:43five girls.
23:44And they always say that these,
23:45the boys are,
23:46have a different connection to their mother,
23:49right?
23:49So,
23:50out of six boys,
23:52you had the champion mindset,
23:54right?
23:56What happened to the other five?
23:59You became a champion.
24:01I'm not saying that they didn't achieve in their,
24:03in their lives.
24:04But one that achieved,
24:05Morvin was the Trinidad goalkeeper,
24:07Morvin Crawford.
24:08He was the national goalkeeper.
24:11Because of,
24:12as I said,
24:12because of poverty,
24:13we've been struggling.
24:15So they can,
24:15they couldn't really,
24:17because of what they got to university,
24:19first of all,
24:19some of them.
24:20Yeah.
24:20they get to school even,
24:26and they get a government job,
24:27most of them.
24:28I think one sister went away,
24:30one brother went away,
24:32because of the chemicals.
24:34But basically,
24:36I'm the only one,
24:37as a matter of fact,
24:37when I went away,
24:39they went away,
24:39I was going,
24:40I had to hide it from them.
24:43Especially my mom,
24:44because I was going to Michigan.
24:45Now,
24:46those days,
24:47they had what you call,
24:48the black power movement.
24:51Detroit was rough with crime.
24:55So when she asked me,
24:55where am I going?
24:58I said Chicago,
24:59which was bad.
25:00Chicago was crime again.
25:02I was going to Ypsilanti, Michigan.
25:04Ypsilanti, Michigan is Detroit.
25:06Remember 1970,
25:0771,
25:08that real issues down there.
25:10So I couldn't tell her,
25:11exactly where I was going.
25:12You see,
25:12remember,
25:13I can't remember that,
25:14I wasn't born yet,
25:14but go ahead.
25:15Sorry,
25:16sorry.
25:17I know he looks older,
25:18but he's not born yet.
25:21I'll go ahead and break my door.
25:22No,
25:22but where it was,
25:23was Detroit.
25:24You couldn't tell your mother,
25:26and it was based on,
25:27So where you tell her?
25:27Where you tell her it's going?
25:29Oh,
25:30at Ypsilanti,
25:31Michigan.
25:31Okay.
25:32All right.
25:33Which is correct.
25:34Right.
25:34But I didn't know where,
25:36exactly at that point,
25:37I didn't know where I was going.
25:38I know I was going,
25:39Eastern Michigan University.
25:41Okay.
25:42But I did not know where it is,
25:43but I knew it's closer to Chicago,
25:44and closer to Detroit.
25:45But you just didn't want to worry her,
25:47basically.
25:47Right.
25:48Because she's a warrior.
25:49Okay.
25:49She is a warrior.
25:50Where,
25:51in the range of all the kids,
25:52where do you fall in terms of?
25:53I'm lucky seven.
25:54Lucky number seven.
25:55Yeah.
25:56And the reason why I'm bringing it up is not to draw a comparison,
26:01so to speak,
26:02on your family specifically.
26:04I'm just saying that in there,
26:06the champion mindset,
26:08it's not just a matter of where you,
26:10at that point,
26:10decided,
26:11I am not going to deal with this anymore.
26:13I'm going to fix this.
26:15I'm going to come out of this.
26:16I'm going to do something for my mother.
26:18Something,
26:19the penny dropped with you,
26:20at that moment,
26:22and you did everything you could,
26:24and of course,
26:24that,
26:25with luck,
26:26God answers that prayer.
26:27Hence,
26:27you know,
26:28it's,
26:29you are where you are right now.
26:31That doesn't happen for everyone.
26:34But again,
26:34it comes down to a mindset.
26:36And the people that go to the gym,
26:38some people become what you call gym rats.
26:40Other persons have a,
26:42have a membership for three years and have been twice.
26:46Right.
26:47And I just,
26:48I'm just not a gym person.
26:49I prefer outdoors,
26:50but I'm saying to,
26:52it just,
26:52it,
26:52it requires another person might go there and see,
26:55see a woman they really like,
26:57or might have been a big person all their life and see some,
27:01some definitions,
27:01get a nice little positive feedback.
27:03And that drives them purpose driven reward,
27:06as Yohansi would call it.
27:08It comes down to,
27:09but the opposite could happen.
27:11There's a person who goes there,
27:12another person goes into procrastination.
27:15Your environment dictates a lot.
27:17So then it's not about luck then.
27:17I want us to talk about that.
27:18It's not about luck because you mentioned,
27:20say,
27:20you know,
27:21you said that.
27:21Well,
27:22luck has something,
27:23luck has an element to do with it,
27:24but you need to position yourself in an,
27:27in an environment that allows for that,
27:30that,
27:30that luck to take place.
27:31Luck is preparation and opposition.
27:33Maybe not,
27:34because with a,
27:35with a champion mindset,
27:37and I want to give an alternative view,
27:39alternative view to champion just now,
27:41right?
27:41If you have a champion mindset,
27:42then it's not really luck.
27:44It will never do luck.
27:45It don't matter what are the circumstances,
27:47I will push through now,
27:48right?
27:49So let me go with champion,
27:50because sometimes we often judge somebody's accomplishment,
27:55right?
27:55And say,
27:55we might say a gold medalist is,
27:57a hierarchy is higher than something else,
28:00right?
