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Lucio Buffalmano is a sociologist and a world expert on power dynamics, strategies, and men's self-development.
In 2016, Lucio founded ThePowerMoves.com to help good men empower themselves, achieve their goals, and win at life.
Today, it’s the world's most popular website on power and strategies.
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00:00That the fiat currency is a scam, that the judicial system is a scam, that the elections
00:04are a scam.
00:05We're talking about some...
00:06Scammers think everything is a scam.
00:09Hi guys, my name is Lucio and we are going to review right now a chat between Andrew
00:16Tate, who you probably know, and Michael Franceses, who was a mafia member and a bit of a scammer
00:23himself as well.
00:24It's a very interesting sit-down.
00:26I started now that I wanted to catch your attention with the scammer beginning, but
00:31it is an important part of this video.
00:34As well, there are many good things to learn, so let's go in order.
00:39First of all, it is true, there is a tendency for high Machiavellian people to see everything
00:44as a scam and to think of everybody else as potential scammers and fraudsters.
00:51Usually people who think this way tend to be high Machiavellians themselves.
00:55There is nothing wrong with that.
00:57I'm a strong believer that you need to be a little bit Machiavellian to advance in life.
01:01However, Machiavellianism also comes with a cost.
01:04So what we embrace on The Power Moves is more like a healthy, enlightened Machiavellianism,
01:10where you can be Machiavellian with words, with your business, whenever you need to,
01:14with other Machiavellians, while also you want to be less Machiavellian with your closer
01:18relationships and the people that deserve your best self.
01:23That is the best sweet spot, in my opinion, and I'm pretty convinced about that because
01:27I live my life that way, and so far it worked really well.
01:32Andrew Tate tends to be more on the extreme Machiavellianism.
01:36You struggle to see the potential for win-win, and I believe that also has cost him in his
01:43life.
01:44And Tate himself proves the point.
01:46Just a little bit later, one of the costs is when you think that way, then you become
01:52a scammer yourself, and smart scammers can be winners in life.
01:56However, when you scam too much, usually you end up paying at least some costs, hopefully
02:03heavy costs, because I don't like scammers.
02:06So listen to him say that.
02:08So but society's just got them all messed up now, and I feel like they've lost vested
02:12interest in the future of themselves and society, which probably ties back into why people are
02:17getting away with what they're getting away with, because they look at the politicians
02:19and go, it's a scam anyway, it's all lies, who cares, it's all bullshit.
02:22See that's exactly what happens when you tend to think that everything is a scam.
02:27Then you become a scammer yourself, or you lose trust and faith in the world in general,
02:33in other people, and that is a heavy cost, a heavy burden to have.
02:38Also because look, is there a scam in politics?
02:42Of course.
02:43What a stupid question.
02:45The point is, at which level is it scammy?
02:49Or is everybody scammy?
02:51And the answer is no, it's always a matter of degree.
02:54You can always find some honesty or some honest people, even in a heavily corrupt society
02:59or system.
03:00A system can be corrupt, it doesn't mean it's 100% corrupt.
03:05When you think that everybody and everything is 100% corrupt, then you become Andrew Tate.
03:12And I know that many guys will be happy to be Andrew Tate, but trust, you can slip around
03:18as much as he does, or even more, because I don't think he's such a great player, to
03:21be honest, and you can make as much money as he does, or even more, without going to
03:26that extreme of Machiavellianism, and without becoming a scammer yourself.
03:31Now I want to focus a little bit more on Michael Francesi here, he was a mobster.
03:36Generally he's a cool guy, I like him, I respect him, especially in the beginning when he burst
03:40into the scene, I used to follow him quite a bit.
03:42I learned a lot from him.
03:44And he has become, with time, a new Christian, he's a very Bible-thumbling type of guy, trying
03:50to convert others.
03:52And now he's teaching us how to be upstanding citizens, and he's also a Trump supporter,
03:57which also tells you something, in my opinion.
03:59So he focuses mostly on saying that politicians are corrupt, but mostly Democrat politicians.
04:05However, now, listen to this piece, and try to tease out what he means and what he says
04:12about him.
04:14Because this is what a lot of people struggle with, to read between the lines.
04:18So let's do that.
04:19You know, they wrote a book about an investigator that tried to find where I had my money buried,
04:24or I shouldn't say buried, but in different...
04:26Yeah, but you saved it now.
04:29Banks around the world.
04:30And they couldn't find it.
04:31And they actually wrote a book, and they investigated it hard.
