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00:00watch this she's gonna act like she's not interested at all but she's actually very
00:02attracted to him these are huge signs of attraction how she looks at him she's smiling a lot and the
00:09smile is a full smile it shows her full teeth but most of all look at the eyes those are
00:15dual loving eyes that she's looking at him with what do i love what i love to do she's very feminine
00:24submissive in a way what do i love to do she goes up with her voice those are strong signs of
00:31attraction uh work out be outside work out be outside up speak another sign of femininity and
00:38attraction and submissiveness as well but in dating you want her to be more feminine you don't want
00:45her to be assertive um be active yeah these are she puts her face on her fist which is also a sign
00:52of attraction some body language analysts say that it's a way of putting on full display your face
00:59here look at me how pretty i am the waters oh okay yeah this is also another sign that he has
01:06leverage and power over her as soon as he says oh that's water it's like oh yeah yeah yeah and
01:12she follows his lead and she does it in a submissive way let's look at it again be active yeah also the
01:20fact she doesn't know much what to do she's looking around trying to find the perfect position these
01:26are again signs of anxiety of nervousness but in a good dating when you have leverage over her when you
01:34have power over her those are great signs she's very attracted to him and it's very obvious these are
01:41waters oh okay oh okay oh okay i'm following your lead that's the sub communication yeah i was like
01:48i don't know what this is always always do a cheers cheers steven this is a great advice do that as the
01:58man though not as the woman this is good advice for the man or at least for the person who should be
02:05leading i'm not saying you should always be the man but in dating if you want to date effectively
02:10as a man you should lead and you should do the cheers cheers cheers if she does it first it's not
02:18a good sign does that do it immediately warmed her up she was very very stiff in it she's right she was
02:26stiff that's a good sign we never told him i never told him okay surprise she's a great role model
02:35in my opinion more for women the way she moves is very warm very friendly very feminine surprise
02:42that's great for women for men in my opinion you want more power and then she's still she was like
02:48what do i love i work out i just can't believe that she actually liked him
02:54i completely disagree i could see the signs of her being into him so obvious yes because everything
03:03about her is giving i can't wait to leave this i can't wait to leave with you
03:10this is why we're having a baby crisis is because we're afraid to show that we like someone
03:16i think she showed it as obviously as possible any more than that she should be flashing herself
03:24she was physically attracted to him and into him you would never know it i will know it so obviously
03:31when i saw those signs i took action on that and it went very well very fast so i'm talking from
03:40experience as well i don't know another sign of femininity and submissiveness you're like this is a
03:46tuesday which is see what she did look at it again we're just sitting here like this is a tuesday
03:54um yeah yeah like a little puppet how long have you been in austin two years
04:00he's not too bad he's a cool guy he's attractive by default he could improve his body language his
04:07movement his power in general how long have you been in austin with his hands up put your hand on
04:12that table take more control take more space okay what no that's great i don't know that's great
04:22he didn't need to add any more words let the silence sink in let the pressure pile up on her a little
04:31bit more what this guy should have done is hey look sit a little bit closer so we can talk to each other
04:37better she will they follow his lead and then from there you don't need that much verbal skills it's
04:45funny because when i watch this i think he really likes her because he's leading the company
04:49he should be leading as the man by the way there are drivers and passengers in conversation this is
04:55what i'm researching right now you actually don't want all drivers that's true that's why she didn't
04:59need to be a driver he needed to be the driver uh like three years okay yeah this is another mistake
05:07for him um like three years up speak again i'm from ohio okay like the akron area okay
05:14he's a little bit too feminine he's a cool guy but with higher power he will be even more successful
05:24do you love do you miss ohio see again oh do you love do you miss ohio those are signs of attraction
05:30of nervousness of femininity no no not really go back my whole family's there right tagging on her
05:36jewelry another strong sign of attraction ask how old you are uh can i ask how old you are that's another
05:42sign of attraction she wants to know more about you she's like hoping that he's the right age
05:48uh guess another mistake from him oh guess too feminine too low power oh okay yes 30. no dude
06:01don't do that you're a man um okay wait in this case it works because he's masculine in appearance
