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Context:
~ Sex: Why Do People Place So Much Importance on It?
~ Both genders would suffer if this happens.
~ This is why "equality" is a trap.
~ How do you know this is true?
Music Credit: Milind Date
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Context:
~ Sex: Why Do People Place So Much Importance on It?
~ Both genders would suffer if this happens.
~ This is why "equality" is a trap.
~ How do you know this is true?
Music Credit: Milind Date
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00:00 So, why do we give so much importance to sex?
00:06 Like all the advertisements have…
00:09 And why does a man at 25 or 28 would have propensity to be depressed if he is not getting sex?
00:15 I think animals give far less importance to sex than human beings do.
00:23 It's because animals have no need to use sex as a proxy for their other unmet desires.
00:38 Animals just do not have too many desires.
00:41 So they don't have to cover up for their unfulfilled desires.
00:46 Man just has too many desires.
00:48 Probably at the center of all of these is just one principle, unfulfilled desires.
00:53 But because there are just so many desires, so man has to somehow give himself passing
01:02 marks.
01:03 I am failing everywhere, failing everywhere.
01:06 At some place let me succeed.
01:10 So he succeeds in the genital domain.
01:16 It's absurd in some ways.
01:19 The entire day the fellow has been an abject failure everywhere.
01:23 He has failed in the office, he has failed in his bets, he has failed in his relationships
01:33 and he has colossal desires within, all with their hungry mouths wide open, all asking
01:41 for food and he cannot provide for all of them or even half of them.
01:49 So how does he maintain his self-esteem?
01:53 When it comes to the end of the day, when he is about to retire, he is on the bed, he
02:02 has to answer himself.
02:03 So has there been any fulfillment in the day, anything that you want?
02:10 No.
02:11 Anything that you could make your way into?
02:15 So finally he says, okay fine, if I couldn't make my way into anything, there is at least
02:20 one place I can penetrate and declare myself a winner.
02:25 There is at least one fort I can reach because there is nothing else I could do.
02:29 So that's the reason why lustfulness, I suppose is much more in human beings than in any animal.
02:36 And Acharya ji, about family too, because there are dogs here, there are some new puppies
02:44 here but I see that only females are living with them and once they grow a little bit,
02:49 they don't have any family and then the puppies will go their way.
02:53 And human maintains a family all his life.
02:56 So you told about sex, it is different for animals and for humans.
03:00 Family is also a major part in human society.
03:05 This is a valid point that even if having a kid, she can take care of at a certain point
03:10 and let him be on his own.
03:14 Why do you need to carry the whole liability throughout your life?
03:17 So it's actually not a…
03:20 That's the thing.
03:21 There is a social order and that social order is born out of ignorance and both the man
03:29 and the woman are victims of that ignorant social order.
03:34 So, anything born out of ignorance, first of all, will just not be good for anybody.
03:42 These two things have to be seen concurrently.
03:44 One, the kind of belief system we are living in is coming out of spiritual ignorance.
03:51 Therefore, it just cannot be good or auspicious.
03:54 Secondly, if it is not good, it is not good for everybody and anybody.
04:02 Anything that is poisonous cannot be medicine to one of the genders.
04:07 So we, all are fellow sufferers.
04:11 It's just that people suffer in their own particular personal ways.
04:16 Acharya ji, I have a question then.
04:19 Then our stats on the YouTube channel particularly show that the gender participation when it
04:25 comes to the viewership, it's highly skewed in the men's favor.
04:30 Then till now, because this was something which is a very, very point that just hit
04:36 me that obviously, biology solely cannot be the determinant or a main dominant determinant
04:43 because there are escapes to the whole thing.
04:46 If a child is grown, you are free to ascend.
04:50 Then why is it that women choose, like less number of women choose ascension?
04:57 Just going by the view…
04:58 Because it is normal human tendency to seek cheap validation and self-respect.
05:08 If women get a lot of appreciation and esteem and respect, admiration that's, at other
05:20 places, let's say, places where they can just post their glamorous pics and get appreciated
05:32 for that, why would they come to our channel?
