My name is Sridhar Rajendran and I help people who constantly struggle to fall asleep or stay asleep to get a good night’s sleep.
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I have struggled with insomnia myself and know how painful it can be. That's why I like to get to the root cause of what's keeping someone awake and fix it quickly so you can go back to enjoying your life again.
Get free access to my training library that will help you overcome insomnia permanently without any medications.
https://www.sridhar.coach/free-trainings
Book a free strategy call and let's chat.
https://calendly.com/sridhar-coach/intro-call
#sleeptips #sleephelp #sleepingtips #sleepexpert #sleephealth #sleepcoach #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters
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00:00Why does my insomnia keep coming back?
00:05Do you ever, you know, feel like this?
00:08Well, then this video is for you.
00:10So first, let's try to distinguish between what is insomnia and what is sleep disruption.
00:16So sleep disruption is where you don't get enough sleep, you know, a day or a couple
00:21of days.
00:22It could be due to any of the reason.
00:25One is because there are certain situations outside of you, which is causing that.
00:31It could be something like taking care of a child or an elderly parent, or you could
00:38be in some kind of a physical pain because of which your sleep is disrupted.
00:43And then there is the bit of insomnia is where you want to sleep.
00:49You have the time to sleep, but you're not able to sleep.
00:53So you need to understand the distinction between each of it.
00:56Sleep disruption happens for all of us at some point in our lives.
01:00There's no one person who sleeps like a perfect eight hours every single day.
01:05It varies with each of us.
01:07So we need to be very clear in terms of the terminology that we are using.
01:12I'm kind of repeating this because sometimes we keep throwing around words and our mind
01:19cannot distinguish which is what we actually mean by it.
01:23Let's say you just, you know, didn't sleep for one to two days and you keep calling it
01:27as insomnia, then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
01:31So first understand, you know, like whether it is a sleep disruption.
01:38Is it temporary?
01:39Did it happen because of some external environment or situations or was it due to something that
01:46you are undergoing right now?
01:49So, if let's assume now that it is a case of only insomnia, let's assume that, you know,
01:56you have had a history of insomnia.
01:59It's been a couple of days or weeks where you have gotten poor sleep, but you have noticed
02:06this pattern of, you know, your sleep gets better and then it gets worse.
02:11So one of the reasons for, you know, insomnia is some kind of a stressor, a stressful event.
02:19So some people, once the stressful event goes away, their sleep returns to normal.
02:25That's because they have not paid too much attention or they haven't created too much
02:30anxiety and worry about being unable to sleep.
02:33Some of the common examples are, you know, like preparing for an interview or applying
02:39for jobs, a lead off from a company, or even, you know, you have a marriage coming up and
02:44you're just excited about it.
02:46It could be positive or negative.
02:49And even in a marriage, there's 101 things to do, whether you're the bride or the groom.
02:55So all of these things, you know, will subside once that event passes.
02:59Once you find a new job, once your health improves or once you get married, once that
03:03event passes and if you have not created an association of anxiety to sleep, then your
03:10sleep would return to its normal state.
03:13You can, you know, just pause for a minute and think about your own life and those situations
03:20where, you know, you struggle with sleep, but then where it came back to normal.
03:25So now the other example where somebody who, where the cycle goes on very repeatedly, where
03:33it gets better, then again worse, gets better, then again worse.
03:38So in that case, I would say you might have to consult a doctor.
03:42Obviously sleep is affected by multiple factors.
03:45It is affected by your lifestyle.
03:46It's affected by what's going on in your body as well as your mind.
03:50So let's say you have taken care of your lifestyle, you're following sleep hygiene and still this
03:55problem is happening, then maybe it's time to consult a doctor and see if there's some
04:00kind of a vitamin deficiency, if there's some kind of a hormonal fluctuation which is causing
04:06this and we need to address that.
04:09And if you have ruled that also out, then in that case, the only other cause could be
04:14psychological.
04:15So in that case, then again, we need to, you know, like be like a detective and try to
04:20identify is it due to an anxiety about sleep or is it some other, you know, underlying
04:27mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, or, you know, having gone through a traumatic
04:32incident and, you know, being unable to come out of it, let go of it.
04:37Is it grief?
04:38Are you mourning the loss of someone?
04:40There could be so many such reasons where psychologically you're unable to sleep.
04:45And then once we identify what is the real cause and the root cause, then we need to
04:50work on that to kind of give yourself that closure and, you know, remind yourself that,
04:57you know what, it is okay to sleep now and whatever problems are there, they will get
05:03solved and you can do it.
05:06If, you know, like when insomnia comes back, there are two ways to look at it.
05:12Typically people do the first thing, they're like, oh my God, it's back again.
05:16Well, it is true that it is back.
05:19But again, I'm going to tell you another equally true statement.
05:23I have beaten insomnia once and so it is highly possible that I can beat it again.
05:30Now is this statement also not equally true?
05:33Why are you not holding on to this statement rather than the first one?
05:37You know, we all have this tendency to complain, to shift the blame to kind of an external
05:43situation and the same person or sometimes even to an illness.
05:47I want you to be like honest with yourself, you owe it to yourself and give a better explanation
05:55for the situation that is happening in your life.
05:58It's okay if some kind of a sleep disruption or insomnia happens again.
06:03The fact that you have overcome it once is a proof that you can overcome it again.
06:09And there is no person who has this perfect sleep like a Disney character where they sleep
06:15very well and in the morning birds and animals come and wake them up.
06:19That is a very utopian idea and it doesn't even exist.
06:23People who have never complained about sleep also tend to have some kind of a disruptions
06:29every now and then and it is totally normal.
06:32So drop this idea of this perfect sleep and also the worry or this label to yourself that
06:39oh, I'm an insomniac, this is going to be a lifelong problem.
06:43No, there is so many people who have, you know, like overcome insomnia and the fact
06:49that you yourself have overcome in the past is just proof that it can be broken again.
06:56So I hope this was helpful.