PG Podcast With Roxanne And Buck
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00:00All right, Buck, I'm keeping it real. I'm still getting ready, okay? You have the camera showing, so I have to put my lipstick on. You know what my makeup, you don't care about makeup tips, but I'll tell you my makeup tips of a pro.
00:10I don't care at all.
00:12First of all, lip plumper, lip plumper. Can't leave the house without it. Nope, plumps your lips up. And my daughter has nice big lips, and I think maybe it's hereditary, but also I think I use so much lip plumper, it like got into her, went through the placenta.
00:28So she got some of that. I don't know if it's approved, FDA approved for pregnant women, but it makes your lips feel like they're on fire. I love it.
00:35Just so everyone knows, I walked into the studio, and it was covered in, I don't know, makeup products?
00:41Yes, totally.
00:43I don't know the name of these things. Eyeliner, lip plumper, lip plumper.
00:49I didn't have time to put everything on. This is like a, what do they call this? Well, this is just, you know, like a bronzer, a shimmer, but I want to be seen from outer space.
00:58Oh.
00:58You know, so if you put enough shimmer on, number one, it distracts from the bags under your eyes, because all people can see is a shimmer.
01:04And number two, you're seen from the moon, and that's what you want, okay?
01:08Okay.
01:10But as I'm doing this, I'm a pretty girly girl, would you say so?
01:13Yeah.
01:13Even though I've covered sports in the past, and I like certain things like that, I'm a girly girl at heart, and so is my daughter.
01:19You are, and I like those glasses.
01:21Oh.
01:22They look good. I didn't even know you wore glasses.
01:25Okay. My eyes are getting worse, because I'm pregnant, and so I have to wear my glasses.
01:31Now, it does, it makes it a lot easier to do work, and to see people, and wave at people in the hall, know who it is.
01:36But I hate wearing them, because you know who I always feel like is Pam on The Office.
01:41Ha ha.
01:42I love Pam.
01:43I know.
01:43We love The Office.
01:44I know, but remember when she wears glasses, and Michael comes in, he goes, ah, you look so ugly.
01:49Yeah, Michael Scott's like, oh, ugh, ugh, ugh.
01:56So that's what I think of.
01:57I don't think anyone's going to do that to you.
01:59Okay, well, I feel like Pam today in the glasses.
02:01So.
02:02I can be Jim.
02:03Yeah, you're totally Jim. You're totally Jim, but.
02:06We just need a Dwight.
02:07You know, I'm not going to name any names, but there are some people who've already, like, identified that there are some office dynamics here, or there have been in the past, maybe.
02:20So, we need our own Michael Scott is really who we need, our fearless leader.
02:24If we do need a Michael Scott, that's it.
02:27I'm not saying anything else.
02:28So, you know who our, okay, I'm going to say it, but I don't know if we'll say it or not, but you know who our leader now reminds me of?
02:37Who?
02:37Because you watch Parks and Recreation, right?
02:39We're trying to, but I haven't really seen it.
02:41Okay, then you won't get it.
02:42Never mind.
02:42I won't even say it.
02:43It's a total compliment.
02:45It's Rob Lowe's character.
02:46Okay.
02:47Super positive, keeps himself fit.
02:49All right.
02:50So, it's a total compliment.
02:51That's good.
02:52Anyways, here we go.
02:53Okay, let's start the show.
02:55I'm a girly girl.
02:56I have a girl on the way.
02:58I have another daughter who's extremely that way.
03:00I feel bad for Doug.
03:00He's going to be outnumbered.
03:02Here you are in your household.
03:03You've got the dynamic where Lorelly is outnumbered.
03:06Yeah, we've got the opposite sexes going on here, outnumbering each other.
03:12It's super weird.
03:13So, we've got our teams, both of us, and our spouses are outnumbered.
03:17Yes.
03:17How do you think they feel?
03:20Lonely.
03:20I don't have time to think about it.
03:22Alone.
03:24No one wants to play with them.
03:25You know, that's the thing.
03:26As I've said, Doug wanted another little girl.
03:29So, he's totally cool with it.
03:31He grew up with girls because he has two twin sisters and he has, you know, he's fine with
03:37that dynamic.
03:39But I do think to myself, what's it going to be like when we're sitting around the table
03:43and we're playing board games?
03:45And he's, you know, have you ever played like Balderdash or played categories or some,
03:50you know, some of these things are gender influences, answers, or ideas.
03:55And I feel like it'd be cool for him to have, not so cool that I want to have another child.
04:00Trust me on that one.
04:01But I think, you know, is he going to miss out?
04:03Because he's not going to have a little buddy there to kind of get the guy humor, get the,
04:07you know, I don't know.
04:10Yeah.
04:10Yeah.
04:10I think he probably will.
04:12But, but the girls are so good.
04:14They're going to, they're going to be so great together.
04:16He's not even going to think like that.
04:17He's not even going to be like, oh, but a boy, he would like this.