05:37 Why?
05:38 And remember, it's the men who are giving them that appreciation.
05:43 So if you have fewer women on your channel, is it only the women that are responsible?
05:50 The men too is equally responsible.
05:52 The women have been lured away to places where the men want them to be.
06:01 The men want them to be at places where they fulfill men's appetite.
06:08 A totally ignorant girl, totally ignorant girl, she just knows nothing, she understands
06:17 nothing, she sees nothing, she hears nothing, she is just nothing when it comes to the consciousness.
06:24 She starts posting her semi-nude pics and starts getting a million likes and then million
06:31 followers.
06:32 Why will she now come to Acharya Prashant's channel?
06:37 Why will she come?
06:38 And who gave her all those likes and adulation?
06:44 Was it the women who came to follow and like her?
06:49 The men, the men.
06:51 So we do not know who is to be blamed, we do not know.
06:58 And it's difficult for anybody to give up all that admiration and come to a place where
07:05 you would be thoroughly disrobed and even scolded.
07:11 There you are being admired and valued for your physical features and here you come and
07:18 you are being told that your physicality is a myth, is false, the body is not who you
07:24 are and there the body is yielding you so much respect and everything possible.
07:34 Why do you want to come here?
07:35 You know what, that's the reason why women won't come this side.
07:38 But again please understand, if the men keep the women on that side and do not allow them
07:45 to come to the wisdom side, it's not merely the women who would suffer.
07:51 Because say what you may, but given your physical constitution, you too would be drawn towards
07:58 the women and if you have corrupted the bulk of the women, what kind of women are you going
08:05 to get for yourself?
08:08 And then think of the suffering.
08:11 So it's in some sense when you have a rotten woman in your life, it's the collective sins
08:20 of the entire male community, rather the entire society that's come back to avenge itself
08:29 on you.
08:30 As they say, the chicken have come home to roost.
08:35 That's what you have been doing through the centuries.
08:40 Now the consequences of your actions are in front of you in the shape of your girlfriend.
08:48 She is not your girlfriend, she is Karmphal.
08:52 This is the collective vengeance of all the wronged ones.
09:02 And being a member of the men's club, you are then obliged to bear the consequences
09:14 of what all the men and even all the women have done in the past.
09:22 But I have a question.
09:23 The question is that I totally agree with the fact that they are being alluded and they
09:28 have been given a lot of things, men alone have been given, but my question comes from
09:36 the fact that both have the desire of peace and truth and liberty.
09:48 Certainly the position might be alluring, but after a while, aren't the women seeing
09:56 it through?
09:57 There is a problem.
09:59 The truth is respectable.
10:01 I want truth.
10:03 But the truth is formless.
10:05 So I have to spot truth, locate truth, determine truth through its characteristics.
10:13 One of the characteristics of the truth is that it is respectable.
10:17 Now the truth is respectable and I want truth.
10:20 So it is easy for me to confuse respectability with truth.
10:25 So wherever I get respect, I will be at that place assuming that this place is true.
10:34 You get the appended logic.
10:40 See all of you are saying good things about me.
10:42 I am a woman.
10:44 All that you like about me is just my body, as is usually the case.
10:48 But all of you are saying great things about me and none of you are honest or mind you
10:53 direct enough to tell me that all you are gaping at is my breasts.
10:57 Right?
10:58 We say women are not direct enough.
11:00 How many men are direct enough to tell the woman that my entire consciousness is right
11:07 now focused on your cleavage.
11:10 We don't do that.
11:11 Definitely.
11:12 So I am a woman and all of you are admiring me and respecting me and doing all these things
11:16 to me.
11:19 How do I know that this is not the truth?
11:23 How do I know?
11:24 Please tell me.
11:25 You know because you are the plotter.
11:29 You know because the conspiracy has been hatched in your mind.
11:33 How do I know?
11:34 Secondly, when you get something that is sweet and likeable, then you don't even want to
11:41 know.
