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00:00In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, Ever Merciful, Peace be upon you.
00:11I welcome you to the program, Kaif Faqeer.
00:14We have with us, as always, Syed Sahib Shahzad Ahmad Shahzad Sahib.
00:17And the questions that you receive, as you can see, our format is the same.
00:21We will put that in front of Shahzad Sahib.
00:23We will give you a source of guidance, so that you can benefit from it in your life.
00:29So, please do follow it.
00:30Shahzad Sahib, I have received a comment.
00:33If you allow me, I will start from there.
00:35It says, whoever has something, they have to share it.
00:41Therefore, we should never complain about people's attitudes.
00:44It is not necessary that everyone's pockets are filled with pearls of love,
00:47sincerity, acceptance and selflessness.
00:51There is no doubt about it.
00:54You will be able to give others what is in your pocket.
00:59Therefore, the wise people keep their tongues shut due to complaints.
01:15This is because they are accepting the other person as he is.
01:25When we make this a habit, this is the path of Faqr.
01:29It is a matter of Tassawuf.
01:32A poor person accepts everyone as they are.
01:39There is no doubt about it.
01:40Therefore, you will hear that there is no doubt about the words of a poor person.
01:46He has no complaints about anyone.
01:49Because he is accepting everyone as they are.
01:53The concept of this is that my Lord has made it.
01:57It is the creation of my Lord.
02:02Therefore, I cannot object to it.
02:05Because I am a slave and the master is sitting on top of me.
02:11And no slave can raise his finger against his master.
02:16This is the concept of a Fakir.
02:20The second aspect of this is that if we make this a habit,
02:26if we train ourselves to accept everyone as they are,
02:32and if we learn to share our time accordingly,
02:39then our life becomes very easy.
02:42Our stresses reduce.
02:46This is one aspect.
02:47However, there is another aspect to this.
02:51That is what Hazrat Ali Karmal said,
02:55that a friend is someone who can inform you of your shortcomings when you are alone.
03:07Okay.
03:09So, if we are close to someone,
03:12then the condition of friendship is that when he is alone,
03:16we should not embarrass him in front of everyone.
03:19But when he is alone,
03:21we should inform him in appropriate words so that he does not feel embarrassed.
03:27We should inform him that there is a need for improvement here.
03:31Improve this.
03:34So, that is one aspect that will remain.
03:37If we have this Fakir attitude,
03:42then it is necessary that if a person is close to us,
03:46then we should inform him when he is alone that there is a need for improvement here.
03:56If he improves, then he will become more popular.
04:02So, if we inform him in this way, then these three aspects are formed.
04:07But it is a beautiful thing.
04:09And it is a great lesson in life.
04:12It is a very easy way to make life comfortable.
04:17I remember that a long time ago, we had completed a programme on this,
04:21in which you said that it is better to inform when you are alone.
04:28There was a question from a person,
04:30in which he said that his boss is very arrogant.
04:33And he would say something in front of everyone that he didn't like,
04:37and it would break people's hearts.
04:41So, I think that this aspect of yours becomes very important.
04:48So, please tell us that the attitude of a person,
04:56When someone has something,
05:00then there can be a problem that the person is asking for something else,
05:07and he is getting something else.
05:11Should we stop asking for something?
05:13Should we stop going to such a person?
05:16If he has selfishness,
05:23if he is strict,
05:25if he has a temper,
05:29then should we stop going to such a person?
05:33No, I don't think that is possible.
05:36We have to live in this world.
05:38We live together.
05:40We are connected to each other.
05:43So, this is not possible.
05:45How many people can we leave?
05:48But, as you mentioned about a previous program,
05:54we must have spoken about it.
05:56I must have quoted it.
06:00No person is born bad.
06:04God has created every human being innocent.
06:09A newborn baby is like a blank sheet of paper.
06:18This is the responsibility of its guardians, its guardians, and its parents.
06:25It is their right to write some inappropriate words on that blank sheet of paper,
06:39or write beautiful things,
06:43or write a hadith.
06:45This is the responsibility of the parents.
06:48That baby is a newborn.
06:51Its mind is like a blank sheet of paper.
06:58Human behavior is dependent on many factors.
07:07The major deciding factor in this is the situation in which it is living.
07:15It is also possible that it is a single parent child.
07:19Its personality will be imbalanced.
07:23It is also possible that in the house in which it is brought up,
07:28there will be a fight between the parents.
07:31There will not be a happy relationship.
07:33Such a child will have transgressions.
07:36It is also possible that the elderly people around it,
07:45if their language is not very decent,
07:50they will learn the same language.
07:54It is also possible that where it was brought up,
07:56everyone is loud.
08:01This will also become loud.
08:05In these attitudes, a person has very little control over himself.
08:10I am not suggesting that this is not the case.
08:14But it is very rare.