28:00But if somebody have a goal,
28:02wherever that goal is,
28:03and the reward,
28:04once they accomplish it,
28:06then can we say they are champion?
28:08Because if somebody,
28:09if you see how you said,
28:10you are not a gym person,
28:12but you're outdoors,
28:13then you make a commitment to yourself.
28:15Because of a reward,
28:17outdoors make me feel good.
28:19So I'm making sure and go outdoors every week for a year,
28:23right?
28:23Then you being a champion in your own right,
28:25based on your pursuit of that reward.
28:28If somebody reward is to,
28:30I want to work in the government service for the rest of my life.
28:34Somebody might say,
28:34well,
28:35no,
28:35you could be a business owner and make more money.
28:37You could be a whoever it is.
28:38But no,
28:39what brings me the reward is working.
28:42And it takes a mental fortitude to stay in a job for 30 years,
28:46right?
28:47So therefore,
28:48you're still even going mind over matter.
28:50So maybe our mind and the champion mindset is setting your target on a goal.
28:57And you're not judging,
28:59comparing to anybody else what your goal is,
29:01but you're able to achieve that.
29:03So you're saying,
29:04you know what?
29:04I want 10 women.
29:06Now to get 10 women,
29:07I need a six pack.
29:08To get a six pack,
29:09I need to go in the gym every day.
29:10So I'll make sure the reward is 10 women are going to the gym every day.
29:14That is a champion mindset.
29:15It doesn't mean it will happen.
29:17And that's what trying to come to you.
29:18Now it will happen because I'm mind over matter.
29:20If you honestly want that,
29:23it will happen.
29:23It will happen.
29:24No.
29:25There are a number of people who could say,
29:27I want to be a supermodel.
29:28I want to be an astronaut.
29:30It's about the journey,
29:31not always the destination.
29:32And what you're doing about it,
29:34but doesn't necessarily mean how many runners do they have in Kenya,
29:37for example,
29:38and only a very select may be chosen footballers.
29:41The top,
29:42they have people in Brazil,
29:43Argentina,
29:44great footballers that we probably never hear about.
29:47Yeah,
29:47but people are seeing things.
29:48Hang on,
29:48hang on.
29:49We have a certain,
29:50there's a certain amount of opportunity that,
29:52that,
29:52that matches with an element of luck that allows you to be in a particular
29:58circumstance that,
30:00allows you to win.
30:02If you can go into the hundred meter that went through the Olympics,
30:05if that race was run over,
30:06would Noah Lyles win it again?
30:08Chances are no.
30:09You know,
30:10there's,
30:10there's elements of luck that he happened to push out the right part of his
30:13body as opposed to the other guy and took a gold medal.
30:17So I am saying to you that,
30:19that,
30:20that in many circumstances,
30:22there's an element,
30:23there is an element of luck in it.
30:25And,
30:26and when we talk about reward in terms of being purpose driven,
30:28cause I really want,
30:30here's it also again,
30:31I kind of know these stories or,
30:32um,
30:33where for me doing a marathon,
30:35for example,
30:36my reward was knowing that my dad was at the finish line waiting for me,
30:41knowing what he was going through with cancer.
30:43So no matter what I was going through,
30:45no matter what pain breakdown mindset,
30:48all of these things,
30:49the only thing drove me is like,
30:50I have to make it to that finish line.
30:52It had any luck in that?
30:53I know what to ask that.
30:55There was an element of luck.
30:57There was an element of luck that my right hamstring didn't cramp up.
31:00There was an element of luck that,
31:01Oh,
31:01you would have still finished that race.
31:03You would have still finished that race.
31:05Exactly.
31:05And your right hamstring got cramp up.
31:07All right.
31:07Okay.
31:07So,
31:08so guys,
31:08okay.
31:08So that is where we talk about being purpose driven,
31:11but luck could have been that.
31:14It had no luck in that because you know,
31:16no matter what you're going and finish that race.
31:18But to be elite.
31:19And if we come down to power of the mind and we're talking to,
31:22yes,
31:23we happen to be talking to an elite athlete.
31:25And because of that,
31:26they,
31:27they could only be one Haisley in that race.
31:29They could only be one Usain Bolt.
31:31They could only be one.
31:32Well,
31:32somebody had to win at that time.
31:35Whoever win wanted it the most.
31:37Their mind was the strongest.
31:38I totally,
31:40I totally.
31:41He's correct.
31:43No,
31:43he's correct.
31:44He is.
31:44If Haisley Crawford,
31:45that's why I keep quiet.
31:47That's why I keep quiet.
31:48I like that.
31:48Well,
31:48I can't,
31:49I can't.
31:49Expand,
31:49expand.
31:50Listen,
31:50listen,
31:51I think.
31:52But I want,
31:53Haisley,
31:53what I want to talk about in that moment is.
31:55I want to say something.
31:56You're going to make it.
31:57This is important.
31:58Am I getting into trouble for saying it?
31:59No,
31:59no,
31:59no.
31:59No.
32:03You see,
32:04we don't take life serious.
32:05I take life very seriously.
32:07Very,
32:07very seriously.
32:08That's why I tell you love and like is powerful words.
32:11We use loosely.
32:14In Trinidad,
32:15I find,
32:17I mean,
32:17I'm getting older
32:18and I look at things a little different.
