Married at First Sight UK Season 9 Episode 22
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00:00You just have the best time previously I made love to my woman, okay
00:07While some recommitted to the process I want to spend the rest of my life with you
00:13Others felt the strain. I'm questioning if I'm able to sustain a relationship with someone of PMDD
00:20This is why I prepare myself for the word
00:24For Casper, I need the emotional side first before the intimate side intimacy became a bone of contention
00:30It almost felt like sex was a sales pitch and when a secret was exposed
00:35How they not been sneakily kissing?
00:38You are a stinking liar. It sealed the fate of two marriages. Why do I want him to speak to this girl leave leave?
00:46At that moment. I knew I could not stand him
00:50Just get me out of here, please he definitely
00:53lacks any shred of integrity
00:55Leave but it was Alex's reactions snake
01:00Shit, man. I know that sparked conflict with Sasha
01:03I've watched you attack the women and it's because I didn't like it Alex and trouble for her own marriage
01:09It doesn't feel like Ross has my back. My drama is your drama. I'm not gonna tolerate it
01:15Tonight
01:18I'm interested to see what you don't like about me. Honey. There's a lot more than what you think there is
01:22It's love hate week. Good luck. Good luck. You're gonna need it where honesty is crucial lack of intimacy
01:30You lack depth. What's that mean for some couples at museums? It draws them closer together
01:36Is it the most romantic thing someone's ever done for you? Yeah, I am feeling quite giddy. It's just
01:44I'm gonna give you
01:46But others can't even get the task off the ground. I'm really unhappy. I'm going home today. Why?
01:54Get me out of there. I am NOT running after my body
01:58Whilst Sasha and Ross and he went to see this throws it up the wall face their biggest challenge yet
02:04I am NOT comfortable with you being in this apartment. I am gonna struggle to recover from this
02:11It's my head
02:15Oh
02:25Good morning
02:28I've heard something hard last night. Oh
02:32That's not magical is it
02:36Why does everything you say sound sexual I don't know why I'm just saying so
02:40It's morning at the apartments and the couples are reflecting on an eventful commitment ceremony
02:47That was the most
02:49emotionally intense
02:51Commitment ceremony that we've ever had. Yeah, I'm gonna miss Austin. I'm gonna miss Rochelle. I'm gonna miss Stephen. I miss Hannah
02:56I just couldn't believe how so many how many people got involved if oof the snog. Oh my god the snog
03:02I thought our snog was big
03:05We had a good couch say we had a good couch we're good
03:09What were your thoughts? No, we've been giving stuff to work on. It's anything like last week would be making strides
03:17For like the whole ending for me
03:20It definitely it was all uncomfortable on it. Mm-hmm. No, I Alex spoke to me was like not okay
03:26That actually really upset me. Yeah, I'm the percent
03:29It does make you think
03:31You know
03:33Is this how he's been speaking to Holly?
03:36Yeah, hopefully not
03:44I've spent the night away from Alex last night and this morning. I've woke up and I'm just physically drained
03:51After the commitment ceremony
03:53Alex really upset me. He'd been so disrespectful to all the girls
03:58It talked to him in a way, which is just not acceptable. That's just reminding me that we're not always good
04:07Me and Holly spent last night apart
04:10It does feel a bit weird not having Holly here since Holly left the apartment. We haven't spoken. So I don't know where her head's at
04:17I
04:24After the commitment ceremony, I was really annoyed with Alex. It's just bang out of order
04:31me and Ross we go into a bit of conflict because I'm really feeling like Ross didn't have my back and
04:37Then actually just spent the night in separate apartments
04:41Last night I got a text from Alex saying thanks for coming up for a chat bro
04:46We speak to status you and I'd out of respect for me. I shown her the text she got annoyed
04:52I mean started arguing and got wound up right now fell shit
05:06You're good I
05:07Just want to pop in and check you're okay after the commitments her money. Are you just saying yourself? I hear myself
05:14Yeah, yeah, are you you okay? Yeah, so
05:18Take a seat. I hope you've got a while
05:21after the commitment ceremony Ross when I spoke to Alex and
05:26Had a man-to-man
05:28Said you shouldn't spoke to me that way shouldn't spoke to the other girls that way when Ross got back
05:33Alex sent a text saying I'm gonna speak to Sasha as soon as even though we still hasn't and
05:39I'm only
05:41Doing it out of respect for you
05:44No
05:45No, that's not. Okay, and Ross had put back like, oh, thanks so much, bro
05:49Love are not really seeing the slyness in that text because okay Ross is the best in everyone
05:54So I was trying to explain to him that in a nice text
05:58He's still kind of being a little bit of a bitch to you missus. Yeah
06:02Right, so then Ross responds with oh, I can't be friends with anyone
06:07And then grabs his suitcase and I mean, oh, this doesn't say a word to me. Shan
06:13Are you talking about these two suitcases starts putting all these trainers in great?