08:17These are the circumstances of its childhood
08:20that determine its behavior.
08:25You must have met some of your friends.
08:30They are very generous.
08:33They will volunteer for the needs of their friends.
08:38If you do a little research,
08:41you will come to know that in the house in which it was brought up,
08:45this was its behavior.
08:49Some children's behavior can be the other way around.
08:55If you look at the house in which it was brought up,
08:59there will be the same behavior.
09:02So, a person's behavior is dependent
09:05on the circumstances in which it was brought up.
09:11So, instead of being angry with such a person,
09:14instead of running away from such a person,
09:16we should be compassionate towards such a person.
09:18And we should try to supplement the incomplete aspect of such a person.
09:31We should support such a person.
09:34Now, there are some children, for some reason,
09:40either they are single parents or they have no parents.
09:46Now, such a child, invariably,
09:50you will get a hunger for love.
09:54And in search of love, if he goes to different places, he will be beaten.
09:58If he is beaten, he will be insulted.
10:01If you give love to such a child,
10:03if you make such a person believe that he is your friend who really loves you,
10:12his behavior will become very sincere and loyal to you.
10:18So, we should not hate him, we should not run away from him,
10:22we should not leave him alone.
10:24In fact, take out some time, examine him,
10:30and see what was lacking in this child in his childhood,
10:35which made his behavior like this.
10:40There are some people, there are some children,
10:42who are not given importance by their parents.
10:46By not being given importance, they develop a feeling of deprivation.
10:52And that feeling of deprivation increases so much
10:56that when they come in such a position where their parents are there,
11:03in 90% of cases,
11:06their behavior will be such that they will be happy by insulting others.
11:11They will be comforted by that.
11:13They will go to a 10% positive side,
11:16that whatever I did not get, I will share it with others.
11:21But it will not be more than 10%.
11:2490% of people will be happy,
11:28they will be comforted by insulting others,
11:34by depriving others.
11:38So, there is only one treatment for such people,
11:40that we should look at them very quietly.
11:44When a person becomes a new officer,
11:48he has a strange behavior.
11:51He gets angry with everyone who does not greet him.
11:57He develops.
12:00His behavior becomes normalized.
12:03When he becomes a big officer in the real sense,
12:07he has a strange behavior.
12:09And there is a change in everyone.
12:12If someone is rude to him,
12:16he does not punish him.
12:18He says, you are not in the right frame of mind.
12:24You go, I will call you again.
12:27He will call the person close to him and ask, what happened to him?
12:31Check if he has any problem at home.
12:35He normally does not behave like this.
12:38His behavior is unusual.
12:41So, check and tell me,
12:43is there any problem at home?
12:46Does anyone else have a problem with him?
12:48Mr. Shah, I am sorry, we have to take a short break.
12:50Please allow us to take a break.
12:52We will be back after the break.
12:54Welcome back.
12:55If there is a person who behaves like this,
12:59and he is being given sympathy,
13:02or even more than that,
13:04he is being given love.
13:06Can love bring about fundamental changes in him?
13:10So that he becomes a better person in the rest of his life?
13:13Absolutely right.
13:14Look, this is your wall.
13:18When it was being built,
13:21there was a shortage of mortar based on proper ratio.
13:30It was chosen from Gare.
13:34Now, when it has rained a lot,
13:38the mud from which it was chosen,
13:42the exposed parts of it have melted due to the rain.
13:47The wall has become weak.
13:50Now, there are two options.
13:51One is to build a wall along with it.
13:56Or, from wherever the mud has melted,
14:01proper mortar should be injected there.
14:07Or, it should be constructed in a new way.
14:09It is not possible to construct it in a new way.
14:12You will have to change the entire building for it.
14:16So, it is better to see what is the best remedy for it,
14:21which will give it strength.
14:24So, that should be treated.
14:26So, this is how a person's personality is made.
14:31If there is a shortage of things due to which his behaviours have become unpleasant,
14:39or if he is not very desirable,
14:45or if he has a lot of ego,
14:48then if we take out a little time
14:53and pinch him so that he starts talking about his childhood,
14:58then we can find out where he had lagged in his childhood.
15:03If we fill that gap,
15:06then his behaviour will improve.
15:08And love is such a thing.
15:13It is perhaps the most powerful thing in the world.
15:15It is more powerful than an atom bomb.
15:23There is a beast in the jungle.
15:26It is a lion, a cheetah, a reed.
15:31It is a wild beast.
15:34It does not leave a person, it eats them.
15:38But love can tame it as well.
15:41Love has so much power.
15:44So, you should not think about any person's behaviour
15:48and what his behaviour is with me.
15:51You have to create a little big ego in yourself.
15:55Love distributes that.
15:59There comes a time when he will be very good,
16:03and he will make you a very loyal and sincere friend.