32:20Let me give you an example.
32:21I went to Jamaica.
32:22We,
32:22we take things loosely in Trinidad.
32:26If you sneeze towards this country,
32:27they give you an award.
32:29We just had a lot of awards.
32:31Am I getting into trouble?
32:31I don't care.
32:32I will say it.
32:32I don't know what I want to use,
32:36but let me,
32:36let me say a sneeze.
32:39I went to Jamaica
32:40and
32:41a minister
32:43was taking us around.
32:46So,
32:46I asked him,
32:47I,
32:47I believe in this man called
32:49Bob Marley.
32:50Okay.
32:51To me,
32:51he's a God.
32:52Where's his house?
32:53And I asked him a question.
32:56I said,
32:57yeah,
32:57now,
32:58I just showed you how serious
32:59the Jamaicans are
33:01about the awards.
33:05He,
33:05I said,
33:07by the way,
33:08Bob Marley,
33:08he got the ice award?
33:10This is what he said to me.
33:12I'm going to stop.
33:13You see,
33:14you're right to the what?
33:15Jamaicans,
33:15you're right to the what?
33:17A data head roster
33:19from Trinstone
33:20in the ice award,
33:21you're mad or what?
33:22I didn't sleep that night
33:24because it showed me
33:26how serious
33:27Jamaicans are.
33:28Now,
33:29those guys of
33:29traveler that go all over Europe
33:31and when you see
33:32Bob Marley,
33:34it's big,
33:34big pictures
33:35and things like that.
33:36And here,
33:36this man,
33:37you see,
33:38because he has a dollar head,
33:40he can't get the ice award.
33:41But the Trinstone,
33:42as I said,
33:43if it's far too hard
33:44or sneeze too hard,
33:45you're getting an award.
33:46You're paying people sometimes,
33:48the people being paid
33:49to do that job,
33:50are you getting an award?
33:51For what?
33:52Our World Cup went to,
33:54our footballers went to,
33:56to the World Cup.
33:57I'm not crying them down.
34:01They win a match.
34:03They make a quarter final.
34:05But we get them out of the ice award.
34:07We're not serious in training.
34:08The reason why some of our young people
34:09behave badly,
34:11because we're not serious.
34:12And that's why I use the word love and like,
34:17we use it loosely.
34:19When I say I'm going to do something,
34:21I mean it.
34:22And when you say I do something,
34:23I mean it.
34:24And you see a lot of different people.
34:26This is my view.
34:29What I want,
34:30what I wanted to ask you,
34:31with regards to,
34:33we keep talking about the mindset.
34:37We spoke about Michael Jordan.
34:39In your case,
34:40Haisley,
34:40there would have been many a time,
34:42even though you had that purpose
34:44in your mind about coming out of poverty
34:47and your mom,
34:48leading up to the gold medal,
34:49there must have been times
34:51that you wanted to give up.
34:52Of course they do.
34:53And you still push through.
34:55I had a lot of injuries.
34:56Sprinting is,
34:56it's,
34:56it's,
34:56it's,
34:57it's,
34:57it's,
34:57it's,
34:57it's,
34:57it's,
34:57it's difficult.
34:59As I'm a father,
35:00one of my couldn't have kids
35:01because of the 10,
35:04not me,
35:04they said it,
35:05they said,
35:05they're trying to find a program
35:06for some of us.
35:08Because if you look at most of these sprinters,
35:09they don't have kids.
35:10If you do have a kid,
35:12long after,
35:13because you have to take your body
35:15beyond to win a gold medal.
35:16You have to,
35:17regardless of what you think.
35:19So we take a short break
35:20when we come back,
35:21more about manhood
35:22and the power of the mind.
35:34Welcome back.
35:35This is manhood.
35:36The point I was trying to make,
35:38now,
35:39as I,
35:40anything that I do,
35:41let me give you an example,
35:42a race.
35:43If I go in a race
35:44and I'm beaten,
35:47in other words,
35:47what I'm trying to say,
35:48no one,
35:48no one had to beat me twice
35:49in succession.
35:51I have a tendency,
35:54even now,
35:54I don't run anymore.
35:56If I do something wrong,
35:57I go back and see where I made a mistake.
36:00And I correct it
36:01and come again.
36:02So I knew
36:03I was hard to beat
36:05because
36:07I didn't tell you,
36:09those athletes,
36:10I said,
36:10listen,
36:12I train very,
36:13very hard
36:14because I,
36:15I have to win this gold medal.
36:19I eat better than you all
36:20because those days,
36:21they tend to eat a lot of burgers.
36:22I said,
36:23tell them in the face.
36:23I said,
36:24you cannot beat me
36:24because I eat better than you.
36:26I said,
36:26tell them that.
36:27I said,
36:27I said,
36:28coach or artist.
36:29People are going to run against.
36:31So the point I'm making is this,
36:32when you make a mistake,
36:34you must always correct,
36:35go back and see where you went wrong,
36:37correct it and come again.
36:38In a nutshell,
36:38that is what,
36:39that's why I won.
36:40That is why I won.
36:42So is that mindset or discipline?
36:44Remember I had a goal?
36:46Okay.
36:46People,
36:47you must have a,
36:48listen,
36:49anything in life,
36:50you must have a goal.
36:53However,
36:54you put a goal
36:54on that goal ahead over there.