04:35Do you realize the hypocrisy in all of this?
04:39Here is a guy telling us, telling you, that the world is going to shit, that all politicians
04:45are corrupt, especially the Democrats, and then, he still has his money stashed away,
04:51his camera day's money still hidden.
04:55Why did they write a book about him?
04:57And why could not they find the money?
04:59Because he didn't help them to find the money.
05:02He didn't want to help.
05:04How can you say that you repented, when you still keep your ill-gotten money stashed away?
05:11I mean, they got a bunch.
05:13They got, you know, probably 50, 60 million from me.
05:17Imagine how much he scammed.
05:19But I'm not going to answer anymore.
05:24What does that tell you?
05:25This guy is still hoping that he can get back his money without giving it to the government,
05:32despite the fact that he was scammer illegal money.
05:36Do you realize the hypocrisy?
05:38How can you listen to these two guys telling you that everything is corrupt, when they
05:43behave like this?
05:45How can you take these guys seriously, when they tell you that, I don't know, it's wrong
05:51to have gays because we need to be better people, and then they say this?
05:56Do you realize the hypocrisy?
05:58When I heard this, it's when I decided I had to make this video.
06:02But there is more.
06:03Let's listen.
06:04This is going to get me canceled for the 58th time, but luckily I do not care anymore.
06:09So do it.
06:10The gays are after you.
06:12That is very manipulative, by the way.
06:14Why anybody thinks this is controversial, and I'm sure this is going to get me canceled
06:17for the 58th time.
06:19This can be an effective manipulation technique, by the way.
06:23You say, yeah, I don't care.
06:24I'm going to say it anyway.
06:26That frames you as you telling the truth, despite of the costs.
06:31But it doesn't tell you that maybe there could be good reasons why you get canceled.
06:35By the way, I'm not saying it was right to cancel him.
06:38I disagree with canceling anybody.
06:40You fight people with good arguments and good persuasion, not by canceling them.
06:45However, sometimes you did say some bullshit or some piece of shit stuff to get canceled.
06:51But with this frame, people tend only to take your side of the argument.
06:56Anyway, I do not care anymore.
06:58So do it.
06:59When they say the gays are after your kids, no, we're not.
07:02Of course they are, because they can't have their own.
07:04They need you as a straight man to dedicate his life to a woman, to have children, to
07:09raise those children, to pay for those children, to protect those children.
07:13Man, you know, I think Andrew Tate is a smart guy.
07:18However, sometimes I really have doubts in my mind.
07:21I think Andrew Tate is more of a smart guy and is hustler, underhanded way, street smart
07:27type of guy.
07:29But his reasoning is not on point.
07:32His way of thinking is not very logical.
07:35It's not backed by data, of course, God forbid.
07:39Even in this case, can I have children?
07:41And you do not change somebody's mind into becoming gay.
07:47Of course, exceptions always apply, but in general, you are born gay.
07:52It's not like a gay guy comes and he changes your mind into being gay.
07:56As a matter of fact, I met many guys in my life.
07:59Some of them tried to convince me otherwise, and the only thing they achieved was to piss
08:05me off beyond imagination.
08:08If you're a gay person, do not try to convince a straight guy to try things, because if you
08:15didn't try, you cannot know that you don't like them.
08:17That's such a fucked up thing to do because it doesn't work.
08:21So what Tate is saying that gay people are trying to convert your children, this is dangerous
08:28because it truly can foment hatred against gay people.
08:32And you know, I don't stand for that.
08:35So these guys are big social conservatives, former, hopefully scammers, or at least they
08:41scammed in their past.
08:43And now they agree on everything.
08:45No wonder.
08:46They are super social conservatives, they are very high Machiavellian, they have the
08:51scammers past, they still have some question marks in their presence.
08:56Some people will say, no wonder they agree, right?
09:01And this is a good example that showed me that Andrew Tate is not very good at systemic
09:06thinking and coming up with good theories because he's rather illogical and he confuses
09:12single instances for general trends.
09:15Take a listen.
09:16Fall in some of these other countries are even America, even maybe UK, I'm not sure.
09:22But if you were to go to Italy, France or any of these other Western nations, oh, he's
09:25talking about abortion, by the way, if a woman has an abortion, it's a very unfortunate,
09:30unhappy event that is probably the same every single place you go, because people are mostly
09:35the same.
09:36Women are mostly the same.
09:37But listen, what he says.
09:39And that's it.
09:40There's none of this celebration of it.
