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00:00This is why dating is harder than ever, why most men resist and resent women empowerment
00:06and why the top 10% men are laughing all their way to the bedroom.
00:11They're all connected and the charts of women power explains why.
00:16Let's start.
00:17Conservative societies are better for most men because women have low power.
00:23Women tend to like and be attracted to men who are higher power than they are.
00:28So when women have low or no power, most men can easily find a mate.
00:34This happens usually in conservative society where women are very disempowered.
00:40At the extreme, these are societies that effectively repress women at the most basic level.
00:46It's crazy to think that even in some countries, it still happens that women cannot vote.
00:52As societies liberalize and women gain more power, what happens is that the average woman,
00:58this is the curve of the average woman, they start gaining more power compared to the average men.
01:05Now, what sucks for the most average guys that for many different reasons,
01:11the curve of men tends to be flatter.
01:15That means that there are more men at the extreme low value and more men at the extreme high value.
01:22However, that also means that the average woman outperforms the average men.
01:28So it doesn't take a lot of women's empowerment for most men to start struggling.
01:35Since women are mostly attracted to men who are more than they are,
01:38the average guy already finds it harder to find a mate.
01:43And it only gets worse as women's power increase.
01:47By the way, when we talk about women's power and empowerment,
01:51we mean everything.
01:52At the most basic level, it means being able to vote.
01:56It means being able to show a little bit of skin over hair,
02:00which is a tool of female empowerment, especially in sexuality.
02:03We talk about her ability to date and date around, her ability to choose men, etc, etc.
02:09And this goes on a range.
02:11At the lowest level of women's empowerment, women cannot even choose who they date.
02:16These societies assign women and men and they cannot say yes or no.
02:20These societies also tend to prefer one-on-one relationships,
02:25such as most women end up with one man.
02:28But as women's empowerment increases, they are free to do whatever they want.
02:33At this level, since women are mostly attracted to men who are better than they are,
02:39a lot of women do not want to pair up with the average guy.
02:44So the struggles here become real for both genders, by the way.
02:50As we move towards more progressive societies where women are the most empowered,
02:55things become even more extreme.
02:57Now, here is the interesting thing.
03:00Most average guys here struggle to find a woman.
03:04They can find one, of course, and most women eventually will pair up with one guy.
03:10However, it will not be a marriage or a relationship based on real attraction.
03:16And this is why many men today talk about the woman who is past 30 years old,
03:22who has had her fun around with top guys, and now she looks for a beta guy to settle up.
03:28Of course, these are overgeneralizations.
03:30However, in many cases, that's exactly what happens.
03:34At this level, though, please note that also women are not exactly winning.
03:40Most women find it harder to find a high value guy because they become higher values.
03:48They get a job.
03:49They can get all the makeup that they want.
03:51They get higher degrees and more degrees than most men.
03:54They get an equal or better job.
03:57They are equally or more well-learned.
03:59They can also afford better tools to look better,
04:03better makeup, better surgery, better and bigger boobs, etc.
04:07Of course, there is a limit to how much you can improve your aspect.
04:11However, there is a lot that can be done and technology improves more and more.
04:16There is no end limit to this.
04:19It gets more and more lopsided.
04:21At this level, what's interesting is that while most guys struggle,
04:26the top men are enjoying it the most because the top guys can date everyone here.
04:34Well, sorry, this includes the guy.
04:36Because the top guys can date everyone and often they do.
04:41What also changes here is the culture.
04:44Women not only can get an equal or higher paying job,
04:49not only they can date around, but often they are encouraged to.
04:54And that pushes the curve further and further to the right.
04:58Women are also encouraged to sleep around, to explore their sexuality,
05:03to have fun and have a good time.
05:05Again, the top 1% of men enjoys that the most.
05:09Now, what can you do about it?
05:11Well, keep in mind what we said.
05:13The top 1% of men love the situation.
05:17You don't want to complain about the situation
05:20and you don't want to try to repress women back where they came from.
05:25One, because the cat is out of the bag and for a number of reasons it doesn't work too well.
05:31Number two, most importantly, it's because you sub communicate that you're a low value guy.
05:38Think about how the top 1% of men think.
05:42Top 1% of men do not complain about sexually and empowered women
05:47because to them it's life in a candy store.
05:50Even if you're not there yet, you still want to start thinking about it
05:55and behaving as if you were one.
05:58Also because as Machiavelli said, it doesn't matter what it is, it matters what it looks.
06:03So do not follow all those men complaining about women's empowerment
06:09because you sound like a fucking loser.
06:11This is also why in many ways the patriarchy is actually true.
06:16The patriarchy is simply all these guys who are not comfortable with women's empowerment
06:22and we want them back to having no power at all so they can benefit.
06:28So all these researchers who are often also very smart guy
06:32and who deny the existence of the patriarchy,
06:35they are falling trap of their own bias.
06:38In truth, the patriarchy is very real because for the majority of men
06:43the level of women's empowerment is about survival and reproduction.
06:48And also just to be clear, women also lose
06:52because it gets more difficult for them to pair up with a guy
06:56that they can like, respect and be attracted to.
06:59However, they don't lose nearly as much.
07:01Also remember what we said before about technology advancing.
07:05A guy will always need a woman to reproduce.
07:08Well, not always, there are options for guys as well.
07:11However, the options already offered by technology are much easier on women than on guys.
07:17Today a woman can go to a sperm bank, pick a top 10% guy
07:21who's already checked in his background, who has no venereal disease,
07:26who is completely safe, they don't even need to trust what the guy says
07:30and they can have a child without having to be saddled
07:36with a low value guy or even an average one.
07:38A woman with a good job can go to a sperm bank,
07:41get a couple of children from a top guy and indeed she doesn't need a man.
07:46And many men are not okay with that.
07:48As usual here at The Power Moves we say,
07:51it is what it is, you adopt, make the most out of it and profit from it.
07:55Cheers guys.