36:56Right?
36:57But inside of there,
36:58there's some mountains
36:59and some tribulation
37:00and trials.
37:02It would not be easy.
37:04And if you can manage that,
37:05you're going to win the gold medal.
37:07That is the problem
37:08this Saturday year.
37:09Not ahead of you.
37:09The journey.
37:10The journey.
37:10The journey.
37:11But the rough journey.
37:13And if you're prepared,
37:14if you're prepared
37:15to take that stress,
37:17it's stress.
37:18I call it stress.
37:19Some people call it,
37:19if you can manage that stress
37:21inside of there,
37:22if you don't want it enough,
37:25it's not going to happen.
37:26Nope.
37:26Correct.
37:27And that's the bottom line.
37:29No,
37:29it would be difficult.
37:33You're true that luck there,
37:34but I don't like you would,
37:35irregardless,
37:36it doesn't mean much.
37:36But I just said,
37:37I already have,
37:40I already have it.
37:41I'm kicked with your answer.
37:42But I really want to get to something
37:44because this is,
37:45this is nearing me close.
37:47And I wanted Haisley,
37:49apart from that mindset,
37:51to be a champion,
37:53there's another mindset
37:55within that champion mindset
37:57that you are now
37:58going through yourself
38:00with regards to
38:01how you eat,
38:04your way of life,
38:05how you're looking at things now
38:06and that discipline
38:07to be able to continue
38:09to do that.
38:09And I wanted to share that
38:10with the public.
38:11I know you're coming out
38:12with a book
38:12and you have excerpts from that,
38:13but Barnard,
38:14we're all about exclusives.
38:16Go ahead.
38:16I have one mindset now.
38:20The one mindset I do have
38:21is about life,
38:23to live.
38:25I eat to live
38:27or to survive.
38:30In my family,
38:31we have one part,
38:33we have heart issues,
38:36cancer issues,
38:38of course.
38:38and I've been looking at it again.
38:41I was looking at
38:42what's happening around you.
38:43You must look at
38:43what's happening around you.
38:44You must.
38:45You don't live by guess.
38:47That's the problem
38:48with some of us
38:48in Trinidad.
38:49We live by guess.
38:50We're not serious.
38:52Free died from cancer.
38:54Father died from heart.
38:55Mother died from,
38:56well,
38:57you can say heart,
38:57renal failure.
38:58And I took a decision.
39:02I read a lot
39:03and I do not eat much,
39:06anything that deals with sugar.
39:09I'm diabetic,
39:11high blood pressure,
39:12I have an issue with my stomach.
39:14So what I do,
39:15I've changed my lifestyle.
39:17I do not eat
39:19anything that turns to sugar.
39:20For example,
39:21Cabo.
39:22The word moderation
39:23is a powerful word in my life now.
39:26Everything is moderation.
39:27And because of my issues,
39:31I have many issues.
39:32I'm 74 years old
39:33and of course, of course.
39:35Wow.
39:35You're 74?
39:36Yeah.
39:37I look this way because,
39:38I look this way because
39:39I do not eat junk.
39:40Okay.
39:42I was the biggest junk king
39:43in Trinidad,
39:43I was.
39:44I'm sure about that.
39:45Sure.
39:46I said,
39:46leave here go Miami
39:48to eat clams,
39:50to eat burger
39:50and to eat
39:52anything junky.
39:54I love that.
39:55But I'm paying for it now.
39:57Anything that
39:59things turn to sugar,
40:01you stay far from it.
40:02I eat more vegetables.
40:05I walk with a bag,
40:05people believe that it's style.
40:07I was just going to say,
40:08Haisley invited me
40:09to the 40th anniversary
40:11of his gold medal.
40:12And so,
40:13we're on a table,
40:14Haisley,
40:14myself,
40:14Penny and Brian Lara.
40:18And he's talking about steak,
40:20all these different things
40:21coming out.
40:22And Haisley whips out
40:23a Ziploc bag
40:24with these dry nuts.
40:28And I always say,
40:30all is nice food,
40:31we're here to celebrate you.
40:33And he would mind
40:35that he,
40:35with regards to all that,
40:37and every time I've seen him
40:38after that,
40:38same thing,
40:39Ziploc bag,
40:40he comes with his own
40:41pre-prepped food
40:43to say,
40:43this is what I'm going to eat
40:44regardless of all
40:46that is around him.
40:47Discipline.
40:48You have to be strong will,
40:49you have to be very strong will.
40:51Young people do not
40:54take life seriously.
40:56Well,
40:57I mean,
40:57I could argue that,
40:58you know,
40:58because your definition
41:00is not about serious.
41:01If a young person,
41:03whatever age that is,
41:04if a young person say,
41:06a young person,
41:07or anybody say,
41:09this is the thing
41:09I want to accomplish.
41:10You know what I want to do?
41:11I want to smoke weed
41:13for the rest of my life
41:14every day.
41:15I just gave you an example.
41:16We could judge that
41:17as trivial,
41:18serious,
41:19healthy or unhealthy.
41:20But even to have the will
41:22to sit down and smoke
41:24and get the money
41:25to get the weed,
41:27get wherever it is,
41:28that still takes
41:29a certain mindset
41:30because
41:30the weed
41:31is the reward
41:33for me,
41:34right?