04:21No, it's just going to be like, these are the girls and this is what they like.
04:25This is my pack.
04:25This is it.
04:26Yep.
04:26This is my little hair.
04:27Roll with it.
04:28My pack.
04:28Yeah.
04:29Okay.
04:29Yeah, for sure.
04:30I know, I know with me and Jackson, when I look around at the toys in his room and obviously
04:37scattered in every single room in the house that he refuses to pick up, that's another
04:41story.
04:43It's all boy stuff.
04:44Right.
04:46Dinosaurs.
04:48Star Wars stuff.
04:50Spider-Man.
04:51Captain America.
04:52What about your house?
04:53Do you have girl toys?
04:54Everything.
04:55Yes.
04:55Everything is pink.
04:56Everything is, you know, and she's already graduating.
05:00Like I said, she likes makeup.
05:01She likes nail polish.
05:02That's her wheelhouse.
05:04She likes mom's clothes and all of her toys are, but I will say Doug bonds with her on
05:11his own, in his own way.
05:12I mean, they totally bond, but you know, when he says, what do you want to do when you grow
05:16up?
05:16Do you want to go work at a radio station like mommy?
05:19I mean, kind of, you know, she says, no.
05:21She says, I wanted to be like, daddy, go to properties, go to properties.
05:25So she likes properties.
05:26She loves cranes.
05:28So she's kind of got a mix going on.
05:29So in other words, Larelli will bond with Jackson in her own way, with her own little,
05:35I mean, of course she bonds with him.
05:36She's a phenomenal mom, but you know, as far as, as far as interests, they'll continue to
05:41develop those together.
05:42I noticed for the first time them doing something together that I didn't think he would be into.
05:48What was it?
05:48And she loves it.
05:49She'll sit on the floor in front of the couch and he'll sit behind her on the couch and
05:54he'll brush her hair and he'll put it in a ponytail.
05:57Her hair's really curly.
06:00So he'll add all kinds of product in it and help it, you know, stuff that she puts in it.
06:04And they do it all the time now.
06:06I'm like, oh, that's cool.
06:07That's lovely.
06:09Oh, and that's very caretaking.
06:11It is.
06:11For a boy.
06:12Yeah.
06:12So, so does Doug have anything that he does that maybe.
06:16That he's, he's doing that's a little more feminine, you mean?
06:20Yeah.
06:20Or, or, or does your daughter do anything that's very boyish?
06:25Yes.
06:25That's just with him.
06:26Sure.
06:27The cranes, the, that, you know, looking at property.
06:30She has a hard hat.
06:31Okay.
06:32She has a construction hat.
06:33So she likes construction and stuff like that.
06:35Yes.
06:35That's cool.
06:35So she, she's got, she's got a mix going on.
06:37See, as long as little stuff like that goes on, I think it's fine that, that he won't
06:42have any boys because he's still, you know, it's still a little bit, I mean, bottom line
06:46is you're, you're happy you got your kid.
06:48You're not going to be like.
06:50Right.
06:50I know.
06:51I'm just the odd man out or odd woman out in your family's case.
06:55No, that we make it work.
06:57We make it work.
06:58Okay.
06:58So speaking of making it work, how do we want our kids?
07:01What are things that we're afraid of that we're not doing right now?
07:05We're not instilling that, are they going to have these skillsets when they get older?
07:09I saw a story about this.
07:10So it just made me think of it.
07:11And so this, this list range from everything from changing a tire to doing a budget, to
07:19being able to do laundry, to dealing with a broken heart.
07:23So it was a whole bunch of things that you worry that, okay, they're, they're babies now.
07:28What do we need to do to get them from point A to point B to be functional adults?
07:32What are the things like when you look at Jackson right now, what are you doing?
07:35What are you projecting out and saying, okay, maybe I do need to pick up the pace and helping
07:39him manage this part of his life because maybe he, he'll need a little bit more help with
07:44that.
07:44And what are things that will just come naturally to him?
07:46Man, I, in a way, in a way, I don't know.
07:50And in a way I know so much, you know, right now I'm still building the foundation of him.
07:55So I'm trying to teach him how to share and be fair to other kids, not punch, not fight,
08:01not cry, not whine when you don't get your way, how to ask politely.
08:06All that stuff right now is, is on the front of my mind.
08:10But in the longterm, yeah, I mean, I don't, there's always going to come a situation where
08:15you're in with some friends that maybe you shouldn't have been hanging out with and
08:18to do something bad and you, and you have that moment when you say, do I do it or do
08:22I don't do it?
08:23Yes.
08:24Yes.
08:24It might be illegal.
08:25It might be kind of, you know, you don't know, but all of us get in that at least once.
08:30And I just hope he's smart enough and doesn't do something that could affect, you know,
08:34the rest of his future.
08:35I know.
08:36You know, I remember one of my friends who I have a lot of respect for, he has kids
08:40who are grown and both of his kids are great.