09:42There's none of this happy.
09:44Look what I did.
09:45It's crazy.
09:46Man, this is so stupid.
09:49What happened here is that he probably saw some single snapshot on Twitter or on some
09:55social media of some woman who wanted to make a point or create a ruckus or make a scene
10:00or get some attention.
10:02And she pretended to be happy about her abortion.
10:05So now he thinks, or he spins, that to be the norm.
10:09Don't be fucking stupid.
10:11Do you really think the women in America are dancing and partying their ways towards abortion
10:17clinics?
10:18Do you think they go there happy and singing and being proud of what they do?
10:24No, man.
10:25And this is something that I find highly annoying about social conservatives.
10:30They try to spin women who have an abortion as if they are happy and proud of what they
10:36do, which is never the case.
10:38It's a super difficult decision for most women.
10:41And trying to make them feel guiltier than they already are, in my opinion, is emotionally
10:46manipulative and toxic.
10:48And this is something that he says, Francese, a little bit later.
10:52He says, if you go in front of a clinic and protest by reading the Bible, the police will
10:56come.
10:57Bro, I'm not arguing whether the police should come or not, but do you realize what a dickhead
11:03move that is?
11:04These women are already going there, already feeling terrible.
11:07They have to go through a painful procedure and you are standing there reading the Bible,
11:13making them feel even worse than they feel.
11:16That's emotionally abusive.
11:17And by the way, it's the same for right-wing themes.
11:21Imagine somebody who goes to a gun range.
11:23I love sharpshooting.
11:25So sometimes I've also been going to gun ranges.
11:28Now imagine there is somebody there with pictures of dead children from the latest attack that
11:33they happen always in the US, by the way.
11:36What would you say?
11:37How would you feel?
11:38Probably you would like to punch the person in the face.
11:41And it's the same doing that to a woman who goes to an abortion clinic.
11:45They are very similar.
11:47Anyway, let's go to the next topic.
11:50Now comes the most interesting part.
11:52So far, I highlighted some parts I disagree with.
11:55There are many more, of course.
11:57But now let's find out what I actually agree with, what he makes a good point about.
12:02And he makes many.
12:04When they started getting on boats, migrating to Europe because their countries were destroyed,
12:09I said, yeah, what's happened to them is unfair.
12:11Yeah, we did it.
12:13But no, don't let them in.
12:14One hundred percent agree.
12:16I couldn't agree more.
12:17I think this is the biggest mistake by many political parties, especially the centrist ones.
12:23OK, the left wing parties, they are probably gone.
12:25You cannot convince them otherwise.
12:27However, all the centrist parties who have not tried to stem the flow of immigration
12:33have done a huge political mistake, which has fueled the rise of the right as well.
12:39He's 100 percent right.
12:40It is terrible what happened.
12:42They are in a terrible position.
12:43And it does not follow that you necessarily need to accept everybody wants to come in.
12:51There are painful consequences and still it's not written anywhere that you must open
12:55your borders.
12:56And I personally disagree with easy border policies.
13:00I would have liked a much stronger border policy as well.
13:05Yeah.
13:06So I agree with that.
13:07Maybe that makes me insensitive.
13:08Maybe that makes me a bad person.
13:09But I know how it ends for European society.
13:10Yeah, I largely agree.
13:12I am not so negative.
13:13I'm not convinced that the consequences are going to be catastrophic.
13:18Almost for sure, not catastrophic.
13:21I'm also not 100 percent convinced that the consequences are going to be necessarily negative.
13:27And still, I think more likely negative than positive.
13:31So it was the European rights or the American rights or whatever the first world countries
13:36located to close their borders.
13:40Let's go to the next one.
13:42Let's look at Russia, Ukraine.
13:43My opinion on that is semi controversial.
13:45I totally understand why Putin did what he did.
13:47They try and say he's a bad guy.
13:48They always do that on the news.
13:49If you actually look at the history of it, he defended Russia.
13:51He may have attacked first, but he was defending himself.
13:53Man, I agree so much with this.
13:55As a matter of fact, right at the beginning of the war, I was saying the exact same thing.
14:01It was a period when everybody was on the side of Ukraine, my own family.
14:05I was the black sheep in front of the television saying that Putin was mostly defending himself
14:10and then NATO and Europe provoked the attack.
14:13And I remember I wrote it on the public forum and the business email received several emails
14:19of people calling us names for what I wrote there.
14:23And now the tide is turning a little bit.
14:25People are getting more tired of it.