06:17And he went he said this throws it up the wall honest to God honest to God and I'm giving Ross
06:23What's going on? Talk to me. He's doing this
06:26Sorry, what so he does it so he can't read me. So he's doing what and I'm
06:31It was it was awful
06:36Do you want to sort things out like honestly, do you want to sort it out?
06:40We just have to see what he's got to say. I suppose but yeah, if he thinks he's just gonna drop it
06:45I'm sorry, and that's it and he's moving back. You know, no, no, no chance like he needs to grow
06:51Oh, yeah, like truly needs to grow well
06:53I
06:57Don't a double tea bag just one, please. They're very strong aren't they got an extra sugar one would be nice
07:04Thank you. I try to be intimate with Christina last night
07:07But obviously with what's going on in my mind. I just wasn't there. I don't know where my head space is that I
07:14Hope we can both turn this around and I know that starts by
07:18Being honest with Christina as as these thoughts are coming through me head
07:22There's not enough nice words to describe Christina. There's not and I'll never ever have a bad way to say about her ever
07:29Thanks
07:32Their commitment ceremony was a lot was Annette in a lot of ways. Yeah
07:39There's stuff where we are very different. Okay, I understand that and I think that's why I'm struggling
07:45Yeah, that's fine at the moment. It's just not it's just not there for you, which is okay
07:53Everyone wants a relationship. We're gonna have really really well
07:56We're full of crack but things come up in relationships like through life
08:00You've got to work through the obstacles to get
08:04to get the good stuff
08:07thing is I really
08:09When I say I care about you, I mean I fucking care about you and I know you don't care about you
08:14a lot
08:16There's definitely a spark between me and Kieran. I know he cares for me and
08:21I'm not ready to let that spark die
08:29You're right
08:31Remo
08:41That's the door you want to do it
08:45For any marriage to thrive it's important that couples accept both the things they love
08:52This is cuter this is our first one and the things they love less about their partner dear Adam and Pauline
08:58Today marks the start of love hate week
09:01Love hate week gives our couples the opportunity to discuss both aspects with unflinching
09:07Honesty a successful marriage is all about balance
09:10What's on only by acknowledging all aspects of a partner both good and bad that marriages truly grow?
09:17With a foundation of honesty and acceptance. There's three things you dislike about your husband or wife
09:22You
09:25Must share this list with each other and then try to think of ways that will help address these issues
09:30List three things you love about your husband or wife three things
09:34Three my share this list with each other to help to celebrate the things you must admire or like in your partner
09:42You're gonna struggle thinking things you hate about me. This is gonna be a very hard task for me
09:47Hates a strong word for me
09:48You think it's gonna be hard to find three things you like or three I need more can I do five?
09:56I've never quite fun. I'm interested to see what you don't like about me because I can't imagine there's many things
10:02Honey, there's a lot more than what you think there is
10:07Yeah, I'm gonna go get away and do mine, okay, good luck good look you're gonna need it
10:14Today the couples will be starting with the hardest part of the task sharing the things they dislike about each other
10:21Sometimes I feel like you're a little bit dishonest with me. Oh
10:28You do sort of put on a little bit of the show feel like when you are doing that sometimes
10:33In front of people it's making a little bit of distance between us to didn't feel
10:39You know at ease straight away in the group it took me back to that classroom vibes
10:43When I was young let's go like not cool enough not funny enough
10:46So I yeah
10:48I put on my entertainer mask and like I can see how you would look at me and black
10:52Oh, this is not the same person that woke up next to me in bed
10:55I'm sorry because I understand how that would make you feel
10:59Yeah
10:59and I just feel like I want us to be a team and I want us we can only be a team if we're truthful and
11:05Honest with each other. Yeah
11:09Oh
11:12So
11:15You've lacked depth you lack depth, what's that mean?
