My name is Sridhar Rajendran and I help people who constantly struggle to fall asleep or stay asleep to get a good night’s sleep.
I have struggled with insomnia myself and know how painful it can be. That's why I like to get to the root cause of what's keeping someone awake and fix it quickly so you can go back to enjoying your life again.
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I have struggled with insomnia myself and know how painful it can be. That's why I like to get to the root cause of what's keeping someone awake and fix it quickly so you can go back to enjoying your life again.
Get free access to my training library that will help you overcome insomnia permanently without any medications.
https://www.sridhar.coach/free-trainings
Book a free strategy call and let's chat.
https://calendly.com/sridhar-coach/intro-call
#sleeptips #sleephelp #sleepingtips #sleepexpert #sleephealth #sleepcoach #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters
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00:00Insomnia recovery is about finding the balance between courage and kindness.
00:05What do I mean by that?
00:07Well, insomnia is a sleep disorder where you're either unable to fall asleep or stay asleep.
00:13Now, there could be many physical reasons for it as well, like being in pain or some kind of hormonal fluctuations.
00:22But the major reasons for insomnia tend to be psychological in nature.
00:26It could be some kind of pre-existing mental illness or health conditions like depression, anxiety, PTSD,
00:37or sometimes it's just about the fear of sleep itself.
00:41We experience sleep disruption for a day or a couple of days,
00:46and then we start associating a lot of negative meanings associated with it,
00:51and that itself keeps the cycle of insomnia going.
00:55So we need to have the courage to be able to delve deeper within ourselves
01:00and to face those thoughts and emotions which we have buried deeper in our subconscious mind
01:06so that we can finally make peace with it and move on.
01:09While we might have to take meds to deal with the symptoms in the short term,
01:15but they will not resolve what is going on in your subconscious mind.
01:20Whatever past incidents which are leaving you in turmoil,
01:26anything where you felt hurt, where you have some thoughts of regret or anger,
01:32you are the only person who can give closure for that.
01:35And I know it can be very scary to look into your own heart and into your own mind.
01:42It feels like opening a Pandora's box because you don't know what's going to come up,
01:46and it can be very scary to go at it alone.
01:49So that is why I would always recommend to do this kind of an inner journey,
01:53along with the help of a counselor or a therapist who is equipped to help you in this journey,
01:59who knows how to help you manage your emotions when something difficult comes up to keep you safe.
02:07That is the most key important thing.
02:09The only way to break out of the fear is by going through the fear.
02:15Unfortunately, there is no other way.
02:17I'm sure in your own life, there would have been many things which you might have avoided.
02:22But the moment you actually faced it, you might have realized,
02:26Oh, this is not actually as scary as I thought it was.
02:29And you would have emerged as a stronger person.
02:31Just take a minute to pause right now and think of those instances to find that courage.
02:39Now, what is the thing about kindness?
02:42So in this journey of recovery from insomnia,
02:45there are going to be times where we slip back into the old patterns once in a while.
02:50We might have a couple of good nights of sleep and again, something might happen.
02:54Or some new issue which we had not even dealt with earlier,
02:58which we weren't aware of, has popped up to the surface now to be healed.
03:03And the whole cycle repeats, becoming aware of the issue, making peace with it, moving on, and so on and so forth.
03:11So which is where you need to be kind and compassionate towards yourself.
03:15Sometimes we tend to be very harsh and critical about ourselves,
03:20trying to do so many things, trying to force sleep upon us,
03:24doing so many evening routines or blaming ourselves.
03:29Oh, my God, I'm so stupid. I can't even fix my own sleep issues.
03:32Such kind of harsh, critical words towards yourself are the worst.
03:38And they will only keep the cycle of insomnia going, which is where you need to find that compassion.
03:45If there are certain days where you noticed a negative thought,
03:50but you did not take action to reframe it and because of which you had a disturbed sleep,
03:57then you first need to be compassionate enough with yourself to say,
04:01you know what, I goofed up last time, but I'm going to do better today.
04:06You need to be loving and caring towards yourself,
04:10unless and until you are able to accept yourself exactly as who you are right now.
04:16I know we all want to reach that ideal stage of where we are happy,
04:20we are getting perfect sleep every night.
04:22But the only thing which is available to you right now is who you are, the version of you right now.
04:28So you need to fully make peace with it.
04:31And it's not just about understanding logically, but from your heart.
04:35And only then we will be able to break the cycle of insomnia.
04:40So when it comes to insomnia recovery,
04:44you need to have both courage to face your innermost thoughts and feelings,
04:49as well as the kindness and compassion towards yourself to cut yourself some slack
04:55when things are not going as you would like them to be.
04:59And be patient with yourself.