41:34Whether or however
41:35somebody want to judge it,
41:37I still have the mindset
41:38I will get a weed
41:39no matter what.
41:40Whether I learn
41:41to grow it myself,
41:43whether I go online
41:43and figure out the chemistry
41:44and build a lab
41:45because all of that
41:47is will,
41:48right?
41:48And having that
41:49understanding in your mind,
41:51again,
41:52you could judge
41:53whether the reward,
41:54whether you want
41:55to see it good or bad,
41:55but I think that
41:57even coming out
41:58of the conversation,
41:59understanding
41:59that power
42:00that wherever
42:01you really want,
42:02if somebody really
42:03wants something,
42:03anybody,
42:04you know.
42:05And we say that,
42:07but you know,
42:07they also,
42:08they also,
42:09and again,
42:09I'd like you to speak
42:10to this to,
42:11you know,
42:11any messages for,
42:13you know,
42:13I wouldn't say young people,
42:14just people in general
42:15out there
42:16because you've been there,
42:17done that
42:18and in this next phase
42:19of your life,
42:19it might be a gold medal,
42:21but your life,
42:22your health
42:23is what you're focusing on now.
42:25So you're driven to live
42:27and driven to live healthy
42:28and people sit down
42:30on a couch,
42:31you have persons
42:31that are looking
42:32at somebody
42:33and going,
42:34I'd like to be like them,
42:35but you just cannot
42:36get out of that rut,
42:38that procrastination,
42:39that drive
42:40when you say,
42:40but I wish I had somebody
42:41to motivate me.
42:42What are somebody,
42:43what are somebody tips,
42:45both your hands here as well,
42:46to give people out there
42:48who are saying,
42:49you know,
42:50I don't want to be
42:51in this situation
42:51and I wish my mindset
42:53could be different.
42:57Something is always driving me,
42:58you know.
43:00One of them is my mother,
43:02right,
43:02that drove me,
43:03gold medal.
43:04I have another gold medal,
43:05my two children,
43:07right,
43:08they were to school late,
43:10they're in university
43:11right now,
43:11both of them,
43:12that is driving me.
43:13I must stay healthy
43:15so that I can pay
43:17for their schooling.
43:19That is my drive.
43:20In other words,
43:21you must have
43:22something to drive you.
43:23You can't just,
43:24you can't live
43:24willy nilly.
43:26Something,
43:26and again,
43:27I come back to it.
43:29Words are powerful
43:31and whatever you're going
43:32to do,
43:32you must mean it.
43:33You just have to say it.
43:35I'm going down the road.
43:36You don't do that.
43:37There's a reason
43:38why you're going
43:39down the road.
43:41What are you doing
43:42about it?
43:42You're complaining
43:43this,
43:44that,
43:44and the other.
43:45But what are you
43:46and that the difference
43:47is I will do something
43:48about it.
43:49My children in school,
43:50one in Canada,
43:51one is here.
43:52They're doing quite well,
43:53but I have to make sure
43:54I'm healthy
43:55to see them through.
43:56And what about
43:59the persons
43:59who don't have
44:00that mindset,
44:00you want to say?
44:01What are two,
44:02three little nuggets
44:03you could say
44:04to small steps,
44:07baby steps,
44:08something because-
44:09Two or three,
44:09but being honest
44:11with yourself,
44:13it's not with anybody.
44:14Being honest
44:15about what we really want.
44:16Again,
44:17don't judge your goals
44:19or what you want
44:20to accomplish
44:21based on somebody
44:22else's opinion
44:22because your parents
44:25could say,
44:26go to school
44:26and get an education
44:27because X, Y, Z.
44:29But that is not
44:29what you really want.
44:31What you really want
44:31is to make friends.
44:33I'll just give you an example.
44:34What I really want
44:35is to play football.
44:38If you honestly know
44:39whatever your goal is,
44:41then you will accomplish it
44:43because many people
44:44start and stop,
44:46procrastinate,
44:48unsure of what they want to do
44:51because in some way
44:52they're lying to themselves
44:53about what they really want.
44:56Right?
44:56And sometimes people might say,
44:57well, I can't commit to something
44:59or say you can't commit.
45:00You're not committed
45:01because you don't really want it.
45:02No, you may think
45:03you should want it.
45:05Sometimes,
45:05well, this is what I should want,
45:07but you don't really want that.
45:08Let me give a little bit
45:09of pushback on that, right?
45:11Let's not forget
45:13that chemical imbalances
45:15are the reasons
45:17why we like
45:17or we get motivated
45:19by certain things,
45:20serotonin,
45:21dopamine, right?
45:24So for me,
45:25like someone who suffered
45:25from depression,
45:26I could want a lot of things,
45:30but I don't feel like
45:31I would have all the tools
45:33and by tools,
45:34I mean chemicals, right?
45:36To push me through
45:37to the end result
45:38that I'm actually looking for.
45:40So when you say
45:41I want to be happy every day,
45:43that,
45:44and I really do want it,
45:46but how do I attain
45:47or reach to that space
45:49just by saying like,
45:50you know,
45:50like I can't think my way
45:51into that situation.
45:52So I will need
45:53external tools
45:55and external
45:57I wouldn't even call it motivation
46:00because it's not,
46:00it's no longer,
46:01I'm no longer being driven
46:02by my motivation.