11:19sometimes
11:20When we're having a conversation and I feel like you're very robotic. Mm-hmm. It feels like you're not interested
11:28Thing is I do have ADHD. Yeah
11:32And I do have communication difficulties, but I don't know have a lean on it or blame it, you know
11:36I'm glad that you've said that
11:38In my head. I'm just like, oh, he's not verbally
11:41Telling me, you know how much he likes me or X Y & Z. That's how I've been on my life
11:46Yeah
11:46This is all yeah all preparing us to get stronger and go
11:49Strength to strength and help us when we do leave the experiment, you know
11:54Mm-hmm
11:56So I don't like it when sometimes you compare me to other guys
12:00Sometimes you've mentioned it like I would be nice if if that you were like that or you were this way
12:05And it does make me feel like quite sad like to hear that, you know, cuz like I'm not then
12:12When I compare is when they're like another couple was doing
12:16Romantic gestures and I just I want that from my man
12:20I definitely am romantic, but I think in certain areas I could have probably been more romantic maybe a bit more spontaneous. Yeah
12:29John a cuddle
12:35Oh
12:41Shall I go fast hit me with it? Okay. You don't tell me I'm beautiful
12:50Because I feel like I hear it from everyone else and I don't think I've ever heard you
12:58Compliment me like on a more personal level like I get you look nice or that looks nice
13:03I never get
13:05Something deeper. I've never been very club
13:09Complimentary, but I know it's something that needs to be done because it's so easy to say things
13:15that's
13:16That's a good one
13:20My next one you're not very romantic I
13:24Don't do nothing. No, I feel like you're very thoughtful
13:29But I don't you need more romance. Yeah
13:33I'd like you to buy me flowers. Like I'd like you to do like more
13:38dinners or be like should we go and do this or like charming cuz I know you give me a lot of stuff but
13:43I just yeah, I don't
13:45Feel you're very romantic
13:47See for me. It's small. It's something that I've never done before. So here's something that I do need to work on
13:54Yeah
13:56Are you ready for yours? I am. Yeah
13:59You
14:01Are opinionated
14:04This is something that I've never had before. I've never had someone be so yeah straight to the point and honest about people
14:11I'm literally like
14:13Yeah, no, I know like sometimes I could feel sorry for people that get in the way of you because you are so opinion. Yeah
14:19So I do have to maybe into in some situations
14:23Just think before I speak and think of how it's gonna make you feel yeah, I don't whether it's your voice or what
14:30Just need to think about how I approach it instead of being so
14:34Yeah, you know, I mean in someone's face or just my tone of voice. I don't never said that to you before though
14:40Everyone. Oh, so it's not new to you. That's everyone knows you're opinionated. Yeah
14:46That's cool them because you are very opinionated
14:52Oh
15:06God
15:08Right now. I don't know. What's that? She's failing this one to see I have a normal shot nice and calm
15:15Can we all smooth things over? I mean everybody had an argument. So this is the biggest one
15:21Hi, okay, not not really rocks. No, I'm not really
15:30Favorite could have a shot, you know
15:32Obviously we calm down though. I know you've decided you want to chat. No, you know you have so so, you know
15:39So you're not gonna do this now
15:40Do I actually get a conversation there? None of this because if you sat here now and I went
15:46I'm not listening. How would you feel? I would like it. Yeah, cuz that's what you done to me last night. Yeah, I get that
15:52yeah, I just want to
15:56Die I was wrong got me when I came in I should have
16:01Spoken to you. Listen this all started because you said to me I can't be friends with anyone
16:08Yeah, I thought that yeah, you did
16:10Bullshit and I kept saying to you Ross for the split second
16:15You was looking at me Ross if you want to leave that is okay
16:18But you at least owe me a conversation before you leave. No, no wedding ring phone across
16:26All you currently I am not comfortable with you being in this apartment
16:31I only should know where me and Ross are gonna go from here because if you can never see
16:36How hurt I was and have the empathy to
16:40Really understand my point of view. I don't know how I'm gonna go forward
16:45You fucked up and you made your decision. What do I go from there? It's not feel comfortable
16:51Don't know I don't know trying to work it out
16:54I don't know at the minute Ross to be honest because that was really really messed up in my opinion
17:00I am gonna struggle to recover from this
17:04It's fucked up my head and made me wonder if I can see a future with someone like that
17:14I'm going
17:34You
17:39Give me yours
17:42It's love-hate week and the couples have started with the challenge of telling one another their dislikes