06:09right so he balances it out still don't do it because it's too much no matter how masculine you
06:16look however it's less bad for him compared to a guy who's less masculine for example i am not super
06:22masculine in appearance so i'm even more careful to behave a little bit more masculine on a date
06:27but this is too much in any case 30. yeah
06:37he was too fast to say yeah and the way he say like how did you guess if you feel something
06:45surprised you verbalize it how the hell did you guess that can you read minds but frankly probably
06:53will they say it no wrong try again or you know just make her work a little bit more for your age
07:01rather than putting on a silver platter and this ties back to her advice of verbal skills it always
07:07helps right i was watching this is like oh my god we're talking about akron ohio we're in trouble now
07:12right i didn't think they were in trouble okay they were in trouble in the sense that he should have
07:18been more masculine more leading more positively dominant but not because of her she guessed right
07:26it would like make her feel good and i needed her to feel good so she would start driving she doesn't
07:31need to drive as the woman he needs to drive she would start driving the conversation so that's why i
07:36mean i told i knew his age wait if the guy doesn't drive then it's okay for the woman who wants to make
07:43things up and to drive however most women want a guy who drive they don't want to be drivers themselves
07:50so the advice here should be for him rather than for her she's making it as obvious as possible this
07:57is a case where yes man should step up oh wait your bird so you're an aries yeah i'm an aries too
08:06yeah this is good this is good for her in general when she gives that advice she says it
08:13both for men and women men should not force me to because it makes you chase for the connection you
08:21don't want to chase for the connection you want the woman to say oh me too i'm the same don't do it
08:28yourself otherwise you're kissing up and chasing and it's needy as well emotionally needy oh we're the
08:34same this up on purpose this was great the way he said it let's watch it again they set this
08:42up on purpose perfect they set this up on purpose also the voice this was very seductive very good
08:51they literally did yeah and then he ruined it they literally did yeah don't follow up with a yeah you
09:00say something let it sit you don't need to fill in all the silences wait so what day is your birthday
09:09don't do that man april first okay oh i'm march 29th what are you doing are you serious yeah i think
09:14that's my mother's birthday what's her body language giving here very closed yeah and in i'd never done
09:21this before i wanted to say to her open up laugh more touch your lips touch your hair in my opinion
09:28there would have been too much because she was already giving all the signs imagine if she had
09:33been sitting there on top of the signs and she should start doing this and this there would be too
09:39slutty a lot of things that women can do to show i am feeling physically attracted to you but i was
09:45like oh like i wasn't sure she was physically attracted so it was obvious to me look again the
09:50way she moves look how she looks at him it's like a puppet looking at his owner these are loving eyes
09:58here i am thinking is she physically attracted if she wanted to show him the way she loves
10:04obvious signs i'm into you she could have touched her hair she could have touched her lips she could
10:11have touched the side of her yeah and she could have sucked on a straw too maybe right no she didn't
10:17need to do that in my opinion face all of those are gestures of like self-touch that show interest
10:23but she didn't show any of that she also was she showed plenty of it i see how tight see how
10:29little space she's taking up defeated body language let's say being closed sometimes is a sign that the
10:35woman is so attracted that she feels his power too much on her and she feels like closing up then it's
10:43on him to make her feel more comfortable however that's a sign of attraction if you're a guy sitting
10:49with a woman behaving with you like that those are all fantastic green signs i was once on a date with a
10:57woman and from the beginning it was obvious that she was into me following my lead we didn't even go
11:02to dinner because i didn't think the dinner was needed for us to progress the relationship let's
11:09say let's keep it pg-14 and her conversation was terrible she also had close body language but the moment
11:18i said let's go out of here it just went butter smooth because the signs were there and i was leading
11:25she didn't need to do anything more than this and close body language in this case is a good sign
11:31i also want you to notice as soon as they had the me too moment the thread theory they both warmed up
11:36yeah they did yeah yeah that's a good point true like once we get a me too moment it's like so much
11:43faster to laugh or she actually like however the guy shouldn't be forcing me too moments again and
11:48we'll see a perfect example of this i'm kind of like uh like a really bad kind of person yeah no i love
11:54that i i'm not bingo see he did the opposite of a me too moment he had that not me moment and look at