46:04I have to now find another
46:06way or path
46:07towards the goal.
46:09My motivation
46:10can't take me there
46:11because
46:11I can't be an Olympian
46:13even,
46:14no matter how bad I want it,
46:15if I only have one leg.
46:17You following what I was saying?
46:18No.
46:19No?
46:19Because you could be
46:20Special Olympics.
46:20I disagree with you.
46:21Special Olympics?
46:21Okay, okay.
46:22No, let me go with it.
46:23Let me go with the depression, right?
46:25I can't be a swimmer
46:26if I'm afraid of water.
46:27In,
46:28in a lot of,
46:29in a lot of cases,
46:30but not even necessarily.
46:31But then you don't want
46:32to be a swimmer?
46:32Then you don't want
46:33to be a swimmer.
46:34I might.
46:34No, no.
46:36Okay.
46:36Because if,
46:37if you want to be a swimmer
46:38and you're afraid of water,
46:39you will be careful
46:39because remember
46:41I mentioned
46:42with my depression, right?
46:43So let me go with the depression.
46:45You're just saying
46:45that I don't want to be.
46:46No, but are you afraid of,
46:48did,
46:49is it that you swam
46:50and then now
46:51you're afraid of water?
46:52Because if you're,
46:53if you were always afraid of water,
46:55then how you can want
46:56to be a swimmer?
46:57You want,
46:57what you're really trying
46:58to tell yourself is
46:59I want to get over this fear.
47:01I wish,
47:02I wish I was not afraid.
47:04You would like to.
47:04I would like to be a swimmer.
47:05So you're not really saying
47:06you want to be a swimmer
47:07because you don't know
47:08what the feeling is like.
47:09Well, let me go,
47:09the depression.
47:10It is more,
47:10it is more,
47:11I want the fear
47:12is what you wish
47:13you could get over
47:14and it's about isolating
47:15that,
47:16that specific part of it
47:19to,
47:20so when we say
47:20in your case,
47:22the depression
47:22and we,
47:23we,
47:24you know,
47:24again,
47:24we could speak about that
47:25and,
47:26you know,
47:26I think we have
47:27in other,
47:27in other episodes.
47:29It's,
47:29it's,
47:29it's about wanting,
47:31which is why I'm asking.
47:33It's one thing
47:34you have the champion mindset.
47:35So a lot of times
47:36you're like,
47:36I can't understand
47:37why people don't do this.
47:38I can't understand
47:39why people do,
47:40because you are already there
47:41and we can't say
47:42you don't want it enough
47:44because there are people
47:45that do want it.
47:46They just don't know
47:47how to get out
47:49of that rut
47:50and,
47:51and you need
47:52that,
47:52that,
47:53that motivation
47:53in some ways
47:55could be that person
47:55who gives you
47:56a helping hand.
47:56and you see it so many times
47:57in rehabilitation
47:58where people are
47:59in this,
48:00this,
48:00this state of depression
48:01and somebody just comes along
48:03and starts to massage them
48:04and push them
48:05and pushes them
48:06to get them back
48:07to a particular place
48:08where they're now able
48:09to move on their own
48:10and that's what I'm asking
48:12for put,
48:13because I know
48:13I've gone through it.
48:15I'm seeing to you,
48:16just like you quite rightly mentioned,
48:17no matter what,
48:18I would have gotten
48:18to the end of that 26.2 miles
48:20because I knew my dad was there.
48:22But had he not been there,
48:24I was parking up
48:25a long time drinking
48:26a fruit punch
48:27jumping in the air-conditioned maxi
48:29and saying,
48:29hey,
48:30I'm good with that.
48:31And what I'm asking you guys
48:32is there are many people
48:33out there
48:34who are asking themselves,
48:35yeah,
48:35but you know,
48:36I don't,
48:37I don't want to be unfit
48:39but I just don't have
48:41the motivation
48:42and it's not that
48:42I don't want it enough.
48:44Well,
48:44how do you get over that?
48:46Whether it be a chemical or not.
48:47Let me go with the reward again,
48:48right?
48:49Is that,
48:50is that,
48:50if,
48:53if somebody is not honest
48:55about what they want,
48:56right?
48:57And they allow other factors
48:59to,
49:00to influence them
49:01off their,
49:02their path.
49:03I'm using that loosely,
49:04right?
49:04Path could be anything,
49:05whatever you choose.
49:06Then,
49:07things like depression
49:08and stepping
49:09because you're not really doing
49:10or you're not pursuing
49:11what you really want.
49:13And then you're asking
49:13for tools.
49:15A lot of times
49:16and I say this is what
49:17I've seen results with,
49:18helping people
49:19rediscover,
49:21right?
49:22Or remember
49:22what they really want.
49:25Because where,
49:26where are you in life?
49:26Well,
49:27I'm in this job,
49:27I'm in this,
49:28wherever it is,
49:28I'm in this marriage,
49:29I'm in this,
49:29wherever,
49:30wherever it is.
49:30And then when you,
49:31you trace,
49:32this is not what I really wanted,
49:33right?
49:34I,
49:34I committed to something
49:35I didn't really want.
49:36So I became depressed,
49:38right?
49:38I became demotivated.
49:40When you help the person
49:41rediscover,
49:43rediscover,
49:44sometimes discover
49:44a new truth,
49:46right?