17:48You better not be that bad. I'm just glad you sat back and you're not gonna fall down
17:57Lifestyle differences. Yeah. Yeah
18:00Just because
18:02There'll be times where I'm going absolutely not. I'm knackered and you're going right
18:05I want to go for a drinks with the girls and then a bottomless branch in London and I'm going I
18:11Just want to sit at home take my dogs for a walk and have a relaxed day. You'd be NFI with drinks the girls
18:18But yes, I think there are big differences in how
18:22we live our lives and
18:24What we enjoy doing I realized that I live quite a
18:29Vivacious life that I would never want you to just follow me around. There are things that in my head. They're holding me back
18:34Yeah, yeah, and this is one of them
18:37Okay, right fast one. I don't think we'll come as a surprise
18:42Lack of intimacy
18:44fair enough
18:46You've openly said you struggle with intimacy. You still struggle with intimacy and I'm jealous of the other couples
18:52You know, I'm fully aware that any intimacy between us has to be initiated from me
18:56I haven't since that point done much and I'm fully aware that yeah, it's a fair critique
19:03completely fair comment
19:08Something I hate is your music choice
19:13Right, that's fucking ridiculous my music this is way better than yours. Is it is it? Okay, mr
19:20Pink pink Coldplay take a pollen. Miss singing's better as well
19:26Right. I have said
19:30The distance
19:33Obviously we spoke about me moving to Manchester, but
19:37It's gonna be hard for me being away from my family. You know, I close I am with my sister
19:41I don't know why I'm getting emotional. I understand that
19:45It'd be hard for you course
19:46You still got your mom and everything, but I will support you through that. It'll be free rent for you
20:04Excited to go on a date with you
20:05I've planned something out of the ordinary fun bit more hands-on
20:10Having already revealed their dislikes to one another Luke has arranged a special date with Amy to discuss their loves
20:17Definitely me and Amy will benefit from some one-to-one quality time
20:20I've chosen pottery on the basis of Amy telling me that she's to do it with her grandfather. I don't know how good I'm gonna be
20:26You're probably better than me. It's just a buff. Well, I like using my hands, don't I? Yes
20:33Luke arranging the pottery day for a date today is really thoughtful
20:37I have mentioned it to him in the past that my nana and granddad used to take me so
20:42Cut out my shed. Oh
20:43Look what's happened now. I
20:46Thought you were good with your hands. I'm looking forward to
20:50Building back some romance with Amy after having to go through the hates with her. So we did our hates last time
20:58And I'm thinking whilst we're spinning this looking into the void
21:02Could you come up with?
21:04Three things that you'd love about your husband and your marriage. I think so. Yeah, what are they I
21:12Love that you're funny
21:15You always make me laugh
21:16Sometimes I feel like you laugh at me as opposed to with me, but I actually like that
21:20I like when you laugh not all the time, but most times. Yeah
21:25The thing I love about you is that you're very supportive. I feel like that's why we've been matched
21:30Maybe because we both caring and support. Yeah, you're really supportive as well. That's nice to hear. Yeah another thing. I really like about you is
21:40That you're like very classy on the streets and like a freak in the sheets I
21:44Like that can just be like a wild animal with you and you you you take that
21:50Yeah
21:51Let's see. You're a black swan
21:54Okay, that's quite nice with a long neck
21:57Sorry, I distracted I destroyed my piece again my blood's boiling
22:03Once it makes it a bit hot in here, isn't it? Oh my god
22:09Just what are you doing? Just gonna have you tried to use that that one there that tool?
22:14Yeah, that one try and use that one
22:16Yeah, that one try and use that one
22:34I don't really feel like Luke is aware of my boundaries
22:38I
22:45Feel like he's very
22:47Open, I mean, I love that for him, but it's just not my vibe
22:51You can like sit on my chair, but if you want
22:55Don't I don't want to feel any objects on my back I
23:01Can sit on your chair all day
23:04Replace the word cheer
23:08You
23:13Say it like a serial killer
23:15I don't sound like that at all. This activity is making me my blood's boiling
23:19I mean, I can't I still like it's mine like a Cheshire cat, but it's very difficult. You know, it's very hard. Not just the clay. Oh
23:27my days
23:30I'm getting hot and sweaty feeling uncomfortable. I think Luke's getting hot and sweaty in here a different way
23:38This is definitely brought us closer. I think this is very special to me. Yeah, I've had a good day. Thank you. I have to
23:45What are you doing? I just like to take my time. Come here. I like to take my time
23:50Where would I rush? Come on?