08:42And I remember with his boy, he used to always tell him, look, I can't help you out if you
08:47get someone pregnant or if you do drugs or go to jail.
08:52Right.
08:52Right.
08:52And, and that too, or do anything that would cause you to do that.
08:56And under the drugs was, and drinking and drinking and driving too, of course.
08:59Yeah.
08:59So it was like those three basic things.
09:01He's like, you're going to have a good life.
09:03I'm going to help you.
09:04You're, you know, you're going to, you got a lot going for you.
09:08Those are the three things.
09:09If you do those things, I can't necessarily help you.
09:12And that kind of makes it pretty simple, right?
09:14That is.
09:15What do you think?
09:15What are your things?
09:16So with, with my current daughter, and I have no idea what this one's going to be like.
09:21I looked at the list.
09:22I'm like, I think she's on her way.
09:24I do.
09:24I mean, even budgeting.
09:26What are you talking about?
09:26A two-year-old budgeting, but we're already starting to really explain to her money.
09:31We have to go to work to get money.
09:32We have to buy, you know, buying things.
09:34So she's already understanding the market of exchange somewhat.
09:39I think she'll get that too, because she's also, you know, I think she'll get that.
09:44And she has two parents who are kind of oriented like that.
09:47But the one thing that was on the list that I go, oh my gosh, I don't want her to have
09:52to deal with that.
09:53It was dealing with a broken heart, because you know what?
09:56You can't ever prepare anybody for that.
09:58The only way you can help prepare someone for that is by raising them to be extraordinarily
10:04confident.
10:04And that comes with a price too, because then if you, if they're so confident, they're the
10:09one out there breaking hearts all the time.
10:11That's cool.
10:12But I always feel like you, as tough as it is to go through a broken heart, you learn
10:16from that.
10:17And you're stronger in the aftermath.
10:19There's no better teacher.
10:21Yes.
10:21Than when you get your heart broken.
10:23And I'm trying to think what we could do.
10:25Right.
10:26We could buy our child their favorite toy.
10:28Mm-hmm.
10:28And when they love it the most, we take it away.
10:32That's what it's like to have a broken heart.
10:34Yeah.
10:34Yeah.
10:34Deal with that.
10:37Yeah.
10:37I know you, that's the whole point, is you never want them to feel badly.
10:41So you don't want to do anything to help them prepare for that.
10:44Yeah.
10:45Changing a tire.
10:46If she's my daughter, she ain't never going to learn how to change a tire.
10:49I don't know how to change a tire.
10:50They got a triple A nowadays.
10:51It's so...
10:52You know what?
10:53Skill said, I have damsel in distress.
10:56I have cry in my car.
10:58Yeah, exactly.
11:01Car problems, cry.
11:02You know what?
11:03Thank goodness for cell phones.
11:04On my insurance the last couple years, my regular car insurance, there's an option.
11:09And it's only a couple more dollars, and it's roadside assistance.
11:12I get it every time.
11:13Why not?
11:14Because I'm like, you know what?
11:16It's like 100 degrees outside.
11:18Yes.
11:19I'm not a man's man.
11:20If I get a flat tire, I'm just going to call you guys, and I'll wait in my car for 20,
11:2430 minutes.
11:24Just come do it.
11:25Well, that's the smart way to do things.
11:28It's the less dangerous way to do things.
11:31One of our coworkers I was talking about this with, and he taught his daughters how to do
11:35that.
11:36Very...
11:36Have a lot of respect for that.
11:37Yeah.
11:38But in today's day and age, I feel like it's dangerous to do that.
11:41You know, just don't...
11:42Yeah.
11:42It's too hot.
11:44The pedestrians around here are just doing a story.
11:46Pedestrians in the Tampa Bay area are really at risk for getting hit by a car.
11:50So don't even just...
11:51A busy highway, a busy bridge.
11:54People are driving off the bridge.
11:56What?
11:56Stay in your vehicle.
11:57Put on your hazards.
11:59Blinky lights and cry, like me.
12:01But there are all kinds of things that they'll have to face.
12:04I mean, even household things.
12:06She's prepared to cook.
12:08We got her cooking all the time.
12:09She's going to be good at that.
12:11Are you doing a cooking show with her or something?
12:12It's a cooking blog.
12:14It's Throw It Together Thursday, and it's once a month.
12:17And so it's coming up next week.
12:19We'll have another edition of it.
12:21And she cooks every...
12:22I mean, she does it all.
12:23So, I mean, probably shouldn't tell some people that, but it's a bad parent.
12:28Can't give two-year-old knives.
12:29Is she also washing the dishes?
12:32She does like to wash dishes.
12:34She loves to.
12:35She loves to.
12:36Did I say you guys can come play at our house anytime?
12:40And, yeah, we have lots of dishes.
12:42Okay.
12:42Well, we'll do that, Buck.
12:43That sounds like fun.