11:42 It's so nice, my boyfriend, my husband or all these suitors around me, they come and
11:50 they all say only nice things about me.
11:54 Only nice things about me.
11:58 How do I know this is not true?
12:01 So even though all conscious beings have an urge for the truth, but the truth remember
12:07 is nameless and formless, not easy to situate, not easy to ascertain where it is.
12:18 So how do we then try to locate the truth using its characteristics?
12:27 And those characteristics are where we lose the game.
12:30 But it is the same for man.
12:35 If a man is having a high paid job.
12:38 That's exactly the point, son.
12:40 It's the same for men.
12:42 Then why is that women are less on the channel and men are more, when in the same situation
12:48 they are subjected to the same situation?
12:49 It merely means that even if there are more men on the channel, it's not going to help
12:55 them till the point there is an equal proportion.
13:02 It does not mean that more men are going to get liberated, 85% men will get liberated
13:06 and only 15% women will benefit.
13:09 It merely means that even though 85% are not going to benefit.
13:13 Because they do not just have Acharyaji's literature in their lives, they also have
13:16 those men in their lives, those women in their lives.
13:20 Obviously.
13:21 Even the ones who are there, they are not there for liberation, most of them can't even…
13:26 Many of them are there because the women didn't go to them.
13:31 Exactly.
13:32 So they are there to just lick their wounds.
13:38 It's just that I end up inflicting deeper wounds.
13:45 I have a question Acharyaji.
13:47 So in my childhood I have seen that I was born in a village, so whenever there was a
13:54 Bhagavad Gatha or something, there were more number of women in those Kathas and even in
13:58 the house, the daily worship was the work of the women and not men.
14:03 So I had this thing in my mind that women are more devoted and they have more, they
14:11 want to worship and they are more religious, I used to think.
14:15 So is that not the case?
14:16 Because when we are seeing on the channel, we are seeing that women are less than men.
14:20 So how do you reconcile?
14:22 If women are indeed more religious, why are they so very absent from truly spiritual channels?
14:30 So that's what my question is.
14:34 That just tells you that your premises were false.
14:41 So I have a question on this topic.
14:44 So in Vivek Chudamani in the beginning, it says that to be born a human is a great advance
14:52 towards liberation and then he also says, if I'm understanding this correctly, that
14:56 to be born with male characteristics and he defines them as courage, focus and concentration
15:03 is an added advantage.
15:06 So does this, maybe I think I'm misinterpreting this, is he really saying that men are more
15:13 suited to liberation, which means that if a man is not liberated, he is actually worse
15:22 off than a woman because he is naturally inclined to have those qualities.
15:26 He is talking of the third set of values we referred to.
15:30 These things are not really the preserve of men.
15:35 If you talk of courage or focus or concentration, think of the concentration a woman can have
15:41 on so many things in her life.
15:44 That kind of concentration is unthinkable for us men.
15:50 So it's not courage or concentration, it's about concentrating on the right thing.
15:56 It's about courage to let go and that's not really a man thing.
16:07 Those three sets we talked of, it's a third set.
16:12 So that's why probably the word male characteristics has been used.
16:17 Those male characteristics, I repeat, are not the preserve of males.
16:22 Those characteristics can be found or can be developed in women as well.
16:30 So the route will probably be different, the approach has to be customized.
16:37 Currently this trend is going on, mostly liberal things, where they say that women are, they
16:45 are victims and like a man is something, we have suppressed them in the workplace or all
16:52 such stuff.
16:53 So is it the active effort to avoid the third set of…
16:57 Exactly.
16:58 Because they don't want to say, correct.
17:03 I don't want to ascend, I would rather swap places with the men.
17:11 I would say historically man has had the upper hand, now I want to have the upper hand or
17:19 at least an equal status.
17:22 But still you are asking for an equal status in the same plane, irrespective of whether
17:29 you were on the side of the exploited ones or on the side of the exploiter or somewhere
17:38 in between these two at an equal distance from these two.