16:08Love has a lot of power.
16:11How important is change for a person?
16:15Shouldn't a person be satisfied that the way life is going on is better?
16:23Change is a sign of life.
16:31If this change leaves a person's life,
16:34then he is dead.
16:36Peace is only in death.
16:38Yes.
16:40People who have status,
16:46they are not able to progress.
16:48Only those who are dynamic are able to progress.
16:53And dynamism will only bring change in life.
17:03So, we should not be afraid of change.
17:05This is a sign of our life.
17:08We are alive.
17:10So, the habit of sadness on one's own condition...
17:13That is a different thing.
17:15It has nothing to do with change.
17:17Okay.
17:19Satisfaction is when a person is satisfied with what he has.
17:31So, whatever we are getting,
17:35or in simple words,
17:38what is satisfaction?
17:42It is to be satisfied with the distribution of Allah.
17:46But change is a completely different thing.
17:49Okay.
17:51I am satisfied with what I am getting,
17:54but I am trying to improve it.
17:59So, if I am not satisfied with what I am getting,
18:05then I will become a very unpleasant personality for people,
18:10that I will have nothing but complaints.
18:20So, we should know one thing,
18:22that every person is so under pressure in this world,
18:27that he expects pleasant conversations from you.
18:33He wants a pleasant company.
18:36He will throw away a pleasant company.
18:42So, we will become unpleasant.
18:45But, along with satisfaction,
18:50I am working hard to move forward.
18:53That is a separate issue.
18:55Despite being satisfied, I should keep trying.
19:03That is a separate issue.
19:05The question is, if our lives are being victimised by the Jammut,
19:10then what should be the solution?
19:13Should we pray or should we try?
19:16This is a very big bell of danger.
19:20If the Jammut starts ringing on a person,
19:23this is a bell that is ringing to warn you of a very big danger.
19:28We should remember one thing,
19:30that Allah likes those who are like Mujahidin,
19:39who are obedient, who are hard-working.
19:45Allah does not like lazy people.
19:47Allah does not like those who are ungrateful.
19:50If there is a period of stagnation in our lives,
19:54I am using the term of Jammut,
19:58then we should try our best,
20:03whether it is a mental, physical or spiritual condition.
20:14Interactual, physical or spiritual.
20:17If we notice a Jammut in any condition,
20:22then we should be alert that something is going wrong somewhere.
20:29We should take the corrective measures.
20:35The corrective measures are to become active,
20:38to take part in the activities of life.
20:43Otherwise, the Jammut will break.
20:45The question is, this is Ahmed Shehzad,
20:49and he says that we are happy if we change our will because of being human,
20:54but if something changes in our planned life,
20:57then why would we be unhappy?
20:59This is in human nature.
21:04But the Muslims have this facility,
21:09that in the case of failure,
21:12they have a huge consolation factor,
21:19that this is what Allah wanted and this is what is best for me.
21:24This is a huge consolation factor.
21:30So, a person cannot be disappointed.
21:36We will have to develop something within us,
21:41which is that we will have to trust Allah,
21:44which very few people do.
21:47We all believe in Allah,
21:51but we do not trust Him.
21:55So, when a person starts trusting Allah,
22:00then he has this attitude, which I mentioned,
22:04that despite all the hard work,
22:08if the result does not come as desired,
22:12then a person thinks that it was my fault that Allah did not let this happen.
22:19So, he becomes very satisfied with this,
22:24that my hard work will not go to waste, Allah will definitely reward me for it.
22:28He did not reward me here, He will reward me elsewhere.
22:30He did not reward me here, because perhaps it was not better for me.
22:34Our conversation will continue, but we will take a break.
22:39Welcome back.
22:40If someone is continuously trying,
22:44are there any signs,
22:46where they can see that their effort is wrong,
22:50that they should try elsewhere?
22:53I always say one thing,
22:58this is called spirituality,
23:01this is called sixth sense.
23:05This has been genetically transferred within every human being.
23:11We are all the children of Adam.
23:15The knowledge that was taught to Baba Adam,
23:17it was transferred to all of us genetically.
23:24The difference is that some people develop it by putting in effort.
23:33Some people are so pious that it automatically develops within them.
23:45So, they have a very strong feeling
23:51that where they start doing something wrong,
23:53a voice comes from within them that perhaps they are doing something wrong,
23:57this should not be done.
24:01They are going on a path and a voice comes from within them
24:04that do not go on this path,
24:07it is not appropriate, take another path.
24:10This is the sense that develops.
24:13We can call it the sixth sense in the world.
24:19Spiritually, we can say that it has developed so much
24:25that Allah the Almighty continues to save it.
24:28It is a matter of developing it in every human being.
24:32And it develops in the same way
24:34when there is a high level of purity in the mind,
24:42and otherwise also.