49:46That is really their truth.
49:47Then they have a more
49:49clear path.
49:50So then they start to feel,
49:51for want of a better word,
49:53the motivation
49:53to do whatever it is.
49:55So sometimes,
49:56helping people
49:57rediscover
49:58what they really want
49:59or even be honest
50:00because sometimes
50:01there's voicing.
50:02Because when you ask them,
50:02what do you really want?
50:04Well,
50:04are you supposed to
50:05out by this age?
50:06No,
50:06no,
50:06no,
50:06what do you really want?
50:07Well,
50:08and most times
50:09when you ask that question,
50:10the demeanor is changed
50:11when they actually say it.
50:12I'll give a quick example.
50:13I had a client,
50:15an older guy,
50:16he's close to 60.
50:17He said he accomplished
50:19academically,
50:20business-wise,
50:22in his career,
50:23he have a wife,
50:25children,
50:25the house he wants,
50:26but something feeling like
50:27he's just missing.
50:27He don't really,
50:28he's just kind of doing
50:29these things
50:30because he's supposed
50:31to do it.
50:31But now he's not
50:32feeling that anymore.
50:34So I ask him,
50:35what is it I really want to do?
50:36And he thinks,
50:37and he says,
50:37you know what?
50:38I just want to buy
50:40a very expensive bike
50:41and go around the road
50:42and ride.
50:43Now,
50:44when he said it,
50:45it changed.
50:45Like he was talking,
50:47well,
50:47you know,
50:47he's kind of done then.
50:49Well,
50:49I want to get this bike
50:50and I want a ride.
50:52And I say,
50:52what are you willing to do?
50:53He say,
50:54I had the money,
50:54I will just go and leave,
50:56you know.
50:56I will just leave everybody
50:57and go and ride.
50:58And even that bad mind,
51:00that passion,
51:01we talk about that aggression.
51:03Once you face in your truth,
51:06once you really,
51:07honest about where you really want it,
51:09it don't matter what that thing is,
51:10nothing will stop you,
51:12you know.
51:12Right?
51:13But fine,
51:14helping people find
51:15either discover
51:16or rediscover
51:18what is their truth.
51:20And again,
51:21I've seen it work
51:21to even people
51:22looking out there,
51:23be honest about
51:24what is it really want.
51:25And you will get a,
51:26your mind will be able
51:27to push your past
51:28wherever is your obstacles.
51:30Push your past the pain.
51:30So,
51:31it's about that time
51:33where we,
51:35you know,
51:35wrap up
51:36and always a great conversation
51:37and we want to leave
51:38with some closing thoughts.
51:40And I want to,
51:40I want to talk
51:41because one of the things
51:43that the,
51:44you know,
51:44when we spoke about
51:45the power of the mind,
51:46bad mind was a big part of it
51:49because how we use that bad mind
51:51and how we use that quote
51:52in the same way
51:53Johansson was referring
51:54to the word reward.
51:55So,
51:56bad mind can be,
51:57you know,
51:57it's what drives you
51:59and sometimes we use it
52:00for negative unknowingly
52:01through the subconscious
52:02and it works for us
52:04but it works against us
52:06in the end
52:06because it's used for negative
52:08and it brings up,
52:09brings across negative energies
52:11not just to yourself
52:12but to the person
52:13or the persons
52:14that you're in that environment with.
52:16But,
52:17it's to tap into that
52:19and tap into that
52:20and use that
52:21for a good,
52:22a good reason
52:23to get you to that
52:25point of what you want,
52:26what you want in this life
52:28and so,
52:31you know,
52:31I want to touch on
52:32what Niall,
52:33what you brought back
52:34because I said to you
52:34that I would address it.
52:38When,
52:39when we spoke about control,
52:41emotions,
52:42the I and the me
52:42and you mentioned that
52:44and part of the I and the me,
52:45you know,
52:46some people refer to it
52:47as the two wolves inside of you.
52:48There's the,
52:48you know,
52:49the white wolf
52:49and the black wolf
52:50and,
52:51you know,
52:51there's an old Indian proverb
52:52where the,
52:53a native Indian proverb
52:55where,
52:56you know,
52:56there's one wolf
52:58that of course
52:59is all the positives
53:00and another wolf
53:00that's in all the negatives
53:02in terms of the I and me
53:03or emotions.
53:05And,
53:06the question was
53:07which,
53:08which wolf succeeds?
53:09and the answer to that
53:11is the one that you feed,
53:13right?
53:13So,
53:14the emotions that you allow
53:15to come to the fore
53:16is your ones
53:17that simply you allow.
53:19And I try,
53:19I think we've discussed this
53:20in other seasons
53:21where
53:22it's about that maturity
53:24to isolate the problem
53:26and to say
53:27the problem
53:27is the problem
53:28and not the persons
53:29that are engaging in it.
53:31Let's isolate that
53:32and have that discussion
53:33and remain focused
53:34on dealing with just that.
53:36and therefore
53:37if you
53:37release that control
53:40in a conversation
53:42to
53:43someone else
53:45then you're
53:46out of control
53:46and if you've lost control
53:48then that's on you.
53:50Only you could make your,
53:51I can't make you angry.
53:52I can't make you sad.
53:54I can't make you happy.