17:42 What remains constant is the plane you have been living on and that plane is the normal
17:49 dualistic plane, you are not rising, so this won't help.
17:56 In fact, you put it very nicely, this might just be an internal conspiracy against the
18:03 real thing that needs to be done.
18:07 Women do not need to match men or be equal to men.
18:11 Men are themselves in a very horrible place.
18:14 Why do you want to take their sicknesses upon yourself?
18:24 You would fully well agree that the lives of men are hardly the kind of stuff that any
18:37 human being should aspire for.
18:40 I don't know what a woman would get by placing herself equal to men.
18:49 Maybe from the other side of the fence, the grass or whatever appears greener and longer
18:56 here but…
18:57 So, Acharya ji, I have, so we are talking about the third set of qualities, so can we
19:06 also discuss about what this third set is and how a woman can come to this third set
19:17 and how a man can come to this third set.
19:24 Tell me, that's the reason why both men and women are in bondage.
19:31 Remember so much but you don't remember this third set.
19:38 That's Shad Sampat.
19:46 Vairagya, Vivek, Shad Sampat, Mumuksha.
19:55 That's Sadhan Chaturstha.
19:56 That's broadly the values I am referring to.
20:04 You must value detachment, you must value discretion, you must value Shambham, Uparati,
20:13 Tithiksha etc. and you must have a strong desire towards the truth or liberation from
20:21 bondages.
20:22 You must have a strong aversion to any kind of falsenesses.
20:26 I just don't dislike being enslaved.
20:32 That's what you should value, not your body as a woman, not your attitude as a man.
20:39 Both these sets of values are very very false and both these sets feed upon each other.
20:49 One set exists on the back of the other one.
20:58 Because the woman is tender, therefore the man has to be harder and that's how the two
21:08 go together, the tender woman and the hard-looking man.
21:20 These two coexist in duality, no point blaming just one set and if you can see very clearly
21:30 that one set exists, it's just a scary pointer that the other one too definitely does.
21:42 One cannot exist without the other.
21:46 Sickness in one side is definitely an indicator of sickness on the other side as well and
21:54 both these sicknesses will live and disappear together.
21:59 If you want to treat the woman, treat the man.
22:02 If you want to treat the man, treat the woman.
22:04 I have a question.
22:07 So I notice in history, most of the great artists, most of the great scientists, most
22:13 of the great musicians, most of the great statesmen, they all tend to be male and I'm
22:19 wondering is this just because women are choosing not to participate that way, is it some form
22:26 of oppression?
22:28 Why is it, or am I just misreading the data and just assuming that it's all men?
22:33 What we call as greatness might again be just a man thing.
22:42 After all you see, if we define ourselves as unfulfilled consciousnesses, what really
22:49 is greatness?
22:52 Achievement.
22:54 Greatness is a certain purity of consciousness, a certain leviation of consciousness.
23:02 Does that really have to come in very, very predetermined ways?
23:11 The modes of expressions that you just talked of, does greatness come exclusively to them
23:22 or can I live and behave in very different ways and yet be liberated?
23:30 It's just that that liberation will never be acknowledged by the society because the
23:36 society thinks of greatness or liberation only in very ready-made and preset kind of
23:46 ways.
23:50 The expression of greatness in man takes one form, the expression of greatness in women
24:05 sometimes may take a totally different form.
24:08 Even in the spiritual field and historically we have seen that most saints have been men.
24:20 Even when we talk of Rishis of Upanishads, we don't have a few saints.
24:25 Most saints that we know of, most saints that chose to have a public persona.
24:31 Even when we talk of Rishis of Upanishads, we don't have a female element.
24:36 How do you know that the words of the Rishis were their own, exclusively their own?
24:45 If a person operates in a context, can you have a great Rishi with very debauched women
24:55 in his life?
24:57 Please tell me.
25:01 Shubhankarji is saying he is a bachelor.
25:09 He might be a bachelor but that does not mean that there are no women in his life.
25:17 Even if he is a bachelor, what does that mean?