23:54Just kiss me
23:56I
24:08Just really need to speak to my girl right now
24:10She knows that I've been quiet and I think it's about time. I tell her what's been going on
24:16So why are you at home with the apartment with him after the commitment ceremony?
24:20we had a major argument because I just don't like the way you were spoken to and
24:25What upset me the most was right after the commitment ceremony said to me what's wrong with you and I said
24:30I'm really missing my children that looks like
24:33And he just went fuck this can't be asked for this and walked off
24:38That's that's out of order what is him saying that yeah, but he knows that your kids are your life
24:43Yeah, and if he's with you, he's with your kids. Yeah
24:51Yes, my g
24:54Not bad
24:58So, have you been what's been going on I've been okay. Yeah
25:03Me and Holly didn't spend the night together last night after the commitment ceremony
25:08I think the whole process is just overwhelming for her to be fair
25:12And she's missing the kids, too
25:14I think she's kind of dealt with it quite well up until now
25:17So I mean because I think anyone who's in here with kids, it must be really really hard
25:22Yeah, so I think it's just hit her maybe all at once but you know for me I cannot
25:28Relate to what she's feeling right now. I don't have those fatherly instincts
25:34Because I'm not a dad yet
25:36So what does Alex thinks going on right now thinks I'm just feeling down about the kids and stuff
25:41But the reason I wanted to speak to you is yeah, I'm going home today
25:45Yeah, don't
25:55I need to have some time to think. I
26:00Understand obviously why they were doing it
26:02I'm sorry. Don't be sorry
26:05So I'm gonna go home today and just have a little bit of a think and then I'll be coming back. Okay
26:11Okay
26:12It's just got really bad. Now. It's like I'm really unhappy. I'm not myself
26:18Sometimes time is good. You know, they say time's a great healer
26:22So maybe this time away just help you get bring more clarity. Yeah what you truly want
26:27I think I just need to go home and see my babies get my head clear of what I want exactly. I
26:36Can imagine it's kind of thrown you slightly so where's your head out now?
26:39I mean I have a message there or anything because I'm just thinking you're the one that's chosen to spend time away from me
26:45So when you're ready, you'll contact me. I am NOT running after nobody
26:49Okay, but you should be the one to maybe reach out if I wanted space from somebody I take my space
26:54I'm gonna ready to talk to him. I'm gonna go talk to him
26:56I'm telling you what a woman would want in this position
26:59I shouldn't have to tell him that he needs to come and comfort me when I've said that I'm upset and I feel a bit
27:05Shit
27:06Do you miss having her there? Do you miss?
27:08Her doing things for you. Do you miss having a laugh like
27:12Do you feel like you miss her? I do care about her. Yeah, but it's do you care about her enough?
27:18Yeah, that's the question. I mean Holly a good, you know, everything's there but
27:24To get through this whole process. We need each other
27:27Me and Alex are just not getting on. I'm gonna go home. I need some space get me out of there
27:39I
27:49This week's a love-hate week Polly said that she don't think I'm very romantic
27:53So I've sent Polly out for a bit got a little cheeky surprise for her
27:58I had a little cute idea that I would do a little walkway of candles with petals on the floor and then cook her one
28:03of my favorite meals
28:09Decided to do it for Polly just to show her that I can be romantic and I do care
28:15Shut
28:18Hello shut up little surprise
28:29Probably happy wife happy life
28:32usual chair
28:34I've cooked you a beautiful meal
28:36Thank you, that's good, you know, it's all so good. I think I did better as well
28:42You said I'm not very romantic
28:45What I'll show you
28:47How romantic I can be. Yeah, this is very romantic. I feel like you don't get more romantic than this
28:53This is absolutely
28:55Incredible. I have never had anything like this from a partner before and the fact that is from Adam
29:01Just makes it so much more special
29:04Is it the most romantic thing someone's ever done for you? Yeah, really? Yeah, really. Yeah
29:10So do you take back that I'm not romantic?