14:27And by the way, I'm not saying that Putin is right to invade another country.
14:32Of course, an invasion is always fraught with moral and ethical failures because people
14:37are going to die even if you're right.
14:40But in my opinion, Europe made a mistake.
14:44NATO was provoking Putin too much.
14:47And in my opinion, it was even fair to say, look, Ukraine will never join Europe, will
14:52never join NATO.
14:54And you know, just fucking avoid the war.
14:57Is that going to come at a price because the Ukrainians want to join Europe?
15:01Yes, of course.
15:02Because you have the best option where somebody still has to pay some less than ideal consequences.
15:11Worse option.
15:12And, you know, you still got to go for this one.
15:15Yes, the Ukrainians may have wanted to join Europe.
15:18They cannot join Europe, but they would have not had a war there.
15:21Would that have been better for all?
15:24Probably yes.
15:25And now the last one about the mindset.
15:27I like this one.
15:29But also I highlighted it because I felt exactly the same for a part of my life.
15:37But I'm looking at eight to ten years, but maybe I'm nuts.
15:41Maybe I'm nuts.
15:42But in a world where everyone's chasing comfort and I'm chasing.
15:44Yeah, I agree.
15:45I think that many men should challenge themselves more.
15:49In challenges.
15:51I really do think that that would be a it'll be a story.
15:55Most of my younger life, everything I've done, even unconsciously, was to test myself
16:00and put myself in the most difficult spot.
16:04When I grew the most in my life was when I was alone, desperate, without a job and crying
16:11on the floor.
16:12And in hindsight, I think that all my life was going in that direction.
16:19And as corny as it may sound, that's when I truly became a man.
16:24To me, that was the final test.
16:25When you're completely alone, desperate, you don't know where to go, no friends, no girlfriend.
16:31And you don't want to go back to your parents to seek for help and now start your climb
16:35up.
16:36In my opinion, no climb up can be 100% attributed to yourself unless you start from a desperate
16:45position.
16:46And there is one thing in my life that for a period I thought I wish I'd done that was
16:52exactly an experience in prison.
16:56I'm laughing because I know it sounds completely crazy, stupid.
16:59But it is the one thing that I feel was missing for me to have a 100%, 360 degrees, well-rounded
17:08life experience when I can feel uncomfortable wherever I go.
17:13Some men feel like fighting is the ultimate test.
17:15Some other men feel like it's war.
17:17For me, it's not.
17:18I don't want to go into details why.
17:20For me, it's starting from a desperate position in normal life and then go forward.
17:26And the other one would be prison, but I still would rather avoid it.
17:31So yeah, if you go to prison, in the end, you failed.
17:34There is no other way to look at it.
17:37And this is also why I caution to follow men like Tate, because they are kind of bound
17:43to prison when you go to that extreme of Machiavellianism and high dark triad traits.
17:49Let me say the name, but you know what I'm talking about.
17:52Anyway, overall, I think this was a very interesting chat.
17:56There is much to learn.
17:57Tate's mindset, some of them are very empowering, are very good, is a very high power man.
18:01There is much to learn from him.
18:02He's very charismatic.
18:04Some of his strategies that he used to become successful and to gain a social media following
18:09are fantastic.
18:11And on the other end, I often caution against Tate type of individuals because to make the
18:18most out of men like Tate, but also Francese there, you need to one, understand manipulation
18:24because these guys are very good at manipulating.
18:27And I'm not even saying that necessarily an all manipulator is so bad.
18:33It's that when you have that skill, what's going to stop you from using it?
18:37The temptation is always there.
18:39These guys, even more in my opinion, because they are very high dark triad traits and some
18:45of these people may not have very high standards of morals and ethics.
18:51So there is not even a moral barrier not to take advantage of others and not to abuse
18:56of those skills, let's say.
18:58And two, the other reason is that he goes to an extreme.
19:01And as I said in the beginning, while you need these skills, mindsets, attitudes, etc.,
19:07etc., you also want to know when to use them and when not to use them and to what extent
19:14to use them.
19:15Because going always 100% or using them more than you need becomes toxic and you also pay
19:23the price.
19:24Finally, in my opinion, when you are very high dark triad, you're also more of an asshole.
19:28And simply, I do not stand for assholes.
19:31What we stand for here instead is to learn the skills of this guy, however, putting them
19:37to use in a character that is more vulnerable, more believing in win-win and more about finding
19:43solution where you achieve your goals without becoming a scammer.
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