53:55Only you can do that.
53:57Okay.
53:57If,
53:58if you release that to me
53:59then I'm in control.
54:00You've given me your control.
54:02Control over yourself.
54:03So I've only said that
54:05in terms of
54:05in my closing
54:07to say the power of the mind
54:10is indeed that
54:11is a very powerful thing
54:13and how you use that
54:14would determine
54:15how you proceed.
54:16The question,
54:17the answer
54:18that we've been trying to get
54:19is how do you sometimes
54:20get out of that rut?
54:22Is it that you have to
54:23want it enough?
54:25You know,
54:25baby steps,
54:27baby steps.
54:27And I hope something in here
54:29gave you that response
54:30because I myself
54:31would still be searching
54:32in many ways
54:33be it,
54:34you know,
54:35I want to climb
54:36every mountain
54:36in Trinidad and Tobago.
54:38Why haven't I done it yet?
54:39My foot,
54:40work,
54:41fitness.
54:43You really want it.
54:43You kind of want it.
54:45You really want it.
54:45You know,
54:46I just don't have that thing,
54:48that journal sequa
54:49that has allowed me
54:50to get there
54:51as yet
54:51and as excuses.
54:52Robert,
54:53I don't think you gain yourself
54:54enough credit,
54:54you know,
54:55because I,
54:55from what I know of you,
54:56once you want,
54:57if it's something
54:58you really want to do,
54:59you'll do it.
54:59You'll make it happen.
55:00Right?
55:00If you're talking about,
55:01I mean,
55:01we know it's just an example,
55:02but you're talking about
55:03climbing every mountain
55:04in Trinidad.
55:05We could just say that
55:06but you didn't really
55:07want to do it.
55:07But Robert,
55:08listen,
55:09men,
55:09this is expression for men.
55:11Men make,
55:11this might be more
55:12closing quick.
55:13Men,
55:14if you make up your mind
55:15about something,
55:16you will accomplish it.
55:18Everybody watching
55:18know there's something
55:20that you wanted to do,
55:21right?
55:21No matter what,
55:23you make it happen.
55:24Because why?
55:25Because the truth is,
55:26you really wanted that.
55:28You ain't kind of want it.
55:29It's not because
55:30mommy tell you
55:31shit I want it
55:31or society
55:32or social media
55:33or your wife,
55:33your girlfriend,
55:34wherever it is.
55:35It have many things
55:36that many men accomplish
55:37that I know.
55:38And whether you want to judge
55:39as the best thing
55:40as the middle thing
55:41or the lowest thing.
55:42Once you really want that
55:43and men too,
55:44you know,
55:44you have a woman you want,
55:46you'll do anything,
55:47right?
55:47Mind over matter.
55:48You ain't like to go
55:49watch plays and things.
55:51You'll make sure
55:51and do it.
55:52You ain't want to learn
55:53how to do whatever it is.
55:54You learn to do it
55:55because of a mind
55:56over matter
55:56because that is
55:57what you want.
55:58So men
55:59or anybody even watching,
56:02the power of your mind,
56:03you know you can accomplish
56:04whatever you want.
56:05You just have to be honest
56:07about what you want.
56:09That is true.
56:11Just find your goal
56:13and be serious.
56:15Key.
56:16That's all I have to say.
56:18And is that in the book?
56:19That one of the...
56:21Man of the book.
56:22Forward.
56:23Forward.
56:23Forward.
56:24People are not serious
56:25in this country.
56:26I'm not serious
56:27anymore.
56:28They're not serious.
56:29They don't care.
56:30No, they're serious
56:31but not about the things
56:32you find serious.
56:32Maybe.
56:33And that's the difference
56:34between champion mindset.
56:36Like I said,
56:36you are driven
56:38and you could say,
56:39I can't understand
56:40why you won't do this
56:41and that
56:42if that's what you really want
56:43and you're saying it
56:44in a different way.
56:45But the truth is,
56:46I still don't believe
56:47that that doesn't mean
56:48I don't want it enough.
56:50I just don't have the how.
56:52I don't know
56:53to get out of the...
56:54People say
56:54they don't like traffic
56:56and things in China.
56:57They don't want it enough
56:58because people
56:59are still comfortable enough
57:00to stay in the traffic.
57:01We're in riot here.
57:02People will buy,
57:03people will put screens
57:04in the car
57:04to watch TV in traffic.
57:06People will find
57:07the tables and things
57:08and have lunch
57:09with their family
57:09in the car
57:10in the traffic.
57:11They don't really want
57:12no traffic
57:13because you're still
57:14comfortable.
57:14You're still getting
57:15the rewards of things.
57:16But if you're really serious
57:17about something,
57:19it will change.
57:20But again,
57:21we are serious
57:23but about different things
57:24that maybe
57:25other people find serious.
57:28In closing,
57:29for me,
57:30just a reminder out there,
57:31you are not your feelings.
57:33And my tip
57:35to get out of a rut
57:36that you probably
57:37found yourself in
57:38is that the first thought
57:40that comes to your mind
57:41of I should do this,
57:43do it.
57:44and things just tend
57:46to work out after that.
57:48Powerful stuff.
57:49The power of the mind.
57:51Johan C. Haisley Nile,
57:53once again,
57:54thank you for being here.
57:55This was Manhood.
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