12:07her reaction she dug it so much why because there was a display of power and display of unneedness i don't
12:17need to build a continuous connection with you i have enough confidence and power that i can break
12:24rapport and she loved it for men power is the number one trait to date effectively and this is a great
12:32example let's watch it again person yeah no i love that he says no i love that kind of me too moment
12:39and she doesn't say anything i i'm not look now
12:45i like like every night or just like the weekend see how she digs it see how she digs him displaying
12:54power and non-neediness i'm extremely and other signs of attraction if i was in this date i would be
13:03thinking take her hand and walk out i also love my like a long time okay so do you hear she's using
13:11vocal fry when you use closed body language it affects your voice so i vocal fry is when you're
13:16like i love going out and i kind of love right so she started to go into a little bit of vocal fry
13:21here which is not attractive we do not like vocal fry maybe it's not attractive but it's another sign
13:27of submissiveness and femininity which is yet another sign that she's attracted to him she showed
13:33all possible signals here is she doing that i think she's doing it because she's so closed it's
13:38very hard to get good because she's anxious because she's overwhelmed positively overwhelmed by him we
13:48can still go get a drink if you want it not a good way to invite we can still go get a drink if you want
13:56if you're not busy or if you're not busy or he is rushing to fill in the silences and he started
14:05from here we can go get a drink if you're not too busy or he's disempowering himself more and more
14:11luckily he started from a good place but this is not effective dating go another day after
14:19if you're or go whenever you're free just please it's all up to you so huh very disempowering for
14:27him birthday okay if you're interested we can do that if you're interested i'll ask you a question
14:32on that yeah he seemed to bottle it there he said we can go get totally bottle it 100 this is a good
14:40observation yes get a drink if you want to if you're interested or we can go yes he got it i'm glad
14:47but i i it's because she didn't immediately be like yeah uh tell me you'd love you'd love to go out
14:54yeah okay that's a good advice yeah no i would love to go out when i get back it's a good advice
15:02because sometimes not all men are deep power moves trained so not everybody is competent and effective
15:09so a little bit of an help helps you date better as a woman
15:16um she's probably going to ask you what do you do okay what is your answer to that question i am a
15:23code monkey or a software engineer okay cool so anytime i meet a software engineer it's what i want
15:29you to do is actually create a hook so you're gonna say i think that that could be your hook so i think
15:33you could say like i'm a code monkey aka software engineer don't say cod monkey because it undermines
15:42yourself it's very disempowering self-presentation it's pretty obvious right just think about a monkey
15:48does it convey power does it convey control over your life or is it more like of a slave frame is it more
15:56like uh you being a loser in life it's it's low value and we will see the reaction when he says those
16:04words so uh what do you cheers cheers she leads the cheers uh yes um i am an ai consultant and i make tech
16:16content oh okay yeah oh okay um not too bad in expressiveness but not powerful and masculine enough
16:28yes in the tech space in the tech space yes what about see the difference how she's far more assertive
16:37and less feminine and uh probably her advice would be this is better but not for dating and
16:47not for him
16:50are you i am a code monkey our code monkey yeah oh no see the reaction oh no poor you monkey
17:01what's the association with monkey peanut salary monkey boring job slave not in control of your life
17:10low power low value nothing good about that of course software engineer no i love my job
17:16tell him something good okay and the hover smiles a little bit too much seeking report
17:26yeah they're they're pretty awkward here yeah we love code monkeys
17:31that's not true she's just saying that to pull him up you know she's taking control of the interaction
17:36now first she sank him oh no poor you and now she tries to pull him up that's not what the woman should be
17:43doing that's what he should be doing also the body language here from him is negative this is self
17:48soothing behavior closing off for him it's bad not for her not at least in the case we saw before
17:55in general yes have an open body language but in that specific case from the previous date totally
18:01different thing no i used to be a code monkey no way yeah you used to um for like six years seven she's
18:08controlling the conversation i used to be it's like oh no way that's what she should be doing he
18:15is acting feminine here he's acting like the woman no way she will be attracted to that
18:21maybe yeah did you like it um i did but i okay i thought i liked it and then i realized i didn't
18:31no way yeah it was like one of those things where athletes over here like anyway if you want to learn
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