29:15Yeah, I
29:17Think after this little romantic little meal thing. I've planned if you don't fall in love with me after this
29:22There's no hope
29:24Definitely feel like this makes up a little bit for the lack of PDA
29:30Hmm, it's something that I will eventually get better
29:34I am feeling quite giddy. It's just
29:37It's really embarrassing actually. Yeah. No, I do feel like her. Yeah, I feel like a little girl with her first crush
29:46Well, I feel like it would be the perfect time to do the love to our love hate week
29:55Yeah, let's do it
29:58It's the first one I love
30:03Your eyes
30:05The first thing I noticed when you walk down the aisle was your eyes. Oh
30:10That's really sweet. Is that yeah, and you just made me smile and you instantly made me feel calm and I just won't forget them
30:17eyes
30:22The love part of this task is a lot easier than the hate part and that's because it's hard to think of things I hate
30:27About Polly, but there's quite a lot of things that I love about
30:30I don't know never say never love could blossom. Who knows?
30:41You're becoming emotionally available
30:46Which is huge
30:48Compared to what you were like never speak about your emotions. It's nothing that you've ever done
30:55It's been a problem in the past, but I really do feel like over the last few weeks
31:00you have really really made a shift in how you've been in who you are and
31:06That says a lot to me about how you feel about me and how you feel when you're around me
31:15There is love in the air tonight just want to grab him and snog him I
31:20Feel like with love hate week. I've put a bit of
31:30I
31:47Was so glad that Charlene is here
31:49It's love hate week. One of my hates was there's no intimacy in Casper and mine relationship
31:55I'm hoping Charlene can bring some ideas bring some tasks for us to do to build that because at the moment there is nada
32:03Understand that intimacy has been an issue over the last few weeks
32:06Yeah, you kissed at the retreat, but then Casper you felt Emma moved too quickly after that
32:13She was way too forward sex shouldn't be a sales pitch
32:18You know people are turned on in different ways aren't they and they're turned off
32:24Yeah ways to and it's about understanding each other and working out what works for your partner
32:31Couples are struggling with intimacy. One of the activities I usually suggest them would be the melting hug
32:39So the melting hug works best when you're standing up and it gives you that opportunity to really hug your partner
32:46So if you stand up, yeah, of course
32:48I
33:02Think
33:08Okay, I'd like you to stay in that emotional space that you're in
33:14This hug is really good first time I felt like Emma's lent on me and you know
33:21I've had to support her in some way
33:23I mean, she's very strong and independent as a person and so for me almost being forced by Charlene into that
33:31Helped me
33:33It's the longest hug I think I've ever had
33:35I mean for me. It was the first time it felt like you'd lent on me in this process. Oh
33:42You know and I actually quite liked it
33:44Emma listen to what Casper said there around it feeling nice you leading into him
33:49And I wonder if if that's maybe what Casper is asking of you to show
33:54That a vulnerable side of you and to and to lead into him
33:58I think that's a really good point. I think that's a really good point. I think that's a really good point
34:02That a vulnerable side of you and to and to lean on him a little bit more
34:07How do you feel about?
34:10Feeling more vulnerable around me
34:16At this point in time, I don't think I can do that with Casper like that's that's my challenge
34:24At the moment, I don't think I like you enough to be able to do that
34:33I'm really trying to be more emotionally vulnerable and relaxing and trying to show him that side of me
34:40but difficult to say that I can completely let go because
34:45Yeah, I don't I don't necessarily
34:48Feel that vulnerable around him. I
34:51Hear you Emma. I think that it could be difficult to be emotionally vulnerable if there have been other factors at play
34:57That haven't made you feel emotionally safe. Mm-hmm
35:01To find love you've got to let those guards down and have that person who you want to rely on
35:06And they told me clearly tonight that I'm not it
35:10for me, it's gonna make me pull away a little bit and it's very hard to connect with someone who
35:15Isn't emotionally available. I think it's been one of our sticking points in our relationship
35:21Now
35:22Challenge over the next few days would be to keep practicing the intimacy task and to continue to have open
35:29Communication about what your boundaries are. I need to learn this even if even if Emma and I don't make it work
35:38There are things I need to learn about how I can build intimacy and gain more comfort
35:43quicker
35:44So that whoever I might be dating doesn't think he's standing off
35:48He doesn't fancy me, but I need to learn how to do this for a future relationship
35:53Yeah, we don't want to talk about this because we're talking about the two of you. Okay
35:59It's
36:02Difficult to know where my feelings are at making comments like practicing intimacy for a future girlfriend
36:11The man is still wearing a wedding ring on his finger. It's not nice to her
36:15I
36:40Went to the zoo and I couldn't get one out of the zoo
36:45I
36:47Think sometimes she thinks that I don't think about a lot, but I do I don't want to ever think that I'm not taking this
36:54Seriously
36:57Need to give him a name
36:58Cola Cola Cola the koala koala the koala. How are you feeling today?