24:44So, especially the purity of thought,
24:48that develops it a lot.
24:51A person who is pure in his thinking,
24:58this will develop a lot in him.
25:02I asked this question, it is also related to my personal life.
25:08After MA, I started preparing for CSS and did it.
25:13Now, I really wanted to go to the Foreign Service.
25:16But the Finance Department came.
25:19I used to get angry with the Finance Department,
25:21I used to get very angry.
25:23So, I thought that I will not go this year, I will try again next year.
25:27I tried again next year, but the Foreign Service did not come.
25:31I qualified, but they posted me in Islamabad as an Under Secretary.
25:37Now, I was very worried.
25:38So, I told Professor Munawar Sahib, Mirza Munawar Sahib,
25:42I told him what I should do.
25:43He said, this is not a sign for you to try in some other department or not.
25:49So, I left it up to him.
25:52So, the question that arises here is,
25:54should we take help from someone in such a matter?
25:58Or, can a person take help from himself?
26:03See, what teachings have been given to us in Islam?
26:08That you must consult.
26:10The Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
26:14has advised us and has also given us practical demonstration.
26:19That sometimes, the companions of the Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
26:23have accepted the advice of the companions of the Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.
26:24Whereas, you are the greatest personality after Allah.
26:29And the knowledge that you had,
26:32apart from the knowledge of Allah, you had the greatest knowledge.
26:36Despite that, because it was intended to teach the Ummah,
26:41you gave a practical demonstration.
26:43That you consulted the companions of the Holy Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.
26:46So, Muslims have a very strong belief in consultations.
26:51So, you should definitely consult those people,
26:54who are senior to us in terms of age, experience and education.
27:01So, you consulted Professor Mirza Munawwar Sahib,
27:05who used to be in the Government College.
27:08So, you consulted a very good person.
27:11Allah had given him a lot of understanding.
27:15So, you have come to the right path.
27:20There was a program of yours,
27:23I found out later that I have known you since you were five years old.
27:28When you were five years old.
27:31But the first time I got to know you,
27:35it was your most famous program, 50 Minutes.
27:40Which gave you such respect and fame, which very few people got.
27:47Shah Sahib, this question is from Beanish.
27:51His question is,
27:53how much impact does our environment and relationships have on the changes that happen in our lives?
27:59It is the environment that makes up our personality.
28:05When a child comes into this world,
28:09the first breath he takes, the first scream he makes,
28:13along with that, his personality starts to build.
28:18We are mistaken that this child is only two minutes old,
28:25so how would he know?
28:29No.
28:31He is seeing that things are getting registered in his brain.
28:35And this is what is building his personality.
28:38The foundation is being laid.
28:40So, by the time he is four to five years old,
28:44the foundations of his personality have already been laid.
28:48After that, his personality is being built on those foundations.
28:55So, this environment is affecting him.
28:59If he cannot speak, he cannot express himself.
29:03But he is registering everything.
29:06So, the environment that he is getting at that time,
29:11that is the foundation of his personality.
29:14And that whole life has an impact on his behaviour.
29:21His influence remains for the rest of his life.
29:25So, this environment is very important.
29:30I would like to tell people
29:35that they should never speak in front of a child.
29:40They should never be loud.
29:44You will see that the same things will come in that child.
29:48He will have a pleasant personality.
29:50He will never be loud.
29:52Even if he scolds someone, he will speak in a very low tone.
29:59The environment is everything for a human being.
30:02Sometimes, I feel that the facial features of a human being,
30:08the handwriting,
30:11even that changes with the environment and its changes.
30:16What changes that the most?
30:19The food.
30:21The food which we take.
30:22Okay.
30:24See, when his parents got married,
30:28the daughter belongs to another family.
30:32The husband belongs to another family.
30:34They live together for the rest of their lives.
30:36At the end of their lives, you start seeing their faces.
30:38Please note that.
30:40Yes, absolutely.
30:41That is the effect of food.
30:43So, the facial features are the basis of food.
30:51But the behaviour is affected by the people's behaviour towards you.
31:03So, where there is a sense of deprivation in a person,
31:06his behaviour starts to change.
31:10Where there is a sense of difficulty,
31:14his behaviour becomes defensive.
31:19If something happens, he becomes defensive immediately.
31:22The relationships that you have,
31:26especially the relationships that are very close to your heart,
31:32the behaviour that you are getting from them,
31:36it is determining our behaviour.
31:39Or it is becoming a reason for change.
31:44So, the behaviour of the environment and others,
31:48the behaviour of the relatives,
31:51these have a deep impact on a person's personality.
31:55Okay, Mr. Shah, thank you very much.
31:57We are running out of time for the programme.
31:59Please give us your feedback.
32:00Please send us your questions.
32:03And, God willing, we will answer them and provide guidance for you.
32:08We will take your leave now.
32:09May Allah protect you.