25:19 He is at least interacting with men and the men you say are having a great influence on
25:25 him.
25:26 The men have been instrumental in turning him into a sage.
25:31 What about those men who have been influencing him?
25:34 Have those men too been totally empty of women?
25:39 When a society yields a great product, whether in music, art, literature, any field, it just
25:48 cannot come from one gender and when a society is rotten, it's not one gender that can be
25:55 responsible for it.
25:57 So this is a very childish way of looking at it that the sages in the Upanishads were
26:05 mostly all men.
26:08 Sir, you read the names of the men, you do not know of the women in that ecosystem.
26:21 Rishis were not known to be necessarily single or celibates.
26:32 There were so many Rishis who were leading married lives, they even had kids.
26:43 Had the Rishis been celibate, this Aryan race won't have…
26:48 The Aryan race can come from the other people as well, so, but there are so many references.
26:58 Some even had two wives.
27:05 You have fathers teaching their sons in the Vedantic literature.
27:13 So the Rishis might be uttering the verses, but mind you that the verses too come from
27:22 an entire environment and that environment comprises of women as well.
27:28 Had the women been all ignorant, the verses couldn't have arrived.
27:37 So why don't the women want to be known for this type of, that's a biological thing.
27:43 They don't want to hog the limelight in general.
27:48 It's okay if we take a back seat, it's okay if somebody else is known for it and felicitated.
28:01 The desire to be the front face is biologically weaker in women.
28:08 How is this trait emerging from the body, Acharya ji?
28:13 How is it emerging?
28:14 It is there in the body, it is there in the body.
28:16 She keeps it when she is pregnant.
28:20 She keeps the demands of the baby ahead of her own needs.
28:29 Doesn't she feel resentful doing this?
28:33 She is biologically trained to do that.
28:35 In biology there is hardly free will available to resent or support.
28:42 Even little girls if you see, there is a little girl, there is a boy and they fight over an apple.
28:50 Even if she is being brought up in a perfectly liberated environment, the girl is more likely
28:54 to just yield the apple to her brother.
29:01 The desire to be very grossly and visibly victorious is not so much there in the woman.
29:13 The reason being her physicality itself obviously.
29:16 She cannot win the war always in gross and physical terms.
29:22 She is weaker.
29:24 So her victories happen on another plane.
29:28 Her victories happen on the emotional plane.
29:33 Her stuff is more nuanced.
29:39 So is this why I feel like I can never win a discussion or an argument with a woman because
29:44 she is more skilled at the emotional.
29:46 You can win a discussion against a woman but she will win against you in some other plane.
29:55 So physically you are stronger if there is a tussle, arm wrestling or something, obviously
30:03 you will win.
30:06 But when it will come to the emotional thing, that's where she is more skilled.
30:11 She will just outwit you and you won't even know you have been beaten.
30:14 Yeah, that's happened to me many times and I guess even though I've had these frustrating
30:19 experiences, the moment I see an attractive woman, it's like this whole lifetime of frustration
30:26 just disappears and I'm just locked into her.
30:32 Agreed.
30:34 Totally.
30:36 The thing is none of these traits are going to take us far.
30:48 The woman's tricks, the man's compulsiveness, neither of this works.
31:04 All of this is just animalistic, all of this is biological.
31:09 Doesn't help anybody either side.
31:20 So if it's animalistic, is it always going to happen throughout my life?
31:31 Consciousness is a certain purity of consciousness, a certain leviation of consciousness.
31:37 It's just that that liberation will never be acknowledged by the society because the
31:42 society thinks of greatness or liberation only in very ready-made and preset kind of
31:50 ways.
31:51 See, some physical characteristics you will carry, right?
31:55 You are born sexed, that will be there for both genders to survive.
32:00 Both of them have to have certain advantages.
32:03 Because if they both want to ascend, they both have their own ways of ascending.
32:08 You can't enslave somebody without yourself being enslaved.
32:12 Spiritual ignorance is where all of this is coming from.
32:15 It has robbed us of the basic normal fun of life.
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