37:04I'm all right. I know you've been feeling miserable unhappy
37:08I got a surprise for you. What we're doing not telling you
37:13Hmm
37:14Karen doesn't know what we're doing today
37:17When we're going now, come on out. Yeah, let's go get ready right now. You need to change your shoes
37:23I'm really really hoping that's gonna bring him back to life a little bit
37:27I
37:39Feel really sad about the way thing were left between me and Sasha
37:43So I'm gonna do everything I can to make it right
37:47We've got a day
37:49Which a kickboxing and I'm hoping should be into it because it's her passion
37:56Get back on track, I'm actually missing a lot. Oh, we are very good together. I'm a strong dog
38:12Fine
38:16Okay, yeah you thank you for coming
38:20He has pissed me off and it's gonna take a lot of work to come back from that. Yeah today appreciate
38:29Maybe cut it and some kickboxing stuff. I'm still really
38:35Angry about yesterday. I think the way you handled it wasn't good at all. It was fucked
38:43It's
38:45Probably gonna take a bit more than a boxing session
38:50But I see the effort you've made with this today
38:54And it's a good start
38:56So I'm just looking forward to doing what I love to be honest
39:00And that's why I've come just because I could do with a kickboxing session
39:03I really want to be angry at Ross for organizing this as shown that he's took an interest in what I love
39:11What I care about and a lot of thought has gone into this
39:25Throwing your wedding ring. That's for telling me you call me friends of anyone
39:29I
39:37Remember when I said I'm not very good with the word and I need to
39:41Think before we speak. Sorry instead of doing that. I wrote you a letter
39:46Okay
39:54To Sasha, I just want to apologize for the way I was behaving
39:58I was selfish
40:00My behavior was disgusting. I
40:03Feel sad after what happened. I will from now on control my big gob
40:07I will think twice before I say anything or I could even write I
40:13Promise to make this work and to make you happy. I
40:16Miss you need your cuddles and love you your boy Ross kiss kiss kiss
40:24This is cute
40:25You should write more
40:27This is what I'm gonna do from now on because it's much easier to me brother
40:31I mean it's working cuz my fucking god and shit. No good. No yesterday when you can say sorry
40:37To me it felt like you didn't mean II
40:41Look, you didn't say any of this not when we think that you didn't care
40:45Yeah, but I'm like a sad paper and pen helped me 100%
40:50Reading the letter is like a weight has been lifted off me. I'm like, thank God
40:55These are all the things that I needed to hear yesterday, but at least I'm hearing them today. I just want to die. I
41:02Love you a lot and I got something for you
41:07Okay
41:09I
41:19Want to show you if you like you know, I love you. Thank you. You'd have to put it on for me
41:25Thank you. Good job
41:29What do you like it I love it, thank you
41:31I
41:33Mean I'm coming back in now, maybe
41:37All I can mean to this needing Ross to show me that he's made the effort
41:42I'm feeling so relieved and happy. I
41:46Know Ross can move back in and we can get back on track
42:01Come on
42:09Having already shared their dislikes the rest of the couples decide to share their loves with one another
42:18No, how you doing
42:21Yes, basically, I didn't want to be superficial and you're very good-looking. You're very beautiful
42:26I don't want to be like how your beauty your smile your eyes. I tried to be more in terms of your character, you know
42:31No, I like that. I thought I would have been too easy. Yeah, so like your loyalty
42:38You've got a good girl code. I thought you're quite loyal to me as well. Yeah. Oh, that's very nice of you to say that
42:43I love that
42:45So for this one
42:48You bring out the best version of me
42:51Yeah, I I've always struggled in previous relationships that I've always tried to be perfect and with you I'm completely my goofy
43:01Weird funny self and you still love me for me. Yeah, I feel like
43:07Because we're both so chill. It's quite easy. So yeah, it's good that you can be yourself around me
43:12It's nice to feel like you can as well. Yeah
43:15You
43:17make me feel safe and
43:19I've never really had that before it like I feel like you're quite protective over me
43:23Like I feel like you're a safe space for me to come to it's okay. He's safer. Don't worry. No, I know even when I'm crying
43:31They tell me yours then
