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00:00Have you been experiencing sleepless nights after getting fired?
00:06Well, then this video is for you.
00:10Whether you have been let go because of your performance or reasons totally outside of you, it stings no matter what.
00:21Losing a job is a painful experience for a lot of us.
00:26First, it is the source of livelihood for most of us.
00:32And unless and until you are an entrepreneur, it is the single source of income for yourself and your entire family.
00:40Plus, we tend to derive a lot of self-worth from the job that we do, from the achievements that we have.
00:48And when all of that is taken away from us, it is quite natural to feel low, sad and experience loss of sleep.
00:59My heart goes out to you.
01:02Before you dive into your job search, I'm gonna request you to just take some time and be with your emotions.
01:11This is not some woo-woo fluffy stuff.
01:15This is real thing based on research and what has been observed in people.
01:22We are not machines. We are not robots.
01:26We are emotional beings first and then we use logic to justify our emotions.
01:35I understand asking you to take some time off after getting fired might sound like I'm coming from a place of privilege.
01:45I am not. I totally get if you have loans to pay, struggling to put food on the table or paying your children's school fee and many other financial commitments.
02:00I'm sure you have.
02:02But is one week something that you can't give for yourself?
02:08If you have been sick and out of work for a week, would you not have allowed yourself that much grace?
02:16If you really someone and would you not take care of them for one week?
02:22That is all I'm asking you.
02:24Just one week at least of the bare minimum to let the situation settle down and creating the space for you to experience all the emotions that you're going through.
02:39The anger at being fired.
02:42The indignation for being let go off when others were retained.
02:48The frustration at having put in all this hard work over these years, but still fired without any notice.
02:58Or even anger and betrayal because there was some kind of a partiality behind the reason why you were fired.
03:11Or any other emotion, no matter how bad and ugly it is.
03:16I just want you to let it all flow out.
03:19Cry if you have to.
03:21Go to a gym and punch a bag, a boxing bag if you have to.
03:26But honor your emotions and let it all out.
03:30Typically, we try to jump into action immediately.
03:34Okay, I'm going to update my resume.
03:36I'm going to update my LinkedIn profile and I'm going to hit the road and start applying for jobs.
03:42All of those are good.
03:44But if you have not taken the time to even become aware of all those complex emotions, which are just bubbling up and you try to numb yourself with activity.
03:56It is only a matter of time before you break down.
04:00And this is bound to happen.
04:02No matter how talented or smart you think you are, your emotions are way more powerful than your intellect.
04:08And they always will be.
04:10So just take a couple of days, a week at a minimum to lick your wounds.
04:18Accept the situations.
04:20No matter how awful it feels, accepting it.
04:26And accepting a situation doesn't mean giving up.
04:29It is just making peace with the fact.
04:31Yes, this sucks.
04:33Yes, this is terrible.
04:35This is absolutely unfair.
04:37But it has happened.
04:39So I'm just going to accept it and then I'm going to move on.
04:44Acceptance is not a passive state where you stop taking action.
04:49You just stop blaming yourself and you stop blaming others.
04:56You might have been let go of due to some kind of a discrimination.
05:01And yes, if you want to pursue legal action against them, yes, go ahead and do it.
05:07But not from the place of feeling like you were wronged.
05:12That kind of emotion and energy is going to drain you over time.
05:19And once you have experienced these emotions or at least allowed them to surface to your mind and spend some time.
05:28Now it's time for you to start applying for jobs, reach out to your friends and start taking action.
05:40Sometimes it can be very scary to go through all of these emotions on your own.
05:46Please reach out to your family member, your spouse or any close friends from your previous company.
05:55And speak with them and vent if you have to, to make space for yourself.
06:03And if all of that still doesn't help, then of course, do see a therapist and get some professional help.
06:11So that you are doing the inner work, so that you're healing your heart as well as your mind before you go out into the world.
06:19I'm sure you're going to land on your feet again soon.
06:23It is only a matter of time.
06:25But how you want to be, what state you want to be when you move to the next stage of your life.
06:32Do you want to be battered and worn down because of anger and frustration?
06:38Or do you want to feel healthy, calm and composed?
06:43That is a choice that only you can make.
06:46What happened to you, it is unfortunate.
06:49You didn't have a say in it maybe.
06:52But what you are going to do, how you are going to respond, that is 100% within your control.
06:59I hope this was helpful and I hope this gives you some sense of comfort to sleep well tonight.

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