43:34I'm gonna get shy. I love that. You're never judgmental
43:38Trick I feel like you treat everyone the same don't matter about the background where they come from
43:44You just treat everyone equal. I noticed that in you're from day dark and
43:50I love it
43:58Let's get going I'm body freezing
44:02That's y'all
44:08Oh
44:11That's cute
44:15Thank you, yeah lover
44:18I'm currently feeling really good about Ross. It's really important that we stay positive today and
44:24Just keep working on our relationship and making sure that it's only up from here. I
44:31Think it'll be really good for us to write down the things we love about each other after the week we've had
44:38so I don't want to just
44:39Spill it out on there. I think we should go away really think about it
44:43I'll write down what I love about you and you write down what you love about me
44:46Okay, but I want you to really think about it the best three could be about ten paragraph then
44:53Good keep it like that
44:58You excited yeah, I don't know what it is still
45:02So you can tell us what we're doing I
45:05Really really hope that me and Kieran can build this life together
45:10God tell us you're gonna love it. That's all I wanted coming in here was to build a life with somebody
45:31I
45:46Came on the corner me eyes just lit up with tears super emotional
45:51obviously I haven't seen since the wedding day, so let me say Hugo is
45:55Beautiful, so shall we go in and have a little run?
46:01I
46:07Thought he was gonna jump that day
46:16Seeing Kieran smile
46:18Just seeing that meant the absolute world to me because that's the Kieran that I know and that's the Kieran that I married
46:29I
46:30Feel like we are one big happy family. Let's hope Kieran feels the same
46:47Right
46:51But yeah, I had a different
46:54I love it. I wrote
46:59You're a gentleman
47:02You always give me princess treatment you hold
47:07Doors open for me. You're a provider. So you always spoil me. You always put me first
47:14so
47:16You're a gentleman
47:18Does this show why I love you
47:21So I've had me bracelet. I've had my balloons. I've had my flowers, but I think we can move forward now
47:26I think I forgive you. Thank you
47:35Thank you very much, thank you cheers to Hugo cheers to Hugo little lad
47:40That
47:44Was lush that I wasn't expecting that at all. I would say the last time we got the same as a wedding day
47:50Was it nice to like have that memory back? Oh, yeah, totally. Did it like make you feel better totally?
48:00Got another little surprise for you another one. Yeah, so we can have a look through our wedding photos
48:08To help bring that smile back to your face. Oh
48:22My god, look at your face you look beautiful
48:27You look awful, thank you. So you see
48:32Everyone's just so happy for us. That's my favorite
48:38There wasn't a yawn in the room and there was no one upset in the room like everyone was just having an absolute blast and
48:44You could just tell that was this totally rooting for
48:47Hugo
48:52You're like a mermaid literally a mermaid
48:56You're like a mermaid literally a mermaid
49:06It's not funny happy tears
49:12Things are different with me and Karen now
49:14But I'm just hoping that seeing those pictures has helped him remember how good we are. I
49:21I
49:23Really hoped that it just helped bring that light spot back a bit and like remember the wedding and like yeah, like
49:32How good we can in our house today has brought back a bit of a spark
49:40It's not always sunshine and rainbows though, is it
49:43Me and Christina do have that there is something there and we do have a very very very good connection
49:48But even after a day like we had space is still pretty much the same as it was yesterday and
49:54That's a really hard thing to say, but it's the truth and I've got to be myself in this experiment
49:58This is what it's all about
50:03Next time
50:06The couples head off on separate days out
50:10But bad blood within the group
50:12Alex is already ruining my spa day game on. I'm ready for it is unleashed in a revealing question
50:18Who amongst all the couples is lying about their feelings?
50:22I'm gonna say you at the end of the day
50:24You're the one who said that you would switch husbands. So you need to fight down to fight down
50:29Hey bad, would it have got if Ross wasn't there? I don't want to hear nothing from your mouth
50:33Fuck you and a photograph. Let's make him jealous. Oh my god. Let me see
50:39Put Sasha's trust to the test
51:09You